Pour Minds Podcast

Episode: "Santa Was The Daddy" Ft. Ken The Man

Air Date: December 26, 2025
Hosts: Drea Nicole & Lex P
Special Guest: Ken The Man (Rapper/Songwriter)

Overview

This festive episode blends holiday chaos, girl talk, and real-life advice as Houston's own Ken The Man joins Drea and Lex for an unfiltered wine-soaked chat. Together, they swap stories on dating, car mishaps, friendship, body image, and surprising “Santa” secrets. Laughter, raw honesty, and a heavy dose of Houston culture make this a lively, comforting listen.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Catch-up & Car Confessions

• Segment Start: [03:05]
• The trio opens with stories of being deceived by men (trips with “birthday balloons”), glitter vases at an ex’s house, and meeting “the other woman.”
• They plunge into a storytelling circle about old cars:
  • Lex rides around in her “beat up” but beloved older car.
  • The group reminisces about memories made, defending why not every car needs to be perfect.
• Memorable Exchange:
  • “Your car have it—you a bad bitch but you gotta have something that humble you.” – Drea [13:01]
• Ken shares drunk driving near-misses, and how a poorly-timed “accidental location share” nearly brought her ex to her house.
• Car window tint experiences: Drea gets ticketed for her too-dark tint, debates with a stern Black officer, and reflects on police encounters in Atlanta.

2. Ken The Man’s Career, Independence & Fanbase

• Segment Start: [05:11]
• Lex and Drea hype Ken’s sold-out tours as an independent rapper. Ken is proud of her fans, though reluctant to call them “Ken Folks”:
  • “They want to be called Ken Folks so bad... it’s country as fuck, not sexy.” – Ken The Man [06:29]
• They joke about what makes a good fanbase name: “Crew”/“Mannequins” and self-made identities.

3. Poor Decisions Circle

• Segment Start: [10:09]
• Each woman recounts her recent “poor decision”:
  • Lex & Drea: Risky car maintenance avoidance and the perils of delaying tire repairs.
  • Ken: Drunkenly tracked an ex (location share mishap), and a close call with a Kroger semi-truck—“Squeezed by my whole ass…”
• The group bonds over the universal embarrassment of car accidents and dings, then riff on window tints and being pulled over by cops.

4. Reindeer, Animal Look-Alikes & Holiday Shenanigans

• Segment Start: [22:40]
• Drea asks: “Does anyone know what noise reindeers make?”
  • They descend into animal comparisons, assigning each other creatures—turtle, koala, ostrich.
• This launches fun debate on what animals people resemble.
  • Ken: “Every human look like an animal.” [26:40]

5. Star Wars, Pop Culture & Cruising

• Segment Start: [30:50]
• Lex reveals she just watched Star Wars for the first time, pokes fun at the old graphics and stilted fight scenes: “Han Solo’s best move was he tapped the bad guy on the shoulder and ran!” [33:12]
• The crew talks Alaskan cruises (“Why would anybody go? It’s cold!”), geography lessons about driving to Alaska, and why not everyone is welcome in Hawaii now.
• Cruises with Family & Friends:
  • Hesitations about cruises (lack of cell service, kid-friendly vs. adult-only), and the need for a group vacation.
  • “Y’all, we have to take a trip—not a Carnival cruise!” – Ken [42:03]

6. Christmas Traditions & “Santa Was The Daddy” Realization

• Segment Start: [44:33]
• Discussion of the song “I Saw Mama Kissing Santa Claus”—childhood misinterpretations vs. adult realization (“Santa was the daddy!”).
  • “I always thought mama was a hoe! Me too… why is Santa fuckin’ with her?” – Drea & Lex [45:04]
• Humor about growing up without a dad and why “Santa never came for my mama…”

7. Morbid Humor: Cremation, Legacy, and Carrying Family

• Segment Start: [48:34]
• Lighthearted but real talk about their preferences for burial versus cremation.
  • Lex: “I want to be cremated—take me on set, in Dre’s necklace!” [50:35]
  • They note how being able to have your loved one’s remains with you can bring comfort through big life changes and moves.
  • “If we buried my mom, she’d be far away. But we packed her up and moved!” – Lex [51:13]

8. Love Bombing vs. Real Love Game

• Segment Start: [53:47]
• A lively game on discerning love bombing from real affection with Christmas-themed scenarios.
• The crew debates whether matching pajamas, Christmas trips, and lavish gifts in early relationships are sincere or manipulative:
  • “If he buys matching pajamas before even defining the relationship—that’s a love bomb!” – Lex [73:04]
  • “If a man buys luxury gifts after a few weeks but won’t commit, he’s trapping you.” [76:10]
• Deeper dive into dynamics—how women “love bomb” men (good sex, performing wifey duties, or withholding/“dangling” sex).
  • “I think sometimes women pretend to be ‘pick me’s just like men.” – Lex [80:06]

9. Threesomes, Sexual Double-Standards & Definitions

• Segment Start: [92:12]
• Open, candid dialogue about women’s desires vs. pressures around threesomes
  • Ken: “I never met a man that stimulated me enough to fuck him with another girl.” [92:27]
  • Lex: “Men don’t have enough dick for two women!”
• Discuss the difference between a "train" and a "threesome":
  • Drea: “I changed my mind. It’s all a threesome if everybody’s participating!” [96:00]
  • Lex: “Stop having threesomes for your man if you don’t really want to—stand on what YOU want.” [94:59]
• Conversation on society’s double standards & homophobia, how language shapes perception.

10. Freestyling & Bop of the Week

• Segment Start: [107:24]
• The group does a Houston-style freestyle, trading bars and showing off Southern rap flavor.
• Bops of the Week: Both Drea and Lex pick Ken’s songs, celebrating Houston women in rap:
  • “Big Shit Talking” & “Crazy About Me”
  • Ken spits: “Still the same bitch, but the bag bigger. I’m the rich nigga, ain’t got time to be a gold digger…” [104:06]
• Discussion of Ken’s process as an independent artist—she writes her own lyrics, builds beats with her producer, and values authenticity.
• Shout-outs to other Houston artists: Monaleo, Megan Thee Stallion, Beyonce.

11. Pour Your Heart Out: Listener Advice

• Segment Start: [119:17]
• Listener Question: “My girl of 4 years and I barely have sex, argue a lot, and I think she’s cheating. Lost communication, what should I do?”
  • Ken: “You gotta stimulate your partner, even after 4 years. Pour into her—but if she won’t communicate, it might be done.” [121:25]
  • Lex: “If you’re confused and unhappy for months, that’s the answer right there—let it go.” [126:49]
  • Consensus: Communication is crucial; no trust, no relationship.

12. Bottled Up: Young Entrepreneur's Doubt

• Segment Start: [130:44]
• A 20-year-old licensed nail tech wonders if she should stick with her slow-growing business.
  • Lex: “If you quit, you’ll regret it… every small business owner has slow seasons. Don’t stop.” [131:48]
  • Ken: “It only takes one set, one post, one client… you can always work a job for bills, but keep your passion alive.” [133:19]
  • The group encourages “side hustles” while building your business.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Independence in Music:

  • “Wall to wall, singing everything word for word… I just shout out to y’all, my fans always show up!” – Ken The Man [06:11]

• On Embracing Imperfect Cars:

  • “Everybody got those things to humble you. Career funny, home beautiful, but that car…” – Lex & Drea [13:20]

• On Self-Improvement & Surgery:

  • “I love my body…but it’s working out. My genetics ain’t snapped me back, I gotta go work for it.” – Ken The Man [68:09]

• On Outgrowing Relationships:

  • “If you’re confused for months, that’s the answer—being confused is the literal solution.” – Lex P [126:49]

• On Female Rap & Houston:

  • "I make music for women; it's dominant, masculine music for women. The man is just my alter ego..." – Ken The Man [139:30]

Fun & Festive Timestamps

• Car Mishaps & Gifts: [10:09]
• Star Wars Roast: [30:50]
• Santa-Kissing Debate: [44:33]
• Body Image/Surgery Realness: [66:29]
• Love Bomb or Real Love Game: [53:47]
• Sex & Threesomes: [92:12]
• Houston Freestyle: [107:24]
• Listener Advice: [119:17]
• Bottled Up Business Pep Talk: [130:44]

Tone & Language

The episode is rowdy, honest, and comedically vulnerable. The language is unfiltered: plenty of cussing, Black Southern vernacular, and inside jokes. The women riff off each other with quick wit, warmth, and Houston pride. Ken The Man brings both humor and wisdom, fitting right in with the candid “drunk therapy” vibe.

Conclusion

“Santa Was The Daddy” is a signature Pour Minds “holiday hangout”—equal parts hilarious, genuine, and empowering. Whether debating if matching pajamas mean love or a ploy, reminiscing on old cars, or hyping Houston rap, Drea, Lex, and Ken offer both laughter and real talk—pull up with a glass and prepare for a ride.