Pour Minds Podcast — "My Lil Valentine" (Feb 13, 2026)

Hosts: Lex P & Drea Nicole

Episode Overview

This episode is a Valentine’s Day-themed conversation between co-hosts Lex P and Drea Nicole, two single Houstonians living in Atlanta. They blend comedic storytelling and candid opinions about love, dating, self-care, and friendship—all with their signature wine-infused, unfiltered energy. The discussion covers Valentine’s Day dos and don’ts, thoughtful gifting, social etiquette with kids, wild skin care trends (semen facials, anyone?), and more, concluding with listener advice and their playful musical sign-off.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Solo Episode Vibes and Audience Requests

• The hosts embrace their solo-episode format, joking about past guests and the potential for a fan-featured episode—but worry about fans getting too nervous in front of the camera.
  • “We ain't got no guests today.” (03:39, Lex P)

2. Fashion Talk: Burgundy, Neutrals, and Timeless Pieces

• Drea and Lex discuss their love of burgundy in fashion, despite TikTok saying the color is “tired.”
• They reminisce about American Apparel’s quality ("I've had these pants for 10 years!” – 09:11, Drea Nicole) and diss fast fashion (like Fashion Nova) for its lack of durability.

3. Valentine’s Day Traditions, Etiquette, and Relationship Boundaries

A. Child-Focused Etiquette in Public

• They react to a viral TikTok where a mom is angry someone didn’t wave back at her child.
  • Lex: “Not everybody likes kids. If I don't wanna wave at your baby, I'm not gonna wave at your baby.” (12:16)
  • Drea adds it's not that deep—babies forget and don’t care; it's mostly about the parent's hurt feelings.

B. Valentine’s Day 'No-Nos' — Things You Should NOT Do

• The hosts discuss relationship deal-breakers and cringe-worthy Valentine’s Day moves:
  1. Oversized Stuffed Animals: Cute when younger but now just in the way. (19:05)
     • “I don't want no big ass bear. That's the same size as my n***.”* (19:05, Drea)
  2. Holiday Proposals: Don’t propose on V-Day, birthday, or other holidays—it’s predictable and not truly personal.
     • “I want it to be my day. A special day that's about me, not about nothing else.” (26:58, Drea)
  3. Forgetting Valentine's Day: Unforgivable—even a small gesture matters.
     • “If you don't do nothing for Valentine's Day, that's grounds for a breakup.” (35:11, Lex)
  4. Group V-Day Dates: Fun idea for established couples—not a yearly thing, but nice for variety. (29:27)

C. Thoughtfulness Over Expense

• Meaningful gestures (like a handwritten letter) always trump flashy gifts.
  • “Being thoughtful on Valentine's Day can honestly be cheap as hell.” (35:11, Lex)

4. Game Segment: "He Could Fold Me Up?"

The hosts joke about different archetypal men and whether they’d let them "fold them up" (i.e., date/hook up).

A. The 'Doesn’t Celebrate Holidays' Guy

• Both agree: Absolutely not.
  • “People who try to be too woke about holidays? You're just being lazy.” (38:34, Lex)

B. The “Pop-Up on Valentine’s” Guy

• Scenario: A guy you haven’t spoken to suddenly resurfaces for a V-Day hookup.
  • Lex is open if she’s single: “If somebody hit me up from the past and we can have a little rendezvous, that’s fine.” (43:41)
  • Drea: Only if you can keep him from getting clingy. (44:12)

C. The 'Hood Romantic'

• Buys you flowers from the guy on the corner, calls you “My lil valentine.”
  • Lex isn’t into “hood guys.” Drea admits she used to like them—“A reformed one!” (51:15)

D. The 'Thoughtful Gift Giver'

• Thoughtful, remembers tiny details, plans ahead: both enthusiastic YES.
  • “Fold me up. Being thoughtful will get you so far.” (54:20, Lex)

5. Valentine’s Day Cocktails

• Drea shares her "Sweetest Sin" cocktail recipe: Crown Royal, Campari, pineapple/lime juice, pineberry syrup, with hibiscus and rose petals. (36:40)

6. Wild Self-Care: Semen Facials & Vabbing

• The hosts respond to a viral "My Strange Addiction" clip of a woman using her husband's sperm as daily skincare.
  • Both are disgusted— and note the woman's skin wasn’t even clear.
    • “You rubbing battery acid on your face.” (59:28, Lex)
  • Discusses "vabbing": using vaginal fluids as perfume—again, they're grossed out.
    • “Just get you some La Vie Est Belle and call it a day.” (61:32, Lex)

7. Listener Advice: 'Pour Your Heart Out'

• Listener feels uncertain if she should address her undefined situationship before Valentine’s Day.

  • Lex: Let the day pass, observe his actions for clarity.
    • “What he does on Valentine’s Day is gonna give you the clarity that you need.” (77:48)
  • Drea: Maybe mention your availability, see if he makes plans, and always have a backup. (78:43)

• Voicemail: A woman asks for advice after a man wants a threesome with her friend, then asks how the friend would feel about “fucking with him.”

  • Lex: “Cut him off. When he met the friend, he only included you to be nice—he wanted her.” (80:28)
  • Drea: “That's wild. Let that go.” (81:21)

8. Bop of the Week: Music Recs

• Lex: “Choosing Texas” by Ella Langley
• Drea: “Rain Dance” by Dave & Tems
• Both discuss recent faves and gym music.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Oversized Valentine Bears:

  • “I don't want no big ass bear that’s the same size as my n***. Where the n**** gonna be at?”* — Drea Nicole (19:05)

• On Thoughtful Gift-Giving:

  • “Being thoughtful on Valentine's Day can honestly be cheap as hell.” — Lex P (35:11)
  • “I need the romance. I need all the things.” — Drea Nicole (55:42)

• On Social Media Critics:

  • “It always be the people with the most opinions, and then you look at their page, and you be like, oh, okay.” — Drea Nicole (07:19)

• On Self-Care Trends:

  • “She got the wrong n***. She rubbing battery acid on her face.”* — Lex P (59:28)
  • “Why are you using nut for your skin?” — Drea Nicole (62:40)

• On Men Who Don’t Celebrate Holidays:

  • “Ask him if he celebrates his birthday, and more than likely, a man will be like, ‘I don’t really care about my birthday.’ He don’t care about nothing.” — Lex P (39:51)

• On Relationship Clarity:

  • “What he does on Valentine’s Day is gonna give you the clarity that you need.” — Lex P (77:48)
  • “Ain’t nothing wrong with knowing a little early and cutting your losses early.” — Drea Nicole (79:21)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Solo Episode Opener – 03:29
• Burgundy Fashion Discussion – 06:48
• American Apparel Nostalgia – 09:20
• Valentine’s Day Plans – 11:08
• Social Etiquette with Kids – 12:15
• V-Day No-Nos/Breakup-worthy Moves – 18:16
• Oversized Bears Debate – 19:00
• Proposals Debate – 26:29
• Thoughtful Gifting Talk – 54:10
• Valentine’s Day Cocktails Segment – 36:40
• Wild Skincare Trends (Semen Facials/Vabbing) – 58:29
• Listener Advice: Undefined Relationship Before V-Day – 76:37
• Voice Mail: Threesome with Friend – 80:00
• Music Bops of the Week – 66:08

Tone & Style

• Lighthearted, candid, and irreverent
• Mix of humor, real talk, and storytelling
• Southern/African-American vernacular and slang
• Comfortably switches between jokes and solid relationship advice

Summary for Non-Listeners

This Pour Minds episode is the epitome of witty, unfiltered “drunk therapy.” Drea and Lex break down Valentine’s Day pitfalls from oversized teddy bears to awkward “pop-up” hookups, share genuine insights about thoughtful partnership, and roast questionable wellness trends—all with plenty of laughs. They highlight what's truly important in relationships (thoughtfulness, consistency, communication), and their advice, while fun and playful, is surprisingly wise. From fashion and dating to wild viral trends, the conversation stays entertaining and relatable throughout.

Whether you’re single, boo’d up, or somewhere in between, this is a hilarious and surprisingly heartfelt guide to surviving Valentine’s Day, embracing self-love, and keeping your standards high.