Pour Minds Podcast | "Smart Minds, Open Hearts" — Summary

Podcast: Pour Minds (The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts)
Episode: Smart Minds, Open Hearts
Date: November 14, 2025
Hosts: Drea & Lex P

Overview

This solo episode of Pour Minds sees Drea and Lex P (two Atlanta-based, formerly Houstonian, single Black women) back on the couch for a candid, spirited conversation about personal growth, business acumen, financial literacy, friendship, adulting—and yes, dating as an evolved Black woman. Their hallmark blend of funny storytelling, sharp and unfiltered advice, and “drunk therapy session” energy is complemented in this episode by their guest, Kendrea Strong, founder of Rooted Revival.

Listeners are treated to thoughtful discussions on self-improvement, Black women in business, friendship, building wealth from scratch, hair health, and even the evolving nature of romantic expectations. Light-hearted moments, classic quotables, and the hosts’ authentic friendship make this an episode packed with laughs and real talk.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Q4 Hustle, Self-Development & Growth

(Timestamp: 05:15-08:38)

• Drea and Lex unpack their focus as the year ends—staying disciplined, setting goals, reading motivational books (specifically “The 12 Week Year”), and how compressing goal timelines improves productivity.
  • “I've just been really trying to stay focused and, like, stay the course because this has been a really great year.” — Andrea (05:29)
• Lex celebrates new financial independence via her brand LoveLexp, paying her living expenses through it within two months.
• They share gratitude for supportive friendship, reliable business partnership, and their growing Poor Minds community.
  • “We just let the results speak for themselves.” — Lex P (08:00)

Notable Quote:
“I think that we are who we are, but it's not a bad—I'm not saying it in a bad way.” — Lex P (08:30)

2. On Business, Finances & Taxes as Black Women Entrepreneurs

(Timestamp: 11:03-18:44)

• Candid talk about the realities of entrepreneurship: taxes, paying staff, state vs. no-state-tax living, and legitimizing their business.
• They shout out their accountant (Johan at JJNR Associates) and stress the importance of handling taxes early.
  • “Y’all, please hit up JJ and R Associates.” — Lex P (15:28)
• Discussion covers financial literacy—saving, investing, and not letting money sit in a low-yield checking account.
• Drea introduces Acorns app and passive investing stories.
• Both emphasize “just start” for young listeners, even at $5 a week.
  • “If y’all looked at my bank account right now, y’all probably like, God damn, you broke ass bitch. But they ain’t know. I keep that thing on me in the back.” — Lex P & Andrea (17:20-17:25)

Memorable Moment:
Joking about men with CTE “back in the day” who used to be generous with money—and the decline of such high-spending men.

• “Niggas don’t got CTE no more… When I was in the club, they had CTE—life was good!” — Lex P (20:39)

3. The Evolution of Friendship & Business Partners

(Timestamp: 11:03-14:47; 134:33-136:45)

• Both share pride and relief that money has never come between them and their professional relationship is grounded in friendship and shared responsibility.
• Drea: “We both very responsible … We gonna make sure everybody be paid.”
• Advice for listeners: Start ventures with trustworthy partners, don’t ignore red flags like financial sneakiness, and always stay hands-on.

4. Self-Sufficiency and Changing Mindsets on Relationships

(Timestamp: 28:03-31:24)

• Both reflect on their shift from seeking men for financial security to being their own “BDBs” (Big Dick Ballers).
• Drea pushes back against those who claim they contradict themselves: “Am I the same person I was five years ago? No. Have I grown and evolved? Absolutely. And I’ve changed my mind about a lot of things.” (29:50)
• Lex: “You don’t stunt your growth by waiting on somebody.”

5. Special Guest: Kendrea Strong, Rooted Revival Founder – Hair Health & Black Women in Beauty

(Timestamp: 54:33–86:46)

• Kendrea explains her transition from C-suite executive to beauty entrepreneur, focused on textured hair and combating breakage, especially for those with high porosity hair.
• She breaks down the science of hair structure, importance of peptides, and why black hair is actually fragile rather than “strong.”
• Product development: All plant-based, science-backed, and clinically tested—Rooted Revival reduces breakage up to 60% after first use.
  • “Our product really focuses on that cuticle layer…to minimize the breakage. And we’re clinically proven to minimize breakage by 60%.” — Kendrea Strong (57:48)
• The panel discusses hair myths, importance of washing hair during long-term protective styles, and best conditioning practices.
  • “Consistency can really, in doing repetition, you know, having a good regimen. Just like skincare.” — Kendrea Strong (64:16)

Notable Quote:
“If I tell you it’s going to work, I need it to work.” — Kendrea Strong (61:14)

6. Pop Culture & Parasocial Relationships

(Timestamp: 86:50-106:07)

• Drea and Lex talk about "celebrity crushes" and whether adults (and their partners) can cross a line from fandom into delusion (“Let go of the delusion, bitch, it ain’t happening.” — Andrea, 90:21)
• Concern about parasocial relationships and dangerous fan behavior, especially when technology fuels fantasies (AI images, obsessive social media).
  • “If you have ever made an AI picture with you and a celebrity, you’re taking it too far.” — Lex P (88:53)
• Both joke about men having “man crushes” on celebrities like LeBron, Denzel, Nipsey Hussle—sometimes to homoerotic levels (“I’ll suck your dick. It’s not gay. I just like you. Let me suck them balls.” — Lex P, 104:15)

7. Modern Dating, Disabilities & Intimacy

(Timestamp: 109:11-119:06)

• The hosts explore their real and funny takes on dating someone who’s an amputee or has other disabilities—a topic prompted by news about Karrueche Tran and Deion Sanders.
• Lex: “I could date an amputee…but I want you to be advanced in your amputee journey.” (110:37)
• Drea is honest about her limits but is lighthearted about accommodations (“You can wear some gloves, you can wear some socks.” – Andrea, 109:54)
• They reaffirm that, for all their growth, they care far more about emotional connection and compatibility than superficial standards.

8. Advice Segment & Friendship Troubleshooting

(Timestamp: 130:01–136:45)

• Reader letter: Breaking up after repeated cheating; Lex says, “He’s jealous of you. He secretly hates you and he’s envious. If a man loses ambition and blames you, you need to get away from him immediately.” (130:44)
• "Bottled Up" voice note: How to know if friends are truly your friends—consensus is to trust your intuition and open communication, but also be at peace with moving on from people who make you uneasy.
  • “I don’t ever feel like if me and two people are friends…they're talking about me behind my back…If you feel that way, them ain’t your friends.” — Andrea (133:52)

9. Fun Segments: Bop of the Week, Product Picks, & Shady Humor

(Timestamp: 120:17-129:24)

• Each host recommends music (“October London — Back to Your Place”; “Jada Kingdom — Can't Tell Me That”).
• Shoutouts to favorite body oils (Her Fantasy Box, Muse Beauty Collection) and beauty products.
• Plenty of humor about city vs. suburban living, bad breath, and club stories scattered throughout.

Notable Quotes (with Timestamps)

• “We let them play on our top long enough. It's time to show y'all what we made of.” — Lex P (07:39)
• “If we can make you escape from whatever you got going on for just an hour every Friday, that's what we—we did our job.” — Lex P (08:51)
• “God bless you, for real. … This is a marriage. We say that all the time.” — Lex P (11:07)
• “If y’all looked at my bank account right now, y’all probably like, God damn, you broke ass bitch.” — Lex P (17:20)
• “If something happened … I’m not worried about the physical, it’s your mental.” — Lex P (110:37)
• “Am I the same person I was five years ago? No. Have I grown and evolved? Absolutely.” — Andrea (29:50)
• “Let go of the delusion, bitch, it ain’t happening.” — Andrea (90:21)
• “You don’t stunt your growth by waiting on somebody.” — Lex P (28:35)
• “If you have ever made an AI picture with you and a celebrity, you’re taking it too far.” — Lex P (88:53)
• “If I tell you it’s going to work, I need it to work.” — Kendrea Strong (61:14)
• “Sometimes you gotta let people know you got me fucked up. … Sometimes, no, you don't need to take the high road.” — Lex P (44:53)
• “You can have basil in the city. You don’t have to be on a farm.” — Andrea (38:27)
• “You going to get down this aisle? … A little leg not going to stop me!” — Lex P (114:33)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Q4 Hustle & Goal Setting: 05:15–08:38
• Business, Money & Taxes: 11:03–18:44
• Financial Literacy Tips: 16:23–20:16
• State Taxes & Payroll Stories: 13:31–15:28
• Friendship Reflections: 11:40–12:19, 134:33–136:45
• Becoming Their Own BDBs: 28:03–31:24
• Rooted Revival Hair Health Chat: 54:33–86:46
• Pop Culture/Celebrity Crushes & Parasocial Relationships: 86:50–106:07
• Dating & Disabilities: 109:11–119:06
• Advice Letters: 130:01–131:35
• Bottled Up/Friendship Troubleshooting: 133:36–136:45
• Music/Beauty Picks: 120:17–129:24

Tone, Style, and Energy

• The tone is warm, funny, candid, and deeply supportive.
• Lex and Drea are unfiltered but never mean-spirited, mixing laughter and real talk about vulnerabilities, ambition, and lived Black womanhood.
• The episode bounces between lighthearted stories, business/life advice, and topical cultural critiques, always returning to the value of friendship and growth.

For New Listeners

This episode is a quintessential sample of what has made Pour Minds a beloved “drunk therapy” staple—heartfelt Black friendship, business and life advice, pop culture shade, and plenty of “girl, same!” moments. Even if you’re new, you’ll feel instantly welcomed to the “Poor Crew.”