The IT Factor

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast - Episode: "The IT Factor" | Released: March 28, 2025

Hosts: Drea Nicole & Lex P
Produced by: 85 South Media
Description: Two single Houstonians residing in Atlanta, Drea and Lex, navigate life, friendships, and dating while discussing hot topics over their favorite wines. It's akin to a spirited therapy session with friends—pull up a chair, join the conversation, and wine down!

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1. Reflecting on Younger Years and Personal Growth

Timestamp: [00:00] – [01:31]

The episode kicks off with Lex P and Drea Nicole reminiscing about their younger days, sharing humorous anecdotes about past behaviors and personal transformations. Lex admits to being overly dramatic and "performing" in her youth, referencing a memorable Herbal Essences commercial as a metaphor for her past antics.

Notable Quote:

• Lex P [00:00]: "My younger years, I was just, like, doing too much."
• Drea Nicole [00:24]: "That used to be me."

2. Navigating Show Dynamics and Guest Experiences

Timestamp: [01:22] – [02:43]

Lex and Drea discuss the evolving nature of their podcast, especially the dynamics of having guests. They express gratitude for the majority of positive experiences with guests, acknowledging that while there have been a few not-so-great interactions, overall, hosting guests has been a blessing, bringing diverse perspectives and enriching conversations.

Notable Quote:

• Drea Nicole [02:03]: "But it's way more people that I loved than people that I didn't."

3. Personal Challenges and Upcoming Plans

Timestamp: [02:36] – [05:53]

The hosts share personal updates, including Drea's participation in the "75 Hard" challenge and both expressing excitement for the upcoming summer. Lex touches upon her improved mood and outlook after shedding holiday weight, linking it to the positive influence of sunny weather.

Notable Quote:

• Lex P [04:24]: "My spirit is high again."

4. Luck vs. Blessings: Debating "Lucky Girl Syndrome"

Timestamp: [12:42] – [31:35]

One of the central themes of the episode revolves around the concept of luck versus blessings. Drea initiates the discussion by questioning whether their successes are purely based on luck or a blend of hard work, opportunity, and skill. Lex concurs, emphasizing that while luck can give a momentary shot, it's the combination of skill and opportunity that sustains long-term success. They debate the interchangeability of "luck" and "blessings," ultimately concluding that blessings are more aligned with a purposeful and deserving life, often influenced by one's actions and intentions.

Notable Quotes:

• Lex P [16:32]: "Luck is cool, but what are you going to do with that luck?"
• Drea Nicole [26:02]: "Some people feel like they're just lucky, and others feel like they're just unlucky."

5. Clout vs. Talent: The Changing Landscape of Success in Social Media

Timestamp: [30:32] – [52:28]

Drea raises concerns about the current entertainment industry's emphasis on clout (social media following) over genuine talent. They cite examples like Addison Rae and Charli D'Amelio, who have leveraged their TikTok fame into mainstream opportunities, sometimes at the expense of traditional talent metrics. Lex acknowledges the trend but asserts that true talent combined with hard work will ultimately prevail. They critique how social media numbers can influence casting decisions, sometimes overshadowing skill and authenticity. The conversation also touches upon celebrities like J.Lo and Megan Thee Stallion, debating their talents beyond their social media presence.

Notable Quotes:

• Lex P [41:01]: "Clout can happen to anybody, but blessings happen to the good people."
• Drea Nicole [44:10]: "People get casted in movies because of their fan base."

6. Listener Questions and Relationship Advice

Timestamp: [75:26] – [84:11]

In their "Ask Poor Minds" segment, Drea and Lex address listener-submitted questions about relationships. A key question revolves around moving on from a high-school sweetheart who has become emotionally distant and critical. Both hosts advocate for self-respect and highlight the importance of actions over words. They encourage the listener to prioritize her well-being, suggesting a 30-day detox from the ex-boyfriend to facilitate healing and emphasize that true support will come from respecting relationships that uplift rather than diminish.

Notable Quotes:

• Lex P [81:07]: "Don't bless no mess."
• Drea Nicole [83:55]: "If he's making you feel unattractive, unappreciated, it's time to move on."

7. Product Recommendations and Sponsorships

Timestamp: [11:27] – [13:43], [32:14] – [34:47], [33:07] – [35:00], [66:26] – [70:31], [70:43] – [73:55]

Throughout the episode, Lex and Drea introduce various sponsored segments promoting products and services such as Squarespace for website building, Rocket Money for personal finance management, BetterHelp for mental health support, Muse Beauty Collection for cosmetics, Richlook Hair for hair bundles, and 4Hers for weight loss solutions. These segments include discount codes and calls-to-action for listeners to engage with the products.

Notable Quote:

• Lex P [11:29]: "We are gonna tell you how to make your business flow really, really easy and get your Money Quick with Squarespace.com."

Note: As per user instructions, advertisements, intros, and outros are generally to be skipped. However, this summary includes them briefly for completeness. They can be omitted if focusing solely on content-heavy discussions.

8. Music and Entertainment Discussions

Timestamp: [70:43] – [89:29]

The hosts engage in light-hearted banter about music, sharing their favorite "bops of the week." Lex introduces a new artist, Sailor, praising her latest track "Cut Up," while Drea highlights Tyler's "Push to Start" remix featuring Sean Paul. They critique and celebrate various artists, discussing the subjective nature of talent and the elusive "it factor" that makes certain performers stand out.

Notable Quote:

• Lex P [74:19]: "Cut Up by Sailor. That's my bop."

9. Final Thoughts and Social Media Clarifications

Timestamp: [85:14] – [89:29]

In their closing segments, Lex and Drea address misinformation regarding their social media accounts, clarifying the official handles to avoid confusion with fake pages. They reiterate the importance of authentic engagement and encourage listeners to support the genuine Pour Minds Podcast channels.

Notable Quote:

• Lex P [85:26]: "If you on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers."

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Conclusion

"The IT Factor" delves deep into the dichotomy of luck versus blessings, the evolving importance of clout over talent in the social media era, and offers heartfelt relationship advice. Through candid conversations, personal anecdotes, and spirited debates, Drea and Lex provide valuable insights while maintaining an engaging and relatable atmosphere for their listeners.

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Relevant Quotes with Timestamps:

1. Lex P [16:32]: "Luck is cool, but what are you going to do with that luck?"
2. Drea Nicole [26:02]: "Some people feel like they're just lucky, and others feel like they're just unlucky."
3. Lex P [41:01]: "Clout can happen to anybody, but blessings happen to the good people."
4. Drea Nicole [44:10]: "People get casted in movies because of their fan base."
5. Lex P [81:07]: "Don't bless no mess."
6. Drea Nicole [83:55]: "If he's making you feel unattractive, unappreciated, it's time to move on."
7. Lex P [11:29]: "We are gonna tell you how to make your business flow really, really easy and get your Money Quick with Squarespace.com."
8. Lex P [74:19]: "Cut Up by Sailor. That's my bop."

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Transcript

[Lex P]

My younger years, I was just, like, doing too much.

[Dre Nicole]

Why?

[Lex P]

Because, like I said, what did you.

[Dre Nicole]

Used to be doing for reference?

[Lex P]

You know when you face down, ass up, and you just doing too much, throwing that ass back and like, oh.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I'm about to.

[Lex P]

Not knowing. I'm not. I don't feel nothing. I'm not. Oh, and just.

[Ty]

Like, the Herbal essences come up.

[Lex P]

The Herbal Essences, yes. That used to be me.

[Dre Nicole]

And what they used to be doing.

[Lex P]

Like, yeah, girl, I'm in that thing. I'm beating it up.

[Dre Nicole]

And I used to be. I would be like, you actually not. You actually not beating nothing up.

[Lex P]

That's what I'm saying. I was a performer, a thespian.

[Dre Nicole]

Was it because you wanted them to go around, like, go tell people, like, ooh, looks good and bad.

[Lex P]

Yeah, but go brag about that thing.

[Dre Nicole]

I am weak as.

[Lex P]

Go brag about it. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex Pete.

[Dre Nicole]

And it's your girl Dre Nicole.

[Lex P]

And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind, where a drunk.

[Dre Nicole]

Mind speaks sober Thought.

[Lex P]

We ain't got no guests today.

[Dre Nicole]

We ain't got no guest today.

[Lex P]

You know, they in their seats, jumping up and down, cuz they love to hear that.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, and lately we've been having.

[Lex P]

A lot of guests. We have.

[Dre Nicole]

Don't blame them.

[Lex P]

But it's a. It's a blessing.

[Dre Nicole]

It is. I love having guests.

[Lex P]

I do.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, it's great to get other people's perspective, you know, hear their thoughts. And it's just a good time. Like, I feel like we have rarely ever had guests on Poor Minds where it was, like, not good vibes. Like, it done been a few.

[Lex P]

It has.

[Dre Nicole]

That I wasn't that fond of. Absolutely.

[Lex P]

Okay, okay.

[Dre Nicole]

But it's way more people that I loved than people that I didn't. I think that there's probably only, like, two people that we had on the show that I was like, you ain't never got to worry about coming back.

[Lex P]

You ain't got to worry about me.

[Dre Nicole]

You ain't got to worry about me, baby.

[Lex P]

I can agree, cuz I was about to say there's probably only like, one or two. Because you know what I will say, Like, I just feel this show is just so different. Cause we just bring people out. They shell, and they always have a ball. So it's very rare people come here and don't have a good time.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, it's always good vibes and a great time. I can honestly say that.

[Lex P]

So we can do a little catch up.

[Dre Nicole]

We can.

[Lex P]

You know what's new? We know you on your. What you doing hard? 75. 75 hard.

[Dre Nicole]

I am, I am.

[Lex P]

You still going at it?

[Dre Nicole]

I am. I'm on day 41.

[Lex P]

Good job.

[Dre Nicole]

So, yeah. So I got 34 more days. I'll be done really soon. Few more weeks.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

So, yeah, I'm excited. That's really it, though. Like I said, I feel like when you be doing challenges and detoxes and stuff, your life just be pretty boring.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, because. What are you doing? Like, I don't really go out to eat because I'm eating really clean, so I can't really go. And if I'm just gonna eat salmon and broccoli everywhere I go, every. That's what I'm saying. I could just cook that at home and eat at home. So I don't really go out to eat. I'm not drinking. So I haven't really went to like any social events or anything recently. I did see this list though, for the month of March, like, of all the things that's kind of going on in Atlanta. And it was a few things on there that I was like, oh, maybe I'll go do that. So I could like, vlog it.

[Lex P]

There's a tacos and tequila coming up in Atlanta. I'm in that hoe.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, see? And I would go to that, but it's like, I can't eat the tacos or drink.

[Lex P]

You can have a chicken taco.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't eat chicken.

[Lex P]

You can have a salmon taco.

[Dre Nicole]

Salmon tacos don't do it for me. You can have a fish taco. You like fish tacos?

[Lex P]

You like fish tacos? We be ordering fish tacos.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't really like them, though. Like, I'll order it if that's all that's on the menu. And I go to like a Mexican restaurant, but I prefer steak or chicken or something like that.

[Lex P]

I hear it.

[Dre Nicole]

So, you know, maybe once I'm back eating steak.

[Lex P]

Yeah, we can go.

[Dre Nicole]

We can hit it up.

[Lex P]

Well, I'mma hit it up for you. I'll get some footage for it.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, get some footage.

[Lex P]

You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

Act like I was the. I'm there in spirit.

[Lex P]

Cause I'm finna go. I have been seeing that, like, little events pop up on, like my timeline. I just have a feeling it's gonna be a really great summer. I have gotten my holiday weight off of me. I'm just feeling good. I'm back out. And yeah, I'm just looking really forward to the summer and everything we have coming up. And I don't know, I just have a good.

[Dre Nicole]

I.

[Lex P]

My spirit is high again. I don't know, I don't know what it is about them fall and winter months, but I be struggling so bad and then I kind of like I'm starting to get out of my little funk, you know what I'm saying? But because you know when that sun's out, bun's out.

[Dre Nicole]

I love the sun. I mean, I don't know. Like I always say, maybe it's just cuz I was born in the spring. So like I be waiting for daylight saving time. Like I cannot wait for daylight savings times when it hit and it done hit already. So we outside?

[Lex P]

Yeah, we outside. For sure. It's gonna be a fun summer.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I'm excited. And I'm gonna be done with my detox.

[Lex P]

Oh, that I'm only.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm only drinking, but I'm not drinking shots and stuff no more like I can't do it.

[Lex P]

It's not for me.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm trying to be fine forever. I want to be like 50, 60 and fine as. So I just feel like, you know, a little shot for a celebration is.

[Lex P]

Cool, but you gonna stick to the champagne and wine.

[Dre Nicole]

But I'm really gonna try to like just stick to champagne and wine. It'll be a champagne wine, girl.

[Lex P]

So before we get into the topics, it was crazy. Cause we had somebody tweet about us that we want on the show. We gonna get him on the show. Raymonte tweeted. He said Poor Minds is the best podcast out. And it's not poor. Up for debate.

[Dre Nicole]

He say that and he know what the fuck going on. Shout out to Raymond. Yes, I love Raymont. I always say that. But yeah, like, duh.

[Lex P]

You know what I think it is though? Cause I'm not gonna lie, we've been on a lot of people's podcast and I'ma tell y'all, this energy is just different. It is. It's really real conversation. And it's just like, I don't know, I always say conversation is a skill and a lot of people don't have that skill. Like, just like playing football is a skill. Yeah, we really. We really Shaq and Kobe in this motherfucker.

[Dre Nicole]

Fact.

[Lex P]

You know what I'm saying? I agree. I'm not lying to you. I just, you know, it's giving. What was the other one? M.J. and Scottie. That's a good one. They used to play Together.

[Dre Nicole]

That was before my time.

[Lex P]

But it don't matter, though. We legends.

[Dre Nicole]

I can't remember before your time.

[Lex P]

It was. It was. But what I'm saying is, when it all is said and done.

[Dre Nicole]

I was a kid.

[Lex P]

You was a tiny tot. You were a tiny tot. But what I'm saying, when it's all said and done, they gonna remember our name. Cause we deserve it all.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, okay.

[Lex P]

My bad. My bad.

[Dre Nicole]

You.

[Lex P]

Ty, felt it. You.

[Dre Nicole]

It needs a lot of hair.

[Lex P]

Okay. Ty was into it. Ty, what you been up to?

[Dre Nicole]

And he said, you deserve it all. She, please.

[Ty]

I'm on that same tip, though. I deserve it all and more.

[Dre Nicole]

Don't play it.

[Lex P]

Okay?

[Ty]

That's the mission. That's the motive.

[Lex P]

Got on my Dodgers blue.

[Ty]

Kendrick, what's up?

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. I need a bar, right?

[Lex P]

Hit up our girl. You know what I'm saying? We flourishing this year.

[Dre Nicole]

It's a. It's going to be a good year. Like, we definitely have a lot of exciting things coming up. I feel like we say that every episode. They probably, like, spit it out.

[Lex P]

What is it? What the is it?

[Dre Nicole]

Y'all say this every goddamn episode. But the great thing is, every episode, y'all getting closer and closer to us telling y'all what it is.

[Lex P]

Look, that. That's gonna be positive.

[Dre Nicole]

That's the game. We getting closer and closer.

[Lex P]

Yes. Okay. Closer to my dream.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, my God, bro. That's literally five worst songs ever created.

[Lex P]

Close to my dream.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, girl, give me a braid.

[Lex P]

Oh, my gosh.

[Dre Nicole]

Somebody.

[Lex P]

I told you.

[Dre Nicole]

Somebody else. What is. I called me a demon because I said I didn't like that song.

[Lex P]

Okay?

[Dre Nicole]

They were like, you are a demon. Who doesn't like this?

[Lex P]

I don't like it either, but can I make a confession? Why there's a song.

[Dre Nicole]

Not my intrusive thoughts coming out, like, beating your ass. I have to say. Wait.

[Lex P]

I have a song that I don't like. And I thought it was a safe space to say it, so I don't even know why I'm admitting this right now. I hate this song. When they play it in the club at the end of the night, I get pissed.

[Dre Nicole]

What?

[Lex P]

I wanna dance.

[Dre Nicole]

I love that song.

[Lex P]

Oh, my God.

[Dre Nicole]

Now you wilding with that.

[Lex P]

I hate.

[Dre Nicole]

That's a classic.

[Lex P]

I hate it. Yeah, baby. Yeah. That is such a good.

[Dre Nicole]

That is such a good song. You know what? Just for that, we singing it for karaoke. Please don't make me feel. We singing it for karaoke, bro.

[Lex P]

I hate. And I love him. I love him down.

[Dre Nicole]

His name, Raphael Sidi.

[Lex P]

Yes. And we saw him in concert. And let me tell you, we did. Yes. In New Orleans for essence.

[Dre Nicole]

Where the fuck do I. It's like, I be there, but where do I be?

[Lex P]

But I'm not here.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm there, but I'm not there. Cause I don't know. Or maybe officer is.

[Lex P]

We was drunk.

[Dre Nicole]

We was drunk.

[Lex P]

Remember when dad.

[Dre Nicole]

Shay was drunk, too?

[Lex P]

Shay cried.

[Dre Nicole]

Shay say she ain't drank nothing since New Orleans.

[Lex P]

No, I have not seen Shay put a. She said, I'm not losing my job. Shay has not put a piece of liquor, not even a piece of liquor to her mouth in front of me since New Orleans.

[Dre Nicole]

But we had a time.

[Lex P]

We did. Remember Thad called us and yelled at us.

[Dre Nicole]

Lost track of time, but we had.

[Lex P]

A ball that was like, hey, ladies, I wanted to get y'all both on the phone. Cause, yeah, we had people show up for y'all. And you know what I'm saying? Y'all said y'all was gonna be there.

[Dre Nicole]

He did try to check.

[Lex P]

Shout out to.

[Dre Nicole]

We was in trouble.

[Lex P]

We was. But we need that. We do need it.

[Dre Nicole]

We miss the Janet Jackson concert. I know. We was drunk. Everybody just was over New Orleans.

[Lex P]

You have to be drunk in New Orleans, though.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. Mardi Gras going on right now.

[Lex P]

Oh, no. Rodeo going on. Mardi Gras going on. I missed the cookout because I had to do some work with my homegirl. I've been helping her with her project, so I couldn't go to the cookout, which I was really sad about.

[Dre Nicole]

It'll be another one. It's one every year.

[Lex P]

I know. I just really wanted to go this year.

[Dre Nicole]

The cookout be fun, though. But I'm definitely gonna go to the rodeo before it ends.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I'm going to the rodeo. Sure. I'm not missing it.

[Dre Nicole]

Shout out to Houston, Texas.

[Lex P]

Shout out to Houston H Town. Okay, go ahead with the first topic. Little Dre. What's up, y'all? It's your girl xp.

[Dre Nicole]

And it's your girl, Dre Nicole.

[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

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[Lex P]

Yes, they make it a one stop shop for everything. So however you monetize your content, whether it's videos, vlogs, books, whatever you sell, they're going to make it easy for you to do by gatekeeping it. So you have to have access to all of that content. So what you're going to do is go to squarespace.com poor minds and get 10% off of your website or domain. That's squarespace.com backslash poor minds. Check out squarespace.com for a free trial. And when you're Ready to launch www.squarespace.com Poor minds to save 10 off your first purchase of a website or domain. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's.

[Dre Nicole]

Your girl Dre Nicole.

[Lex P]

And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping. Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

So we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon. It's gonna air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We're gonna be doing so much stuff on there. We're gonna be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella, no shade, where the hell could you go?

[Lex P]

If you can't go to Bella Noche.

[Dre Nicole]

What the hell we're gonna be doing? Talk to me. Chit chat with me. We're gonna be spilling a little tea.

[Lex P]

Oh, my God. D. No, you didn't. Oh, my God.

[Dre Nicole]

Everything y'all been wanting to see, we going to be doing it right here on Patreon.

[Lex P]

Yes. Y'all ask us for so much. Well, we f to give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's going to be a time, y'all know Poor M has grown into its own little entity where we going to have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down.

[Dre Nicole]

So, for the first topic, I really wanted to talk about Lucky girl syndrome. You know, like, have you ever had something fall in your lap with no effort and you didn't really have to go hard to get it? I think some people think that, like, I think people probably could look at us and probably think we're just lucky, you know?

[Lex P]

That's not true, though.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, it might not be true, but, you know, everything is about perception. I think that's the perception that people can have. And I think in life, some people really feel like some people are just lucky, and others feel like they're just unlucky, like they were just dealt bad cards. Life isn't fair. So how do you feel about the concept of being lucky. Because then you have people who don't even believe luck is a real thing. Like you have people who believe that everything you get in life is a result of the work that you put in. So you believe in luck?

[Lex P]

I do.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

I believe in luck. I believe sometimes a chance happening things happen, right? I think sometimes, like I'll use social media, for example, right? A lot of times somebody will have a viral moment, like the Hawk tua girl. We'll use her for example. You know what I'm talking about?

[Dre Nicole]

Probably not.

[Lex P]

I know, I know, I know. The auntie gonna catch you up. Auntie gonna catch you up. So the Hawk tua girl was a girl that had did a random interview. You know how them YouTubers be on the street interviewing people. And she was like, he asked her some question and she was like talking about giving head and she's like, you know when I do it, I just.

[Dre Nicole]

Hawk to a spit on that thing.

[Lex P]

And it went crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

Right? Okay.

[Lex P]

It went viral. It was literally. You could not scroll TikTok without seeing the Hawk to a clip. So this girl had this viral moment and she started a podcast, got all these brand deals. I mean, she's at these festivals hosting, doing interviews, you know what I'm saying? So I think that luck is a real thing because who in that moment, like, you know, you do. We do funny shit all the time and some things go viral and sometimes they don't, but sometimes things just hit. So I do think that is what luck is like. Sometimes things just hit and it's funny, but I think luck is cool. But it's a difference between luck and really having longevity with it. Cause how lucky are you if you have a moment that doesn't do nothing? Like it's cool to go viral and make a little money, but I feel like anytime you see somebody that is in a successful position, it's not luck. It's maybe luck mixed with hard work and opportunity, but those three mixed together, that's when you get some real shit. But luck can only go so far. So luck is cool. You know, I might get lucky and hit the lottery and get $5 million, but what's luck if I don't know how to keep that $5 million? So luck is cool, but what you going to do with that luck?

[Dre Nicole]

That's fair. I mean, I definitely feel like, I don't know, I feel like it's a mixture of both. To me, it's definitely like what you said, it's, it's some people Just kind of happen to be in the right place at the right time. But it's about what you're going to do with it. Because. Because, yeah, you got this opportunity, but if you didn't maximize it, it just doesn't really matter, right?

[Lex P]

And a lot of people, I hate to say this, and it's no shade, no tea, but a lot of people, like, they really aren't talented. So y'all have somebody who has like a little viral moment or somebody who. Or not even talented, I'll say. Or have the skills. Skills. I'll use the word skills because I want to use other examples. Like somebody who come up on some money. Like, I had a friend, one of my best friends from high school, right? And she had started a job, and it was one of those jobs that, like, give you stocks whenever you first start the job with one of the benefits, right? Something happened with the stock market, and they all got a whole bunch of money. Like, I mean, she hit like a million dollars or something crazy, right? And she was going trips, buying bags, partying. And when I tell you she has nothing now, and it was like a stop, like, you know what I'm saying? Like, that could have been something that could have lasted you a lifetime. So that's why I say luck is cool. But that's why I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm not that lucky of a person. I am not a lucky person. Shit, do not be hidden for me, bitch. My shit do not slap.

[Dre Nicole]

You think so?

[Lex P]

My shit do not slap at all. But I think I have an amazing life because I know how to take advantage of my skills and the opportunity. So I think you can make things like, okay, it's like the triangle, right? You got luck, you got skill, and you got opportunity. So luck is cool. But I would rather have the skill and the opportunity if I had to choose out of that three. If you got to choose one out of the three or two out of the three. Luck. I don't need luck to make shit happen. Luck is cool. But so lucky girl syndrome is a thing.

[Dre Nicole]

I think that you definitely should want to have the skill and the opportunity for sure, over having luck. But, you know, I don't know. I think I have. I think I'm kind of lucky when I really think about it.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Because I feel like a lot of stuff that be happening to me or that has happened to me, it doesn't happen to, like, every average person or it doesn't happen to, like, people on a normal basis. Like, I could look At a lot of instances in my life and be like, okay, that was probably, look, you know, just being in the right place at the right time, meeting the right person at the right time, like. But I think that you, I think that even with me being lucky, having skill and opportunity and knowing when to take advantage of opportunity is what has gotten me to the places that I'm at. Because I do think you could be lucky and not know how to take advantage of the opportunity. And that's where a lot of people fall short. Or like you said, mismanaging the opportunity when you get it. So I e getting a million dollars and not knowing what to do with it. Now you broke. I don't think that could happen to me. I don't like to say never. I, I do believe in never saying never though. I do believe in that because you just where life will take you and what will happen. Anything can happen to anybody at any moment. But I don't think I would ever be a person who gets a million dollars and ends up broke again just because I know what to do with it.

[Lex P]

NBA.

[Dre Nicole]

I'mma figure out what to do with it.

[Lex P]

NBA draft.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Even if I don't know, I'mma figure out what to do with it. I think people, people don't realize. And it's not to say that a million dollars is not a lot of money because it is a lot of money. But I think that when people see that kind of money in their bank account and they've never seen that before, they be like, oh, let me go buy everything. I. And that's cool. You know, you should definitely go buy you a house. You should definitely go buy you a practical car. But going spend crazy amounts of money.

[Lex P]

Like taking fifty thousand dollar vacation.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Taking fifty thousand dollar vacations, going to Louie, going to Chanel, splurging, buying like $200,000 worth of stuff, that's craziness. You need to figure out.

[Lex P]

My girl bought a Birkin.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I mean there's nothing. And even with that, for example, because it's like, do nice things for yourself. If you get a million dollars. Yeah. Buy yourself a Birkin. That's 15,000, 20,000, maybe $30,000. One though. Don't go buy 10.

[Lex P]

Yeah, yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

You get what I'm saying? Like, it's just all about what you do when you have opportunities. And I think people be thinking, oh, I got this money. I ain't never going. I ain't gonna never go back. No, but you will if you don't know how to handle the blessings that God.

[Lex P]

Right, I agree. Do you remember that song Lucky by Britney Spears?

[Dre Nicole]

No. She's so lucky. She's a star. See, Tom dog, as soon as she.

[Ty]

Asked the question, I was over here singing it.

[Lex P]

Early morning, she wakes up, there's a knock, knock, knock on the door and.

[Dre Nicole]

See, we could do it, but I don't know, we.

[Lex P]

I cannot believe you don't know Lucky. Lucky was a story and I think it was like Britney Spears. The girl's name was Lucky and she was like a Hollywood star.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, that was really her name?

[Lex P]

Yeah, like Britney played the character in the music video and the girl's name was Lucky and she was like a Hollywood star. But, you know, all that glitters that ain't gold. You know what I'm saying? It was a good. It's such a good song. Shout out to my girl Britt.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, they don't.

[Lex P]

You know, she likes to dance in them panties. And we gonna talk about it every week, but she really gave us some bops.

[Dre Nicole]

We not gonna talk about it every week. Actually, this probably will be the last time.

[Lex P]

Ty, what you think about, if I'm.

[Dre Nicole]

Being completely honest, what you think about lucky girl syndrome?

[Ty]

Well, to quote the great Queen Nicki Minaj, okay, no, I'm not lucky. I'm blessed. Yes, but no, for real, I. I agree with you on the three categories. I would change blessed to lucky for me, okay? Because that's just me and my spirituality. But I do agree that opportunity meets preparation and that leads to, like, everything that you need. But also what you put into the universe comes back to you. So putting out that good energy, setting those manifestations, affirmations and intentions, that is really the motivation to kind of keep going through everything.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I agree with that. I definitely think that what you get, like what you get out of life is a product of like, what you.

[Lex P]

Put in now, come on.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, depending on what type of person you are, I feel like sometimes that's why people be feeling unlucky, if I'm being honest. Like you feel like up always happening to you or you feel like you don't have good luck because what are you putting out? You know what I mean? I feel like I'm always going out into the world, treating people how I want to be treated.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't do bad by people. I always try to do good by everybody. Even if situations don't work out. I'm not even like a get back person. I feel like life gonna get you back Right, right. God gonna get you back. God be doing all of my.

[Lex P]

Doing his big one.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. I don't have to worry about those things. I just move on with my life. And I feel like. Because I've always been that type of person. That's why blessings look as you know, some people might want to call it flows into my life all the time because it's about what you put out. Some people, people and then they wonder why. And if I'm really being honest, people who bad stuff always be happening too. I kind of just do always look at them and be like, I separate myself. Yeah. Because why is something bad always happening to you? Why are you always going through it? Why? And especially when it be situations that I feel like sometimes are like avoidable. You know what I mean? But you always going through something. You the common denominator. You're not unlucky. It's just about the decisions and actions that you be making. That's why your life is going this way.

[Lex P]

So I do wanna make a point to what Ty said. Cause she said she will change. Lucky and blessed. Cause I feel like, no, I'm not lucky. Cause when I look at luck, I look at like a once in a lifetime opportunity happening. That don't happen to me. I'm not lucky. Like I'm not lucky.

[Ty]

I don't win the lottery. I don't like anything.

[Lex P]

Yeah, like stuff like I never just like walk across the mall and a man be like, oh, let me come buy you a Chanel. I'm not lucky. Like I'm not lucky. My shit be fucked up. It's never me. It's never me. But when it comes to blessings now, now I am extremely blessed. Like my blessings literally overflow. So I do think it is. I don't think you can enter. Like I see what you're saying about interchange and lucky and blessed. But I don't think that that's the same thing because I feel like luck is something like it's a chance happening and it can happen to anybody. It can happen to the worst fucking person in the world. Blessings don't happen to good people. That's how I feel. That's a good. Luck can happen to the fucking devil.

[Dre Nicole]

Blessings don't happen to.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I'm sorry. Blessings don't happen to bad people. Luck can happen to the worst person. The worst person you know can hit the lottery tomorrow. The worst person you know could get something like a random viral moment and you see them on TV everywhere.

[Dre Nicole]

And see that's where I do Feel like they're interchangeable because blessings don't always come from God neither. It depends on if you really want to get deep into the spiritual bag. Sometimes blessings don't be coming from him, they be coming from other places. Y. I think everybody can get blessings. I do feel like they're interchangeable. I agree with you. I think look and blessings are interchangeable because I think even with blessings, people can sometimes look at your blessings and be like, oh my God, that's a once in a lifetime opportunity. I could never see something like that happening. For me, it just depends on people's perspective in their religious background, you know, because some people are not religious, so they gonna look at it like, oh, this person is just lucky. But I definitely think that they're interchangeable.

[Ty]

And I think for those that feel like, like think about blessings more than luck. They not really worried about luck either.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Ty]

Because we're not searching for that once in a life.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Ty]

Because everything we know that everything that's going to come to us is for our better good and it's in alignment. You know what I mean? So I feel like it's kind of. People look at it both ways.

[Lex P]

Right. Right.

[Ty]

I think for me, I'm. I'm blessed.

[Dre Nicole]

Amen. I feel that way too. I definitely feel like it be. It be blessings. And look though, that's why I said I do feel like they're interchangeable because certain stuff that have happened to me is definitely just. It was a blessing from God because I feel this. I feel like nothing in your life is going to happen unless God wants it to happen. If you a believer, if you really believe in God, then it's like everything that you get is coming from Him. It's all coming from him. And it wouldn't have happened if he didn't want it to happen. So I definitely feel like, okay, this was a blessed. It, it was luck, but it only happened because God allowed it to happen.

[Lex P]

Right. And I, and I agree with you on that because. Cause God will really try to guide you if you pay attention. Because like you said, blessings cannot. All blessings can be something that coming from another place. Yeah. So if you're not depending on who you pray to. Right. So if you pay attention to God's guidance, he gonna guide you the right way that you're supposed to be going every time. So you'll know, okay, is this a blessing or is this something that's, you know, shit covered in glitter?

[Ty]

A lesson.

[Lex P]

A lesson. You know what I'm saying? So I definitely do Agree with you on that. But like I said, I feel like when I think about me being unlucky, like I said, I just don't feel like things happen for me, like, oh, a viral moment. And it's just like, oh, I'm on tv. Cause you see some people who go viral, next thing you know, they on the red carpet at the Oscars, doing interviews, like, stuff like that. You know, don't really. Like, if we get on the Oscars and we interviewing, it's. Cause, nigga, we been fucking working for.

[Dre Nicole]

Six years to get there.

[Lex P]

You know what I mean? So I guess that's what I mean. But I can. I can say I'm blessed. But that's an interesting. That wasn't even the topic.

[Dre Nicole]

But yeah, I mean, because the way I look at it, too, is like, sometimes a person will do something and it will go viral, but they've been hustling for a long time. Right, Right. So I feel like sometimes, even with these people who will finally go viral, they've been doing that for a long time. Like that. That influencer that had that. Classy. Very classy, but very demure.

[Lex P]

Yes. LeBron has been.

[Dre Nicole]

Have been doing content for a really, really long time. So it's kind of like, is that look like, yeah, it took him out of there or her out of there. I don't know what they go by, but like, it took them out of there, but they had been putting the work in. And so it's like, can you really call that look?

[Lex P]

Well, not with that person particularly, but like, if you think of, like a bad baby, when she said, catch me outside. How about that? She was on Dr. Phil being a badass white girl. And then she. But what she did is she took that luck and she turned it. Turned it into an opportunity. So, you know, that's what I'm saying. It's the difference between that versus the hot tour girl. She had the opportunity to make it into something, and she didn't because she didn't have the skill. To me personally, you know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, that's why I don't. I don't know who that is.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Hot to girl. Exactly.

[Dre Nicole]

That's what I'm saying. Like, that's for these.

[Lex P]

These people know who she is. If they watching.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

You know, I like to get into this news sometimes.

[Dre Nicole]

Cause sometimes I feel like, yeah, if. No, if. If it was a big moment like, that, everybody should know about it.

[Lex P]

Well, this is the thing, though. So what's crazy about it is that Be the difference between, like, mainstream media, because it was very mainstream, but the things that get mainstream is this, like they gonna talk about it all? Like I said, I'm not kidding. It was everywhere.

[Dre Nicole]

And when was this? Was this like, recently?

[Lex P]

Yeah, it was like, what, last year? Maybe the year before last. And then she, like, started a podcast. She signed with Barstool. It was like a whole big thing.

[Dre Nicole]

What happened to her podcast?

[Lex P]

I think she just stopped it. Cause something happened where she started. Not a bitcoin. She got into something with bitcoin and told everybody to invest. And then she ended up pulling out. So it was like a whole bunch of legal stuff she. She's going through right now. But she's like in hiatus right now, basically. So either way it goes like I said. But a lot of that blessing and opportunity and luck stuff that we go into, that's another topic that we talked about before, is different for this than it is for this too, at the same time. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

That's fair. That's definitely a fair argument. Cause, I mean, it is what it is. We just have to work a little harder for things that they don't have to work. Work as hard for.

[Lex P]

Right, right, right. But I do think lucky girl syndrome is a thing. I think some people really just are lucky.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't. I don't know because I just. You know how I be feeling about this topic. I just always kind of feel like sometimes it just really be about what you do, though. Like what you do with your life and the type of person that you are. Because I don't necessarily think that I believe that anybody just gets anything because they're lucky.

[Lex P]

Well, that's what I'm saying. That's the difference for me. I think if somebody has blessings in their life, that's because they're putting good in the world and they're getting good back. Luck can happen to anybody. Blessings happen to the good people. That's the difference for me. That's what I was saying. So I do think lucky girl syndrome is a thing because luck can happen to anybody. I feel like blessings only happen to the blessed.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

You know what I'm saying?

[Ty]

It's like chance.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Ty]

Like a 50, 50 chance.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Ty]

One out of ten, whatever.

[Dre Nicole]

Right, right.

[Lex P]

So I guess that's what I'm saying. Like, like I said, I don't feel I'm lucky at all. Not because I'm a bad person, just because luck don't be on my side for some reason, but blessings. Oh, baby. God Gonna show up for me every time when it comes to the blessings.

[Dre Nicole]

Now look at Ty.

[Lex P]

All right, Ty, what we drinking today? What we drinking?

[Dre Nicole]

It's good. I'm almost.

[Lex P]

Ooh, good.

[Ty]

I'm glad y'all like it. So since we're like into the spring, Spring is sprung. We're talking about blessings and luck and opportunity. This one is going to be called Everything's Coming Up Roses.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Ty]

And so what we have in it, we have some grapefruit, we have some lemon, some lime, some lavender syrup. And then I have some hibiscus syrup floated at the bottom. And then we garnish it with three dehydrated rose buds.

[Lex P]

Ooh.

[Ty]

So very floral, very light, very spring. And this is Everything's Coming Up Rose cheer.

[Lex P]

I love that rosebud. That used to be the. The cheat code for sims to get a lot of money.

[Dre Nicole]

It did because I used to place it.

[Lex P]

I love Sam girl.

[Dre Nicole]

I used to play it all the time on my little desktop computer. That and I used to be burning CDs online wire.

[Lex P]

Oh, I wish I still had them CDs.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm sure somewhere at my mama house I could probably find mine because my mama keeps everything. So I'm sure they in some box box somewhere.

[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Ty]

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[Dre Nicole]

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[Ty]

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[Lex P]

At 8 on people who keep everything. My sister is like that. And she had a time capsule from high school.

[Dre Nicole]

For real.

[Lex P]

I wish I would have had something like that. A time capsule.

[Dre Nicole]

My best friend Jasmine is like that. She has, like, photo albums. Like, 10 photo albums full of, like. Like, pictures of us from high school, from college. Like, literally. And, like, I'm talking about y'all, like, books and books and books. She still be wearing her high school T shirts, period. When she go to sleep and stuff. Like, when I'll get on FaceTime with her, she be having on our 2005 Homecoming 2. I mean, not 2005, 2006 Homecoming T shirt. And I'd be like, how do you still have that? Like, I get rid of so much stuff. And I wish that I kept stuff, too. But, like, that's why I be glad I got her. Because I be like, if anything, girl, let me copy that.

[Lex P]

Yeah, my sister's like that. She's like a pack rat. She keeps everything. But I'm so happy that she's like that. Cause she has so much stuff. Like, my mom was good with pictures, too. So we have, like, so many pictures of when I was little. Now what? I wish I had a video camera when I was little and I used to record everything. I wish I had those videos. I don't know where they are because I used to record every. I was vlogging before vlogging was a thing.

[Dre Nicole]

Imagine we had icloud back then. Have all your footage.

[Lex P]

God, yes, I would have all of it. Ty, are you a pack rat or you throw things away?

[Ty]

I've been getting rid of a lot of stuff. Like, kept a lot of my mom's stuff. And actually Pastacea's helping me get rid of a lot of stuff.

[Lex P]

Oh, my gosh.

[Ty]

But I'm getting better because Now I want to be a little bit just more minimalistic instead of holding everything. But I remember we had like those digital cameras with the floppy disk.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes.

[Lex P]

If we had those. Yes. Everything used to be on there.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. I wish I still had my old digital camera from like high school and stuff, but I don't know where they said. Cuz what was the name of that little website where everybody used to upload their pictures? I cannot remember what it was called. Remember?

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

I cannot remember what it was called, but. Huh. No, not Tumblr. It. No, it was just like a website where you could just upload all of your camera files. But I can't remember what the website was called. And if I. I be wondering if it's still up and I'll be wishing I could remember my login still on there because like MySpace is still up. Right?

[Lex P]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

But Flickr. Yes, a Flickr account. But I couldn't even tell y'all what email I was using, what password I was using, anything. But I used to upload all my pictures on there when I was in middle school and high school. And I just. Just gone.

[Lex P]

Memories, right. That's what I was saying about MySpace. MySpace is still up. But I had deleted my MySpace. I remember. I'm like, why did I do that? That could have been like something I just kept up.

[Dre Nicole]

When we be young, you just don't be thinking about that type of stuff. And then you got the people who do. Like your sister.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

And like Jasmine. Cause I wish I was thinking like that back then.

[Lex P]

Like, I have a friend. She literally has all of our yearbooks from kindergarten till we graduated every single year.

[Dre Nicole]

Now I do have all my yearbooks from high school.

[Lex P]

Yeah. I don't have. I have like two from high school.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, they have my. Well, all my stuff is at my mom's house. But she have all my. Well, she has all my pictures from like kindergarten up until I graduated from college. And then she has all of my yearbooks from high school. And then my mom even have all her yearbooks from high school.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that's. See, my mom had her. I think I have one or two yearbooks from my mom's high school. Yeah, baby, they used to love them afros.

[Dre Nicole]

See, when my mama was in high school, they just used to do a little silk print she ain't never had.

[Lex P]

They had afros.

[Dre Nicole]

It was like.

[Lex P]

So when my mom was in high school, it was when they were trans, they were doing. They were doing afros, but they started doing the Jheri curls.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

So, like, half of the yearbook got Afros and half of them got Jheri curls. So they were making that transition to ooh, my mama shit used to be Juicy.

[Dre Nicole]

It did.

[Lex P]

What?

[Dre Nicole]

That's the only thing about Jerry curls. I'm like, how do people used to wear their hair like that? Like, every time, Juicy. Every time you lean on something, you.

[Lex P]

Leave a wet mark. Leave a wet mark, Juicy. You know what's crazy?

[Dre Nicole]

Just let your soul glow out there.

[Lex P]

Yes. And what it is is, like, my mom, I don't think she ever grew out of that. Cause she still used to make her hair real juicy.

[Dre Nicole]

Real juicy. For real?

[Lex P]

Yes. Cause my mom, like, she had like, really curly hair. Like, my hair is like, I have like 4C here. My mom had like 4A, 4B. So hers is a little curlier than mine. But, I mean, she loved it juiced down. For real. I mean, she would have a little drip and stuff. I mean, I.

[Dre Nicole]

You feel like you gotta keep it moisturized, girl. You gotta keep your hair moisturized. Don't nobody want no dry ass, girl.

[Lex P]

I used to call her Juicy Crab. Chad. Yeah, all of that.

[Dre Nicole]

Why? Juicy crab.

[Lex P]

Juicy crab. Cause it was juicy. Can you. No, that's not the right song to sing. My bad, Kyle. Give me another shot. Yes. All right, we gonna move on to this topic, too. So the second topic today, and this kind of ties into what we were just talking about, is clout more important than talent? And how social media has changed success? So do you think the industry still respects real talent or is it all about engagement and numbers now? So I do wanna give an example, because I saw this when I was kinda like doing a little research on this topic. Somebody said nowadays you have people like, like Addison Rae or what's her name, Charli D'Amelio. And they are extremely popular on TikTok. And they're in movies. And I'm not talking about regular movies. Like, they're in like these a list movies, right? Because of their audience that can bring in. But they're not necessarily talented. So they feel like if Halle Berry was coming up in 2025, would she be Halle Berry in 2025? Because maybe she doesn't have a following. You know what I'm saying? So how do you feel? Does clout. Is clout more important than talent in 2025?

[Dre Nicole]

No, I don't think so. Because there's so many people who have blown up over the past few years and they didn't have a following. You know what I mean? I don't think talent matters okay, necessarily. But I don't think it's about clout because, like I said, a lot of people don't have that huge following. And then, oh, you got discovered. Now you do have the people like that. But a lot of the time, for me, it's more a lack of talent. Like, people just are not talented and they just be blowing up for doing the bare minimum. So in the career paths that they choosing, like, your music not that great, but you still blew up some kind of way. Your accent, not that great, but you fine. Are you attractive? Like, the thing about Halle Berry that nobody could discredit her for, she can really ask, like, yeah, she's beautiful. And I do think that that may have something to do with her success. But Halle Berry is a great actress.

[Lex P]

Yeah, well, she said that that hindered her. Her beauty hindered her back.

[Dre Nicole]

I could believe that because people pro. I think people don't never look at beauty from that standpoint. Like, people look at beautiful people kind of like what we were just talking about in the first topic. Oh, they so lucky because you beautiful. But people don't never think how. Think about how sometimes being overly attractive can, like, hinder you because people won't take you serious in certain positions.

[Lex P]

So I 100% agree with you. But I also think, like, y'all just be complaining and y'all not working hard enough, because a lot of times people be like, oh, I don't have a following, so I'm not going to get casted for this movie. No, you're not getting cast for the movie because you stuck. Yeah, you're probably not. I mean, I told y'all, I'm taking acting classes. I'm big, not good. Ain't nobody finna put me in a movie just because poor minds be doing 1.3 million views a month.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, they might, though.

[Lex P]

It ain't happened yet.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, it haven't happened yet, but it might, because it's a lot of people who have got casted in movies and casted in TV roles just because they have a following, a following on social media.

[Lex P]

So I do agree that that does happen. Like, people get casted for roles just because they, like, I want their fan bas. I say this all the time. I truly believe that Tyler Perry had put Kim Kardashian in that movie. What was it? Confessions of Temptations. Temptations. Like, you know, Kim only had a few lines, and they were advertising it. Like, she's gonna be in a whole movie, and she had, like, a few lines she didn't do bad. It wasn't like she was terrible, but she didn't have much to carry or much to do. But he did that as a strategy because Kim Kardashian, her star, was going up at the time. So I do believe that people get casted in certain movies because of their fan base. But for the people who feel like they're not getting casted because they don't have a following or their song is not blowing up because they don't have a following, do these industry people care about a following? Yes, they do. But I truly believe that if you are talented and you got that it factor and you have that work ethic, it's gonna happen for you. So I don't like when people be like, I don't have a following, so I'm not. It's not gonna. It's not happening for me because I'm good and I'm great, but I don't have a following, so I'm not gonna get picked.

[Dre Nicole]

Or maybe it's just not in your pad. I feel like people be feeling to realize that stuff too. Like, sometimes just because. Look at Top face over here.

[Ty]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, for real, though, like, I think it's so many people in this world who want to do things that don't align with the plan for them. You know what I mean? And especially kind of because I know everybody's not a believer. But going back to, like, spirituality, religion, there is a plan for your life, and, like, if you're doing things that are not on the plan for your life, it might not work out, even if it's not. And again, outside of being a believer, I still feel like the universe kind of conspires to make things work in your favor. When it's supposed to work?

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

When it's supposed to happen.

[Lex P]

Oh, come on, now.

[Dre Nicole]

And if it's not supposed to happen, sweetie, it's just never gonna happen. And sometimes it just doesn't happen. Anything to do with. Look, it's just maybe you putting your focus on something that's not your purpose or it's not what you supposed to be doing. Maybe you might want to be an actress, but being an actress is not your calling.

[Lex P]

Right. And even, like, a lot of times, we'll sing people who are amazing singers. You'll see people who sing backup for somebody, and they sing better than the actual singer. But what y'all have to realize, too, is, like, we don't know what that it factor is, but you either have it or you don't. That's why we see a lot of people. People can say all day, up and down, I'm gonna use her again. Britney Spears cannot sing, but she had that it factor. You know what I'm saying? Like, people say the same. They say, who else they be saying that about who can't sing.

[Dre Nicole]

They say that about Beyonce, which I think is absolutely insane.

[Lex P]

Now, that's a little different. J. Lo can't sing, but let me tell you what she can do. She can make a rom com out her mother ass.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, she can, because that was more of her calling.

[Lex P]

Right. But you can't say exhibit A. But at the same time. But you can't say waiting for tonight. Oh, a hit.

[Dre Nicole]

No, my song was if you have my love. And that gig. Do y'all remember when I mean, she made hit.

[Lex P]

She had that it factor.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, she made it, Ellie.

[Ty]

But remember she started off as a backup dancer on In Living Color.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Ty]

So she worked her way up into each of these different categories, from dancing to singing to acting.

[Lex P]

Yes, she did. Cause her breakout thing was Selena.

[Ty]

Mm.

[Lex P]

And the lady that they were trying to cast for Selena, something had happened with her, and she didn't end up getting casted. So it wasn't even supposed to be J. Lo.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, and she ate that up. She ate that Selena roll up.

[Lex P]

You know, they made a list of people who should have gotten Oscars, who.

[Dre Nicole]

Didn'T or they did.

[Lex P]

No, no, they just didn't win.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh.

[Lex P]

So J. Lo was on there for Selena. Angela Bassett was on there for Tina. Heath Ledger was on there for Brokeback Mountain. It was actually a really good list. And I was surprised that these people didn't win Oscar for the role. But JLO definitely deserved an Oscar for Selena.

[Dre Nicole]

No, she ate that up. She really did. She did her big one. That was probably one of my faves.

[Lex P]

I could fall in love.

[Dre Nicole]

Why are you making that?

[Lex P]

Because that's what she would do. Because that's how. So listen, they talked about JLo doing that with her lips and poking her lips out like that. They're like she was doing too much. If you look up Selena singing. Selena used to do the same thing. I mean, J. Lo studied down for that role. I mean, it was like that was.

[Dre Nicole]

One of her best acting roles.

[Lex P]

And Made in Manhattan.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. But I also liked Enough. I feel like she did a really good job in Enough.

[Lex P]

She was whooping that boy ass.

[Dre Nicole]

She did a really good job. Like, that was a very serious, serious role. And I feel like she killed you. Like, JLO can Really act to me. I feel like. And I don't feel like she can't sing.

[Lex P]

Like, I hate when she can catch a note.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Like, I hate. But she can't say she can't sing. I feel like, yeah, she can hold a little note, but it's a lot of people who just could hold the nose. But I feel like that's where a lot of other things go into it as far as just having a it factor. Because I feel like even with her, they was probably like, okay. Like, she can't just sing, but she can hold. But she can hold a note. She beautiful, she can dance. She had so many other factors that it's like, okay, this is a star.

[Lex P]

What do y'all think the it factor is? Because nobody has ever defined it. What do y'all think it is?

[Dre Nicole]

Because I don't think it could be defined.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Ty]

I think it's about your aura, though. Like, people say, like, if I come in a room, dang, you just, like, you change the energy or whatever. I think it has a lot to do with that.

[Dre Nicole]

And yeah.

[Ty]

Combining that with your skill.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Ty]

With like, your motivation and stuff like that. I. I think, I mean, some people.

[Lex P]

Like, you just view them and you're like, wow.

[Ty]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Like, you're just mesmerized by their presence. Like, some people, you know, just have that. And I see that a lot when I see people perform. And I'm just not an easily impressed person. But it'd be some people I look at, I'm like, oh, yeah, she got it. Like, and I don't know what it is. I can never explain it. I can never explain it. I don't know.

[Ty]

But y'all have it. Like, I would say y'all have it. Like, when I first met y'all, I was like, oh, okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, it's. So you see the vision, the energy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I just think, you know what I always say, cuz, I hate to be the beer of bad news, but sometimes I just always feel like it just goes back into life just not being fair. I think that be like a tough reality that a lot of people don't want to. To accept. And that's why you can't really put a finger on what it is sometimes because it's just kind of like it was meant to be that way. Like, it was ordained, it was orchestrated that way. That's why it happened that way versus, I don't know, some people. It just don't never happen for them. And I feel like no matter how, How Hard they try, how much work they put in, it just don't happen. And it just be, you know, unfortunate and sad because life just isn't fair.

[Lex P]

But I do feel like real talent always finds its way. I'm not trying to be funny.

[Dre Nicole]

No.

[Lex P]

Because let me tell you why real talent finds its way. This is why I say this. Y'all know I always talk about bitch. I thought I was finna be the biggest rapper singer out. I used to go to the studio. I used to really be in the studio. Like, we laughing. Cause it's funny now. But I really thought I was finna be baby Beyonce. You couldn't tell me. I was like, this is what I'm supposed to do. And that was not my. But I'm talented in other avenues. So I knew I was gonna be on stage. I don't know what I was gonna be on stage doing.

[Dre Nicole]

I didn't know what. Doing what?

[Lex P]

I just didn't know what. Doing what. You know what I'm saying? So I feel like real talent, if you're talented and whatever that may be, singing, dancing, writing, producing, you gonna find your way to where you need to be. I agree. So even though I wasn't on stage, I'm telling y'all, when I was little, me and my friend Jasmine shout out to Jasmine. I don't wanna say her last name. Cause y'all be looking up people on Facebook and stuff. So me and Jasmine, literally, we used to sit in her living room, me and her and Lindsey, and they used to play like they were E News reporters, and they used to interview me. Literally every time we would play this game, I would always be the star. So since I was little, I always would see myself on stage, but I didn't know what I was doing. Every time we would play this game, I would be like, oh, thank you so much. Like, I would always be thanking them for my work. I'm like, what am I doing, though? But I'm saying I always saw myself on stage. I didn't know necessarily was gonna be a podcast, but I ended up on stage. So that's why I feel like when you're really talented and it's ordained for you to share who you are with the world. One thing I take pride in is that we make people feel good. Y'all can say what y'all want about our topics and what we talk about and what we do, but we make people feel good. And I. We needed to spread that to the world and give it to the world. So if your talent is supposed to be seen by the world. God gonna make sure of that. That's why I say real talent always gonna find its way.

[Dre Nicole]

That's fair.

[Lex P]

You feel me?

[Dre Nicole]

I feel you.

[Lex P]

Okay. Just making sure you feel me. You didn't look like you was feeling me.

[Dre Nicole]

You know, I do have.

[Lex P]

Feel me out now. Feel me out. Feel me out now.

[Dre Nicole]

I do have a different perspective, but I do. I feel like that's fair. That's fair.

[Lex P]

Okay. Okay. All right, let us know what y'all think. Do y'all feel like clout is more important than talent? And are people with real talent, you know, often looked over for people who have falls?

[Dre Nicole]

This show is sponsored by Better Help.

[Lex P]

What's up, y'all?

[Dre Nicole]

It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.

[Lex P]

And y'all know all the time, we are gonna tell y'all about betterhelp.com we are getting in that area where everybody had their New Year's resolutions, but they're kind of falling off right now. And I know one for me was to stay in therapy and be consistent. So if you are thinking about therapy or you're in therapy right now, stay on track.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes, y'all. Consistency is so important. And with better help. They make it super easy because it's very convenient. You could do it while you're at home or while you're on the go. So it's no excuses. And on top of that, it's really affordable. And they have so many different therapies that you can choose from.

[Lex P]

Yeah. So all you're going to do is go to betterhelp.com backslash poor minds. That's better. H E-L-P.com backslash poor minds and get 10 off of your first month. Build your support system with better help. Visit betterhelp.com poorminds today to get 10% off of your first month. That's betterhelp. H-E-L-P.com poormons okay, the only reason I want to bring this up is because I got that lick in me, first of all. And I'm going to take this moment because you know what? We gonna start the time right now because this motherfucker is a low down, dirty, greasy, thick ass bitch that nobody gives a fuck about. And we are tired. And we are tired of logging on to X and seeing the shit that you have to say. And the day that your mouth is closed forever is too soon. Because I cannot wait till we never have to hear your thoughts again. Come on, hurry.

[Dre Nicole]

You run out of Time, Kanye.

[Lex P]

Yes. I'm tired. I'm tired. I have had enough. And he said something about Slim Thug. He said, slim Thug, the realest nigga I know, or something like that. I know you watched Poor Minds with your thick ass. I know you did.

[Dre Nicole]

He probably not gonna see these stuff. He not.

[Lex P]

He not. But you never know what he gonna do. Cause he got mad. Cause I sat on the couch and said, you know, you lost your Kim Kardashian. You're not getting that again. I. I said what I said, talking about Slim. And Slim is a real I.

[Dre Nicole]

With Slim, him, Kanye.

[Lex P]

But I.

[Dre Nicole]

So now it's time to get into the Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow, bow.

[Lex P]

I cannot wait to talk to you about something when we end this.

[Dre Nicole]

What?

[Lex P]

Girl, it's just some tea. I forgot to tell you. But it just came to mind when we was talking. Okay, okay, So I can't wait.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm excited.

[Lex P]

Okay, so the bad topic for today is the wildest excuse you've used to get out of bad sex. Now.

[Dre Nicole]

Mm.

[Lex P]

Have you ever been, like, mid stroke and you was thinking, like, how the hell do I get out of here? Or, you know, like, you fake a phone call, pretend like, you know, your period just hit. What do you do? Like, have you ever been, like, mid stroke with a man and you like, this is not good. This is not good.

[Dre Nicole]

I haven't never been mid stroke and felt that way. But I definitely have had to lie to leave just because I don't want to be here no more. Like, I'm ready to go, ready to go home. So I feel like, yeah, I definitely have had to lie to leave and act like I had to go do something. I've lied and said I've had emergencies. I done lied on my mama. Sorry, Ma.

[Lex P]

Damn, Ma. So you know what? For me, I've never made it like an excuse to get out of sex. But back in the day, I haven't done this in a very long time. But that's when I used to face. So he would hurry up and nut. Like, I used to pretend like it was just feeling so good. I'd be like, oh, my gosh, I'm about to come. Oh, my God. Just so it would make him hurry up so it would end quicker. Like, so I've never actually made an excuse, but I feel like a lot of women do that. That goes into, like, the faking orgasms and faking conversations. I feel like people be faking so it can end.

[Dre Nicole]

And see, that's the thing. Like, nah, I'm not doing it.

[Lex P]

Yeah. I'm not doing that now, but in my younger years, in my early 20s.

[Dre Nicole]

Even when I was younger, no, if it's bad, we not having sex no more. I'm not about to be faking. Like, you need to figure this shit out or you need to go with somebody else. I'm not about to be laying in bed faking with you the whole time over and over.

[Lex P]

Like, oh, no, not over and over.

[Dre Nicole]

It's like, if you went through it one time, then that's understandable. But it's like, if you keep having bad sex with somebody and faking, that's a choice.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Now, I would say I've never done it to where it's like, I keep doing it over and over and. But I can definitely remember times I had sex with somebody and I was faking it just so it would end.

[Dre Nicole]

Why you ain't just tell them to move?

[Lex P]

Because I didn't want to do. I didn't want to do it no more. And I'm not gonna talk to you no more.

[Dre Nicole]

That's even better. That's why it's like, move. Get off me.

[Lex P]

Um, I'm not a vibe killer. Now, the vibe already killed of his dick bag, right? You right, you right. I mean, like I said, the vibe was never there. That goes into me just being young, like, to be.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not a vibe killer.

[Lex P]

He's the vibe. He was. But it was me going into, like, you know, back. I always talk about this, y'all. When we used to grow up, it would be magazines, Cosmopolitan magazine, how to make him come, how to make him orgasm, how to be sexy in the bedroom. So growing up and viewing sex, I always looked at it like it's about the man and it's for the man. I never viewed sex as it's for me as well. So every time I was in the bedroom in my younger years, this is why I always say young people don't need to be having sex because y'all not teaching things you don't properly understand.

[Dre Nicole]

We don't properly what we doing and.

[Lex P]

What we're doing, what it really is. So, yeah, absolutely. In my younger years, I used to feel like I have to perform. I was thinking like, Missy Elliot, pussy don't fail me now. I'm trying to turn this nigga out so he don't want nobody else but me and only me.

[Dre Nicole]

That's beautiful.

[Lex P]

No, it's not.

[Dre Nicole]

That is.

[Lex P]

No, it's not. Because we should not have that mind.

[Dre Nicole]

No, I agree. But I'm saying that's not good. Kind of that you wanted to be a pleaser like that. I have personally always been a pillow princess. I have always been a pillow princess. As I've gotten older now I be like, performing because I feel like if you in a relationship with your man, you should want to show out for your man. Like, you should want to go above and beyond for him. When I was younger, in my relationships, it was like, no, what you going to do for big mama? For real?

[Lex P]

Exactly. No, I was never like, I love.

[Dre Nicole]

I love to laugh.

[Lex P]

I'm like that now with my hands.

[Dre Nicole]

Behind my head, just like that.

[Lex P]

I'm like that now. But in my younger years, I was just, like, doing too much.

[Dre Nicole]

Why, though?

[Lex P]

Because, like I said, what did you.

[Dre Nicole]

Used to be doing for reference?

[Lex P]

You know when you face down, ass up, and you just doing too much, throwing that ass back? I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm about to. Not knowing. I'm not. I don't feel nothing. I'm not. Oh, and just.

[Ty]

Like the Herbal Essences commercial.

[Lex P]

The Herbal Essences, yes. That used to be me.

[Dre Nicole]

And what they used to be doing.

[Lex P]

She like, yeah, girl, I'm in that thing. I'm beating it up.

[Dre Nicole]

And I used to be. I would be like, you actually not. You actually not beating nothing up.

[Lex P]

That's what I'm saying. I was a performer, a thespian, and that's what I'm saying. I used to just make it excuses.

[Dre Nicole]

And, like, was it because you wanted them to go around? Like, go tell people like, ooh, Lex, good and bad.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Go brag about that thing.

[Dre Nicole]

I am weak as.

[Lex P]

Go brag about it. Let me show you. Let me show you what that thing do. But now I don't care about that. Cause if. If you go around saying, my coochie bag, it's because you didn't give me what it.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, it's because you didn't do what you needed to do.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

That's not me.

[Lex P]

In my younger years, I wasn't there.

[Dre Nicole]

You used to be going above.

[Lex P]

I used to be going above and beyond my means. But, you know, I was a white waitress at TGI Fridays.

[Dre Nicole]

What does that mean?

[Lex P]

Let me tell you. You got to give good service.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

They take two sips of their strawberry lemonade. I'm back with a refill. Yeah. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

They potato skins can be warm, but they not hot.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Instead of going take the ones away and just giving you four more, I'm giving you a whole new Batch. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

That's great though. But I feel like that speaks volumes about, you know, you as a person. Because that's. It's just so funny to me when you tell me this, Stu, because I just think about how the. How we were in the same settings and how I was just so different. When I used to waitress, I used to be checking on people every 30 minutes.

[Lex P]

Oh, Drea facts.

[Dre Nicole]

Cause I hated that job. I. I had one real waitressing job, like working at like a restaurant and bar where I used to actually have to serve food. You know. Foxy Hound.

[Lex P]

Yes. I remember when you worked there.

[Dre Nicole]

Me and my best friend Jack, Jasmine, we had just got like some little temp jobs in the summer. Like temporary little jobs working as waitresses at this popping sports bar in Houston. And I just hated it so much. So yes, I used to be in the back eating fries just bad on my phone, just baby and come check on people every 30 minutes. And I feel like, you know, it was the same thing in bed. Well, I was not trying to be. I was not trying to go. I was not trying to go above and beyond. Because even. Even not to be funny, but even when I was younger, I will say these. Like, I felt like when I was younger, I was like, I just know my coochie good. I could just say. I could just lay here, like I don't have to do nothing because I know it's good. And I'm not gonna do the most unless you make me feel like I gotta do the most.

[Lex P]

Right. Right. I feel like like I said, it was just me just doing the most.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

And then like I said, I would make excuses, but I would now one thing I would as good at in my younger years, I would cut them off.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

I wasn't like always let me go back and let me try to. Nah, we not. I'm gonna get out of it. I'm gonna do the most and I'm perform. Cause I know I did my part.

[Dre Nicole]

And then I'm not gonna come.

[Lex P]

I'm not gonna lie. But you know what? I do kind of regret that because I feel like there is men still to this day that be talking to people and be like, oh yeah, I used to talk to her. I was 19, I'm 46, I'm weak.

[Dre Nicole]

Cause I know somebody that you talking about. It's one person that came to mind when you said that. Cause we always talk about him. One person that be still telling people that he used to fuck with you.

[Lex P]

I don't know who it is, but may they burn in hell. Who? Oh, my God. And he won't stop.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, bro.

[Lex P]

Especially when them clips went viral recently.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, for real?

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

How do you know?

[Lex P]

Because they told me. Somebody said something that he said he.

[Dre Nicole]

Used to fucking with.

[Lex P]

Yes. And it was around a girl that he didn't even know that I knew.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

And he was like, oh, that's my old bitch. You. No, the disgrace. Oh, my God.

[Dre Nicole]

No. It really be disgusting, though.

[Lex P]

Seriously.

[Dre Nicole]

When you really see, like and think about some of the people that you used to date, like, people that. Dudes that I dated when I was like, 18 and 20 and 23, I just be like, what? Oh, my God. I am repulsed.

[Lex P]

And that's why we always tell these younger girls that are like, that are going through a breakup up. I promise you, if you're watching this show and you're between the ages of 18 to 28, your type is going to change. By the time you hit 31, 32, 33, your type is going to change. That heartbreak you are literally going to laugh at.

[Dre Nicole]

You gonna look back at them and be like, y'all are some losers. Oh, why was I there? I wasn't. And don't get me wrong, not everyone, because I have some. Yeah, ye. I have some guys that I used to date that they. They cool and they doing great things. But, like, some of them, I just be like, what the was I thinking? And what the fuck was I doing?

[Lex P]

That one, y'all, I wasn't even thinking about him.

[Dre Nicole]

That's who I always think about. Cause I know he be still doing that shit. He lame. He lame as hell.

[Lex P]

All right, let's move.

[Dre Nicole]

He be acting like a Y N.

[Lex P]

He do he look like one, too?

[Dre Nicole]

I don't know about it.

[Lex P]

Y is be skinny and tatty.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, I thought you mean he still look young. I was supposed to say, mm, mm.

[Lex P]

I didn't say all that now. Whooping his ass, beating his ass. That's how I know I'm blessed. God don't play Everybody who did me wrong. What Slim said Color Purple curse.

[Dre Nicole]

I feel like that's why I still look good, too. Everybody who did me wrong, I sucked up all that energy.

[Lex P]

Sucked it up. Suck that youth out. And that's why I say, oh, I love being a good woman. I love being a good woman. And the woman who can walk away. It's always gonna be me. Moving on. Okay, item of the week.

[Dre Nicole]

Muse, the beauty, of course. I'm sorry, y'all. I was trying to sip My little drinky drink. You would think it's. I know you would think it's licorice.

[Lex P]

But it's like a placebo effect.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, this is the thing for me. I feel like all I do is drink water. Like, with me doing my challenge, all I'm. All I drink every single day is water. And like, my. I'll do a protein smoothie, but I really only.

[Lex P]

That's like a meal, though.

[Ty]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, I'll do a protein smoothie, but outside of the smoothie, I. All I drink is water. So I think when I come here and then Toby making me these drinks, you know, it just be delightful for my palate.

[Ty]

I got a little something else in it, too.

[Dre Nicole]

And it does. And it does have the CBD or thc little liquid in there. So, yeah, I think I'll be trying to convince myself.

[Lex P]

I think so. I think so, too.

[Dre Nicole]

You right. Placebo effect.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I think.

[Dre Nicole]

But it's all right.

[Lex P]

It's all right.

[Dre Nicole]

But yes. So of course. Muse Beauty Collection.com. make sure you get your lip glosses, lip liners, matte liquid lipsticks, jelly blushes. I also have on the mascara and eyeliner that's going to be dropping really, really soon. And yeah, make sure y'all shop muse beautycollection.com. my lip combo today is the glaze lip gloss and the chestnut lip liner. That's it.

[Lex P]

Oh, okay. It looks good.

[Dre Nicole]

I didn't do nothing too crazy.

[Lex P]

Yeah. I have on chestnut lust and glazed. Okay. That's my go to period. And as y'all know, if y'all are getting boho braids this summertime, go to richlookhair.com. y'all get the look luxe curl, y'all. A lot of y'all had DM me asking me about my braids that I recently had. I'm telling y'all that is the best hair to use. Because you know what I see a lot. What I see the girls talking about they get boho braids and they don't last. And I'm like, how it's. Cause y'all not using good hair, proper hair. You have to use proper hair for the boho braids because you wash them like regular bundles.

[Dre Nicole]

I agree.

[Lex P]

So go to Rich look. If you're getting boho braids, go to richlookhair.com. get the luxe curl. Or if you want on just some bundles, a little glueless unit made. That's what I have on right now. Hit her up. That's my girl Dee, period. What's up y'all.

[Dre Nicole]

It's your girl XP and it's your girl Dre Nicole.

[Lex P]

And as y'all know summer is around the corner. So I know y'all are trying to get yalls weight loss goals met and we're gonna tell y'all about 4Hers.com and how they can help you.

[Dre Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

It's your girl XP and it's your girl Dre Nicole.

[Lex P]

Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week, but do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here.

[Dre Nicole]

Period. If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week week, all you need to do is send an email to Item of the week pm gmail.com that's I T M O F T-H-E W E E K P M gmail.com send us an email and we'll work it out. We gonna figure it out, get your product, get your business sponsored and yeah, make you some money.

[Lex P]

We love to support a small business.

[Dre Nicole]

Now in a black Business at that. But, I mean, we don't discriminate any. Business is welcome.

[Lex P]

So now it's time to get into the bop. Hey. Oh, about Todd, please.

[Dre Nicole]

Ty over there. What was that dance called?

[Ty]

The Shoulder.

[Dre Nicole]

What is this one?

[Lex P]

Lean with it, rock with it.

[Dre Nicole]

That's what Ty was over there in my white tea, she done.

[Lex P]

Oh, she do got a white tee, y'all.

[Dre Nicole]

She done took it way back, Way back.

[Lex P]

So my bop of the week is lucky. But I'm just playing my bop of the week this week. I'm not gonna lie. I was very skeptical about this artist when she first came out, because I was like, m. Now I'm still a little skeptical. Cause I'm like, is she kind of, like biting off a scissor and biting off of the. You know, the community? But I'm not gonna lie. She dropped another song, and it's actually fire. So Saylor. Do y'all remember she had that song? I hope you're happy. Got you a mini me Bet you meet ya ma. Oh, yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

You talked about her.

[Lex P]

Yes. But she has another song called Cut Up.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

And it's so good. It is so good. I am. The jury is still out on her. Like I said, I wanna see if she's in it to win it. Cause a lot of times we see these artists, they come out, they sound like another artist, and they don't last too long. But I will say for me, this is really the second song by her that I've jammed and I've listened to. She's two for two with me. I'm not mad at her. So cut up by Sailor. That's my bop. Go ahead, Lil Dre.

[Dre Nicole]

My bop this week is Push to Start by Tyler. By Tyler. So I've already really, really liked that song ever since it came out. But she just came out with a remix featuring Sean Paul, Shonda Paul, and shout out to Sean Paul.

[Lex P]

And Sasha. Come seeing with them, baby.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay. Except it's Sean Paul and Tyler. This song.

[Lex P]

Shan Paul and Tyler.

[Dre Nicole]

So that is my vibe. I love that song, y'all. Y'all should check it out. If y'all haven't heard it. I feel like Tyler has done a really good job of staying relevant.

[Lex P]

She is a.

[Dre Nicole]

She is. I agree.

[Lex P]

I think she just needs a little work.

[Dre Nicole]

They be saying she the next Rihanna.

[Lex P]

Hold your horses. That is what they be. They do be saying that. But too early. Hold your horses.

[Dre Nicole]

That's fair. It's too early. But I do think she's very talented, and I do think She's a star.

[Lex P]

Too now, you know, they used to do that with Ariana Grande and Mariah Carey, you know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

So I. I ain't mad at that comparison though.

[Lex P]

Mm. But I will say Tyla is a star. I think she needs to work a little bit on her public. Cause sometimes she. I think she gets nervous in situations when people ask her something crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, she's so.

[Lex P]

She doesn't know how to respond. Like Megan. There was a recent incident where the lady on the Oscar carpet was like, I listen to Megan thee stallion's music and it makes me wanna fight. What song of Megan's making you wanna fight? You know, they always look at black women like we just go around punching people in the face. So everybody has been on her ass about it, but Megan just carried it with such grace. She was like, no girl body, yada yada. It makes you. It makes you feel beautiful. Now if she would have said Mona Leo, Mona Leo make you smack a bitch.

[Dre Nicole]

She do.

[Lex P]

Now if it would have been Mona.

[Dre Nicole]

Leo run over a nigga with your car.

[Lex P]

Yeah, if it would have been Mona Leo, I would have said, you know what? Yeah, Mona Leo music do make you want to fight a little bit. But Megan, Megan is not a fighter.

[Dre Nicole]

Make me want to dance. Turn up party.

[Lex P]

Yeah, get cute, you a baddie. I got good coochie music. So I think Megan is good at handling awkward situations on the carpet. So I want Tyler to get there. But Tyler is a star. Are body tea. She can wear high fashion. Cute girl, pretty, she can sing. Yeah, she has all the factors. So that's a good.

[Dre Nicole]

It is.

[Lex P]

That's a good. Bob, Shonda, Paul, come sing with them, baby.

[Dre Nicole]

That I put on the list. You all is never settle. And if you're an avid listener of poor minds, then you probably have heard me say this numerous times. Like I say these all the time. I've always, always felt this way. Don't ever settle for anything in life if it's not exactly what you want. Don't let people tell you that you cannot get what you want out of this life because it's absolutely possible. I had so many people when I was in my 20s telling me that the things that I wanted was unrealistic, unreasonable. And if I had listened to those people, I wouldn't be where I am today. It's not for anybody else to understand that as long long as you know what it is and you willing to put the work in to get the things that you want, you don't have to settle. And don't let people convince you that you have to settle. It's usually people that are settling in their own lives that try to, you know, make other people feel like, oh, you can't do this, or you can't make that happen. You're thinking too far outside the box. How you going to do that? No, boo, you can't do that.

[Lex P]

I see.

[Dre Nicole]

Do whatever I want to do. Okay? And I will.

[Lex P]

So.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, don't. Ever.

[Lex P]

Since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera, entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with love, Lex P. Tasty.

[Dre Nicole]

Girl. Anyways, okay, now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show. Y'all know, if y'all have any questions, any testimonials, send them to Ask Poor Minds Gmail dot com. That's a S K P O U R M I N D S Gmail dot com. Okay, I got question number two. So.

[Lex P]

Oh, I gotta start. Sorry. All right. I dated this guy I met at work for four months. He understood me and loved things about me that I never imagined a guy would be so attentive to. I admired him a lot, too. From the beginning, he was honest that he was a few months out of a long relationship with his kid's mother, and that he wasn't in a place to date seriously. But he really liked me. It got to a point to where he felt it was irresponsible to keep going because our feelings were progressing and he didn't want to hurt me more. Later on, we stopped talking. And when I see him around, he does not speak to me. I know it's not personal. He just doesn't want to drag this along. We can't talk casually without wanting more. We had a special connection. And I never felt like this before. And that dick was so fire. How can I move on? I feel heartbroken. Even though it was a short amount of time.

[Dre Nicole]

I feel like that should make it even easier to move on. Cause it was a short amount of time. And then she said, he don't speak to her when she see him. Girl, move on. Cause I feel like the least somebody could do is speak to you.

[Lex P]

I agree.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, so this is what I'm saying. If he don't speak and he just act like you don't exist, I feel like he doesn't care. Like, the feelings for you are still there, but the feelings for him are not there. And that will be enough for me to just be like, good readings. I'm done with you. Because you. You not worried about me. I think sometimes you have to force yourself to move on when you realize that somebody is not worried about you.

[Lex P]

They'Re not worried about you. Because also, I will say this. Men will say, men are hot and cold, right? So they'll be like, oh, I love you. You mean so much to me. We have feelings. And then they'll be like, hey, I don't want to hurt you. I'm not the man for you. We need to separate. But guess what? Don't listen to nothing they say. Listen to their actions. Are his actions matching that he loves you and that he feels you and that he wants to be with you? Or are his actions matching that he don't want to be with you? He's not ready for a relationship. He told you what it was. And not only that, his actions are matching what's on this side. So. So pay attention to the action. Do not listen to words. When it comes to men, I'm telling you that. And this is me being honest. Do not listen to words because a man will drag you through the dirt, and then he'll come back and be like, oh, no, I love you. I love you. I care about you. I care about you. Then two days later, he acting an ass. Show me. I need to see it. Yeah, I'm not listening. I don't care. Because words sound so good. Look at William Shakespeare, what he did. To be or not to be.

[Dre Nicole]

And, well, if we being completely honest, I don't even think that applies in this situation, because it ain't no words. He not saying nothing to you. He not even saying hi.

[Lex P]

That's even worse. That's what I'm saying. The actions match. But I was saying the words because of what he told her prior. Oh, our feelings are progressing too much. I can't do this. I can't listen to that and pay attention to the.

[Dre Nicole]

But the thing is, his actions is following that, right? It's not like he giving you mixed signals. Like he said, he feel like it's progressing too quickly, and now he acting like you don't exist. I think that you should just move on. It would be different if he said that. And then when he see you, y'all are still gazing the eyes or he's giving you any type of hope that, you know, it could be something. But he not Giving you no hope. He giving you nothing.

[Lex P]

And I always say, do a 30 day detox. 30 days. Don't look at his social media, don't look at his stories, don't call him, don't text him completely. Do no contact for 30 days. Days. You will literally not know they exist anymore. Seriously. So do a full detox chat. All right, Dre, question number two.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, question number two. Hey, Dre and Lex. I love y'all so much and hope y'all see this. I'm 21 and I've been with my boyfriend for six years. We're high school sweethearts, and he's my first for everything. Over the years, I've naturally gained some weight since high school, but he constantly brings it up in a negative way during arguments, comments. He makes comments that make me feel insecure. And it hurts because I've never made him feel bad about his appearance. Lately, he's been mean, starts fights out of nowhere, and acts like he doesn't care about my feelings. I do everything for him, but he never acknowledges it. I don't nag or hold things in. I communicate. But he still makes me feel unappreciated. I know he's not cheating. I've checked. But sometimes I wonder if he wants to step out and see what's out there. He wasn't always like this, but after high school, he changed. Honestly, I'm tired of getting. I'm tired of feeling disrespected and unvalued. Should I leave or keep trying? Please help.

[Lex P]

God. Don't bless no mess.

[Dre Nicole]

I feel like you should leave.

[Lex P]

You should leave. You're too young.

[Dre Nicole]

You're 21.

[Lex P]

You're too young. And one thing about it, I feel like, like I always say, I am a strong believer. Believer in the let them theory. You got to let people do them. So sometimes you have to walk away from a situation and you'll see what a person really wants. If you walk away from a person, man or woman, and they fight for you, they're doing the effort, they're getting the. They're changing. They're really showing up for you. That's a person that really wants to be with you. But if you walk away from somebody and they just. They're okay with it, they're okay with your absence, that ain't the person for you. I truly believe that one day all the good men and all the good women will find each other and just be together.

[Dre Nicole]

You know how old the earth is?

[Lex P]

Come on now.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't know if that's gonna happen.

[Lex P]

Come on now. We gotta keep it positive.

[Dre Nicole]

But we've been here for a while and it hasn't happened yet.

[Lex P]

But I will say this. It's okay to walk away from things that no longer serve you. And if you're. What sometimes we have to ask ourselves, like, what am I walking away from? You're walking away from somebody who makes you feel unattractive, who makes you feel unloved. Walk away. Because you know what? I was in a relationship before a while, a long time ago. And I was gaining weight and we started going to the gym together. That's what a real man gonna do. Hey, babe, let's go work out together. You know, we both gained a little weight. I always say it's not about what you say, it's how you say it. So I think that this is a young man who probably does want to be outside. Because if y'all are, y'all are probably the same age. Cause she said six years. Y'all were high school sweethearts parts. So y'all are the same age. Girl, that man gotta grow. And so do you.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, see, I feel like you should just let it go. Y'all are young. You gonna find somebody else. And I feel like that's unhealthy. Like no matter what age. Yeah, y'all are young. But I feel like if he always picking at you and saying negative stuff about your appearance, that's not something that I see changing. You know, I feel like it's just gonna get worse and progress as y'all get older. Because that's not the way to motivate somebody to want to lose weight. If he wants you to lose weight or if he feel like, oh, you don't put on a few pounds like Lex said, maybe go. Maybe y'all should go to the gym together. Maybe he should offer to go on walks and stuff with you. Maybe he should offer for y'all to like meal prep together and eat healthier and y'all be accountable accountability partners. If that's something that he's good at and you're not. I feel like picking at somebody and talking about their appearance is not the way to motivate them to do it anything. And if he doing it now at 21, he gonna keep doing it as y'all relationship continues to go on. Cuz that's just a negative characteristic that a person has.

[Lex P]

I agree.

[Dre Nicole]

And yeah, I think you young. I'm sure you're beautiful. You have a lot ahead of you in life. Cuz 21 is so young.

[Lex P]

So young.

[Dre Nicole]

So, yeah, he your high school sweetheart. But, girl, it's more men out there. And it's men out there that are going to love you the way you are currently. And if you do want to lose weight, it's men out there that are going to motivate you in a much more positive and loving way to do so.

[Lex P]

So, Yeah, I agree 1,000%. All right, now, so make sure y'all tune in every Friday. Poor Minds. We got muse, beautycollection.com, get all your lipsticks, all that good stuff. Make sure y'all tune in to every episode of Love Lex. Peace. 10am on Monday mornings. We don't miss a Monday. All the hot tea you need. We are reviewing Real Housewives of Atlanta right now, y'all. Every week, Real Housewives of Atlanta, Hot topics, the good stuff. So shout out to all my love birds and love Lex P. And.

[Dre Nicole]

And make sure y'all follow my YouTube channel. Dre and Nicole with three E's. I drop vlogs every week. I just dropped a new vlog a few days ago, and, yeah, they drop every week. It's vlogs. Beau content. I kind of try to switch it up. It's not vlogs every single week, but it's something. Every week, I'm dropping something. So make sure y'all tune in. Thank y'all.

[Lex P]

Bye. Y'all make sure y'all share the content. Like, subscribe, follow all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out, y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P O u R Underscore. M I nds. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page. Okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Mods page on both. So we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one Tick tock. It is P o u r underscore M I n d S. All right?

[Dre Nicole]

And we got hella fake Facebook page.

[Lex P]

Oh, the Facebook Facebook pages.

[Dre Nicole]

It's the our face. The crazy thing is, our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers.

[Lex P]

So if you on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers.

[Dre Nicole]

The one that's not us got like 250,000 followers. Fake.

[Lex P]

If you actually look at the content, because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English because their captions.

[Dre Nicole]

Are like, bumba clutch.

[Lex P]

Should men. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes. No. Check Answer below blah blah.

[Dre Nicole]

Like that's literally what the captions I like you.

[Lex P]

What with that DDG bumba Claude I was forced into this but we gonna make it work Dance tonight I wanna.

[Dre Nicole]

Toast tonight I spend my money tonight I spend my money tonight Tonight my money Dance tonight I want to toast tonight Spend my money tonight I want to get freaky tonight Freaky baby yeah we need to do let's find brand new fits for you make sure that you look good make sure that I smell good let's purchase two new Bentley I know that it looks trendy so glad it's not that windy Here comes that girl named Donnie Asked if she wants to go Tonight's gonna be hot for show Big dancing on the floor folks trippin I don't know Money feeding everywhere Champagne, we won't go there Bottles popping in the air they screaming I don't care I wanna dance tonight I won't the toast tonight I'll spend my money tonight Spend my money, my money tonight Spend my money, yeah Tonight I want a toast tonight Tonight Spend my money tonight Tonight Want to get free tonight Ricky, baby.

[Lex P]

Yeah. I kind of ate, man. Shout out to Lucy Pearl this weak ass song.

[Dre Nicole]

I love this song.

[Lex P]

Boo. I was forced to can't hide me and a couple friends oh yeah no.

[Dre Nicole]

Need to settle down My body don't know how Right there I see you looking sure hope that you're not took in don't get lost in the crowd this place is so damn wild Go ahead and floss your ice Go ahead, do what you like I'm feeling just as fly do you hear your songs.

[Lex P]

Tonight I wanna dance Tonight I wanna want a toast Tonight I'll spend my.

[Dre Nicole]

Money Tonight I spend my money Tonight I spend my money yeah Tonight I want a toast tonight.

[Lex P]

I want to.

[Dre Nicole]

Get freaky tonight Freaking, baby.

[Lex P]

You wasn't ready for that. Yeah, man. One thing about us, we gonna eat.

[Dre Nicole]

A karaoke a hit.

[Lex P]

All right, Y'all.

[Dre Nicole]

Ra.