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Lex P
There was a woman, 62 years old. Her name is Stephanie Brinson. Her husband has been in jail since, like, the 90s. She went to visit him. Conjugal visit. So when they do these conjugal visits, they get like 30 to 40 hours in these, like, apartment style things. Hours. Yeah, they can stay there for like, a whole day, you know, if they're. If you're married. So she. I mean, this is her husband. She went to visit that man. He's like, hey, my wife passed out. You know, something's going on. So they're like, oh, my gosh. You know, they. And she passed away. They don't know. They did an autopsy. That man strangled her. Why don't. Cuz he's a murderer. And that's what they do. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's.
Drea Nicole
Your girl Dre and Nicole.
Lex P
And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind, where a drunk.
Drea Nicole
Mind speaks sober thoughts.
Lex P
We got some guests today.
Drea Nicole
We got some guests today.
Lex P
Okay, y'all. So first of all, it's very rare that we have two guests sitting on the couch with us. Okay? So I just wanna say I am so excited to share my platform with these beautiful women today. I have been trying to facilitate this link up for a long time, but y'all know me. I don't be remembering what I did yesterday. So we finally made it happen. And we have the one, the only, the beautiful Mara and Taz from Sisters who Kill podcast.
Drea Nicole
Yay.
Lex P
Thank y'all so much for joining us.
Drea Nicole
Thank you for coming. I'm excited for this episode.
Lex P
Yes. I said one thing that I wanted to make sure that me and Dre is share our platform with other women in this space. Because I feel like I hate when people say, oh, take the mics away. Take the mics away. No, we need to get more. It's not enough of us in this space, Truly. I don't feel like it's enough of us in this space. And then I hate when people complain about, oh, this is what y'all talk about. I'm like, there's so many different genre of podcasting out here.
Drea Nicole
Y'all just not looking.
Lex P
Y'all just not looking.
Drea Nicole
I agree with that for sure. And then y'all are best friends. We love having best friends. Besties on the coast.
Lex P
Have we ever had besties on the coast?
Drea Nicole
I think we have before. I'm trying to think.
Lex P
I think.
Drea Nicole
Well, I guess I was thinking about cocktails.
Lex P
Yeah, they not best friends.
Drea Nicole
They Friends, though.
Lex P
Okay. Yeah.
Drea Nicole
But anyways, you know I love having friends on the couch. Shall I say.
Lex P
We love Kiki and Medina?
Drea Nicole
Let's just say I love having friends on the couch. But y'all happen to be besties, Just. So could y'all tell us a little bit about how y'all met and how y'all decided to start a true crime podcast?
Mara
How we met. Mariah and I went to high school together.
Taz
Okay. And we didn't like each other. Cause Taz was trying to steal my man.
Mara
That's the story that she now spilled the tea.
Lex P
I know that's right.
Drea Nicole
Taz was trying to steal her man.
Lex P
Girl.
Taz
No.
Mara
I had been going to that school since 9th grade, but Mariah didn't get there until 10th grade. And in 9th grade, I had made a best friend.
Drea Nicole
Okay.
Mara
And then she started dating my best friend.
Taz
And I was trying to figure out who this girl was that was always hanging out with my man.
Mara
We already have a year in a game like he.
Lex P
Right.
Mara
This was a.
Lex P
So y'all were platonic friends?
Taz
Correct.
Lex P
Okay. Didn't like him, though.
Taz
No.
Lex P
Not even a little bit.
Mara
I did, but I knew what I.
Taz
Do, and I'm doing. This is your first time admitting this?
Mara
Well, I don't know that you've ever asked me, but I think there's always probably been. There was something there, but I never wanted to go there because I didn't want to ruin the friendship.
Lex P
I love ruining the friendship.
Taz
He had a friendship on his own.
Lex P
Right.
Mara
And then ruins the friendship on his own.
Taz
So, okay, so we weren't friends at first, but high school, like, I was. I was kind of the new kid on the block. I made some friends that actually weren't really cool, and it was a lot of drama. And then one day, Taz came up to me when we were in class together. She said, I know we're not cool like that, but them girls is not your friends.
Drea Nicole
Yeah.
Taz
They are talking about you right now. And I was like, what?
Drea Nicole
And she was like, we love a real.
Taz
She was like, I know we not cool, but like I said, I know.
Mara
Your business, and I should not.
Taz
Yeah. She was like, I know your business, and I should not because we not cool.
Lex P
Right.
Taz
And then ever since then, I was like, you a real.
Lex P
So I love that. Okay, so what made y'all get into, like, the true crime stuff?
Mara
I think Mariah has been telling me we need to start a podcast since probably 2014.
Drea Nicole
So you the leagues.
Mara
Yeah.
Drea Nicole
She was like, we need to start a podcast.
Taz
I think we're interested.
Lex P
He's so funny, bitch.
Taz
I was like, we're so interested.
Lex P
Yeah.
Taz
That was, to me, like, we be on the phone for hours. People should pay to hear this, right?
Drea Nicole
Yeah. This needs to be documented.
Mara
Well, we couldn't find it. And then a pandemic hit, and Mariah was doordashing, and she was listening to a lot of true crime while doordashing, like, podcasts. And I was watching documentaries like, Unabomber everything. And so, you know, usually during the day, you talk about what you've been doing, but ain't nobody doing nothing in the pandemic. So we was talking about, oh, this the case I heard. This the case I heard. And we was like, you know what? This is it.
Drea Nicole
Yeah.
Mara
This is the podcast.
Lex P
So let me ask y'all this, because I am really. I'm deep in the true crime streets. Okay. But so what I've realized, being a fan of, like, true crime stuff, is that you really have to be careful on how you report these stories, because you have to remember, although it is entertainment for some people, they're still victims. They're still families. So how do y'all go about, like, choosing which stories to talk about, which ones to not? When do you know to kind of, like, you can laugh and make a joke when not. Like, how do y'all get in that territory?
Taz
I think we told the line about when to laugh and when not, and I think we do that really well. But we've honestly, we've made mistakes. Like, we've talked about a case where it was too soon, and somebody reached out and was like, hey, so we just put them in the ground, not tell this story. And I think because we were so caught up in the fact that, like, it's a hot story, everybody's talking about it on TikTok right now. We need to tell this story. We've definitely made those mistakes. And also, all of our cases are about black women.
Lex P
Right.
Taz
And so it's very hard because the media does not represent black women in the best light, no matter what.
Lex P
Right, Right.
Taz
So it takes a lot for us to take the information that's available and then kind of pick apart what part is the media sensationalizing, which part is, like, her real life?
Lex P
So, yeah, have y'all ever, like, delete an episode or something because, like, it was just becoming too much drama around it or anything?
Mara
I don't think anything's ever became too much drama.
Lex P
Right.
Mara
The next week, another episode drop.
Lex P
That's how we be feeling, too. They'd be like, they'll forget about it, y'all.
Drea Nicole
No, we done deleted the episode before.
Lex P
But that was in the beginning. Okay. I had to delete some a few times. Right, right, right. Okay. So y'all have been doing the podcast since, what, 2021. 2021. So do y'all feel like being black women in this space? Are there a lot of other black people in the true crime genre?
Mara
Absolutely.
Lex P
There. There is.
Taz
There are.
Mara
I say majority of our. Our fan base is black women.
Lex P
Really?
Taz
And so they listen to other podcasts that represent them.
Lex P
Okay.
Taz
I dare say we're one of the larger ones, but, you know, y'all are for sure. But they definitely exist. Like, there are some smaller ones that do cases that we haven't done yet that I still listen to them and get some. Use them as sources so they exist. But I think everybody's style is different. Everybody's research is different. Some people just watch for my man and they report just for my man Taz. And I take a lot of time to deep dive and pull records and interview people if they're available, read books if they're available. So everybody's research and their style is different.
Lex P
Right. So is there a lot of drama in the true crime podcast world? Like, oh, they got this from my podcast and they, you know, they stole this information. Cuz in our podcast genre, it's always people beefed up and fighting.
Mara
I wouldn't say a lot, but I'm not going to say that it's never happened.
Lex P
Right, right, right.
Mara
Like I would say, even we've had.
Taz
To set the record straight once or twice.
Mara
A couple of weeks ago, somebody in the discussion group made a comment saying, oh, not my two favorite black true crime podcasts doing the same case in the same week.
Drea Nicole
Oh.
Mara
And she was like, that was disappointing. But I'm gonna listen anyways. I was kind of feeling away about it.
Taz
Listen, this is what I said. We have so much going on and we do so much research. I promise you, I'm not calling the next podcast and saying, hey, what episod are you dropping this week?
Lex P
Right?
Taz
Oh, yeah, we're thinking about dropping this one too. And then no shade, no tea. That's not a podcast that I listen to because I listen to a lot of true crime as well. I said. I just. I was like, do, do, do, do. I pulled up their episode. Their episode's an hour. Ours is two. It took us three weeks to research this episode, where it usually takes us a week to research. I was like, leave me alone. And then we've had some times where fans of two different podcasts will try to put us against each other. So we've had somebody call us up and be like, so we heard that in your discussion group, your fans are saying this and you allowing them to say this. And I was like, hold on, wait.
Lex P
Oh, we be going down.
Taz
I promise. I don't. I can't. I'm not going to police grown folks.
Drea Nicole
Yeah.
Taz
Promise. I'm not. So it's been drama, but I can't say it's frequent. It's not.
Lex P
It's not frequent. Okay.
Taz
Everybody tries to stay in their own lane.
Lex P
Right? Right.
Drea Nicole
How do y'all stop y'all selves from becoming paranoid? Cuz that's my thing with true crime. I feel like if I watch it all the time, I start to become paranoid. And I feel like people are just out to get me. Me. Like, I don't even want to keep that strap, girl. But Exactly. So it's like with y'all doing all of this research and watching so many documentaries, reading so many books all the time, how do you stop yourself from not being paranoid every time you leave your house?
Taz
Keep that strap.
Drea Nicole
Was for real.
Lex P
Keep that str.
Mara
I don't know. I feel like. And my. My sisters, like, there's one sister. I can't. I have to ask permission to tell her about a case. Like, just to see if she can hold it. The other one would be like, I don't know how you do this scary stuff. And I was like, it's not scary. It's just a story. Like, it don't.
Lex P
It don't affect you much.
Drea Nicole
No, but it happened, though.
Lex P
Yeah. Yeah.
Drea Nicole
It would be different if it was fiction, but it's like, no, this shit really be happening.
Taz
The scariest parts of the thing are the cases where they unalive somebody random.
Drea Nicole
Yeah.
Taz
Like, I can make. I can keep myself out of situations. Like, I am going to make sure that my insurance policies are in people that I really trust. I'm going to make sure that my friends around me are people that I can really trust. If I feel like I'm getting into a heated situation, I'm going to probably just go to the car and get away from it. But it's. The scary ones are definitely the people that you don't know. And I don't know.
Mara
You know what else I think? I think I've always been scared of something. Like, my biggest fear growing up was being kidnapped.
Drea Nicole
Like, girl, me too.
Mara
I used to sleep in the middle of my sister. So if they came from either side, they would get somebody first not to upset them up.
Drea Nicole
I feel like as soon as I became self aware, there was a fear of mine all the time.
Mara
I feel like I've always had this mindset, so I don't feel, like, paranoia, like, for the cases, I'm already on the lookout.
Lex P
But I think it was a good point in saying, like, most of the cases, though, because I used to be that way, too. Like, oh, my gosh, this is scaring me. This is scaring me. But most of the cases are. It's by loved ones. It's by people that they know. You know what I'm saying? Like, random crimes do happen, but most of the time when we're hearing these horrific stories of things happening to people, it's by somebody that they know. So I think that's terrifying. You know, that's a good point that you made. You making sure that you're surrounded by, you know, good people that, you know. I mean, obviously these people didn't know that, you know, their best friend or their husband was a murderer or something like that. But that's what I think. Like, kind of doesn't make me so paranoid when I deep dive into these stories. And I think sometimes, too, it helps me kind of like, okay, this is a red flag. So I can notice this in somebody. Like, if you acting a little funny, you all of a sudden talking about.
Drea Nicole
It to watch your ass.
Lex P
Yeah, yeah. You know what I'm saying? Something going down? What's going down?
Drea Nicole
No. Yeah, you right. Because I was definitely doing my research, and I was looking at y'all page, and you was talking about some lady. This is, like, from a year ago.
Lex P
Okay.
Drea Nicole
She was talking about some lady named Willa or something like that, and she. And she killed that old white man. And I'm like, she was really staking the place. Like, she was really preying on this man. She did not know him. She didn't know nothing about him. Found out he had a whole bunch of money, and then you just decided, I'm just gonna kidnap this man and unalive him.
Taz
But you know what? That man was paranoid. And that was like, nope. Because he was a little old man. He's like. He was. This woman is staking my house.
Lex P
Yeah.
Taz
Nobody was listening to him. And that man was trying to tell people, and it was because he had, like, a pen pal that he wrote to that he sent. Cause, you know, all white men send emails to their pen pals, and they stopped getting their pen pal letters, and they Started knowing to look for him. And he was saying, there's this lady that just keeps popping up in my house and don't know.
Drea Nicole
And he was on to something, too. Cause that bitch took him out the game.
Lex P
The first story I saw that y'all had that I really fell in love with y'all was, damn, what's that lady name? She was the wife of the NBA. Shara Robinson.
Taz
Shara Wright Robinson.
Lex P
Yes. Yes. That was like. Cause I remember when. I don't remember when it happened, because obviously I was a teeny tot, but I just remember the story just being, like, everywhere. And it was just so, like, insane. And I'll say. And now I do have a question. Cause you said it takes. Cause y'all got really into some details. And I think one thing about these true crime stories, especially when they're popular, is we're pretty much hearing the same story over and over and over again. Like, I'm sorry, I don't need to hear about JonBenet Ramsey anymore.
Drea Nicole
We done heard it all.
Lex P
We have heard every single version, every single conspiracy theory. So what approach do y'all take when it's a story that's so big that people have been talking about? And you can like, okay, well, we have something different to offer y'all with this story. Especially with a story with, like, Shira.
Taz
Sometimes I think it's Shir, like, naivete. Like, I don't really know much about sports ball. So, like, I honestly didn't know that story as much. So I kind of went into it very curious. So. And that helps us have a different perspective. We have a couple of cases like that that are super popular, that some I've heard of before, and then some of them, I'm fresh to it, and I'm like, oh, my gosh, I'm so happy. I have all of this information so I can consume. And I'm in that week. I'm dedicated to consuming it. But usually it's just having a clear.
Lex P
Mind going into it.
Mara
I think it's also just knowing that even if somebody's heard the case, they've never heard it how we tell it.
Lex P
Right.
Mara
You know what I mean? Like, we approached this when we were building a format for the show. I was like, I want it to be these phone conversations. So nobody is telling it this relaxed. Nobody is going off on tangents where they're relating and you start to sympathize with them. Nobody's telling it in that perspective. So I think even. Even if we did tell JonBenet Ramsey. We'd have that other perspective that nobody else is talking about or afraid to mention because we're toeing closer to that line.
Lex P
Right.
Mara
Because we're being more relaxed about it.
Drea Nicole
Right, Right.
Taz
Like, if we told that case, I know I'd be like. And we all know that it was the brother.
Lex P
You know what I mean? Right.
Taz
And we'd go into it a little bit different, and everybody usually, like a lot of true crime cases or storytellers, black, white, indifferent, whatever, they usually start with. And we open our scene, and it's a murder. Now we're gonna go back and we're like, no, no, no. Let's start with her. Let's tell her entire life.
Mara
Let's really get to know her before we start judging, you know, before we.
Taz
Get to the crime. So by the time we get to the crime, you're either like, she was set up from the start, or it's like, this bitch really just decided she.
Mara
Had it made and threw it all away.
Lex P
Yeah. So y'all start from the beginning. Beginning with it.
Drea Nicole
And another thing that I feel like really separates y too. It's like how y'all highlight the difference between how black women and white women are treated in. I mean, with, you know, the justice system. Because I feel like that's something that a lot of other podcasts don't do in the true crime space.
Taz
Yeah.
Lex P
I feel like, to piggyback, because I remember, like, of course, everybody know the. The what's her name? Jody Aria story. And I mean, everybody knew she was a monster and xyz. But it's like when she went in jail, now she's, like, writing books. Her books be sold out. Like, men be writing her, and they just sensationalize it. Like, she's a celebrity. And it's so crazy to me because it's never. And I'm not saying that a black woman deserves that, because at the end of the day, they're still, you know, murderers.
Drea Nicole
But it happened with so many white people. Like Wendy.
Lex P
Yes, yes. It's like they get turned into, like, Beyonce and Jay Z or something. You know what I'm saying?
Taz
And you don't see that.
Drea Nicole
The Menendez brothers.
Lex P
Yeah.
Taz
You don't see that with black women. Like, we're trying to research a case right now, and she has a book, and I can find the title of the book. I can see the COVID of the book. I cannot find that book anywhere. And it's like. But I can find. I can find any white murderess's book in on Amazon. But I can't find her book anywhere, anywhere. And I'm like, I want to hear her side of the story so that I can properly tell the story or get details that don't exist. And it's very, very difficult.
Lex P
The girl, I think her name was Cyntoia Brown. When she had killed that guy and everybody was just like, she needs to be in jail. At the end of the day, she killed somebody, but it was like she was a victim. Yeah, she was being trafficked, like, 100% a victim. But then you look on the other side of. What was the lady's name, y'all? I'm really bad with names. The movie monster that Charlize Theron.
Drea Nicole
Oh, wasn't it. What was her name? Oh, I know who you talking about. I can't remember the lady name either.
Lex P
Like, Google the movie monster, see what the lady name was. But it was. She had the. Basically the same story. And I mean, people were protesting, they were up in arms about, you know, her getting, you know, being arrested, and she had killed multiple men. It was like she was on the wrong. What's her name? Shay?
Drea Nicole
It was Wisher.
Lex P
Eileen Wuornos. Yeah, that's her name. Eileen Wuornos. But I feel like they kind of had the same story, and it was just like they. I mean, everybody was on her side, like, oh, she's a victim. She's a victim. This and that. But it's like in her story, after a while, she started hunting these men. Yeah, she was hunting them, literally. And people were still protesting her. And in Cyntoia's case, she was literally defending herself. So I always think it's crazy how black women are treated versus, you know, white women in these stories. But that kind of brings us to our first topic that we want to talk about today, because we wanna talk about, like, when black women go missing. So we wanna talk about it from more of a victim standpoint. You know, it's kinda like, who cares? I think this was a point that was brought up recently with the Gabby Petito story. I mean, it was everywhere. You couldn't get on Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Facebook. And it's so many black women that. That's their same story. You know, they go missing due to their partner or somebody, their father or whatever, mother, anything. And they call it the missing white woman syndrome. Like, is it real? Do y'all think media is finally starting to change or is it kind of still the same when it comes to white women victims versus black women?
Mara
It's absolutely real.
Lex P
Yeah.
Mara
Yeah. Like, I think it takes so much effort to even try and get people to. To care about black stories in general, and especially black girls. There's always a reason to turn it on their fault. They're over sexualized at a young age because their bodies develop faster. So then it turns to them being grown or the boy was a thug. Like, there's always an excuse to why the black person doesn't deserve justice. And white people always kind of get that benefit of the doubt. Like, oh, well, he just needs mental issues. He needs help. You know what I'm saying? But nobody's offering that help or those resources to the black people or even that sympathy until it's absolutely a thing.
Lex P
And I know this might be a little. Y'all gonna be, but I think that's the same thing with R. Kelly. What? The fact that people are just always like, free him. His music is just too good. Y'all gonna sit up here and say that R. Kelly not let at the end of the day, look at his crimes.
Taz
I cannot separate the art from the artist. I can't do that.
Lex P
I can. Depending on what it is. Like, if it's just because, like. Like, for example, Cynthia Erivo. Okay, y'all feel some way because she took that lady from that other lady. Whatever. That ain't. You know, I got other problems with Cynthia Revo. That's all right.
Drea Nicole
I think people have a lot of food with her outside of her taking.
Lex P
I'm just using that for the people who use that for an example, not her African American comments. But I'm just saying, even for Ariana Grande, if people don't like stuff like that is like, okay, whatever. But if it's like something as serious as the crimes that R. Kelly did, that hurt people. Yeah. That literally has victims, women crying and saying how this has affected their entire lives. And it's always like she said, oh, they were fast. They went out looking for him.
Taz
And you know that the R. Kelly case is honestly so triggering for me because he knew exactly. He had a victim profile just like a murderer. He was looking for young black women that were estranged from their families that wanted to. That wanted to have a musical career.
Lex P
Right.
Taz
And I just think about myself like I was estranged from my family, fresh into college at hbcu, really wanted to get my career off the ground. And I'm like, wow. Like, I fit his victim profile.
Drea Nicole
Like, it.
Taz
That one. That's the one where it's like that one hit so close to home that I think I watched the first documentary when the Other ones came out. I was like, I just literally can't. Because people don't realize that just because it's not murder doesn't mean that it wasn't a crime.
Drea Nicole
Right.
Taz
It's a serious crime. So, yeah, it's hard.
Drea Nicole
It's very cringy online. When people get online and they like, I don't care what R. Kelly did. I'm still gonna listen to his music. You sound crazy as fuck. Because if this was your daughter, your niece, your sister, you will be raised in hell. But because it doesn't affect you, you don't care. Oh, let's steal this. Let's step in the name of love. Like, no.
Lex P
Yeah. So I think every now and then we do have a case that kind of. The case of Naziyah Harris.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, I was just thinking about that too.
Lex P
Yeah. Cause that's what I was really like. I had got so caught up in this case in January of this year. So Nazi, if y'all don't know, Nazi Harris was a 13 year old girl who was allegedly murdered by her aunt's boyfriend. And they had a sexual relationship between them two. She had allegedly gotten pregnant. He found out and, you know, he.
Drea Nicole
She went missing.
Lex P
She went missing. And I think sometimes now I do like the fact I feel like TikTok has kind of changed things a little bit. A little bit. Okay. And I'll tell you why. Because I feel like a lot of times these stories, like, I'm not gonna lie. Did I turn on the TV and see Nazih story? No. But I was able to get on TikTok because now we are in a time where people don't really go to, like, we don't have like the Nancy Grace anymore, you know? Nancy Grace. Every time he turned on the tv, she was on. What was that lady name that killed her daughter?
Taz
Jody.
Lex P
Not Jody. I can't remember her name. Casey. But her daughter was. But she was on her ass every day without letting up. We don't really have that anymore. So I can say it's a lot of Tick Tock creators who do true crime and they specifically focus on black victims, especially young black girl victims. So I feel like TikTok really helped get her story out there and that's why a lot of people started talking about it and it ended up being on Court TV and stuff like that. Yeah. So do y'all kind of feel like. Like TikTok helps or hinders things?
Mara
I would say. I think. I think Tick Tock is. It's the Google.
Lex P
Yeah.
Mara
But, like, it definitely Gives a way to. For people to push their stuff out there in a much bigger sense than we had the ability to do in the 90s, even the early 2000. Like MySpace, even if you make a post, it's only going to your friends. TikTok has the opportunity to go virals and stuff, so it's definitely a resource.
Lex P
Yeah, yeah.
Mara
We didn't have back then.
Drea Nicole
I mean, I feel like you. We have to put it out there, because if we don't, nobody else is. I remember I was reading an article. This was actually a few years ago, so the numbers have probably changed now. But I remember I was reading the article, and it said, like, 300, 000 women are missing in the United States, and 30 of them are black women, but we only make up 14 of the population. That's really insane if you think about it. And so a lot of these local. A lot of local governments and, like, states have to make up their own rules. They have to make up stuff like the EBONY Alert because the federal government is doing nothing to help find these black missing women and girls.
Lex P
I've never heard of the EBONY Alert.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, it's similar to the Amber Alert. The Amber Alert before black women.
Lex P
I never knew that was a thing.
Taz
And the thing is, since the federal government isn't doing it like, it's state by state, some states don't care.
Drea Nicole
Right?
Taz
They do not care. They don't care if you were a victim. They don't care if you're missing. They don't care unless you have the money to give to them. And some states are. They have the people involved that are doing. But a lot of these red states still do not care, and they won't lift a finger for you.
Lex P
So what do y'all think, like, are the best ways that, like. Like, say, has anybody ever reached out to y'all, like, hey, this is what's going on. Can y'all report on this so I can get my story out there of what's going on? How do y'all handle stuff like that?
Mara
I don't think we've handled it yet, because right now we cover finished cases.
Lex P
Right? Okay.
Mara
We tell the. The case from beginning to end. So for somebody to say, can you tell this story? It doesn't necessarily fit our format. But I do like to, like, if somebody comes to me and said, hey, bring awareness to this black girl missing, I'd be like, you should go to black girl going where she's highlighting. She's got people focusing on black girl missing. And that's Like a better platform for you to use.
Lex P
Yeah. I mean, sorry, y'all.
Drea Nicole
To know that there are platforms out there. Like, yeah, people are doing that as well.
Taz
And even in our discussion group, we have, like, 25,000 people in there, and all they do is discuss true crime. So they're constantly keeping up with cases.
Mara
They'll even post for each other. There was a time where somebody's family member went missing, and they found them.
Lex P
My family, of course your family member went missing.
Taz
One of my. One of my little cousins went missing in Texas. And so I was just in. I was just like, I have this platform. My little cousin is missing.
Lex P
Oh, my God.
Taz
I posted about him. And then one of our fans reached out to one of her friends that lived in Texas, in Dallas, and he was like, oh, yeah, I've seen him and was able to reach out. So I was able to reach out to my aunt. My aunt that lived in there in Dallas. So they all were able to reunite and find him. So, yeah, we found him.
Drea Nicole
Oh, wow.
Lex P
What's up, y'all? It's your girl xp, and it's your.
Drea Nicole
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Lex P
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Drea Nicole
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Lex P
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Drea Nicole
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Lex P
At 8 on I feel like too. I looked on Netflix, right? And you know there's a whole true crime section. When I tell y'all, there is no stories about black women on there. No. Oh, yeah, no, none. Like I'm scrolling. They have all these American murder, American mystery, and all these, you know, women who. And like I said, I'm not taking away from their stories because at the end of the day, we're still women and we're still victims.
Drea Nicole
Right?
Lex P
But I did not see. I think the only story that I saw. I need to start. I should have wrote down these people's names, but I didn't know I was gonna be bringing up. What was the girl's name? She has a short film on Netflix. It was like in the 80s or 90s and she was in LA and she was going to get like a soda out of the store and the Chinese.
Taz
Oh, her anniversary just came up.
Lex P
Yes.
Taz
Anniversary of her death just came up.
Lex P
Yes. And he basically shot her because he thought she was. But shot her at like point blank range, like right in her face.
Drea Nicole
Oh, yeah, I know what you're talking. I know who you talking about.
Lex P
I'm sorry, I can't think of her name right now. But that's like the only story that I've seen on Netflix.
Taz
And I always ask myself why? And I think part of it is the lack of coverage. Like, people just don't care. The government entities don't care. And I think another part of it is that it's really fun on these white true crime podcasts because you have a lot of witnesses. Black folks don't want to talk to the TV about their crimes or their cousin's crimes or their mama's crimes. And I think that it's something in the culture that we have, which I think helps us in some ways, but it also hinders us in other ways. Like, we did a case.
Drea Nicole
She's snitching. If you say.
Lex P
I was just about to say that. I'm sorry, I just want to say her name. I just googled it. It's Latasha Harlins. I just wanted to say her name just so you know.
Taz
We did a case in Detroit. No, in St. Louis. And somebody was like, dang, y'all finally did a case in St. Louis. Like, we always. There's always crimes. And I was like, yeah, but all the crime are gang related. And this crime, somebody killed somebody. Because somebody was a witness to this crime. And it was because of. The reason that it came out is because people were snitching. Nobody wants to tell the crimes because nobody wants to end up being the next victim. So I guess the question is, how do we bring light to these stories while also bringing peace to the community? Because people don't want to talk, right?
Lex P
Are y'all afraid to tell stories like that when it is like gang related stuff or do y'all.
Taz
Okay, strapped up.
Drea Nicole
That's her answer to everything. I keep that strap on me.
Lex P
Cause I'm not gonna lie. It be sometimes, like, I'll deep dive into stuff and like. Cause I had this whole like, moment where I was like really deep into like all the Chicago. Oh, my God.
Drea Nicole
Oh, yeah.
Lex P
It was just so interesting.
Mara
I think the Chicago one, we did ki. And I think that's the closest thing.
Lex P
Oh, my God.
Taz
And people were like.
Mara
They was like, I don't know if.
Lex P
Y'All should be coming.
Drea Nicole
That little girl was something else.
Lex P
I had deep dive and I mean, I was just glued. I mean, I was googling. She had me googling.
Drea Nicole
And we was watching it together.
Lex P
It was so good. But it's so in depth, though, so much.
Mara
And like, when we covered that case, I had to get a board and I was writing. Okay, so he mad at him for this. So then he retaliated to them. So that was her cousin. So now she in it and it, it's, it's.
Taz
And now they smoking on somebody in the. In the lyrics because he died 10 years ago.
Mara
But then he retaliated with this rap.
Lex P
This and this. It be so much and it's so.
Drea Nicole
Alarming how young they are.
Lex P
Young. They be like 12 on the block. Wetting that block up.
Taz
12 and already got a couple bodies. And I'm like, I didn't even know what that meant at 12. I was in private school, girl.
Lex P
But I. I said that because I remember I was talking about it on the show for a little bit. And it was people in the comments like, legend, keep it cute. Watch out. You making jokes. I'm like, I am from Orange, Texas. I don't want nothing. No, baby, I never talked. But, you know, it's crazy about that stuff is that it's still going on like, yeah, so for stuff like that, that's why I said I tread lightly on certain things. Do y'all feel like y'all have to tread lightly on, like, certain stories that y'all do or y'all just be like, I don't care? Look, we just reporting these stories.
Mara
Most of them weren't gang related. I feel like the only reason one, when you hear a lot about a gang related body, it's not usually black women. It's usually black men.
Lex P
Yeah, yeah.
Mara
So I think that narrows our pool a lot. And I think this one was also sensationalized. There's a lot of coverage out there already. And so we just going and like these people said and these people trying to be careful about it, but I just. I don't know that we necessarily get the opportunity to even and dive into that, to tread lightly.
Lex P
Because I know they was in them comments when that Cha story.
Drea Nicole
Cause yeah, yeah, that was a crazy.
Lex P
Because then it got with King Von in that story too. I said, oh, this tea is too hot.
Mara
But then I felt like with King Von being a part of it, that's what sensationalized it and made it more. More of a mainstream topic to talk about.
Drea Nicole
That's why people cared about it even more. Okay, so what we drinking today, girl? Cause this is very good and refreshing. I was over here looking up some of two more weeks.
Lex P
I'm a week. So, Dreya, you holding on strong, girl?
Drea Nicole
Damn, I'm on day 55.
Mara
Congratulations.
Lex P
I don't know.
Taz
Months. Couple more months.
Drea Nicole
So this cocktail is going. Cocktail or mocktail? This one is gonna be called Killing Me Softly.
Lex P
Oh, Lord have mercy.
Drea Nicole
So for this one, you can add any spirit of choice or you can rock it as a mocktail like me and Drea. And we have some honey ginseng, green tea. Oh, I'm sorry. Yes, please. Yes, we have some.
Taz
Girl, it's breaking.
Drea Nicole
We are protecting our children.
Lex P
Let me say that again.
Drea Nicole
So this is the Killing Me Softly. You can have any spirit of choice or rock it as a mocktail as Mariah, myself, Drea, over here.
Lex P
Okay.
Drea Nicole
We sipping it softly. All right, this one has some honey ginseng. This one has some honey ginseng tea, some green tea in there, some basil, some honeycomb, a little bit of lemon. And then I made an actual basil honey for it as well. So you get a little bit of that herb. And then we topped it off with a little bit of a ginger beer.
Lex P
The garnish.
Drea Nicole
We have a beautiful honeycomb in there. And then some fresh Basil leaves. Perfect for spring. Perfect for the girls out there. So this is the Killing me softly. Cheers, y'all. Delicious, baby.
Lex P
Is this a new hairstyle?
Drea Nicole
Yeah, I like it. It's cute. I learned a little.
Taz
Cute.
Lex P
Yeah, it looks really natural.
Drea Nicole
Thank you.
Lex P
I learned to blend in my little ladies. It looks really good. I went outside the other day. I was bogus.
Drea Nicole
And I love the red lip, too. Thank you.
Lex P
Yes.
Drea Nicole
Okay, so let's get into topic number two.
Lex P
So.
Drea Nicole
So for topic number two, I thought this would be a funny topic. I really wanted to talk about love behind bars and how, like, so many women fall in love with men that are incarcerated. And a lot of the time, when you see. At least this is my opinion, I think that a lot of the time, women go for men that are incarcerated because they feel like, oh, he gonna be loyal to me. He don't have no options. He don't have no choices. And that's usually the reason why they want to date them in the first place. Now, first, that is a lot. Go ahead, girl. Because I think I say about that, too. I think that's a l. I think.
Mara
He will be in there, and he got nothing to do but write several different women all day.
Drea Nicole
So. Feeling dreams. What you think?
Taz
I had an ex, and my ex's mama's boyfriend was in jail.
Lex P
Okay.
Taz
Yeah, I know that took a while. And while we were in college, she was getting artwork from her ex's mama's boyfriend because that he made out of trash bags because he was so bored and had nothing else to do. And I also think that. That they cheating. They.
Lex P
They cheat.
Taz
And it's crazy to me, because with.
Drea Nicole
People in there, I mean that, too.
Mara
You done seen. You done seen the jail shows, and they be sending the notes through the.
Taz
Toilets and people in there. Especially if you. Especially if you just in jail and you ain't made it to prison, you can definitely. The women are right on the other side. Yeah, but I don't. I personally don't understand why you would do that. Because, like, he's not working. You're putting money on his books. Like, sometimes to talk to him. Like, it's. How do y'all even meet? Like, you gotta call through his mama or something. Yeah, I. I don't get it. It's.
Lex P
It's not for me.
Drea Nicole
Same.
Lex P
But go ahead. Go ahead.
Drea Nicole
Well, I was just gonna say, because I have somebody that I know personally. I have a family member. They were in jail for a really long time, and then they got married in jail and still married. Now ended up getting out of jail, still married, but they had a baby on the way. Not by their wife.
Taz
Oh.
Drea Nicole
So that's why I'm like when people are saying, oh, I think that they're going to be loyal to me and they don't have options. No, baby, they gonna find options. Especially once they get out.
Taz
They're gonna find options once they're back outside.
Drea Nicole
It's a plethora of options because they not even used to seeing women all the time. They're not even used to having this much access. So it's plenty of options. And it's especially if they fine.
Lex P
Right? I have sometimes prison niggas be fine.
Drea Nicole
I mean, my family may not you.
Taz
But to work out.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, he is okay.
Lex P
He is sweet Jesus.
Taz
I had an ex that went to jail in our show. He's called redacted number one and Redacted number one. I love that he went to jail like my sophomore year of college. And we weren't together, but, like, we were always very close. And so I remember his mom was like, like, hey, redacted number one. Got locked up. I. I put you on his list so he can call you. And I was just like, oh, for what? For burglary, When I know y'all got m money. So I stopped answering his phone calls. All of a sudden, he started having conversation with another girl that it was his friend's girlfriend at one point. And her and I never liked each other, but now they're married and they live happily ever after. So I guess jail love is for those whose it's for, but it was not for me.
Drea Nicole
I mean, it worked out for some people. We. I personally used to love watching Love after Locke.
Lex P
That's what we were just talking about before we started filming.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, I used to love that show. So, I mean, it worked for some people.
Lex P
Now I do got a horror story now, y'all. I seen this on Tick Tock last night.
Drea Nicole
What happened?
Lex P
I had to google her name because I don't like not saying people names. So there was a woman, 62 years old. Her name is Stephanie Brinson. Her husband has been in jail since, like the 90s. She went to visit him. Conjugal visit. So when they do these conjugal visits, they get like 30 to 40 hours in these, like, apartment style things. Hours. Yeah, they can stay there for like a whole day, you know, if you're married. So she. I mean, this is her husband. She went to visit that man. He's like, hey, my wife passed out. You know, something's going on. So they're like, oh, my gosh. You know, they. And she passed away. They don't know. They did an autopsy. That man strangled her.
Drea Nicole
Why?
Lex P
I don't. Because he's a murderer, and that's what they do.
Drea Nicole
Points was made.
Lex P
It's not.
Drea Nicole
It's not funny.
Taz
It's not funny.
Lex P
But it's not. But. But this is the thing. And I'm not blaming her, but this is the thing. I was talking to my homegirl this morning. I feel like right now, and I'm bringing this back to relationships. I know y'all gonna be like, lex, please be for real. But this is why I just feel for my black women so bad. Like, we are the highest demographic who are unmarried, right? And I feel like sometimes we just get so desperate for companionship because why are you, as a free woman. As a free woman, dedicating. And not just her, not just Stephanie, just any woman. You are free. Why are you dedicating something? And he wasn't getting out. He was sentenced to life. He can't even go to trial for her murder because he's already serving life.
Drea Nicole
But how do y'all feel about. Okay, so murderer is off limit, but how do you feel about somebody, you know, that's in the Fed? Like, they need a little wire fraud, little credit card front.
Taz
Now, I don't have legit.
Lex P
Now I don't know if I have legit money.
Taz
When you come out, like, if there's a. Okay, you ain't got nothing on your resume but wire fraud. When you come out, how you gonna pay for my lifestyle?
Lex P
Some more wire fraud. Some more wire.
Taz
This time he just not gonna get caught.
Lex P
Yeah.
Drea Nicole
Ooh, he done smarty.
Lex P
Now I'm getting in trouble for telling this story. I hope not. But I had a guy I used to date a long time ago, and he was scamming them pieces. Was hitting. Life was grand. Okay.
Drea Nicole
I've had me a scammer or two.
Lex P
Yeah. But it was like. Like he had gotten some trouble. And they froze all his accounts. They took everything from him. And it was like, right before he went in, he was like, you know, I really wanted to make this work with us. And I was like, you the only ones lost your pill. You ain't got. They took all your Rolexes. I'm not holding it down. I'm just not a hold it down type of woman. Like I said, I. I'm free. I don't commit crimes. So I just feel like. And let me say this. It's not Only black women who do this. Obviously we're just talking about black women because we are black women. But I do think that a lot of that comes with the fear of loneliness. I think the fear of loneliness gets us into a lot of bullshit. Like you would be so happier, so much more happier if you just learned to find peace in being alone.
Taz
That pressure is that community pressure is still on. Specifically black.
Lex P
Yes.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, for sure.
Taz
That even I know women that haven't been to church in years that still are under church pressure. And I think it almost makes you feel like if I'm not doing this, then I'm dishonoring my family. I'm not married before I get pregnant, if I'm not financially stable, if I'm not cooking every night, if I'm not providing or not having a man that provides, then I'm doing a disservice to my entire family, my entire community. And I feel like that pressure is so antiquated, but it's still so, so, so real. Especially in the South.
Lex P
Oh, for sure, for sure. I mean, you have to realize like every time we post a clip and we speak our minds, oh, I want. And you see why they're single. You see, Listen, let me tell everybody out there, being single is not a d this. It is not a this. Especially when you know who you are and you know what you want out of life. I know exactly what I want in a partner. If I don't get that, I'm okay with being alone. It's not the end of the world. And I'm not going to go talk today in jail just so I can say I have a husband for sure.
Drea Nicole
And I think it gets worse too. It's obviously as you get older. Cuz I do feel like a lot of the time when you watch these shows like Love After Lockup and stuff, a lot of the people on the show be like older women a lot of the time. Because we talked about this on the episode of Poor Minds. But the desperation of getting in your 30s, of being in your 30s, I think it's something about when you hit 30, mid-30s, you just like, oh, I don't have the baby yet, I don't have the husband yet, I don't have the ring yet, what am I going to do? And then you just end up settling.
Lex P
For, I'll be four, I'll be 40 in four years, I don't care.
Drea Nicole
Girl, you were saying that like it was going to be four months. Right.
Lex P
But I'm saying, but if you put that in perspective, Four years, we be like, oh, it's so long time. I'm gonna be 40 before I know it. But when I tell you I don't care. I do not care about, like, okay, if it's supposed to happen for me. My faith is stronger than my doubt. So whatever is for me is always gonna be in my lap. So I know we getting a little off topic, like we do per usual, but I just, I really. I think it's a little different situation. Like, if you're married and your husband does something and he ends up in jail. Maybe a little wire fraud, Little something. It's nice. Not necessarily something that I would per se, maybe deal with. I don't know. I've never been in that situation, but I can understand. Maybe women like, okay, he's going to jail. Like, what's her name? Yandy and Mendee. Why did Mendici go to jail? Was it fraud or was it.
Taz
I think it was.
Drea Nicole
I think it was for a little.
Lex P
Was it fraud or was it like a gun? Cause, you know, they. In New York, why don't.
Drea Nicole
Was it a. I thought it was a little fraud.
Lex P
Was it a little fraud? I don't want to misspeak. Allegedly, it meant DCs. Cause allegedly. Come over here. I was in your DMs. Or Yandy, whoever was in your DMs, that was me, honey. Life gets his. But anyways.
Drea Nicole
But yeah, he wasn't in there that long. I think he was in there for like maybe two years.
Lex P
That's still a long time.
Mara
Cocaine and heroin.
Drea Nicole
Oh, we was all bricks.
Lex P
All white bricks.
Drea Nicole
A little fraud would have been a little better than that.
Taz
Is he cleaning his money properly? Like, is he going to be. Am I going to be set for two years?
Drea Nicole
Like, yeah.
Mara
I mean, in restaurants, people clean their money.
Lex P
They do. I need me a ghost. St. Patrick.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, yeah.
Lex P
You know what I'm saying? So I understand Yandy. I can understand Yandy waiting two years. That's a little different. Like, you know what I'm saying? But if you literally, you know, they have whole websites where like, you can find men who are in.
Taz
Specifically, you can find women too.
Drea Nicole
Yep.
Taz
Yeah, we have. We just did a case and the girl is in prison for the rest of her life and she has a man. They, they. They fell in love. They met in a Christian group. And even though she has life in prison without the possibility of parole, she's.
Lex P
Hoping she did something real bad. Murder.
Drea Nicole
Of course. It's the only time you don't get no parole.
Taz
She is Hoping to get out so that she can actually get married to this man that is a. He looks like an old deacon.
Lex P
Oh, my goodness.
Taz
But, I mean, the men do it, too, so. I mean, men get desperate just like.
Lex P
Yeah, yeah, they definitely do. They 100% do.
Drea Nicole
Because I think it's across the board.
Lex P
You see it on Love After Lockup. There be them old men that be dating the young girls that went to jail for, like, robbery or something, and they be running it up. A lot of the. No shade to the city girls, but a lot of the city girls are in jail. The city girls type girls, you know, from scamming, robbing, you know, they was running it up, swiping people cars when they not supposed to and doing all that. But they go to jail and they find these men who are still willing to give them a chance.
Taz
Were y'all scared? Scared, like, with the scammer, like, what if y'all was in Louis and, like, he just bought you a purse and he swipes the car and what if this car says, has an alert on? And they say, please stay here? And now you stuck with him in the stove with your Louie and your Chanel, but they about to take you, too, girl.
Drea Nicole
I didn't say nothing about me. I don't care about snitching, because I damn sure would have been like, I know nothing about that. This ain't got nothing to do with me. But something like that never happened to me before. But I was dating this guy back in the day when I was probably, like, 24, and he was a scammer. And we had went to a club. He had got a section, bought, like, five bottles. Tab was like fifteen hundred dollars.
Taz
Having a good time.
Drea Nicole
The they come out, the waitress come out. It's time for him to pay the tab. Cars. The pieces is not hitting. He goes through, like, four or five cards. Pieces is still not hitting. And I'm like, I hope you're not looking at me, because I'm not about to pay this. I'm about to dip on your ass.
Taz
I order, girl.
Drea Nicole
Luckily, though, he ended up finally, like, he was with a few of his friends, and one of his friends had a little piece that he. But, yeah, I definitely done seen it happen.
Lex P
I had a situation happen to me. I just told this story on Scam Goddess shout out to Lacey. I was dating this guy, and he's not even a scammer, okay? He is a very wealthy guy from his business. Like, and I know exactly what he does because he actually has helped me with my Business. So. But what he did was he had like a little connect. What he thought was a connect on flights. And that person was the scammer. So we had went on a trip and he was just so pressed to fly on American. And I'm like, well, I like to fly Delta, but I feel like I remember. Yes, but I'm like, whatever. Like, why are you so pressed to fly American? So we flew American first class, baby. Went to a beautiful resort, had a wonderful time, came back first class. Okay, I'm having my man. I'm in love, baby. I'm posting to my close friends, like, this is the one. You know what I'm saying? He icy the whole trip. I'm like, oh, it's so cold in.
Drea Nicole
Mexico with all hair ice, baby.
Lex P
I'm having the time of my life. Then I get on Facebook. Cause, you know, obviously my government name is not Lex P. So I get on my Facebook, my real Facebook that my friends and family are on, I have this message, and they're like, hey, they say my full government name. Middle name, too. You took a flight to such and such Mexico on this state with. He said his full name and you used my miles. I need to know how you got my account and how you. Girl, I must have deleted him and blocked him.
Mara
So quick.
Drea Nicole
I said I was about to have me in prison.
Lex P
So mad. Because the thing is, you are literally wealthy. Why did you do that?
Taz
And that's what I don't understand. There's a lot of people that have money that like to steal. There's lots of people that have money that like to rob people. And I'm like, why not make it honest? Like, it's so fun to make it honest.
Drea Nicole
I was going to say maybe it's greed, but no, some people just love the thrill.
Taz
Yeah, I think so.
Lex P
It's because being. I think he was being cheap. Really? Yes. I don't think he has a thrill of it. I just think he was like, okay. Cuz, honestly, the resort we stayed at, it was like a $2,000 night resort. I think he was. He had. We had went shopping. He had bought me some stuff. He had sent me some money to get ready. I think he was just like, man, look, this. This done cost me 15 bands. I need to cut a corner somewhere.
Drea Nicole
And crazy enough too. A lot of the time, people don't think that they're going to get caught.
Lex P
Yeah, I mean, he didn't. Yeah, he didn't, essentially.
Drea Nicole
Are you sure that shit.
Taz
When the person messaged you, did you just like Block the person.
Lex P
I blocked him. And I kind of, like, deactivated my Facebook for a few weeks. Yeah, I was like, incognito. And at the time when it happened, because he didn't DM me till, like, months later and me and him had fell off, so I didn't even. I don't even think. Did I ever tell him. I think I did tell him. I think he just laughed it off because he's so nonchalant about stuff like that. Cause he was probably like, oh, yeah, Yeah, I think I did tell him. He was like, oh, yeah. I found out that dude was scamming, cuz. Honestly, I don't think he knew at the time because it was. He thought it was going to be like a type of, like, buddy pass type of situation. Oh, I gave him X amount of money I can fly free for the year. But he didn't know this guy worked for American, but he was stealing people's miles and stuff. So I think whenever he found out, he was like, oh, yeah, he was on some. Some whatever. And I just got my money back from him because it was like, you want some? And he. After that, like, we started, you know, talking again, and I had. We had flew to different locations. Delta. But too bad.
Taz
I'm sitting here like, I need a friend like that that can find me some miles, right?
Lex P
Yeah. But I think when it comes to, like, crimes and stuff, I'm. I'm snitching. I don't know nothing. But also, when a man doesn't want to tell you what he does for a living on the first date, don't ask.
Drea Nicole
That's a red flag.
Lex P
Don't ask, cuz. What, like, what y'all do for a living if y'all go on a first date and somebody's like, oh, what do you do? Oh, you know, I do this. You're proud of it. If you are a successful person in your field, you are proud of what you do. Baby, I do not shut up about poor mind. Right.
Taz
I don't either.
Lex P
You know what I'm saying? So if you're on a first date and you ask somebody what they do, they're like, oh, you know, I got some businesses. I'm a street pharmacist, okay?
Drea Nicole
I got a few investors.
Lex P
I got some invested profits. You know what I'm saying?
Drea Nicole
I mean, okay, niggas love to be invested.
Lex P
They love a good Robin Hood.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, they do.
Lex P
Don't let a nigga have a robin. Acorn. Acorn.
Taz
Oh, Lord.
Lex P
Oh, my God. Okay, so we Go. We gonna move. Have y'all ever dated somebody, like, though behind bars? Like, talk to them? No. Okay, good.
Taz
I have an excess in prison for life.
Drea Nicole
Oh, what do you mean?
Taz
Murder.
Lex P
Murder.
Mara
It was dumb, too.
Drea Nicole
Do you feel like the signs was there?
Taz
You know what? Okay, so I did not date him while he was on a murder spree.
Drea Nicole
We actually dated.
Taz
Well, I was fa the same.
Drea Nicole
He was out here spraying everybody.
Taz
I dated this guy. He actually was, like, my summer camp, middle school, summer camp boyfriend.
Lex P
Okay?
Taz
And I remember everybody was like, mariah, you're such a goody two shoes. Like, that's not the person that you want to be with. And I was like, what are you talking about? Like, I'm going into the seventh grade, and so. And I'm like, what are you talking about? Like, him and I are going to be together forever.
Drea Nicole
We love each other.
Taz
And so, obviously, we broke up because the summer ended, and I had to go back to school, and he ended up going to high school with us. And we're actually going to tell this story on our Patreon, but now he's in prison for the rest of his life for murder. And all my friends are like, remember when you used to date him in middle school? And I'm like, yes, he's a murderer.
Lex P
Oh, my God.
Drea Nicole
I'm so sorry.
Lex P
Dre got some.
Taz
He be on Facebook.
Drea Nicole
Who, me?
Lex P
You got. What? You mean that man that. Your ex that passed away?
Taz
Oh, my God.
Drea Nicole
But he passed away long after I stopped him, though.
Mara
All right?
Drea Nicole
That ain't have nothing to do with me.
Lex P
Rip Rip.
Drea Nicole
Yes. Rip.
Lex P
What's up, y'all?
Drea Nicole
It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.
Lex P
And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping. Yes.
Drea Nicole
So we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We're going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella, no. Where the hell could you go?
Lex P
If you can't go to Bella, no.
Drea Nicole
What the hell gonna be doing?
Taz
Talk to me.
Drea Nicole
Chit chat with me. We gonna be spilling a little tea.
Lex P
Oh, my God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God.
Drea Nicole
Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon.
Lex P
Yes. Y'all ask us for so much. Well, we f to give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be A time y'all know Poor Mods has grown into its own little itch entity. Well, we're gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles, so make sure y'all tune in. September 2nd is going down. Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera, entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with love Lexp Tasty.
Drea Nicole
That I put on the list. You all is never settle. And if you're an avid listener of poor minds, then you probably have heard me say this numerous times. Like, I say this all the time. I've always felt this way. Don't ever settle for anything in life if it's not exactly what you want. Don't let people tell you that you cannot get what you want out of this life, because it's absolutely possible. I had so many people when I was in my 20s telling me that the things that I wanted was unrealistic, unreasonable. And if I had listened to those people, I wouldn't be where I am today. It's not for anybody else to understand that as long as you know what it is and you willing to put the work in to get the things that you want, you don't have to settle. And don't let people convince you that you have to settle. It's usually people that are settling in their own lives that try to, you know, make other people feel like, oh, you can't do this, or, you can't make that happen. You're thinking too far outside the box. How you going to do that? No, Boo, you can't do that. I can do whatever I want to do. Okay? And I will. So, yeah, don't ever.
Lex P
Okay, so now it's time to get into the bed. Ow.
Drea Nicole
The be bow. The be about.
Lex P
All right, so I'm a little. I had a shot and a half, so I'm feeling good. Okay, so for the bad topic today, we're gonna talk about the connection between crime and sex. I'm sorry, y'all. I'm having a ball. Cause I'm just. I love to get in the true crime business. Oh, my gosh. Okay, so y'all know, obviously I'm gonna get into the topic. I'm gonna tell y'all what it is. I promise. So I remember this snapped episode, right? Okay. It was this story about this lady in Atlanta, and She had met the bachelor of her dreams. He got money. He in a high rise. He does all this stuff. And she found out he was dating other women. I mean, it's in Atlanta.
Taz
Hello.
Lex P
What would you think? And she went to his house and they had dinner. She, like, cooked him dinner or something. And they had sex. And she waited till he fell asleep, shot him in the face while he was sleep left, threw the gun out the window, and she almost got away with it. Do y'all know why she didn't get away with it? It's because a random person found the gun and they connected it back to her. She would've. If she would've, like, really took that gun and hid it somewhere, they would've.
Taz
Like, never found it.
Lex P
Never found it. It was a random person that, like, saw something glistening in the grass, and they were like, ooh, it's a treasure. Let me go pick it up. And it was a gun. And they turned it in and connected it back to her. So I wanna talk about crimes of passion with sex. Do y'all think the thrill of crime and sex are. Or is it more so like, sometimes the dick be too good and you be losing your mind?
Drea Nicole
I mean, crimes of passion have been going on since biblical time. So I definitely feel.
Lex P
Who did that in the Bible?
Drea Nicole
Who did that? Lex, please. Is that the book of Revelation? Goodbye. But I feel like, seriously, though, like, this has been going on for a really long time. Like, women are the number one reason for wars. Do you really think about it? So. Absolutely. I think it's connected. I mean, not recently, but in probably the past five years. It was an Atlanta rapper who passed away who ended up getting killed because somebody boyfriend came home. He was at a woman's house, and her boyfriend came home, and the boyfriend shot her. I mean, shot him and killed him. So it happens all the time.
Lex P
So do y'all feel like most of the cases that y'all do is because of a woman scorned? Like, a woman scorned, like, her man. She snapped.
Taz
You know what?
Drea Nicole
It's the whole show.
Lex P
Yes.
Taz
Surprisingly, not a lot of our cases are like that. But I. I think we also try to separate them out. But you will be surprised how many people kill just because their lover is acting up or their lover decides that they want to start taking the money away. We had a case, it's very, very popular case in Atlanta called the lady's name is Dion Baugh. And she was dating this guy, super. He was, like, super big businessman in Atlanta, very well known and he had multiple women. Like, at his funeral, his secretary was getting credit cards from all these women that were authorized users on his account.
Lex P
Oh, my God.
Taz
The women were like, he's dead, and we don't know what to do with his credit card, so.
Lex P
Oh, I would have kept mine.
Taz
Well, they didn't want to. They didn't know who the murderer was at the time. So they were just like, we don't.
Lex P
Want to be thought. True that. True that.
Taz
And he wanted to cut her off. And so she got very upset and in the middle of the night, came to his house and bludgeoned him to death.
Lex P
Oh, my God.
Taz
The craziest part about this story for me is everybody talked about him being a clean man, but they couldn't figure out which woman did it because this was, like, a while ago, before people for waxing was very popular. When they went into his bed, there was, like, multiple women's pubic hair.
Lex P
Oh.
Taz
And so they were like, we need to. We don't know which woman did. So they're contacting all the women that he was sleeping with based off of the pubic hair. The pubic hair in his sheets.
Lex P
Oh, my gosh.
Taz
And she had a husband, but he was cutting her off. He was cutting her off financially. And so she.
Lex P
Oh, she didn't know what to do with that thing. She was mishandling that thing. She didn't know what to do with it. That's all right.
Drea Nicole
Mishandling that thing is great.
Lex P
And they caught. She's in jail now, right? Mm. Oh, my God.
Taz
She's out now.
Lex P
Oh, she got free.
Drea Nicole
Cause I would have thought that would have been a life sentence. Yes.
Lex P
I. You know what? I think it's.
Taz
But, you know, you can plea for a lesser sentence.
Lex P
I don't. I think. Okay, so I can say this. I do understand. If self defense. If it's self defense, you don't need to go to jail at all. Cause if it's you or me, like, I'm choosing myself every time you gotta go. Crimes of passion, that gets a little. Because it's like you can't control your emotions. So how do I know you're not gonna fall in love with somebody else and do it again? Cause you cannot.
Mara
But you have to learn how to control your emotions.
Lex P
You have to.
Mara
Like, you not being able to control your emotions is a lack of skill that you, the parents, ain't teach you. Whatever reason. I think there's, like, this point in adulthood where you gotta be responsible for, you know, all the things that the parents Miss. We're not gonna get it all. Like, even as best as the next parent might try this gonna fuck the kid up. Or that's gonna fuck the kid. You gotta learn how to fill those spaces without taking somebody's life. You can't just say I got mad.
Taz
But there's more excuses when you're young. Like if you're late teens, early 20s. I'm like, okay, you're still learning how. Like. But it doesn't your 30s, mid-30s. I'm like.
Mara
And you still that mad that you.
Lex P
Taking by like, I'm not my ain't worth nothing. But that's what I'm saying. It's so crazy to watch snapped because you see a lot of these stories, and a lot of these women are free now. It's stories of, like, stuff that happened in, like, the 90s, and they're free now. What's her name? Selena's murderer is up for parole.
Drea Nicole
She is, but she been up for parole a lot of times.
Taz
I don't think she gonna get out.
Lex P
I don't think so either.
Drea Nicole
Wild.
Lex P
Oh, she's getting crazy. The streets is not finna be friendly to her.
Drea Nicole
She won't be out that long.
Taz
If I was her, I'd be like parole board.
Drea Nicole
Yeah. Cause she much cipher.
Taz
Can I. I have a couple more years.
Drea Nicole
I need a few more years.
Taz
I can't do this.
Lex P
But it's crazy to me. Too much cipher in here. I've never been to jail. I've never been to prison. Don't plan on going. But to me, I feel like for her, it's like, you want your freedom, of course, but, like, you should stay in there.
Taz
Yeah, she's safer.
Lex P
I feel like she's.
Drea Nicole
She's much safer because them Selena stands.
Lex P
Hmm. And I'm one of. She better not let me catch at the local target.
Drea Nicole
Okay, it's going down. But I feel like, come on. They probably gonna have her in some type of witness protection program. Yeah, I mean, well, not witness protection, but, you know, some type of, like, protective custody.
Taz
They might as well keep her in the prison for all that.
Drea Nicole
Cause they gotta know letting her be free and just roam around is not gonna be safe for her.
Mara
That's the cards that she dealt for herself.
Lex P
Yeah, that's true.
Drea Nicole
That's true.
Lex P
But I do wanna get on a point that you said because you were saying, like, you're an adult. You need to learn how. And I 100% agree with that. But you motherfucking people need to stop playing with people too. Cause you Gonna come across the wrong motherfucker. And now you're laying on the ground gurgling cause your throat slit.
Mara
You gotta understand, everybody don't got something to lose.
Drea Nicole
You know what I mean? And everybody don't take hurt the same.
Lex P
And I'm not saying that some people.
Mara
Will gladly go behind bells.
Lex P
They don't care. They be like, yeah, we both finna be hurting.
Taz
And there was a time where I didn't have things to lose, so. Ooh, I have.
Lex P
Before you get.
Mara
Can I have a.
Lex P
You might need a wild one out of y'all, too.
Taz
Um, I, I. How do I tell this story? Once upon a time.
Lex P
Don't confess me. Don't cry, don't confess it. I'm crying. We already told you, we snitches.
Taz
Once upon a time, I was dating one of. I was dating my ex. And her and I, we. We had a very tumultuous relationship. And when we were together, I mean, constantly arguing. I mean, Taz has been my friend for a long time. So I used to be like, I fucking hate this bitch.
Drea Nicole
Yeah.
Taz
So one day, like, things really hit the fan and we got into, like, a big, big fight, like, very physical altercation, calling the police. She got arrested. And so I called first. See, I ain't. And this was my early 20s. First I did thing was call her mom. Be like, your daughter in jail. Go get a click. And then I called her best friend and I was like, your friend is in jail her, and if she ever come back to this, I'mma kill her ass. And her friend called me back and said, so, you know, I have a voicemail saying that you're going to kill my friend if you ever do something, right?
Lex P
And I was like, oh, period.
Drea Nicole
Probably shouldn't have said that.
Taz
Probably shouldn't have said that. And I am almost sure that she probably still. If she was me, I'm sure she still has that voicemail saved, like 23. But I meant it at the time. I don't mean it now.
Lex P
I don't.
Taz
But, like, I'm sure, like, if Lord don't let nothing ever happened to that girl ever.
Lex P
Like, I got.
Taz
Like 10 years later, G come back, she gonna be on.
Lex P
That stand like this, pressing play.
Drea Nicole
I told you I wasn't deleting this, period.
Lex P
But no, I do feel like, like I said, any crime against somebody, you do, of course, need to hold yourself. But y'all have to stop playing with people. Absolutely. You gonna. Like she said, some people just have nothing to lose. I don't play on People top, I don't play with your time. I hate to say this. I hate to talk about this, but it was so crazy. Y'all probably have never heard of this story, but we're from. Well, I lived in Houston. She's from Houston. There was a story. Mercedes Moore.
Drea Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
It was a case to where. And I truly don't believe that Mercedes more knew that, man. I really don't. It was a case where a man was stalking her, showed up at her house, strangled her to death, then ended up unaliving himself. But the narrative online was like, oh, y'all. Cause she did onlyfans, so you know what comes with that? They don't look at women who do sex work as people. So the narrative that came up, oh, y'all need to stop getting men for they money. And if you don't like him, stop talking to him.
Mara
They made a choice to spend that money.
Lex P
They had a choice, Right? But honestly, I. I don't think she knew that, man. I think he was probably like a subscriber on her only fans and was stalking her. I truly believe that. But on the other hand, I will say for women who, like, aren't in sex work and you're, like, using men who don't even live that type of lifestyle. Like, this is for the girls who really be trying to, like, pray on me, who don't have much, and they're literally giving their last to you, or vice versa. Men who are preying on women who don't have much, and they're giving you your last, and then they find you're playing them. It's not even worth it. It's not worth it to be, like, using somebody. Cause you gonna catch them on a bad day. The economy is hard. Okay? Right now, eggs is 63.99. Okay. Yeah.
Drea Nicole
Our highest. Fuck.
Lex P
Stop playing with people for money. And that's not the game that you play. You know, I always say this. Leave the sex work and stuff to the girls who know what they're doing, and they know how to talk to these people, and they know how to navigate that world.
Drea Nicole
I feel like it ain't no proper way to navigate that world.
Lex P
But it is, though. It's people who are.
Taz
They know how to keep themselves safe.
Lex P
They know how to keep themselves safe. You know? And I'm not talking about the pimps. Cause y'all ain't safe either. I'm talking about the women who really know how to navigate, keep themselves safe and know what they're doing. You know, there is a way and I think the problem is a lot of people try to separate themselves. Oh, this isn't sex work. I'm not. I'm not doing this. I'm not. If you are selling any kind of fantasy, you talking to a man and he's feeling some. Some type of way in his loins and he's paying you, and it's just a. That's sex work. You know what I'm saying? So I do think that if you gonna take that route, stop making people feel like you care about them and that you love them and that you're gonna be with them on both ends. Like I said, men and women, because that shit gets scary.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, for sure.
Taz
Some people, that's the fantasy that they're paying for.
Mara
That's the word they want to be in that world. They want to feel like somebody care about.
Lex P
And.
Taz
And a lot of people, the. The fact that they're selling. That's what. Yeah, you're paying me to make you feel like we're together.
Lex P
Right.
Taz
Though you've never seen me in person. You're never going to see me in person. But I think with that, it's boundaries and I don't even know it's.
Mara
It's also very much. I'm not going to tell you anything real about me. Like, this is a fantasy. We are in this fantasy. You play along, I'll play along. But this is.
Lex P
They draw that line.
Taz
You may know the llc, but when you look it up on social, on the website, it's going to go to the P.O. box to.
Lex P
Right, Exactly. And I tell that to all women if you a sex worker or not. I even told. I think it was something you was doing. You was on Live one time. I said, girl, get out your window. Because it just be the little shit. It be the smallest shit. And somebody gonna find where you live. Yeah, I post in front of my white wall. I got a white wall. And that's it. That's all y'all finna see. But taking pictures in my house. House. I'm not doing it or posting.
Drea Nicole
Where you at while you there?
Taz
Oh, yeah. Everything is a delayed post. Everything is a delayed post. Everything there is this Tik Tok. It's this white man that like, used to work for the government. And what they. And he's his job. What he does on Tik Tok is try to teach people how easy it is to be found. So he'll. So people will be like, hey, come find me. And they'll just do this in their background and he'll Say okay.
Lex P
Okay.
Taz
I can tell by. I saw that street sign. I enhanced the image. Okay. That street. I can look how many times that street is in America.
Lex P
Okay.
Taz
I also saw that there was a Dollar General. So now I need to find out how many times this street intersects with a street where there's a Dollar General. Oh, I saw that there was rocks here in construction. So now I get to look up construction zones. I know. And then he can pinpoint exactly where you were standing on the corner.
Lex P
It's scary.
Taz
It's scary, it's scary.
Lex P
And I think for me. And it's crazy. Cause when I was in Mexico with the scamming flight, that's when I found out that Mercedes had passed. And it was so crazy. Cause I remember going through her Instagram and I'm just looking. I'm like, this is probably a picture that he looked at. Cause she's just innocently taking pictures in front of her house, in her house, around her house. Just not. Cause we don't think about that. You know what I'm saying? Especially during this time. Well. Cause what. This happened in what, 2020.
Drea Nicole
This was probably like 2021.
Lex P
Because this was definitely before my mom passed, so.
Taz
Or young was she.
Drea Nicole
She was like 30. Yeah, she was probably like 31.
Lex P
Yeah, she was like 31.
Taz
That's so interesting because, like, we came up with the. With the age, like, we all know floppy disk and you know what I'm saying? Like, we all know that. And so I also remember the scare of the Internet. Like, my mom was terrified of the Internet. We used to have assemblies in school about your. Your footprint on the Internet. It used to scare the out of me. And I think a lot of younger folks, they don't get that anymore because.
Mara
Like, it's so common.
Taz
Google, when Google hit, they're starting the.
Mara
Internet at 2 years old, you know?
Taz
And I remember that Google wasn't gonna take off. And now Google is this huge entity. And so people aren't even taught that you are vulnerable all the time. Us sitting here is vulnerable.
Lex P
Right, Right. I think. And I think another good point is, like I said, just being aware because you just never know know. And like I said, post delayed posting. Like that can literally save your life. I tweeted that the other day. I said, discernment can save your life. And it's unfortunate that things like that have to happen for you to, like, wake up and be like, oh, my gosh. Because think about how many people listen to y'all podcast. It only takes one weirdo. Yeah.
Taz
That's true.
Lex P
Think about how many people listen to poor minds. It only takes one obsessed weirdo. And. And like I said, I think it's a very fine line, like I said with Mercedes Story. It was so awful because I'm like, this girl lost her life, and all y'all keep talking about is, oh, well, she was in sex work, and they dehumanize people so bad. But at the end of the day, she was the victim. She was stalked. She was stalked. At the end of the day. I don't care what. Even if she did know the man and she was taking money from him, that was her job. She was on OnlyFans. So they do probably sometimes have conversations with these people. You know what I mean?
Taz
She wasn't even scamming him. She was.
Drea Nicole
She wasn't even doing her job that was paying.
Taz
She was on OnlyFans. She was. Was filing her taxes every time.
Drea Nicole
And he grew in attachment to him.
Lex P
Oh, my gosh. It was so. I was. I was so disgusted and frustrated at that narrative at the time, and we didn't have the platform that we do now. You know what I'm saying? And I just remember, like, wanting to say something so bad because there's, like, these men on these large platforms just victim blaming, victim blaming. And I think that's something that we definitely need to steer away from, because, like I said. Said. I know what I just said. So I don't. Y'all gonna be like, oh, she's contradicting herself, because I did say, stop playing with people and stop doing that. But also, we have to stop victim blaming as well.
Drea Nicole
But would you consider a situation like that, like, a crime of passion? Because I think when I think about crimes of passion, I always think about, like, people in relationships.
Lex P
Yes, that's not a crime of passion.
Drea Nicole
To the person because they felt some type of way, like. But then I feel like it's. It's no getting away from it, because a crime of passion could be, okay, okay, this person found out she was cheating on them. But then sometimes, even if you're honest with the person and you tell them, hey, look, this relationship no longer serves me. I don't want to be with you anymore. Even in situations like that, people be snapping and wanting to kill you. So it's really no avoiding it.
Mara
I don't think for karma, passion, both people have to be.
Drea Nicole
You don't.
Mara
You know, like, for him, it was passion for him that was hers, you know, and he's jealous of all these other people and other things, and so if he's doing it out of the love that he has for her, it doesn't matter. Matter if it's reciprocated. Well, still, why he did it.
Taz
And crime of passions aren't always about love. Sometimes they're about hate. So a lot of times things are categorized, crimes of passion. When there's things like overkill.
Mara
It could be a mother and a daughter.
Taz
It could be a mother daughter, it could be a mother's boyfriend, it could be the daughter's boyfriend to the mother. And the fact that the mother was killed instead of stabbed in the heart once, she was stabbed 87 times, that. That then becomes a crime of passion. And that also lets investigators know, okay, this is probably somebody that this person knows. It's probably not a randomly. A random robbery gone wrong now.
Drea Nicole
Right.
Taz
And so I think with crimes of passion, when it comes to, like, couples, it usually. It usually is something that has been. That hasn't been addressed over time. Like it. It's a gradual thing.
Lex P
Build up.
Taz
Yeah, it's a gradual buildup, for sure.
Lex P
Well, the reason I said that about the crime of passion, I think it has to between two people who are familiar, because I think that's when it's people who aren't familiar. Like with the Mercedes case. I wouldn't count that as a crime of passion. Even though in his head he probably felt like he was in love and this and that. I think that's when you start getting to the territory of mental illness.
Drea Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
So I think I would separate crimes of passion from people who have a mental illness, because anybody can become victim of a crime of passion.
Mara
But don't you think crimes of passion are when people hit that mental.
Lex P
Um, yes, they do, but I think it's a mental break and it's a moment because you never know what can make you snap.
Mara
Mmm.
Lex P
You can never say never until it happens, until it happens to you. You never know how somebody will take you there. But versus somebody. That man probably been weird for his entire life. You can't sit up here and tell me, like, if we.
Drea Nicole
If he was alive and he was stalking.
Lex P
Right. If he was alive and they were able to deep dive into that, that's another. Her case didn't get deep dive into, I think, because she was not only a black woman, but she was a sex worker. Because they should have deep dived into his history and his life to figure out, to give everybody just more answers because she was cared about.
Taz
I think they were victims of his stalking, even if they weren't like Any victims that he actually put his hands on, there's probably other women. There's probably plenty of restraining orders.
Lex P
Exactly. So I think it's a difference, because if they would have really looked into his history of who he was, was. It was. It was a lot more victims. It was the. The red flags were there. So people like that. I'm like, those are the people that need to get, you know, locked up for life and throw away the key. You know what I'm saying? Because if you leave them out, if it wasn't her, it was going to be somebody else. If he would have not unalived himself, he would have kept going and did it to other people. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes I do feel like crimes of passion, it's kind of like a. This. They snapped, you know, truly snapped. And like I said, I'm not making excuses because there's still victims in all these situations, but I do like to feel that it's a little just different.
Taz
And you see that snap sometimes because, like, mothers, when it comes to their children or if somebody's threatening to take their children away, that usually is, like, people don't know how they're going to react behind their child until they're in that situation. Like, oh, you're about to take my child away from. From me? No, I'm about to take you out of this world.
Mara
Right.
Taz
It's like I said, it's always something, and it's usually a gradual buildup because it's probably something like, you're not a good mother. You need to take care of your children more. Okay. I'm going to make sure that your children get taken away from you. Oh, I'm calling defects on you. Okay. Now I got to kill you.
Lex P
Right.
Taz
You know what I'm saying? It's that instant snap where you probably could have thought, logically, got a lawyer, petitioned the court.
Lex P
Right, Right.
Taz
But in your mind, it's like, it's me and these children against everybody in any type of relationship.
Lex P
It was like that case in Florida. Do y'all remember when that lady found out, like, her husband was, like, assaulting the kids at her daycare? She owned a daycare, and she didn't even shoot him. She shot in the air. Like, warning shots, like, I will kill you if you continue to do this. They were getting into it, and he didn't go to jail. She did.
Taz
Warning shots are, like, legal.
Drea Nicole
Yeah.
Taz
Especially if you are a licensed carrier. Those are. That is illegal.
Lex P
Yeah. So it's just like, in that moment, she Snapped. Cuz she's in her mind trying to protect these kids. You're a monster. But the way the legal system is, I mean, it's. I need to see what happened to her. Cuz they were trying to put her away for a long time.
Taz
And the Internet was like, no.
Lex P
Put him away. Yes. And they would not. They would not lock him up. They would not lock him up.
Drea Nicole
Okay, y'all, I'm trying to think, what's the time that I thought I was getting set up? Maybe when that girl was trying to figure out if I was dating?
Lex P
I swear to God, I was thinking that I had your back ten toes down.
Drea Nicole
Yeah. Like the. You thought you.
Lex P
I said, I don't know. She would never do that to you.
Drea Nicole
Did you think. Did. But my thing is, did she really think you was going to tell her that I was talking to him? Like, lex is my friend. She's my friend.
Lex P
She's like, lex, tell me the truth.
Drea Nicole
I don't care how long y'all be. Cause, I mean, y'all was kind of cool, I guess, a little bit. But you had just met her, so it's like, why would you think Lex is gonna tell you anything that I don't want you to know? Lex knows. I don't want you to know this. She's not gonna tell you to do that.
Lex P
I said, girl, she would never do that to you. Look at me. In my eyes.
Drea Nicole
I definitely felt like she was trying to set me up for sure.
Lex P
She was.
Drea Nicole
Yes. Because at the time, you know, I was single, so I was talking to, like, two different people.
Lex P
Right, right.
Drea Nicole
And she went and asked the other dude that I was talking to if I was talking to the other dude. Like, she was really trying to get to the bottom of it.
Lex P
She really was.
Drea Nicole
She was very pressed.
Lex P
That was so strange looking back, literally. What's up, y'all?
Drea Nicole
It's your girl xp, and it's your girl, Dre Nicole.
Lex P
Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week, but do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here, period.
Drea Nicole
If you have a item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to Item of the week. PM that's I t m o f t h w e e k pmil.com Send us an email, and we'll work it out. We gonna figure it out. Get your product, get your business sponsored, and, yeah, make you some money.
Lex P
We love to support a small business.
Drea Nicole
Now in a black business at that, But, I mean, we don't discriminate. Any business is welcome. Okay, y'all, let's get into the bop of the week.
Lex P
The bop of the hubbub. The bop. Hey, the bop. Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow. Okay, so.
Drea Nicole
Okay, so what y'all been listening to?
Lex P
Yeah, what? Yalls. Bop of the week.
Drea Nicole
It could be something new, old. It don't matter.
Taz
Taz is definitely the music girly. I don't.
Lex P
You're the music girly. Okay, what you been listening to?
Mara
I feel like, honestly, when. When I do turn on music, I like to go back.
Taz
Like.
Mara
I like to listen to, like, 90s hip hop, like, Atlanta rap. Okay, welcome to Atlanta.
Lex P
Or.
Mara
You know what I've really been on? I've been on slow jams. Real.
Lex P
I'm an R and B girly.
Drea Nicole
I love R B. I'm a R.
Mara
B girl from, like, the old soul jams. Like, people I don't know. I seen a debate the other day, and somebody was talking about who's the queen of R B. And people were naming, like, her and stuff, and I was like, you the queen. That's what I'm saying. Like, not to take nothing away from her, but the queen is a heavy title for a new age girl. You know what I mean?
Lex P
You know what I'm saying?
Drea Nicole
Duchess, not princess.
Lex P
A little Duchess. What? You know, R and B. That's like a Mariah. You have Tony back.
Mara
You have Mariah Carey, you have Kelly Price, you have all these Mary J. Blige.
Lex P
Gosh, like, those are the queens. The queens.
Drea Nicole
Her two New Age.
Lex P
Okay, okay, what you been jamming, Dre?
Drea Nicole
Okay, so you know, Drake and Party just had that album that just came out, but I really like Pey. That's on the album. I've been listening to her new ep. Well, it's not new. It's from last year, but it's called Bittersweet. But I really like her voice. Okay, so that's what I've been listening to. So what you been listening to?
Taz
So I'm a Broadway girly, and so I'm usually listening to, like, what's nominated for the Tonys this year, but I just announced everybody that I'm pregnant.
Drea Nicole
Congratulations.
Lex P
Thank you.
Taz
Thank you, thank you. So I'm having a little boy. So I've been putting together, like, my sweet Lullaby Playlist. And so, like, it's mostly songs that I'm just super into. So my. The song right now is that'll Be Enough from Hamilton. Because it talks about, like, her telling him that he's having a son and being so.
Lex P
On the play. Right?
Taz
Yeah.
Lex P
Okay. Okay.
Taz
Yeah. So that's what it's. That's the song and Wills of a Dream from Ragtime. These are all like, Ragtime is a very old musical, but it's very popular, so I'm always a Broadway girly.
Lex P
I was about to say you're a musical girly.
Taz
I'm a musical girly. And so now that I'm putting together, like, all these, like, sweet baby songs for me and the baby, I'm like, aw, that's what I'm feeling.
Lex P
So you gonna be the mama singing. You gonna be singing. Singing down.
Drea Nicole
Taking the Broadway show.
Lex P
Oh, that's right.
Taz
Somebody's gonna love you, period.
Lex P
Okay, so my bop of the week. Sticking true to the theme. I took it too far with the theme this week, y'all.
Drea Nicole
What?
Lex P
Okay, okay. So this is a throwback, so I'm glad that you said throwback today. I never do throwbacks. Okay, Are y'all Michael Jackson fans?
Taz
Yes.
Drea Nicole
Yes.
Lex P
Now, I'm about to get deep in my Michael Jackson bag. Like, this is a pocket that a lot of people don't. This is a true crime song. Did y'all know that Michael Jackson sang about true crime?
Mara
Smoke Colonel?
Lex P
No. He has a song. Do y'all remember that song, Little Susie?
Drea Nicole
No.
Lex P
Exactly. Now, I'm not even gonna get into the song of Little Suzie, but it is a song about a little girl who was murdered. Murder in her own home. I just wanna read to y'all the first lines of the lyrics.
Taz
Okay?
Drea Nicole
What does it say?
Lex P
I'm gonna read the first two lines, and I'm gonna let y'all go listen to it on the screen.
Taz
I wanna say this sounds.
Lex P
Somebody killed Little Susie, the girl with the tune who sings in the daytime at noon. She was there screaming, beating her voice in the dune. Nobody came to her soon. God damn it. It was a song. I'm telling y'all.
Drea Nicole
Oh, my goodness.
Lex P
This song used to scare me. Cause he's singing about how she. Somebody pushed her down the stairs. She had blood in her hair. I used to listen to this song when I was, like, six, y'all, and it used to horrify me.
Drea Nicole
What album was this on?
Lex P
This was on the one where he was in the stage, statue with the lights. You know what I'm talking about the statue like this. He was saying, like, y'all know I can't remember what album it's called, y'all. It is a horrifying song. It's horrifying.
Taz
And it will be on the official sisters who kill playlist.
Lex P
Seriously. It's called Susie and it is a true crime. Cuz he's talking about how everybody showed up at the funeral. It's tea, y'all.
Mara
Okay.
Lex P
I said Michael Jackson. I knew I was getting too deep in my Knew I was too deep in that bag.
Drea Nicole
Find something on brand past, present and future album.
Lex P
Yes. Y'all have to go listen to little Susie. Y'all could be like, oh, my God. Oh, my God. Michael. Michael was crazy.
Drea Nicole
All right, now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show, which is pour your heart out. Y'all know if y'all have any questions or testimonial, send them in to ask poor minds@gmail.com. as K P O u r M I n d s mail dot com. Okay.
Taz
You don't say the numbers real good.
Drea Nicole
Thanks, girl. I be feeling like I gotta spill it out. Cause people, as long as we've had this show, people still be like, poor minds. P o o r. So I'll be like, let me send that.
Taz
Ain't never been y'all brand.
Lex P
Okay, what about a gift poor. That was probably watching wind down Wednesday. My wig was still.
Drea Nicole
It was a little poor.
Lex P
I used to give a little pull.
Drea Nicole
Back then we was giving a little pour back then.
Lex P
Okay, you go first.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, I'll go first.
Lex P
Okay.
Drea Nicole
Hey, Andrea, Keep me anonymous. I'm a pathological liar. See, you moved.
Lex P
You should have ready Question. I'm answer. I got her. I got.
Drea Nicole
I lie about anything. You could text me what you doing while I'm watching Netflix in bed. And I'll say I'm making a steak dinner and st and saging my home.
Lex P
Okay, you took it too far.
Drea Nicole
I feel like it just adds a little mystery to my life. I recently sent you guys two emails lying my ass off. So hopefully y'all get to this one first and weed me out the bunch. The thing is, I'll lie at first, then immediately have to come back and tell the truth. Because, girl, why did I even lie like Lex, do you still be lying? How do you fight the urge? Do I need to put a rubber band on my wrist or something? Sorry. This was long. I love you guys. Exo.
Lex P
You know what's crazy? The joke about me lying.
Drea Nicole
It ain't a Joke.
Lex P
I'll say this. I always take lying as a joke. Cause it started from me talking about lying to my niggas and guys that I'm dating. Because I'd be like, oh, yeah, those are cool lies.
Taz
Yeah.
Lex P
Yeah. So obviously it got taken out of context because of the show. And it's funny. I'mma go along with it. Cause I'm like, oh, I love a good lie. Cause I, you know, use a lot of these niggas. But if you are lying, okay, if you are lying about you just laying in the bed and you talking about you cooking a whole steak dinner literally for nothing crazy, you're taking it a little. You're taking it a little too far. Like I said, lies are supposed to be fun.
Taz
They're supposed to be fun.
Lex P
If a man calls you and you at home in bed crying, you supposed to be like, oh, I'm outside with my. Those are the lies that we talk about when you say, I love to lie. Oh, what you got to do this weekend? Oh, I'm booked up and busy. I'm like, I got to go to Greece this weekend. I think those are the kind of lies we like to tell. But you just lying for the fun of it.
Drea Nicole
Fake dinner, cuz that's crazy. Staging your home.
Taz
Cuz I only time that I could see lion through text message is if you know that person is a facetimer and you don't want. If I'm at home watching tv and I don't want you to text me or I don't want you to FaceTime me. I have some people that'll call, text me and say, what are you doing? And I'm like, I would just say I'm busy. I really don't want. I really don't want to turn off 90 Day Fiance. Like, it's.
Lex P
It's never given. I have to wear a rubber band and snap it to stop. You might need to go to that lady.
Drea Nicole
Yeah, you go talk to go get a little therapy.
Lex P
That's a little oldie.
Drea Nicole
And even to say, I rode in and I sent y'all two lying ass emails.
Mara
This is gonna be the next email, right?
Taz
Y'all should go copy and paste the email and find all of her lies.
Drea Nicole
Girl, we are exposed.
Lex P
Cause honestly, we gotta look up Shay. We gotta look up her email address and see what's the other two that are lies. Cause baby, I'm a liar. But you took. I am not on your level. She said, we are not gonna be out the bunch.
Drea Nicole
I'm not even trying to waste y'all time.
Lex P
I am. We. Good luck, girl. Okay. Hey, ladies. I know this might sound crazy, but I've been out of a DV relationship for. For about two years now, and I haven't been sexually active since. Do you think it's crazy for that ex to pay me for sexual relations because I don't want to deal with anyone new yet, or should I stay on my heel and keep my distance?
Mara
Keep your distance?
Taz
Keep your distance, girl.
Drea Nicole
What?
Lex P
No, that's what I'm saying. DB That's a little like, is your life worth it? We just talked about true crime.
Taz
Now he gonna be like that person that.
Lex P
With the conjugal visit pay now, because.
Drea Nicole
What?
Lex P
That's a little much. I know. Rent do. I know Ed.
Drea Nicole
Him paying her just so she could. So she don't have to go sleep with somebody else. But he was.
Lex P
But I also think, girl, lie about your abuse.
Taz
Go have sex with somebody else. Don't nobody care.
Lex P
And I also think a lot of times nobody can.
Drea Nicole
Point put, if nobody could put you on it, it don't matter. It didn't happen.
Lex P
Right? And I think also when women, I. Well, I'm assuming it's a woman. She didn't say if it's a woman or a man, but either way, woman or man, I think a lot of times when people are in DV relationships, you feel some kind of hold to, like, fix this person. And I don't think this has anything to do with you not wanting to have sex with somebody. I think this has to do with you having. You feel like you have a soul tie to this person and you still want to reach out to them and be around them. So for your safety and your health and everything, your mental health, stay on your heel and keep your distance. Nothing is worse that. Move on.
Taz
Get a rose.
Lex P
Get a rose, child.
Drea Nicole
Or just go find you a new man.
Lex P
Yeah. Find you. It's a billion people in the world. Okay.
Taz
Find you somebody to have a conjugal visit with.
Drea Nicole
Okay, well, there's plenty of them waiting.
Lex P
Chill. Okay, well, let them know where they can find Yalls podcast where they can follow y'all at when the episodes drop. All that good stuff. Stuff.
Taz
Okay, y'all. You can find us sisters who kill S I S T a s who kill anywhere. Spotify, Apple, Podcast, YouTube, Instagram, Tik Tok. All the places we drop. Every single Friday. Every single Friday, you will get a new case from us. And you can find us patreon.com sisters who kill. Yeah. Fridays, period.
Lex P
Thank y'all so much. This was so much fun. Thank y'all.
Taz
This was great.
Lex P
This was.
Drea Nicole
This was really fun.
Lex P
All right, and we'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Bye, y'all. Make sure y'all share the content. Like, subscribe, follow all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P o u R underscore m I nds. Y'all are tagging the wrong 4 months page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page. Okay? They block me. Andrea and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one Tick tock. It is P o u R Underscore M I n d S. All right.
Drea Nicole
And we got hella fake Facebook page.
Lex P
The fake Facebook pages.
Drea Nicole
It's the our face. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers.
Lex P
So if you on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers.
Drea Nicole
The one that's not us got like 250,000. It's fake.
Lex P
If you actually look at the content. Cuz the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English. Cuz their captions are like, Mama cl. Should men. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes. No check answer below.
Drea Nicole
Block, block. Like, that's literally what the captions are.
Lex P
I like you. What that DDG's Bumba, Claude, Bumba Claw. I love that video. We got sisters who sing in the building. Hit it, Dreya. You finna sing it? Yeah. Yeah, you better sing same Heart Break Hotel. This is the. I think we can all hit it together. How y'all feeling?
Drea Nicole
You said you beat home by nine. Instead you took your time? You didn't think to call me boy? Here I sit trying not to cry.
Lex P
Asking myself why you do this to me? Since you're not around for me to.
Drea Nicole
Tell you, baby face to face I'm.
Taz
Writing you this letter and this is.
Drea Nicole
What I have.
Lex P
All I really wanted.
Taz
Was some of your time he said.
Drea Nicole
You told me lies when someone else.
Lex P
Was on your mind what you do to me? Say what you did to me oh, baby. Unless you were someone who would do me right until you play with my emotions and you made me cry what you do to me can take what you did to me. Hit it, Dre.
Drea Nicole
Now I see that you been doing wrong? That's right, you played me all along and made a fool of me Baby you got it all wrong to think that I wouldn't find out Come on, Lex.
Lex P
That you were cheating on me Baby how could you do that to me? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah since you're not.
Taz
Around for me to tell you Baby, baby face to face.
Lex P
I'm writing you.
Taz
This letter and this is what I have to say.
Lex P
All I really wanted was some of your time and said you told me like when someone else was on your mind what you did.
Drea Nicole
To me what you doing can't say what you did to me yeah I.
Lex P
Thought that you were someone who would do me right I said you play with my emotions and you made me cry cry what you do to me can take what you did this is a true crime song too. Can't take what you did to me ho ass. We'll see y'all next week. Hot break. Ho.
Taz
This is the.
Lex P
Sa.
Pour Minds Podcast - Episode: Mystery Inc FT. Sistas Who Kill Podcast (April 4, 2025)
Hosts: Lex P and Drea Nicole
Guests: Mara and Taz from Sisters Who Kill Podcast
In a rare setup, Lex P and Drea Nicole welcome Mara and Taz from the Sisters Who Kill podcast to the Pour Minds couch. Lex expresses excitement about featuring more women in the true crime space, emphasizing the importance of diverse voices.
Notable Quote:
Lex P (01:56): "There's so many different genres of podcasting out here."
Mara and Taz share their history, detailing their high school rivalry that eventually blossomed into a partnership in the true crime genre. The duo recount how the pandemic inspired them to finally launch their podcast, combining their extensive research and discussions sparked by consuming true crime media.
Notable Quote:
Taz (05:04): "People should pay to hear this, right?"
Lex raises concerns about the responsibility of true crime podcasters to respect victims and their families. Mara and Taz acknowledge past mistakes, such as prematurely discussing certain cases, and emphasize their commitment to sensitivity, especially as their podcasts focus on Black women.
Notable Quote:
Mara (06:54): "We've definitely made those mistakes."
The conversation shifts to the underrepresentation and misrepresentation of Black women in true crime media. Mara highlights the disparity in media attention and the challenges in accessing comprehensive information about their cases. Taz points out that while there are other Black-led true crime podcasts, the majority are still underrepresented.
Notable Quote:
Taz (07:34): "Some people just watch for my man and they report just for my man."
Lex inquires about potential conflicts within the true crime podcast community. Mara and Taz reveal occasional instances of fans pitting podcasts against each other but stress that such drama is infrequent and manageable.
Notable Quote:
Taz (08:38): "Everybody tries to stay in their own lane."
Drea discusses the paranoia that can stem from excessive consumption of true crime content. The guests share strategies to mitigate these feelings, such as maintaining trust in close relationships and recognizing red flags in real-life interactions.
Notable Quote:
Lex P (12:41): "Something going down? What's going down?"
A significant portion of the episode delves into the "Missing White Woman Syndrome," contrasting it with the often-overlooked disappearances of Black women. Mara asserts, "It's absolutely real," emphasizing the systemic biases in media coverage and societal response.
Notable Quote:
Mara (20:16): "People always have an excuse to why the black person doesn't deserve justice."
The hosts and guests discuss how platforms like TikTok have revolutionized awareness for missing Black women, citing the Naziyah Harris case as an example of how viral content can lead to increased attention and, ultimately, resolutions.
Notable Quote:
Lex P (27:14): “If somebody’s family member went missing.”
A brief advertisement for Kickoff, a credit-building app, is presented by Lex P and Drea Nicole.
Post-advertisement, the discussion resumes with Mara and Taz addressing the complexities of covering gang-related crimes, especially those involving Black men. They highlight the dangers of sensationalism and the scarcity of detailed information due to community reluctance to speak out.
Notable Quote:
Taz (35:10): "We just reporting these stories."
The panel shares personal anecdotes about encountering scams and manipulative relationships. Lex recounts being scammed through stolen credit miles, while Drea and Taz discuss navigating relationships with partners who have dubious backgrounds.
Notable Quote:
Lex P (42:18): "I don't want something as serious as the crimes that R. Kelly did, that hurt people."
A deep dive into the connections between crime and sexual relationships unfolds. The hosts explore how crimes of passion are portrayed differently based on the victim's race and profession, criticizing the tendency to victim-blame Black women, especially those involved in sex work.
Notable Quote:
Lex P (75:18): "She was a sex worker. Cause they should have deep dived into his history and his life to figure out, to give everybody just more answers."
The conversation emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries in personal relationships to prevent crimes of passion. The speakers advocate for self-awareness and the cultivation of emotional control to safeguard against violent outbursts fueled by unchecked emotions.
Notable Quote:
Lex P (84:56): "Discernment can save your life."
The episode concludes with fun segments like "Bop of the Week" and "Pour Your Heart Out," allowing listeners to engage with the hosts through music and personal stories. Announcements about upcoming shows and social media clarifications are also made.
Notable Quote:
Drea Nicole (58:16): "Don't ever settle for anything in life if it's not exactly what you want."
Representation Matters: There's a critical need for more diverse voices in the true crime podcasting space, particularly Black women who are often marginalized in media narratives.
Ethical Storytelling: Podcasters bear the responsibility of handling true crime stories with sensitivity, respecting victims and their families while combating societal biases.
Impact of Social Media: Platforms like TikTok play a pivotal role in elevating underreported cases, bringing stories to the forefront that might otherwise remain unnoticed.
Personal Boundaries: Establishing and maintaining personal boundaries is essential in relationships to prevent emotional manipulation and potential violence.
Episode Highlights:
Stephanie Brinson Case (00:00 – 01:08): A tragic story illustrating the dangers within conjugal visits in prisons.
Missing White Woman Syndrome (20:16 – 26:33): An exploration of media biases affecting the coverage of missing persons cases.
Naziyah Harris Case (23:24 – 26:33): Highlighting the role of community and social media in resolving missing persons cases.
Stay Connected:
For more insightful discussions and true crime stories, follow Pour Minds Podcast and Sisters Who Kill on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok.
Disclaimer: This summary is for informational purposes only and does not contain all details from the original podcast episode.