Pour Minds Podcast: "Where Is Monty?"
Hosts: Draya Nicole & Lex P
Date: January 30, 2026
Podcast Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts
Episode Overview
In this lively, unfiltered episode, Draya and Lex, two single Houstonians living in Atlanta, go guest-free and free-flowing. The episode alternates between hilarious banter, self-deprecation, and candid discussions on reincarnation, afterlife, online backlash, and the unwritten rules of hookup culture. The show’s signature mix of vulnerable moments and raunchy comedy is on display, as the duo sips wine, reflects on personal boundaries, and answers real listener questions.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Opening Banter: Reincarnation, Monty, and Naming the Episode
00:00–03:00
- Reincarnation Talk: Draya wonders about the reality of reincarnation and past lives.
- Draya Nicole [00:00]: "If we have actually lived another life and we've been reincarnated into these people."
- Lex jokes about unpleasant reincarnations:
- Lex P [00:16]: "I hope reincarnation is not real. Imagine if you came back as, like, a roach, bruh. Or Monty."
- Both continue roasting "Monty" (likely a friend or inside reference), and Draya suggests naming the episode after him for comedic effect.
- The hosts set the tone for a no-guest, all-out-girltalk episode.
2. Seasons, Mood, and Womanhood
02:43–04:21
- Lex and Draya celebrate solo episodes and reminisce about summer energy.
- Lex's classic humor:
- Lex P [02:48]: "I just feel like it's something about that summertime. My coochie done aired out. It's hot. It feels good. I just be in a better mood."
- They riff about how the weather—even daylight savings—affects mood and romance.
- Draya reveals she’s a spring baby, loving the season's beginnings.
3. Music Commentary & Comedy: Monty, Fetty Wap, and Crooning
04:21–12:02
- They debate whether to karaoke a song by a problematic R&B star.
- Lex announces Fetty Wap is "free" and will be invited on the show.
- Jokes about Monty continue:
- Draya Nicole [05:33]: "But you know who's not coming? Monte."
- Commentary about online beefs and banter when artists (or their fans) clap back online.
- Draya and Lex get playful over what “crooning” means, break into song, and debate the art of humming.
4. Poor Decision of the Week
12:02–18:09
- Draya’s Poor Decision: Binge-watched Stranger Things until 2:30 a.m. before a 6 a.m. gym session.
- Draya [14:52]: "It has me in a chokehold. So I stayed up until 2:30 in the morning watching Stranger things the other day... I was so tired. I'm such a bad girl."
- Lex’s Poor Decision: Regret over self-deprecating honesty about her "raggedy" car, which led to social media jokes at her expense.
- Lex P [16:33]: "Being honest just doesn't get me anywhere... Now every time anything is on the Internet, a meme of a raggedy car, they’d be like, lex dis you."
5. Boundaries, Internet Comments, and Being a Public Personality
18:09–26:01
- Lex and Draya discuss how audiences cross boundaries, share examples of probing or rude DMs/comments, and their strategies for handling them.
- Lex P [20:34]: "[They said] Lex, I thought this was you," about Magic Johnson's son. "And this is no shade to this person, but it was a picture of Magic Johnson's son, E.J. Johnson..."
- Draya advocates for boundaries and more blocking, while Lex reflects on audience entitlement.
- Draya Nicole [24:23]: "Just block people. I’m just blocking people this [year]."
- They reflect on the rise of “rage bait” and people seeking to go viral by causing offense.
6. Morbid Musings: Afterlife, Appearance, and Reincarnation
26:01–41:12
- Draya’s Big Question: Do you think about how you'll look or what you’ll leave behind when you die?
- Draya Nicole [26:36]: "Have you ever thought about, like, when you die, when you pass away...how it’s gonna happen? Because I be thinking about that all the time."
- The duo share funerary anxieties (worrying about being found in a "diaper", clean underwear, the cleanliness of their house).
- Both muse about the appearance of souls in the afterlife, referencing movies ("Eternity") and shows ("The Good Place").
- Lex P [33:07]: Summarizes "Eternity": "When you pass away, you go back to when you were the happiest point in your life."
- Emotional stories about butterflies and ladybugs symbolizing visits from loved ones who’ve passed.
7. Reincarnation—The Joke Returns
36:47–41:12 (Looping callback)
- The reincarnation/“Monty or roach” joke resurfaces, becoming the emblem of the episode’s inside humor.
8. Are We Addicted to Being Offended? Cancel Culture & Sensitivity
42:00–55:59
- Draya’s topic: Are people addicted to being offended in 2026? Cancel culture, hypersensitivity, and virtue signaling (“moral superiority”) dominate social media.
- Lex P [44:55]: "Being offended is lucrative, honestly. As soon as somebody rubs you the wrong way... you make a video, it goes viral. We all on your side."
- Lex distinguishes meaningful criticism from rage-baiting, describes how people online want to drag anyone with a different opinion, and debates whether anyone can truly be "canceled."
- Draya: Some people cannot be canceled due to their cult following (example: Snoop Dogg, Nelly, Nicki Minaj, Kanye West).
- Draya Nicole [53:16]: "Some people are just that powerful... their fanbase is a cult following."
- Memorable quote:
- Lex P [46:46]: "It's a way people do it to feel morally superior... That is the most ignorant shit in the world."
- Ultimately, both advocate thick skin and resisting the urge to respond to every criticism.
9. Hookup Etiquette: Real Talk for the Modern Urbanite
58:57–69:41
- They acknowledge their own - ehem - hookup history and then provide rules for today’s casual daters:
- Don't ghost after sex or hook ups (unless necessary for your safety or you really need to avoid drama).
- Lex P [60:07]: "After you've been intimate with somebody... You can shoot a nice text message or something."
- Use protection—always.
- Lex P [61:01]: "If you are hooking up and y’ all are not... committed... 100% need to be using a condom."
- Be upfront about seeing other people; don’t switch the terms of engagement mid-way.
- Don't always stay the night after a casual hookup; communicate sleeping-over expectations.
- Practice good hygiene, and carry "whole-bag" essentials (“Salt XO” gets several shoutouts as a coochie-freshening must-have).
- Draya Nicole [61:27]: "...maybe it's that people know that they're not gonna take rejection well. So they like, okay, well, let me just ghost them."
- Don't ghost after sex or hook ups (unless necessary for your safety or you really need to avoid drama).
10. Bop(s) of the Week
69:41–71:20
- Lex: Ms. Trim & Sunshine – “Trump the Bill” ("a vibe," "popping their shit")
- Draya: Wale’s new album “Everything is a Lie” gets a nod for lyricism and storytelling.
11. Pour Your Heart Out: Listener Letters
71:36–76:45
- Listener asks about "spit play" (spitting in the mouth during sex)—if it’s “normal” or she’s “immature” for not liking it.
- Both agree: it's a kink for some, but not for everyone.
- Draya Nicole [73:11]: "Some people don't like that, though. It freak them out."
- Lex P [74:28]: "People don't know how to spit in each other's mouths. It should not be... a loogie."
- Communicate kinks upfront; there’s no pressure to do anything you are uncomfortable with during sex.
- Both agree: it's a kink for some, but not for everyone.
12. Bottled Up Segment—Voice Note
77:16–80:03
- Listener admits to catching “the ick” over petty things (lazy eye, big belly, etc.) and wonders if that makes her a bad person.
- Draya and Lex: Preferences are okay as long as you aren’t mean or cruel in expressing them.
- Draya Nicole [79:16]: "Some people need all of it... And it's not anything wrong with that."
- Lex P [79:33]: "Just because you're a nice person doesn't mean you have to be attracted to everyone who hits on you."
- Draya and Lex: Preferences are okay as long as you aren’t mean or cruel in expressing them.
13. Closing—Plugs, Outtakes, & a Britney Spears Serenade
80:13–end
- Reminders to tune in, shop Muse Beauty, and buy tour tickets.
- Lex and Draya perform an impromptu rendition of Britney Spears’ “Toxic,” complete with laughter and outbursts.
- Lex P [83:12]: "You're toxic, I'm slipping under..."
Notable Quotes & Moments
- On Summer Vibes:
- Lex P [02:48]: "My coochie done aired out. It's hot. It feels good. I just be in a better mood."
- On Boundaries:
- Draya Nicole [24:23]: "Just block people. I'm just blocking people this [year]."
- On Thick Skin:
- Draya Nicole [24:10]: "You have to have tough skin."
- On Being Offended for Clicks:
- Lex P [44:55]: "Being offended is lucrative, honestly."
- On Self-Acceptance:
- Lex P [18:09]: "You know, but I love my raggedy car. We still rocking and rolling, period."
- On Preferences in Dating:
- Draya Nicole [79:16]: "It's okay to just turn a dude down because he’s not your type... As long as you’re not mean."
- Closing Out with Britney:
- Lex P [83:12]: "You're toxic, I'm slipping under."
Highlights, Timestamps & Flow
- 00:00–03:37: Playful spiritual talk, reincarnation jokes, and “Where is Monty?” banter
- 03:37–05:54: Seasonal moods, R&B nostalgia, inside jokes about music/guests
- 05:54–12:02: The art of crooning, Monty’s “legendary runs,” and music shoutouts
- 12:02–18:09: “Poor Decision” confessions — Stranger Things marathons and being teased about old cars
- 18:09–26:01: Managing harsh comments, enforcing boundaries, realities of public life
- 26:01–41:12: Morbid musings—afterlife, appearance, keeping house/panties clean in case of untimely demise
- 41:12–55:59: Are we addicted to being offended? Cancel culture and why some stars are immune
- 58:57–69:41: "Hookup Etiquette" for the modern dater: don't ghost, wrap it up, communicate, and keep it clean
- 69:41–71:20: Music picks—Ms. Trim & Sunshine’s “Trump the Bill” and Wale’s latest album
- 71:36–76:45: Listener advice: spitting in the mouth during sex (kink vs. normalcy)
- 77:16–80:03: Preferences in dating—when “the ick” is real
- 80:13–83:57: Plugs, pitches, and raucous Britney Spears “Toxic” performance
Tone & Style
- Unfiltered, humorous, occasionally raunchy, and deeply real. Lex and Draya riff comedically but also pull back the curtain on real-life anxieties, grievances, and advice—always in the tone of a girls’ night in, over wine.
TL;DR
- The Pour Minds duo keeps it candid: joking about reincarnation, debating the afterlife, calling out online trolls, and offering both comic relief and practical guidance for hookups and life in the spotlight. It’s a freewheeling, supportive, hilarious episode with recurring bits (“Where is Monty?”), honest listener advice, and a whole lot of personality.
- Essential Listening For: Fans of wild girl talk, behind-the-scenes influencer realness, and practical, unfiltered dating advice.