Pour Minds Podcast – Episode: "U Dont Know Me"
Release Date: May 23, 2025
Host/Author: 85 South Media
In this episode of the Pour Minds Podcast, hosts Lex P and Dre Nicole delve deep into personal experiences, societal observations, and relationship dynamics, all while maintaining their signature candid and humorous banter. This detailed summary captures the essence of their conversations, enriched with notable quotes and timestamps to provide a comprehensive overview for both regular listeners and newcomers.
1. Celebrating Recent Achievements and Shout-Outs
[00:27] Lex P:
Lex kicks off the episode by acknowledging their recent successes and collaborations. She expresses pride in their content production, mentioning standout episodes like "Rory and Mal" and their impressive press run.
Key Points:
- Successful collaborations with Rory and Mal.
- Upcoming content releases, including "EYL" expected to drop within the week.
- Participation in high-profile interviews such as the Breakfast Club with Charlamagne.
Notable Quote:
"We just went on a crazy press run, and we got so much good content that's out right now." – Lex P [01:09]
2. The Evolution of Social Media and Celebrity Interaction
[02:10] Dre Nicole:
Dre transitions the conversation to the changing landscape of social media, particularly Twitter. She reminisces about an era when celebrities like Kim Kardashian and Rihanna actively engaged on the platform, contrasting it with the current state dominated by negativity and trolling.
Key Points:
- Decline of genuine celebrity interaction on Twitter.
- Personal anecdotes about Lex P's interaction with a streamer, Aiden Ross, who made derogatory comments about Meg Thee Stallion and Dochi.
- Dre shares her frustration with similar negative interactions related to the Cassie and Diddy trial.
Notable Quotes:
"I said, stop being in these black spaces and speaking on black women. Y' all don't know how hard it is for us to be in these spaces..." – Lex P [05:11]
"Some people just rather tear down black women who came from the same space as them." – Dre Nicole [13:37]
3. Dealing with Online Criticism and Personal Attacks
[04:31] Lex P:
Lex opens up about the personal toll of online harassment, detailing how she's been attacked and called offensive names due to her outspoken tweets defending black women.
Key Points:
- Impact of negative comments and harassment on mental health.
- The dichotomy between support from true fans and the vitriol from trolls.
- Strategies for managing online negativity, including the consideration to deactivate Twitter.
Notable Quotes:
"You have created this opinion about me where you feel like I would date for fame and money. If I would date for fame and money, why I ain't did it." – Lex P [08:00]
"We are anointed. Our lives have been anointed long before y' all ever met us." – Dre Nicole [12:23]
4. Hygiene and Personal Care: A Candid Exchange
[14:21] Lex P:
Shifting gears, Lex and Dre engage in a lighthearted yet informative discussion about personal hygiene, emphasizing the importance of proper cleaning and deodorizing.
Key Points:
- Detailed routines for maintaining personal hygiene, including the use of specific products like Estee Lauder powder and Booty Deodorant.
- Importance of washing intimate areas thoroughly to prevent odors.
- Shared tips and personal preferences, fostering a sense of camaraderie and practical advice.
Notable Quotes:
"Cause if you tell me that you're okay, even if I know that you're not okay, I don't look at that as passive aggressiveness. I look at that more as you not wanting to talk about it right now." – Dre Nicole [48:02]
"...My three best compliments that I get all the time is I'm funny, my looks, and the way I smell." – Lex P [16:06]
5. Passive Aggressiveness in Relationships: Definitions and Personal Insights
[38:24] Lex P:
The hosts delve into the nuanced topic of passive aggressiveness in relationships, exploring its manifestations, underlying causes, and personal struggles.
Key Points:
- Definitions: Differentiating between passive aggressiveness and simply protecting one's peace.
- Personal Experiences: Lex admits to struggling with being passive aggressive, particularly when she's not ready to address issues immediately. Dre shares her approach of distancing herself rather than engaging in passive behaviors.
- Psychological Insights: Discussion on how passive aggressiveness can stem from fear of confrontation or desire for a reaction, with contributions from a guest named "C" who adds depth to the conversation.
Notable Quotes:
"When people are passive aggressive, they're trying to make somebody react..." – Lex P [43:05]
"If you're being passive aggressive, you care." – Dre Nicole [46:07]
"The definition, passive aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative emotions through subtle acts of resistance, defiance, or neglect." – C [52:06]
6. Listener Interaction: Pour Your Heart Out Segment
[102:50] Dre Nicole:
In their beloved "Pour Your Heart Out" segment, Dre reads a heartfelt listener question about losing a job as a hairstylist and seeks advice on career transitions and overcoming challenges in a saturated industry.
Key Points:
- Listener’s Dilemma: Feeling defeated after job loss, struggling to find opportunities in hairstyling despite reaching out to established professionals.
- Hosts' Advice: Lex emphasizes passion, consistency, and providing excellent service as keys to success. She shares her own journey of building connections and the importance of giving back, even through unpaid work initially.
- Guest Input: The guest, "C," highlights the need for innovation and continuous learning in service industries. She advises finding unique ways to stand out and seeking mentorship to propel one's career forward.
Notable Quotes:
"If you're passionate about something, you have to show your passion, you know, like, it'll happen for you." – Lex P [106:32]
"Find creative ways that you're gonna set yourself apart from anybody else in your field..." – C [106:38]
7. Fashion and Aesthetics: Navigating Personal Style Amidst Criticism
[75:01] Lex P:
The conversation takes a playful yet pointed turn towards personal style, focusing on Lex’s Apple Watch and the backlash she received for wearing it to a formal setting.
Key Points:
- Fashion Statements: Lex defends her choice to wear an Apple Watch with a gold band to a dinner setting, emphasizing confidence and personal expression over societal expectations.
- Criticism and Misconceptions: Both hosts discuss how their styles are perceived and the pressures of meeting external standards, especially as public figures.
- Empowerment: Reinforcing the message of self-confidence and disregarding unsolicited opinions about their appearance.
Notable Quotes:
"If you like your Apple Watch, how you wear it, why do you care what this complete stranger is saying about what you have on?" – Lex P [76:00]
"Don't let people affect how you feel about yourself. That's how I know y' all don't have no confidence." – Lex P [76:33]
8. Closing Remarks and Community Engagement
[89:13] Dre Nicole:
As the episode progresses towards its conclusion, Lex and Dre address their relationship dynamics, emphasizing their independent growth and mutual support despite external narratives positioning Dre as the "villain."
Key Points:
- Mutual Respect: Affirming that both hosts are individual entities thriving independently and collectively.
- Handling Public Perception: Addressing how audiences often misconstrue their interactions and striving to maintain a positive and supportive partnership.
- Encouragement: Motivating listeners to embrace their uniqueness and support one another within the community.
Notable Quotes:
"We came together and built something really special because that was obviously also, again, ordained in the path." – Dre Nicole [85:05]
"Being unapologetically yourself is a beautiful thing." – Lex P [87:32]
Conclusion
In "U Dont Know Me," Lex P and Dre Nicole offer a blend of personal anecdotes, societal critique, and heartfelt advice, all delivered with their trademark honesty and humor. From navigating the pitfalls of social media harassment to offering practical tips on personal hygiene and relationship dynamics, the episode provides listeners with both entertainment and valuable insights. Their candid discussions about passive aggressiveness and maintaining personal style amidst criticism underscore the podcast's commitment to authenticity and empowerment.
Notable Quotes Highlighted in the Summary:
- "Everything that y' all know about us is because we have talked about it on the show, and we have been vulnerable and honest." – Lex P [00:00]
- "We graduated from that app and a lot of people want to do what we're doing." – Lex P [11:07]
- "Our lives have been anointed long before y' all ever Met us." – Dre Nicole [12:23]
- "I'm trying to learn how to communicate better." – Lex P [41:20]
- "If you're being passive aggressive, you care." – Dre Nicole [46:07]
- "Find creative ways that you're gonna set yourself apart from anybody else in your field..." – C [106:38]
- "Being unapologetically yourself is a beautiful thing." – Lex P [87:32]
This episode encapsulates the essence of the Pour Minds Podcast—raw, unfiltered conversations that resonate with listeners navigating similar life challenges, all while fostering a community of support and empowerment.