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What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's.
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Your girl Dre in the Cole.
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And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds, where a drunk.
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Mind speaks sober thought.
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We got some gifts today. We got some gifts today, y'all. I be so excited when, like, people come on the show to be on tv for real. Cause that lets, you know, like, we not playing. Like, we do this for real.
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We not lil moms.
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We ain't the lil dogs. We the big dogs. Okay? Put some respect on our name, period. And the only Alex and Woody From Power Book 2, Ghost in the Building.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Thank y'all for joining us.
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Thank you for having us.
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We so glad to have y'all on the couch. I feel like this has been a long time coming.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Fellas, you should be jealous. I'm in a great position.
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I know. Get rounded by some baddies.
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Hey, the homies gonna hit me in the group chat. Like, what's going on? You got some numbers you already know they gonna hit me.
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Yes. So let me just start off by saying you are gorgeous in person.
B
Yes, you are.
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I always gotta let the girls know. Cause they be wondering if look the same in person as they do. She passed the test, y'all. In person.
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It's given. I'll take it.
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Okay.
C
That's crazy.
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It is. I mean, y'all know we're in a day and age of, like, a lot of filters. A lot of people, you know, just trying to put on a facade of things that's not really going on what it is. Well, I appreciate, you know, the people who really give that realness in person.
D
Yeah, I agree.
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You know what I'm saying? That real beauty, you know what I'm saying? We bringing it back to the real beauty. Cause the thing about being on the show is, like, we can't fake it.
D
Yeah.
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So it's like, no matter what I post on my Instagram, they can tune in cameras is 4K.
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Oh, yeah.
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Like, tell me about it. Movie cameras don't lie.
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I do want to ask y'all that. So, like, how do y'all feel being on camera? Because you're not showing up as yourself. You're a character. So some days, they might have your hair all over your head. No makeup, no lashes. You may have to have, you know, something going on with your hair. Not a fresh lineup. Right. So how does that feel, seeing yourself on screen, not looking your best, vulnerable.
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Yeah.
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For me, at least, like, because, you know, with. With girls like, especially, like, with social media and things like that, like, it is, like, a pressure to be perfect or to be skinny. That's. You know, my weight fluctuates entirely too often for my liking. And then, you know, your skin, when you're in New York. The air does something to my skin. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So. But it, you know, it's part of it.
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Have you got. You got really into it, though.
D
Yeah.
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I used to kind of just be like.
D
The thing is, is, like, when I put on those clothes as Effie, I do, like, feel different. Like, I don't even think about, like, the way that I look.
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Okay.
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Because I'm just so, like, into.
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Oh, you a real. You an actor.
D
Actor. Yeah.
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She's like, I'm an actor.
D
Yeah, yeah. Like, it just. It's hard to explain because it's almost like not even, like, something that you try to do.
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Right, right.
D
It's like, turns on.
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Oh, sorry. No, no.
D
I was just saying, like, wearing the clothes and stuff, like, different.
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How do you feel about that, too?
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I like it.
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You like it.
C
It's all dope. This is fun.
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Yeah.
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Having so much fun. I'll never wear half of them clothes.
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Yeah.
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You know what I mean? Like, it's way out of my price range. But they be having cane fly. I know, man.
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You be putting that cane be on.
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Your guys, but I don't be on the floor.
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The whole family be fly.
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The whole everybody. Fly.
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Everybody. Frank.
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Frank is so amazing at putting all that stuff together. But I don't be knowing what I'm wearing. Like, I'm not really a brand junkie like that guy. No, you good. You good. Nah, she about to make that fire, though. I ain't want to. You been going crazy with the drinks. Yeah, but no, it's great, though. I mean, I just. I remember the first season, I didn't like the barber like that. I was like, yo, I gotta wear a durag. Cause y'all. You know what I mean?
D
Yeah.
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And it was like, against the durag thing. Cause it was like, we don't have that in this world. But, Frank, shout out to Frank, man, thank you so much. He let me do the durag, and he was like, I actually like that for Kane.
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Is that, like, y'all sick costume person?
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Yeah, yeah.
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Okay.
C
Yeah, yeah. So he wanted to create this whole, like, high fashion thing, and he thought durags brought it to the real world.
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Okay.
D
Yeah.
C
He didn't want it to feel like the real world. He wanted to feel like an elevated.
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World that makes Sense.
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So he let me do my durag and they actually liked it for Kane.
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Yeah, I think it works. I mean, everybody on the show be putting that on. Cause you do, too.
C
Yeah, yeah.
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Your character.
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I mean.
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Yeah, your character do, too.
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It's like a freestyle.
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It definitely. Yeah, like a little.
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That's messed up, though. Yeah, we be. As much as we put it on, we don't get invited to no fashion weeks.
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Really?
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We don't get invited to. That's why I be like, yo, like, could we start wearing more black owned businesses?
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Right?
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Cause I'm tired of putting on Rick Owens and whatever.
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And then they not even inviting y'all to the show.
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It's crazy that you said that because before the camera started rolling, we were talking about Invest Fest and we were talking about Essence, and I was saying the only way that we can be put on these larger platforms is where, you know, y'all are getting roles that are paying $50 million, and we're getting these deals that are $100 million. We have to build ourselves up. We have to create our community. You have to be on these cameras wearing black designers, you know, using black products and things like that. So it really starts with us. Yeah, that's a good point.
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It definitely does. So I was going to ask y'all, do y'all feel like y'all had to, like, step a lot outside of yourselves for the characters on the show, or do y'all see similarities that y'all have in real life to y'all characters on the show?
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What do you think?
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I am a thespian.
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I know that's right.
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I'm nothing like Cain. I think everything he does is, like, horrible.
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You know, he kind of a terrible person.
C
No, no, no, no, no. Don't do that. Cain is the guy, like, you know what I mean? I think anybody would want a cane for them. I feel like he's protecting the family.
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That's true. And I also feel like he's just a victim of his circumstances.
C
Exactly.
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You know?
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Exactly. I think Monet is such a horrible mother.
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Yes. Now, that's true.
C
She is the worst. She is the worst. He's only doing what he's been brought up to do.
D
That's true.
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You know what I mean? Like, Cain is just a broken. You know what I mean? To me, I go in there, my heart is broken every time. I'm just trying to put the pieces together and trying to make it work every time I'm on screen. You know what I mean? So, yeah, shout out to Monae for being a terrible mother.
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Monae be cutting up.
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She's hard, though.
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She does okay.
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She really does.
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How you feel, Alex?
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I think, like, so everyone, they always joke online, and they say, like, Effie's a Scorpio. I'm actually a scorpio in real life.
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Oh, God have mercy. That is funny.
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So, like, the Hell on Wheels situation, I'm very accustomed to that. Like, I feel like she reminds me of my younger self before I was, like, had some sense.
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Okay.
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It's not too hard, but it's definitely different than who I am. Like, I'm so soft.
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Yeah.
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I'm such a softie. I could never. I could never do what she's doing, so.
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You know what's interesting about her, though? I feel like she's very soft, too, though. That's why a lot of the time after she does stuff, she feels horrible.
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About feeling a little bit.
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She do, yeah. It's like that hard shell, but the marshmallow inside, especially for him.
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Right.
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She ready to fold. Like, the lawn chair.
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Got it. Stop.
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She don't be knowing which one she wants.
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Stop.
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I don't even know anymore.
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I couldn't do it.
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Yeah.
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So how do y'all feel, though? Because I know a lot of times people see y'all on TV and they fall in love with your character, and they expect you to be like, you know, Effy, or they expect you to be like, Kane. So do y'all feel like that's kind of weird when people are attracted to the character, then they meet y'all, you feel like you may be not meeting their expectations, and you're like, okay, I'm a human. I'm not this character.
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I think it's kind of like a. It's kind of like having a favorite song or something. Right. Like, these people let us into their houses every single week to watch this show. So I get it. Like, they feel like they know the person. I think. What was it? Will Smith was talking about that in his book. Kind of like how they feel like they know you because of the character, which is completely fine, as long as they know that that's not actually who that person is. So, like, I don't know. What do you.
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What do you think?
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I don't know. I think it's confusing.
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Yeah.
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Like, I grew up knowing TV was tv.
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Yeah.
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But now it's like, it's. The lines are so blurred to where nobody knows if it's real or not.
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Yeah, I know.
C
I was out here at one of the hookah lounges, and I was like. It was some girl over. She was dope. I was like, yeah, you could come smoke hookah. She was like, oh, you so nice. I thought she was gonna be mean like Kane.
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Yeah.
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She wanted you to say, come over here.
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I'm like, what's going on? I was so disappointed. I'm like, so I'm not supposed to be like, who I am, Right?
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Right.
C
Yeah. It don't matter. But you aren't. I left her with the bill. I left her with the bill.
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Just like Kane. Oh, you want.
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I left her with. How you want it?
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I'm a straw.
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You get the bill.
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Yes.
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I was like, I'll go to the bathroom. I'll be right back. Yeah, there you go. You got your cane. You wanted him, you got it.
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Oh, man, I am so weak. So let me ask y'all this, though. Y'all are on the last season of Power.
D
Yeah.
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And working, you know, closely with 50 Cent. And y'all have been doing this show for a while now and have a relationship with him. I think in the media, everybody kind of sees 50 Cent is like, Lord, he terrorizing somebody again.
D
Yeah.
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You know, he goes back and forth, but we cannot deny that he's an amazing businessman.
D
Yeah, he's a legend. He's a legend.
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Legendary with the things that he's done. So how is it really working with 50 scene? Like, don't give me no PR answer. Like, what is it really like, like, working under him and being in this Power universe.
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Yeah. I think it's. I would compare it to, like, real life, just, like, getting game from OG like, in any. Any circumstance. You from the hood, you know. You know, you got your uncles that know about random. And, like, that's exactly how it is for me, because I was with him in season six of the original Power, and I think he directed my second episode, and that was just incredible. The way his mind works is just. Is crazy, but it's also real. Like, it's never something like. I don't know if you've ever gotten advice from someone and they speak in a way that you can't even understand. It's just like, I think I got it. I don't know. But he makes it so easy to digest. And he really cares about, like, putting people on. I really love that about him.
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Yeah, yeah.
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That's his thing. He put people on. I remember after the Bobby Brown movie, I was doing promo with E. Rivera. He directed some episodes on Power, but he was like, Yo, I'm hitting 50. Tell her I'm Working with you. He was like, yo, 50 said he gonna work with you in the future. He gonna put you on some.
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Yeah.
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Oh, my bad. Can I curse?
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Yeah. Really?
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He said you gonna put you on some? Nah. So. But 50, shout out to 50.
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Yeah.
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You know what I mean?
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Like, he's been doing dope.
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I mean, the whole power universe is super dope. I am, like, a super fan of power. So I was gonna say that with being, like, a super fan, I was so devastated when that this was gonna be the last season.
D
I know.
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So I feel like if it was devastating for me and all of the other people that watched the show, like, how did y'all feel actually being a part of the cast? Cause obviously, all good things have to come to an end, but it just always sucks when a really good show has to end.
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Yeah. It was definitely, like, bittersweet. Because I think what I'll miss most is, like, yeah, the show is cool. Like, the fan base is incredible, but the fan base will always be with us. I'm sure they're gonna go on to follow everyone's careers after. It's more so, like, I feel like my co stars because it really became like, a family. Like, I see these people every day. Yeah. And we don't just, like, work and go home. It's like. It's like, what are you doing tonight? Yeah, what are you doing? Like, let's go out and have a good time.
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Absolutely.
D
And I feel like that's not always the case. Especially because in a lot of these shows, there's, like, huge age gaps. Where, like, with us, it's like we're all around relative, the same age. Relatively the same age, and everyone really likes each other.
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Yeah.
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Like, it looks like nobody beefing. Yeah.
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Ain't got no mess.
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A cast full of people, and everybody gets along. That's amazing.
C
Yeah, absolutely.
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I like that because I'd be ready for some tea now. Cause I'd be like. I'd be seeing it on screen. I'm like, you know, she low key. Don't like that. Because in that scene when they had the hug, she was kind of rolling her eyes a little bit. Right. I be watching stuff that ain't got nothing to do with nothing. I be watching stuff that ain't got.
D
Nothing to do with the show.
A
But I do wanna ask you a question that's outside of power. Cause you did bring up your Bobby Brown role, and I feel like that is. That was such a big role to do. And that's so much pressure. So whenever you initially like, auditioned for the role? Were you like, I know I'm finna nail this, or were you just kinda like, you know what? Let me just shoot for the stars and hopefully I'll get it?
C
I had no idea.
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Yeah.
C
I really didn't know too much about Bobby until they showed me the video. They showed me. Fatima showed me the video. Like, him dancing. I only knew being Bobby Brown, that motivated series.
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Okay, what year were you born? You been to say, 2003. With that?
C
I'm like, what? 92.
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Oh, okay, okay.
C
93.
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That's fair.
C
95.
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Okay, that's fair.
C
2000. I didn't know much.
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I know you a tourist. I said, okay, gang.
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Yeah, yeah.
C
Now I'm an 80s, baby. But I really did. I didn't know too much about it.
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That's fair. That's fair.
C
But I was on tour with CB for, like, five years, and I feel like they had similarities. Okay, so you know what I mean?
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You was ready to dance then?
C
Yeah, I was ready.
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I know that's wrong.
C
I loved dancing back then. But as soon as I got into the acting and we fly in first class, you know what I mean? I was like, yeah, I would never go back to dancing. Okay. Yeah.
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Okay, wait.
C
What was the question, though?
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It was not the Bobby Brown.
C
It was a drink. You on the drinks, right?
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It's all right, my bad. It ain't gonna get no better. Cause I'm gonna keep sipping.
B
And I was gonna say, since we already talking about the Dr. We just need to go ahead and ask what we drinking today. Tac, clearly. Whatever you did, you put your foot in these. Cause we a little tipsy already. So this one is called the Power Book.
D
Okay?
B
And so we have a little bit of tequila reposado or vodka, because we have a split. And then we have some apple schnapps, we have a little bit of lemon juice, and then we have some desert pear syrup. So that's what's kind of giving it that little funky taste on the end. And then we are going to top it with a little bit of Topo Chico. And of course, garnish it with a beautiful pear. So it's giving end of summer, beginning of fall, as we transition through this season. So glad y'all like it. Cheers.
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We got it all laid out.
C
Wait, what was the.
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So the question I was asking was like, that was such a big role.
C
To feel like, was it any pressure?
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Like, was it any pressure? Because like when you were not at the time.
C
No, no, no.
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Okay. Because I feel like whenever you recorded the movie, like, you probably didn't know. Like, you probably like, oh, I'm killing it.
C
I didn't know how big New Edition was.
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Okay.
D
Okay.
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You just didn't know. You were just like, you were just having fun.
C
We was doing it, but we seen straight out of computer.
B
Okay.
C
So that was our comp. We was like, nah, we can't do like worse than like, they were so great. We got it. We gotta do that or better. Okay.
D
Yeah.
C
We had the pressure of that and we was always with each other every day. And it wasn't until we had the actual first Premiere of it and feeling the audience out there, you know what I mean? Their energy. I was like, oh, new edition is a big deal. I had my first. I had my first panic attack. The producers showed us the first episode, and little shout out to Tyler. He on BMF right now. He played Bobby. He did such a great job as little Bobby. I was like, yo, he's killing it. This is my first role. I think they're going to hate me when I come on screen. Like, I was in my head, I was talking to my acting coach, Layla. I was like, yo, it's going to be bad. And I ended up passing out.
D
And then when you get in that. When you get in that headspace, like, it almost becomes like a.
C
It's a spiral effect.
D
It's a spiral. Literally.
C
Yeah.
D
It's like, I don't know if this happens to you, but the way that it happens to me is like, I'm panicking, and I'm like, no, we got this. We're calm. We're calm. But as soon as I do that, it's almost like, no, no, no, But I'm not. And then that pressure of. I can only imagine with that being your first one and being such a major role in the project, it was crazy.
C
But after, like, the first couple tweaks, it was like, oh, the older Bobby's fire.
D
Yeah.
C
And I was like. Then I was like.
A
Then I started being, like, being amazing about that role that you did. Everybody got so attached to you playing that Bobby role. When they dropped the Whitney movie, the guy who played by. I can't think of his name right now. I'm drinking somebody, but he did an amazing job. But everybody was like, why didn't they just use Woody? Like, we had gotten so. I mean, everybody was saying that because they got so attached to you doing, you know, that Bobby character. I always just be interested when people play like somebody because that's such a big thing to do.
D
And when you see him work on set, like, it makes so much sense. Like, you're so good.
C
Nah, same with you.
D
No, like, he's. I appreciate y'all are both ninja.
C
Like, he's like, you make work easy.
D
Yeah, thank you.
C
Absolutely.
D
You, too. I. I learned a lot.
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Like, y'all know I like mess now.
B
So I have one more question. And then we gonna get. And then we gonna get into some fun. Okay. So I wanted to know, with the show ending, what would y'all like to do going forward? Like, what would you like for your next character to be or your Next role to be, ideally.
D
Okay, so what is the movie called? I love Margot Robbie.
B
I love Margo Robbie.
D
She's one of my favorite. She's done so many of my dream roles, like Harley Quinn. I literally, like. That's like, my bowling name. When I go bowling. Like, anything is Harley. Because, like, that was. That was my dream role. But she did a movie called Focus with Will Smith, I believe.
C
Yeah.
D
I would love to do something like a pickpocket, like, spy type of situation.
B
Okay.
C
You know what?
A
I'm doing, like. Yeah, you do have that look to, like.
D
Oh, listen, it's. It's. I don't know how I'm able to go so far beyond myself, but that is kind of scary, actually. Yeah. I lose all of my mannerisms.
B
Really? Yeah, but that's dope. I feel like that's the makings of, like, a great actor. It was to step outside of yourself. We always talk about this. I feel like I would be a terrible actor because I just feel like I'm gonna be myself no matter what.
D
And you kind of get, like, imposter syndrome a little bit, too, sometimes. Like, when you change your mannerisms too far, you're like, no, like, they're gonna know. But, like, someone that's never met you before doesn't know that. That's true. But it feels so weird. Like, girl, we're doing a lot right now.
B
That's how I.
D
Beyond that. Like, we're doing a lot.
A
So do y'all kinda, like, understand, though? Cause I know a lot of actors, like, say they take a role and it kind of makes them kind of, like, lose it a little bit. Like, they kind of lose touch with reality because they're so deep in the character. That kind of makes sense for y'all how people can do that. Like, what's it called? Like, method acting or something?
D
Yeah, yeah. For me. No, just because. So I'm actually not an actor that can, like, activate my tears and my anger through, like, thinking of trauma.
A
Okay.
D
So I literally have to. I'll be like, bitch, you finna cry right now.
B
I'd be so.
D
Emma. I'd be like, this is crazy. It's more like if I. If I go to. Because my response to trauma is to shut down. Like, I'm just like, okay. So that's kind of.
A
Think about it, like, make yourself do it.
D
Yeah. I'm like, you know, we're about to cry right now.
A
Okay. Or.
D
But. Or even not, like, we're going to try not to cry right now. And I feel like, that's a more powerful reaction than, like, trying to make yourself cry if you try to force yourself not to. Like, holding back tears to me is so much more powerful than letting. I need to write that down, like, on camera, because it's just like, add some depth.
B
I agree. I like that because I feel like that in real life, I've been holding.
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Them back against my man.
C
Yeah.
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Hold back them tears.
D
Oh, my God.
A
Thank you, girl.
C
I don't think, like, black people have the luxury of being method acted. Cause then after that, it's like, you difficult.
A
Oh, I don't.
C
I think. I don't know. I just think it's just like, they don't see it as an art form with us.
D
Yeah.
C
It's like, oh, no.
D
They see it as doing so much.
C
Yeah. You know what I mean? So for me, personally, when I come into it, it's like, I'm not a, like, a talkative person. I'm, like, super, like, quiet. I keep all my feelings inside. So acting has been, like, a great outlet for me because I've been able to, like, speak the things that I'm going through, like, in my personal life, through the character.
A
Right?
D
Yeah.
C
If I'm struggling with something, the character, I can bring that to Kane.
B
Okay.
C
You know what I mean? And if I don't like something that somebody did in my family, I can just bring that to Kane. I won't say it in person to my family. I'll hold that in. But I can let it out. You know what I mean? Through the character. If that makes sense.
A
Yeah, it does make sense. And it's crazy. I didn't think of it that way because when you're a method acting, you're in character 24 7, so you're walking on set, you're acting like whatever character you are. I didn't even think of it from that perspective, so that's definitely interesting.
D
They always tell people to, like, leave it at the door. That's what I hear a lot. Like, so, like, whether it's with love scenes, like, leave it at the door, like, anger, crying, like, especially, like, I've never had to do anything like this, but, like, you know, sexual abuse and, like, that's something that would. It's just like, has to be extremely hard.
B
Right.
D
Portray on television.
B
I agree.
D
And it can follow you home if you don't leave it.
A
Right.
D
Because it's just like. It's so intense.
A
It's very, very.
B
It's so dark. You have to go to a very dark place.
D
Yeah.
B
Like, to pull that out of you, because I know.
D
And it's a lot of women's biggest fear.
A
Yeah.
D
As well. So, like, to be facing your fears 247 is crazy because your body doesn't know it's fake. Like, you know you're acting, but you still get the same stress responses, and it makes your, like, your nervous system go into, like, panic mode.
A
I didn't even think about that either. That's crazy. I do have one more question. I know. We keep saying one more question. So I want to talk about, like, dating in real life. And then you're dealing with your partner or whoever. Either you're in a relationship, you're casually seeing someone, but you got to go on set and you got to be having sex with somebody. You got to be kissing somebody. Because we all seen what happened with Brad and Angelina. They started dating for real after Mr. And Mr. Smith.
B
They did.
A
Baby, don't be on set making love to my man for real. But you not.
B
I've heard that they don't really be making love for real. They use a lot of prosthetics, too. Right.
D
It's actually, like, really awkward. Cause you guys see it with, like, music and, like, magical effects and beautiful lighting, but in reality, it's, like, dead silent just like this.
A
And it's like all these lights and stuff.
D
Same lights. So many people right there.
C
Yep.
D
And all you hear is like, that's not sexy.
C
It's not.
D
It's really fucking awkward.
C
And it be so much going through our heads at the time. I be thinking, like, it's my. Like, you know what I mean? My muscles popping is my stroke. Right.
D
Why are they going on Twitter the next day? Like, he got a weak ass stroke. Yeah, they do.
B
Or she got a weak ass moan.
D
Like, what I told him. I was like, I'm not moaning. I'm not gonna do this for y'all. I don't care what y'all saw me. I'm not doing it. Okay.
C
That's crazy.
D
So if you don't moan, I'm not. I'm not doing it.
A
Then.
C
I'm not.
D
Y'all gonna have to get somebody else to do it.
B
She.
A
Somebody get a voiceover and get somebody.
D
Else to do it.
B
Look, I'll do it. I'm good at it.
A
I need a job. Times is hard, but nah, It's a.
C
Lot that goes into sex scenes.
A
Okay.
C
I think we're in the moment not thinking about sex at all. For me personally, I'm thinking about making sure my scene partner is comfortable. Making sure she understands I'm not a weirdo. I'm not a pervert. Like, I'm here for you. You know what I mean? Like, I wanna make sure you good. Like.
D
Yeah. You're good about asking and.
C
Yeah. Like, you know what I mean?
D
Like, because it's all choreographed. Yeah, that's the word for it. Like, you literally have to go over everything. Like, is it okay if he touches here?
A
Yeah.
D
And then we're gonna move here, and then we'll do here. Are you okay? Like, everything is extremely choreographed, so you can't even think about being sexy because, like, you have so many other things. It's like trying to play chess while, like, riding a bike.
A
Yeah.
D
It's like, two different functions have to work at the same time, but also make it look natural, make it look realistic. Yeah.
A
So the. Like, when y'all. If y'all are dating somebody, it's not like they feel some type of way or they.
D
I mean, I'm sure some people would. It's never fun to, like, watch your partner get, like, pinned to the wall and drilled.
A
Like. Yes, that's what I was saying.
D
I don't know that it's work for us, but it's work. Yeah, it's like.
B
Yeah.
C
What?
B
That's all.
D
I feel like actually, those scenes are the ones that people like to be done with the quickest.
C
Okay. Yep.
D
Out of any of them. Like, let's just. Cause it's annoying, like, to have to kiss someone that is not your partner, like, 25 times with the same intensity each time and then have people, like, on the other side of the camera. Like, no, we need more. Like, we need. We need. We just need more. Like, it's annoying, I guess, too, because.
A
I feel like sometimes, like, co stars, like, y'all obviously will have, like, chemistry. Like, you see, like, you know how people were. Like, I always use this as an example. Like, on Martin, Martin and Gina had good chemistry.
D
Yeah.
A
But on my wife and kids, Michael, Kyle and her had way better chemistry. Like, even though I feel like Martin is a better show, they just had better chemistry together. Like, it really felt like a married couple. So the reason I wanted to ask that. Cause, like, sometimes it's like, some people might not be acting like it ain't gonna need no.
D
Oh, for sure.
A
No tape.
D
For sure.
A
If I got a kiss. Idris. We don't need no second take. I'm passionate the first time.
B
No, we don't need a second take. I'm taking him home.
D
I kind of feel like with anything like, even friends, like, you know when you just meet someone and off tops, you're just like, their vibe is just not in for me. But then some people you meet for the first time, it's like, oh, this is my bitch.
B
Right?
D
Like, we finna be the best of friends, right?
B
Yeah.
A
Yeah. Okay.
D
It's kind of like the same deal because some people are like. Because even though you are acting, you are still touching this person and interacting with this person. So when someone's just already, like, weird off top.
A
Yeah.
D
It. It makes it, like, hard.
B
Yeah.
C
Actors be weird.
D
Actors be real. I don't believe, though, you have to be weird to. I mean, I feel like doing what we do, there has to be something about you. Like.
B
Yeah.
A
Cause do y'all feel like people be.
B
Enjoying it too much, though? Like, have y'all ever had a sex scene with somebody you was like, they be like, cut.
A
You, like, it's a little too cute.
C
It's always been uncomfortable. Always been uncomfortable.
D
Yeah.
A
Really?
B
Okay, you got.
C
You got two. Two people on the camera, like, right there. You got a sound guy. You got a whole village of people watching the screen is never. Unless you into porn. Yeah, probably for them, but for us, we not here to do porn. We here to act.
B
Right.
D
I have got stuck in a crying scene before. Like, because you know how sometimes, like, you can always, like, you make yourself cry, but then sometimes it's, like, actually, like, you get into it. It's like that real crying. I remember, like, I was just stuck, like. And I just kept crying, like, even though. Cause, you know, you work yourself up and you're doing all this yelling. Then I was just, like. I couldn't stop. Like, I guess it depends on where you are.
A
Yeah.
D
What's going on around you. Or, like, over. I wouldn't even necessarily say sad, but, like, sometimes in New York, like, filming in New York gets really, really overwhelming for me because, like, it's overstimulation. Like, Carl Horn talking 24, 7, 10 people within your square foot at all times, and it's, like, very overwhelming. So it's kind of like a release. Kind of like what you were saying. It's like a nice release or to do that. Yeah, absolutely.
A
I like that. I learned some good information today.
D
Me too.
B
Me too.
A
So, Todd, for this game, we're gonna have to pour some shots. You don't have to take the shots.
B
Let's play a little game.
A
I'm having a grand period. It's crazy because we. We haven't even got to the topic. We. I Love episodes like Me too.
B
We ice breakers.
A
What's up, y'all?
B
It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.
A
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B
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A
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B
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A
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B
We have a game to play. Yes.
A
So Todd just pulled us some shots, and we about to play a game. It's called Drop the Line. So, basically, what we're gonna do is we're gonna read a line from a movie, and you have to name the movie and. Or the character.
D
Okay?
A
Okay. Y'all can also kiss each other.
B
Yeah. And it's also scenarios, too. So some of them are gonna be lines from a movie or a TV show. And then some of them are gonna be like scenarios, so you could guess what TV show or movie it was. Okay.
A
I feel like mine are pretty easy. I didn't wanna take it, too.
D
I feel like I'm gonna suck.
B
Me either. I didn't wanna. I didn't wanna go too hard on y'all.
D
Okay. Okay.
A
Okay. Okay. So I feel like I'm good. I'M gonna go first. So should we do it? Like, they take turns or they can, like, raise it? How do we wanna do it?
B
I feel like whoever think they got the right answer should raise their hand.
A
First and real quick.
B
Real quick. And then if you get it wrong, then the other person can still.
A
And the winner at the end, the loser gotta take their shot.
B
Right?
A
I mean, we all gonna take the shot anyway. Y'all can play at home along with us. Okay, I'll go first. Okay. So if you know the answer, this one's really easy. Y'all should know this. Who drank my goddamn apple juice?
D
Ooh. Hold on.
A
Wait.
D
No, you got it.
A
I know.
B
I feel like you know what it is, though. That's why you was like, yo, reflex.
D
Okay. Yeah. Do you do it barbershop?
A
Oh, one for what?
C
It What?
D
I'll be doubting myself.
A
All right, I got this next one with. You want to know. We got to know.
D
Next one.
B
Okay.
A
Go ahead, Dre. Go ahead.
B
Ain't nobody coming to see you, Otis.
C
Damn Temptations.
A
Ooh, baby, clap it up.
D
This ain't my game.
C
I'm gonna pull back.
A
I'mma pull back.
C
I'm gonna be a gentleman. I'm gonna be a gentleman.
A
I got you two and no. Okay. This is a theme song. Get my vocals.
B
Are you gonna sing?
D
Go ahead.
C
Yeah, take it there. Take it there.
A
That's why I had to pick this card. Let me show them what I got. Let's see. Okay. Ooh. In a 90s kind of world I'm glad I got my.
D
Oh, yeah. I don't know this one.
A
Damn. I'm trying. I was giving it easy. Okay. He got it right. Give it up for what he got.
D
I know that one.
B
You don't. Ellie.
D
I knew the first two, but I.
A
Didn'T know that one. I love you, girl, but you getting smoke. All right, now.
D
Come on.
A
I believe it.
D
All right. Help me out with this.
B
Okay. Well, I don't know, friend. It's next one.
D
I. Oh, shit. The setup is crazy.
B
I don't understand how a woman that fine can have Hematom feet.
A
Ooh.
D
Oh, I don't know this one. Hold on. You know that one? Give me some answers.
C
Damn.
A
I knew it. I knew it.
D
What is it?
C
That boomerang. Is it?
B
Yeah. Ooh.
C
Ooh.
D
See? No.
A
Cause don't let him know that.
D
No, no. Cause that's how he be. You be acting like you don't know and you don't know, but the only.
C
Thing I can think about. What feet Was when he tried to buy me some time before the COVID That's the only thing I was like.
D
It'S okay.
A
That was good. All right. Four. No.
C
Damn.
A
Okay, now this one is easy, so.
B
Well, we got four more, so y'all can still tie.
A
You got to get four.
D
I got to get every.
A
Okay, this one is super easy. We repping Thetas, Thetas. Thetas. We repping thetas.
D
I know.
A
Thetas, thetas, Hunky rapping. Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh. Boom. I did that.
D
Stomp the yard.
A
Come all in.
C
Yeah, yeah. That's my dog. That's my dog.
B
I was gonna say bring it on.
C
That's crazy. That's crazy. That's crazy.
D
First of all, what a great baby.
A
Come on now. Okay, we four, one. Okay. All right.
B
Okay, so this one is a scenario. A comedian steps into the role of a parent when his sister drops off her three kids. His views on child rearing are hardly politically correct, but he tries his best.
A
I don't even know that one.
D
A comedian takes the role of a parent.
B
Uh huh. When his sister drops off her three kids. His views on child rearing are hardly politically correct, but he tries his best. I seen you over there mildly. This I worked out.
D
Just go ahead, Woody.
A
No, go ahead, girl. I don't care about cheating. Cause I be cheating on games too.
D
I'm over here trying to read his lips and I.
C
Baby kids.
D
Oh, no, I ain't seen that one.
A
Wait, yeah, we talked about. Oh, it was baby's kids. For real.
B
Okay, first of all, no, you could at least gave her the right answer.
A
Oh, shit. See who you gotta put a little.
D
Record scratch sound right there.
C
But time out. Baby kids.
A
It's a snap thing, baby, but. Well, it was a girlfriend's kid.
D
Oh, damn.
A
That's the only difference. It was.
C
I was so confident too.
A
I was.
D
I know.
A
Cause he was like comedian.
D
The father on baby kids.
A
He was a comedian.
B
It is the Bernie Pack show.
A
Damn. Okay, all right. So nobody gets it. That's all right.
C
I was messing folks up in school. I was telling them.
A
I was like, d d d. Okay, this is my last one now this one, I think it could be tough, but it could be easy. Okay. It ain't your booty, it's your beauty. Uh oh, I know that.
B
Hmm.
D
I don't know where that's from, but I heard it before.
A
Yeah, because somebody probably told you that.
C
It ain't your boo.
D
Hey, now.
A
Nobody got an answer.
B
It ain't.
D
Hold on, hold on, hold on.
A
Hold on.
C
This is it.
A
Think of, like, a super black classic film. Like, the first of, like, comedy. Like, in the. In the 90s.
D
Comedy in the 90s.
A
It was a 90s.
C
Get your booty.
B
It was Chris Tucker.
D
No, no, no, no.
A
Okay, hold on, hold on.
C
That sounds like the club.
D
Yeah, hold on. It's coming to me.
C
What's that movie with Ice Cube and Bernie Mac and them in it and Jamie Foxx? That's not the Players club.
B
Oh, yeah.
A
Friday.
D
Wait, no. What'd you say?
A
Come on, now.
C
Come on, now.
A
You almost there.
D
Friday after next.
C
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
B
It ain't your booty the first Friday. That's why I said Chris Tucker. It was Mike Ellis.
D
I love Mike Tucker. Oh, my gosh.
C
Fire.
A
All right, now.
B
All right, y'all. This the last one. Julia, you know I never make a fool of you.
D
Oh, it sucks so bad. It's like I be knowing him, but I don't know the name. Like, I'm seeing it right now.
B
It's a movie. It's a Tyler Perry movie.
A
Gabrielle. Think about Gabrielle Union being on a date. This one. She was on the date. Oh.
D
Oh.
C
Daddy's little girl.
B
Yeah.
D
Hmm.
C
That's it.
A
That's it. That's it. Oh, okay.
D
Yeah, baby.
A
I gave it away.
C
Well, yeah, yeah, yeah.
A
The winner is Woody, y'all. Give it up for Woody.
B
Yes.
A
Alex was in a close. Very close second.
C
Very close. Absolutely. Very close.
A
Yes.
B
Alex started.
D
Happy to be here.
B
My girl did good.
A
But we gonna take a shot. Everybody gonna take a shot.
D
All right, all right, all right.
A
If y'all at home, take a shot. Y'all just got done playing the game.
B
We drinking. I'm drinking teremana reposito.
A
I'm a vodka girl. I'm a vodka girl. Harley Quinn. I love Harley Quinn.
D
Oh, I love me some Harley Quinn. Yeah.
B
Okay, y'all.
A
What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex Peas.
B
And it's your girl Dre Nicole.
A
And we are back with another live show. Poor soul Karaoke is back.
B
It's back, y'all. And y'all know we doing it again here in Atlanta at City Winery. And we have a special guest host, but we also have Navy with us. We know y'all love nab and poor minds together.
A
We going to have a time. So September 21st at City Winery. Go get your tickets right now, citywineery.com. y'all are not going to want to miss this. September 21st. We outside. Pull up on us, period.
B
Let's get into this first.
A
All right. You want to introduce Adria?
B
Sure. So for the first topic.
C
Wait, wait. Can I say shout out to y'all. This is beautiful. Like, thank you. Very professional. I appreciate you.
A
Amazing.
C
Thank you.
D
Six years.
C
It's number six.
A
Yeah. Six years.
C
Thank you so much.
A
Are y'all having a good time?
D
A great time.
A
Okay, good.
C
Great energy.
D
I know we talked about this on the break, but we're gonna talk about it again. Yeah. Amazing energy. Yeah.
A
Well, thank y'all for being easy guest.
B
Y'all have great energy. Energy, too. So that makes it even more easy, you know, support crew coming for y'all.
A
They finna follow y'all. Everything. All right, Go ahead with the first topic, Drea.
B
Okay, so for the first topic, I wanted to talk about men wanting to leave you alone, but you won't let them. So on the Internet lately, it has been this couple that has been going viral a lot lately. They're on a reality show. I don't want to say who it is.
D
Okay.
B
But the man had a baby on his wife.
D
Okay.
B
And she chose to stay with him.
C
Okay. Love.
B
And because my city came.
D
Woody is so.
C
What's up? My bad. I'm sorry. I won't do no more outbursts. No more outbursts.
B
What you meant was that's love.
C
Got you, got you, got you, got you.
D
Yeah.
B
So she chose to stay with him. Right. And so now the baby mother is saying that he's trying to still have sex with, you know, with her, and so she's refusing kinda to, like, just leave the. So at this point, everybody on the Internet is just saying, like, this is trying to find her out, and she won't let him.
D
I was gonna say. Okay.
B
So I just wanted to know what y'all think of what you think, Alex. Well, not about that particular situation. I was just using that as an example.
D
But let me not talk about nobod.
B
Right?
A
We don't have to talk about that.
B
We don't have to talk about that specific situation.
D
Just hypothetically speaking, if there was a guy that had a baby on a girl. Hypothetically. Yeah. No. You know, it's not something that I believe in or practice, but each.
A
Yeah.
D
Yeah.
B
I just feel like if a had a baby on me, I would have to leave.
D
Okay. But I will. In a man's defense.
A
Yes.
D
Yes, the union makes it wrong. But in a man's defense, the baby part, it's a baby, so it makes it worse. But we also don't, like, make the babies. If women were the Ones making the babies, like, projecting their needs.
B
That's the only way one can get married.
D
Right.
A
It's really on that mission.
D
Yeah. It's not necessarily that he didn't love her. It's just he might have slipped up. And because he's the one that's able to produce children. Yeah, he just stayed in it a little too long.
C
That's crazy. But see, that was wicked.
A
But this is how I feel.
B
But do y'all not cheating?
D
I'm gonna retract that from the.
B
But do y'all not feel like if a man had a baby on you, he would cheat again? I feel like if he had a baby, I think, yeah, I do think people could change.
D
Maybe some issues need to be addressed.
B
But a baby is just crazy.
A
But also to be cheating and you not even strapping it up.
D
Yeah.
A
I realize you're putting my health.
D
You think it was like an old friend or something?
A
Like, no, he got that girl in the club. Oh, we not talking about a sex.
D
That's crazy. What's even scarier than the baby is.
A
Ms. You're my health.
B
Absolutely.
A
Also, I feel like this. This is how I feel. Not about that situation particular, but I have personally been in a situation. Cause we all have been young and behind men, you know, And I have never been afraid or scared to admit that. But I look at back at some situations where I'm like, this man wanted me to walk away so bad because he didn't have the guts to do it. So he was just doing me so bad. Like, damn, girl, when you gonna have some pride?
B
Cause he didn't wanna hurt y'all feeling.
C
Nah, that's real.
A
Cause he didn't wanna hear like, yeah, that's real, though. Sometimes they know you're a good woman. They know you're a good person. You're just not the person for them. They be like, oh, my gosh. Like, they just be. They can't get right because you're not their person. And they like, you know what? She going to. She going to have some pride about herself. She going to pick it up. And I'm like, no, I'mma hold it down, baby.
D
Yeah.
A
I love you.
D
Yeah.
B
But do you think it's a not their person thing or do you think it's like a character flaw?
A
I think it's a little bit of both. A little bit of both?
D
It's a little bit of both with.
A
Me as a woman.
B
Right.
A
That has nothing to do with my character.
D
Yeah.
A
I am. I am still an amazing woman. I'm just not the person for that. For him, maybe. Or maybe he just be a person that he just can't be loyal. But either way, talk about.
C
Wait, wait. But who's to say that's the.
D
I think. Okay, so with cheating, I think that the tequila hitting. Right.
C
I was about to go.
A
I was about to do it.
D
Go ahead. Listen.
B
I feel like this is a safe space because nobody is here.
D
No.
A
Judge me.
D
I think with cheating, you know, it's. It's two things.
A
Right.
B
Okay.
D
One, there is a conversation that needs to be had between them. Because I think a lot of the miscommunication comes from no communication. Right.
C
Okay.
D
So, like, I feel like sometimes people need to be a little bit more real with themselves. And if they're missing something at home, maybe have the conversation, but they won't. Right. Because a lot of people are scared to say that.
C
Yeah.
D
And I just. Yeah, they're just not real enough with themselves.
A
And I think people also don't realize is when you have those uncomfortable conversations with somebody, that's when y'all are growing.
D
Yeah.
A
If you are in a conversation with somebody and it's so awkward and it's so uncomfortable, that's good. That means y'all are growing. And that means this may be something that's worth it. But we also cannot misconstrue an uncomfortable conversation with somebody that wants to be with you. Cause I still may be uncomfortable, but you still may be showing me signs that you don't wanna be here. It's all about discernment.
D
And that's right. Yeah, yeah. Discernment.
B
Self control. If you don't want to be with.
A
You, if you're doing it, you had a. If you have a.
B
We're not just talking about cheating.
A
No, I'm just saying we're talking about, like, anything.
B
Okay.
A
If you continuously do something, even as a friend, a family member, if I say, hey, Alex, I don't like when you do xyz.
D
Yeah.
A
And then two months later, you're doing it again. It's on my discernment to be like, she really don't care.
D
That's where the lack of self control, I feel like, comes in the person. Because I do believe that just because you're unhappy with someone does not give you the right to hurt them that way. Because in a lot of people, like, cheating can really mess someone up for a very long time. Especially someone that already may have abandonment issues or, you know, self esteem issues. Self esteem issues. Like, it's a lack of self control.
B
Right.
D
Because like my boyfriend always says, like, when you control yourself sexually, you grow in all other aspects of life. You gain a lot more money, your business gets stronger.
A
That's a fact.
D
Like, your family gets stronger. And I think that a lot of people, like, sex is so prominent these days, right? Like, it's in literally everything we consume. It's in the books now. It's on the apps, it's in the movies. Like, it's so prominent these days that it's almost like, normalized to be hypersexual and to be addicted to. A lot of people have sex addictions.
B
That's true.
D
Because if you can't walk past a fat ass or if you can't walk past a handsome man and be able to have just a little bit of self control, right. You're weak.
A
It's a little.
D
It's a weakness. But wait, wait, because that's. Yeah.
C
Wait, what you say? How you say. Your boyfriend said it. What he said.
D
He said, like, when you. When you discipline, like when you show discipline sexually, like, when you show some self control, you grow in all other aspects of all of that.
C
Oh, I'm using that. Listen, baby girl, if you can't control yourself sexually.
A
Yeah, hold on, baby.
D
If y'all have ever, like, I'm abstinent or celibate or, like, whatever the case, and then, like, you start feeling, like, just fucking, like, awesome, like, on top of the world. Like, because when you're not thinking about. First of all, I know that you've seen a lot of women completely deplete their money on a man or like. Or their business goes downhill because they're spending all of their attention on a man and vice versa. Like, it's because you're depleting. Like, sexual energy is extremely strong.
A
Yes.
D
If you're depleting it, especially on an unhealthy person. Person, like, it gets bad and you're bleeding your business.
B
Yeah, I 100% believe that because I don't know, like, extremely successful men have one woman. They're in marriages. It's been proven.
C
They're married. Like. Like married married?
B
Yes. Yeah, they're married. They have or not? No. Yeah, they married. I was about to lie.
D
But you know how a lot of businessmen feel too.
B
But they. It's a lot of are married because it's. I don't know. I just feel like it's easier to focus when you are dedicating your one woman into your family.
D
Yeah, it is kind of like what I was saying. But a lot of businessmen feel, too, when you have a wife, you're seen as more trustworthy in business.
A
True.
D
So a lot of them keep a wife because they know that, like, if you do business with another powerful man, he's automatically going to trust you when he sees that you can take care of a woman.
B
Yeah.
A
And having a family, I mean, you got to think about it too sometimes.
B
It's about the aesthetic.
A
It really is. Because think about the, the presidential race that we always had. It's like a thing like you can. Can you really cannot run for president if you're not married.
D
For sure.
A
Like, it's a whole thing they will tell you. Like if you're not married and you don't have a family, why are you trying to even get in this arena? They want you to.
D
Because it's a whole. It's a whole another responsibility. Like when you're shown that you could take care of a spouse. A relationship is a lot of work, but it's very easy with the right one. Like, I'm blessed to be. It's just so easy.
A
I love that. I love to see bless every time I talk about see women glowing because stop and love properly do not stop loving. Because when you are a valuable person, a valuable. A high value woman. I hate that word. But I like to use it though. I do like to use it because.
D
I think it's a thing.
A
When you're a high value woman, you will attract a high value man, Viza. And you can't just like throw in the towel because dating is hard, okay?
B
And you will learn it is hard.
A
Especially as a person who's done this to myself. If a man doesn't treat you right, like I said, a man will be doing all these things to make you leave. And then you'll be like, oh, I wasn't good enough.
D
Why wasn't?
A
Am I not skinny enough? Is my ass not fat enough? Am I not funny enough? Am I not light skinned enough? Am I curl my hair too nappy, whatever the case may be. But then it's like, then you'll get into a situation with somebody who just. You are perfect.
D
Like, you can do no wrong.
A
No wrong.
C
Yeah, but then y'all still mess that up every time.
A
Oh, I can't relax.
C
I said my bad, my bad, my bad. No, time out, time out, time out. Cause I say stuff out loud. I meant to say it in my head. I said it in my head. I swear to God, I promise to God, I said it in my head.
B
Not your intrusive thoughts.
D
No, this how Woody be. He'll say something, he'll be like, but Woody.
C
But I don't mean it though. I don't mean it though.
A
See that can't low key be popping out of here.
C
Nah, stop. Don't do me like that.
A
Okay, I'm just playing. But Woody.
B
Talk about he makes feel like you're.
A
A high value man.
C
I don't know. I don't know what that is. What is that?
A
A high value man is like. Like she was saying. I feel like a high value man is somebody who. Their sexuality and them being sexual does not control them for sure. They take care home. They have loyalty, you know, they're a gentleman, bare minimum. You know, they're open minded.
C
Sure.
B
They're just emotionally intelligent.
A
Emotionally intelligent. Ambition.
B
That's the number one for me.
A
You know, like they're. If they do have children, they take care of their responsibilities. Like. Like it has nothing to do. That's why we said this on an episode that we did. People misconstrue having finances with being a high value man. And that do not make you nothing.
D
I feel like I see that in a lot of NFL players. Like because I have, you know, dated NFL players in the past and I feel like it's very, very like it's something that I always notice. They have so much money and it's just like we having a conversation like surface level.
C
But sometimes we have. A lot of us haven't been taught to love. Like we don't know how to. We don't know how to properly do that.
D
And that's you know what I mean? Like I hate.
C
I'm still learning that it's how a.
D
Lot of men are.
C
Yeah, yeah. We don't know like. So it's like do you fault us for it? But we just gotta learn it. That's all it is.
D
And that's why.
A
But you gotta be willing to learn too.
C
I'm so open to learn it.
D
It happens to all of us. Right? Kind of like what you were saying. We've all been there. Like because some of us our purpose in men like that that may not know how to love yet. Because I do believe that most men get there. You're just a step to make to prepare him for his woman. But I feel like we have to accept.
B
When you really care about it. Right.
C
You think it's not too. It's not enough platonic relationship maybe. Cause I feel like if you have like. Cause I got like a lot of homegirls where it ain't no nothing about sex. That's Just like, legit my homegirl. Like, we can go out, get drunk and it ain't none of that. That's just like legit my homegirl.
D
Which is also teaching you how to.
C
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, exactly. So hearing y'all talk is like, I always take this in.
A
But I think that's important too, that you said that. Because, you know, I meet a lot of men that like, oh, an attractive man and attractive woman cannot be friends. Like, they truly believe that's some bullshit. They truly believe that. So the fact that you even have like, you can even say, like, I a lot of homegirls. And it's not like that. I think that that truly, that maybe is the first step to maybe learning how to love.
C
That help.
A
Because you have to be somebody's friend before you do anything romantically. And I had to learn.
D
Everyone skips the friend stage too.
A
They skip that.
D
A lot of girls, especially, I will say, like, us girls be ready to hop into something. And I will say a lot of women, I think, pressure men. Like, it's like, hey, nice to meet you, hang out, relationship.
B
Yeah, we were dating for three months. What we doing?
D
And then the whole like, timeline. Well, I'm gonna be married in two years, so. Which is yes, like, you have a right to have your timeline. But I feel like what switches is when the pressure comes in or if they meet a man and he's not necessarily ready for marriage, but they are like, they disrespect his boundaries and like, well, they pressure him all the time. Cause, you know, especially black men, they already have so much pressure on a day to day basis to be strong consistently. You can never have a bad day because you're a bad day. Like, once I see you have a bad day, that's all you are. Like, I feel like they already have so much pressure in the first place that a relationship is the one place that they want to have like some softness and some peace. I have a lot of male friends. My best friend is a male. One of my best friends is a male. And just hearing it from my boyfriend and his friends is like, they just want peace. That's all they want of their relationship is peace. Because black men really get peace on a day to day basis. Even dealing with their white counterparts, they're always made to feel like less than and smaller in a lot of these areas. So, like, all they want is to come home and to just like be free and to have peace. And I think that's why a lot of men, especially black men, are quiet too. Because every time they do talk and they do, like, emote, like, it's like, oh, you soft.
C
Yeah, you soft.
D
As I agree.
A
But I do think that it goes both ways as well.
D
Yeah.
A
I think as a black woman, we're expected. We got to be strong. Absolutely. We got to take care of the house.
D
Yes.
A
We have to do everything. When he's breaking down, we can't. We can't shed a tear.
D
We think black women, and I think.
B
That'S where they do it comes though, because it's like they need peace. And then black women are so conditioned to be strong.
A
Yeah.
B
So if everybody.
A
If a black woman asks for, like, can I have something? Can I have a romantic? Man, you would think we asking for the stars and the moon.
C
Wait, Tumblr.
A
If I wanted some flower, if I.
C
Asked for flour, y'all be wanting 12 hours out the day.
A
No, no, no.
C
We trying to get to the bag.
A
That's not what I said. Romance don't take 12 hours in a day. Romance is literally. They have bouquets of flowers that you can send on uber eats for $3.
C
High schools.
A
Cause it's like, I thought of you. Yeah, yeah, I'm thinking of you. I'm at work, I'm on set. Some flowers pop up at her door, and she like, damn, he's really thinking you on an hour break.
C
You know what I mean?
B
And Lex and I were having this conversation the other day, like, okay, men, a lot of the time think that they're high value because they're high earning. But then if you ask them outside of provision, outside of what you provide, what else? A lot of the time, men cannot answer that.
C
I agree with you.
B
So. But that's what I'm saying. So it's like, just because you're high earning, that does not make you high value. Because if you're not providing, like, comfortability, if you're not providing emotional support, if you're not actually physically there, it doesn't matter. The things that you do monetarily. And I think a lot of men miss that because they're so focused on, okay, I gotta make sure everybody's straight financially. But what about emotional?
A
Right?
C
Yeah, I don't think we know that. I remember growing up, my grandfather was that for sure.
B
And I think that's the problem. A lot of our older father figures and male figures in our life were that.
C
I think we just gotta learn how to open up more.
A
What kind of lover are you, Woody? Like, how are you in a relationship?
C
Damn. I don't know. I Don't know. I couldn't tell you. You had to ask my.
A
Your ex. But, like, if you, like, if I had a conversation with like an ex of yours, like, what would they say about you?
C
Like, I don't know. That's a good question.
B
Do you feel like you're a good lover?
A
And we're not talking about physically. We're not talking about, you know, like, how you treat her, how you court her, you know, how you make her.
B
Feel, being emotionally present, things like that.
C
I don't know.
A
But see, but that's okay. I'm not answering right now. But that's a question that you should ask yourself. Cause like, she was saying, I be.
C
So locked in on work.
A
Exactly.
C
So I can be so emotional. Yeah, baby. But then we homeless. I'm locked in on, like, yo, I gotta. That's how I feel. I gotta keep providing. You know what I mean? So I'm not really. I'm a lover. I'm like, man, to. What do you ask me? You say, what am I?
D
What Are you a good lover?
A
Are you a good.
C
I'm a good lover to the work, to the craft that I do. You know what I mean? But I don't know. As a partner, I don't know. Yeah, I'll ask that question.
A
And that's a big problem too, because going into what you said of how, like, they be working all these long days and they want to come home to peace, but you're not gonna come home to peace if you don't find.
D
And I was going to say too, yes, because men also. To flip it on the same side, the same way that women sometimes can pressure men. I feel like I've had a whole lot of men that show no grace to women. But, like, if he comes home and you know, because women have bad days. Yeah, but like you said, we are. The house need to be clean. There need to be some food on the table. When I get home, there needs to be all of this. But let there be a day like that. She doesn't have that done. And then it's like a big, big thing. So I think you just, you know, both sides. But I think I love to have these uncomfortable, like, conversations with people. Like, I have so many married friends and so many people in, like, committed relationships. And I think that's just like a common theme that I've seen is like, these conversations don't happen. They don't.
A
Because it's a cycle as well. Like I said, if he comes home and he wants peace, you're Gonna get peace because she knows that she's loved if she's come, if you're coming home. And she doesn't feel loved. It's, hey, can we talk? You don't wanna talk Cause you tired, but she don't know what's going on. Cause you ain't talking to her in four days.
D
Yeah. Cause you're absolutely right.
A
That's why it's important to have that work life balance. If you don't figure out that work life balance, you gonna be rich as hell in an empty ass house.
D
Yeah. Yeah.
B
I just think both people have to create an environment for each other. I don't know why. A lot of the time it feels like men feel like women are supposed to be soft and sweet and submissive no matter what. But it's like, are you creating that space? And I don't know, as both of y'all, as other women as well, do y'all feel like femininity and softness is something that's just supposed to come natural to you and you're supposed to be that way no matter what, or is a man supposed to create the space for you to be that way?
D
I was just having this conversation actually yesterday. I think I was just having this conversation because I was saying that, like, you know, a lot of my background was abandonment. So that's all I've known, which is like, I'm very proud of myself for still being able to, you know, be soft and like, you know, trusting of the right people. But, like, a lot of my background was abandonment. And so I was. If you've ever met me, I have a. I have a really tough shell. But like, inside, like, I'm soft as hell.
B
Like, that's kind of hard.
D
You need something a little bit. I got it for you. Like, if I care about you, there's nothing you can ask for. There's too much. But I was. There was a harshness that came from me because I was so used to providing for myself. I come from a long line of, like, broken relationships and single women and abandoned women. So it's like, all I know is that I always have to take care of myself.
B
Same.
D
I have to take care of myself. Somebody's gonna leave me and if somebody leaves me. And I've trusted them with everything I have then. And I was soft and I was feminine then. Like, now I have nothing. So, like, I was always, like, had to be like, that strong. Even my, like, they all call me the protector of the family because I've always been that backbone, which is Hard.
A
Yeah.
D
And so, like, it's fair. Some women, they don't have the opportunity, like where you come from and how you grew up, they don't have that opportunity to be soft all the time. Because it's like I'm busy protecting people and like, wearing a cape my damn self. So, like.
A
And having to show up. And I'm glad that you said that too, because anybody. If people ask me about my relationship now, like, if you ask my exes, oh, is she feminine, she soft, they be like, hell no. That bitch wake up and punch me in my chest. Wake up, nigga. But that's because that's the space I was in. I'm waking up mad at you because I don't low key like you and.
B
I don't trust you.
A
And I don't trust you.
D
Yeah.
A
I don't. Nothing about this makes me feel good in my relationship now.
D
Yeah.
A
As soon as he wake up, I'm in the kitchen.
D
Yes, sir. What you need? I'm finna put this robe on. What you. But I snake it underneath it.
A
I be ordering lingerie.
D
Okay. Like, who am I?
A
Girl? I'm not lotioning up from bed to toe. Usually I just jump in the bed.
D
Yeah, jump in the bed at. Yeah.
C
But what I'm saying, that's crazy.
A
I'm joking. But what I'm saying.
B
Feet about to start a fire.
A
I'm just in a space, not starting fire. I just caught rubbing it together. Y'all smell.
C
Yeah, yeah.
B
Something burning.
A
Something. Who you cook? You finally cooking, bitch.
C
Right?
A
No, it's my feet. That's how the conversation was, though. For real. But I think now I'm in a situation to where it's a space for me to feel vulnerable, to feel like I can do that. Cause like I said, I show up at work, I am Lex P. I'm this character. I gotta, you know, do this and do that. So it's like when I go home too, just as like y'all want to go, men want to go home. I want to go home too, and relax.
D
Right.
A
But I'm going to go home and I might start just doing stuff for you because what you have provided for me, but also how you make me feel. You know what I'm saying? Absolutely. I want to nurture you.
D
I want. It's safe to do this. Yeah.
A
That's that, that, that natural, what you.
B
Was calling it, Femininity.
A
That is gonna kick in. It's gonna kick in because they have pushed that bright green.
D
Yeah.
B
If you don't, you Gotta create the environment.
A
Hey, with me, if you don't push that button, you finna get Hulk Hogan, brother.
D
Yeah.
B
Hulk Hogan is fucking nuts, dude.
C
That's nasty.
A
It's the truth, though. What is wrong with you?
C
But now, a lot of. A lot of. A lot of us don't grow up with, like, expressing our feelings. Like, for me, I'm just talking for myself. I grew up, both parents, my sister, but we just did the thing, like, you know what I mean? We never really sat down and, like, expressed how we felt about certain things, and we just kind of live life that makes sense. You know what I mean? We never really talked deeply.
B
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B
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A
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C
Yeah.
A
Going to school.
C
Exactly. Yeah. Yeah.
A
Having dinner.
C
That's it. And it's just that. It's just that we're not really talking about feelings. So now, as a man, I don't know how to do that.
A
Yeah.
D
Yeah.
C
You get what I'm saying? Like, I'm not a bad person, but I just don't understand what you want me to say to you right now. I don't. I've never done that in life.
A
Yeah.
C
You know what? I mean, so it's like, you gotta find a. Like, men. We gotta find a partner. That. That's why I think the feminine part is very important. We need y'all to be soft. Yeah. Because we don't know how to, like, you know what I mean? So if you being like. Like, I can't. I can't talk to Hulk Hogan like that.
D
Yeah, all right, brother.
C
I can't.
B
Yeah, all right, brother.
D
Exactly.
C
Exactly.
D
But the beautiful part about that, too, is some people don't even know that. Like, they can't even say that about myself. Like, I don't know how to do that.
C
Right.
D
Like, some people don't even. They don't even know that they have. They don't even know.
C
But I live in my. I live in my head so much. Like, I don't be knowing what's going. And I hate that for myself, because I don't understand. I was just talking about it earlier. I don't understand the political stuff. I don't understand. Like, it's a lot of stuff that I don't understand. And I hate that because I live so much in my head. So I'm trying to learn how to get outside of my head. I'm so happy for my female friends, my homeboys. Cause I can have these conversations and not feel stupid because I don't know it.
D
Right.
C
You know what I mean? I can hit my homegirls up like, yo, should I send flowers? Or something like that? And it's like, you know what I mean? And they giving me that advice.
A
Yeah.
B
I think I understand that, too.
A
That's a beautiful thing that you can even admit that, because I will say that that's how. That's how my man is. He has, like, sisters and home girls.
D
Yeah.
A
He didn't know what to do with me when we first got together.
B
Yeah.
A
And, like, once I came cool with his sister, they be like, girl, he trying.
C
We trying.
A
And I. And I see that effort. Like, one thing. Like, I know that he makes the effort.
C
So do you get mad when he asks, like, females, like, his homegirls or something like that?
A
Half the time, me and his sisters be talking about him together. I get it. But like I said, it's a. It's a work in progress. And I have patience because I know what his intentions are. I would rather worry about a man trying to figure out how to love me than worry about a man who. Out here outside on the street.
D
Right. His intentions are pure.
C
Yeah.
A
I can work through all that.
B
And I think we can.
A
We can figure it out. Yeah.
B
And I think that comes with a healthy relationship, too. Because if you're in a healthy relationship, your partner isn't necessarily focused on who you're getting the information from.
A
Get it from somebody.
B
Right.
A
Like somebody needs.
C
Exactly.
B
And so that's what I was gonna ask you. Like, are you open to therapy? Because I understand what you were saying about always being in your head. Because I feel like I'm kind of like that as well. Like, I'm just always in my own head. But I think therapy helps a lot with that. Especially, like, what you saying that you don't really know how to communicate and stuff your feelings a lot of the time.
C
For sure. For sure.
B
Yeah.
C
I feel like it's a lot of stuff out there that we don't do. Because I feel like they put, like, a bad name on it. I think anything that's good for us, they be like, that's. You know, they make a joke out of it.
B
Yeah. That's why we thought therapy was such a bad thing in the black community.
C
Watermelon is great for us.
D
Crazy. Like, you go into therapy. Oh, you crazy.
A
Yeah, yeah.
B
I'm not. I want to fix this.
D
Everyone should. I feel like everyone should have some outside source to talk to.
C
Yes.
D
That's just, like, unbiased.
A
Yes, I say that.
D
Unbiased and unjudging. Like, I feel like. Like, you know, whoever you feel comfortable with, like, whether it be because I know a lot of black women like myself, like, find it hard to talk to someone that can't relate to what they've been through or things like that. Find you somebody that you're comfortable with and go get some therapy. Cause it feels great.
B
It's a lot of stuff out there.
A
I tell people finding a therapist is like finding a man.
D
Yeah. You do have to choose. And all the same, though.
A
Like, you may try therapy once and it don't work out for you, you gotta keep going.
B
Cause I done had, like, four same.
D
Yeah.
C
But it's a lot of other stuff that's, like, outside of our culture. That is really dope. I've done, like, ayahuasca. I don't know if y'all heard about that.
A
Oh, my gosh.
C
That was, like, the best thing I've ever done in my entire life.
A
Oh, you tapped into something different.
C
You know what I'm saying? Like, what's outside of the culture? Because in the culture and the culture, what they'll say is, oh, that you doing that voodoo.
A
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
C
Anything. Like, that's what I'm saying, like, you gotta really, like, search these things up because they put a bad name on it to keep it out of the community. You see what I'm saying? Like, go, go. Just do research.
A
Just do your research.
C
Yes, do your research.
D
That's why it's good that we're talking about it though, because now a bunch of people are gonna know because you said it. Yeah, like, you know.
B
Exactly. People don't.
C
I went to Dr. To do it too.
A
That's what I was about to ask. What did you go to do? I've been thinking about. I haven't done it, but it's been like a year. I've been like debating back and forth. Yeah, I want to do it.
C
Oh, yeah. Okay. Yeah.
A
She went to the Honduras and did it.
C
Okay.
A
And she was like, it was life changing. It was amazing for her. So I'm still back and forth.
C
I wanted to do it, do it, do it. Everybody I talked to, I was the same way. It just kept coming up. And then I think the final moment was when I seen the homie T Grizzly. We did a breakfast interview and he was talking about. I hit him immediately, like, bro, I need the info. So he ended up connecting me to my big sis, Tyria. And then we ended up going out to Dr. And we did the whole ceremony. We did a whole bunch of different medicines. Spiritual medicine and ayahuasca was the best thing ever. Like, you take the drink. And my shama was like, yo, just sit here. He was like, don't even think about anything. And I was like, I got a little tired. I was like, can I lay down? I said, can I lay down? He was like, yeah, lay down.
B
Meditating. I try to meditate every day, y'all. And I just be having so many thoughts running through my mind. I be like, this ain't how these things.
C
Yeah, yeah.
A
So how was your. Whenever he told you to.
C
He told me to just relax, like it's gonna happen when it happens. So I asked him, could I lay down? Ended up laying down and I ended up getting cold. So I just remember myself holding myself, like, you know what I mean? Trying to warm myself up. And then all of a sudden I heard this voice say, okay, you can stop. And I want you to sit here and I want you to hold yourself because I don't think you've ever hugged or loved yourself enough. And I just started bawling, crying.
B
Wow.
C
And then from there, it's like we just went on this whole journey. I just remember seeing my ancestors walking up this hill. And I remember somebody coming, stopping on the side and putting their hand on my shoulder and be like, it's okay for you to talk. You can talk, you can voice your opinion. You know what I mean? It was just like a whole. Like a whole bunch of. Like a whole journey that we went through. I remember being in this dark room with a whole bunch of chains connected to me. And I was able to unlock those chains of people that's connected to me, that's no longer in my life. I was able to let go of them.
D
It's beautiful.
C
You know what I mean? So it's just stuff like that. I feel like it's be dope to introduce to our community.
D
Oh, for sure.
A
Yeah.
C
It'll do a lot of healing.
B
Everybody do think everything is voodoo.
A
They do.
C
They put that on it.
D
They're like. Or weird. Like, are you tripping?
C
Somebody gonna talk about it in the comments, like, oh, that. Talking to the devil.
A
But not. But let me say. Because it's natural. It's like a tea that you drink. And let me also say, people always tell you, whenever you feeling sick or whenever you feeling down, listen to your body. Your body's gonna tell you what's wrong. I always feel like that's what the ayahuasca does before your mind. Whatever's going on wrong with your mind is gonna open that up and let you know what's going on and what you need to tackle. And whatever is going on, and you open that up and deal with it.
C
What's so dope about it is. Cause we go through life and we just learn stuff from other people and from other habits that might not even be the right habit, but we learn it. But what aya does, it takes away. It strips it all the way down. So now you come back into the world, you just open to everything. And it's so dope. But you got to keep doing it. You got to keep practicing.
B
The lasting effect.
C
Yeah, you got to keep meditating, though, because if not, you'll get those old habits back.
B
Do you feel like it makes. Did it make meditating easier for you after you did that?
C
For sure.
A
Meditating is hard.
B
That's what I'm saying. It's hard for me. I be sitting there like.
A
1, 2.
B
3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8. I swear to God, I be like, fuck, I can't focus on breathing. What's he called?
A
Older and getting cured.
D
Okay.
C
No, but I'm always open to, like, finding, like, the deeper meanings in life and just how to be a Better person.
D
Yeah, that's like.
C
That's like the ultimate goal.
A
You don't even probably realize it, but that's the first step.
D
Exactly.
A
You know, a healthy relationship, a healthier relationship, even within yourself, to be capable of being that. That partner.
C
Absolutely.
A
You know, possibly want to be. Y'all, we. We gotta move on to the next topic.
B
You gotta give us your plum.
A
What's up, y'all?
B
It's your girl xp and it's your girl Dre Nicole.
A
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B
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A
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B
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A
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B
Into the big bow. The big bow bow. A bow bow bow.
A
So our bed topic is when we talk about sex topics. So I wanted to talk about this because I haven't done this in a really long time. But I was just curious, like, if this happens, how would people feel? I wanted to. It is so basic. It's so simple. It's not nothing too deep and intrusive.
D
Yeah, so.
A
Cause I know y'all got an image to uphold, but it's okay to have sex with clothes on. I'm talking about a man just unzip his pants and let that little wee wee out and go to work.
D
Or little wee wee is insane.
A
You know what I'm saying? You know, he let that junior out and do when is that acceptable? Because I'm a little older. I've always felt like if a man doesn't take his clothes off, that's like a sign of disrespect, right?
B
Really?
A
I'm trying to see that booty.
C
That's crazy.
A
I need to see them nipples, them.
D
Feet, them belly buttons, them feet, socks.
B
If niggas will take all their clothes off, but they want to take them socks.
A
I need everything off. I need you bucket naked.
B
Alex laughing. She know niggas will keep them socks.
C
Because we don't get the. What's it called? Is it manicure or pedigree? Pedicure. I always get that confused, but a lot of us don't get that. I grew up with men, so, like, black toenails. I thought that was, like, a normal thing.
B
It is for them.
C
You know what I mean? Like, nah, we gotta get that. We gotta get that done. So we got. We keep the socks on.
A
Yeah, okay. Okay.
B
I told Lex the story one time on the show. My ex boyfriend took a shower in his socks. He didn't want me.
C
Oh, for sure. Yeah.
B
He didn't want me to see his feet that bad. And I was like. And we broke up right after that because I was like, your feet that fucking bad? Where you gotta take a shower in them hoes? You cannot be my nigga. You're not about to pass that down to my child.
C
That's hard. What? That's crazy. You did that.
B
Is it or is it.
D
No, I'm trying to bring down my.
C
Episode and then, like, be like, baby, it's okay. Like, it don't matter what your feet. I seen the worst of them. And then he would have.
B
No, I was 19. I had not seen the worst of them.
C
He would have took that sock off. You know what I mean?
D
I don't think I've ever actually experienced this phenomenon that we're talking about right now.
A
Like, a man and you don't want his clothes on. Oh, his clothes on. I've definitely experienced that, like, in college days. Like, we trying to get a little quickie in. He was like, you know, bend it over. Show that fat nappy. Let me get in that room.
B
Oh, sorry.
C
Quick. Yeah.
A
Y'all know what I mean?
C
That makes sense. I agree with you.
B
I didn't mean to get that nappy sounds so aggressive.
C
Okay.
A
But you know what I'm saying. What I mean is, like, I used to.
B
Why is it nappy?
A
I'm in between what?
C
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
A
Okay. But I do feel like sex with your clothes on is like. I don't know. I just feel like it's a little. It's kind of, like, disrespectful a little bit. It's giving. Like, you don't trust me, and you just trying to give your nut off. Get your nut off.
D
Yeah, yeah.
A
Like, that's what I take from it.
D
I can see that.
A
Yeah. Have y'all ever.
D
I'm the same way. I gotta see. I'm trying to see.
A
Yes. I need you to be walking to the bathroom to go get that towel, and I need to see that ass jiggling when you walk off, you know?
D
But I don't think that men know the girls like ass.
A
Yeah, we do.
D
I'm trying to see something.
A
I need to see. I like a little stretch mark on that booty.
B
Oh, God, they be so little muscle.
D
They be. They be real. They do.
A
They be clenching it. Cause they don't want you to see.
D
They clinching into little triangles.
B
Okay.
A
Sorry, buddy.
C
It's okay, y'all. Yeah, y'all was reminiscing. Go ahead.
A
Okay. Have you had sex with your clothes on, though? Like, fully. Clothes, Shirt on.
C
College. Yeah. College. Yeah.
A
But as an adult.
C
Yeah. No, not that I recall.
A
Okay. Butt, booty. Naked.
C
Yeah.
A
Socks on or off?
C
Off.
A
I know.
B
That's why he said, I ain't got that black toe. Don't play with me.
C
But now I keep. I used to keep socks on the lawn. Like, my feet are light. Lighter than my whole entire body.
B
I feel like that's a normal thing with black people. Because y'all. Yeah, because a lot of y'all skin be in the sun.
D
Yeah.
B
Your feet are always.
C
Yeah, I usually.
A
Air Force One.
C
Absolutely.
B
The black ones, too.
C
I was definitely at the beach with my socks on the beach and lying. I used to be in the water. Yeah.
A
What you mean?
B
But why was that shocking when I said that?
C
It wasn't shocking. I was like, you should have been bored.
A
No. He asked, why did he fuck up, Right? He said, the fuck?
C
Yeah. Exactly. Exactly, nigga.
A
Just trying to wash up real quick.
D
Right, right.
B
And you didn't wash your feet?
C
Nah, come on, man.
B
That's why they so light. You'll never take them damn socks.
C
Nah, I take them off now, though.
A
Okay. Dre, how you feel about a man having sex with you with his clothes on?
B
I do. I agree with you. I feel like in a normal setting, like, if we're in the house.
C
Yeah.
B
And you're keeping your clothes on. That's disrespectful. But like a quickie scenario, like in public.
A
Like, if y'all are like, oh, let me run to the bathroom.
B
Yes. Because I ain't getting naked neither. What the fuck I look like in the bathroom with my top off.
C
Forever 21 crazy nasty words.
A
You were laughing forever 21 move. It's all it takes in the dress room.
C
Going crazy.
A
Right? Right.
B
What the fuck I look like butt ass naked in a public place. So I ain't mad at. That's crazy.
C
Exactly.
B
In the dressing room.
A
But no, I'm glad we could agree on that because that's how I feel. I feel like if you in the house with a man, he not takes taking his clothes off like, sis. He do not like you like that. He's not comfortable.
C
Absolutely.
A
It's just giving, like, real quick. Let me.
D
He ain't planning on staying.
A
He's not. Okay. He ain't planning on staying. I'm weak.
B
Cause I'm sorry, y'all. I be like, I'm one of them people. Like, I laugh at something, then it just keep making me laugh. Like five seconds later.
A
This all the time.
B
That's what it be planning for that Samsung Smith song. Y'all remember this now?
A
Oh, the black you in my snack. I wasn't for sure.
C
Yeah, they don't repeat, you know, so.
A
Okay.
D
But no music directly affects my oh, my God system. Like, I can't. I can't work myself up. Like, maybe it's because I'm a music person. If I hear a song, like, it'll put me out of it. It's. I can't.
B
Yeah.
A
So do you know?
D
Okay, you one of, like, about to say that I hate, like, old school R B.
B
Really?
A
Yes.
B
What's on your sex list? We need to know.
C
That's crazy.
D
No, f. Cuz it makes me feel like I'm in a movie and it. I have to like. I just can't right something. I can't.
A
She don't like to make sweet, sweet looks.
B
So you ain't listening to no John B.
D
No.
B
What you be listening.
D
Oh, my God. It makes me feel so unsexy. I don't know what it is. What? Yes.
C
What you listening to?
D
Hell yeah, Future. I'm telling you.
A
No.
D
You know, like, I was like, party next door. I like party next door.
C
Okay, so you like the newer. The newer.
D
Yeah, yeah. Alex Isley.
A
Oh, shout out to Alex Isley.
D
Only for the elite. Because I feel like she's still Very slept on.
A
Yeah, she pulled up on us in the LA show.
B
We had her in our LA show.
A
Yeah, yeah, she pulled up on her. She's super dope.
D
Yeah. I hear her in my dreams.
C
Summer Walker.
D
Stuff like that I can't get with Summer Walker.
C
Okay, okay. In the bedroom.
D
In the bedroom.
A
Got you got in the bedroom.
B
It's.
D
It doesn't give me, like, sex. Got it doesn't sell sex for me.
C
Okay, okay.
B
I can see that, though, if you don't like 90s R&B, cuz I feel like a lot of her music is reminiscent, but in the car.
D
I love summer all day every.
A
See, that's how I know I'm old school.
B
I want to listen to a tone.
D
Listen to what people say. Yeah. So is that like, what's your go to. What's on your playlist?
A
Man, look, I'm. I'm older than y'all, okay? Turn that petty Teddy Pendergrass on. This draw is coming off.
C
That's crazy.
A
I think I better let it go.
C
Yeah.
A
Look like another little tk. I'm gonna give you the dirtiest, the dustiest.
D
I say you gonna do a little dancing.
C
That's crazy.
A
I'm gonna break your ass off real bad. You put on the Isley Brothers Atlantis. I'm finna show your ass some Atlantis. Oh, I'm finna break you off real.
D
Bad thanks to Atlantis.
C
You think people still do candles and stuff?
A
I'll say this.
B
I like candles. I like a candle.
A
I like candles in my home. Anyway. Okay, so. But I'm not like. I don't like to force the mood.
C
Gotcha.
A
So a lot of times, like. Yeah, like, so it's like, if it's after, like, we done went out or I done cooked dinner or whatever, and we just like drinking and. You know what I'm saying? We just like to listen to music, put on a little music.
C
And so the music is off already playing.
A
It might be. Or it might be. Like, we just want to listen to some music and we just turn it on, and next thing you know, I'm making. So we love it.
D
Absolutely. Amen.
B
I like old school 90s music, but I also like a little reggae.
A
I should open up, like a window.
D
Like some island vibes.
C
That's crazy.
B
Island. Why is that? It's helping me get my wine on.
C
Okay.
D
There's some nice rhythm to it, though.
A
It is.
D
If you can get into the rhythm, you can.
C
All right.
A
You can. You be listening to music.
C
I listen to Netflix.
D
Oh, no, no.
A
Not. What?
D
See That's a part. What are you doing?
A
All he hear in the background is, hey, Professor Ogilvy.
C
Yes, sir.
A
Ski.
D
Yeah. Yes, sir.
C
That's what I be on.
B
That's a hard pass.
A
Netflix never lets me down.
C
Yeah.
D
See, again, if I hear an ad or something, or like, something ad on Netflix. No, like in TV in general.
A
Yeah. It's gonna throw in the vibe. I either like quiet. I don't mind, like a little TV in the background, like, if it's low. But either I like music. Complete silence so we can hear each other.
D
Cause, see, silence on a good night.
A
Hey, I got something. The south got something to say.
D
Okay.
A
I'm finna talk to y'all.
C
I'm a talker, too. Oh, come on now.
A
Come on now.
D
We love a good time.
A
What you be saying?
C
Whatever you want to think about. Whatever you think it is.
B
We both talk about some.
C
Yeah.
D
Why we all lean a little.
C
Yeah, yeah, yeah. But sometimes them ads be crazy. They be like, yeah, if you got chlamydia, you got.
A
Oh, my God. Anyway, the fucking.
D
I will stop everything. You have to turn it off.
A
That's what I'm saying. Please. Why are y'all playing?
D
And you already know, like, girls be having to concentrate sometimes.
B
We do.
D
So an ad is crazy.
B
It's.
D
It's crazy.
C
Absolutely.
D
Because now what's going on?
A
Yeah, the comedian ad in the back.
C
It's crazy. Yeah.
A
It hurt this. And it's like, oh, speaking of the clap. Speaking of.
D
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, my God.
C
Yeah. Exactly.
D
Yeah. I can't do it.
A
Okay. I don't know how we got off topic, but I'm glad we talking about music. Cause we finna move on again. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's.
B
Your girl Dre Nicole.
A
And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping.
B
Yes, we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella, no. Where the hell could you go?
A
If you can't go to Bella, no. What the hell can you go?
B
We're going to be doing. Talk to me, Chitchat with me. It's going to spilling a little tea.
A
Oh, my God. No, you didn't.
B
Oh, my God. Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon.
A
Yes. Y'all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time y'all know poor Mars has grown into its own little entity where we gonna have a lot of fun. Stick still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down.
B
Thanks. So now it's time to get into the bop. Bow the bow. Bow, bow, bow. So the bop of the week is.
A
Whatever music that you've been jamming this week, like, what you've been listening to, what you've been turned up, too. I'll go first.
D
Let me. Oh, damn. I need my phone.
A
So y'all can, you know, whatever. If you want to handle her phone, whatever you gotta do. I'm gonna give my first bop of the week because I cannot believe three of my favorite artists were on the same track. And they made an amazing song. Y'all know I'm an R B girly. So three artists. I hope I'm saying this right, because I never know how to say his name. Yay, Ali, Eric Billinger, and Day Friend. Y'all know how I feel about Zay Hard.
D
He slept on, so slept on. Very slept on.
A
King Game is crazy. Yeah, we all know about Eric Billinger. Super legend in the game. Them three decided, hey, let's get on a track together. Why the hell would y'all do that?
C
Hard.
D
Yeah, hard.
A
Hard as fuck. The song is called Involved. His whole project is really good. Like, I'm just always impressed with the music that he puts out, and I'm just surprised that this is my first time having him as bop of the week. But it's an amazing project. Go listen to it. My favorite song on there is him, Eric Billinger, Zay France, and it's called Involved. So y'all go check it out. Who next?
D
I would love to hear Woody's. Oh, I'm a musician.
C
I've been producing. I've been producing.
B
Okay.
C
Yeah. So I'm always in the car listening to the stuff that I produce.
A
Okay.
C
Yeah, yeah. So I just got one with Jacque, so I'm super excited.
A
See?
C
Yeah, yeah, I know.
A
That's right. He hitting that hoe on it.
C
Yeah, yeah, yeah. He go crazy.
A
Got it right.
B
My gun on safety.
C
Exactly.
D
And there we go.
C
Exactly.
B
Period.
C
So that's been.
D
Listen to your stuff at right now.
C
I got a song out with Seti Hendricks called Titty Tuesdays. That's really dope.
A
I know that's Right. Okay, we going to check it out now.
C
Check it out.
A
I'm going give you an honest review.
C
Okay.
A
Yeah, I'm give you honest review. I ain't going to lie.
B
Because we listen to everything. Okay, we going to play it.
A
We going to play it.
D
We going to play it.
A
Okay.
B
What you been listening to, Ellie?
D
Morgan Wallen.
A
I knew him.
D
I'm in love right here.
A
Yeah, he's so good.
D
I feel it.
A
It's that voice. Cause it's country, but it's a little soulful.
D
Yes. It's like a little something to it. It is wasted on you by Morgan Wallen. I'm going to see him in concert. I'm so excited.
A
Oh, my God.
D
But honorable mention Jaleel.
A
Okay.
D
Have y'all heard of Juliel?
B
I haven't.
D
Okay. Well, one of my favorites. I like a religious player. Like, I play him very frequently.
A
Okay. Check that out.
D
He's like a rage hip hop.
B
Not. That's crazy. Craig was like.
C
Cause he knows.
D
Yeah, yeah, yeah. He said nothing.
A
So let me ask you this, though. Did you like Morgan? Cause I feel like they're trying to bring that rapid rap, hip hop, country thing back. Did you like his song with Moneybag?
D
I haven't. Wait, which one? You go, oh, yeah, yeah.
A
Did you like it?
D
I like it. You know, I love the. Cause, you know, it kind of started with not Lil Nas. He pop.
A
Yeah.
D
He popularized the whole Old Town road. Yeah, yeah, Rightfully so. And that was like, I found it when it wasn't even huge yet. It was like on Soundcloud, still very small. And I heard that song, I was like, oh, this is my vibe. Like, I'm from Topeka, Kansas, so, like, real. I love me some country. Yeah, I love me some country. So, like, yeah, that Morgan Wallen, who's the other guy was Shaboozy.
A
Shaboozi has a good kind of mix of like, he's crazy hip hop.
D
He's crazy. I feel like I also got hip to him really early.
A
Yeah. Tanner. Adele. She does the good.
D
Yeah. Buckle bunny. Buckle bunny.
A
You know what's crazy?
B
Boozy got some CMA nominations.
A
He did, he did.
D
I'm happy they're recognizing it. Cause they didn't wanna do that for Lil Nas.
A
Right, right.
D
I'm happy they're recognizing it.
A
Yeah, sure. Cause you know what's crazy? I feel like Lil Nas X definitely, like, resurged that. But we can't forget when Nelly and Tim McGraw came out and it fell in my hand.
D
Yeah. That was a game changer.
A
That was a game changer. Like, we were like, what? We could do this together.
D
Yeah.
A
Donald Trump didn't know what to do.
D
Yeah. They even got. I mean, even Beyonce's doing it now. Like, I feel like so many, like, underground artists or coming up artists, like, they've done such a great job with it to the point where now the mainstreamers are, like, taking it.
A
Yeah. And it's another thing to say, like, K. Michelle has been doing country music for a while.
D
Her voice, a lot of people don't know that.
A
So perfect for country music. Like, so good. So I just hope this is, like, an era of, like, black artists taking over country, because we can do everything.
D
Yeah.
A
You know, even though Tiger took over golf, Serena took over tennis, we going. We coming for everything.
C
Yeah.
D
It's so they are killing it right now. They are like Shaboozi.
A
When we seen Tanner Adele at the BET Awards, it was on the screen. She was somewhere else perform. But it was like, damn, she's good.
D
She's really good.
A
She's really, really good. So cute. Yeah, we love a cute country.
D
Cutesy. Yeah, we love it.
A
All right, Drea, what you listening to?
B
So I've been trying to get into my afrobeats bag.
D
Okay.
B
Because I feel like every time I'm out and I'm listening to music in the club or, like, at a lounge or whatever, like, I be really feeling the Afrobeats, but I never had, like, my own afrobeats playlist.
C
Yeah.
B
So my bop this week is Fujibai Fuji by. By Asake.
A
Oh, asake.
D
He's good.
A
Yeah, he's really good. You got in your bag in that one. I'm impressed.
B
I said I like that.
A
Do it again.
B
That's what I thought when I heard it.
C
That's what I like.
B
Let me add that to the playlist.
A
It's really, really dope. Okay.
D
I'm glad.
A
That one.
C
I love that.
A
Cause you didn't fail me last time when you told me. Cause I didn't hear ruin yet with us.
B
Oh, yeah. I did put you on that song. It feels. I told you. I'm really trying to get in my.
D
Afro beats bag because there's one more. There's one more I just thought of. I'm really rd, a UK artist. Have you heard of called Flowers?
A
Flowers by who?
D
Say my name. Artie rd.
B
He said he a UK artist.
A
Is it like rap? Because sometimes I can't take the.
C
Yeah.
A
Hello. Hello, team. You a bad boxing and I'm going to my team.
B
Yes, Right.
A
Sometimes it be hard for me to get into it.
D
Yeah, I like him because he has, he has the underlying melody. Ok. Like, I can't listen to too many rap artists in general if they have no melody to it. Like I need like that Jack Harlow Drake like melody like the you on and I. He gives that.
A
Okay.
D
He gives that. He has some ups.
A
We going to check it out. We going to check it out.
B
So now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show, which is pour your heart out. So you know, if you have any questions or testimonials, you can always send them to ask for minds gmail.com that's a P O U R M I n d s gmail.com now you know we be telling y'all to keep these.
A
Questions short and they never do. Y'all keep these questions.
B
Not sure.
A
Oh, it's all right.
B
But it's all right though. Hey y'all, it's Dre Nicole, CEO of Muse Beauty. Are you ready to take your beauty brand to the next level? Well, I've got something special just for you. I'm introducing the keys to a successful e commerce brand ebook. In this guide, I spill all of my secrets on how I built Muse Beauty from the ground up into a global beauty brand serving thousands of customers from all over the world. From defining your brand vision to mastering marketing strategies, this book literally covers it all. Plus exclusive highlights and tips that you won't find anywhere else. But wait, y'all, it's more. Check out my curated vendors list featuring over 50 top suppliers in the beauty, fashion and packaging industries. Whether you need cosmetics, accessories, clothing, or chic packaging, I've got you covered. So what are you waiting for? Go to www.muse beauty collection and get your ebook, your vendors list. Or you could bundle them both together. All right, bye y'all. Question number one. Hey Lex. Andrea. I'll make this as short as possible. I've been single for a year after a 5 year situationship. Honestly, never been in a real relationship. I decided to dip my toe back into the dating pool this summer and have been striking out bad. I apparently live in a city where everybody black knows everybody and I exclusively date black men. Recently, I ended up bagging two guys who ended up being best friends and now lost them both because of it. I feel like this is God's way of telling me I'm not ready laughing my ass off. My question to y'all is, have you ever been single for a long period of time and got back in the game? If so, how would you suggest going about doing that? Especially in a city where there is 2% of separation between everybody. It looks so bleak out here and I'm in my mid-30s trying not to end up alone. Any advice will be helpful. And thank you for being a part of my weekly rotation.
C
I mean, I would say focus on work.
A
I knew you was gonna say that.
B
It sounds like you live in Atlanta.
D
There was two standouts. First of all, bleak is crazy. But this five year situationship.
B
Oh, that's. That's crazy.
D
That's what stands out for me.
A
Sorry.
D
Let me. Yeah. Cause you need to hear this.
B
Don't care.
A
Alex.
B
Leave a word.
D
I mean, I just think five year situationship, if that's what you wanted, it's totally fine. But if you let him string you along for five years, you know, probably he should take some time to get to know yourself. Cause a lot of people don't like to be by themselves, so they'll let anybody do whatever to them.
C
But I feel like when you go out there and you. You really searching to like be in a relationship, you don't find what you.
D
Yeah, it always comes when you're not looking for it.
C
Exactly.
D
For sure.
C
That's why I'm saying.
A
Laughing. But when you focus on work and you focus on other things, it's gonna happen. It's falling in your lap. Sometimes too much fall in your lap.
C
Exactly.
A
Then you gonna have options.
D
And I don't think, you know, it matters too much people knowing each other. I don't think that matters as much because like, we're all adults here. If I know, you know, if you're dating somebody I used to know, I. I don't care.
A
Right. And I think too, because she said she was in her mid-30s and I think a lot of times when we're in our mid-30s, we feel so much distance. You have to value yourself. You value yourself and you know that my person is coming along and I have so much faith. Like I'm very religious. I have a lot of faith. So I feel like whatever is in my path, God is going to make sure I come across that exact thing. That's for me. So, you know, sometimes you just got to let go and let God. And I mean that.
C
And stop. And stop looking over the nine to five.
A
Hello. Come on, man.
C
Because I feel like a lot of women look over that, you know what I mean?
D
Like I seen something on Instagram that said he paid with a cash app card. So I'm not finna have this date with him.
C
That's crazy.
B
What's your pay with?
D
Is the money still money?
C
Yeah.
D
Like, I don't give a damn.
A
Right. I feel like as long as he not a street pharmacist, we can work together.
D
Yeah.
A
You know what I'm saying?
C
Exactly.
A
I literally. Me and Dre talk about this on the show all the time. It was a while I was only dating, like, nine to five guys. It just so happened the guy that came into my lap now doesn't, you know, he works for himself and he's, you know. But before, the guy was dating for him 9 to 5. And it was a cool. It was an amazing situation. It was what I needed at that time. So I feel like I don't judge a person off of their occupation. Can we have a good time? Do you make me feel safe? How do you make me feel? So I think a lot of times y'all are blocking Yalls blessing because. Because y'all are stuck in this mind frame of, oh, he gotta be a baller, and he gotta do X, Y.
D
Z, and become influenced by everybody. Like girls. If you don't do what makes you happy. I've never cared what anybody had to say, man.
A
I don't care. You think my man lame, ugly? Cause he ain't none of that to me.
B
Cause he my man. As long as I like that man, that's all.
A
You better say that, girl. Yeah, that's mine.
B
You getting too.
A
Remember, that's mine.
B
Bitch, calm down.
A
You remember that? That's mines. You know, when people add that S, at the end of the day, they.
B
Do they be serious. Because mine is only M I, N, E. It's mine.
A
But when they say when they at.
B
That S, they ain't playing with your ass.
A
You mean business. That's why I was trying to mine. Cause I don't give a fuck, bitch.
B
Read the question.
A
Okay. All right. We gotta wrap this shit up. We been taking the move. It's supposed to be an hour.
D
You know what?
C
Just.
D
Just out of season. We'll be the new.
A
All right, question number two. This one's a little long. Hey, lexandrea. Okay, so my question is, should I tell my friend her man is cheating? Before y'all quickly answer, I need y'all to know the backstory. Typically, I am a snitch on your nigga kind of girl. I even have snitched on this same nigga. The reason I'm hesitant, all right, It's.
C
A Tyler Perry movie.
B
Well, at this point, I mean, I'm gonna let you read the rest of the question. But at this point she just wanna stop.
A
She done that scenario that we was talking about earlier. She ain't finna leave, but let's keep reading.
D
Yeah.
A
The reason I'm hesitant now is because I've confided in this friend before and she can't hold water. I've come to realize my secrets are not safe with her. We've been friends since middle school and I still enjoy the other parts of our friendship, like going out talking business. But she's no longer a go to for serious things that happened in my life because the girl spills it all. I found out her man was cheating because he was reaching out to a homegirl of mine. That is a mutual friend and I haven't said anything to her about it. It's been a minute since I found out and regular me feels like I should tell her, but the been there before me is telling me I should mind my business.
C
There it is.
A
What I'm trying to do is avoid saying something and then she goes back saying I told her. And then it gets messy because of how I found out. I want her to know because I know she would want to know. But I don't want no backsplash on me. And knowing she is not the type to keep it private. I haven't said anything. But now I feel like a fake friend because girls is supposed to look out for other girls at the same time. We are both well into our 30s and she has been with this man for the last 12 years. It's set in stone that they will be together. So is it even worth saying anything? Are we too old for the drama at this point? At what point do I become a hating ass bitch for always spilling the tea on him? Should I just let them people be and go find me a man? Lmao. Help me.
B
You know, I don't know. It's giving. She rap like Shoddy Lowe.
A
Hello.
B
It ain't giving. You just need to leave that alone.
C
Yeah.
B
She ain't going nowhere.
A
12 years and you've told her before.
C
Yeah.
A
Let me tell you something.
C
Bring it up.
B
I'm a girls girl.
D
I am.
A
And I know girls. Girls get a bad rep. But let me tell you something. If I see your man doing something, I'm telling you, and I don't care how you move according to that situation, let me know how I move forward. Cause I've been in this situation before.
D
Mm.
A
And I've had to tell a friend, hey, all right. Now she didn't do nothing and he did it again. I was like, okay, she don't care, so neither do I.
D
Right?
B
And that's how I'm standing up. How you doing, nigga? What's up?
A
Your name is Girl, you wanna stop?
C
Yeah.
A
After that, black bitch don't care, so why should I?
C
It could be in an open relationship. You gotta look at it like that.
A
Oh, my God.
C
Yeah, exactly.
D
You know, maybe they should be. Yeah, yeah. Maybe they should.
B
Being a poly.
D
There you go.
A
But a lot of times being poly relationships, and they. Girl don't know it. That's the problem.
B
I mean, that's true. But I feel like in that situation, she said she be telling on N, so I just feel like. I feel like that's where she wanna be. That's what a friend wanna be. And if that's what your friend wanna do, you just got to let people do what they want to do. Because at the end of the day, when they figure out when they're tired of a situation, people know when they have their breaking point, and they know when they tired. When she tired, she gonna leave.
D
Yeah.
A
Have y'all. Y'all be snitching like, if y'all see y'all, man.
D
Like, if you see I'm only saying anything if you my one or my two, my sister or my best friend.
B
Okay?
D
Otherwise it's just like, ain't my business.
A
You only my business.
D
Like, so what about.
B
I be telling all of.
C
I'll be focused on work. So if we didn't know that outside of work. I don't understand anything outside of work. So if I can see it, I just don't understand what that is.
A
I'm gonna ask you this before we wrap it up. If you have a homeboy and you know he got a good girl and he dogging her out, are you gonna be like, come on, bro, like, you tripping.
C
That's the thing about me, though. I don't hang with N like that. So, like, all my homeboys, like, we all, like, we on the same energy, we on the same vibe, same frequency.
D
Would you want somebody to tell you if.
C
If what?
A
Like, if you was like, if they.
D
Had your girl, like, if you had and they seen your girl out like she was with somebody, would you want them to come back and be like, none of my business, but nah.
C
Yeah, yeah. They've done it before. Yeah, yeah, for sure.
A
Okay. And what if you had a good girl and you were fumbling? Would you want your homeboys to come.
C
To you, tell me that I'm messing up? Yeah. Hold me Accountable. Absolutely.
A
Okay.
C
Absolutely. Absolutely.
B
Okay. I'mma tell my friends every time. But I gotta have confirmation, though. Like, I gotta know for sure, because I'll never forget this story my mama told me. And she was like, when her and my dad first got together, my. One of my uncles was in the military, and he was letting her use his car while he was away. And so she picked him up from the airport in his car. And one of my dad's friends seen them in the car together and called my dad and was like, oh, I seen her at the airport with a whole time it was my uncle. And so luckily, my dad was the type of man he was like. Like, I don't want to hear that shit. I trust her. Like, I don't believe that. And then him and my mom had a conversation, and my mom was like, yeah, I was picking my brother up. And then the stories matched up and it made sense. So it's like, I'm only going to tell somebody something if I know for sure if I have confirmation, and I know for sure that you're cheating. Because sometimes I feel like people be overzealous to cause some drama and some tea and, like, be messy because they really, really be wanting it. Yeah, they want it to be that. Even if it ain't that, you know for sure.
C
So y'all talk about how good your man is to your friends. Is that a bad thing?
B
I don't think it's a bad thing because I feel like if you friends with the right women, they're not gonna try to your man.
C
Okay.
B
Or steal your man or even not. And if you got a good man, you ain't even gotta, like, even if your friend was grimy and tried to make it advance at your man, he ain't going.
D
He.
B
He going to tell you.
D
Yeah, yeah.
A
I'm my man.
D
My friend.
B
I don't think about.
A
I.
B
My man.
C
My sister told if somebody.
B
Y'all know if somebody was what? Cheating on me?
C
If somebody was, like, coming at your dude.
B
Coming. When you say coming at him, what do you mean? Like, do you mean him cheating or trying to, like, talk to him?
C
Talk to him?
B
I don't give a. About when you trying to talk to my man, cuz I trust my man enough to know, like, he's not going. Cuz if you going, you ain't.
C
Yeah, for me. Okay, cool, cool, cool.
D
Yeah, exactly.
A
I mean, and it be like the times that we in now, I done had a woman straight up hit on my dude in front of me. Literally was not giving A damn that I was there, but I'm just so. I'm just like, oh, that's cute. I was like, oh, she got the confidence. I like that. Keep pushing. Keep going.
C
You ain't say that. You was just chilling.
D
That's cute.
A
That's what.
D
Yeah.
C
What do you do? What are you doing that he just.
A
Like, he don't care. Cause he's just like, okay, okay. And it's funny because, like, his, like, his sister got more like, like, what we f to do S. I'm like, girl, she like, you handled that. Cuz me, I would have been. But it's like, at the end of the day, if he would have been going, that just shows me who he is.
D
Yeah.
B
I feel like going to do what they want to do regardless. You don't have no control over. You only have control over who you dealing with. And if it's the type of person that makes you have to get out of character and move like one, that ain't your person no way.
A
And some women and men get off on that. They get off on knowing, like, you belong to somebody else. But I got you for this moment. Yeah, they get off on that, for real. But you ain't.
B
Let me see if I can try to penetrate this.
A
You ain't gonna face nobody like me. You can have him, and then you gonna be mad trying to send this ex back. Okay, let's wrap this up, y'all. Okay? So let the people know where they can find y'all on social media, everything y'all got coming up. You know, talk about the power universe, all that good stuff.
B
And y'all were great guests. I had a great time.
D
Oh, my gosh. I had so much fun.
A
I don't even want it to eat.
D
I didn't want this to end.
C
We ain't got no more segments. This is it.
D
This the one.
A
We do got one more talking.
C
Let's get into it. We got time. We got time. Let's get into it.
A
We got. No, we do got it.
C
Okay.
B
She said yes.
A
We got to wrap. Look, we gots to wrap it up.
C
Oh, th said she got to call her man, Man.
A
No, we got.
B
I got places to be.
A
So, Alex, where can we find you at Austin?
D
Yes, you can find me on Instagram @thealextapri t h e A L I X L A P R I TikTok Alex LaPree. There's more TV. That's what I want to do. So I look forward to being on your screens very soon.
C
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Woody the great I know that's right. Yeah.
A
Working, working.
C
Focus on Catch me work. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I appreciate y'all.
D
For real, though, working his ass off. You're not even talking. Yeah.
A
Yes. Well, we look forward to seeing y'all. Y'all have done an amazing job.
B
Y'all have.
A
I'll tell y'all something. When somebody creates a universal. I just want to give y'all yalls flowers for a moment. Because power started off like something that we have never seen before. And the fact that y'all have kept the story going and kept us interested because some of the spinoffs wasn't as poppin, and that's no shade, but that's what happens. I mean, I'm a Grey's Anatomy Stan, but some of the Grey's Anatomy stings spinoffs didn't work. That's what happens. You gotta give trial and error. But the fact that had a spin off and it's been entertaining us, we have loved watching y'all on the screen, and we cannot wait to see what y'all do next.
B
Absolutely.
A
You know we gonna see you in them action movie roles. We know we gonna see you on the big screen. Yes, absolutely. Cause you focus on work. We know that work. But honestly, I just want to give y'all y'all flowers. Thank y'all so much for taking the time out to join us on this couch. Yes, absolutely. One of our favorite interviews. So.
B
And I'm a stand. I'm gonna keep watching the rest of the season. Cause I'm tuned in.
A
Dre, literally, I walked in her house this morning. This is no cap. I walked in her room. She was like, he ain't. Girl. You.
D
You, You.
A
You, actually. Because you know what?
C
You.
A
I don't want to reveal.
B
He ain't no.
A
People might not have caught up.
B
We can reveal it. Because at this point, I feel like if you watch the show, you would have seen this the first episode by now.
A
But, yeah, she. Oh, he ain't shit.
B
And I said, you ain't shit because you fucking that lady and then you trying to tell her character. But you know, I still care about you.
C
This man paid for her. I mean, he snuck into jail.
D
What that mean?
C
And she was like, get out of here. What you mean?
D
No, because listen.
B
I mean, you can still care about her. That's what we were talking about.
C
We had a great time. No, no, no. We gotta do the season finale. We should do, like, a something.
A
We should.
C
What y'all wanna do? Which I wanna do? Yeah, like a viewing. Like, a viewing Like, a viewing or something. Like, what we gonna do for the.
B
Last viewing for the season finale?
A
I know if you felt like, let's.
C
Pick a spot in the city and we can just kinda do it together.
B
And I was very upset at the end of the episode. I said, niggas ain't shit.
A
She was really. I'm like, sitting there in the corner, I'm like. She said, what have you.
D
I was like, oh, what?
A
What's going on?
C
I love it.
A
No, we need to do that.
C
Let's do it. Let's do it.
A
So let's do that. Like, we're gonna host it, right?
C
Let's do it.
A
Yeah, right here.
C
Let's put something together.
A
Like, yeah, we definitely gotta put something together.
C
I think we can do it. Find a spot out here.
B
Yeah. All right, so make sure y'all follow us on Patreon. Make sure y'all tune in every Friday. Make sure y'all subscribe. And yeah, make sure y'all shop musebeautycollection.com.
A
Y'All go shop that Muse beauty. We'll see y'all next week.
D
There we go.
A
Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content. Like. Like, subscribe. Follow all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out, y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P O U R underscore. M I n d S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page. Okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have have one Instagram, one Twitter, one Tik tok. It is P O U R M I n d S. All right?
B
And we got hella fake Facebook pages.
A
Oh, the Facebook pages.
B
It's the our face. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers.
A
So if you on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers.
B
The one that's not us got like 250,000 followers.
A
Fake. If you actually look at the content because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English because their captions are like, bumba.
B
Cl.
A
Should men. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes. No, check answer below.
B
Block, block. Like, that's literally what the captions I like.
A
You want that ddg, Bomba, Claude, Bomber, Claw. I love that video.
C
I just want to chill and twist the lot. Cat suns on my 745. You drive me crazy, shorty I need to see you and feel you next to me Life provide everything you need.
A
Okay like you're smiling I don't want.
C
To see you cry Got some questions that I gotta ask and I hope you can come up with the answers Babe.
A
Would you love me if I was down? Yeah and I would do still have love for me?
D
Girl, it's easy to love you love.
A
Me if I was down Would you still have love for me?
D
If I fell out Would you still love me if I didn't smell so good? Would you still hug me if I got locked up since 2 a quarter century could I kind of want you to be to disappoint me mentally?
C
Why back to the F Would you.
B
Poop and disappear like one of my friends? If I was hitting if I was.
C
Hitting I was hurt Would you whoa, whoa, whoa do it's time to put in work which you'll be down to ride I get out peel it, cap the chill and drive I'm asking questions to find out how you feel inside if I ain't rap cause I flip burgers at Burger King Would you be ashamed to tell your friends you feeling me in the bed? If I use my tongue Would you like that? If I wrote you a love letter Would you write back yeah on night.
A
Couch I know you like that girl if you didn't let me know now.
C
Yeah.
D
Would you still have love for me? Girl, it's easy to love me now Would you love me if I was down and out? Would you still have love for me?
A
Would you love me in the bed land? Come on, choir. Would you love me in above? Yes. Ask 21 questions. You know you watching 50T?
C
You know, man. Karaoke king. Karaoke King.
B
What's our group name? We need a group name.
D
Our group name is I Focus on Work.
A
I Focus on Work.
C
Focus on Work.
B
It is Woody in the works.
C
Works is crazy.
D
Oh, my God.
Pour Minds Podcast - Episode Summary: "Mighty Manual" ft. Woody McClain & Alix LaPri
Podcast Information:
The episode welcomes Woody McClain and Alix LaPri, both renowned for their roles in Power Book 2: Ghost. Lex and Dre express excitement about having them on the show, emphasizing the authenticity and professionalism of their guests.
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Lex and Dre delve into the pressures actors face regarding their on-screen appearance versus their real-life selves. They discuss the prevalence of filters and facades in the digital age and appreciate authenticity in person.
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The conversation shifts to Woody and Alix's experiences working on the Power series, particularly their collaboration with 50 Cent. They highlight 50 Cent's business acumen, mentorship, and commitment to elevating others within the industry.
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Woody and Alix explore the emotional demands of their roles, discussing how deeply they connect with their characters. They touch upon method acting, emotional vulnerability, and the challenges of maintaining personal boundaries while embodying their on-screen personas.
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As the Power series concludes, Woody and Alix discuss their aspirations beyond the show. They express interest in diverse roles, including action movies and on-screen projects, highlighting their commitment to expanding their acting portfolios.
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A significant portion of the episode focuses on relationships, addressing themes such as communication breakdowns, trust issues, and the importance of emotional intelligence. Lex and Dre, along with their guests, share personal anecdotes and offer advice on navigating complex romantic scenarios.
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The hosts and guests discuss the intricacies of maintaining professional boundaries while forming personal connections on set. They highlight the importance of mutual respect, clear communication, and understanding each other's comfort levels to ensure a harmonious working environment.
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Towards the latter part of the episode, the conversation shifts to music. Lex, Dre, Woody, and Alix share their favorite tracks, discuss emerging artists, and explore the influence of music on their personal lives and relationships.
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The episode incorporates interactive segments where the hosts and guests engage in games like "Drop the Line" and "The Bop of the Week." They also address audience questions, offering personalized advice and fostering a sense of community among listeners.
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Throughout the episode, Lex and Dre seamlessly integrate promotions for their sponsors, upcoming events, and new content offerings, ensuring the episode remains informative and engaging without disrupting the natural flow of conversation.
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The "Mighty Manual" episode of Pour Minds Podcast offers a deep dive into the lives and careers of Woody McClain and Alix LaPri, blending discussions on beauty standards, relationship dynamics, and the emotional challenges of acting with interactive and engaging segments. Lex and Dre foster an environment of authenticity and support, providing listeners with valuable insights and relatable conversations.
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This comprehensive summary encapsulates the essence of the "Mighty Manual" episode, highlighting the key discussions, insights, and memorable moments shared by the hosts and their esteemed guests. Whether you're a fan of Power, interested in relationship advice, or simply seeking engaging conversations over wine, this episode delivers on all fronts.