U Dont Know Me

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast – Episode: "U Dont Know Me"
Release Date: May 23, 2025
Host/Author: 85 South Media

In this episode of the Pour Minds Podcast, hosts Lex P and Dre Nicole delve deep into personal experiences, societal observations, and relationship dynamics, all while maintaining their signature candid and humorous banter. This detailed summary captures the essence of their conversations, enriched with notable quotes and timestamps to provide a comprehensive overview for both regular listeners and newcomers.

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1. Celebrating Recent Achievements and Shout-Outs

[00:27] Lex P:
Lex kicks off the episode by acknowledging their recent successes and collaborations. She expresses pride in their content production, mentioning standout episodes like "Rory and Mal" and their impressive press run.

Key Points:

• Successful collaborations with Rory and Mal.
• Upcoming content releases, including "EYL" expected to drop within the week.
• Participation in high-profile interviews such as the Breakfast Club with Charlamagne.

Notable Quote:
"We just went on a crazy press run, and we got so much good content that's out right now." – Lex P [01:09]

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2. The Evolution of Social Media and Celebrity Interaction

[02:10] Dre Nicole:
Dre transitions the conversation to the changing landscape of social media, particularly Twitter. She reminisces about an era when celebrities like Kim Kardashian and Rihanna actively engaged on the platform, contrasting it with the current state dominated by negativity and trolling.

Key Points:

• Decline of genuine celebrity interaction on Twitter.
• Personal anecdotes about Lex P's interaction with a streamer, Aiden Ross, who made derogatory comments about Meg Thee Stallion and Dochi.
• Dre shares her frustration with similar negative interactions related to the Cassie and Diddy trial.

Notable Quotes:
"I said, stop being in these black spaces and speaking on black women. Y' all don't know how hard it is for us to be in these spaces..." – Lex P [05:11]
"Some people just rather tear down black women who came from the same space as them." – Dre Nicole [13:37]

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3. Dealing with Online Criticism and Personal Attacks

[04:31] Lex P:
Lex opens up about the personal toll of online harassment, detailing how she's been attacked and called offensive names due to her outspoken tweets defending black women.

Key Points:

• Impact of negative comments and harassment on mental health.
• The dichotomy between support from true fans and the vitriol from trolls.
• Strategies for managing online negativity, including the consideration to deactivate Twitter.

Notable Quotes:
"You have created this opinion about me where you feel like I would date for fame and money. If I would date for fame and money, why I ain't did it." – Lex P [08:00]
"We are anointed. Our lives have been anointed long before y' all ever met us." – Dre Nicole [12:23]

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4. Hygiene and Personal Care: A Candid Exchange

[14:21] Lex P:
Shifting gears, Lex and Dre engage in a lighthearted yet informative discussion about personal hygiene, emphasizing the importance of proper cleaning and deodorizing.

Key Points:

• Detailed routines for maintaining personal hygiene, including the use of specific products like Estee Lauder powder and Booty Deodorant.
• Importance of washing intimate areas thoroughly to prevent odors.
• Shared tips and personal preferences, fostering a sense of camaraderie and practical advice.

Notable Quotes:
"Cause if you tell me that you're okay, even if I know that you're not okay, I don't look at that as passive aggressiveness. I look at that more as you not wanting to talk about it right now." – Dre Nicole [48:02]
"...My three best compliments that I get all the time is I'm funny, my looks, and the way I smell." – Lex P [16:06]

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5. Passive Aggressiveness in Relationships: Definitions and Personal Insights

[38:24] Lex P:
The hosts delve into the nuanced topic of passive aggressiveness in relationships, exploring its manifestations, underlying causes, and personal struggles.

Key Points:

• Definitions: Differentiating between passive aggressiveness and simply protecting one's peace.
• Personal Experiences: Lex admits to struggling with being passive aggressive, particularly when she's not ready to address issues immediately. Dre shares her approach of distancing herself rather than engaging in passive behaviors.
• Psychological Insights: Discussion on how passive aggressiveness can stem from fear of confrontation or desire for a reaction, with contributions from a guest named "C" who adds depth to the conversation.

Notable Quotes:
"When people are passive aggressive, they're trying to make somebody react..." – Lex P [43:05]
"If you're being passive aggressive, you care." – Dre Nicole [46:07]
"The definition, passive aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative emotions through subtle acts of resistance, defiance, or neglect." – C [52:06]

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6. Listener Interaction: Pour Your Heart Out Segment

[102:50] Dre Nicole:
In their beloved "Pour Your Heart Out" segment, Dre reads a heartfelt listener question about losing a job as a hairstylist and seeks advice on career transitions and overcoming challenges in a saturated industry.

Key Points:

• Listener’s Dilemma: Feeling defeated after job loss, struggling to find opportunities in hairstyling despite reaching out to established professionals.
• Hosts' Advice: Lex emphasizes passion, consistency, and providing excellent service as keys to success. She shares her own journey of building connections and the importance of giving back, even through unpaid work initially.
• Guest Input: The guest, "C," highlights the need for innovation and continuous learning in service industries. She advises finding unique ways to stand out and seeking mentorship to propel one's career forward.

Notable Quotes:
"If you're passionate about something, you have to show your passion, you know, like, it'll happen for you." – Lex P [106:32]
"Find creative ways that you're gonna set yourself apart from anybody else in your field..." – C [106:38]

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7. Fashion and Aesthetics: Navigating Personal Style Amidst Criticism

[75:01] Lex P:
The conversation takes a playful yet pointed turn towards personal style, focusing on Lex’s Apple Watch and the backlash she received for wearing it to a formal setting.

Key Points:

• Fashion Statements: Lex defends her choice to wear an Apple Watch with a gold band to a dinner setting, emphasizing confidence and personal expression over societal expectations.
• Criticism and Misconceptions: Both hosts discuss how their styles are perceived and the pressures of meeting external standards, especially as public figures.
• Empowerment: Reinforcing the message of self-confidence and disregarding unsolicited opinions about their appearance.

Notable Quotes:
"If you like your Apple Watch, how you wear it, why do you care what this complete stranger is saying about what you have on?" – Lex P [76:00]
"Don't let people affect how you feel about yourself. That's how I know y' all don't have no confidence." – Lex P [76:33]

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8. Closing Remarks and Community Engagement

[89:13] Dre Nicole:
As the episode progresses towards its conclusion, Lex and Dre address their relationship dynamics, emphasizing their independent growth and mutual support despite external narratives positioning Dre as the "villain."

Key Points:

• Mutual Respect: Affirming that both hosts are individual entities thriving independently and collectively.
• Handling Public Perception: Addressing how audiences often misconstrue their interactions and striving to maintain a positive and supportive partnership.
• Encouragement: Motivating listeners to embrace their uniqueness and support one another within the community.

Notable Quotes:
"We came together and built something really special because that was obviously also, again, ordained in the path." – Dre Nicole [85:05]
"Being unapologetically yourself is a beautiful thing." – Lex P [87:32]

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Conclusion

In "U Dont Know Me," Lex P and Dre Nicole offer a blend of personal anecdotes, societal critique, and heartfelt advice, all delivered with their trademark honesty and humor. From navigating the pitfalls of social media harassment to offering practical tips on personal hygiene and relationship dynamics, the episode provides listeners with both entertainment and valuable insights. Their candid discussions about passive aggressiveness and maintaining personal style amidst criticism underscore the podcast's commitment to authenticity and empowerment.

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Notable Quotes Highlighted in the Summary:

• "Everything that y' all know about us is because we have talked about it on the show, and we have been vulnerable and honest." – Lex P [00:00]
• "We graduated from that app and a lot of people want to do what we're doing." – Lex P [11:07]
• "Our lives have been anointed long before y' all ever Met us." – Dre Nicole [12:23]
• "I'm trying to learn how to communicate better." – Lex P [41:20]
• "If you're being passive aggressive, you care." – Dre Nicole [46:07]
• "Find creative ways that you're gonna set yourself apart from anybody else in your field..." – C [106:38]
• "Being unapologetically yourself is a beautiful thing." – Lex P [87:32]

This episode encapsulates the essence of the Pour Minds Podcast—raw, unfiltered conversations that resonate with listeners navigating similar life challenges, all while fostering a community of support and empowerment.

Transcript

[Lex P]

All the tea that y' all have on us is because we gave it to you. Everything that y' all know about us is because we have talked about it on the show, and we have been vulnerable and honest. You have never clocked our tee because you really saw something or found something.

[Dre Nicole]

And realistically speaking, I be carving niggas that you niggas be ready to fuck.

[Lex P]

Booty hole wide open.

[Dre Nicole]

Wide open. Busted. Wide open. Loose. Booty like what?

[Lex P]

Blown out. What's up, y' all? It's your girl Lex.

[Dre Nicole]

And it's your girl Dre in the Cole.

[Lex P]

And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind, where a drunk.

[Dre Nicole]

Mind speaks sober Thought.

[Lex P]

We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. Hey, you know what?

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Let me just say this. I have to give us our flowers and our things. We just went on a crazy press run, and we got so much good content that's out right now. Like we did Rory and Mal. Shout out to Rory and Mal. That was a fire episode. Hopefully, by the time this drops, EYL will have dropped. I think it should have. I think it's gonna drop this week, actually. Shout out to Rashad and Troy. And we did.

[Dre Nicole]

Why did you say their name? What is wrong with you?

[Lex P]

I'm a little tipsy. Who is Rashard and Ferrar? That was my fancy lady accent.

[Dre Nicole]

That was not fancy.

[Lex P]

I'm gonna talk about troubled Queens, but we gonna get to that in a second. But we just did a Breakfast Club with a Charlamagne.

[Dre Nicole]

You don't need no more shots. But however, for me, as for me.

[Lex P]

And my family, oh, wait. But, yeah, we just did Breakfast Club, Royal Mall, Earn youn Leisure, and, oh, my gosh. Like, we just took New York over. We was in the streets stomping around.

[Dre Nicole]

What else is new?

[Lex P]

And then we did Open Thoughts with Marco Summers. Our episode with him dropped. Last week on Poor Minds, we did.

[Dre Nicole]

Two open Thoughts with Marco. Shout out to Marco.

[Lex P]

Shout out to Marco Summers. I think we have been doing a great job. I just feel like every time people think we have peaked, we just keep on pushing.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't really understand why people think that there's a peak.

[Lex P]

Well, I think people are mean. Well, no, people are mean to us on Twitter.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm about to deactivate my Twitter.

[Lex P]

Personally, I'm there with you.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, I probably will delete it, to be honest. I just feel like real celebrities, like, real tweet. I mean, to be honest, I think at one point, it was like an Era where, like, Kim Kardashian, Rihanna be. Beyonce never tweeted, but Kim Kardashian, Rihanna. I think Jay Z used to be tweeting, quote.

[Lex P]

I think his quote me if I'm wrong.

[Dre Nicole]

Let me know if I'm wrong in the comments, y' all. But I think Jay Z. Well, Kanye still be tweeting, but Jay Z did.

[Lex P]

Cause I remember he said he tweeted.

[Dre Nicole]

He was like, I feel like Jay Z had a Twitter. He.

[Lex P]

He tweeted. He was like, hey, Lex. Follow back. And I was like, oh, what's up, bro? Yeah, so he took.

[Dre Nicole]

That was a burner. I mean, not even a burner. My bad. That was a fake account. A burner. Be actually people. It actually be the person trying to be incognito. That was a fake account.

[Lex P]

What up, sir? Follow back.

[Dre Nicole]

But no, I do. I feel like it was a point in time, maybe like, 10 years ago. Because it's 2025 right now. So, yeah, 10, 15 years ago, where celebrities did used to be on Twitter tweeting and stuff, and they actually used to be monetizing their tweets back then because Kim Kardash used to make, like, I think 2,000, $3,000.

[Lex P]

Oh, it was way more than that.

[Dre Nicole]

It was more than that. But, like, she used to make money from promoting things on Twitter. I just think we're in an era now where it's nothing but, like, trolls on Twitter. Like, nothing but miserable people. Don't get me wrong. It's still. Some of. Some of y' all are nice. Like, it is a lot of people on Twitter who support poor minds, who support Lex and I. But it's also a lot of very negative mean people, like, bitch, I can't say nothing.

[Lex P]

We gonna talk about what you said in a second. Cause I'm. And I said what I said, but I'm getting attacked.

[Dre Nicole]

Shout out to Nene Leakes.

[Lex P]

I'm getting attacked right now. I'm getting called all kind of N words.

[Dre Nicole]

Why?

[Lex P]

Because I tweeted. So Aiden Ross, the streamer. Yeah, he went on a stream the other day. He called Meg thee stallion the B word and was talking about Free Tory. Then he decides to say that Dochi is unintelligent and she's a B word. So I was like, he's always speaking on black women, and it's never positive. Because my thing is, if you always want to be in this black. These black spaces. Okay, I get it. You don't have to like, every person, whatever, but at least be positive. Do you ever have anything to say about anything with black women. So I said. I was like, damn, he's a little too comfortable speaking negatively.

[Dre Nicole]

I saw that.

[Lex P]

Oh, they are in my mentions. You know, it went viral. It didn't go viral. It didn't go viral. But it has, like a thousand retweets. Whatever. But they are in my comments calling me everything but a child of God. But guess what? I don't give a damn about no streamers. I'm not in that world. Y' all don't scare me. I said what? I said, stop being in these black spaces and speaking on black women. Y' all don't know how hard it is for us to be in these spaces because you are a white man who gets to do whatever y' all wanna do. It's different for us. So again, I say if you're gonna be in black spaces, you need to move a little better. But of course, he doesn't have to, because you have black men who allow him in these spaces and they be around him and allowing him to do whatever he wants to do because of his name and who he is. But I said what? I said.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, I tweeted something like that. I tweeted something that was similar to that earlier to today because it was a particular celebrity who made a post.

[Lex P]

I saw that, too.

[Dre Nicole]

About the Cassie and Diddy trial.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

Or whatever. And this particular celebrity is always on the Internet spewing ignorance.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

And misogyny.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

And people are always in our comments saying, oh, y' all need to have this person on the show. How? While I do think that he is a hoot.

[Lex P]

Agreed.

[Dre Nicole]

I would never care to have him on this show because he's always on the Internet saying some bullshit that I don't agree with. So I said nothing about the particular person, but I just made a separate tweet. Well, I did retweet the tweet and I put, like, the little side eye face. But after that, I made a tweet. I composed the tweet and I said, you know, I really wish a lot of these celebrity men would shut the fuck up, because every time they get on the Internet, they're saying some bullshit and it's nothing. And the misogyny is jumping out. The misogyny is jumping out. These y' all faves. Somebody responded to me and they said, andrea, which.

[Lex P]

My name is Draya.

[Dre Nicole]

It's Draya Nicole. Cause I hate. Why would you grab.

[Lex P]

Because when people call me my first name.

[Dre Nicole]

Me too, bro. It pissed me. It be when I Say it boils my blood. Do not call me by my first name if you don't know me like that.

[Lex P]

Get back.

[Dre Nicole]

You don't know me like that. Get back.

[Lex P]

Get back.

[Dre Nicole]

You don't know me like that. In a word.

[Lex P]

So come on, Come on.

[Dre Nicole]

And the words will be called. Bag, bag, bag, bag. Give me 50ft. Give me 50ft. Cause y' all do not know me with the. I didn't know the.

[Lex P]

I didn't.

[Dre Nicole]

You knew it. Yeah, go. You don't know the words. Actually, I knew you didn't. That's why you was trying to lowkey do background bars. You done made me waste my drink on myself shaking this. Damn, she shaking the table. Oh, you done made me waste this on myself. But no. So, yeah, so I.

[Lex P]

Let me hold it while you talk.

[Dre Nicole]

Thank you. Thank you. Cuz I was looking for the tweet where the dude. Cuz I retweeted the guy that said something crazy to me. He gonna say. He said, andrea, we know you be quick to date for money and fame, too.

[Lex P]

Stop.

[Dre Nicole]

I said, I'm already getting the money and the fame, too, without having to be publicly attached to a man. What's your next argument?

[Lex P]

Oh, clock it.

[Dre Nicole]

Because where do people that. And that's why I said, I'm going to take a break from Twitter. Thank you, Cece. That's why I said, I'm just about to deactivate my Twitter because y' all are losers. Respectfully, you don't know me. I don't know you. You don't know me. All. Everything you know about me, you know from poor minds. You don't know nobody I dated. You don't know none of my friends. You don't know anything that I have going on. But you have created this opinion about me where you feel like I would date for fame and money. If I would date for fame and money, why I ain't did it. A lot of your faves be trying to holla, turning it down.

[Lex P]

Let me also say this. All the tea that y' all have on us is because we gave it to you. Everything that y' all know about us is because we have talked about it on the show, and we have been vulnerable and honest. You have never clocked our T because you really saw something or found something.

[Dre Nicole]

And realistically speaking, I be curving n that, you niggas be ready to fuck.

[Lex P]

Booty hole wide open.

[Dre Nicole]

Wide open, busted wide open. Loose booty like what?

[Lex P]

Blown out like.

[Dre Nicole]

Ain't that what Juvenile said? He said loose booty something, something. Round down, I don't know. But if a gangster can't hit it, what you bouncing it for?

[Lex P]

But I will say.

[Dre Nicole]

But no, for real though, like, be for real. Y' all be just saying anything. And then I think people love to speak on. You and I and the things that we said five or so years ago, we've evolved into whole different people. And it's like, that's. That's okay though. Cause that's a version of myself. And I ain't never ashamed of any version of myself.

[Lex P]

That's why all the episodes are so.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I'm never ashamed of any version of me. Cringy at times, some of the things that I would say, but I'm not ashamed. That's why they still up. Because we always have the power, like you just said, to delete the shit if we don't want it up.

[Lex P]

Delete for what?

[Dre Nicole]

But delete it for what? It's not that deep.

[Lex P]

It's not that deep.

[Dre Nicole]

So the things that people be thinking is a clockable moment. Or you think you really saying something profound. You ain't really saying shit. Cause you don't know me. And you never have receipts. Who? Somebody said you saying all of these, but you be moving in them circles. Who with who with who in what circles? Where are the receipts?

[Lex P]

And this is what I have to say. Like I said, out of all the apps, Twitter is the one app that you don't make money on. And I think this is what it is, though. I think people are mad because we graduated from that app and a lot of people want to do what we're doing.

[Dre Nicole]

We was on the couch in our house, right? And now we've elevated and y' all still on that couch.

[Lex P]

That couch. This is not me just being. But y' all are be so rude to us on there. It's crazy because when the. When drama goes on with poor minds. Retweets 3000. These birds retweets 3000. But when it's something positive, retweets 8, retweets 4.

[Dre Nicole]

Which camera is my camera for? Let me look directly at this camera when I say this. Cuz I mean this wholeheartedly. No opinion of anybody that is on the X app, the Instagram app, the Tik Tok app. None of these apps, like Yalls opinion don't matter. It's not going to ever stop anything for me and Lex because this is God ordained and anointed. We're anointed. Our lives have been anointed long before y' all ever Met us. We were supposed to be on this path. This was already the path for our life. Y' all can't stop. All y' all could do is be mad and keep watching the elevation.

[Lex P]

And this is for anybody who's on a path of doing hair, doing makeup, you know, being a doctor, being a lawyer. Don't let nobody talk about you and get you off your path. And to all the people that have supported and been positive, I love y' all. I see.

[Dre Nicole]

I love y' all, too. Y' all my people.

[Lex P]

Y' all are our people. Because the fact that two black women shout out to travel queens. We had a great season. The season finale was last week. You make sure y' all run it up so we can get a season two. The fact that two black women got a travel show and having fun, because y' all made that happen. So to the supporters, thank y' all because y' all know our hearts and y' all see us and y' all know who we are. It's just the people who tune in, it be people who we don't even get a word out. They look at us and they be like, who are these ghetto birds? Um, this ghetto bird has a college degree. And I started from nothing. We both started from nothing and made something happen. Y' all are mad because the American dream looks like what these white people told y' all. And two black, not only two women, but two black women, made the American dream happen. And that wasn't in the cards for what they wanted it to be. Don't get me on my woke shit now.

[Dre Nicole]

But you know what's interesting to me? Instead of being inspired, it's so crazy to me that people would just rather tear down black women who came from the same space as them. Because we did start off, like, on Twitter, on Instagram, just on the timeline. And I feel like now that we've elevated to this level that a lot of other people haven't elevated to, it's so much backlash. It's so much negativity. It's so much. Where you said this five years ago. That was five years ago. You know, what was you doing five years ago? Look at what I'm doing now, currently. And what are you doing now? Talking about what I was doing five years ago.

[Lex P]

But it's so crazy because, you know, on the app, they don't even let you mute stuff anymore. So I can even.

[Dre Nicole]

They don't.

[Lex P]

I mute stuff. And I can.

[Dre Nicole]

And you can still see if that happened to me with the watch. Sweet.

[Lex P]

But even with and we finna talk about that. My friend diamond shout out to Diamond Mother of Gotti on Twitter. She went viral recently because she was having a moment with her grandmother at her grandmother's party. She's twerking and dancing. First of all, my friend is West Indian, okay? That's her culture. That's what they do. They twerk, they dance. They don't look at it as sexual, okay? She's dancing on her grandma. Her grandma is laughing and having a break.

[Dre Nicole]

This is like the second or third time that video went viral, right?

[Lex P]

She's having a good time. Her grandmother's laughing. Her grandmother's not disgusted. She knows her granddaughter. She sees what she does on social media. She knows who she is, and she loves her, and she accepts her, and she's having a good time. But instead of seeing this moment, y' all try to rip her two shreds. For what? Because this is something that you wouldn't do with your grandmother.

[Dre Nicole]

Your granny ain't le.

[Lex P]

And your granny probably dead just like mine. Rp. Rp.

[Dre Nicole]

My granny did too damn well. Not my bo. Well, you know, it gets confusing with me. Both of my biological grannies are alive, but my grannies, they raised me.

[Lex P]

Rp. Rp. But I'm just saying, leave people alone. Scroll past things you don't like. Stop calling people bitches. Especially as women and black women and black men, we need to stop speaking to each other like that. We need to stop letting people in our spaces and talk about each other like that. It's just like this. If I got a problem with what Draya does, I'm gonna tell her. But public. We're united from.

[Dre Nicole]

Your wind smell good.

[Lex P]

My what?

[Dre Nicole]

Your wind.

[Lex P]

My twerk wind is never fine.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, not the twerk. Cause you didn't twerk.

[Lex P]

But you.

[Dre Nicole]

I smelled it.

[Lex P]

I said, you know what I do now?

[Dre Nicole]

You smell good.

[Lex P]

You know what it is?

[Dre Nicole]

What is it?

[Lex P]

So I've been doing this for years, but okay. My three best compliments that I get all the time is I'm funny. My looks and the way I smell. You know why the girls have stopped powdering? Y' all don't powder no more.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, yeah, you powder.

[Lex P]

Oh, I powder down. I have. It's called Estee Lauder.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, my granny grand used to use that.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I've been using it since I've been in high school.

[Dre Nicole]

So you use that and deodorant.

[Lex P]

Yes. So I put my deodorant on. I put my powder on. I put the powder under my titties. I put it underneath the Booty crack. Sometimes I'll dab it on the back of my neck. So I have a body oil that I use. What's the one that we like? The pink bottle. I can't think of it.

[Dre Nicole]

Pink bottle. Pink bottle.

[Lex P]

I got.

[Dre Nicole]

I like the Aveeno.

[Lex P]

No, Delina.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, the Delina body.

[Lex P]

I got the body oil, so I put the body oil, and it makes me really, really greasy, so. Well, it's a dry oil, so it dries down. But while it's still wet, I put that Estee Lauder powder on, and it makes my skin matte. Then I go in with my Lavias Belle lotion.

[Dre Nicole]

You dropping gym?

[Lex P]

The girls don't Y' all need to powder it up.

[Dre Nicole]

Now, I personally don't use powder, but what I do think is a gem that I'm dropping for the girls is I use Booty deodorant and stuff.

[Lex P]

Now, I do have a body, so I have.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, so I have a. I have a body deodorant. Well, it's really called Booty Deodorant.

[Lex P]

Booty.

[Dre Nicole]

Booty. You gotta say booty with so much. Because we gotta. We. Cause we got. Boo.

[Lex P]

No, I don't have a booty no more.

[Dre Nicole]

You do gotta.

[Lex P]

I have a. I have a. A rear end. I'm skinny. I have a rump now. I'm thin. I'm very skinny.

[Dre Nicole]

You are skinny. But I do think you still got that thing on. You still got a little cuff.

[Lex P]

I do, but I don't.

[Dre Nicole]

You need to put that deodorant under that cuff.

[Lex P]

I still do. I put powder.

[Dre Nicole]

That's what I'm saying. You gotta put something under that cuff.

[Lex P]

Okay. You right. You right.

[Dre Nicole]

Hey. Cause that crease still. Creases don't stink.

[Lex P]

Ooh, that crease do. Be funky on the skin. It do.

[Dre Nicole]

If you don't oil it down, deodorant it down. Okay, so what's the powder it down. So I be using the Booty deodorant. So you gotta put it up the crack.

[Lex P]

Oh, so it can go in there? Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, so we can go in there.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Then you put it underneath the crease. The cuff.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Then you put it underneath your breast.

[Lex P]

You know, I love breasts.

[Dre Nicole]

Breast is very mature. But I'm also getting very mature, so I should start using breasts. I'm 34 now. I have breasts.

[Lex P]

Yeah, you definitely got breast.

[Dre Nicole]

Breasts. I have breasts. They old. It's time for a redo.

[Lex P]

Yeah, you got bread.

[Dre Nicole]

These is 10 years old. They definitely breasts.

[Lex P]

How Old are mine.

[Dre Nicole]

They was titties after the first year or two. Now they brace.

[Lex P]

I got mine. I got my new ones in 20, 22.

[Dre Nicole]

But you ain't got to get them swapped out.

[Lex P]

No, I don't have to do nothing.

[Dre Nicole]

That's what I got to do, though.

[Lex P]

Yeah. I don't gotta do.

[Dre Nicole]

It's almost that time. I have. So me and my breasts, we need.

[Lex P]

A little extra body.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. We need to be secure. So that's what y' all have to start doing. Y' all need to find some type of layer.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

To put in the creases. Whatever works for you. Whether it's a powder, whether it's a deodorant, whether it's, you know, a little spray or something. You need to do something.

[Lex P]

Well, no, this is the problem. Y' all are getting out the shower, drying off with a towel, and just spraying yourself in lotion. That's not enough. First it starts in the shower. So I have. It's called. It's a body wash. It's a neutralizer. What? Oh, I don't have my phone. What's that body company called? Nobody got their phone Anyways. I can't think of the name.

[Dre Nicole]

That picture look cute? Let me see.

[Lex P]

I'm weak. So it's a body wash that neutralizes the body odor. So no matter what you've been doing, it's gonna clean your body, but it's gonna neutralize the odor. Right. So after I do that, then I go in with my niacinamide. Cinnamon. Did I say it right? I don't know. Niacinamide.

[Dre Nicole]

Niacinamide, whatever.

[Lex P]

That. What she said. It's a vitamin C body wash. So I go in with that afterwards. Then on my third wash, that's when I go in with my Lavias Belle Body Body Gel.

[Dre Nicole]

I do two washes. I don't do three.

[Lex P]

Well, the only reason I do three.

[Dre Nicole]

I do two, and then I do two coochie washes with a coochie cleaner.

[Lex P]

Only reason I do three is because the neutralizer. I need that odor. You know how sometimes your natural pheromones, sometimes people just stank naturally? I don't stank naturally. But just in case I did, I don't know if I do. I've been clean for so long, I don't know what my natural pheromones.

[Dre Nicole]

You know, I disagree. I feel like you would know if you do. I think people that stank naturally, they know. They ignore it.

[Lex P]

Oh, well, I don't know if I stink or not cuz I think so clean.

[Dre Nicole]

I think they so fresh and so clean.

[Lex P]

Clean.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. I feel like that's something that we can say about ourselves. We don't have a reputation for being mushy, baby.

[Lex P]

We got a reputation for.

[Dre Nicole]

Or having bad breads.

[Lex P]

Do you know that's the number one compliment I get when I hop in an Uber? Every time they be like, you smell so good. I.

[Dre Nicole]

That's my number one compliment. So people are always like, oh my God, what do you got on? And then they be saying it's too sexual. And I be like, hold on, hold on now.

[Lex P]

So listen, this. I'm gonna tell you the next step.

[Dre Nicole]

You said that. A little too excited.

[Lex P]

The third wash. Dick jumped. The third wash is always the perfume stuff. So my third wash, I go in with my La Vie Est Belle body wash. Cause that's just for smell good. I get out. It depends how much time I have. But I air dry. I air dry. So what I do is I put on my Delina body oil while I'm still wet. I'm still wet. Okay. I let that lock in. I let that lock in. So I'm still a little greasy. Then I go in with my powder, my Estee Lauder powder.

[Dre Nicole]

On your whole body.

[Lex P]

I do behind the knees. I do in my crease. I do in my little thigh crease right here.

[Dre Nicole]

Behind the knees.

[Lex P]

Behind the neck. Yeah, I do it right here. And I do under my arms.

[Dre Nicole]

And let's talk about something real quick. You cannot be a bad bitch if you stank behind the earth.

[Lex P]

What? Who stank behind the camera?

[C]

That's crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

Mo, do you wash behind your ears?

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

Every time.

[Lex P]

Every time.

[Dre Nicole]

I was just shaking.

[Lex P]

Well, you know, I got to do.

[Dre Nicole]

Because I like to dig in there too. Yeah, I'll be using. I use Q tips. They say you're not supposed to use them. I still use them hoes.

[Lex P]

Old school.

[Dre Nicole]

I like to make sure I get sitting there for real.

[Lex P]

I got to hear this.

[Dre Nicole]

I agree.

[Lex P]

Hey, hey. I like to hear everything.

[Dre Nicole]

I like to hear something.

[Lex P]

Clean it up.

[Dre Nicole]

So. Period. So. Exactly. But people don't be washing. That's the thing. Stinking behind your ears and your navel stinking.

[Lex P]

Well, I used to have an Audi.

[Dre Nicole]

Are we too grown to say. If we say navel, people be saying belly button navel.

[Lex P]

Well, I've always had an outie growing up. But when I had my. What's it called? Remember? What was that surgery had that I had.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, if it's out, it can't sting.

[Lex P]

I Know, but that's what I'm saying. What was the surgery I had when my belly button was pushing out?

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, hernia.

[Lex P]

Hernia. I had a hernia surgery. So now I have an innie. But it ain't deep in there. My innie not.

[Dre Nicole]

But when it was out, it couldn't stain.

[Lex P]

It couldn't stain.

[Dre Nicole]

Cause you could just rub it. Yeah, but when it's in there, you gotta.

[Lex P]

You gotta dig in there.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

You know, some people be having deep belly buttons. Have you seen that?

[Dre Nicole]

I think mine kinda deep.

[Lex P]

Yours is kinda deep. I remember when I discovered that about you because I thought.

[Dre Nicole]

How did you discover that?

[Lex P]

Because we were laying in bed one time and I think I poked it and you got mad at me.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I could see that. I be getting mad at you about a lot of stuff. Cause you just be doing dumb shit.

[Lex P]

I just thought that deep belly buttons were for thicker people.

[Dre Nicole]

I am thick.

[Lex P]

No, I'm talking about. I don't wanna say the F word.

[Dre Nicole]

What F word? Oh, okay.

[Lex P]

But I'm saying. But usually. So when I figured out that you had a naturally a deep diving pool in that motherfucker, I was like, I have never seen a thin person with a deep belly button like that.

[Dre Nicole]

No. When it's hot outside, if I'm like laying by the pool and I'm sweating, it's a pool right there.

[Lex P]

Pool full of liquor. And we d.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh.

[Lex P]

So, yeah. So after I do all that, then my last step is my spray. And I always wear. Ooh, body teeth. I always wear.

[Dre Nicole]

We look. Look at my legs. We look good. Okay.

[Lex P]

So my last spray is my perfume, My La Belle. So if y' all are just getting out of the shower and just drying off. Lotion spray. People are not talking about. You want your scent to last.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm telling y' all, when Lex we been talking about now. We've been talking about it for 10 minutes. Cause when she did that, I said.

[Lex P]

And I've been on set at this point. I've been here since. What time is it now? What time is it, Shay? It's 4:48. When I got out, I got out the shower at 10am so this is. This is from 10am this is a 10am spray down.

[Dre Nicole]

I know. I know it.

[Lex P]

I'm trying to put the girl.

[Dre Nicole]

Nobody could ever say my queen was ever.

[Lex P]

I mean, no, somebody probably could. No, I ain't gonna hold you. Somebody could probably stand. I'm not gonna lie. One thing.

[Dre Nicole]

You've never been musty.

[Lex P]

I've never been musty. But what I'm saying is, like, when I would leave the gym sometimes, not that I'm musty, but I don't smell fresh.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't think anybody smells fresh when they leave the gym. But to me, the gym don't count.

[Lex P]

Okay?

[Dre Nicole]

Like, that's not fair to judge somebody hygiene off of when they leave the gym.

[Lex P]

Okay, that's fair. Cause that's when.

[Dre Nicole]

That's when it's okay to be funky. Especially if you was putting that work in.

[Lex P]

I be putting that work in.

[Dre Nicole]

You gonna stank a little. You gonna have that stank on you.

[Lex P]

You remember when David Banner said, why.

[Dre Nicole]

You think Andre 3000 named that album?

[Lex P]

Then what stank on you? Remember when?

[Dre Nicole]

T know.

[Lex P]

Remember when? No, David Banner knows. He said bringing his sweaty. Cause I love it when it's funky.

[Dre Nicole]

Which is still concerning to me to this day. We talking about things I'm concerned about. But wait, he said, because why do you love it when it's funky?

[Lex P]

He said, let me see while it's funky, it's the fact that he wants you to play with your monkey, Wallace.

[Dre Nicole]

But that's what I be saying. Nobody can convince me. That's why when I was seeing the tweets about sinners, they was like, I know it was funky in there. I know it was too. That's when the room stained but now.

[Lex P]

Pale, pale moon Pale, pale moon.

[Dre Nicole]

But no for real, though somebody tell me hey in your arms tonight but no for real. Like, we done seen this movie too damn much. Cause I seen that shit twice. And that's how you know the shit was good. Cause I never gonna see a movie more than once, I be falling asleep.

[Lex P]

So you saying Parleen Pussy was funky?

[Dre Nicole]

No, I'm not talking about Parleen. I'm saying in general, that's where to the room stank. Like, that's the era that it came from. Cause they was. Do you see how sweaty they was.

[Lex P]

In that whole movie?

[Dre Nicole]

It wasn't no air conditioner in sight, no fan in sight.

[C]

Where them fans at?

[Lex P]

Not there. And you know when men get hot? You know when men get hot, they balls start to hang more.

[Dre Nicole]

They do?

[Lex P]

Yeah. So when men get hot, they balls hang extra long. Is this true? When they cold, they be somebody Research department. When men. No, I'm telling you, when men are cold, their balls are like. They're so tight to their body. When niggas be hot, them balls be long. I know it is. I didn't need you to read it. I didn't need you to read It I know what my nigga balls do. And they be hanging low when he hot and when he cold. I can tell cause they be cute.

[Dre Nicole]

Do your balls hang low? Do they walk?

[Lex P]

So I know in the juke joint, in that juke joint, them balls was hanging low. Them balls was hanging low, bitch.

[Dre Nicole]

I just feel like it was stanking in there back then. But to me, in 2025, it should never stank in there.

[Lex P]

It should never stank, but it's still stanking there. It's stanking there.

[Dre Nicole]

In where?

[Lex P]

In there.

[Dre Nicole]

What is in there?

[Lex P]

You know, Wait in there.

[Dre Nicole]

Wait in there. That's why when you said that, I was like, please. But no, for real, though. Like in 2025. Wash. Think you got booty.

[Lex P]

I'm not lying.

[Dre Nicole]

You got Estee lauder powder.

[Lex P]

Don't care. Don't care.

[Dre Nicole]

You got.

[Lex P]

Let me tell you, when I.

[Dre Nicole]

Millions of bath soaps.

[Lex P]

When I used to. I hate to say this, but when I used to work in the club and I used to walk in the women's bathroom, it smelled like what Latto said that you left your pussy in the bathroom. Y' all, y' all, please, first of all, let me teach you how to watch your coochie real quick.

[Dre Nicole]

Legs. This is not a high end episode. We ain't even gotten into the first topic.

[Lex P]

We finna get into it. We finna get into it. Cause we finna go. We finna wrap this shit up.

[Dre Nicole]

Nah, we ain't even did topic number one.

[Lex P]

That's all right. We gonna get to one of them. Hell, get in that shower and stop putting everything down there. Use a wash that's specifically for your coochie and put it in your hand and get in them folds. This is how your fingers should look. This is for the middle part and this is for the side parts. Get in there like that.

[Dre Nicole]

You see how I mean, honestly, that be my favorite part of showering. It be a little surprise. Oh, brother, this guy stinks. No, it don't, actually. And that's why, because I know how to wash it.

[Lex P]

But why are you. It's supposed to be a rub down, not a rub down.

[Dre Nicole]

I be rubbing it.

[Lex P]

But I'm saying you get in there with them.

[Dre Nicole]

Shady.

[Lex P]

You supposed to wash with your hands. The accuchi. And it's supposed to be a wash. What. What wash you use down there?

[Dre Nicole]

The salt. XO wash. I've been using that for a few years.

[Lex P]

Okay, okay. That's a good one. What's the old school one in the pink bottle? I got the big pink bottle. You know what I'm talking about. What's that brand? You don't wash your coochie. Shay said. I don't know. No, not summer's eve.

[Dre Nicole]

Summer's Eve.

[Lex P]

Not good for the coochie, honey pot. God damn it.

[Dre Nicole]

Bitch. We don't know. Cause you too damn old school.

[Lex P]

What the hell are you? It's the old school vaginal wash. I don't know. But anyways, that's the one I use.

[Dre Nicole]

In a pink bottle.

[Lex P]

It's in a pink bottle. It's the old. It's like the first brand.

[C]

Vagisil.

[Lex P]

Vagisil. Oh yeah, I use Vagisil wash. Gynecologist approved. That's what the bottles say. And when I tell y' all, my coochie always smell like the ocean, but not which Wayne.

[Dre Nicole]

The Gulf of Mexico.

[Lex P]

Let me say that this is pretty fishy.

[Dre Nicole]

The Gulf of Mexico be kind of question.

[Lex P]

Let me bring it back. My coochie.

[Dre Nicole]

And it's brown seed. It's all type of shit in there. They had a flesh eating bacteria at one point.

[Lex P]

Let me say. Let me do that again. My coochie always smell like water. Fiji. Fiji.

[Dre Nicole]

Ms. Awafina. You the real Ms. Awkwafina.

[Lex P]

And you better ask about me. Cause they know. They know. They know.

[Dre Nicole]

Who should I ask?

[Lex P]

The people that evil thick I was talking about on Roy and Miles show. Ask him.

[Dre Nicole]

I wouldn't ask him thing. I wouldn't ask him a goddamn thing. And he better not ask me for shoes.

[Lex P]

But yes, y' all please wash your coochie with a different product. Honey pot salt XO that you use veggies.

[Dre Nicole]

And the salt XO is black owned.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Okay. So I'm gonna start buying that.

[Dre Nicole]

It's black owned. It's so good. And it's like when you put it on, it is. It makes it juicy. It do. Because when you put it down there, it. It's. It's kind of like. Y' all remember Dr. Miracles? It's Dr. Miracles for your coochie.

[Lex P]

Oh, we used to love it.

[Dre Nicole]

Give you that tingling feeling, but down there. And then they also have an erotic. An erotica one that you use before you have sex. But I don't really, you know, need that.

[Lex P]

Okay. But anyways.

[Dre Nicole]

But I do like it though. It gives you a good feeling. But I guess it's supposed to help if you don't naturally put Produce the juices.

[Lex P]

Yeah, a lot of people don't naturally. And I think that's okay too. We don't need to be embarrassed about that. Some people don't naturally produce them juices. So if you need a little help.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not embarrassed cuz it's not me. But I don't think that nobody should be embarrassed about it.

[Lex P]

Just the only embarrassing thing is if you stank. So I hope y' all learned something today. Wash your cushy with your hands. Stop using towels and rags and different things down there. Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Get rid of that cottage cheese.

[Lex P]

Do you like cottage cheese? I love cottage cheese, actually. So I hate when people talk about cottage cheese in that manner, but that's.

[Dre Nicole]

What it be looking like.

[Lex P]

Cottage cheese is very tasty. It's high in protein. It can help a lot of.

[Dre Nicole]

I like cottage cheese. I put it on my toes.

[Lex P]

You can put it in a lot of things. Some people put it on their peaches.

[Dre Nicole]

My mom used to eat it like that.

[Lex P]

You eat it sweet or savory with cottage cheese.

[Dre Nicole]

My mom used to eat it like that growing up. But so now I make a avocado toast and I mean a co cheese avocado sauce. So I put the avocado spread, cottage cheese, the chili oil, the garlic chili oil. And then I put a little hot. Honey, come on now. You need to try it.

[Lex P]

So when I posted my cheat meal yesterday, I had made some pasta with some salmon. They said, if this is your cheat meal, what do you usually eat? I said, y' all pasta is a cheat meal.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Did you use. What is it called? Chickpea pasta?

[Lex P]

No, I didn't. That's why I said it was a cheat meal. I was cheat. I went all the way.

[Dre Nicole]

You didn't send me none.

[Lex P]

I didn't. I only made, you know, I cook for one. Or sometimes if I cook, you know, I'm cooking. I cook for whoever in the house at the time. You should have showed up. You would have got you a plate.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, how did I know you was cooking if you didn't tell me?

[Lex P]

You better call sometimes. You shouldn't.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't feel like you should call people when they cooking. I feel like they should call you. You're cooking.

[Lex P]

I cook all the time, so you.

[Dre Nicole]

Should be like, hey, Dre, I cooked.

[Lex P]

No, you live next door.

[Dre Nicole]

Do you want to plate?

[Lex P]

I'll plate next time. I will. Cause that salmon was fired. Okay, all right, let's get on. See, speaking of passive aggressive aggressiveness in relationships.

[Dre Nicole]

That was real aggressive.

[Lex P]

That was passive.

[Dre Nicole]

It wasn't passive. Cause I said that's okay.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that's passive. Cause it's not okay. It's really not okay. But you was saying it was okay.

[C]

Let's.

[Lex P]

Is that passive aggressive?

[Dre Nicole]

If I'm being honest, it really is okay. Because every time I see that you cooked, if I cared that much, I would say something.

[Lex P]

But it was an example of passive aggressiveness.

[Dre Nicole]

It wasn't, though, because I was kidding.

[Lex P]

You were kidding, but I was giving you an example. I know you were.

[Dre Nicole]

So you wasn't giving an example.

[Lex P]

But if people didn't know you, if.

[Dre Nicole]

This is their first time, they don't know me. That's why they probably think I'm being serious. They probably gonna be like, no, Drea, Dre was real. That bitch. She don't like you. No way.

[Lex P]

And then I'm. I'm about to make me a burner and start agreeing with y' all and really cause chaos.

[Dre Nicole]

And I'm about to make me one, too, and start saying the opposite and causing chaos. This show is sponsored by Bitter Help.

[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

Your girl Dre Nicole.

[Lex P]

And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. So we have a brand new show dropping y' all on Patreon and is going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella Noche, where the hell could you go?

[Lex P]

If you can't go to Bella Noche, where the hell can you go?

[Dre Nicole]

We going to be doing talk to me chit chat with me. We going to be spilling a little tea.

[Lex P]

Oh, my God. No, you didn't.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, my God. Everything y' all been wanting to see, we going to be doing it right here on Patreon.

[Lex P]

Yes. Y' all ask us for so much. Well, we f to give it to y' all every single Monday. And it's going to be a time y' all know Poor mod has grown into its own little entity where we going to have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y' all tune in September 2nd. It's going down.

[Dre Nicole]

Stay tuned.

[Lex P]

I'm fucking weak. Okay, so the first topic today, we're gonna talk about passive aggressiveness in relationships. Like, you know, are you more of a I'm gonna give you the silent treatment or I'm setting a boundary? Are you being distant to protect your peace or are you doing this to punish your partner? Like, what. How do you look at passive aggressiveness? Is it like, am I being passive aggressive or am I just protecting my peace?

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not a big punisher. I don't believe in doing it.

[Lex P]

Who is? Oh, big pun. That's what I was thinking about.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

You're not a big punisher.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not. I'm not.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

I. I don't even give a so much that I will just stop talking to you.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

I think that's probably the worst thing about me, if I could say, probably my worst trait as a friend, as a partner, it's probably that I won't have a conversation with you about and just stop with you. Even if we still cool, I'll distance myself from you. Like, we still cool, but we probably just don't talk as much. We probably just don't deal with each other as much. That's my jam. So I don't believe in passive aggressiveness because I'm also very vocal. So if I'm having a issue in the beginning stages, you know the issue. Imma let you know the issue if you don't care to change it. And you keep doing the same thing. It's. To me, it's nothing to talk about because I saw a clip from Tyler Perry the other day.

[Lex P]

My. My Cinema king Madea's.

[Dre Nicole]

I saw a clip from Tyler Perry the other day, he said, my life got exponentially better when I started letting people be who they are and I stopped having expectations. And I think that that is the point that I'm. I'm almost there. I'm not gonna say I'm fully there, but I'm almost there to, like, where. When it come to people, I'm really cool with just letting you be who you are because you're showing up as you, and that's okay. It don't meet my standard, and that's okay, too. So I just don't deal with you in that capacity anymore because who you are does not meet the standard of what I need as a partner, as a friend, whatever. So, yeah, so, you know, I have to make the choice because you're not showing up as who I need you to be. Do I want to keep you in my life? Do I want to get rid of you? Or do I want to deal with you accordingly? And those are the three areas that I put people in in my life. It's either I'm gonna cut you off. Ain't no dealing with you. I'm gonna still deal with you, or I' ma deal with you accordingly and put you in a certain box. And I think that very, very great at putting people in boxes and them not knowing that they're in a box because you. They also don't necessarily need to know. I think that's a beautiful thing of knowing how to not be passive aggressive, because it's like you in a box and you don't even know it.

[Lex P]

So I think for me, I'm passive aggressive, but it's until I'm ready to talk. So I know in my relationship that's something that I struggle with. I'll be like, oh, I'm fine. And I'm not. But I'm not ready to talk about it right now. So I need to work on saying I'm not okay right now. But I'm also not ready to talk about it right now because that's something I've been working on. Y' all know I'm still in therapy, but I am very passive aggressive just because I.

[Dre Nicole]

That's a fact.

[Lex P]

I'm trying to learn how to get another shot. I'm trying to learn how to, like, pick my battles wisely, but also still speak on it without it being, like, a conflict. You know what I'm saying? So I think with me, it's like, I'll say I'm fine knowing I'm not, but then I wanna address it Later, But I just need time to address it. So I think with my passive aggressive, in that moment, I need to say, hey. Instead of saying, I'm fine, I need to say, hey, you know what? I'm not okay. But I'm also not ready to talk about it right now. And that's something that I have been practicing. I actually have been doing an exercise, like I said, with my therapist, of being like, you know what? It's okay to create boundaries. Hey, no, I'm not okay. And I do wanna talk about it, but can we talk about it at a later state, at a later date when I am in more of a, you know, mind frame of receiving this information, you know what I'm saying? Because I think a lot of times when people are passive aggressive, they're doing it to kind of. I don't wanna say protect their piece, but they're doing it because it's kinda like they're shutting down. It's like a shutdown moment.

[Dre Nicole]

From my personal experience with people that are passive aggressive, I also think they do it to get a reaction. Like, I think they be wanting to make like, okay, I'm gonna be this way. Cause I'm gonna see if he's gonna make this person react this way. And then if it don't, then.

[Lex P]

Then they start acting out now.

[Dre Nicole]

Or then they want to talk, like. Or then they want to have a conversation. But it's like, nah, because I already seen what you said on Twitter or I already already seen what you said on what you posted on Instagram. So it's like, why do I want to talk to you now? But I think people who are passive aggressive, they do that to try to garner a reaction when in reality, to me, I don't know. And this is not towards you.

[Lex P]

No, no, I know because I do that because I'm shutting down.

[Dre Nicole]

This is not towards.

[Lex P]

A lot of people do that.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. This is not towards you specifically, but I always have wondered, like. Like, why do people be. I just don't really understand being passive aggressive versus just telling people how you feel outright. Like, is it like a fear thing? You don't know how they're gonna react. You're afraid that, like, if you say the wrong thing, they may not talk to you anymore, or it might ruin the relationship or the bond. Like, what's the reason for being passive aggressive?

[Lex P]

So for me, like I said, in that moment, I'm shutting down and I'm breaking down and I don't want to talk about it right now. So I'm just Like, let's just keep the cool for the moment, and we can talk about it later. Now, what you're talking about, I see that, and I have people that do that to me as well. Like, oh, no, I'm cool. No. Oh, you good. No, you're good. You're mad, and you're trying to get me to react. So when I see people doing that when I'm being passive aggressive, I'm not looking for a reaction. No, please. Like, I'm fine right now. We can talk about this later. I'm not looking for a reaction because it's gonna actually make it worse. So for me, when people do that, now, that crosses from being passive aggressive to also being manipulative, because now you're trying to make somebody react, get something out of them that you couldn't get out of them without just having a regular conversation. You know what I'm saying? So I think what you're saying is 100% valid, because most of the time, I will honestly say 90% of the time when people are being passive aggressive, they're doing what you're saying. They're trying to get a reaction out of people. With me, I'm literally like, I'm breaking down. I don't want to. I literally don't want to talk. I don't want you to react. So, like I said, for me, I think it's just learning how to communicate better. And that's something I've always prided myself on, but something that I thought I was great at, but I'm not as good at it as I thought. So I think it's all about accountability and awareness, too. Yeah. Like, I'm aware that I do that people who are passive aggressive, they will lie and be like, I wasn't being passive aggressive. I was fine. I really was. Okay. I didn't give a. Yes, you did. Cap.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

You care. You mad?

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. I mean, I don't know. I feel like you could tell. I think it's just, like, indicators. Like, you know, I mean, if I'm being completely honest, I hear you, but I think anybody that's being passive aggressive care. Oh, you don't not care. Like, you're. You care. You don't know how to express yourself, so you're exacting yourself in a passively aggressive way because you don't know how to really vocalize your real feelings. So you're going in a roundabout way of trying to make it seem like, oh, I'm cool. I'm okay. I don't think that you don't it's no way to be passive aggressive and not really care.

[Lex P]

You're being passive aggressive because you care. Yeah. My mind, I'm trying to gather my thoughts. I'm shutting down. I'm hurt for whatever it is. I'm hurt. I wanna. I don't know what to say. I'm shocked, whatever it is, that I.

[Dre Nicole]

So don't say nothing versus being passive aggressive.

[Lex P]

No, but that's what I'm saying. Cause it'd be if somebody asked me, what's wrong? You good? Okay. I'm fine. I don't wanna talk about it.

[Dre Nicole]

But I don't think that's passive aggressive.

[Lex P]

That is passive aggressiveness. It's when you say you're fine when you're not.

[Dre Nicole]

But to me, that's not. I guess when I think of passive aggressiveness, I think of making slurs, making comments. Like, if some. You and somebody get into it, right? And then they get on Twitter and they tweet some about, like, a situation that's similar to what y' all just had, and then you say something to them about it, and they like, oh, no.

[Lex P]

Oh, that wasn't about you.

[Dre Nicole]

To me, somebody's. If I ask Ty if you're okay, if I asked you, are you okay? And you just like, oh, no, I'm fine. I don't receive that as a. Because what's aggressive about that? What's passive aggressive about that? To me, passive aggressiveness is more when people try to say I'm cool, and then their actions or reactions say otherwise. Well, I think it's very you telling me that you good. But then I'm getting on the Internet and I'm like, bitch, I think you subbing me.

[Lex P]

Right?

[Dre Nicole]

But this post is about me. This tweet is about me. You said something that has to do with what I just said or what me and you just went through, but you telling me that you good? We got into this an hour ago. This Tweet is from 10 minutes ago.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

But you gotta think of passive aggressive.

[Lex P]

Passive aggressive outside of, like, social media in real life.

[Dre Nicole]

So you think somebody just.

[Lex P]

If I could be like, if I'm saying I'm fine, but look at my body language. Look at the way I'm acting and the way. You know what I'm saying. So if I say Draya, are you okay? And you like, I'm fine, but you kind of just, like, maybe sitting in the corner or you're not talking or you're not. So I think there's different ways to show passive Aggressiveness. So you're not necessarily being like, like I said, outside of the Internet. In a real life situation, if I say I'm fine, but I'm not being my normal bubbly self, that's being passive aggressive, that's fine.

[Dre Nicole]

But then I also think too it be more emotional manipulation too. Like communication, withholding, sex, withholding, like different things. You're saying you're cool, but like you're not communicating with me like you normally do. You don't want to have sex with me. It's a distance in a household. I always have sex with you, you know, that's okay.

[Lex P]

Okay, well.

[Dre Nicole]

But affection, all of these things. Like, to me that's more of passive aggressive behavior. I just don't think somebody telling me they fine. Because I look at it if some. Oh yeah, let's take a shot. I look at it like if you tell me that you're okay, even if I know that you're not okay, I don't look at that as passive aggressiveness. I look at that more as you not wanting to talk about it right now. Like, maybe you gotta find, maybe you gotta find your mojo. Maybe you gotta find when you ready be in the headspace to have the conversation with me. Because I feel like it's things that you've been through where I've asked you, are you okay? And you was like, oh, I'm. I'm good friend, I don't want to talk about it. And then I talked to you two days later and you was ready to let me know what was going on. And it doesn't. And it's. And it, and it has been things that hasn't had anything to do with me. It's been personal things. But like at that moment you didn't want to talk about it. Now two days later, I'm in a different space. I done had time to think, reflect. I know how I want to let you know what's going on. So okay, friend, this is what's going on. I don't look at that as passive.

[Lex P]

Well, the reason it is because. And I'll tell you the difference between that. If I. If you ask me if I'm fine and I say I'm fine and I'm really not, and then two days later you find out it has nothing to do with you. I'm not being passive aggressive towards you. Cause it had nothing to do with you. If you ask me if I'm fine and I'm not fine and it has something to do with you, I'm being passive. Aggressive. That's the definition of it.

[Dre Nicole]

But if your body language and stuff is not giving that. Nobody.

[Lex P]

It's still going on. It's still.

[Dre Nicole]

I hear you, but nobody can think you're being passive aggressive if they don't know. You get what I'm saying?

[Lex P]

I get what you're saying. I get what you're saying.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, if you like, oh, I'm cool, and then you seem like you cool versus I'm cool.

[Lex P]

I get what you're saying.

[Dre Nicole]

That's passive aggressive. Right.

[Lex P]

But if I'm. If I'm not talking, if I'm not saying what it is, I'm just. I'm being passive. I'm not saying. The issue is when you start withholding things. Sex, you not calling me.

[Dre Nicole]

That's why I'm being weird.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Now, once you start doing that. Now, I will say this with my passive aggressiveness. I don't do that. That I don't be like, oh, well, I'm not calling her. I'm not talking to her. I just do it whenever I'm ready. Or if, like, me and my man are into it. I'm definitely not withholding no sex.

[Dre Nicole]

I ain't even trying to be funny. Go ahead.

[Lex P]

No, no, I was done.

[Dre Nicole]

Are you? Were you?

[Lex P]

Yeah. Go ahead.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay. I'm not even trying to be funny. Nobody cannot not talk to me, cuz I'm going just be like, okay.

[Lex P]

Oh, I know, because you be not giving a.

[Dre Nicole]

You could just not. I mean, we could just not talk, man.

[Lex P]

It be soft.

[Dre Nicole]

It's just up to you if we reconcile. Cause I just. Especially if I'm not in the wrong.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that's what I was about to say. When you not, like, when you are in the wrong, I was gonna say you definitely be like, okay. But when you feel like you're 100% not in the wrong, you be like, fuck it. I don't give a fuck. We don't have to talk then, bitch.

[Dre Nicole]

I could burn at the stakes, honestly. I'm just saying.

[Lex P]

Let's take this off.

[Dre Nicole]

It's the facts. Can I. But Todd. Yes. I'm gonna ask you, Ty, what do you think?

[C]

So it's kind of both. It's what both of y' all are saying. The definition, or passive aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative emotions through subtle acts of resistance, defiance, or neglect. And then when they go into, like, different signs of passive aggressiveness. What you were saying as far as, like. Like, okay, nice. Nice of you to finally show up. Like, that's being kind of passive aggressive. But for what you were saying, silent treatment or evading issues is also another sign of passive aggressiveness. Okay, so I think it's just like your point where you were saying it's about like kind of your tone and how you saying like, I'm fine like that is a little more. Making it more passive aggressive.

[Lex P]

Okay, I see what you're saying and.

[C]

I agree with you, Lex. I'm the same way. Like, I shut down.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[C]

I just need my time. I'm not trying to be passive aggressive, but I'm non confrontational.

[Lex P]

Right.

[C]

And I don't want to create a bigger issue without me being able to like articulate my thoughts and what I want to say. Because I really want you to understand how I feel. But I'm so pissed off in that moment or hurt or emotional that I can't really articulate that in that moment. I kind of lean more towards how Lex puts it out there.

[Dre Nicole]

Maybe I need to be more like that. Cause I'm gonna put it out, bitch.

[Lex P]

That's what it is.

[Dre Nicole]

Let's put it on the flip. Let's put it on the flow. This is how I feel right now. Bitch, you got me fucked up.

[Lex P]

You know what? No, no, no. But I will say one thing that I've loved about your growth too, is that you have learned to approach situations a lot more delicately than you used to. So now it's more what's delicacy?

[Dre Nicole]

What that sound like a meal?

[C]

Fine cuisine.

[Lex P]

Girl, please, that Taurus and you be jumping out. Tauruses love a good meal. No, but I will say like, versus our relationship when we first became friends, versus now, like, you're so much more easier to talk.

[Dre Nicole]

Am I delicate now?

[Lex P]

You are. Like, I don't mind bringing like if I be like drea friend. Like, I don't mind saying that now. In the beginning I used to be like, I'm just not even gonna say nothing because I know how she finna react and I know how she finna do.

[Dre Nicole]

Like how would I used to react in the past?

[Lex P]

So in the past, if I would be like, I'm trying to think of.

[Dre Nicole]

An example, like with a man or something.

[Lex P]

No.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, understand it with me.

[Lex P]

Let's just use a man, for example. This is not true. This is not real.

[Dre Nicole]

But that's what I'm saying. Let's use a more true example. Cause I feel like I've always been understanding about like.

[Lex P]

Okay, okay, I'll say something like about. Let's say like about you being late or something. I feel like when we first became friends, I'm like, friend, come on now. Like you need to work on your time. Like you be late. You be like, well Lex, I don't care. Like if I'm not. I'm trying. I got shit to do. I be like, so I'm gonna get here when I get here. So I'm here now though. That's how you used to be. Now I be like friend, you be like. You be like, I'm sorry friend. I know, I'm trying, I'm working on it. I'm running behind. Like that's how more you be like more receiving to like things that if somebody has a problem, you used to be like if somebody approached you with a problem, you would be very aggressive about it and you wouldn't just take it and receive. Cause ho.

[Dre Nicole]

How dare you have a problem with me. But now bitch, you have a problem with the queen.

[Lex P]

I fucking weak.

[Dre Nicole]

Excuse me. But now, well I'll say this too. With legs. That was a terrible example.

[Lex P]

Well we were just using anything.

[Dre Nicole]

Only because you always fucking legs.

[Lex P]

Not no more. Then it would be like not no.

[Dre Nicole]

More Lex bitch, you got here five minutes ago and you telling me that I'm late. Cause you was here five minutes earlier or 10 minutes earlier, you still wasn't here at 1:00 clock. That was the thing, the old thing.

[Lex P]

Now I be. I'm an on time queen now. But I was just using that for an example. We just using for example. But like I said for anything I feel like you're more still.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm gonna sip my drinks today.

[C]

Passive aggressive.

[Lex P]

We were just.

[Dre Nicole]

It's not, you know, I'm trying to move on.

[Lex P]

We was just using a random example. But like I said, even if it was like a man like back in the day, you probably would be more. But now you be like I hear you friend. You're just more like receptive of things and you understand what people are saying. Like you're not so like I don't understand you be more so like I see where you're coming from because the.

[Dre Nicole]

Thing about it, right? And I really feel like people I. I hope this gives people more of an insight to me because I feel like I've said this before on poor minds. It's not even that I don't be trying to be receptive to what people be going through. I just be wanting better for people. Like sometimes when people tell me certain stuff, I'd be like, what the. Why are you dealing with it? Why are you putting up with it. Why are you leaving yourself in that situation? And I don't want it to ever come off judgy. I just be wanting more for people that I care about. But I think that people take it in a way of, like, you be feeling like, oh, you. It could never be you. It could never. And respectfully, I hope this doesn't sound bad, but, like, in certain situations, I do be feeling like it could never be me because I'm not gonna deal with it.

[Lex P]

But I think that's also okay because different people want different things out of life, and that's fine.

[Dre Nicole]

But I go based off of, to be fair, what people tell me that they want. If we're talking about people that I'm close to.

[Lex P]

Right, right.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm also going based off of what you telling me you want. The type of relationship you say you want, the type of life you say you want, and it's a nigga or this situation that you putting yourself in is not conducive to what you're saying you want. So then if you're coming to me complaining to me all the time about it, the first few times, I'm gonna be like, okay, okay. But then after that, it'd be like, please. And then I also hate when people come to me telling me things about myself that they also do. So it's kind of like you can't come to me telling me I'm late. When you be late, you just 10 minutes earlier, if that makes sense.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

No, I feel like that's why it would be different if you was getting there at 12:45, and then you like, okay, you pulled up at 115. You got there at 105. We were supposed to be there at 1. Cool. So I think more so that's where. When I was younger, the aggressiveness. The aggressiveness came from. As I'm older, it's just more so kind of like, okay, I'm in my okay era. People got it.

[C]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, that's where to be sensing. I'm not arguing with you. Yeah, it's cool. It is what it is.

[C]

Oh, that was a good topic, though.

[Dre Nicole]

It was. It was.

[C]

All right, so this one. I'm gonna call this one a sinner's spirit, because I am obsessed with sinners. Seen it multiple times. I know a lot of us have mbj.

[Dre Nicole]

Hey.

[C]

Okay, so this one, you can use any spirit of choice. We have a grapefruit, basil shrub, and it's also, like, a tonic too, so it's a little bit more tart. A Little bit citrus in there. And then we have a little bit of lemon juice, like a splash of lemon juice. We added a little bit of sweetener, like some agave. And then we topped it off with the rose and cactus sparkling water. And then we're garnishing it with a dehydrated grapefruit. And then just a little bit of mint sprig, just to kind of make it cute, colorful, and perfect for the spritzy spring and summer that is approaching.

[Lex P]

This is tasty.

[Dre Nicole]

Like it.

[Lex P]

And we gonna shout out Michael B. Jordan until he comes Sit his ass.

[C]

You know it. Every episode.

[Lex P]

Let's go. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

God said, that's her, man.

[C]

Come on.

[Lex P]

And Ms. Tina is on a little tour, too. Ms. Tina, we don't know who who on your team or how we can get in contact, but come sit on the couch.

[Dre Nicole]

We need you on the couch.

[Lex P]

Look, she on everybody couch talk. Come talk to us. Cause we gotta talk about this. What's up, y' all?

[Dre Nicole]

It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre and Nicole.

[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. I'm Drea Nicole, and I'M Lex P. And together we are travel queens from.

[Lex P]

Charleston to the streets of Cartagena. We're eating good. That's up on Helmet.

[Dre Nicole]

Mm. Drinking good Cheers.

[Lex P]

And experiencing the beauty of different cultures. It's gonna be fun. We're taking me to incredible destinations with a special focus on The Black Experience.

[Dre Nicole]

Two queens, one globe. Endless possibilities. Travel, travel queens. Series premiere Wednesday, April 23rd at 8 on BET. Can I ask a question, though, before we get into the next topic? Do y' all think directiveness is a bad thing, though? Because I feel like me being very directed, like, me being very direct and blunt is also perceived as a bad thing sometimes.

[Lex P]

I don't think it's a bad thing. I just think it depends on how the person that you're talking to can perceive it. I don't think nothing is wrong with being direct if you're being honest. Honesty is never a bad thing.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I agree.

[Lex P]

I think that people who. People who don't like directiveness are people who can't handle real shit. That's in my opinion, Like, I think that people who are direct, they're saying how they feel. How can you get mad at somebody for being honest about their feelings?

[Dre Nicole]

I agree, but do you think it's like. I think it's levels to be indirect, though. Like, I think you could still be. I think you could still be the blunt, direct person, but still be careful about not hurting somebody feelings. And I think I try to do that. Like, I think it's. I don't ever try to say things to people to go for the jugular. Like, I don't never want to, like, hurt your feelings, but I'm gonna let you know how I feel and I'm gonna tell you what the real shit is versus. Sometimes I think people try to use that as a cape of like, oh, I'm blunt, I'm direct, but then you mean as. And you saying rude, hurtful all the time to your friends or to your family members that you care about. But you put the cape on of bluntness and being direct. You get what I'm saying?

[Lex P]

I hate people like that, first of all. Cause I always say it's not about what you say, it's how you say it. I don't want no mean ass friend. I'm sorry. I don't need. I'm not saying sugarcoat shit, but I don't need you being like, It's a difference between, like, if I got something tacky on, is it Lex, you look fucking awful.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Like, what the fuck? Why Would you wear that versus somebody being like, ooh, Lex, this don't compliment you as well. Did you try on or maybe. Oh, remember that Spanx we had bought the other day? It's a difference on how you say shit. I don't like that mean shit. Because I don't talk to people like that. So don't talk to me like that.

[Dre Nicole]

Right.

[Lex P]

I definitely believe in being direct, but it's all about how you say it to people. Like, I have friends from all different walks of life, like you, Lauren, Killa, Belen, and my sister are all so different. But I'm very direct with each one of you in the same way when I talk to y' all because it's easy to be nice, but also tell somebody how you. And it's easy just to be understanding because sometimes you gotta understand why this person made this decision to put that dress on. Maybe they thought that they felt sexy in it. Okay, well, let's spruce it up a little bit. Or let's let it. If you wanna wear this dress so bad, you got some spank, friend. You got a little spank. You know what I'm saying? It's just a way to say things. So. I've never been that friend. I hate people who disguise being blunt with being a. I don't like people. I don't like rude people. Keep that shit away from me and my family.

[Dre Nicole]

I agree. I agree. I don't like that either. No, I don't like that either. But I asked that because I think sometimes people try to feel like that's how I be being, but I don't. I feel like I just be saying how I feel.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I think sometimes when people.

[Dre Nicole]

And people don't like it. Like, sometimes people don't like Unnie Misty.

[Lex P]

Well, I think sometimes I think people don't understand you or get your tone of things. They don't understand. Like, it don't be that deep. But people who don't know you, they be like, oh, my God, Dre is a. They don't not a but. They just be like, why is she like this?

[Dre Nicole]

Well, you not. But you're not wrong. You're not wrong. People do be thinking that. I think also what make it worse is that I don't really give a. If I'm being honest.

[Lex P]

But that's not gonna be like, look at her. But I don't.

[Dre Nicole]

But. But to be fair, and. And Ty maybe let. Let me let Ty chime in on these because she be here with us. She's been with us for what, two. Two years now?

[Lex P]

Yeah, two and a half.

[Dre Nicole]

Two and a half years now.

[Lex P]

We've been in this studio for a.

[Dre Nicole]

Minute, but I feel like not giving A is not a bad thing, because why should I give a. About what people think that don't know me personally? Like, I don't know. How do you feel about what I just said?

[C]

You still have empathy, and I think that's what. When you're talking about, like, mean girls or people that are just blatantly mean, I think they're lacking empathy. You still care, but you don't care enough for it to stress you out. You know what I mean? Like, you. It's a. I think it's a difference. When I'm. I feel like I'm very direct, for sure, but I'm really direct when it comes to my business. Yeah, yeah. I'm not negotiating on that. That with my friends. You got to have a little bit of emotional intelligence to deal with them. Because you love these people, right. And you want to respect them or you still respect them, but you also have your boundaries for yourself that are personal to you, that, hey, I have this level of care, but all right, cool. You don't care. I don't care either. I'm good. Like, I'm chilling. But I don't think you're a mean, direct person. You still care and you still have empathy for people.

[Lex P]

People. Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. I think so, too. I think when it comes to people I care about, I have a lot of empathy. I think I'm very empathetic. But when it comes to people that I don't know, I don't necessarily really care that much. But I'm also just being honest. I think that sometimes the space that we're in with us being like public figures.

[Lex P]

Tell the truth.

[Dre Nicole]

No, I think sometimes with us being in the space that we're in of being public figures are influencers. I think you can say something and then it will hit home for somebody, and then they take it really, really personal. And then they're like, well, you. You. A bitching. You don't understand, or you feel like it could never be you. But I don't even know you. I don't even know your situation specifically. So I wasn't talking specifically to you, but you took it like I was talking specifically, specifically to you.

[Lex P]

But it hit.

[Dre Nicole]

And I feel like that's what it be. A lot of the time, people. I'll say something and people be feeling like, oh, this resonates with my upbringing or my situation with my dad. Or my situation with my mom or my situation with my man, my baby daddy, my child, whatever. So she said this, and I'm taking it personal because you. But I don't even know you. I'm just speaking in general, right? On what I think in my opinion. Plus, I also feel like opinion shouldn't matter that much. I said my opinion about that watch the other day. People was in.

[Lex P]

Oh, I'm glad you brought that up.

[C]

They was so mad.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

People was in an uproar. People were in such an uproar.

[Lex P]

Say what you said.

[Dre Nicole]

But I love that for me, because.

[Lex P]

Hey, we have to talk about that.

[Dre Nicole]

I think people gotta get. Stop giving me so much power. Because to understand the Taurus is to understand that I sometimes revel in the fact that y' all get so mad at the things I say, because I be like, wow, I'm really that powerful that I can.

[Lex P]

What was the tweet again?

[Dre Nicole]

That I can make the whole timeline. Getting the uproar. Okay, So I just basically said that let me go look at my. Let me go look at somebody. Cause they sent it to me. Me and messy.

[Lex P]

I am so weak. Cause I ain't never seen you with an apple watch. On asking, what's wrong with an apple watch?

[Dre Nicole]

Exactly.

[Lex P]

Exactly. Oh, brother. But read the tweet.

[Dre Nicole]

But no, you see, laugh. Because. Exactly.

[Lex P]

Exactly.

[Dre Nicole]

But anyways, y' all be adding that gold band on your Apple watches and thinking that me, you could wear it to dinner. No.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

And I said what I said, and.

[C]

It was me looking at my gold.

[Dre Nicole]

Watch like, oh, you be wearing it to dinner.

[Lex P]

I wear it.

[C]

Whatever.

[Lex P]

I don't.

[C]

But I also didn't read that, like, oh, my God, Dre hates me either. You know what I'm saying? Like, I laughed at it and moved on.

[Lex P]

That's what I. Okay, so let's. Let me say this is how I felt about it as a person who. I wear my apple watch a lot.

[Dre Nicole]

I do, too.

[C]

I change out these bands, baby.

[Dre Nicole]

But y' all know I'm serious about my Apple watch.

[Lex P]

But this is my thing. Y' all be like, why do y' all. You think. Because you. First of all, if you like your apple watch, how you wear it, why do you care what this complete stranger is saying about what you have on? Do you know how many times I have put on something or wore something? And this person or this person be like, oh, I think that tall bitches who wear platform heels. It looks crazy. Cause why you walking around looking like Sasquatch? Cause I'm a bad bitch and that's what I do.

[Dre Nicole]

That leg was pointed. It was at me.

[Lex P]

You can never tell me about shit that I like and I'm not gonna lie. Did I think the tweet was funny? Yes. But I thought it was so funny how y' all are sending things to her mentions, trying to prove that your watch looks good. That's for you to enjoy, not her. She thinks it's tacky and that's okay. Y' all have stopped trying. Y' all have got to stop trying to get approval from people who don't care or know you exist. It's a joke. It's supposed to be light hearted, funny. Y' all got butt hurt because you are wearing your apple watch to dinner and that's okay.

[Dre Nicole]

No, I got butt hurt because it was Dre from poor minds. If somebody random as hell had tweeted that on Twitter and it went viral, nobody would have cared. I thought people always get get very defensive when they see it's me or you and it goes viral and we said something and they be like, oh, you got a lot of nerve. It was y' all. When I say it was so many people in my comments, like, yeah, everybody not a big baller like you. Everybody can't have a ten thousand, fifteen thousand dollar watch. Everybody can't do X, Y and Z. And my watch was 800. So you write it was a thousand dollars. I' ma wear it every day. The thing is though, nobody, some of them, yeah, but the thing is nobody made it about money. I never said nothing about money. For me, it's more about like the aesthetics. To me, if you have on a ball gown or you have on a tuxedo, are you out at a fancy dinner, Even if you have on a cute little two piece set and you out at dinner at house with your man, I don't feel like you should have on an apple watch. I feel like you. But it's so many cute dainty watches that you could get jbw. It's so many of the influencer girls, Aaliyah's face, Kyra Aminique, shout out to them. They be always promoting JBW watches. Those watches are like 200, 300. They're cute little dainty watches. Nobody said it had to be a Rolex or AP Patek. Y' all made it about that because y' all saw who tweeted. I never said nothing about money.

[Lex P]

So I'll say this too. You know, I think, I'm not gonna lie me personally, like the, like the Band that Ty has on, I think that's cute. I'm not gonna lie.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean I had one of them.

[Lex P]

But no, this is my problem. Cause I agree with her on this end. Changing the bands, that's not an issue to me. Cause I think if you have your apple watch on, there are like the gold band like that I be seeing cute bands. I seen somebody they had a Cuban link with. It was a fake bust down. That's tacky to me. If you have a cute little gold band, something like that, it matches what she have on a Cuban link. To me a fake Cuban link is just a lot anyway. But at the end of the day it's an opinion. If you like your Cuban link on your apple watch, that's fine.

[Dre Nicole]

I just wanna say this. I think people, even you, I think missing the point. I never said nothing with even if you wanna wear the Cuban link, that that's fine. I don't think it's anything wrong with how Ty has her watch on. But Ty does not have on a formal outfit. She not going to a wedding.

[Lex P]

You don't know. She might leave and go to the little one too. I do be outside.

[Dre Nicole]

She not at a wedding. She's not going on a date night with a beautiful dress on. Like she's here at Poor Minds counting her steps. That's fine. Even with her outfit. Like she wore these for the episode.

[Lex P]

I'm not gonna lie.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't see nothing wrong with that. I think people were missing the point that I'm saying I all I was saying, which maybe I should have articulated myself better. Maybe I should have made the tweet more extensive. But I'm a person. I don't think tweets should be that long. It's a tweet. A tweet.

[Lex P]

I just think this is stupid.

[Dre Nicole]

To me a tweet is a brain fart. Like it's short, it's not long. So maybe I should have articulated myself better. But what I more so meant was I don't think that it doesn't matter if you change your apple watch band out for a gold band. It still doesn't make it appropriate to wear with a tuxedo. Now you look like a spy kid. Now you looking like you on Mission Impossible. I just don't think that goes together. Same thing with a woman with a beautiful date night dress. You got you a nice little dress from Fashion Nova.

[Lex P]

That'd be me.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, you got you a nice little dress. Fashion over you and your man is going out for dinner. Y' all going to Marcel. Let me say something that's more universal that people know about. Y' all want to know, Boo, you got on this beautiful dress with your apple watch, and you switched out the band for a gold band. And you think that make it appropriate to wear. Just get you a cute little dainty watch. Nobody is saying it has to be a Rolex. Go get you a little 300. Cute gold watch.

[Lex P]

I think it's more like, if I'm being honest, maybe I'm a little biased. I guess I never pay. I don't be paying attention like that.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, I seen somebody in New York. That's what made me tweety.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Because we was out at dinner, and I seen a lady with a silk dress on, and then she had on her apple watch with a gold man. I don't pay attention like that neither. Because I don't really give a fuck what people be wearing.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Like, I feel like if you got it on your wrist and that's what you like.

[Dre Nicole]

It was a thought. I tweeted it. I hate the fact that people think I care that much. We're elaborating on it because we're just talking about it.

[Lex P]

Somebody watch whispers. I will say this. Stop letting people affect how you feel about yourself. That's how I know y' all don't have no confidence, and that's how I guess. What if I put a ball gown on with my apple watch on? I don't give a fuck what this hoe say. I'm still working that room bad as bitch, and who gonna tell me anything? Y' all have confidence in yourself. Who cares? That's all I'm saying, though.

[Dre Nicole]

Lex will take that watch off. Don't listen to.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I am. I am. I will for some. But what I'm saying is, give you an example. Perfect example. I went to D.C. last year. I went to a WNBA game. We sit in courtside in the section. I had to hurry up and pack my bags last minute. Cause he was like, hey, babe, we finna do da, da, da, da. I left my watch, but guess what? I had on my apple watch on with my outfit. And I didn't care. Because when you have that confidence about how you look in your swag and you who you are. It was a tweet. It was meant to be funny. Stop taking shit to heart. Because if you that girl, you gonna be that girl. Apple watch or not.

[Dre Nicole]

But that's the thing that I. That goes back to what I was just saying. I feel like people always Take what.

[Lex P]

You say to heart.

[Dre Nicole]

Personally. I was playing.

[Lex P]

It was a joke.

[Dre Nicole]

It really wasn't that serious. Like, it was really a joke. Because y' all know I don't play by my steps. I wear my apple watch every day.

[C]

That's also why I laugh. Cause I'm like, hey, she be wearing her apple watch.

[Dre Nicole]

But it was the.

[Lex P]

And I get it. But I'm not gonna lie.

[Dre Nicole]

But I'm not gonna wear it to Lake's wedding.

[Lex P]

If you was beefing at that wedding.

[Dre Nicole]

You should have been beefing at that wedding.

[Lex P]

But honestly, I will say this. And y' all gonna be mad at me. The watches. Y' all was sitting in her minches. Wasn't putting up a good fight. If y' all was gonna put up a good fight, y' all should have did better than that. Because I was trying to be on y' all side.

[Dre Nicole]

You wasn't. Cuz she didn't say. She. One thing I love about my best friend Lynn, she don't be trying to be on nobody's side but mine. Because she retweeted that, and she put that little meme that said, lynn, always one thing about my girl. She gonna have my back in them Twitter stream.

[Lex P]

Okay. Honestly, I didn't even know it went viral.

[Dre Nicole]

A friend is a minute.

[Lex P]

I didn't even know it went viral. Cause I seen it first on Spiritual World.

[C]

Yeah, that's where I saw.

[Lex P]

And I said, what the hell is this? And when I tell you I'm sorry, the comments. The first thing I seen was the one with the Cuban. That was the first tweet I saw.

[Dre Nicole]

And then I retweeted it, and I just said, okay. Then everybody was even more mad. Cause what I told y' all. Cause why would you do that? Why not? I'm really in my own. Y' all gotta understand this about me. Y' all gonna see 2025. It's a new me. I'm not going back and forth with you niggas. Well, I never was the type to really go back and forth, but sometimes I think we'll interact with people on Twitter. Like, somebody will say something to us. We'll get mad. We might respond.

[Lex P]

I called out somebody today.

[Dre Nicole]

I know we.

[Lex P]

I said, you are a white man in America. You can't talk about what black women do. This world was handed to you.

[Dre Nicole]

One thing about me and Lex, we will get upset on Twitter and we will respond to people. But I'm trying to practice a new mantra going forward, okay? Because all you got to do is hit A with an okay. It's simple and effective.

[Lex P]

Very. I know.

[Dre Nicole]

It makes people feel so stupid if you. If they. If they put an elaborate post out and all you say is, okay, that post got 10k tweets. Retweet.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. Oh, I didn't even realize everybody was cracking up in the comments I was talking about. Damn.

[Lex P]

Cause she was like.

[Dre Nicole]

She said, yeah, because my Apple watch looks like this.

[Lex P]

Oh, you better stop, Drayah. She hit the taxi.

[Dre Nicole]

She said, Cause my Apple watch looks like it was given. What is it called? Qc? Qbtv?

[Lex P]

Qvc?

[Dre Nicole]

Qvc tv. She thought she was on that TV channel. She said, my Apple watch looks like this.

[Lex P]

We're going to hell. Hell awaits.

[Dre Nicole]

And everybody was in the comments, like, exactly. Because. What the was she talking about?

[Lex P]

No, they was liking her watch, too. Don't do that. It was people complimenting.

[Dre Nicole]

No, I said they were saying exactly what the was I talking about? And then I was just like, it's just a whole community attacking ass people. It's crazy.

[Lex P]

Oh, okay.

[Dre Nicole]

And I'm about to get cussed out in these comments, but again, I don't.

[Lex P]

Give a. I, like I said, do wear what you want.

[Dre Nicole]

I love low key. I probably shouldn't even put this out there, but I love being the villain of Poor Minds. I feel like everybody love Lexi and everybody hates me.

[Lex P]

That's not true.

[Dre Nicole]

It is true.

[Lex P]

No, it's not.

[Dre Nicole]

If you look at the comments, I'm not gonna say everybody. Everybody hates me, but I feel like everybody loves you.

[Lex P]

That's a lot.

[Dre Nicole]

And then with me, they be like.

[Lex P]

The people that love you. The people. No, the people that love Drea. They have found their way to hate me. They have snuck over to love Lex me.

[Dre Nicole]

No, they don't, because they never say nothing about me. The people, they're from your stand accounts. They're going to mention you and my. She. My people, even if they like me and don't like you, nobody ever be on your page.

[Lex P]

So my. You talking about my. My supporters are the menaces.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes, because your supporters be the ones that be like, yeah, because I love legs. Dre is stupid. My supporters don't say that to you. They don't be. They might not. People might not like you, but they don't be in your comments talking about me is what I'm saying. Yeah, they do. No, they don't.

[Lex P]

Oh, you talking about on my YouTube page?

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I'm talking about in general. On any.

[Lex P]

No, in general. They definitely do. They be like, dre is so Educated, so smart. She's so lucky that she got a smart bitch. Somebody left they be talking about the way I look. Draya needs to tell Lexus she can't dress. Dre needs to lie.

[Dre Nicole]

You're a liar.

[Lex P]

Oh my God. On any.

[Dre Nicole]

I never see that.

[Lex P]

I promise you that. I put this on my mother. I'm not lying. They be like, draya needs to be honest with Lex about the way she dressed. She needs to tell her. They do be saying that. You probably don't see them. Cause I delete them.

[Dre Nicole]

Somebody else and see, I just be leaving them up. Cuz I be like, whatever. Somebody left. Well, sometimes I can't delete them. Somebody left a comment under the Breakfast Club interview and they was like, yeah. Somebody said, drea. I mean, Lex has always been my star. Drea will used to be boring. I'm glad she caught on. Somebody left a comment and said, yeah, that's what I be saying. Lex is the star in the personality. Draya is boring. Mrs. Me too.

[Lex P]

Ooh. Cause I need y' all.

[Dre Nicole]

So sorry, but anytime people say anything like that about me and Lex, I have a good key because bitch, are you ho's dumb. We been two separate people our whole lives, but I don't think we. And we came together and did something amazing.

[Lex P]

Amazing.

[Dre Nicole]

I didn't need Lex for. For me to become who I was going to become. She didn't need me. For me to. For her to become who she was going to become. We were going going to shine our lights regardless. We was going to be straight in life regardless.

[Lex P]

But it's. But it's not about that. It's more so of that y' all.

[Dre Nicole]

See two, but it do.

[Lex P]

No, no, no. It's not about that. What it is about is y' all see two black women who come together who have different personalities, who made it work. And this chemistry is undeniable. That's why y' all are here. That's why we are able to go on Breakfast Club. That's why we have travel queens. That's why we have all these endeavors that are working out for us. And the thing is, there's like, look.

[Dre Nicole]

At the group TLC getting drunk today.

[Lex P]

Ain't no such thing. T. Boz and Left Eye and Chili, they were a unit together. Baby. This is a unit. Y' all have to understand. Yes, Draya is an entity on her own. Lex P. Is an entity on her own. But in no world, in any side, I don't care where you are, but.

[Dre Nicole]

We not do this shit together.

[Lex P]

No, no, no. I needed you.

[Dre Nicole]

Thank you.

[Lex P]

I don't care how I know I'm a star, but I needed. I could not have done. There's no poor moms without Dre in the car.

[Dre Nicole]

But that's what I'm saying. That's what I. But that's literally what I just.

[Lex P]

No, no, I'm agreeing.

[Dre Nicole]

And you said no. That's not the point. I said yes, I would. Look, I don't be giving a about what people be saying in the comments about you being a personality or you being whatever. I've been raw my whole life. Check my resume. Let's go back to high school. Let's go back to college. Long before I met Leaks. No disrespect, but I'm just saying. But I'm just saying because I don't want it to seem that way, but it's like me and Lex are our own people. Neither one of us need each other to be nothing. She was going to be amazing without me regardless, because she's an amazing person. That's who God created her to be.

[Lex P]

Be.

[Dre Nicole]

Same thing with me. I was going to be an amazing person regardless, because that's who God created me to be. We came together and we built something really special because that was obviously also, again, ordained in the path. This is what we were supposed to do. But when y' all be trying to throw shade and try to put us against each other, y' all not really doing it. Cuz me and Lex really be having a good key at it.

[Lex P]

Because if y' all go back to the older episodes, what I always said, you know how many. And this is no shade to nobody. You know how many people in my life that I used to be friends with, that I'm no longer friends with now, wanted to do something with me and wanted to do this with me? I always felt like I just want to do something on my own. Or maybe I'm just figuring it out. I don't know. When I met Dre, I was like, oh, we can do something together for real. I always said that. Of course, when we started out, Draya wasn't as open because she's a private person. Never gave boring. Never gave boring. But I knew y' all didn't know what I knew and what I saw and what I knew was gonna happen. We always talked about that in the older episode.

[Dre Nicole]

But also, to be fair, I also, in early episodes, we've always talked about how you didn't even want to show your personality. You used to be like, I don't know if I should say this or I don't know if I should do these cuz I don't know if people are going to perceive me the right way. I'm not sure how people gonna feel about my personality. And I was always like, you're funny. You need to start posting more content. You need to start showing more of your personality. So it's not even to say that. I mean, no, but it is to say we pushed each other.

[Lex P]

That's what I'm saying.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, what do y' all be talking about?

[Lex P]

I just think they like to create a narrative because maybe they came in three years, in four years, and we've been doing.

[Dre Nicole]

No, it be people from the beginning. They be just weird.

[Lex P]

But. But you can't say that because people love you.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't know. Do they?

[Lex P]

Yes. Shut up.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes.

[Lex P]

Now she's playing.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not playing the victim. I just feel like people love you. But let me say this. And I feel like I've always said this. I be cool with though, because I almost kind of like feel vindicated in the fact that people like, I love the fact that people just be feeling some type of way about me and I do nothing but exist.

[Lex P]

I don't think they feel some type of way about you. I think sometimes people don't understand you. But people who have, they love you.

[Dre Nicole]

Whatever it is, it's fine. They still.

[Lex P]

Whatever you want.

[Dre Nicole]

I just feel like I've been feeling that way my whole life. I think that's where me and you have have differences. Like you've been light your whole life.

[Lex P]

Oh, I'm that girl everybody everybody love so fly you've been stow the deuces every time legs p ride by.

[Dre Nicole]

You've been, You've been like since you were like in middle school. Yeah. Elementary school. Because I feel like you have more of an underdog story. That's not my story. So I feel like that it makes it easier for people to like, dislike me because I'm not really an underdog. Like, I don't. I'm not as relatable and that's fine too. But it's always been that way since like high school.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

So, you know, it's cool.

[Lex P]

I think the people who get it and get it and the people who don't, don't. And they understand the chemistry. But. But I don't. I will disagree with you. People fucking love you.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't think. Don't give me. I think the people that fuck with me, fuck with me. We both Started separate ventures, and I feel like a lot of people support me, too. On my own personal YouTube channel, the Muse sales says it all. Says it all, but so people definitely fuck.

[C]

Cheers, y' all. I'm gonna take.

[Dre Nicole]

But I'm just. Okay, stop taking a shot, period. But, yeah, I just think that, you know, I think you get a little more. Which I've said before on the show, you get a little bit more understanding and reception than I think I get. Because I think people just love to feel like I'm the villain.

[C]

That's okay. I also think you like being a villain, though.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't. You think I like.

[C]

I think you kind of like a little.

[Dre Nicole]

Why you think I like. You think I got a kink? A villain kink? I do. Like.

[C]

It's nothing bad, but I think you kind of like being that villain.

[Dre Nicole]

Why you think I like it?

[C]

Because you're good at it. And I feel like. Because you don't care what people think. Like, that stuff be rolling off your shoulders. Like, you don't be really taking that in and wearing all these people comments. So it's really like, I got 30k on my wrist. What are you talking about? Like, I'm still a baddie like you, you know that you wear your confidence, and that's beautiful.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

But I think that's why people don't like me. So sometimes it makes me want to be not as confident because I'd be like, damn, do I gotta be less confident for y' all to like me? No, that's beautiful.

[Lex P]

That's a beautiful thing about you. That's what I'm saying. That's why I be like, I hear you, but I don't feel you. I don't feel you. That's beautiful. That's the beautiful thing about you. Being unapologetic, unapologetically yourself is a beautiful thing. Like, that's good. That's a good thing. Because it doesn't matter. There's a lane for everybody, and you have created a space for the bad bitches. It's so many bad bitches that want to get on a mic.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't even be liking to be categorized as a bad bitch. Cause, like, what is that?

[Lex P]

It's whatever you. Whatever you think it is, a bad bitch is different to everybody. Yeah, but what I'm saying is for this space, for this particular.

[Dre Nicole]

When people call us bad bitches, I don't.

[Lex P]

Because that's what it is. It's okay. That's okay. Because women who look like us, they were looked at As a certain way. We just talked about this on the Breakfast Club. Yeah. I'm not trying to be funny now. Women who look like us, the BBL Girls now, they be like, okay, let.

[Dre Nicole]

Me show more BBL dresses.

[Lex P]

Let me show my personality. I'm so goofy. I'm so silly. Who told you to do that?

[Dre Nicole]

Dre?

[Lex P]

Nicole and Lex P. And that's okay?

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

You're supposed to be yourself. It's a beautiful thing. I think that people love you, and people love you because to agree with Dre and Nicole, you're agreeing to be the Joker. You're agreeing to be Bane. It's okay to agree with Batman. We can agree with Batman publicly. But guess how many people agree with Joker silently. Why do you think the Joker is literally one of the most popular villains? Cause he low key. Be right.

[Dre Nicole]

Mm.

[Lex P]

Batman is sorry. Without the Joker, if we being honest, I'm not that I'm not sorry, but you know what I'm trying to say.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I get what you're saying.

[Lex P]

You get what I'm getting at.

[Dre Nicole]

But I think, too, again, I appreciate all of everything that you just said, but I think the worst probably villain. Ish thing about me is that I don't really give a fuck, for real, whether they agree with me or not. But I was saying I hate the bad bitch. Like, aesthetic thing, girl. Just because we not. Yeah, bitch. Cause this is who God created me to be. I'm not trying to be an aesthetic.

[Lex P]

You're not an aesthetic. It's just what you are, though. It's just what you know. We're baddies. We are. We're beautiful women. That's why a lot of times people will see us before they're where we.

[Dre Nicole]

Look like the Joker in them comments.

[Lex P]

I don't give a damn. Because let me tell you, they saying.

[Dre Nicole]

What y' all did to y' all cheekbones.

[Lex P]

Let me tell y' all something. Check the getty, bitch. Oh, check the getty.

[Dre Nicole]

Do you know how I really giddy?

[Lex P]

Okay, that ain't. That ain't. You was there. You was there. Come on, now.

[Dre Nicole]

It was a song. I know. It wasn't me. I know. But that's a giddy. Because I'm the one who really giddy.

[Lex P]

But what I'm saying is the face cards are there. Y' all want us to feel so bad. Y' all call me loud. But as much as y' all say about Dre, y' all call me loud. Y' all be talking about. I'm Big. I'm overweight. I'm just this and that's that. I don't. I'm here, though.

[Dre Nicole]

They just be saying I'm stupid and I be having. No, not stupid. They be saying Drea is such a. She always tries to purposely disagree with Legs. She thinks that she knows everything and she acts like she can't relate. That's what I always see the most about me. So that's why I be feeling like, oh, I'm a villain.

[Lex P]

Well, I think a lot of times.

[Dre Nicole]

It'Ll never be about my looks.

[Lex P]

With the Breakfast Club interview, even with Rory and Ma, they looked at the con they. Before they even started the episode. I'm seeing as soon as the episode drop its comments already. Who are these birds?

[Dre Nicole]

Mm.

[Lex P]

Who are these people?

[Dre Nicole]

They were mean.

[Lex P]

Would you listen? Can you listen? I'm educated. We both graduated from college. We've been doing this shit for seven.

[Dre Nicole]

Whom lied? Nah, I'm lying. Don't look.

[Lex P]

I said who? Cause I said who, bitch.

[Dre Nicole]

Who? I love a good lie sometimes.

[Lex P]

We've been doing this for seven years. You know how many podcasts we've seen start and stop? But we can. Can. Can we just give some accolades and some. Some hand claps for women who start businesses and keep going and don't give up.

[Dre Nicole]

Let me get that hand clap. Didn't. What's his name? Hurricane Chris? Let me get that hand clap. Let me get that. Wait. Or was that little booy?

[Lex P]

No, that was. Let me get that hand clap. Was. That was. That was Hurricane.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay. I just had to make sure.

[Lex P]

Maybe he. Maybe he did a remix. Lil Boosie.

[Dre Nicole]

What the helly? My homeboy done dick down his cellie.

[Lex P]

You did not have to touch that.

[Dre Nicole]

And he thought it was okay to tell me.

[Lex P]

But you was on the phone like this. Now what happened next? Now what you did after that, you be liking that tea.

[Dre Nicole]

This was not an orthodox for my episode. Cause we didn't even get into none of the topics. My homeboy the dick down in.

[Lex P]

So for the bad topic this week, if you have a homeboy who has dicked down his celly, write us in and let's talk about it on next week's episode. Okay? Now, if you have a homeboy that dicked down his celly, I wanna know what went down in that celly. Tell me.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't wanna know that, actually. Cause I feel like it's definitely smelling like Bodissy in there.

[Lex P]

It's Lex P. You got cellmates. One, two, three. It went down. I wanna know who sucked head and gave the meat. Ooh, that eight.

[Dre Nicole]

It's Lex Pelly. Put her on a remix. A homegirl done dig down her cellie.

[Lex P]

Okay, well, now it's time to get.

[Dre Nicole]

And she about to leave. Did you get what I. You got what I said?

[Lex P]

I caught it.

[Dre Nicole]

Broomsticky, boss. A licking broomsticking. That's what they be doing in jail, though. They the women prison. Nobody talks about that.

[Lex P]

They don't talk about the struggles of women prison.

[Dre Nicole]

We should have a whole. We should have a woman cellmate say.

[Lex P]

Look up a woman who has been in jail for like five years to come on the show. But somebody that's not gonna like somebody that's been released. Cause we not gonna not nothing like no murder. What's up, y' all?

[Dre Nicole]

It's your girl xp and it's your girl Dre, Nicole.

[Lex P]

Y' all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called item of the week, but do you something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds, your opportunity is here, period.

[Dre Nicole]

If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if you would like to get your product featured for item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to item of the week, PM.com. that's it. W E E K PM gmail.com. send us an email and we'll work it out. We gonna figure it out. Get your product, get your business sponsored and yeah, make you some money.

[Lex P]

We love to support a small business.

[Dre Nicole]

Now in a black business at that. But I mean, we don't discriminate. Any business is welcome.

[Lex P]

What's up, y' all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's.

[Dre Nicole]

Your girl Dream Nicole.

[Lex P]

And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping. Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

So we have a brand new show dropping y' all on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella Noe, where the hell could you go?

[Lex P]

If you can't go to Bella, no. Where the hell can you go?

[Dre Nicole]

We're going to be doing Talk to me. These chit chat with me. We're gonna be spilling a little tea.

[Lex P]

Oh, my God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God.

[Dre Nicole]

Everything y' all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon.

[Lex P]

Yes. Y' all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y' all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time y' all know Poor Mods has grown into its own little entity where we gonna have a of lot lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y' all tune in September 2nd. It's going down.

[Dre Nicole]

Thanks.

[Lex P]

My bop of the week. My bop of the week. I do have to say this cuz I was riding to work today and I just wanted to have some throwback music. Cuz I'm not going to lie. I'm tired of this era of music. Record labels. Let's stop with the tik. Stop only signing people if they have a TikTok hit. This shit is trash. The TikTok 30 second clip be fire, but the whole song be trash. You know what I listened to today on the way here? I let you count my money, baby. You remember that? Yeah, yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

That was K Camp.

[Lex P]

K Camp and fucking Fetty Wap. We don't get hits like that no more. We can't dance in the club no more, man. Kim got so awol.

[Dre Nicole]

Put her on a trade.

[Lex P]

I'll let you got my money, baby. You my son, baby. Man, we don't get songs like that.

[Dre Nicole]

AWOL was looking like. Yeah, right.

[Lex P]

I'm telling you, K Camp featuring Fetty.

[Dre Nicole]

Wall, you gonna get on trade. Yeah, we gonna make a poor mine single.

[Lex P]

So you know what I'm doing for my birthday, right? You going to the studio where I'm gonna get a studio and that's what we're doing. And everybody gotta write your best verse.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not gonna write. I'm gonna be like Lil Wayne.

[Lex P]

Oh, no, please write a verse. Please. Yeah, yeah, okay. We gonna need you to write your verse.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

It's gonna be so raw.

[Lex P]

I'm gonna get somebody to write my verse and I'm act like I wrote it and it's gonna be so y'.

[Dre Nicole]

All gonna be like, oh, oh, I got some. I do have somebody that I would write my verse, though.

[Lex P]

Who?

[Dre Nicole]

I can't tell you.

[Lex P]

Why?

[Dre Nicole]

I might be thinking about the same person.

[Lex P]

No, I'm definitely thinking about somebody different.

[Dre Nicole]

Me too, cuz.

[Lex P]

Mine is like, nobody knows that he can really, really rap. He never became famous. He never did nothing, but he got them barred. Oh, you going to hit him?

[Dre Nicole]

Yep.

[Lex P]

You got a direct. Oh, you do got a direct line.

[Dre Nicole]

I have his number.

[Lex P]

I'm f to say who it is.

[Dre Nicole]

So I'MMA roll better line.

[Lex P]

Okay, what's your bop of the week? What's your bop up?

[Dre Nicole]

Seeing Green. Oh, my God.

[Lex P]

Speaking of love that damn song.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, my God. Speaking of old school song. Well, only because I'mma tell y' all why I love this song. Right? Was really trying to count Lil Wayne out. Yeah, y' all was really trying to play on his top like, he is not the greatest of our generation.

[Lex P]

That's a fact.

[Dre Nicole]

And this is no shade to someone else, because I'm not gonna say no name, but y' all was trying to say somebody else was gonna be the new Lil Wayne. And it's like, okay, but like, Lil Wayne is really that cold. And I feel like when he came out with the Seeing Green, well, that was Nikki song first and foremost. But when Seeing Green came out, I really think it showed that, like, l. Lil Wayne's still here.

[Lex P]

You know, I keep that.

[Dre Nicole]

And he could really pop out when he want to. He choose to be ducks off in the cut. He choose to live a humble, low key lifestyle. But when he want to pop out, he can. And I think Seeing Green showed us that. That was a great summer. That Was what summer? 2021. That was when I turned 30. That was the year I turned 30. We had a great year.

[Lex P]

What do we do for your 30?

[Dre Nicole]

Who is Miami? Me and Jimmy.

[Lex P]

We did. You know what I listened to yesterday?

[Dre Nicole]

I got a few things.

[Lex P]

I listened to that song the other day. You know, I keep that white girl, that Lindsay Lowe. Huh? Oh, you gotta.

[Dre Nicole]

That Christina Aguilera, man, that was. I remember that, man.

[Lex P]

That was how you know. But we don't get music like that no more. That Jeezy era in the strip club. Oh, my God. It was life changing.

[Dre Nicole]

I feel like when. When Jeezy and Gucci and all of them started getting old, that's when we lost the real niggas.

[Lex P]

It died. It died. Ugh. Y' all have to. Something has to happen. Yeah, that Jeezy era, Y' all don't get it. Y' all was too young. When Jeezy was dropping this music in the strip club, my life changed. When that rat. Ta da. Lord knows the Stan, but I love you. When that came on, the dancers would run to the and they would shake and pop that pussy like their life depended on it.

[Dre Nicole]

Go and shake that ass, bitch. I'm gonna throw this money. Go and shake that ass, bitch. I'm gonna throw this.

[Lex P]

Oh, my God. Y' all don't get it. Y' all don't get it.

[Dre Nicole]

Y' all will never get it.

[Lex P]

All right, moving on. Moving on. All right, it's time to get into our favorite segment of the week. Pour your heart out.

[Dre Nicole]

We're gonna do one question.

[Lex P]

Yeah, let's do one. Let's do one. Pour your heart out. If you want your question answered on the show, make sure you email us at ask poor minds gmail dot com. If you're a Patreon member, make sure you put that in the headline. You get to skip the line. Go ahead, Dre.

[Dre Nicole]

Hey, Dre and Legs. I love y' all show. So much and proud of everything you have all accomplished together. And individually, you all inspire me every week to chase after my dreams. Thank you. Okay, so here's where I need some advice. I lost my job about two months ago. @ first, I felt defeated and worthless because I've never been unemployed before, But God knew I didn't want to be there, and I was ready for a change. Fast forward two months, and I'm still unemployed in trying to figure things out as a hairstylist. I've loved hair since I can remember. And I went to cosmetology school, graduated, and became licensed about a year ago. This transition has been hard, and I often feel like giving up because I don't know where to start. I've reached out to more established stylists and salons to help me grow and master my skills, but haven't had much luck. I'm unsure if I should keep going or pivot. Yalls advice is appreciated.

[Lex P]

Oh, go ahead. You want to go first?

[Dre Nicole]

You can go first.

[Lex P]

I just think that's a little a different area, because when you're giving a service to someone, I know that field is hard because, again, I talk about Dede all the time, and she's been in that field for a long time, and it took her. She was telling me how long she's been doing it and how long it took her to get her footing in it. But I think if you're passionate about something, you have to show your passion, you know, like, it'll happen for you. I know it sounds so cliche, but it's like. And you have to get creative, too. But if you give good service. Let me tell y' all something. When I say I found Dede off of, like, a random post that went viral of hers, like, six years ago, and I've been going to this girl for six years, and people in the industry who are heavy hitters, like Alonzo, When I told Alonzo who did my hair, he was like, oh, you know Dee Dee like I met Dee Dee, like, so when you're good at what you do, you don't need the accolades, the million followers, and this just give good service to people. And when you're good at what you do, you will excel. And if you keep consistent at it. Sometimes, though. I talked to somebody about this the other day. Sometimes, you know what? You're gonna have to do somebody here for $50. You might have to do somebody here for free. You know how much shit that we did that we didn't get paid for, but it paid off because we made these connections. I understand rent due. I'm not saying do everything for free, but sometimes you got to make connections and do things. You never know. But when you treat somebody well, give them good service. Guess what? When people come to get their hair done, if you can wash and braid their hair down, you already won. Because people be wanting. You could come wash and braid down anyway. You doing that off the rip, you gonna win. So I just think in this day and age, people have forgot the meaning of being a good person and giving people good service. So I think if you focus on that, the transition is hard, but keep going. Because I had that transition of trying to figure out who I was and what I wanted to do, and I was like, you know what? I know I'm funny. I know I'm entertaining. And all I want to do is make people feel good. I'm not going to stop until I make people fucking feel good. So when you're really passionate about something, you're not gonna. You're not gonna let anything get in your way. I agree. Period.

[C]

Can I say something?

[Lex P]

Absolutely.

[C]

I feel like for when you're in a service industry, whether it's so saturated, because hair is a saturated industry, bartending is a saturated industry. I think you need to find ways to be innovative in your craft and stand out amongst everyone else. And that's something that I had to do as being a bartender and starting my own bar catering company. Like, I had to put in those 10,000 hours to be. To get in front of some of the mentors or some of the people that I looked up to and wanted them to become my mentors. Because why would they just want to mentor someone that's fresh out of whatever program and haven't tried as much, you know, or haven't had those opportunities yet. They need you got to be able to showcase your talent, your passion, and why you're here and why they should give you a chance. Chance too. But I really think as a business person, just finding creative ways that you're gonna. That's gonna set you apart from anybody else in your field, in your industry. Own that, learn that, and be open to continuously learning and being educated in what you're doing. And that's what's gonna, like, propel you a little bit more, too. But give yourself some grace and give yourself some time to grow in your profession.

[Lex P]

Agree. Because you gotta be patient.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

And I think that's what people be thinking. Oh, I've been doing this for three years. That's not enough.

[Dre Nicole]

Mm, mm.

[Lex P]

Three years ain't nothing. That's light work. All right, all right. Y' all make sure y' all tune in to Love Lex p. Every Monday, 10am we're reviewing real Housewives of Atlanta now. Basketball Wives has started, y' all. The tea is hot on Basketball Wives now, so make sure y' all tune in to that rich look. Hair on the tresses. Ty promote the bartending stuff.

[C]

Yes. Somixie.com, we have our calendars, our seraps. We have some major partnerships that we are going to be promoting very soon on our content schedule. So make sure you are tuned in. Y' all not going to want to miss this. And then for all things crown royal, crown royalty, ATL on ig, period, and.

[Lex P]

Tell them about you dropping them fire ass blogs.

[Dre Nicole]

Muse Beauty collection dot com. Make sure y' all shop and get y' all lip glosses, matte liquid lipsticks, lip liners, jelly blushes. We also have liquid eyeliner and mascara now as well. Also make sure y' all follow my YouTube channel, Dre and Nicole with three E's. And yeah, we everywhere. We outside. Stay tuned to see where we at next period.

[Lex P]

See y' all next week because we.

[Dre Nicole]

Where y' all ain't.

[Lex P]

Let's see.

[C]

See, that's why they call you the villain, you know.

[Lex P]

Y' all make sure y' all share the content, like subscribe, follow all that good stuff. And, and let me say this before we close out, y' all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P O U R Underscore M I N D S. Y' all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay?

[Lex P]

They block me, Andrea and the Poor M page on both. So we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one Tick tock. It is P O U R Underscore M I N D S. All right.

[Dre Nicole]

And we got hella fake Facebook page.

[Lex P]

Oh, the Facebook pages.

[Dre Nicole]

Our face. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers.

[Lex P]

So if you're on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers.

[Dre Nicole]

The one that's not us got like250,000 fake.

[Lex P]

If you actually look at the content because the captions, it's like whoever it is don't speak English. Cuz their captions are like.

[Dre Nicole]

Bumba. Cl.

[Lex P]

Should men. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes. No. Check. Answer below.

[Dre Nicole]

Block.

[Lex P]

Block.

[Dre Nicole]

Like that's literally what the captions are.

[Lex P]

I like you. What that? Ddg. Bumba Claw.

[Dre Nicole]

Bumba Claw.

[Lex P]

I love that video. Hey, do you want to be down? Are you down? Dre and Nicole with 3E. Oh, my hair got in your thing. Oh, yeah. Hit it, hit it. Give it to him just like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I would like to get to know if I could be the kind of girl that you could be down for. Cause when I, I look at you I feel something tell me that you're the kind of guy that I should make a move and if I don't let you know then I won't be for real But I feel like something could be going on the more I.

[Dre Nicole]

See the more that it becomes so true There ain't no other for me.

[Lex P]

It'S only you I wanna be down with what you're going through I wanna be down I wanna be down with you no matter time of day and night it's true I wanna be there now Oo I know anybody's going to.

[Dre Nicole]

Be lonely without the reason they got someone to care for May maybe all.

[Lex P]

You need's a shoulder to cry on.

[Dre Nicole]

If that's a fact then I'll be more than you ever could dream if.

[Lex P]

All you need is my time that I got plenty of I'll dedicate all my love until you only baby I wanna stay by your side Be there to cool you out and let you know everything will be all right yeah with one what you're going through I want to be down I want to be down in you no matter time a day and night it's true I want to be down oh, okay. All right. We going to see we. You know what? Cut. Cut the cameras. Cut the cameras. It's time to go. We'll see y' all next. Sam.