Pour Minds Podcast – “Look At That Donkey”

Hosts: Drea and Lex
Date: January 23, 2026
Network: The Black Effect & iHeartPodcasts

Episode Overview

In their first solo episode of 2026, Drea and Lex, two single Houstonians living in Atlanta, kick off the new year discussing lifestyle changes, friendship dynamics, personal growth, dating culture, beauty standards, classic drinking stories, and maintaining authenticity. With their signature blend of humor and honesty—plus plenty of candid cussing—they move through juiced-up drunk therapy, swap New Year’s resolutions, and dish on everything from dry January to the nuances of living with a man. Whether chatting about nostalgic drinks, reading habits, body image, or old school cursing, Drea and Lex offer relatable takes and deep laughs, inviting listeners to wine down and join their unfiltered conversation.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. New Year, New Habits: Resolutions and Lifestyle Shifts

• Lex asks Drea about New Year’s resolutions (01:18)

  • Drea: No traditional resolutions, prefers challenges/lifestyle tweaks.
  • She’s on “Day 13 of 75 Hard”—working out, 10k steps, new trainer, dairy- and liquor-free.

    “I haven’t been drinking. And I feel great … it’s a really good reset.” (02:48)

• Lex on Dry January:

  • Not a fan, misses Taylor Port.
  • Suggests moving Dry January to February:

    “Let’s get to it. We need to start making it dry February because it’s the shortest month of the year.” (05:45)

• Cussing Less as a Resolution?

  • Lex tries to reduce cussing, finds it difficult.
  • Hilarious bit on replacing “ass” with “donkey.”

    “You can say ass. That’s a donkey. It’s a donkey.” – Drea (06:23)
    “Look at that donkey.” – Lex (06:46)

2. Drinks of Years Past & Nostalgia

• Reminisce on “hood classics” like 40s, Alize, Hypnotiq, Four Lokos, Cristal, Dom Perignon.
• Plan a future “hood drinks” tasting for Patreon.
• Banter on men with stretch Hummers, old car trends, and the nostalgia of prom limos. (03:45–05:07)

3. Health, Food Trends, and “The Chinese Diet”

• Lex’s “Chinese diet” journey: (10:51–14:53)
  • Inspired by TikTok. Only warm foods—miso soup, broths, bone collagen.
  • Explains claimed digestive benefits and personal effects.

    “I am a Chinese woman, and I’ve been enjoying it.” – Lex (13:09)

• Drea wants to know more—topics of digestion, skincare, consistency, and slippers as “part of being Chinese.”

4. Reading Goals & Book Club Vibes

• Both trying to read 2 books a month.
  • Lex stuck on Fish Don’t Exist—finds it boring, prefers drama/erotica books (“I need a Tyler Perry in book form!” – Lex, 16:24)
  • Drea rereading Harry Potter for nostalgia, plans to read Kennedy Ryan, Housemaid, Evelyn Hugo.
  • Banter over self-help book fatigue:

    “We get it. Love yourself, have confidence and don’t give a damn.” – Lex (16:46)
    “I’m just in an era of liking to read for leisure.” – Drea (16:54)

• Discuss benefits of listening vs. physically reading—vocabulary expansion, pronunciation, retention.

5. Personal Growth & Leisure Activities

• Ty’s disciplined routine: exercise, skincare, quarterly puzzles, book recommendations, advanced spirits certification.
• The trio bonds over setting intentional goals, prepping for travel, Kindle dreams, and luxury experiences (e.g., going to a Formula 1 Grand Prix). (21:01–25:00)

Memorable Moments & Notable Quotes

“Donkey” as a Curse Word Alternative

• [06:24]

  “You can say ass. That’s a donkey. It’s a donkey.” – Drea
  “Look at that donkey.” – Lex

Cussing as an Art Form

• [08:41]

  “You know who cussed real good? Who? Tia Kim. She needs to start teaching the class now.” – Drea
  “That’s the ebook we need…a course on just how to cuss.” – Lex

TikTok Diet Trends

• [11:00]

  “Starting in 2026, I am now an Asian woman. I identify as a Chinese lady, and I’m loving it.” – Lex
  “No more yogurts and cold things in the morning. I start my morning with a brothy, savory miso soup.” – Lex

On Cleaning Up Language & Gender Norms

• [09:44]

  “Never had a woman around me that had a clean mouth. Honestly.” – Lex
  “Even the men around me…they’re not like, ‘Oh Lex, you need to tone it down and stop cussing.’ They be laughing at me.” – Lex

Segment Highlights with Timestamps

| Timestamp | Segment/Topic | |-----------|---------------| | 01:17–03:15 | New Years, Resolutions, 75 Hard Challenge | | 06:00–07:10 | Attempts at cussing less, “donkey” lingo | | 10:51–14:53 | Lex explains and jokes about adopting “The Chinese Diet” | | 15:04–20:15 | Book challenges, reading tastes, Harry Potter nostalgia, Audible debate | | 21:01–25:00 | Ty’s discipline, hobbies, spirits certification, and F1 Grand Prix dream | | 29:36–31:34 | Poor Decision Segment: Asking for money in DMs | | 36:21–41:13 | Lending money, family & friend boundaries, money etiquette | | 42:47–43:48 | Painful repiercing story—“Never again!” – Drea | | 45:13–56:51 | Topic 1: Why are more women deciding not to live with men? Roommate stories, relationship boundaries | | 57:13-68:49 | Topic 2: “Beauty Consciousness”—Are we hating natural beauty? Plastic surgery, makeup, social media pressure, filler blindness | | 68:50–71:54 | Shading “natural” girlies, men’s hairlines, lace fronts, and “let it go” | | 86:38–93:48 | “When do old people stop fucking?” Salty stories, springboarding into hygiene/scent stories | | 94:22–98:47 | Sex, condoms, wild teen stories, why women don’t want to live with men—the dirty truth | | 101:33–105:12 | Pour Your Heart Out: Listener dilemma – sister marries her ex-fling | | 108:52–112:29 | Bottled Up voicemail: Flaky friends and canceled plans |

Deep Dives & Strong Opinions

The “Poor Decision” of Internet Panhandling ([29:36–36:33])

• After mentioning on a prior episode the urge to help, Lex and Drea were inundated with cash-seeking DMs from strangers.
• Honest take: Emotional burnout, boundary-setting, and why strangers can’t expect support just for asking.

  “You being somebody that I don’t know in real life, why do you think that I can send you—or would send you—$3,000? That’s insane.” – Drea (32:15)

“Should You Live with Your Man?” ([45:13–56:51])

• Social media trends of women choosing not to cohabit, often for autonomy and cleanliness reasons.
• Both hosts agree: If you can’t fart or relax with hair/makeup undone, that’s a red flag.
• Emphasis on mutual financial contribution and not letting disrespect or imbalance slide.
• humorous debate over “fart following you,” dirty habits, and why a wealth wing (separate space in a big house) is ideal.

Beauty Standards & The “Natural” Movement ([57:13–68:49])

• Reflections on body surgery, plastic culture, makeup dependency, and attacking or weaponizing the “natural” label.
• Social media’s part in inflaming insecurity (“filler blindness”).

  “You become obsessed with trying to look perfect…It’s a thing called filler blindness.” – Dre (61:15)

• Advice to focus on timeless changes (“don’t do it because of a trend”) and the double-bind of criticism—natural or not.
• Men’s baldness woes, lace fronts, and the merits of letting go.

Listener Letters & Advice

“Pour Your Heart Out” Letter ([101:33–105:12])

• Listener’s sister marries the guy she (the listener) dated (never slept together), after the sister set them up. Now there’s a niece.
• Both hosts agree: It’s weird and foul, but let it go for your own peace.

  “She’s a weirdo, but you have a niece…you’re blocking your own blessings by holding a grudge.” – Drea (104:57)

“Bottled Up” Segment ([108:52–112:29])

• Voicemail complaint: People who initiate plans then go silent/cancel day-of, only to reschedule and flake again.
• Lex & Drea: Massive pet peeve, agree people should just be forthright if they want to cancel.

Bops of the Week ([98:57–101:00])

• Lex’s Bop: “Bomb” by Junetober – “Music for real lovers.”
• Drea’s Bop: “Lady Lady” by Olivia Dean – “Sex in the City music…cutesy, empowering.”

Noteworthy Running Gags & Inside Jokes

• “Look at that donkey!” – The episode’s running euphemism for “ass.”
• Regular ribbing about cussing, accidentally weaponizing “natural” beauty, and nostalgia for old drinking traditions.
• Repeated bits about men’s baldness, hairlines, and questionable hygiene.
• Ongoing banter about makeup dependency vs. going bare-faced, with playful jabs at “natural girlies.”
• Extended riffing on weird childhood/adulthood sex and dating stories, from hidden condoms to early teen mishaps.

Final Thoughts & Takeaways

• Authenticity, self-awareness, and boundaries underpin the episode, whether discussing money, beauty, cohabitation, or personal habits.
• Both hosts embrace growth, self-love, and honest relationships (with themselves and others), but never lose their sense of fun or willingness to call out nonsense.
• Lex & Drea remind listeners: “It’s okay not to be perfect or trendy—do you, but do it for yourself, not the internet.”

Quick Reference Timing Index

• Resolutions & 75 Hard: 01:17–04:47
• Drinks & Memories: 03:38–05:19
• Chinese Diet Trends: 10:51–14:53
• Books/Reading: 15:04–20:15
• Money Requests “Poor Decision”: 29:36–36:33
• Living With Men: 45:13–56:51
• Beauty Standards: 57:13–68:49
• Sex & Old People: 86:38–93:48
• Pour Your Heart Out Advice: 101:33–105:12

This episode is peak Pour Minds: uproariously honest, conversational, and full of memorable moments—perfect for anyone seeking candid takes on modern womanhood, friendship, and millennial/Gen Z culture.