Pour Minds Podcast – “I JUST MISS MY DAWG”

Hosts: Lex P & Drea Nicole
Date: December 21, 2025
Podcast Description: Two single Houstonians living in Atlanta, Lex P and Drea, share their funny, candid, and sometimes wild takes on dating, friendships, and life. Sustainably tipsy off wine, it’s your classic “drunk therapy” session with your friends.

Episode Overview

In this episode, Lex and Drea catch up for a classic girls-only session, recapping their New York trip, sharing hilarious takes on strip club culture, Brown Girl representation, pet ownership struggles, nostalgia for old-school music & biopics, the power of reinvention, internet misconceptions, and plenty of raw, comedic banter. The episode title, “I JUST MISS MY DAWG,” becomes both a literal and metaphorical point—pet stories spark deeper conversations about growth, authenticity, and missing people (and dogs) we love.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. New York Trip Recap & Strip Club Culture (08:32–13:01)

• Starlet's Experience: Lex tells her hilarious and unfiltered experience at Starlet’s strip club, which prompts a discussion on the difference between southern and New York strip clubs.

  • Lex is disappointed by the lack of Black dancers:
    • "Where are the black girls?" (09:02)
    • "If you’re gonna be a stripper, you got to strip." (09:18)
  • Drea explains the NYC scene focuses more on bartenders:
    • "People go to the strip clubs in New York to see the bartenders, not the dancers." (10:04)
    • "In the South, the dancers are the stars." (10:12)

• Southern vs. NY Club Vibes:

  • In New York, strip clubs are about the social scene and bartenders; in the South, it’s about the dancing talent and “thick girls climbing poles.” (10:23–10:33)

2. Pet Ownership Woes, Loss, and Nostalgia (19:04–35:01)

• Apartment Pets & “Nose Blindness”: Lex and Drea riff on people who have big dogs in small apartments, expressing concern about quality of life (and smell):

  • "Y’all laid up next to each other just funky..." (20:41 – Lex)
  • "Apartments are too small for big dogs, especially." (19:56 – Lex)

• Dog Loss Memories:

  • Lex shares emotional, funny, and tragic stories about her dogs (Bartholomew and Bam Bam)—from nursing them to health, neglectful babysitting, to untimely deaths:
    • "This is the thing about babysitting people’s dog..." (23:37 – Lex)
    • Full barstool saga (29:36–34:10): Nursed back from orphaned puppyhood, only for Bartholomew to get run over while being watched by a friend ("Little kidneys just all over the grass." (32:44 – Lex)).

• Humor in Grief:

  • The hosts use dark humor to cope, then pivot to classic songs about missing loved ones:
    • "Man, I miss my dog!" (34:53 – Lex)
    • "I do miss him... he actually used to like that song." (35:02 – Drea)

3. Black Joy, Biopic Critiques & Media Talk (35:33–41:57)

• Movie Preferences:

  • Drea expresses a love for films that "get straight to it":
    • "I need you to be whooping ass in the first 10 [minutes].” (41:14 – Drea)
    • "I don’t like when shit gotta build up." (41:43 – Drea)

• Biopic Rankings:

  • The duo breaks down classic music biopics (New Edition, TLC, Toni Braxton, Whitney Houston, Michael Jackson):
    • "New Edition—nobody tops that. The casting was great." (37:54 – Lex)
    • “Flex didn’t look like [Michael Jackson]...” (35:52 – Drea)

• Critical Humor:

  • Honest takes on "bad" biopics and the need for authentic storytelling in black media.

• Funny Misidentifications: The hosts get into a playful debate about actors Tom Holland and Timothée Chalamet – “They got skinny little faces. They do not look alike!” (39:31 – Lex)

4. Personal Growth, Brand Reinvention & Online Critique (61:45–73:48, 79:19–92:42)

The Reinvention Conversation

• Reinvention vs. Growth:

  • "Y’all look at it as reinvention—I look at it as growing." (62:41 – Lex)
  • References to Madonna, LL Cool J, and the importance of keeping up while staying true to yourself.

• Show Evolution & Authenticity:

  • Lex: “I used to feel like I had to do this for this person, do that—now I learned to do what makes me happy, what keeps me level.” (70:16 – Lex)
  • Drea: "When people think you’re supposed to stay the same, that’s crazy to me." (66:12 – Drea)

• Internet Misconceptions & Criticism:

  • They address fans who think they've “sold out,” gotten “watered down,” or “lost the old energy.”
    • “I’m not going back to that. I’m not tap dancing for y’all. If I want to have a moment and talk and be serious, I’m going to do that...I’m not performing no more.” (72:19 – Lex)
  • Drea highlights how life forces people to change—loss, grief, and success have made her more empathetic.

• Money & Success:

  • Lex and Drea each discuss whether money or fame has changed them, and call out double standards for “relatable” vs. “spoiled” black women.
    • "I don’t think money has changed me, because money don’t faze me. Money comes and goes." (89:30 – Lex)
    • "Money just amplifies who you are." (91:33 – Drea)

5. Hygiene, "Veneer Breath," and Pet Peeves (56:21–61:02)

• Bad Breath Tangent:
  • A recurring inside joke about “veneer breath,” oral hygiene, and calling out folks with bad breath—while clearing the air about misconceptions.
    • "It's a lot of people with funky breath. I have never, on my mother, on my soul, I’ve never smelled that man’s breath." (54:31 – Lex)
    • "You could tell the difference between when people been drinking, ate something funky, or if your breath just stank or if it’s a medical issue." (56:01 – Dre)

6. Rebranding: Power Move or Defense? (93:22–97:51)

• Organic vs. Forced Reinvention:

  • Lex argues rebranding is a power move if you’re genuinely growing—defensive if you’re just overcompensating for being disliked.
    • "I don’t gotta tell you I’m changing. Just do it and move into it." (94:39 – Lex)
    • "People build whole lives off of being someone else…I think rebranding is more of a defense mechanism for a lot of people out here." (96:29 – Dre)

• Audience Feedback:

  • Shout-out to fan Trey Jerome’s “Poor Crew” TikTok bit, with constructive feedback on guests and "red & black era" unhinged energy.

7. Sex, Grills & Head Game (108:06–117:14)

• Giving Head With Grills In:

  • Drea and Lex debate if you can/should perform oral with a grill:
    • “I have not gave head with my grills in. Cause I feel like head’s supposed to be gummy.” (108:17 – Lex)
    • “If you really know how to suck dick, you not doing it with no grill.” (114:18 – Dre)

• Culinary Confessions:

  • Lex, tongue firmly in cheek: "Put that shit on my pasta! Olive Garden ain’t got shit on me!" (117:16 – Lex)

8. Music & “Bop of the Week” (118:45–123:45)

• Music Picks:
  • Lex highlights “Believe” by Law Yisa for her “unsunt girls” (house/EDM heads), describing it as “makeup already done, right before the club” vibes. (119:23–120:27)
  • Drea shouts out classic Houston rap (“Who’s the Man” by ABN) and shares a funny anecdote about her friend misunderstanding the song as having Irish vibes.
    • “If you put that to some bagpipes...it go with the flow!” (122:19 – Dre)

9. Pour Your Heart Out – Listener Letter (128:58–142:26)

• Relationship Q&A:

  • Letter from a woman questioning if she has outgrown her longtime, emotionally unavailable boyfriend.
    • Lex: “You’ve outgrown him, and that’s okay...You grow apart.” (141:09 – Lex)
    • Drea reminds her that outgrowing people—friends or lovers—is natural and okay.

• Ends in Harmonized Rendition of Mario’s "Anonymous."

  • Classic example of their chemistry and playful competitiveness as they belt out the R&B hit to close the show. (143:31–146:48)

Notable Quotes & Moments (w/ Timestamps)

• On Diversity in Clubs:

  • Lex P: “There’s some beautiful girls in here, but when I get a little dance, I want somebody who look like me...where’s the brown girls at?” (11:12)

• Lex on Outgrowing a Relationship:

  • “You grow apart, because how can we accept growing apart from our friends but we can’t accept growing apart from our lover?” (141:09)

• On "Veneer Breath":

  • Lex: "Now, has she had a little tequila breath? Sometimes. Yeah, we all do." (57:38)

• On Evolving the Show:

  • Lex: “Everything had to be a joke…That was an unhappy girl. Now, this is what you get…If you fuck with it, let’s ride.” (72:19)

• On Reinvention & Rebranding:

  • “It was a silent rebrand, because guess what…y’all be making a whole announcement and you still doing the same shit.” (94:05–94:39)

Timestamps for Key Segments

| Topic | Timestamps | |------------------------------------------|-----------------------| | Starlet's/NYC Strip Club Discussion | 08:32–13:01 | | Pet Ownership, Nostalgia, Pet Loss | 19:04–35:01 | | Movie/Biopic Preferences | 35:33–41:57 | | Reinvention, Internet Feedback | 61:45–73:48, 79:19–92:42 | | Hygiene Talk/"Veneer Breath" | 56:21–61:02 | | Power Move vs. Defense in Rebranding | 93:22–97:51 | | Music/Bops of the Week | 118:45–123:45 | | Pour Your Heart Out/Anonymous | 128:58–142:26 |

Episode Tone & Dynamics

The entire episode is laced with the duo's signature blend of:

• Unfiltered, “best friend” energy
• Raw, Southern humor
• Candid confessions, both serious and silly
• Jokes that seamlessly transition into vulnerable moments

They flow through nostalgia, sex, friendships, and life changes, never shying away from poking fun at themselves—or each other.

Final Takeaway

This episode exemplifies what Pour Minds listeners love: deep belly laughs, real talk, peer-to-peer advice, and fly-on-the-wall authenticity. Whether opining on strip club culture, outgrowing lovers, balancing rawness with reinvention, or the right way to give head with a grill, Lex and Drea deliver both healing humor and lessons on growth for their fiercely loyal audience.