Look At That Donkey

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast – “Look At That Donkey”

Hosts: Drea and Lex
Date: January 23, 2026
Network: The Black Effect & iHeartPodcasts

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Episode Overview

In their first solo episode of 2026, Drea and Lex, two single Houstonians living in Atlanta, kick off the new year discussing lifestyle changes, friendship dynamics, personal growth, dating culture, beauty standards, classic drinking stories, and maintaining authenticity. With their signature blend of humor and honesty—plus plenty of candid cussing—they move through juiced-up drunk therapy, swap New Year’s resolutions, and dish on everything from dry January to the nuances of living with a man. Whether chatting about nostalgic drinks, reading habits, body image, or old school cursing, Drea and Lex offer relatable takes and deep laughs, inviting listeners to wine down and join their unfiltered conversation.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. New Year, New Habits: Resolutions and Lifestyle Shifts

• Lex asks Drea about New Year’s resolutions (01:18)

  • Drea: No traditional resolutions, prefers challenges/lifestyle tweaks.
  • She’s on “Day 13 of 75 Hard”—working out, 10k steps, new trainer, dairy- and liquor-free.

    “I haven’t been drinking. And I feel great … it’s a really good reset.” (02:48)

• Lex on Dry January:

  • Not a fan, misses Taylor Port.
  • Suggests moving Dry January to February:

    “Let’s get to it. We need to start making it dry February because it’s the shortest month of the year.” (05:45)

• Cussing Less as a Resolution?

  • Lex tries to reduce cussing, finds it difficult.
  • Hilarious bit on replacing “ass” with “donkey.”

    “You can say ass. That’s a donkey. It’s a donkey.” – Drea (06:23)
    “Look at that donkey.” – Lex (06:46)

2. Drinks of Years Past & Nostalgia

• Reminisce on “hood classics” like 40s, Alize, Hypnotiq, Four Lokos, Cristal, Dom Perignon.
• Plan a future “hood drinks” tasting for Patreon.
• Banter on men with stretch Hummers, old car trends, and the nostalgia of prom limos. (03:45–05:07)

3. Health, Food Trends, and “The Chinese Diet”

• Lex’s “Chinese diet” journey: (10:51–14:53)
  • Inspired by TikTok. Only warm foods—miso soup, broths, bone collagen.
  • Explains claimed digestive benefits and personal effects.

    “I am a Chinese woman, and I’ve been enjoying it.” – Lex (13:09)

• Drea wants to know more—topics of digestion, skincare, consistency, and slippers as “part of being Chinese.”

4. Reading Goals & Book Club Vibes

• Both trying to read 2 books a month.
  • Lex stuck on Fish Don’t Exist—finds it boring, prefers drama/erotica books (“I need a Tyler Perry in book form!” – Lex, 16:24)
  • Drea rereading Harry Potter for nostalgia, plans to read Kennedy Ryan, Housemaid, Evelyn Hugo.
  • Banter over self-help book fatigue:

    “We get it. Love yourself, have confidence and don’t give a damn.” – Lex (16:46)
    “I’m just in an era of liking to read for leisure.” – Drea (16:54)

• Discuss benefits of listening vs. physically reading—vocabulary expansion, pronunciation, retention.

5. Personal Growth & Leisure Activities

• Ty’s disciplined routine: exercise, skincare, quarterly puzzles, book recommendations, advanced spirits certification.
• The trio bonds over setting intentional goals, prepping for travel, Kindle dreams, and luxury experiences (e.g., going to a Formula 1 Grand Prix). (21:01–25:00)

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Memorable Moments & Notable Quotes

“Donkey” as a Curse Word Alternative

• [06:24]

  “You can say ass. That’s a donkey. It’s a donkey.” – Drea
  “Look at that donkey.” – Lex

Cussing as an Art Form

• [08:41]

  “You know who cussed real good? Who? Tia Kim. She needs to start teaching the class now.” – Drea
  “That’s the ebook we need…a course on just how to cuss.” – Lex

TikTok Diet Trends

• [11:00]

  “Starting in 2026, I am now an Asian woman. I identify as a Chinese lady, and I’m loving it.” – Lex
  “No more yogurts and cold things in the morning. I start my morning with a brothy, savory miso soup.” – Lex

On Cleaning Up Language & Gender Norms

• [09:44]

  “Never had a woman around me that had a clean mouth. Honestly.” – Lex
  “Even the men around me…they’re not like, ‘Oh Lex, you need to tone it down and stop cussing.’ They be laughing at me.” – Lex

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Segment Highlights with Timestamps

| Timestamp | Segment/Topic | |-----------|---------------| | 01:17–03:15 | New Years, Resolutions, 75 Hard Challenge | | 06:00–07:10 | Attempts at cussing less, “donkey” lingo | | 10:51–14:53 | Lex explains and jokes about adopting “The Chinese Diet” | | 15:04–20:15 | Book challenges, reading tastes, Harry Potter nostalgia, Audible debate | | 21:01–25:00 | Ty’s discipline, hobbies, spirits certification, and F1 Grand Prix dream | | 29:36–31:34 | Poor Decision Segment: Asking for money in DMs | | 36:21–41:13 | Lending money, family & friend boundaries, money etiquette | | 42:47–43:48 | Painful repiercing story—“Never again!” – Drea | | 45:13–56:51 | Topic 1: Why are more women deciding not to live with men? Roommate stories, relationship boundaries | | 57:13-68:49 | Topic 2: “Beauty Consciousness”—Are we hating natural beauty? Plastic surgery, makeup, social media pressure, filler blindness | | 68:50–71:54 | Shading “natural” girlies, men’s hairlines, lace fronts, and “let it go” | | 86:38–93:48 | “When do old people stop fucking?” Salty stories, springboarding into hygiene/scent stories | | 94:22–98:47 | Sex, condoms, wild teen stories, why women don’t want to live with men—the dirty truth | | 101:33–105:12 | Pour Your Heart Out: Listener dilemma – sister marries her ex-fling | | 108:52–112:29 | Bottled Up voicemail: Flaky friends and canceled plans |

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Deep Dives & Strong Opinions

The “Poor Decision” of Internet Panhandling ([29:36–36:33])

• After mentioning on a prior episode the urge to help, Lex and Drea were inundated with cash-seeking DMs from strangers.
• Honest take: Emotional burnout, boundary-setting, and why strangers can’t expect support just for asking.

  “You being somebody that I don’t know in real life, why do you think that I can send you—or would send you—$3,000? That’s insane.” – Drea (32:15)

“Should You Live with Your Man?” ([45:13–56:51])

• Social media trends of women choosing not to cohabit, often for autonomy and cleanliness reasons.
• Both hosts agree: If you can’t fart or relax with hair/makeup undone, that’s a red flag.
• Emphasis on mutual financial contribution and not letting disrespect or imbalance slide.
• humorous debate over “fart following you,” dirty habits, and why a wealth wing (separate space in a big house) is ideal.

Beauty Standards & The “Natural” Movement ([57:13–68:49])

• Reflections on body surgery, plastic culture, makeup dependency, and attacking or weaponizing the “natural” label.
• Social media’s part in inflaming insecurity (“filler blindness”).

  “You become obsessed with trying to look perfect…It’s a thing called filler blindness.” – Dre (61:15)

• Advice to focus on timeless changes (“don’t do it because of a trend”) and the double-bind of criticism—natural or not.
• Men’s baldness woes, lace fronts, and the merits of letting go.

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Listener Letters & Advice

“Pour Your Heart Out” Letter ([101:33–105:12])

• Listener’s sister marries the guy she (the listener) dated (never slept together), after the sister set them up. Now there’s a niece.
• Both hosts agree: It’s weird and foul, but let it go for your own peace.

  “She’s a weirdo, but you have a niece…you’re blocking your own blessings by holding a grudge.” – Drea (104:57)

“Bottled Up” Segment ([108:52–112:29])

• Voicemail complaint: People who initiate plans then go silent/cancel day-of, only to reschedule and flake again.
• Lex & Drea: Massive pet peeve, agree people should just be forthright if they want to cancel.

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Bops of the Week ([98:57–101:00])

• Lex’s Bop: “Bomb” by Junetober – “Music for real lovers.”
• Drea’s Bop: “Lady Lady” by Olivia Dean – “Sex in the City music…cutesy, empowering.”

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Noteworthy Running Gags & Inside Jokes

• “Look at that donkey!” – The episode’s running euphemism for “ass.”
• Regular ribbing about cussing, accidentally weaponizing “natural” beauty, and nostalgia for old drinking traditions.
• Repeated bits about men’s baldness, hairlines, and questionable hygiene.
• Ongoing banter about makeup dependency vs. going bare-faced, with playful jabs at “natural girlies.”
• Extended riffing on weird childhood/adulthood sex and dating stories, from hidden condoms to early teen mishaps.

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Final Thoughts & Takeaways

• Authenticity, self-awareness, and boundaries underpin the episode, whether discussing money, beauty, cohabitation, or personal habits.
• Both hosts embrace growth, self-love, and honest relationships (with themselves and others), but never lose their sense of fun or willingness to call out nonsense.
• Lex & Drea remind listeners: “It’s okay not to be perfect or trendy—do you, but do it for yourself, not the internet.”

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Quick Reference Timing Index

• Resolutions & 75 Hard: 01:17–04:47
• Drinks & Memories: 03:38–05:19
• Chinese Diet Trends: 10:51–14:53
• Books/Reading: 15:04–20:15
• Money Requests “Poor Decision”: 29:36–36:33
• Living With Men: 45:13–56:51
• Beauty Standards: 57:13–68:49
• Sex & Old People: 86:38–93:48
• Pour Your Heart Out Advice: 101:33–105:12

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This episode is peak Pour Minds: uproariously honest, conversational, and full of memorable moments—perfect for anyone seeking candid takes on modern womanhood, friendship, and millennial/Gen Z culture.

Transcript

[Dre]

This is an I heart podcast. Guaranteed human.

[Lex]

But I don't like the girls who are natural, and they try to, like, weaponize it and be like, oh, well, I'm so glad I don't do that anymore, because, like I said, now I'm all for the natural girlies, but they be throwing a lot of shade too. They definitely be like, oh, well, I don't. I had to let that go. I don't wear a weave. I don't wear lashes. I don't wear makeup. Like, that's just too much. I don't see how I did that.

[Dre]

Well, guess what?

[Lex]

Be shady.

[Dre]

You need it. What's up, y'? All?

[Lex]

It's your girl Lex, and it's your.

[Dre]

Girl Dre and Nicole.

[Lex]

And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds, where a drunk.

[Dre]

Mind speaks sober thoughts.

[Lex]

We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. It is the first solo episode of 2026. I know y' all been waiting. They've been waiting.

[Dre]

They have been.

[Lex]

But, you know, we have made it here. It's a new year now. We can really get to it. Have you been sticking to your New Year's resolutions? You know, we're deep in. We're not deep in the new year, but we're in there.

[Dre]

I don't really try to make resolutions anymore, to be honest. I just try to make, like, lifestyle changes and stick to them.

[Lex]

Okay. So.

[Dre]

But I am doing a challenge, which I always try to, like, do a challenge at the beginning of every year. It really depend on my mood. Like, sometimes it's 40 days, sometimes it's 75. Now, last year, I did 75. This year, I'm attempting to do 75 hard.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre]

I am on day 13, and I have been doing a really good job. Like, I work out every single day. I get my 10,000 steps in every day, period. I do a 90 minute workout. I have a new trainer too, y', all, so.

[Lex]

Oh, you got a new trainer?

[Dre]

Yeah, I'll be working out with my trainer three times a week.

[Lex]

Well, I know. I just didn't know that you got a new one. I feel like I had talked about it on the show. Oh, okay.

[Dre]

I feel like I had said that I started working out with Gian.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre]

Maybe I didn't say her name, but, yeah. So I started working out with her in 2025.

[Lex]

Okay. Got you.

[Dre]

Got you at the end. But yeah. So I have a trainer. I work out with her three times a week. Then the other four days, I just do it on my own. I'm not eating no dairy.

[Lex]

You lost me right there. I need my cheese.

[Dre]

I'm not doing no dairy. So it's been 13 days. I haven't ate dair.

[Lex]

Good job.

[Dre]

I'm not doing liquor, so I haven't been drinking. And I feel great. Like, I always love to do this at the beginning of the year because I feel like it's a really, really, you know, just good reset. But my goal this year is I'm definitely gonna start back drinking. Duh. But. So I ain't giving it up. But I definitely just want to drink the good stuff and straight.

[Lex]

Like, no more 40s.

[Dre]

I don't drink 40s. Oh, that was you?

[Lex]

I never.

[Dre]

I don't even know what a 40 tastes like. Maybe we should do that for, like, a Patreon.

[Lex]

You never had a little old English?

[Dre]

No. Maybe we should do that for a Patreon episode. Like drink hood classes.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

And see what our reaction. You know what a 40 tastes like.

[Lex]

For realize tastes like.

[Dre]

I know what Alize tastes like. I know what hypnotics taste like. Four Locos. Of course. La Maritas.

[Lex]

Do you consider Cristal a hood drink?

[Dre]

No, that was like. That was Ace of Spades before Ace of Spades.

[Lex]

I know, but it was like, when you popped that Cristal, all the rappers and the athletes had it. It was kind of like, you know, that's how, you know you had a little money.

[Dre]

And the Dom P. Dom Perry on and Perrier Jouer.

[Lex]

If a man popped at Cristal and left the club and he had a Hummer. Ooh, that Hummer, baby.

[Dre]

You remember Stretch Hummers?

[Lex]

Yes. Like, you was. If you had a stretch. If you was in a stretch Hummer for anything, for something, like for prom. Yes. Oh, my God. And don't let it be a yellow Hummer. He was getting some coochie that night. Mm.

[Dre]

Yeah. The people used to get them Hummers for everything. For they proms, for they baptisms.

[Lex]

When they started stretching them, they started stretching everything. And I seen a Chrysler 300 stretched out. I said, enough is enough. They had that. Yes. I promise. I'm not making any sense.

[Dre]

Remember when they were saying that the Chrysler 300 look like the Bentleys until the Bentley. Well, Drake said that. And then if you look at it and you squint and you tilt your head to the left, it do.

[Lex]

I'm not gonna lie. The Audis look like. I mean. Cause I know they're from the same company. Before y' all be in the Comments like, well, it's from the same manufacturer, but, like, they look like Lamborghinis. Like, if it's zooming by, you can't tell. Yeah, you can't tell what you're looking at.

[Dre]

That's a good point.

[Lex]

I'm telling you.

[Dre]

But, Shay. Yes. Put that in the notes. We gonna do. When we start back drinking, we both start back drinking. We gonna do a little challenge on Patreon and try, like, all of the hood drinks. That'll be funny.

[Lex]

I don't need a 40, I need a 80. Give me my shit. I don't like dry January.

[Dre]

I hate it. I was gonna say. Cause you're doing dry January. So how has that been going?

[Lex]

Trash. I don't like it. It's so. I cannot wait to put that sweet, sweet Taylor port back on my lips. I need it. I need it.

[Dre]

But it's good, Lex. Like, it's good to take a break sometimes and reset. Like, your body need it. Your body, your liver.

[Lex]

Cool. Good. And I'm resetting it. But let's get to it. We need to start making it dry February because it's the shortest month of the year. I need all my 31 days. We need to move that shit to February.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

And then I've also been. My other New Year's. Lifestyle change.

[Dre]

What is.

[Lex]

I'm trying not to cuss that much, but fuck that shit. I can't do it. I was gonna say.

[Dre]

I mean, that's a little difficult. Like, maybe we just. Maybe you need to try to not use, like, the harsher words.

[Lex]

Yeah. You know what?

[Dre]

Like, you could say damn. You can say ass.

[Lex]

It don't hit as hard.

[Dre]

You can say ass. That's a donkey. What? It's a donkey.

[Lex]

So I'm supposed to say that's a donkey. No.

[Dre]

Ain't like a donkey considered an ass.

[Lex]

Yeah. So I'm supposed to say. She's saying.

[Dre]

That's okay to say. It's okay to say.

[Lex]

Oh, I'm sorry. I'm saying I need to say donkey instead of ass. Like you're being a donkey.

[Dre]

No, bitch.

[Lex]

Fuck.

[Dre]

I wasn't supposed to say that either.

[Lex]

Look at that. Donkey.

[Dre]

Yeah, but no, you could say ass. You could say damn.

[Lex]

Okay. Fuck is harsh. Okay.

[Dre]

But, you know, fuck is such a harsh word.

[Lex]

I used to go to school with this guy and we used to make fun of him cause he couldn't cuss because his parents were real, real strict. And, like, he used to be like, man, I'm a beat your tail.

[Dre]

Okay?

[Lex]

Who you Threatening. I'mma beat your tail.

[Dre]

Ooh, yeah. It do sound like you more serious than you say. I'm a beat your ass.

[Lex]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

[Dre]

Son of a bitch.

[Lex]

Some words just don't. Do you think now. Son of a. That's. That's more of a white thing. They ate.

[Dre]

I've been watching Stranger Things.

[Lex]

Yeah, they ate. Son of.

[Dre]

That little boy. That little boy. Dustin, say son of a every other sentence on Stranger Things.

[Lex]

Son of a eats down.

[Dre]

Son of a Eats down.

[Lex]

Mother.

[Dre]

Yeah, but you got to say it with the hard er.

[Lex]

O. That sounds a little racist. I don't like nothing with the hard er. Okay.

[Dre]

But I feel like you gotta say er. Cause if you say motherfucker, it don't really sound like.

[Lex]

I think it depends more on your tone than your hand gestures.

[Dre]

I can't take it serious. Especially ever since I seen Hangover, and he was like, toodle loo, motherfucker.

[Lex]

I forgot. I was like, what are you talking about?

[Dre]

I feel like you gotta say it with a hard er. Cause that sound like you mean business, motherfucker.

[Lex]

I think it depends on the hand gesture, too. Like, you gotta get into it, motherfucker. See that? Don't hit as hard as a motherfucker. That's. Yeah, you felt she jumped back. You gotta put some stank on.

[Dre]

I think it was more about the face you made, though. I don't think it was the hand gesture.

[Lex]

It's everything. You gotta push. You can do it. Put your back into it.

[Dre]

Motherfucker.

[Lex]

Yeah, bitch. Yeah.

[Dre]

You know who cussed real good? Who? Tia Kim.

[Lex]

Yeah, she need to.

[Dre]

She needs to start teaching the class now.

[Lex]

That's. Of course, that's the E book. You know, everybody got a fucking E book.

[Dre]

That's the ebook we need.

[Lex]

That's the ebook we need. Auntie needs to do. I mean, your auntie needs to do a course of just how to cuss. Cause she puts the right words.

[Dre]

She do. And that's an art form.

[Lex]

It really is. And it's so good. And she's so quick, and it's off the. Off the dome.

[Dre]

But I feel you, though, because I be saying the same thing every year. I be like, that is so not ladylike. We are not. We do not be being classy. We cuss so much. And everybody around me have, like, potty mouths. Like all the women that I know. So beautiful. But everybody's mouth is so dirty.

[Lex]

Never, never had a woman around me that had a clean mouth. Honestly.

[Dre]

Yeah, I know.

[Lex]

My I mean, even.

[Dre]

But even the men around me, my mama don't cuss.

[Lex]

Yeah, she doesn't. But I feel like even the men around me, like, I feel like the men around me cuss, too, but they don't. They're not like, oh, Lex, you need to tone it down and stop cussing. They be laughing at me.

[Dre]

They do. So it's like.

[Lex]

And for y' all be in the comments, we be laughing together. It's not like somebody has ever, like, pulled me to the side and been like, hey, you're cussing too much. Like. But I do kind of want to clean it up, clean up my language. But I think I do such a good job. Like, I cuss where it's appropriate now. You know what I'm saying? Like, when I'm in front of my.

[Dre]

Neighbor, it's always appropriate.

[Lex]

I don't really be. I cuss in front of them, but not like party Rs.

[Dre]

Yeah. I definitely think it's certain words that you can get away with, like, damn. It's in the Bible. It is.

[Lex]

And that's what it says. It says what? It say John 3:16. I be damn.

[Dre]

That is not what John 3:16 say. I thought he said, for God so loved the world, I'll be damned, and.

[Lex]

That I gave it to y'.

[Dre]

All.

[Lex]

Look what you did.

[Dre]

You. I need to scoot over.

[Lex]

What you said it said it in.

[Dre]

The Bible, Cuz it's raining today, too.

[Lex]

It's strict in here, baby.

[Dre]

I a play with you. But yes. So, okay, so tell me about your Chinese diet, cuz you said you was going to tell me about it. I never heard of that before.

[Lex]

Yes. Starting in 2026. I am now an Asian woman. I identify as a Chinese lady, and I. I'm loving it.

[Dre]

Okay.

[Lex]

It's a thing on TikTok. Y' all know I'm a TikTok scroller. And it's the new Chinese diet. Okay. I no longer eat cold foods. Chinese people, they don't eat cold food.

[Dre]

They eat sushi.

[Lex]

No. Well, that's Japanese.

[Dre]

Japanese, yes.

[Lex]

Chinese people, everything.

[Dre]

But they don't have their own stuff.

[Lex]

Well, I mean, I'm sure that they, like, eat some, but most of their diet consists of warm broths, warm foods. They rarely even drink cold water because it helps the digestive system. So I've been learning a lot of things scientifically that, like when you eat cold food, it makes your digestive system work harder. And it's like, that's why a lot of people have digestive issues. If you eat a lot of cold foods, like, cold foods are not good for your digestive system. So in the morning. But I've always done this in the morning. I wake up, I have a cup of water, warm lemon water to get my day started. Okay? No more yogurts and cold things in the morning. I start my morning with a brothy, savory miso soup. Okay.

[Dre]

Every morning.

[Lex]

Yes. But it's easy to make, though. And then you can freeze it. You know what I'm saying? I like a little bok choy.

[Dre]

How do you make miso?

[Lex]

So it has a miso paste and you mix it and I put my.

[Dre]

What is miso?

[Lex]

I don't know, but it's miso.

[Dre]

Good.

[Lex]

It's very, very good.

[Dre]

I was thinking about me, so.

[Lex]

But it is very tasty. And I mix it with a bone broth so it gives the collagen. I love a little collagen.

[Dre]

Okay.

[Lex]

But I just feel like, obviously my skin is already clear, but I just feel like it's a little more supple, you know what I'm saying?

[Dre]

Is this like a lifestyle change or is this something that you're just doing to reach a goal?

[Lex]

Honestly, I'm doing it to reach a goal, but I do want to start. There's certain things that I don't mind because I actually really enjoy the miso soup. So that's probably something that I'm going to eat all the time. And one thing that I've noticed me, when I'm eating healthier, I don't like to make things too difficult. Like, you know how somebody like, oh, my God, I've had salmon for the fourth time this week. Me, I don't mind having salmon every day. All day, every day.

[Dre]

You know, I like salmon, too.

[Lex]

I think it's easier to stick to.

[Dre]

Your goals when you kind of eat.

[Lex]

The same things over and over again. So, yes, I am a Chinese woman, and I've been enjoying it. And that's what the people.

[Dre]

And what are the. Like, what are the benefits?

[Lex]

Well, it makes you. If you're not regular. Oh, you gonna go to the bathroom? Warm water. Just alone. It gets it moving. I've never had that problem, though.

[Dre]

Yeah, you haven't. I can confirm.

[Lex]

I've never had that. It's smooth moving, smoothing and grooving.

[Dre]

You don't need that smooth side grooving.

[Lex]

It be moving, baby. It gets out of me. And I love that about myself. I think that's the only reason why I'm £400, is because I get that thing up out of me. So now that I'm, like, drinking these.

[Dre]

Broths and them demons out.

[Lex]

Yes, baby. So I have been feeling good. I feel like I've noticed it in my skin.

[Dre]

Your skin looks good.

[Lex]

Yeah, I just. I've been feeling. I've been sleeping a lot better. I feel. It's just, you know, I think the Chinese, they're a little more advanced when it comes to natural remedies and medicines.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

So they have been very welcoming on us, with us in TikTok Land, and they're like, yes, everybody is Chinese this year. So that's the new fad. And I've been really enjoying it because I love. I am a savory girl. You know that about me. I don't really like sweets. It's very rare. I'm like, oh, my gosh, I need some sweets. But I've been enjoying it. It's very easy and it's filling. I love a good broth bone. Broth. You gotta make sure that you get the one that's like the gelatin. Cause it really. Yes. But you gotta heat it up and it turns into just the. I be feeling so Chinese in my home. And I love it. I have my slippers on. Okay. They said you have to wear slippers. They did.

[Dre]

Why?

[Lex]

Because it's part of being Chinese. I'm serious.

[Dre]

But you're not Chinese, though.

[Lex]

Yes, I am. And I'm learning. So when I get on my. And I'm. All right, y' all gonna.

[Dre]

So how has y' all reading Journey been going? Cause I know you said you was gonna try to read two books a month this year. I'm doing the same. I'm on book number one.

[Lex]

Yes. I'm on book number one. And it's awful.

[Dre]

It's so boring.

[Lex]

What's the book? Till I picked the book. It's called Fish Don't Exist. And I'm sorry. I don't even know what it's about. I've been catching myself. But this is how I. I know I've had this habit since I was younger. I have a problem of, like, I'll read a page and then I don't know what I just read because I'm, like, drifting off. So I've been having to, like, reread it over and over again. But I'm not gonna give up. I'm going to finish this book. It's just a little boring.

[Dre]

But why don't you try to do audible? Because it's. I mean, at the end of the day it's the same thing. Like you're not technically reading it, but I mean you're listening to the book and I feel like you could do that while you be going on your walk.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

And it'll probably make it easier for you to finish. Like that's what I. Some of my books I read and some of them I listen to on audible while I'm working out. Like it really just depend on my mood. I alternate.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

So I'm gonna.

[Lex]

Maybe I'll try that. I don't know. Cause I really said I do want to like read more and like actual read. But I think maybe that'll ease me into it. Cause unless it's like a book that like starts off. Cause you know I love a drama book that's just, you know, he grabbed me by my neck and caressed me and rubbed my.

[Dre]

No, you like erotica.

[Lex]

Yeah. And then I like when they. Then the wife busts in the room and she shoots the gun. I like all of that stuff. Yeah, I need me a Tyler Perry in book form, you know.

[Dre]

Okay.

[Lex]

So I'm trying to, you know, spread my wings and enjoy different type. Cuz I'm over the self help books. It's so bad.

[Dre]

Same. I'm over it too.

[Lex]

We get it. Love yourself, have confidence and don't give a damn.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

How many times can y' all say that? In a million different ways.

[Dre]

No, I feel you. Cuz I read. I've read a lot of self help books but I'm just in like an era of like liking to read for leisure.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre]

Like I like books that are interesting and so like this year I have a lot of new books at home. Cuz I went to Barnes and Noble last year like at the end of the year they were having a sale on hard cover books so I had bought like 10 books. I didn't get no hard covers though. Long story short, I didn't even.

[Lex]

I didn't even. What was up?

[Dre]

Well, I went because I wanted to see what they had cuz they were having a sale. But all of the stuff that they had that were hard covers on sale, I didn't like none of the titles so I just ended up getting a whole bunch of other things.

[Lex]

Well that's where you're wrong at. Cause you judged a book by its cover.

[Dre]

Okay, that's a good point. Well I actually read the bag.

[Lex]

Okay, okay. All right, all right, all right.

[Dre]

Yeah, I read the summary and I was just like, yeah, no. So I ended up getting some other books that I had been hearing about. And so I have a whole bunch of books. But I decided to start the year off with something nostalgic. I have been reading Harry Potter.

[Lex]

I swear I was like, harry Potter.

[Dre]

I have been reading Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Ascobean.

[Lex]

Oh, you started with a good one too.

[Dre]

I know. That's my favorite one. And like, I read that in elementary school and it's been that long since I've read it. So I was like, I want to read something that's a little nostalgic. So that's what I've been reading. So that's my first book of the year. Then after that, I have this Kennedy Ryan book that I want to read. She's like a really popular author right now. And I got like two books from her.

[Lex]

Well, I've been hear people. A girl DM me is like, you need to read Colleen Hoover's book. She's the girl, the woman, woman that had the movie. It ends with us. But I've been hearing a lot of mixed reviews on her book. So I don't know if I want to get into it. They're like, she's giving a white Tyler Perry.

[Dre]

Okay, you should read the Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo. You should read that. That's a good book.

[Lex]

Now my sister. My sister, like, literally, she reads like a book a week. Seriously. And she. The new movie Housemaids is actually a book series or whatever I have. You need to read it. It's so good. She was like, read it before you go see the movie. She was like, I don't know if she's seen the movie yet, but she was like. But she's like a person. Like every time a movie comes out, she's like, the book is so much better. She's like one of them people. She's a tough critic. But I was like, maybe I wanna read the Housemaid before I actually go see it. Cause I like stuff like that. But yeah, my book Journey, it's very slow, but I'm doing it. I'm sticking to it.

[Dre]

I've still been reading. It's good. I actually, like I was saying I have Housemaid at home, but I haven't read it. Yeah, it's like a thriller and I have. And Shay was telling me I need to read. She said she was gonna give it to me. Tina knows.

[Lex]

But yeah, a lot of people said that book was really good.

[Dre]

I' ma read it. I'm gonna read that too. So I have like my first four to five book lineup. Yeah, we gonna Try to stick to two a month. We gonna see how I go.

[Lex]

Yeah, I need to read a fantasy book. I loved the Harry Potter books. That was like my first big books and that. I finished them all. And it was such a good read. It was. It wasn't like an easy read, but it was a good. It was a good read.

[Dre]

I mean, because them books, thick as.

[Lex]

They could have made.

[Dre]

Yeah, them Harry Potter books are thick. They real thick.

[Lex]

They got that donkey on them.

[Dre]

But I mean, what I like about. What I do like about physically reading books is that it expands your vocabulary.

[Lex]

It really does.

[Dre]

I mean, listening to it, you're still going to hear the words, but it's different versus when you're actually reading them. I saw a post earlier on Instagram he was showing, talking about how, like, as he's been reading books, whenever he come across words that he don't know, he always Google how to pronounce them and, like, what the meaning means. And I do that too whenever I'm reading stuff. And it's like, if I read a word and I don't know what it means, I'm a googly right as I'm reading it versus I feel like when you're listening to it on Audible, you're less likely to do that.

[Lex]

Don't do that. You're gonna be sitting on the couch talking about Eclectic.

[Dre]

With a a at.

[Lex]

Oh, Ty, how's your New Year's been going? Have you been sticking to your things?

[Dre]

Yeah, I actually just kind of picked up where I left off. This year is about enhancing my discipline. So last year was my foundation and building discipline. Now I'm, like, in it. So back to my workouts. Four to five times a week. Heavy in my skincare now. Y' all have inspired me.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre]

But I'm more Korean.

[Lex]

Love it.

[Dre]

I like it. Yeah, I'm having fun, like, playing and things. So I got, like, a really nice toner and then just different products. Fenty has some really nice products, too.

[Lex]

It's called what?

[Dre]

Savage Fenty. Okay. They have some, like, products that I like too, but, yeah, prepping for. I'm doing four puzzles a year, so one per quarter. I just did my first one.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre]

So now I'm looking at books. So I'm taking notes on what y' all have been mentioning on books to read. I might get a Kindle, though. Okay. Take it with me.

[Lex]

You're right. That's what I'm going to get myself, a Kindle.

[Dre]

My friend has one and she loves it. Like, she just keep it in her purse and just take it out wherever.

[Lex]

I'm gonna order one today.

[Dre]

I'm thinking about that. And then my. I'm gonna take. My next level is W Set three. Level three in spirits.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre]

So I start that in February. So.

[Lex]

So what does that do? What does that mean?

[Dre]

So basically I've completed my first two levels, which you. It's a whole nine week course. Then you have to take a written exam. But this one is like next level, I have to do an actual. I have to travel to do a tasting in person, blindfolded on spirits. And then I have to like write in the answers. So it's more theory based on the distillation and everything that goes into the process of making spirits.

[Lex]

Wow.

[Dre]

Once I get that, then that pretty much just certif certifies me in spirits. Top of my game.

[Lex]

I love that. Okay, that's some good goals. I like that time.

[Dre]

We support you. Thank you.

[Lex]

And you know what I want to do one year? You know me when I watch a movie. Y' all know I'm a movie head. I finally saw the F1 movie. I wanna go to a Grand Prix.

[Dre]

Oh, I wanna do that too. It looks.

[Lex]

I did not know that F1 was so like. Cause I went to a NASCAR race when I was probably like in seventh or eighth grade and I just don't remember having like a great time. Cause it was a very, very long race. But the F1 races aren't that, they're like what, hour and a half?

[Dre]

No, I think they long, ain't they?

[Lex]

Well, I think they're like an hour and a half, two hours. Somebody google that for me? Kyla, can you google that for me? How long is a F1 race? Cause it seemed like they're like an hour and a half, I think. But either way it goes, it just looked so interesting. And then when I'm watching the movie, y' all know I go on a deep dive of things.

[Dre]

90 minutes to two hours.

[Lex]

90 minutes to two hours. See, I can do that. I can do that. I can do that. 90 minutes, two hours. And it's like, say you bet on somebody or whatever. Whatever. Get that parlay hitting you, drinking Cristal and the caviar. It be a time the girls be dressing and it's like, you know, it's very fancy. Yeah, it's like this is where we gotta go. It's like once we get our million dollar deal, we're gonna celebrate at the Grand Prix. Like we have to go.

[Dre]

We should go. We should make It a family trip.

[Lex]

We should bring everybody. Yes. And they have it. Cause, you know, it's a season, and they get their points all season. Cause I was wondering. I didn't know how it worked. So they have a partner that they race with, and basically they get points all season. So I was wondering. I was like, so you mean Lewis Hamilton has had a partner this whole time? Why is his partner not as famous? But it was because he was always winning. Cause he always got the top points or whatever like that. But it's like a big deal. Cause it got some tea, too. Cause, bitch, he been driving with Mercedes all these years, and he not driving with Mercedes this year, bitch. So the tea.

[Dre]

Oh, I thought that was a lady.

[Lex]

Who.

[Dre]

I was supposed to say Mercedes. Who is it?

[Lex]

Oh, no, Mercedes Benz.

[Dre]

I know. Yeah. So.

[Lex]

So, bitch, the tea is hot. Cause he not driving with Mercedes, and he's been driving with them for, like, 10, 11, 12 years, child.

[Dre]

But which one do you want to go to? Cause isn't it, like, it's so many places.

[Lex]

Spain.

[Dre]

It's in, like.

[Lex]

They have one in Vegas, I think Italy. I mean, it's all Italy. It's all over the world, girl.

[Dre]

That's the one Beyonce just went to, right? The one that was in Vegas.

[Lex]

Yes. And she had them titties up to the moon.

[Dre]

She did. Ugh.

[Lex]

It looked like a time. It did. Like, we have to go to one. Like, we have to.

[Dre]

But I feel like I would be nervous in the car, though.

[Lex]

You don't. Well, you don't have. You ain't gonna get in the car, baby. That's what Beyonce. Sweetheart.

[Dre]

They might offer us to get in the car, sweetheart.

[Lex]

We just gotta get in first. One day.

[Dre]

Not at the first one.

[Lex]

One day. She said, I'm gonna be nervous in the car. I'm nervous in the car.

[Dre]

Experience over here.

[Lex]

She going all in. I said, let's go. Baby steps. God damn, Drew. You are funny. I be feeling like we have good luck.

[Dre]

You never know. They might be like, would y' all like to get in the car now?

[Lex]

I'm not gonna lie. Them cars get up to 200 miles per hour. I'm absolutely not getting those cars.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Absolutely not.

[Dre]

You would never do it. Not.

[Lex]

No. I mean, maybe I'll. If. Maybe we'll get up to, like, 120 on a straight.

[Dre]

Well, I wouldn't want to go 200.

[Lex]

200 is.

[Dre]

That's crazy. I would never want to get in a car. And they're going, like, 120 little razzle dazzle.

[Lex]

Yeah, that's all I do.

[Dre]

Blow your wig back a little bit.

[Lex]

A little tiny bit.

[Dre]

You need. You need braids.

[Lex]

Yes, It's a lot. But, yeah, that's what I definitely want to do this year is go to a Grand Prix. But like I said, that'll be the celebration. When we get our major deal, we're going to speak it into existence. Do you.

[Dre]

I have a question. Cause you brought up caviar. Do you feel like caviar is one of those things that people like because they like attention, or do you think people really like caviar? I'll say this because I had it again recently.

[Lex]

You didn't like it?

[Dre]

I did, actually. That's why I'm asking. Because people be like, it's nasty. I feel like you only like it for attention. Some of. Some of them. Some of the variations are nasty, but some of them, in my opinion. But the one that I had, when we were in la, I went to this restaurant called Boa, and it was really good. They had put it on top of the mashed potatoes, and I was fucking with it.

[Lex]

I'm not gonna lie. If you enjoy a fishy, ocean taste, caviar is amazing.

[Dre]

It's salty, though.

[Lex]

It's very salty. It's very oceany. So if you enjoy those flavors, I think that if you like sushi, salmon stuff that's really fishy, caviar is good. But if you don't like seafood and stuff like that, I think you would think that. But also, I just think, like, okay, excuse me, bitch. You eating caviar, right?

[Dre]

Like, I think I personally like it on food, like, with other things.

[Lex]

You're not gonna do the.

[Dre]

When people. I would do a bump, but people who be doing a bump, like, every day.

[Lex]

What kind of bump we talking?

[Dre]

I'm talking about the caviar bump. I follow a few people who eat caviar, like, almost every day.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

And I just be like, it ain't that good. I mean, every day.

[Lex]

I mean, if I eat beans every day, people think it's a lie. But I like what I like.

[Dre]

Caviar don't make you fart, though. It don't make you.

[Lex]

Beans don't make me fart. They don't.

[Dre]

That's debatable.

[Lex]

My fiber.

[Dre]

That's debatable.

[Lex]

Okay. Well, I say all that to say caviar is tasty. And I do like it, but I do like it on things.

[Dre]

Me, too.

[Lex]

I do agree.

[Dre]

I like it on something like, you.

[Lex]

Know, they eat them with the Little potato chips.

[Dre]

The bellini.

[Lex]

Rihanna had everybody eating it on a chicken nugget, you know?

[Dre]

Oh, yeah. So they did that this year at the Olympics. They had it with the chicken nugget.

[Lex]

Yeah. But I think caviar is good, but it's not something I definitely just like, oh, my God, I'm craving Cobb.

[Dre]

Not The Olympics. The U.S. open.

[Lex]

My bad. What?

[Dre]

The U.S. open.

[Lex]

Oh, same thing.

[Dre]

Everybody had went to the U.S. people competing.

[Lex]

Was n competing.

[Dre]

They would.

[Lex]

Same thing. Same thing. Okay, so again, y' all know we got a poor decision. The poor decision of the week. Do you have a poor decision?

[Dre]

Cause this is a Taylor Port episode.

[Lex]

Yes. Shout out to Taylor Port when I tell you. I had my cabin full of Taylor Port when I went on my Christmas trip in Colorado. And we was just sitting around the fire sipping on that Taylor Port, y'. All. I'm telling you, a few sips and you just be feeling so relaxed after a long day of work. I love going home and pouring up my Taylor Port.

[Dre]

Y'.

[Lex]

All.

[Dre]

Don't never gotta worry about what's in my cup. Thank you, Ty. Speaking of. Because it's always that Taylor port. And I like the black. Cause it's a little stronger. Yeah, the black is a little bit stronger than the OG Taylor port. So I love me some Taylor Port. Black.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre]

Cheers.

[Lex]

Okay, for my poor decision this week, because a lot of y' all were in the comments on the Charlamagne episode. Like, we don't like this segment because y' all aren't honest. Well, y' all want me to be fucking honest? I'm probably gonna get canceled for this. I'm not gonna get canceled. I'm gonna.

[Dre]

Why would you say that? What I'm saying.

[Lex]

Well, I want to say what I have to say because this was my poor decision, and I'm being honest. If this is a safe space. Right.

[Dre]

Might be safe. Might not.

[Lex]

Okay, so on the Kayla episode that we recorded with Kayla Nicole, I was just saying how, you know, like, sometimes people will DM me, and I don't mind helping people every now and then. Like, you know, if I. Whatever the case may be. And that was just the point. I shouldn't have said that. The influx of people. Hey, boo, My rent. Hey, boo. I need something. I literally probably got about. I'm not kidding about, like, 100 to 150 messages of people asking me for money literally after that episode dropped. And I get it. Times is hard, but God diggity damn.

[Dre]

I got a few messages too, though. I wonder if that's why I think it is.

[Lex]

Why? Cause they're like, hey, I heard you say you like to help people. And it's like, I do, but Jesus, I'm only one person. But I also think it's kind of, like, teetering the line a little bit. I don't know. I guess it's because, like, I know a lot of people don't have community and stuff, but, like, the panhandling on the Internet has gotten crazy. I post a thirst trap. Somebody underneath, like, hey, Lex, can you donate to my GoFundMe? I'm trying to show ass. Yeah, not right now. Not right now, Gwendolyn. You know what I'm saying? So that's my poor decision of the week. Cause I feel like a lot of times, and, you know, it tugs at my heartstrings. And it's like I said, I do definitely help people out when I can or when I feel where I feel, you know, it's necessary. But it was extremely overwhelming. It was a lot. And honestly, I'm one person, but that's a lot to read. Like, all these sob stories and things that people. It's a lot on me.

[Dre]

Same.

[Lex]

Yeah, it was very heavy.

[Dre]

I don't read it.

[Lex]

Yeah, we going to hell.

[Dre]

I'm just being honest. I swear, y', all, I'm being honest. Like, as soon as somebody send me a message asking me for money, I don't read the rest of it. It. I just close it.

[Lex]

Because.

[Dre]

No, like, I'm sorry. I do feel like I'm grateful that God put us in a position that he put us in to where, you know, we are financially stable and we make good money. I know the economy is hard. I know a lot of people are going through rough times, but, like, sending us messages and asking us for thousands of dollars is crazy. Those are the type of messages that we be getting. I know I be getting them, so I know you be getting them. And, like, I just think that's crazy. People who I know in real life, like, if somebody that I knew in real life really needed my help. Oh, of course. 100%. But, like, people on the Internet, that's just hard. And you being somebody that I don't know in real life, why do you think that I can send you or would send you $3,000? That's insane. So as soon as I see something about, oh, I'm going through this, would you see it in your heart to send me $1,000 to. I close the message. I can't read the rest a thou.

[Lex]

You Know how many ads I had to read for $1,000? Hold on. Shut up, girl. Shit, T. But I say all that to say it was just a lot, and it made me feel bad. But at one point, I was like, damn, I'm trying to be out here and enjoy my holidays, too. Like, it's a heavy time in the season for me. And I'm like, y' all not even being, like, considerate of me and my feelings.

[Dre]

I agree. And that's another thing. That's why I don't finish reading it either. Cause sometimes I just feel like it's just not considerate.

[Lex]

It's not considerate. And like I said, I do every now and then when I feel. And it's like, most of the time.

[Dre]

It'S like, you know, somebody asking for a little.

[Lex]

A little one, too. I don't mind being like, yeah, girl.

[Dre]

Go get you something to eat, whatever.

[Lex]

The case may be, but it be them. I'm talking. And I'm specifically talking about the people who be asking for thousands of dollars. That's what I'm talking about. It'd be like, yeah, the people. Like. I'm not talking about the people who asking for little amounts, whatever, stuff like that. But it be people like, straight up, be like, hey, I'm four months behind on rent. Hey, yeah, you had four months to figure something out.

[Dre]

No, that's between you and the court.

[Lex]

Hey, and your landlord. It. It's just really crazy, cuz, like I said, I have been on my lowest of lows, and I'm glad that I have community, but I think it's just a little. It's kind of like, I'm not trying to be funny. Like, I have family I be doing stuff for. I just bought a house, y', all. And I bought a fixer upper.

[Dre]

Same. I mean, I think two people don't realize, like, yeah, you might make a lot of money, but they don't know what you doing, and they don't know what else you doing with your money. Like, you said, you be helping people. Same with me. I be helping people. I mean, but my thing is, too, I learned I. I was talking to somebody about this the other day. My mom always used to loan people money growing up, so I learned from her to just say no. Because it's so many people in our family that still on my mama money to this day, never paid her back. And then if you got one time to borrow money from me and not pay me back, you better never ever ask me for again, because it's the Principle too. I'm not gonna lie. For a hundred dollars. Last year. Last year, money in my family.

[Lex]

Oh, I was like, who? Your friend need a hundred dollars?

[Dre]

No, I'm one of my friends. Somebody in my family. And I sent it to them because they asked me for it. They was like, oh, I get paid next week. I'll pay you back whatever I sent it. You would have been better off just being like, can I have a hundred dollars?

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

I hate if people tell you, oh, can I borrow this from you? If you borrowing it, that means you gonna give it back.

[Lex]

I'm not gonna lie.

[Dre]

Say you needed to have it because you telling me that you wanted to borrow it and promising that you was gonna pay me back when you got paid and then you didn't. Now you can't ask me for no more. And it don't matter that it was a hundred dollars, because it's not about the amount. I don't need the hundred. It's about the principle, the principal.

[Lex]

And then I don't like it when they don't say nothing. Like, you know, you owe me money and you don't say nothing. You don't bring it up. But I'm at the point beg.

[Dre]

Like you was begging for it. You don't remember how you was acting when you needed it, Right?

[Lex]

And I just think, for me. Cause I've been there. I am. When I was at my lowest, I was a serial borrower. But I would always pay folks back. Always. And then it's like, I would know my limits too. I'm not messaging somebody and just asking them for two, $3,000. I think that's a little. I don't know. I just think that's a little crazy. But I will say now I'm in the position where I definitely do for my close friends and my close family. But honestly, I just already know. I'm like, if you asking me for this money, you need it, you don't gotta pay me back. Now. As long as it ain't nothing crazy. But if it's like anything like under $1,000, I'm like, you don't gotta pay me back.

[Dre]

Just.

[Lex]

But you know it's wearing thin. Cause if you get that, don't pay me back. You only got.

[Dre]

You only got about two of them. Two?

[Lex]

Yeah, you only got two more, so you better use them wisely. Two more.

[Dre]

They only got two. You only got two times, bitch.

[Lex]

But I'm saying either way it goes, I'm like, now in the position where it's like, okay, you don't have to pay me back. But I think stuff like that, it's like, you're supposed to help people in your circle. And I definitely do that. But that was my. That. That was definitely my poor decision because it was just overwhelming. It kind of, like, not ruined my day, but you know how sensitive I am. So it was just really, really heavy on me reading all those messages. Like, God damn, that's so crazy.

[Dre]

I swear, that is really crazy that you said that, because I was thinking that the other day. I'm like, I've been getting a lot of messages lately of people asking me for money.

[Lex]

It was the Kayla episode.

[Dre]

That's what it was. I swear it was about, like, 10 that I seen.

[Lex]

I got 102 weeks, literally. I mean, it got to the point.

[Dre]

Where I was like, glad know I.

[Lex]

Said, I think I want to turn my athletes, my. My messages off. I was like, do I want to turn my messages off? I was like, no, I don't want. If somebody like that wants to work with us or something wants to DM me. So I can't turn my messages off. But it was just extremely overwhelming. I was like, oh, Jesus Christ.

[Dre]

Hundreds is nuts. That's wild. So, okay. My poor decision is. I got my belly button pierced. Re. Pierced. Wow. Because I had my. I got my belly button pierced when I was 16, at war. And I had it. I was at war with my mama. Cause she was mad as. Yeah, she tried to kick me out the house. I got my belly button in, my tongue pierced at the same time.

[Lex]

At 16?

[Dre]

Yes.

[Lex]

A tongue ring at 16 is nuts.

[Dre]

And I used to be in class doing these. Oh, fleeking it.

[Lex]

Just bad. Just bad for no reason.

[Dre]

But, yes, I got my belly button in my tongue. Pierce. My parents was mad, but, I mean, my mama let me keep it because she was a nurse, and she was like, if I make you take it out, I'm scared it might get infected. So she let me keep it. And then by the time it was healed, she was just like it. But anyways, I got my belly button pierced when I was 16. And I had it until I was probably, like, 27 or 28. I took it out. And so recently, I don't know, I just was like, I want to get my belly button pierced again. It's cute to me again. I took it out because I had started thinking it was ghetto a few years ago or more than a few. But, yeah, so now it's been cute to me again. And then I also felt like it's Good motivation for me to, like, keep going really hard with my challenge that I'm doing as far as working out, because I'm like, I'm gonna have them abs by the time I'm have my abs.

[Lex]

They coming. I seen them by the time.

[Dre]

Thank you. Yeah, they was really showing, like, last year at the beginning of the year.

[Lex]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Dre]

So I'm. By the time we go on tour, I want my abs back.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre]

So got my belly button pierced. When I tell y', all, I will never. And I done had everything pierced that you could think of, literally. Use your imagination.

[Lex]

But I don't need to, so.

[Dre]

Well, I mean, I seen it, but anyways, I done had everything pierced, like, literally, except for, like, facial piercings. I never had my nose, never had my lip, my eyebrows. I would never in life get anything re. Pierced ever again.

[Lex]

Oh, the scar tissue.

[Dre]

Oh, my God. And I have a really high pain tolerance. Like, I have tattoos. Like I said, I done had a ton of piercings. That cheat was next level.

[Lex]

Really?

[Dre]

Yes. And it took so long to push it through.

[Lex]

Oh, Lord.

[Dre]

My best friend Lynn was with me, and she was. Was recording it, but she kind of couldn't really see me for real, because the way the lady was, like, bending over me to push it through, and she had started recording it. And then after, like, a minute. A minute.

[Lex]

I know you lying.

[Dre]

I swear. She was like, what is. She was like, damn, what's taking so long? It took forever to push it through, and I was bleeding so bad. It just. Y', all, it hurts so bad. I'm not even.

[Lex]

I'm sorry. That was funny how you said that. So bad. I know it hurts.

[Dre]

I swear it hurts so bad. Like, I've never in my life experienced something so painful as far as getting a piercing or.

[Lex]

That's crazy. It was bleeding bad.

[Dre]

It was bleeding really, really bad. Like, it was probably bleeding for like, an hour.

[Lex]

Oh, my God. Afterwards.

[Dre]

And then. That's not even. That ain't even the gag. So then Lynn has spent the night at my house that night, right? So I had on a white T shirt, bloody, and I went to sleep. Woke up the next morning. It was like, a big ass blood spot on my T shirt. And on my bed. It had went through on my mattress, and I had.

[Lex]

I. No, I believe you. But it never gave us that serious. Take that shit out.

[Dre]

Well, no, I mean. Well, at this point, it's been a few weeks. It's been a few weeks, so it's healed. But it do still hurt a little bit. Like it do still hurt. Touch it. But when I say if that ever come out again, I ain't never getting it.

[Lex]

So are you gonna change it out or no? No.

[Dre]

Yeah, I' ma change it out once it fully heals and stuff. But I learned my lesson with getting something repierced. Like if a, if something closed on my body, I'm never getting repierced again. Because that scar tissue is not nothing to around with.

[Lex]

Oh my God.

[Dre]

Like the first time I got my belly button pierced, it was. Was quick. This second time because of the scar tissue, it was just so thick. It just took forever to push it through. To push it through. And I thought I wanted to get my nipples repaired too recently. No.

[Lex]

Well, I done chopped and screw my nipples up so much.

[Dre]

Well, you probably ain't going to feel it.

[Lex]

Well, no, I have feeling in them though.

[Dre]

You do?

[Lex]

I'm not getting them repaired.

[Dre]

I, I just, I'm not either. I thought I wanted to though, but after experiencing that. Cause nipple piercings already hurt.

[Lex]

They already hurt. And then I had the nerves to get my titties pierced. Whenever I had big titties, they was already sagging. Then that little piece of metal making them hang even more. I had some nerve. I was just doing anything. My nipple's sitting at the bottom of my shirt with that little bar just at the bottom. I'm cleaning my titties like this. You know, you gotta clean that nipple ring out.

[Dre]

And I will say now, obviously things have changed. Everything is a little more advanced now. So they have like these saline bottles that you just spray. Yeah, yeah, it's like, it's like an aerosol can and it just sprays the saline so you don't have to really clean around it with like a Q tip or nothing like we used to have to back in the day. But y', all, that was my poor decision because never again.

[Lex]

That's crazy.

[Dre]

And still as I'm sitting here right now, this. Because you see how it's like tied right here, my belly button right here. So I keep having to kind of like adjust it cuz it's a little, but cute as fuck, but not doing it again. And you will be seeing me pregnant with one of them pregnancy belly button rings. Cause I ain't.

[Lex]

What's a pregnancy belly button ring?

[Dre]

Them long ass belly button rings that people be having when they pregnant.

[Lex]

I thought it was just stretched out. So it's like.

[Dre]

No, they have pregnancy ones that be like this long. They want to keep it that bad. But when y' all I. I do.

[Lex]

Cause I ain't going through that shit again. That is insane.

[Dre]

It's a wrap for that.

[Lex]

I didn't know that was a thing either.

[Dre]

But yes. So I will be out here. Belly button ring.

[Lex]

Okay, so before we get to the first topic. Cause we've been a little chatty today. Sorry, y'. All. You know, I think we always do this when we haven't done a solo episode in a while. And mind you, we was on the phone for almost two hours before we got here.

[Dre]

So it was like one hour.

[Lex]

It was an hour and a half.

[Dre]

Okay, New year, same sip.

[Lex]

This one's called New Year, same sip. Because growth doesn't always mean starting over.

[Dre]

Yes, y'. All. Sometimes it just means knowing what already works.

[Lex]

And we're starting with Taylor Por. It's rich, smooth, and a little indulgent.

[Dre]

And I love indulging, so it's giving. I made it through the year and I'm celebrating it.

[Lex]

A touch of vanilla to soften the edges.

[Dre]

Because ease is the same theme this year.

[Lex]

Fresh lemon juice for balance.

[Dre]

And no chaos. Not in life, not in cocktails.

[Lex]

Nice. A little simple syrup to round it out.

[Dre]

And a splash of club soda for just enough sparkle.

[Lex]

Finished with a citrus twist.

[Dre]

Simple, intentional and satisfying. New Year, same sip.

[Lex]

All right, let's get into the first topic. Go ahead, Draya. Why? Why are more.

[Dre]

I had to get my cars in order.

[Lex]

Why are more women deciding not to live with men? You know, like recently we've been seeing a lot of talk online where women are like intentionally not to choose to live with their men. Even if they're in a relationship with them. Even if they're married, engaged, Long term relationships. Would you have you? Why or why not?

[Dre]

I don't know why girls don't wanna live with they men. You gonna pay the bills? Why would I not wanna live with you? No, I'm kidding. Not just that, but that is part of it. Like, I don't know. I don't really know why people don't wanna live with they man. I think that that's a great thing. Yeah, living with a man is great as long as he not dirty.

[Lex]

Right? Like, that's a lot of the point that they were making. They were saying cleanliness. These men be dirty. Not cleaning up after theyself. And they were like, sometimes I just want to lay around the house with my hair not done. I can fart.

[Dre]

I'm gonna do that anyway. Is this the thing about it? I'm gonna lay around with my hair not done. And I'm gonna fart in front of him. Cause I feel like if you living with somebody, y' all should be comfortable enough, like, to do that type of stuff in front of each other. Like, in the early stages of dating somebody. Of course not. Of course you not gonna be sitting around farting in front of that nigga. You gonna go to another room, but. Cause you be like, I don't know about y', all, but I be like, hold on, I gotta left my phone or I left something in the room.

[Lex]

I'll literally be like, oh, I gotta grab something out my car. Yeah, I hate when they be like, what, you need a charger? Oh, I got one right here. Let me go get mine.

[Dre]

No, for real, though. Like, yeah, you gotta make an excuse. Go to another room, let it air out, then come back.

[Lex]

And what if it follow you back?

[Dre]

It's not gonna follow you. If it follow you back, something ain't right. You need to change your diet sometimes.

[Lex]

They'll follow you.

[Dre]

I've never had a fart follow me.

[Lex]

Yes, you have. I promise you. You probably have. That's if you fart and you leave too soon. You gotta let it. You gotta wave it a little bit. You gotta wave it. You definitely gotta wave it.

[Dre]

You gotta wave it. But follow you, like, to another room.

[Lex]

Like, you know, it's just like when your smell lingers.

[Dre]

If you spray perfume, Kyla, what you be eating know if you don't.

[Lex]

Kyla agrees. If you don't wave that booty, I'm.

[Dre]

Like, where do it stay? Stay, like, in a pocket in your pants.

[Lex]

It stays in, like, the cloth of your clothes a little bit. It's going to follow you if you run too fast.

[Dre]

Not if you trying to play tag.

[Lex]

You're is.

[Dre]

That's crazy. But no. Yeah. I feel like obviously in the early stages of dating somebody, you're not going to do that in front of them. Y' all got to get a little more comfortable with each other. But if you and somebody are living together, y' all should be comfortable enough to fart in front of each other. Like, I'm not. Not living with. No. Because I'm scared to fart. He be one thing about. They don't give a about farting in front of you.

[Lex]

They will fart on you, literally.

[Dre]

Why you sleep? Oh, I'm speaking from experience.

[Lex]

Same.

[Dre]

And I'm traumatized, but I will say this.

[Lex]

Okay. So as the leader of the. I really don't fuck with men. Like, men get on my nerves.

[Dre]

You are not the leader Yes, I am.

[Lex]

And unfortunately, I am straight. Unfortunately. But I will say I think we've taken it too far, ladies. I think we have taken shit a little too far. Now, I get it. We don't like men. We hate them. They're annoying. They're this and they're that. But it's getting a little too far. I actually saw a TikTok the other day of a woman who said she's in a relationship with her boyfriend. He's always at her home that she bought so much that she's like, you know what? You can move in with me. Right? Cool. But she goes as far as saying he doesn't have to put in on the mortgage. This is my house that I bought. I'm the breadwinner right now. And you don't have to, because this is my mortgage. So I know that we're gonna be together forever. So the money that you're saving is gonna be for us. Baby. Let me tell you something. When that man leave, and I'm not wishing that on her, but if he. If he leaves and y' all break up, you ain't seeing none of that. He's just gonna take him and that hefty savings that he saved up, and he's gonna be on his way.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

So I do think, though, if you and a person move in together. Cause a lot of people were like, oh, I don't want anybody living. This is my. Y' all need to be bare minimum splitting the bills. Now, if a man wants to take care of all of that, that's fine. But I do not believe a woman should be paying 100% of the bills with the man in the house. That's crazy to me.

[Dre]

I just think as a woman, moving a man into your house and not having him pay for anything is crazy. Like, if me and a man are going to live together and I just bought a home, that's cool. We can still live together, but we need to find something that we're going to live in together. And I'm going to rent out my house.

[Lex]

Right, Right.

[Dre]

You not moving in my house and not paying nothing on the mortgage. And then that's crazy.

[Lex]

And then. You see, I've seen. I had a friend from high school was telling me that her and her boyfriend were together for like, eight something years. He moved in the house that she had bought, and when they broke up, he was trying to fight her for the house, for her house, in her name.

[Dre]

I am sick of this generation. Who is gonna be the niggas? We are who are exactly. Clearly. Clearly.

[Lex]

Who are gonna be the men. He was trying to fight her for that house. Yes. Cause he was like, oh, I've been.

[Dre]

Paying these N is sassy.

[Lex]

I've been paying. But it's like, okay, but you were gonna be paying rent anyway to a place that wasn't yours. That's crazy. So now you feel like if I move out of an apartment, I can't say, well, I've been paying rent for two years. This is mine. It don't work like that. But anyways. But I do feel like living with a partner, especially nowadays. Like, if y' all have a healthy relationship. There's nothing wrong with living with a man. I think that being comfortable around your house and not looking pretty all the time, if you don't feel comfortable having no makeup, hair in a bunch of. In front of your man, that's another red flag.

[Dre]

That is like, that's another thing. How do you plan to be married to somebody eventually or be living with somebody for the rest of your life and they never see you without weave and makeup?

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

That's insane.

[Lex]

Now, I will say for the women that are choosing not to live with men because they enjoy their personal space and that works for them, I think that makes sense. But if you're doing it for reasons like, oh, I can't fart, I can't talk to myself, I can't. But a lot of times now. What's her name? Cheryl Lee. Ralph and her husband don't live together.

[Dre]

They're bi. Coastal.

[Lex]

Never have. I know.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

And that works for them. But I think their reasoning behind it, it works and it makes sense, but little.

[Dre]

So what's the reason?

[Lex]

Because, like, they just like their personal space. And she's like, I enjoy. I like missing him. Like, when we get together, I still feel like that spark. Cause we're not up under each other247. So it's like. And I've seen couples who actually live together, but they don't sleep in the same room. Yeah, I've seen stuff like that before. So I do think whenever I do decide to live with a man, I know I'm gonna have to have a huge house. I've lived with a boyfriend before.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

In a tiny apartment. And we worked together.

[Dre]

Yeah. An apartment is different from, from like you said, like a sizable. A nice size home.

[Lex]

You need a big home.

[Dre]

You definitely. I feel the same way. I'm gonna need a big home.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre]

I'm gonna need a big home for me and my husband. We need to have separate quarters that we can go to at times. Now I do want us to sleep in the same bed.

[Lex]

Yeah, I do want sleep in the same bed.

[Dre]

But during the day sometimes I'm going need my space.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre]

And you going to need yours and that's okay. But some of these reasons is just crazy. Maybe I'm unhinged a little bit cuz I don't give a damn. I will talk to myself in front of that too.

[Lex]

Yeah, I always talk to myself.

[Dre]

The I don't get. Yeah, yeah.

[Lex]

I think some of the reasons that the girlies were given was kind of.

[Dre]

Like wait and then as far as cleanliness, I'm not gonna lie, like I've been blessed. I've never dated no dirty. I've never dated nobody who was just who was dirty. Now I do think men do certain things that us as women we don't like and it's a little inconsiderate.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

Like I've definitely had a boyfriend who would leave the toilet seat up.

[Lex]

I hate that.

[Dre]

And I hate that because. Especially if you gotta go pee in the wee hours of the morning and the light is off and you don't know and then you end up sitting on that. Yes. Instead of sitting on the toilet, then.

[Lex]

Your booty get a little wet cuz it's going to fall off.

[Dre]

Oh my God. Yes. So it's like, you know, stuff like that. Or like men, some men will like pee and not raise the toilet seat up and then the pee get on the toilet seat and then they don't wipe it like it be little stuff like that.

[Lex]

And I, I even, I hate when people just leave the toilet open period. Like after I go to the bathroom, I close the inside entire thing. Like it needs to be closed like.

[Dre]

Or. Oh you know what another pet peeve of mine is? When people don't rinse the sink after they brush their teeth and speak in the sink and then it dry up. I don't like that. But those are things that I feel like though. And I'm just speaking on personal experience, like issues that I've had with like people that I've dated in the past or whatever. But I feel like those are things that you could work through. That's not like being dirty, that's just more so. Okay babe, let me let you know that you do this and that I don't like it and maybe you can fix it and work on it. As far as just being dirty, unorganized. If you got a man like that, I just feel like he Ain't the one. Especially if you organized and you clean and he just filthy.

[Lex]

That's literally a reason to break up.

[Dre]

That's misalignment.

[Lex]

That's a big misalignment. Cause I can tell you, like, I've lived with people, friends, boyfriends and things like that.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

And cleanliness for me is 100% a deal breaker. Because I was at a point in my life at one time, I was a little OCD about cleaning. I'm a little better. I'm a lot better with it now because I literally used to be the type of person, like, I. Sometimes I would get into it with people about them not cleaning up, but it was just me being extremely anal. So I'm not that bad with it anymore. But I cannot have somebody who's, like, filthy because it's a deal breaker. It ruins my peace. I literally feel un settled as fuck. Just knowing that I cleaned the whole kitchen and you coming in there and cooking and you not even cleaning up. That is the most aggravating thing in the entire world. So I feel like stuff like that is bound to be like, okay, either we're not gonna be together or we're not gonna live together. But I think for the most part, we have lost the plot so much with love and marriage and happy. Y' all don't wanna live with y' all people.

[Dre]

That's crazy to me.

[Lex]

You don't wanna live with your family.

[Dre]

I, like, sniff mommy an armpit.

[Lex]

Oh, my gosh. I love it. He has the best deodorant. Me that pit. Give it to me right now.

[Dre]

That's what I'm saying. I can't relate.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

I cannot relate. I want to be up under my man.

[Lex]

But I do think, like I said, morning breath and all. Yeah. If me and my man ever decide to, you know, get engaged and, you know, get our home together, it's definitely going to have to be big. Like, I'm probably going to need a wing. Yeah.

[Dre]

That's what I say. A wing.

[Lex]

Need our. Yeah, I need a wing.

[Dre]

A wing as well.

[Lex]

He needs a wing. I need a wing. And then in the middle, we can congregate. Guest house in the back for when people visit, things like that. Cause I do like, when people visit, too, like. Cause even my house now, the way it's set up, I had a friend staying with me for a while sometimes. And my house is big, but it's not like a mansion at all. But I have a whole basement. And it's like an apartment down there. It's got a full bathroom, a bedroom, a living room, and a dry bar. So it'll be like sometimes I wouldn't even see her for about three, four days for real. Because I would be on the third floor. So I think situations like that, it makes it a lot easier versus being in a small apartment for real. So I don't know. I disagree. I would definitely live with my man again.

[Dre]

But we need a wealth wing.

[Lex]

A wealth wing. We do. Because last time I lived with my man, it was in a two bedroom apartment, child. And it was just a mess. Yeah, we was young, though. I was working at TGI Fridays.

[Dre]

Ooh, child.

[Lex]

The good old days when life was easy.

[Dre]

Okay, now it's time to get into topic number two.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre]

So for topic number two, we're gonna talk about, like, being beauty conscious. Have we become so obsessed with looks that we have begun to hate natural beauty?

[Lex]

Yeah. What are your thoughts?

[Dre]

What's your take?

[Lex]

So my hot take on this is, I think, 100%. Sometimes as individuals, we have to step back and say, this is a lot. Right? And this is coming from. I love the glam. Okay. I love the makeup, I love the hair. I love to get dolled up. But I do remember a time in my 20s where it used to take me about an hour, hour and a half to do my makeup. Cause I used to, you know, bartend. I'm going to work. Like, we had to be dolled up and it would get to the point to where I would, like, take my makeup off. I'm like, oh, Lord, I could never go outside without makeup on. Like, I started to feel that way about myself because I was constantly putting on so much makeup and I looked so different with my makeup on versus with it off. So I think that now being I'll be 37 this year and, like, growing into, like, I had a moment where I just woke up and I was like, hey, girl, this is your body and this is your face. And you need to love yourself because you can't change it. You know what I'm saying? So I did get to a point to where I scaled back a little bit because I got to the point to where I had to have my lashes done. You know what I'm saying? Like, I had to have everything has to be done and everything. I had to have my hair down my back and all this stuff. And it was just like, why though? You know, it was like, what is it about me? I'm trying to keep up with people online, how social media makes me feel. And honestly, I'm not gonna lie. The best thing that happened for my confidence, too, is these cameras. I don't care how many filters I put on on the goddamn Instagram and TikTok, baby. That's real. These cameras ain't gonna.

[Dre]

These is 4K. 4K HD. So you don't see what the fuck going on up close and personal.

[Lex]

Yeah. And so I think even with the makeup looks now, and I'm not shading people. Cause different people have different reasons for why they wear makeup and things. But I think we have to definitely get back to. And I know people gonna be like, oh, Lex, you say that after 16 surgeries, but I'm like, I know. That's why I'm saying that is because I don't regret my surgeries. Cause body t. But I do think probably if I would have looked at myself a little different versus looking at other things, maybe I would have made a different decision. Maybe not. You know what I'm saying? I don't know. I can't say. But I will say I wouldn't have. But I will say the natural beauty, even with the natural makeup looks like. Just don't wear makeup. Just don't wear makeup. It's okay. Now sometimes I do a natural beat, you know, like today I have on lashes and lip gloss. That's what I kept it as very simple. But I think that we need to learn to just like, hey, this is my face. Let's make it work. Let's make it work.

[Dre]

It's a lot.

[Lex]

It is a lot. When I look at the girls and they be so young, and it's just like, I hate that for them. Cause I didn't really start beating my face till I, like, got to the city. Like, I used to do my makeup in high school, but the Girls are like 16, getting lace fronts, getting the makeup done and doing it. And I just be like, oh, my gosh, it's about to. I hope that you don't go down a road that I went down. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

How you feel?

[Dre]

I mean, I definitely think you need to be confident in what you look like without all of the extra.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

You know, because it is what you look like.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

At the end of the day, when you go home and it's just you in the mirror, this is what you look like. And you have to be okay with yourself. Because I think that that's how people end up, like, distorting themselves and making themselves start to look disfigured.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

Because you become obsessed. Obsessed with trying to look perfect or trying to emulate what you see other people looking like online. And then it's a thing called, like filler blindness.

[Lex]

Oh my gosh.

[Dre]

It's very real in general, not necessarily even filler, but just getting work done to your face, to your body to a point that like, you don't even really see in the mirror what everybody else is seeing. And like, you've taken it overboard. I think being confident in yourself is key. Nobody is perfect.

[Lex]

Right.

[Dre]

And if it's things about yourself that you don't like, hey, I am an advocate for changing things and working on things. But it gets to a point and I think people take it overboard because I truly believe people don't really be thinking anything be wrong with them until other people tell them that it is.

[Lex]

That's a fact.

[Dre]

A lot of the time. A lot of the things that people want to change about themselves physically, it didn't become something that you wanted to change about yourself until other people kept bringing it to your attention. I think a lot of the time, naturally, us as people, we be thinking we look good and we be pretty confident in ourselves. Until other people start nitpicking at your looks. It was this girl I had seen on Tick Tock. They have a surgery now, and I don't know if it's a new surgery or what, but they have it to where you can like lower your hairline.

[Lex]

Yeah, I've seen that.

[Dre]

But not the. But not the implant. Like not to wear. You like implants, they actually cut it.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

And then so it sew your hairline closer to your forehead and it makes your forehead smaller. And this girl had got it done and she was just saying how she was happy with her decision. It was something she had been wanting to do. And it was a few people in the comments and I was just like, what was the reason why you wanted to do this? Or whatever. I feel like you probably only wanted to do this because people started telling you you had a big forehead. And I really do feel like that's how it go when people become obsessed to the point that they want to change so many things about themselves. It's little things that people be pointing out. That's why you have to be kind online.

[Lex]

I was just about to say that.

[Dre]

You have to be kind to people.

[Lex]

I would imagine that's hard though, hearing that like. And then you got big ass forehead. You got a big ass forehead and they just making jokes on you constantly all the time. That would mess up anybody's confidence or make anybody. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Like to hear something. I mean, you see people a lot of times that get their ears pinned back or something like that. So I just think it's like there's only so much confidence a person can have at the same time too, when it's like everybody is picking on them constantly about something as well. So I just think it's like a double edged sword. It's like, you know, people will praise you for being natural and then people will still talk about you. Then you get your body done or you get things done and you know, you look better and you're more appealing to society. But people like, oh, well, why did you go get that done? You know what I mean? It's like, it's no winning. I agree.

[Dre]

Like I said, I just think you have to be confident in who you are without all of the extras. As much as I love makeup, as much as I love hair and quick weaves and braids and all of those things, I'm also okay with how I look without it. And I've always been a person who. I will wear my natural hair. Sometimes I will go barefaced. I mean, we. Lately we really haven't been wearing makeup on the show. I do have a little makeup on today, but this is honestly the first time that I done wore makeup in like a month and a half.

[Lex]

Yeah, we had. Well, we had to.

[Dre]

Yeah. I mean, we didn't have a choice cuz we got our chemical pills. But even outside of that though, you and I go do things all the time without makeup on. And I just think you have to be okay with the way you look. And I don't know who started telling y' all there something wrong with the way y' all look, but y' all don't look bad, right? Y' all don't.

[Lex]

But like I said, I think it's just social media seeing other girls and what they look like. It's hard though, because the beauty standard is insane right now.

[Dre]

But I also think all of the people that everybody look up to, you see them without makeup and without hair all the time. Like, you see what Cardi b look like without makeup and without weave. You see what Beyonce looks like without makeup and weave. They actually get online and show themselves. Rihanna, we see what she looks like barefaced, no weave in her head. Kim Kardashian is another person people look up to, which, okay, people could say, oh, she's gotten work done. I mean, most celebrities have gotten work done.

[Lex]

Right? Right.

[Dre]

But at the end of the day, she gets online bare faced with out the glam. So feeling like you gotta be made up 24,7, it's just unrealistic even for those people.

[Lex]

Right?

[Dre]

You know what I mean?

[Lex]

And I also. But I don't like the girls who are natural and they try to like weaponize it and be like, oh, well, I'm so glad I don't do that anymore because like I said, now I'm all for the natural girlies, but they be throwing a lot of shade too. They definitely be like, oh, well, I don't. I had to let that go. I don't wear a weave, I don't wear lashes, I don't wear makeup. Like that's just too much. I don't see how I did that.

[Dre]

Well, guess what?

[Lex]

Be shady.

[Dre]

You need it now.

[Lex]

I do agree. Now there are certain occasions you do need to put a little lip on. You need to put a little liner on.

[Dre]

I hate, I hate if you have.

[Lex]

A ball gown on.

[Dre]

Why you don't got no makeup on.

[Lex]

Now the one person that does work.

[Dre]

Put on a little lip.

[Lex]

It does work. Now I will say there's one lady who does this, Pam Anderson, and she does it really well. But I think it's cause she's older. Cause you know, she doesn't wear makeup at all anymore. She like stopped wearing makeup.

[Dre]

Alicia Keys don't either.

[Lex]

Yes. And I think it works for them. Alicia Keys, I think she started at to to promote her skincare line and things like that. But I think it works for that age group and stuff like that. Like Alicia Keys is not old. But what I'm saying is she's in her 40s so it makes sense. But it's like for the young girls, if you going outside, put a little one, two on, put a little lip liner on. I ain't saying you gotta do a full beat, but you can put a little mascara on. At least a little mascara.

[Dre]

Pamela Anderson definitely needs to put on some makeup.

[Lex]

You think so? For sure. I saw a picture of her at the Golden Globes. I thought she looked cute.

[Dre]

Okay, I'm gonna keep scrolling.

[Lex]

But you know that I'm glad they age a little differently now. Maybe the picture I saw was a little. I thought it was like.

[Dre]

Was it a Getty image?

[Lex]

No, it wasn't. Oh, we gotta check the Getty.

[Dre]

Yeah, we gotta check the giddy. Okay. But it's easy. Okay, well, yeah, like I'm a weak. I don't know. I definitely think some occasions call for it. But you Also need to be okay without it.

[Lex]

And then it's always the men and.

[Dre]

The women who do be online trying to be like, oh, I don't wear that. I'm not trying to be. Maybe I am being a little mean. Oh, well, I just feel like the main people who be like, I don't wear that. I don't need that. You do. You do. I don't know who told you that, but you do. Usually more often than not, when I see somebody saying it, I always be thinking, well, actually you could use a little one too.

[Lex]

And I always hate when the beans.

[Dre]

You could use a little track. Cause that hair thin.

[Lex]

Ooh.

[Dre]

Very thin and wispy.

[Lex]

Oh, my gosh. Now the girls that be like that care.

[Dre]

I think it's good.

[Lex]

I think that it's so basic lash sets. Yes. When they care about the inch, how long their hair is. But it's like it be to your. But it's thin.

[Dre]

But it be like three strands. And the rest of it up here.

[Lex]

It'S giving Tommy pickles at the top. Let it go.

[Dre]

Ate the fuck up.

[Lex]

Come on now. And I hate it when the men be like, yeah, I like my woman with no we. I like men who mind their business. If I want to get dressed.

[Dre]

Take your hat off.

[Lex]

Ooh. And they ain't gonna do that. And they not gonna do that. Cause a lot of that shit under that hat. Not everybody can have bald head.

[Dre]

It don't mean nothing else.

[Lex]

Nothing there. And not everybody can pull off that bald head.

[Dre]

Now I don't like bald head men.

[Lex]

Oh, I'm telling Charlamagne. I'mma clip this and send it to him.

[Dre]

I'm not about to date Charlamagne.

[Lex]

But I'm just saying get married. Well, I didn't say it like that, but I think you know, I don't.

[Dre]

Mean I don't like them as people. I'm talking about for me to date.

[Lex]

Oh, for you to date.

[Dre]

And I'm not. That's what I'm saying. I'm not about to date Charlamagne.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

Shout out to Uncle Betty. But no, they. And not because they don't be attractive. They just remind. They give me uncle vibes.

[Lex]

It does give uncle.

[Dre]

I grew up having four bald uncles. Four dark skin.

[Lex]

Damn. I don't think none of my uncles. Well, my uncle is. Damn.

[Dre]

All four of my uncles shout out to them. One of them died. Rip.

[Lex]

Damn.

[Dre]

But I still have my mama. Still have three brothers that's alive. All four of my uncles was dark skinned. And b My whole life. That's my type.

[Lex]

Jes. I'm going to the family. Re sign me up, girl.

[Dre]

They all in their 70s.

[Lex]

I am weak.

[Dre]

She even better.

[Lex]

But.

[Dre]

But yes, girl, they was all bald and dark skinned. So, like, I just have this.

[Lex]

You associated with. Yes.

[Dre]

It just give me un vibes like it be giving big and like, probably the only. It's one man that's bald, that's older that I be like, okay, he's still fine. Morris Chestnut is still fine.

[Lex]

Yeah. I think Jeezy. Jeezy's attractive.

[Dre]

Oh, Jeezy is fine, too. GC is fine. But. And Jeezy been bald a long.

[Lex]

I. I ain't never seen.

[Dre]

Never seen Jeezy with her. Shout out to Jeezy. But yeah, I mean, it does work.

[Lex]

It works for some. For some people, but it's definitely a hard transition when they got to let it go.

[Dre]

But you know what I really don't like? I don't like when they, like when men be going bald. And then they'll cut it real, real low to where the hair real, real short.

[Lex]

Let it go.

[Dre]

And it damn near looked like they just cut it off.

[Lex]

Off. Yeah.

[Dre]

See, I. All of my.

[Lex]

Not all.

[Dre]

Most of my uncles had the cul de sac. Oh, they wouldn't let the Carl win. Yeah, that's. I think I appreciate ball, cuz.

[Lex]

Just do it like, if it's ball. Yeah. Y' all trying to hold on a little George Jefferson. Yeah. The roof missing.

[Dre]

And they. It was the afro something. Afro1 had a perm in it. Uncle Terry, he had a. Yes. And he had it bald at the top.

[Lex]

Cul de sac. He would like, curl.

[Dre]

Wavy. Oh, it was wavy and long. He crimped it. It was just the natural. I guess that was how his perm took.

[Lex]

Yeah. Oh, so it was like a wash and go. Yeah, he would wash it. Just the back, though. Yep. That's all he had to do in the back.

[Dre]

And he had it like that in the back. But he would pull up with the suit. Sometimes he'd do a little pony, like, pull it together.

[Lex]

Ooh, Ooh. Yep. That was one thing.

[Dre]

That was when he put a suit on. That was like a nice suit.

[Lex]

I had a man that was a manager at the club.

[Dre]

I like the versatility.

[Lex]

He would have a ponytail in the back, a low ponytail. But he would always wear a hat. And we thought that he had a full head of hair, y'. All. It was nothing under that hat. I was disgusted. I said, oh, my God, you got some motherfucking nerve. Cause he was one of them managers that used to always be telling girls how to dress and do this and. Oh, the dancers and this and that. You don't got no hair size.

[Dre]

How did you. How did y' all find out?

[Lex]

Cause we seen, like, one. I don't know. It was like, maybe he switched it up one day, and it was like a hat, and it was kind of lifted in the back, and it didn't cover that ponytail like it used to. To. I said, it ain't nothing under there, man.

[Dre]

Drew had a Druski had a skit that he came out with, like, maybe a few ago. It was like, about the ball. And then it was like when he pulled up to the club and the. Be ready to turn around when you got to take your hat off, man. I'mma just go home.

[Lex]

They do.

[Dre]

They don't want to take their hat off. Red flag abortion if he don't. If he decide that he going to end the night, all because they want him to take his hat off. It ain't pretty under there.

[Lex]

Yeah. That's crazy. But me and I think they. They definitely be insecure about their hairline.

[Dre]

Yes.

[Lex]

I think the equivalent of, like, how women are about our bodies and, like, our butts is men in their fucking hairlines, bro. They do not. They are so sensitive about it. I hate the tattooed hairlines.

[Dre]

How you feel about the toupees?

[Lex]

I don't mind the 2 peso because they look good. They do look good. I will say. I don't mind a toupee if you're gonna do it. If you don't feel comfortable being bald, you need to go to somebody who does something like that and it looks natural.

[Dre]

Get your lace laid.

[Lex]

Get your lace laid. I'm not mad at that. I'm not mad at that.

[Dre]

That's what they be doing. They be laying it. It be laid. Oh, I believe it. I've seen it.

[Lex]

It don't really have no lace on it.

[Dre]

No, it be laid.

[Lex]

No, it don't. It don't be lace. It be that like.

[Dre]

I don't know how lace, but I thought they install it how they install lace front.

[Lex]

It's not installed. It's like this little rubber thing, and they put the glue on it and they just lay it real flat and then they dry it and then they just cut it like it's regular hair.

[Dre]

And it don't look like scalp underneath.

[Lex]

No. Cause you don't see no scalp.

[Dre]

So it's still a toupee. Yeah, it's like, apparently a toupee. It's literally different.

[Lex]

They're just applying it differently and they're cutting it like real hair. But it's not no lace.

[Dre]

I thought it was.

[Lex]

Was laid. Because you don't see. Because most of the time when dudes get haircuts, you don't see their scalp.

[Dre]

But they probably do got a lace one for, like, you know, if you.

[Lex]

Want a part, you know, the men.

[Dre]

But you know how men be having their hairstyle where it be like the braids and then they put it in the ponytail and then it be a fade around. Yeah, they probably got lace for that.

[Lex]

Now those.

[Dre]

They do. And they have them in dreads, too. Like, they have the dreads where you can. Those are actually lace, though.

[Lex]

Now with that, I'm not going to lie. I don't want a man that has, like, a lace dress.

[Dre]

What if you ran your fingers through it?

[Lex]

No, I was like, ooh, babe, your.

[Dre]

Scalp feel a little dry?

[Lex]

Yeah, I'm not doing that. I seen a guy, I was at my nephew's basketball game, shout out to Carter. He had a really good game the other day, but it looked like he had yarn in his hair. It looked like real yarn. I'm like, is that a hairstyle maybe or something? A culture thing that I don't know about? It was like. It looked like it was supposed to be dreads, but it was straight up yarn.

[Dre]

They used to do that all the time. A color, black.

[Lex]

It was.

[Dre]

I've seen, like, yarn wasn't a 1B color. That's what I was about to say. I used to see that all the time.

[Lex]

No, it was A1A jet black, A1B. It wasn't one B.

[Dre]

It was A1A1.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

And it was yarn.

[Lex]

It was yarn. 1,000% yarn.

[Dre]

Was it, like, wrapped around or was it braided?

[Lex]

It was just yarn. And it was thick. It was thick. It was a donkey.

[Dre]

Probably heavy. It was.

[Lex]

Yes, it was a lot of donkeys. Well, I'm not cussing.

[Dre]

I liked it, but it was.

[Lex]

Yeah, it was a lot. It was a str. And I don't want to call it strange because like I said, if it's a culture thing, I don't want to offend you.

[Dre]

No, yeah.

[Lex]

But yeah, it was an interesting thing. It was definitely interesting.

[Dre]

I just think men need to know when to let it go.

[Lex]

Yeah, yeah.

[Dre]

Just everybody needs to know when to let it go. It's okay. Pull up to the scene with your ceiling. Yeah, it's okay. Just cut it all Off.

[Lex]

Yeah, I agree.

[Dre]

Cut it off. Like. Like I said, bald men are not my preference. But if my man was going bald.

[Lex]

I'm not leaving my man.

[Dre]

I'm not leaving my man. Cause you going bald, but you gonna have to cut that shit off.

[Lex]

Yeah, you gonna either cut it, cut it off, or we going to Turkey. Yeah, I even gift it to you. Happy birthday. Will you decide what you gonna do? But I'm not leaving my man if he going bald. Y' all gotta be fucked up. See, that's why y' all gotta be on Turkish Airways. What? I'm telling you. You think I'm finna leave for a little hairline?

[Dre]

Hey, good men too hard to find.

[Lex]

I'm telling you. I'm telling you.

[Dre]

Now, your side tooth, that's another topic.

[Lex]

We gonna go to the dentist. Stuff like that can be fixed.

[Dre]

You gonna go to the dentist?

[Lex]

Yeah. If my man loses his side tooth, I'm gonna say. And he. Like, this would never happen, but, like, if he couldn't afford it, I'm gonna get his. I'm gonna buy that tooth. I'm buying that tooth for my man.

[Dre]

Why did you lose. How do you lose your size hood after we already been dating? Are you not brushing properly? What's going on?

[Lex]

Crack. No.

[Dre]

And that's really a reason to leave that nigga crack.

[Lex]

What if he's addicted to something now?

[Dre]

I will leave you for crack.

[Lex]

Nah, I' ma leave you for crack.

[Dre]

No, you not.

[Lex]

I might join in, but then, God damn it, I'm leaving it, nigga. Oh, boy.

[Dre]

I don't want no pookie.

[Lex]

Yeah. I started watching the Wire.

[Dre]

Oh, he just died.

[Lex]

Ooh. Who got murder?

[Dre]

Damn. The dude that was in Waiting to Exhale.

[Lex]

Who, the state foreman? Not the state foreman.

[Dre]

The fatter guy.

[Lex]

No, no, no.

[Dre]

From the Wire. He was a police officer.

[Lex]

Oh, oh, yes.

[Dre]

Yes. His name. Yes.

[Lex]

I can't remember his name. I'm only on episode. I can't remember his name. He was the guy that used to go, she. Him? Was that him? Yeah.

[Dre]

Hold on. We know somebody that used to say that, too.

[Lex]

She.

[Dre]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Lex]

That's how you. What's the difference Name?

[Dre]

Hold on. Oh, it's on the tip of my tongue, too. If you press Wendell Pierce.

[Lex]

Wendell Pierce just died, like, last week. Yes. Rest in peace to Wendell.

[Dre]

She shout out to Wendell, the man.

[Lex]

You daddy used to go, Shaq.

[Dre]

He did. He used to say. He used to say that every time I walked in the room, I was like, no.

[Lex]

But it was like, every time I.

[Dre]

Used to be like, who?

[Lex]

Every time he walked by you, we would have been together for hours. He would be like, shaq Sha.

[Dre]

This how you know I was fine as fuck to that nigga.

[Lex]

Is everything okay? He used to be in the club. I used to hear him over the music.

[Dre]

That's the type of admiration I need, though. If my. If a nigga ain't acting like that.

[Lex]

About me every time he see me, every time I walk past that nigga.

[Dre]

Yes, you need to act like it's the first time. That is real. Where are the real lovers?

[Lex]

That was so the real yearners. Well, he was just horny. Yeah, I was.

[Dre]

I don't know if he was a. I don't know if he was a yearner. He just used to be horny. And it used to turn me off to the point because, remember, I never even like y' all never being intimate with him because he used to turn me off. I used to be like, you too horny.

[Lex]

He was like. He was so handsy.

[Dre]

He was. And them hands was clammy.

[Lex]

Yes. Be such that. I hate a clammy hand.

[Dre]

Me too. Why they so wet?

[Lex]

It's gross. It makes me feel like you just beat your meat or something.

[Dre]

What? He.

[Lex]

I don't know why I always connect clammy hands with beating. They meat.

[Dre]

Really.

[Lex]

It just feel like, why? What did you just do to your hands? Why are they so wet?

[Dre]

I don't know. That's a good question. And they probably do. They probably do be beating they meat a lot. Cause it ain't rough. Yeah, you don't even need no rough.

[Lex]

It's real smooth. You've been working that shaft. I don't like it. I don't fucking like it. I don't like it at all. Wait. Oh, my God.

[Dre]

Let's. Please.

[Lex]

I'm sorry. Okay, let's go. Move on.

[Dre]

Wait. I'm sorry. I have to say, Wendell Pierce did not die.

[Lex]

Oh, my God. We are taking that whole.

[Dre]

It was.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

Isaiah Whitlock Jr. I'm so sorry. Sorry, Wendell.

[Lex]

Oh, my gosh. Wendell, come on over to. You can come sit on the couch.

[Dre]

He said he is, but I think it did come up. Cuz I swear to God, I saw multiple posts about it. It did say when I typed it in, he is alive and well.

[Lex]

He's okay. Thank you, Jesus.

[Dre]

Okay.

[Lex]

Oh, it was the other dude. So he was the one that said that's who I was thinking of.

[Dre]

Yeah. That guy.

[Lex]

Yes. He was the one that be like, she. My bad. She.

[Dre]

That's okay.

[Lex]

Okay, that's all right. But. But you corrected it because they finna be in the comments.

[Dre]

I know now they gonna see we corrected it though.

[Lex]

It's okay.

[Dre]

But moral of the story is it's okay, ladies to not be perfect, to not have a perfect appearance. Don't get caught up in the hype of like, like. And I know like you said, people will probably be like, oh, well, y' all had surgery before, which we have. But don't get caught up in the hype of changing so many things about yourself to where you start looking like. What's the word I'm looking for? Outdated. Unrecognizable and outdated. Because I feel like things be trendy and then it don't be trendy and now you stuck with their body or you stuck with their face.

[Lex]

But I will say too, I'm glad you said that. That's why whenever you do make the decision, if you do, don't do it because of a trend. You know what I'm saying? Like, when I went and got my body done, I wasn't like, oh, I want a 40 inch ass and a 20 inch waist. Cause that's what was in at the time when I got my body, I was like, no, I just want an hourglass. Cause one thing about an hourglass is always gonna be like a nice cute. I wanted people to look at me and be like, she has a nice body. I didn't want people to look at me and be like, oh my God, her ass is so fat and her waist is so small. I didn't want that. So I think think you need to stop making decisions on your body off of trends. 100.

[Dre]

Yeah. And I said that because a lot going back to what you just said, a lot of the things that was trendy, looks wise, body wise. Even like with cosmetic facial surgery and stuff years ago, that stuff is not trendy anymore and people are going back to a more natural look.

[Lex]

Yeah, they're taking the things out, even.

[Dre]

The lashes and stuff. We was just talking about that the other day. How I used to wear such long, thick lashes a few years ago. I cannot believe I used to wear them lashes. I don't even wear lash extensions anymore. Really? If I do every once in a while, it'll be like the clusters and it's still like a natural looking lash. I just feel like natural lashes are just coming back in style. I just wear a little mascara. That's what I got on Shameless Plug.

[Lex]

I'm weak. Not. You got that thing on You. Why is it right there?

[Dre]

Cuz I kept it for this reason.

[Lex]

I'm so weak.

[Dre]

So, yes, I do have on Muse Beauty Collection mascara today. These are my real lashes and they do length, elongate, volumize, all of the things separate. Muse Beauty Collection www.muse beautycollection.com get your mascara. And it's super easy to take off too. I would consider it like tubing mascara.

[Lex]

I was just gonna say. Is it tubing mascara?

[Dre]

I don't want to false advertise.

[Lex]

Okay, that's all right. That's all right.

[Dre]

What does that mean?

[Lex]

But you get it wet and you go like this and it just comes off like in a tube off of your eye.

[Dre]

Oh, okay.

[Lex]

Yeah. So it comes.

[Dre]

Some of them do. A few of them, you know, but it. It's not hard to take off, though. It's really easy to wash off.

[Lex]

Okay. And some of them are.

[Dre]

Some of them do come off as well. I have to let y' all know if it's too mascara or not. Good question.

[Lex]

Yeah, yeah.

[Dre]

But yes. Can it to be and waterproof at the same time? Like, are those. Can it be the same thing, man? Yeah, I think so. I think you can have waterproof tubing mascara. Okay. But that sounds like I do not like.

[Lex]

You know what? I do not like waterproof.

[Dre]

I don't either.

[Lex]

It's so hard to come off. Okay.

[Dre]

Yeah, I don't either.

[Lex]

It'd be a lot on my lashes. And I'll be feeling like I just be. Cause I've been wearing. I'm back wearing strips now. I do strips. And I don't know. I just feel like whenever I do wear the waterproof and because when I put my strips on, I put mascara.

[Dre]

On to blend it.

[Lex]

Yeah. And I feel like whenever I have used the waterproof, it still just stay. I feel like it be on my lashes for days. It don't matter how much I wash it. Put the oil makeup remover. It'd still be on there for. I don't know what they put in waterproof. Move press.

[Dre]

I don't either.

[Lex]

I do not like it. I can't. I can't rock with it. But anyway, bulletproof it. Do that.

[Dre]

Be more than waterproof.

[Lex]

Jesus Christ.

[Dre]

I don't know what be going on. For real time.

[Lex]

I'm serious. It's a lot. It be hard to get off.

[Dre]

It be hard to get off.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

But anyways. Okay, so now it's time to get into the. Be the.

[Lex]

Be a bow bow.

[Dre]

Love it here.

[Lex]

Bow, bow, bow bow Bow. And y' all know the bed is always brought to you by Salt xo. It's so crazy. Cause I got a message the other day, and this girl was like, I finally ordered some salt XO because of you. And I absolutely love it. And I'm like, I really like when we are back to buy products that, like, we actually use and we actually really, really love. Because this is. I love Salt xo. Like, you put me onto it. Shout out to everybody at Salt xo. Jaleesa, love you down. But, yeah, if y' all need some good, good wash for this area down here, Salt exo is always the way to go. Everything.

[Dre]

Yes. Y' all know I love me some saltxo. And now they also have travel size, so you could take your favorite salt exo while she's on the go.

[Lex]

Even if you're not traveling.

[Dre]

Even if you're not traveling. Sometimes you might need your overnight bag.

[Lex]

Yeah. You know, y' all know that little ho bag, that little bird bath. You gotta wash that coochie in the.

[Dre]

Sink or your whole bag. Remember we did a whole bag video back in the day. We need to do a new one.

[Lex]

We need to do a new whole.

[Dre]

Bag with thought xo.

[Lex]

Yes, but.

[Dre]

Yes.

[Lex]

Cause I. You know what? Men. Let me tell y' all a conversation that men have. And they be laughing at the girls that do this. They say, I know when a girl went into the bathroom and washed her coochie. Cause she come back in the room and it's time to fuck. Why that coochie smell like doll? Why it smell like my doll hand soap?

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Why does that coochie smell like the cucumber melon that I have sitting on my counter? They know when y' all go in that restroom and wipe that coochie off, keep that Salt XO in your bag.

[Dre]

Today is cucumber melon. Tomorrow it will be bv.

[Lex]

Yes, exactly.

[Dre]

Use Salt xo.

[Lex]

Then you ain't got to worry about that.

[Dre]

Exactly.

[Lex]

Stick it in your purse if you need to take a little hold back. Cause sometimes, you know, maybe that twerk went a little funky. Clean it up.

[Dre]

It's gonna be funky. If they using dog cucumber melon down there, tomorrow it's gonna smell like onion.

[Lex]

Oh, and not the onions that we like.

[Dre]

We don't like that.

[Lex]

All right, get to it.

[Dre]

So, you know, and speaking of, like, I feel like Salt XO might go hand in hand with these topics. I was wondering, when do old people stop fucking? Like, I was having this conversation. I be Having the most random conversations with people all the time. I was having this conversation with my best friend Lynn the other day and we was just like, when do old people stop fucking? And I feel like if they was using salt x soul, probably forever. Forever. Cause the way that shit be making your coochie tingle.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

And be all minty pregnant.

[Lex]

It be ready.

[Dre]

It be ready. She ready?

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

So I was wondering, when do you think older people stop having sex? Like some people say that they stop having sex in their 70s. And then some people say that they never stop. But also now as we getting older, I think it's a myth when they be saying that women pussy get dry when you get to like your 50s. Cause people coochie be dry in they 20s.

[Lex]

Yes. I think I have two sides.

[Dre]

See, I don't think it's an age range.

[Lex]

I don't think it's the age range either. But I think maybe now I will say, I do think that for women it spikes when we hit our 30s. But I do think it kind of goes down a little bit whenever we go to through menopause. So I think that's probably why.

[Dre]

KY jelly.

[Lex]

Yeah, you need a little KY jelly, but I think it's okay. But like I said, I think your sex drive does go down a little bit during menopause. But I think once your body kind of adjusts to it a little bit, you kind of, you know, you get your groove back a little bit. Because we have been seeing a trend. What are you laughing at?

[Dre]

I was thinking about that juvenile song, what he said. I didn't want to have the car off Millie. So. So I fucked her in the alley with some KY jelly.

[Lex]

Cause he's a freak.

[Dre]

Cause what? First of all, and that's what we was talking about using that. She was probably using dal soap instead of saw that soap.

[Lex]

For sure she was.

[Dre]

Cause he said he didn't want to have the car all smell smelly. Why was it gonna be smelly?

[Lex]

Cause that cooch was funk.

[Dre]

You had to fuck her in the alley. You know how bad chokie stank for nigga to fuck you in the alley?

[Lex]

Mm mm. Even them cats walking by like, Yeah, that's a crazy, crazy.

[Dre]

Oh my God. Yo, coochie gotta be so funky for a nigga to want to you outside.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre]

Instead of in the car. Yeah, cars do be car sex get real hot and steamy.

[Lex]

It'd be damp.

[Dre]

It'd be like that man hand.

[Lex]

Clammy.

[Dre]

It be clammy. It do. So imagine if your coochie stank.

[Lex]

Yeah. Oh, my God. If your coochie stain.

[Dre]

Why did you say that like that?

[Lex]

Because I was thinking of a story that one of my homegirls told me, and she was like. She was about to have sex with this dude and she said, like, he took her panties off. She said, ooh, I think I was a little tart. She was like, I think I had a little bb. Like, it was just, you know, sometimes that ph get blown off. And she was like, oh, I don't. And she told him. Like, she was honest. She was like, you know, we don't need a. He was like, I don't care. He said he did not. She said he didn't care. I said, ooh, ooh, I cannot have sex with my coochie. Funky.

[Dre]

He probably had some.

[Lex]

He definitely probably had some. Cause what he said. And she told him. She was like, oh, I don't think it's. I need to. You know, sometimes you need a little, you know, a little boric acid up there. So it happens. Anything can throw your. Yes, anything can. Yes, Bordek, anything can throw that coochie off. And she was probably like, you know, come back and you can get something tomorrow. I'll clean it up, make sure it's right. That nigga did not care.

[Dre]

Yeah, I don't know. That rubs me the wrong way. But I do like. Going back to what I was saying, though. I do think as you get older, your coochie probably don't get as wet. But I think if you with a nigga that you really like, your coochie.

[Lex]

Gonna be wet forever. Forever.

[Dre]

Just like Rick Ross Rich forever. Wet forever.

[Lex]

I'mma be wet forever. Ain't that what John Legend said he did?

[Dre]

He didn't say wet, though. That's going to be us. But, but no, like, seriously, I do. I think if you with the right partner, you might need a little help as you get older. As you get older. But I think if you. If you really turned on by your man and, like, enamored with him, you gonna always be ready.

[Lex]

Yeah. And like I said, even for men, sometimes, like, you know, you get a little older, maybe don't get up. They have, you know, the little pills that, uh, they ain't pay for that ad. Uh, uh, no free advertisement. I mean, I'm just playing.

[Dre]

I'm trying to help the niggas out.

[Lex]

But I'm saying, like, I do think that the older you get, like, it's probably a little tougher, but I think they still definitely have it. I think older people definitely still having sex.

[Dre]

But when do you think citizens have, like, the highest STD rate? They do have the highest HIV rates. Yeah.

[Lex]

Yeah. Are you serious?

[Dre]

I feel like I said this to you before.

[Lex]

Yeah, that's crazy.

[Dre]

They be in them nursing homes, so. Yeah, they be getting down in them nursing homes, all them widows.

[Lex]

But I mean, like I said, though, I do think there is a mix a little bit. Because what I have noticed, though, when older men date younger women, it's like the woman wants to fuck all the time and he doesn't. But older women, when they date younger men, they be like, that's the best time because they get to have the sex that they want to have. It seems like if older couples, if there is a disconnect in having sex, it seems like it's more on the men's side, which is crazy. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre]

That's on brand. It's always they fault.

[Lex]

Yeah. Like, men just. I don't know.

[Dre]

Mm.

[Lex]

I think men kind of reach their side sexual peak, like, in their 20s and 30s, and I think after that, it's just kind of like it starts going down. But I think women kind of. Yeah, I think we keep it kind of consistent. Like, I feel like even if a woman isn't having sex and she's older, she's definitely got a vibrator for sure.

[Dre]

I feel like vibrators. Y' all need to stop using them vibrators so much, though, because I feel like they desensitize your coochie over time.

[Lex]

Too much. Yeah. And then if you putting it. If you using a strong one, like, you just need something a little light. A little light, little vibration. You don't need that fucking blaster 4000 on that fucking coochie. That could fucking kill somebody with the electric chair. If you could hook your dildo up to an electric chair and it kills somebody. Bring that shit the fuck back.

[Dre]

Yeah. Yeah. Some of them be a little too strong. They be a little too strong, and I feel like you need to let it breathe.

[Lex]

Let that coochie breathe.

[Dre]

Letting that coochie breeze. Like, give it a little time. If you rubbing one out every day, it ain't as exciting no more.

[Lex]

But sometimes a day. Sometimes it's been a long. It's been a long day today.

[Dre]

Drain.

[Lex]

Yeah. And I can't have no drink. I'm trying to pull out my heart to. I got to wait that something. Got to get some heat sometimes it.

[Dre]

Do be a long ass day. And you can't Wait, wait. To get home.

[Lex]

Sometimes you need it.

[Dre]

He unbuckling them pants.

[Lex]

Who? Did you walk?

[Dre]

No.

[Lex]

You be feeling so dirty afterwards.

[Dre]

You just be laying there looking like, what a. I just roll over and go to sleep. Cause I do be disgusted with myself. I be having to take a nap.

[Lex]

I just can't even talk to you.

[Dre]

And I don't even take naps. But I be needing one after that.

[Lex]

And I be like, put it. Get away from me. You're disgusting. Seriously.

[Dre]

Oh my God. In my cleaning ladies, I be so scared sometimes. Cuz one time I had forgot to put it back in my drawer and it was under my pillow.

[Lex]

Oh my God.

[Dre]

They was making my bed.

[Lex]

When I tell you one time. Oh my God. This is a crazy story. I can't believe I'm about to tell the story. One time I was. This is when I was living on the east side, remember when I had the one bedroom. Then I moved into a two bedroom. Cuz me and Jazz moved in together. And I remember I was. I was single. I wasn't dating anybody at the time. But you know, I was like messing around with guys.

[Dre]

I don't know.

[Lex]

This sounds so crazy. Cause I don't know where it came from.

[Dre]

I am so nervous about where these about to go.

[Lex]

It was a new guy that I was kind of interested in and he came over to help me and Jazz move our stuff. Y'.

[Dre]

All.

[Lex]

Why would he like, picked up the bed frame? It was a condom just under the bed.

[Dre]

A used.

[Lex]

Used. Yes, it was used, bitch. And I didn't know. Cause it was like deep under my bed. I was like. So I didn't know it was there. And I was just like, I'll try to hurry up. Thank you. Thank. Thank you, thank you. Y' all want something to drink? Y' all good? Oh, it was so embarrassing. Cause who does that?

[Dre]

Nothing trumps my daddy finding that used condom on my laundry hemper.

[Lex]

Like. But the thing is, who put it.

[Dre]

There when I was like. But 14.

[Lex]

At war. That is hot.

[Dre]

At war.

[Lex]

You don't definitely shock that.

[Dre]

No. I said this before on the show. I lost my virginity. I lost my virginity when I was 14 to my boyfriend in middle school. Like the summer before I was going to high school. But. But it was so traumatic. Like the whole experience. I don't talk the story on the show too. With the police coming.

[Lex]

Yes, yes. But how did he find the condom on the handle?

[Dre]

So I didn't have sex again until I was 16. So I had sex one time when I was 14. And I didn't have sex again until I was 16.

[Lex]

But who put the condom there? Him. The boy? Yes. And that's what aggravates me.

[Dre]

Yes. I mean, he was fucking 14.

[Lex]

I know, but I'm just saying. Ben still do that? Why would you throw a condom under my bed?

[Dre]

He threw it. He threw it on the laundry hamper. And then my dad had asked me too. Like, the next day, he was like, was you having sex? And I was like, no. And then when I was at school, he found it on 14.

[Lex]

Is so crazy to think about busting that thing open.

[Dre]

But the sad. But the sad. I wasn't bust. I was not busting nothing open. I wasn't. I didn't know how to bust it yet.

[Lex]

I don't even know how to I.

[Dre]

Be busting it now. Oh, I didn't know how to bust it back then. I was new to this. I'm new to it now, girl. But 14 sound crazy, but I had a homegirl, like one of my best friends when I was in elementary and middle school and stuff. She was having sex when we was 12.

[Lex]

That is insane.

[Dre]

Yeah, I had a few little friends and I went to private school. That is true what they say about private school.

[Lex]

Girl, y' all was working wilding. Cuz, I mean, I'm not going to lie. The. We was wild at my school too. I lost my virginity at 15. Girl, I was about to turn. I was about to turn 16. I was about to turn 16. The way I could drive, though, I had my. I had my permit. I was driving, though. But middle school is a big difference, though.

[Dre]

But I wasn't in middle school. I had graduated already. I was in high school. I was about to go. It was the summer that I was getting ready to go to ninth grade. I was a sophomore, so I wasn't in eighth grade anymore. I was removed.

[Lex]

Well, I was a sophomore because, you know, I was young in my age group because the cutoff is like September.

[Dre]

Yeah, that's right.

[Lex]

So.

[Dre]

Oh, yeah.

[Lex]

So I was a sophomore in high school, though.

[Dre]

Oh, okay.

[Lex]

So it's a little.

[Dre]

It don't matter what grade you was in, it's the age. You was still the same age. Damn near. But I feel like I knew that already.

[Lex]

Yeah, but I knew that too. But I just think it's so crazy when men are having said, why are y' all and not him? But even in my situation, why would you throw a condom under the bed, you dirty ass? So obviously, I'm thinking, he went to the Bathroom and flushed it down the toilet. I didn't know that it was there.

[Dre]

That's probably another one of them reasons we need to add to the list for why women don't want to live with these. Yeah, add that to the least. They be throwing condoms. Condoms everywhere.

[Lex]

Throwing condoms everywhere. Sometimes you got to go to your house and check that trash can. What's been going on?

[Dre]

Door under the bed.

[Lex]

Yeah, I need to go do that today. Let's wrap this shit.

[Dre]

Okay, so now it's time to get into the bow. The bow, bow the bow. Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow.

[Lex]

So y' all know I love Junetober. The duo, the guy and the girl, they make fantastic R and B music. And one thing I love about them is they drop music consistently. I love when it's an artist that I can always count on them to drop music, and it's absolutely amazing. So they're about to drop a new EP or new album, and some of the singles have been released, and they have this song called Bomb that I absolutely love. I just love they make music for real lovers, and I love, love music. Like, I want to hear happy in love music again, and that's what they make. So this song is called Bomb, and it's just basically like her love is a bomb and she rubbing it all over you, period. Okay, so, yeah, shout out to Junetober Bomb. That's my bop of the week period.

[Dre]

So my bop of the week is Lady. Lady by Olivia Dean.

[Lex]

Oh, let the lady see. Yes.

[Dre]

I really like that song. And it's been going crazy on social media. Media. Like, everybody be posting their song on a little reels and they pictures and stuff. But I really, really like it. I feel like it's a very cutesy song. And I like her voice.

[Lex]

It's like sex in the city music. Like, I can take over the world because I'm a girl and I'm strong. You know, that's the kind of vibe she gives. She's very cute.

[Dre]

She is. She's very pretty.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre]

So, yes, that is my bop.

[Lex]

We need to get her on the show. We need to have another. Another British.

[Dre]

Come on, Olivia.

[Lex]

Yeah, we need to have another one. Come on over. Well, we've had a few British on the show. Now that I think about it.

[Dre]

I forgot we had two. We only had Fool Hot and Jane.

[Lex]

No. And Marsha. Oh, Marcia and Brochi and the girls. We had that whole London run.

[Dre]

Everybody zz no, but I'm talking about coming on Poor. Mine's here for rc like on the show. Like, yeah, we had recorded with some people. We did record some Poor Minds episodes with some London people while we was over there. Like we recorded with Madam Joyce. Yeah, but I'm talking about them coming here, being on our signal.

[Lex]

Our. You're right. You're right.

[Dre]

But yes, shout out to Olivia Dean. And now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show, let's do it. Which is pour your heart out. So you know if you have any questions, you can send them to Poor Minds at Gmail. Zach asked. Damn, we ain't recorded in a minute. Ask Poor minds gmail.com A S K P O U R M I N D S at gmail dot com. Send us your questions period. So let's get into question number one.

[Lex]

Oh, I guess it's just one. Okay. Spring 2023. My sister, who was in a long term relationship, set me up with her co worker. We dated for a bit. He was cool, never slept together. But I did stay over once. Since my sister and I were close. I told her everything. By the end of summer his communication changed and my sister started saying slick negative stuff about him at work one night I checked her location and she was at his house. Then again and again and again. I called her while she was there. She kept it short and five minutes later she turned her location off. Child. The next morning she admitted they liked each other. Said it just happened. Y' all remember that? Okay. Claimed they hadn't slept together and told me men come and go. I cut her off. Fast Forward to fall 2024. She's pregnant. Oop. Long story short, she married him and now he's my brother in law and they have a baby. A sweet, sweet baby. I added that I'm not trying to stay mad now that I have a niece involved. But I'm still pissed. Am I dragging this since we never slept together or was this actually foul? Be honest. Be honest. That's it.

[Dre]

I just. I think at this point she is dragging it a little bit.

[Lex]

However. However.

[Dre]

It ain't never no reason in this world that I would date somebody that my sister used to talk to. Yeah.

[Lex]

And then she put her on him. I don't. Sister hooked them up.

[Dre]

Yes. I don't give a. Like it's too many men in the world for me to date somebody that my sister used to go with. That one of my friends used to go with. I just don't play this.

[Lex]

And she said they dated for a bit.

[Dre]

Yes. And I think that your sister dead ass wrong for this and me and her probably wouldn't ever be that close again after that. But I also do think at some point in time, you do gotta, like.

[Lex]

Yeah, you have a niece now.

[Dre]

They're married. He ain't going nowhere.

[Lex]

But two things can be true. You are maybe dragging it a little bit, but she also is a weirdo.

[Dre]

Yeah, she is.

[Lex]

So. And I think he's kind of weird, too.

[Dre]

But it's really your sister who the weirdo. Like, if we going in rank, she number one.

[Lex]

She number one.

[Dre]

Cause she your sister.

[Lex]

I don't give a fuck if they was real.

[Dre]

It could have been like, the sister was trying to put him on with the other sister. But then he was like, nah, I'm trying to get at you type of thing. No, still weird. Okay. I was trying to, like, get some.

[Lex]

The reason I would have said maybe not. Because if he went on maybe one date with the sister, and he was like, no, you know what? I really like your sister. I'm gonna be honest. But she said they dated for a bit. Oh, okay. He was cool, but they never slept together. But she stayed over the. She stayed at his house one time. Mm. So they stayed the night. So I'm pretty sure they kissed at least.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

You know what I'm saying? Yeah.

[Dre]

I mean, it's weird all around. To me, it's a little weird. But I do think. Think that you always say when people be holding grudges about stuff, you ain't really harming nobody but yourself because everybody else done moved on. And clearly they don't give a damn about the sheet, and they definitely don't give a damn about how you feel about it, so.

[Lex]

Sure. I mean, they're married. Yeah.

[Dre]

And have a baby. So I just.

[Lex]

And this happened fairly quickly. This was only in spring, in 2023, when she.

[Dre]

Yeah, it was only a few years ago. But again, I just think that you blocking your own blessings by, like, holding a GR. Grudge and internalizing all of that anger. You wasting time is probably spending time on that situation that you could be out trying to find your own man and start your own family and, you know, find your person. So, girl, just let it go. But I wouldn't be with my sister like that.

[Lex]

Like, we ain't locked in.

[Dre]

You can't come over for Thanksgiving Beach. I'm sorry. I just.

[Lex]

That is a little weird.

[Dre]

People, like family or not, when people do certain stuff. You don't deserve to be in my space like that.

[Lex]

Agreed.

[Dre]

Because you done showed me weird, whether you my sister or not, because they.

[Lex]

Were probably flirting at work during that whole time. That's what it's like. It's just questions. That's just too weird for me. I don't know. All right, y', all, now we're going to do our Bottled up segment of the week brought to you by Taylor Port. So you have anything you want to get off your chest? Just send us a quick little voicemail so we can hear you out. So you can just vent to the girls. Okay. I really can't stand when people set up plans or initiate plans inviting you out. Then the day of them hoes go quiet, them hoes go silent, they disappear. And then the next morning they have the nerve to text you and quote, unquote, apologize or try to set up new plans. And then get this, those new plans that they set up, why they don't come through or follow through with those new plans on the new day? So you know what? Actually, don't invite me no where else. Like don't set up. You're dead to me. Because what is the reason for that? That shit grinds my gears. That's a pet peeve of mine. That shit angers me because you could have just said fucking nothing.

[Dre]

Ooh. Hey, you ain't wrong, King. I agree that irritating. Me too. Don't make no plans with me because I'm a tourist. I wanted to stay home anyways, baby. You could have just not hit me up in the first place.

[Lex]

Yeah, and I think so.

[Dre]

Got me getting ready and shit.

[Lex]

And I'm the type of person, if you invite me somewhere and you haven't texted me all day, I assumed we wasn't going for me. Anytime I invite people to do something, I always hit them up. Hey, good morning. Just letting you know we still on.

[Dre]

For seven tonight, bookie.

[Lex]

So if there's any changes, you can let me know. I can let you know, but I'm texting you at least by 9, 10 in the morning so you can have some time to, you know, whatever is going on, we can let each other know, but I just think we too old for that shit. I think people are so weird even when somebody invites me somewhere. I said this on Love Lexp. I said what I'm no longer doing is giving people excuses or anything. Hey, Lex, can you come here? Hey, girl, I'm not gonna be able to make it. That's it. I'm not giving you no excuse. I'm not. If I don't wanna go, I just don't wanna go. Or even if I do cancel plans I'm gonna either let you know the day of. But earlier in the day, hey, I had a change of plans. I can't make it tonight and that be it. But I feel like all this being weird, not hitting people up and not saying nothing. Y' all are weird, and y' all make situations more difficult than they need to be. So I'm right along with him. You weird. And then you. If you texted me this morning, you could have texted me last night.

[Dre]

Okay. Yeah.

[Lex]

You know what I'm saying? So I'm with him on that one. I'm with him too.

[Dre]

I 100% agree. Like I said, I don't like that. Cause you could have just not invited me in the first place.

[Lex]

Yep, yep.

[Dre]

Having me getting ready.

[Lex]

And you know me, I be having to force myself to go anywhere.

[Dre]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like, no, that's not right. I don't do that type of stuff.

[Lex]

No. One thing about Drea, she gonna show up and she gonna be there till the lights turn on the party animal. She gonna be there till the lights turn on, bitch.

[Dre]

Not really.

[Lex]

And she be like, where we going next? Not really.

[Dre]

As I get older, no, I be ready to go home. But when I was younger, I used to be old, bro. Oh, my God. I used to go so tired. She would be ready to go.

[Lex]

I have been that way. I think it's cause I worked in the club for so long.

[Dre]

I'm like, no, Lex, come on, let's go to the after hours, bro.

[Lex]

I hate the afties.

[Dre]

And I used to force. I used to drag licks everywhere.

[Lex]

Oh, but good times. Your birthday last year. I did good.

[Dre]

You did.

[Lex]

I stayed up and I was partying too. But that do be me too. I be like, I don't want to go. And then I get there, and then.

[Dre]

She be having a fucking ball.

[Lex]

You look over there.

[Dre]

Sometimes Lex be the one who be wanting to. To go to the after hours when she gets. When she gets to having a really good time.

[Lex]

Yeah. When I get that Tito flowing in me. Yeah. We need to keep this party.

[Dre]

She be wanting to keep going, especially when we be home.

[Lex]

Oh, yeah.

[Dre]

Remember we was at Area 29 that night till like 5am I.

[Lex]

That was my third night in a row there.

[Dre]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Fact, I went to Area 29. I was partying till 5 o' clock in the morning for three nights in a row.

[Dre]

And mind y', all, this was like six months ago. This wasn't that long ago.

[Lex]

Go wait till I come back, Houston. I'll see you, baby. I love Sunday fun.

[Dre]

Yes, me too.

[Lex]

But yes.

[Dre]

I mean, in certain settings. I do still like to, like, prolong the party, but for the most part, I be trying to go home. We was doing that when. It remind me, though, of when you first moved to Atlanta. We used to be. I used to have you outside. I seen. Speaking of, I got to tell you, the video I found the other day. Remember when that man started choking on them chicken wings?

[Lex]

It's not funny. I thought he was gonna die.

[Dre]

I found the video the other day. I have to show it to you. And while the chicken wings was on his lap in the video.

[Lex]

And I put. Stole.

[Dre]

Laughing.

[Lex]

You going to hell, bro. Did you see the drool in the video?

[Dre]

No, because it was before. I was like, damn, Shoot. It was all good.

[Lex]

It was all good. And then it wasn't. Y'. All. This man started choking on a chicken wing. He was like. And it was just a long thing of drool. I was like, I think he's joking. You remember that?

[Dre]

And I was smoking about who.

[Lex]

She was like.

[Dre]

Oh, my God. And it was my date.

[Lex]

Oh, it was her date.

[Dre]

Yes.

[Lex]

That's what made it worse. I was like, I think something is wrong. Cause he was like, what?

[Dre]

Jesus.

[Lex]

And it was like. I think somebody had, like, pat him on the back. You were gonna help him.

[Dre]

We were in the. We were in A section, first of all. We was in the club.

[Lex]

It was a lot going on.

[Dre]

And we was in A section, and it was a lot going on. And his friend was sitting next to him. And his friend was like, bro, you good?

[Lex]

You good? Yeah.

[Dre]

And I was looking while I was smoking my hookah. I was like.

[Lex]

He had, like, hit him on the back, and I think he kind of, like, just coughed and he. I don't know what was going on.

[Dre]

He was okay?

[Lex]

Yeah, he was okay. But it was. It was weird.

[Dre]

And afterwards, I was. I was like, I'm glad you okay.

[Lex]

Can you.

[Dre]

Can you give me a refill?

[Lex]

Oh, my goodness.

[Dre]

But I was, like, 27 when this was. Like, when Lex first moved to Atlanta, y'. All. It was a long time ago.

[Lex]

We. Them Atlanta. Them early Atlanta days. I stay in the sanctuary now. Okay. But yes, y' all make sure y' all tune in to love lexp every Monday at 10am Y' all go. Follow me on snap.

[Dre]

Snapchat.

[Lex]

Lexp05.

[Dre]

Yes. Make sure y' all follow me on all platforms at Dre and Nicole with three E's. Make sure that y' all shop www.musicbeautycollection.com we have a lot of exciting things, new products coming out this year, and we about to go on tour.

[Lex]

Yeah. Poor moms.com get y' all tickets, like, right now. Go get y' all tickets. Tickets or whatever.

[Dre]

Still sipping 20, 26.

[Lex]

And Todd, where can they book you at if they need a bartender?

[Dre]

Www.so mixy2xs.com Period.

[Lex]

All right, y'. All. And we'll see y' all next week. Bye. I was so high? I did not recognize? The fire burning in her eyes? The chaos that controlled my mind? Whisper goodbye? She got on a plane Never to return again?

[Dre]

But always in my heart?

[Lex]

Oh, this love has taken its toll on me? She said goodbye too many times before? And her heart is breaking in front of me? And I have no choice? Cause I won't say goodbye anymore?

[Dre]

Whoa, whoa.

[Lex]

Whoa? I tried my best to feed her appetite? Keep her coming every night so hard.

[Dre]

To keep her satisfied? Kept her playing like it was just a game?

[Lex]

Pretending to feel the same?

[Dre]

Then turn around and leave the again?

[Lex]

But oh, this love has taken its toll on me? She said goodbye too many times before? And her heart is breaking in front of me? And I have no choice? Cause I won't say goodbye anymore? Whoa, whoa? I'll fix these broken things? Repair your broken wings? And make sure everything's all? It's all right? It's all right?

[Dre]

Pressure on your hips?

[Lex]

Singing my fingertips every inch of you? Because I know that's what you want me to do? And this love has taken its toll on me? She said goodbye too many times before? Her heart is breaking in front of me? And I had no choice? Cause I won't say goodbye anymore? This girl has taken its toll on me? She said goodbye too many times before? And my heart is breaking in front of me? She said goodbye too many times before.

[Dre]

Period. Come on. Who needs to get a cape? This is an I heart podcast. Guaranteed human.