Where Is Monty?

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast: "Where Is Monty?"

Hosts: Draya Nicole & Lex P
Date: January 30, 2026
Podcast Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts

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Episode Overview

In this lively, unfiltered episode, Draya and Lex, two single Houstonians living in Atlanta, go guest-free and free-flowing. The episode alternates between hilarious banter, self-deprecation, and candid discussions on reincarnation, afterlife, online backlash, and the unwritten rules of hookup culture. The show’s signature mix of vulnerable moments and raunchy comedy is on display, as the duo sips wine, reflects on personal boundaries, and answers real listener questions.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Opening Banter: Reincarnation, Monty, and Naming the Episode

00:00–03:00

• Reincarnation Talk: Draya wonders about the reality of reincarnation and past lives.
  • Draya Nicole [00:00]: "If we have actually lived another life and we've been reincarnated into these people."
• Lex jokes about unpleasant reincarnations:
  • Lex P [00:16]: "I hope reincarnation is not real. Imagine if you came back as, like, a roach, bruh. Or Monty."
• Both continue roasting "Monty" (likely a friend or inside reference), and Draya suggests naming the episode after him for comedic effect.
• The hosts set the tone for a no-guest, all-out-girltalk episode.

2. Seasons, Mood, and Womanhood

02:43–04:21

• Lex and Draya celebrate solo episodes and reminisce about summer energy.
• Lex's classic humor:
  • Lex P [02:48]: "I just feel like it's something about that summertime. My coochie done aired out. It's hot. It feels good. I just be in a better mood."
• They riff about how the weather—even daylight savings—affects mood and romance.
• Draya reveals she’s a spring baby, loving the season's beginnings.

3. Music Commentary & Comedy: Monty, Fetty Wap, and Crooning

04:21–12:02

• They debate whether to karaoke a song by a problematic R&B star.
• Lex announces Fetty Wap is "free" and will be invited on the show.
• Jokes about Monty continue:
  • Draya Nicole [05:33]: "But you know who's not coming? Monte."
• Commentary about online beefs and banter when artists (or their fans) clap back online.
• Draya and Lex get playful over what “crooning” means, break into song, and debate the art of humming.

4. Poor Decision of the Week

12:02–18:09

• Draya’s Poor Decision: Binge-watched Stranger Things until 2:30 a.m. before a 6 a.m. gym session.
  • Draya [14:52]: "It has me in a chokehold. So I stayed up until 2:30 in the morning watching Stranger things the other day... I was so tired. I'm such a bad girl."
• Lex’s Poor Decision: Regret over self-deprecating honesty about her "raggedy" car, which led to social media jokes at her expense.
  • Lex P [16:33]: "Being honest just doesn't get me anywhere... Now every time anything is on the Internet, a meme of a raggedy car, they’d be like, lex dis you."

5. Boundaries, Internet Comments, and Being a Public Personality

18:09–26:01

• Lex and Draya discuss how audiences cross boundaries, share examples of probing or rude DMs/comments, and their strategies for handling them.
  • Lex P [20:34]: "[They said] Lex, I thought this was you," about Magic Johnson's son. "And this is no shade to this person, but it was a picture of Magic Johnson's son, E.J. Johnson..."
• Draya advocates for boundaries and more blocking, while Lex reflects on audience entitlement.
  • Draya Nicole [24:23]: "Just block people. I’m just blocking people this [year]."
• They reflect on the rise of “rage bait” and people seeking to go viral by causing offense.

6. Morbid Musings: Afterlife, Appearance, and Reincarnation

26:01–41:12

• Draya’s Big Question: Do you think about how you'll look or what you’ll leave behind when you die?
  • Draya Nicole [26:36]: "Have you ever thought about, like, when you die, when you pass away...how it’s gonna happen? Because I be thinking about that all the time."
• The duo share funerary anxieties (worrying about being found in a "diaper", clean underwear, the cleanliness of their house).
• Both muse about the appearance of souls in the afterlife, referencing movies ("Eternity") and shows ("The Good Place").
  • Lex P [33:07]: Summarizes "Eternity": "When you pass away, you go back to when you were the happiest point in your life."
• Emotional stories about butterflies and ladybugs symbolizing visits from loved ones who’ve passed.

7. Reincarnation—The Joke Returns

36:47–41:12 (Looping callback)

• The reincarnation/“Monty or roach” joke resurfaces, becoming the emblem of the episode’s inside humor.

8. Are We Addicted to Being Offended? Cancel Culture & Sensitivity

42:00–55:59

• Draya’s topic: Are people addicted to being offended in 2026? Cancel culture, hypersensitivity, and virtue signaling (“moral superiority”) dominate social media.
  • Lex P [44:55]: "Being offended is lucrative, honestly. As soon as somebody rubs you the wrong way... you make a video, it goes viral. We all on your side."
• Lex distinguishes meaningful criticism from rage-baiting, describes how people online want to drag anyone with a different opinion, and debates whether anyone can truly be "canceled."
• Draya: Some people cannot be canceled due to their cult following (example: Snoop Dogg, Nelly, Nicki Minaj, Kanye West).
  • Draya Nicole [53:16]: "Some people are just that powerful... their fanbase is a cult following."
• Memorable quote:
  • Lex P [46:46]: "It's a way people do it to feel morally superior... That is the most ignorant shit in the world."
• Ultimately, both advocate thick skin and resisting the urge to respond to every criticism.

9. Hookup Etiquette: Real Talk for the Modern Urbanite

58:57–69:41

• They acknowledge their own - ehem - hookup history and then provide rules for today’s casual daters:
  • Don't ghost after sex or hook ups (unless necessary for your safety or you really need to avoid drama).
    • Lex P [60:07]: "After you've been intimate with somebody... You can shoot a nice text message or something."
  • Use protection—always.
    • Lex P [61:01]: "If you are hooking up and y’ all are not... committed... 100% need to be using a condom."
  • Be upfront about seeing other people; don’t switch the terms of engagement mid-way.
  • Don't always stay the night after a casual hookup; communicate sleeping-over expectations.
  • Practice good hygiene, and carry "whole-bag" essentials (“Salt XO” gets several shoutouts as a coochie-freshening must-have).
  • Draya Nicole [61:27]: "...maybe it's that people know that they're not gonna take rejection well. So they like, okay, well, let me just ghost them."

10. Bop(s) of the Week

69:41–71:20

• Lex: Ms. Trim & Sunshine – “Trump the Bill” ("a vibe," "popping their shit")
• Draya: Wale’s new album “Everything is a Lie” gets a nod for lyricism and storytelling.

11. Pour Your Heart Out: Listener Letters

71:36–76:45

• Listener asks about "spit play" (spitting in the mouth during sex)—if it’s “normal” or she’s “immature” for not liking it.
  • Both agree: it's a kink for some, but not for everyone.
    • Draya Nicole [73:11]: "Some people don't like that, though. It freak them out."
    • Lex P [74:28]: "People don't know how to spit in each other's mouths. It should not be... a loogie."
  • Communicate kinks upfront; there’s no pressure to do anything you are uncomfortable with during sex.

12. Bottled Up Segment—Voice Note

77:16–80:03

• Listener admits to catching “the ick” over petty things (lazy eye, big belly, etc.) and wonders if that makes her a bad person.
  • Draya and Lex: Preferences are okay as long as you aren’t mean or cruel in expressing them.
    • Draya Nicole [79:16]: "Some people need all of it... And it's not anything wrong with that."
    • Lex P [79:33]: "Just because you're a nice person doesn't mean you have to be attracted to everyone who hits on you."

13. Closing—Plugs, Outtakes, & a Britney Spears Serenade

80:13–end

• Reminders to tune in, shop Muse Beauty, and buy tour tickets.
• Lex and Draya perform an impromptu rendition of Britney Spears’ “Toxic,” complete with laughter and outbursts.
  • Lex P [83:12]: "You're toxic, I'm slipping under..."

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Summer Vibes:
  • Lex P [02:48]: "My coochie done aired out. It's hot. It feels good. I just be in a better mood."
• On Boundaries:
  • Draya Nicole [24:23]: "Just block people. I'm just blocking people this [year]."
• On Thick Skin:
  • Draya Nicole [24:10]: "You have to have tough skin."
• On Being Offended for Clicks:
  • Lex P [44:55]: "Being offended is lucrative, honestly."
• On Self-Acceptance:
  • Lex P [18:09]: "You know, but I love my raggedy car. We still rocking and rolling, period."
• On Preferences in Dating:
  • Draya Nicole [79:16]: "It's okay to just turn a dude down because he’s not your type... As long as you’re not mean."
• Closing Out with Britney:
  • Lex P [83:12]: "You're toxic, I'm slipping under."

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Highlights, Timestamps & Flow

• 00:00–03:37: Playful spiritual talk, reincarnation jokes, and “Where is Monty?” banter
• 03:37–05:54: Seasonal moods, R&B nostalgia, inside jokes about music/guests
• 05:54–12:02: The art of crooning, Monty’s “legendary runs,” and music shoutouts
• 12:02–18:09: “Poor Decision” confessions — Stranger Things marathons and being teased about old cars
• 18:09–26:01: Managing harsh comments, enforcing boundaries, realities of public life
• 26:01–41:12: Morbid musings—afterlife, appearance, keeping house/panties clean in case of untimely demise
• 41:12–55:59: Are we addicted to being offended? Cancel culture and why some stars are immune
• 58:57–69:41: "Hookup Etiquette" for the modern dater: don't ghost, wrap it up, communicate, and keep it clean
• 69:41–71:20: Music picks—Ms. Trim & Sunshine’s “Trump the Bill” and Wale’s latest album
• 71:36–76:45: Listener advice: spitting in the mouth during sex (kink vs. normalcy)
• 77:16–80:03: Preferences in dating—when “the ick” is real
• 80:13–83:57: Plugs, pitches, and raucous Britney Spears “Toxic” performance

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Tone & Style

• Unfiltered, humorous, occasionally raunchy, and deeply real. Lex and Draya riff comedically but also pull back the curtain on real-life anxieties, grievances, and advice—always in the tone of a girls’ night in, over wine.

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TL;DR

• The Pour Minds duo keeps it candid: joking about reincarnation, debating the afterlife, calling out online trolls, and offering both comic relief and practical guidance for hookups and life in the spotlight. It’s a freewheeling, supportive, hilarious episode with recurring bits (“Where is Monty?”), honest listener advice, and a whole lot of personality.
• Essential Listening For: Fans of wild girl talk, behind-the-scenes influencer realness, and practical, unfiltered dating advice.

Transcript

[Draya Nicole]

This is an I heart podcast. Guaranteed human. But even, like, reincarnation, like, all of those things, Like, I wonder if that's really true, that people are, like, reincarnated. If we have actually lived another life and we've been reincarnated into these people.

[Lex P]

I hope reincarnation is not real. Imagine if you came back as, like, a roach, bruh. Or Monty.

[Draya Nicole]

It'll probably be a short life. Jesus. What?

[Lex P]

What if you came back as Monty?

[Draya Nicole]

I can't come back as Monty. Cause it's only one Monty.

[Lex P]

I just.

[Draya Nicole]

Wait.

[Lex P]

I'm sorry, Monty. I'm really sorry.

[Draya Nicole]

That's fucked up.

[Lex P]

I love Monty.

[Draya Nicole]

We need to name this episode. Where's Monty? So call to action.

[Lex P]

Oh, no. I am so sorry. And see, this is why people don't feel. And that's why people don't feel sorry for me. Cause they like Lex. You talking about you being st. I'm not bullying that man. I'm sorry. You are. No, I'm not. What if I come back as a roach?

[Draya Nicole]

Or what if I come back as my auntie?

[Lex P]

I'm joking. I'm just kidding. But I hope that reincarnation is not real, because I'm not gonna lie to you.

[Draya Nicole]

But what if you can only come back as a person?

[Lex P]

Okay, as a person. But again, I don't know, because obviously reincarnation is real. We don't remember anything for our past life.

[Draya Nicole]

But I am having again as a baby.

[Lex P]

Right? But I'm having a ball in this one. I don't want. I like this one. This is a good one. Imagine in my past life, I was like, a white man. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. What's up, y'? All? It's your girl Lex P. And it's.

[Draya Nicole]

Your girl Dre and Nicole.

[Lex P]

And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds, where a drunk.

[Draya Nicole]

Mind speaks sober thoughts.

[Lex P]

We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. Her. I know.

[Draya Nicole]

I love when we don't have guests.

[Lex P]

You know, I love when we have guests sometimes. But it's just nothing like a kickback session with the girls. Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

I mean, I like both. I like guest episodes, but I also really like our solo episodes. So I'm excited. Cause I feel like we can just, you know, do whatever the fuck we.

[Lex P]

Want, pick up our shoes and relax.

[Draya Nicole]

Our feet, and I probably shouldn't have said that this early, but it's all right.

[Lex P]

Deal.

[Draya Nicole]

Bleep it.

[Lex P]

He gonna bleep it out. We working on our curse words.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm Trying.

[Lex P]

You know what I feel like, though? I feel like our episodes are always, like, better in the summertime. Like in the springtime, I feel like that's when we really thrive. Like, don't get me wrong, all the episodes are good, in my opinion, but I just feel like it's something about that summertime. My coochie done aired out. It's hot. It feels good. I just be in a better mood. You know what I'm saying? You feel me? You don't feel me. Yeah. You don't understand.

[Draya Nicole]

Do it not air out in the wintertime?

[Lex P]

No, it's wrapped up. It's bundled up. It's cold. Them lips are shivering. No, it's bundled up. When I let it free and I let them lips blow in the wind. Bitch. Yeah. I just feel so they be blowing. Blowing in the wind. Blowing.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah. Cause that's what I was thinking. That's what I was thinking anyway.

[Lex P]

But, Todd, are we in Chicago? They gonna slap in Chicago.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause that wind be strong. That wind be strong. Your coochie is gonna be shivering.

[Lex P]

That's what I'm saying. So I just. I don't know, I just feel like, you know, we're. And closer to the warm weather, and I just. I feel myself, you know, winding.

[Draya Nicole]

Thawing out. Yes, you thawing out.

[Lex P]

I am thawing out.

[Draya Nicole]

It's. It's getting close to that time. And, you know, I love the spring. I am a spring baby. Yes. I thrive in the spring. I can't wait. I'm excited. Like, I love when my birthday is because I feel like it's at the very beginning of, like, the warm weather. The transition to the warmth.

[Lex P]

Yes, the transition.

[Draya Nicole]

Daylight savings time, it'd be dark. I mean, it'd be getting dark late again. I love when it's. I love when spring heat. Because I think it's gonna be like March 16th or something. It's gonna start back getting darker later.

[Lex P]

I can't help but wait till spring. Oh, he's back in the states.

[Draya Nicole]

He is.

[Lex P]

It's time to send him back.

[Draya Nicole]

Now, I know that you probably gonna be against these, but I like he has so many great songs.

[Lex P]

We're not doing this today.

[Draya Nicole]

I do feel like we should sing one of his songs for karaoke today.

[Lex P]

Don't know about that.

[Draya Nicole]

Not paying. We're not paying homage or anything like that, you know, but he has good music. Lex, we tripping. We are missing out.

[Lex P]

Are we on a.

[Draya Nicole]

But maybe you. Cause I be still listening in my car.

[Lex P]

I have even better.

[Draya Nicole]

And we not Talking about that man, her friend.

[Lex P]

I didn't even bring him up. I have not talked about that man in weeks.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm not talking about him. In case y' all lost, okay?

[Lex P]

Exactly. But in better news, Fetty Wap is free, baby.

[Draya Nicole]

I did see that.

[Lex P]

And he is coming to sit on this couch. He's coming on the couch.

[Draya Nicole]

But you know who's not coming?

[Lex P]

Who?

[Draya Nicole]

Monte.

[Lex P]

Good.

[Draya Nicole]

Because you. The way that you had slandered him the other day.

[Lex P]

I did not slander him. You did.

[Draya Nicole]

You did. You did. It was very disrespectful.

[Lex P]

I apologize. That was not my fault.

[Draya Nicole]

It was very disrespectful because his runs are legendary.

[Lex P]

Listen, I need some people to understand this. I will get a joke off by any means necessary. So sometimes, yeah, you gonna.

[Draya Nicole]

You gotta catch a stray.

[Lex P]

You gotta catch a stray. And that's okay. I mean it with love. Very lighthearted. But you gotta get this work, man.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, Monte used to. His runs was legendary. Who got better runs, him or Brandi?

[Lex P]

Now you taking shit too far. Do a Monty Run to say legendary. Have you hear one?

[Draya Nicole]

I can't really sing like you, though. I think you should do that.

[Lex P]

No. Cause you did it last time. You did it last time. I never hit a Monty Run episode.

[Draya Nicole]

You did and you did on the show, and you killed it.

[Lex P]

No, Monty. I never heard of Monty Run. Honestly, Monty was just rapping that bullshit. Sorry, Monty. No, she does.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause this the second time, Tasha.

[Lex P]

She ain't sorry.

[Draya Nicole]

She ain't sorry.

[Lex P]

Anyway, back to the kids. Monty, like, what the fuck I do?

[Draya Nicole]

He gonna make a video. He's gonna make a response video.

[Lex P]

Too soon. Too soon. Okay, okay.

[Draya Nicole]

He ain't make no response video. He just tweeted us and called us some stupid old bitches. Damn.

[Lex P]

Why would he say that?

[Draya Nicole]

Not at all. Cause I had some things to say back, but, you know, I can't be cute.

[Lex P]

Oh, my God. I'm sorry. When people be cussing us out, it be so funny.

[Draya Nicole]

It do be funny. Cause at the end of the day, it really be funny. Because if people only knew how me and you don't give a fuck.

[Lex P]

And it's like, we.

[Draya Nicole]

That's what really make it funny. Because people be really mad at me. Really be over here laughing and joking and kidding. And then even when we see what people be saying, we be like, anyways.

[Lex P]

Anyways. But, yeah, Fetty Wap is free, so he's definitely coming on the couch this year. That's my goal. Like, I cannot wait to sit down with him so we can see eye to eye on a lot of things.

[Draya Nicole]

This is where I wish, like, this is when it be hard at the beginning of the year when I don't be drinking. Cause this is when I need a shot because what is wrong with you?

[Lex P]

I'm sorry. I really am. It's all love. I really love him though. Like, I'm serious. I really do. Like, I'm sorry. I'm just excited that he's free and he deserves to be free. I don't even know what he did.

[Draya Nicole]

He does. And like it was crazy because he had did an interview on Breakfast Club and he was saying how 50 Cent is one of his closest friends. That was like, not on my bingo card.

[Lex P]

Oh, I didn't know that either.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, he said he helped him out a lot when he was in prison. They was talking all the time and he was like. He put money on his book. Oh, wow. He said two of the people that he was talking to a lied or that was there for him was 50 cent and COI Leray.

[Lex P]

Oh, really? That's random.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, he said she had did his song.

[Lex P]

Good. You know what? And Fetty is really talented. So I'm ready to hear them tunes and them croons. I'm excited.

[Draya Nicole]

The fuck is a croon?

[Lex P]

You never heard somebody crooning?

[Draya Nicole]

Crooning?

[Lex P]

Like, what does that mean? Sing? Like when they sing? Yeah, like a croon.

[Draya Nicole]

How do you croon?

[Lex P]

That was a croon. Didn't that sound like a croon? Didn't that sound like a croon?

[Draya Nicole]

Maybe this.

[Lex P]

That's pretty. That was a croon. That was. Yes, that's pretty. I be crooning, bitch.

[Draya Nicole]

I thought those was just like ad libs.

[Lex P]

No, that was a.

[Draya Nicole]

A croon is when you do the little.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that was a croon. That was a high pitched croon.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, see, I be crooning too.

[Lex P]

I. Oh, but I. But it hit Monty then. I thought you said you couldn't sing. Who you just crooned.

[Draya Nicole]

Anybody can croon.

[Lex P]

Well, croon like Monty.

[Draya Nicole]

That's just like humming. Everybody can hum. No, I feel like everybody can hum. Everybody sound good when they humming. It's when you actually try to sing the words.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause anybody can sound like good when they humming.

[Lex P]

But that's not what you did.

[Draya Nicole]

You crooned. What is that a good hum?

[Lex P]

We know that wasn't good. No, it was good. It was good.

[Draya Nicole]

I feel like everybody sound like they can sing when they humming. Let me hear yours.

[Lex P]

No, I'm not humming.

[Draya Nicole]

Do It. I was about to do it.

[Lex P]

I was. So go ahead. I don't like when people ask.

[Draya Nicole]

We want to hear it.

[Lex P]

No, you don't. You want to laugh at me.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm not going to laugh.

[Lex P]

I'll hum when Fetty Wap comes on the show.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm not going to lie about that. No, when Fetty Wap come on the show, you're gonna sing.

[Lex P]

You know what? I think that. That the reason I haven't been into the studio with any of our guests yet.

[Draya Nicole]

Stop trying to get out of her meme.

[Lex P]

It's because my first feature is gonna be with Fetty Wap.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

You know what I'm saying? 1,000%.

[Draya Nicole]

Maybe. We'll see. Well, it's the first time for everything.

[Lex P]

It is. And I think that my debut will.

[Draya Nicole]

Be with Fetty Wap.

[Lex P]

Will be with Fetty Wap. 100%. I feel like. Why not? Cause what's her India Love dropped her verse and it was good.

[Draya Nicole]

It was.

[Lex P]

She sounded real cute on the ones and twos, you know what I'm saying?

[Draya Nicole]

So it'll be Fetty and Lix P instead of Fetty and Monty.

[Lex P]

I think we need to think of, like, a name that meshes together. I don't know. I'll think of something whenever we link up. Fatty P. Yeah, something like that.

[Draya Nicole]

That's ugly. I was like, no, that's not gonna work.

[Lex P]

I liked it.

[Draya Nicole]

Hum. Where's your hum?

[Lex P]

I'm not humming. Dre told me we gotta stay on time.

[Draya Nicole]

I love how you conveniently did that. We gotta stay on time in the middle of. You supposed to be humming.

[Lex P]

We have to stay on time, sister.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay. Each other. Tom, you can't wait to build out a tune.

[Lex P]

Yeah, you like that shit. That's good. That's why you listen. I like it. Hey, that was good.

[Draya Nicole]

Bravo.

[Lex P]

I'll croon, too.

[Draya Nicole]

No, you already did these. Okay. Okay.

[Lex P]

All right.

[Draya Nicole]

So now it's time for the Poor.

[Lex P]

Decision, brought to you by Taylor Port. Shout out to Taylor Port. Always supplying us with our needs. I love me some Taylor Port. And honestly, if y' all go to the Atlanta Falcons game, y' all make sure y' all go visit at the Taylor Port Bar. It is so nice. It's like, I wasn't expecting it to be so big.

[Draya Nicole]

Yes, me either. They definitely need to go visit it. Tell them that we sent y'. All.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

You're not going to get a discount. But still, tell them.

[Lex P]

And they might be like, I don't know. Post you on the.

[Draya Nicole]

They Might give you a free drink or something.

[Lex P]

They might give you a free drink maybe. Or they might just post you on the page, give you a little shout out. I'm not. They probably not going to do none of that but just go visit the Taylor for.

[Draya Nicole]

Just go see them anyways and be like Dre Lake sent me.

[Lex P]

Yeah, just support the girls. Okay.

[Draya Nicole]

To Taylor Port. Y' all know that's what I got in my cup. Delicious and nutritious.

[Lex P]

Delicious and nutritious. You know it got them grapes in there. It do, yeah. Concord Health as well, I think. Yep.

[Draya Nicole]

Are we false advertising?

[Lex P]

I don't know.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't know what kind of grapes any, but they good.

[Lex P]

What is a Concord grape?

[Draya Nicole]

I think it's from Concord. Come on, girl. I'm just saying anything.

[Lex P]

It sounded good.

[Draya Nicole]

I know it's believable.

[Lex P]

Concord was a car. Isn't it a car?

[Draya Nicole]

I feel like people believe the things I say. Cause I look serious when I'm saying them.

[Lex P]

Yeah, you do say it with conviction.

[Draya Nicole]

I do. I could tell you anything and I might be lying.

[Lex P]

Sounds like me.

[Draya Nicole]

No, we don't believe you anyway. I don't even believe you when he be coming out your mouth.

[Lex P]

Oh my Lord.

[Draya Nicole]

You said. But what is the reason Ty? He's from where?

[Lex P]

Concord.

[Draya Nicole]

You said it is from Concord.

[Lex P]

No, she.

[Draya Nicole]

No, it's. Oh, where the fuck is Concord? Is that even a place? That's the scientific name of it though. I think Concord is definitely used for like more juices. Welshes. They get more flavor out of it and so they use it in that.

[Lex P]

But got you.

[Draya Nicole]

I think it is European though, if I'm not mistaken.

[Lex P]

So it's probably not Concord grapes, but it's some good grapes we just made up.

[Draya Nicole]

Well, I just made up a place that's probably not even a place.

[Lex P]

I'm sure there's a city somewhere called Concord.

[Draya Nicole]

Concord.

[Lex P]

Somewhere over the rainbow. Okay, poor decision. What was your poor decision this week? Week.

[Draya Nicole]

What was my poor decision this week? My poor decision this week was I be going to the gym so early now. Yeah, I go to the gym every day at 7am for the most part. So I be having to go to sleep. I try to go to sleep by like 10, 10:30 so I can get up at 6.

[Lex P]

Right, right, right.

[Draya Nicole]

Well, the other day I. I think I talked about this on a recent episode I've been watching. Bless you. I've been watching Stranger Things.

[Lex P]

Love it.

[Draya Nicole]

It has me in a chokehold. So I stayed up until 2:30 in the morning watching Stranger things the other day. And then I had to get up and go to the gym at 6am Scandalous. I was so tired. I know. I'm such a bad girl.

[Lex P]

Oh, shit. 2:30. Strange.

[Draya Nicole]

2:30. Living life on the wild side.

[Lex P]

A wild girl. What season are you on?

[Draya Nicole]

I'm on then. I'm about to be on season three.

[Lex P]

Okay, girl, when I tell you I finished that in a week.

[Draya Nicole]

Well, you know, my attention being kind of short, but I have been doing a really good job of watching it and paying attention and being consistent with watching it. So, yes, I stayed up. It was that good. I stayed up till like 2:30. And I remember what episode I stayed up and watched too, until 2:30. It was the one where the thing had got big.

[Lex P]

Dart. Oh, they're at the mall.

[Draya Nicole]

Dart had got. No, not that I ain't.

[Lex P]

Oh, you talking about the little lizard.

[Draya Nicole]

When Dart had first got big and.

[Lex P]

He ate the cat and he's a Democrat.

[Draya Nicole]

And I had to see what happened on the next episode.

[Lex P]

Cause why would he bring. Cause why the fuck would you.

[Draya Nicole]

Why would you bring it in the house? And then why would you keep it when you saw it started growing just slow? It had already started growing when he put it in that little trap.

[Lex P]

But I will say, towards the end of the season, you're gonna be happy that he did that.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Cause something happens where you're like, thank God.

[Draya Nicole]

But yeah. So I was up watching that, and then I had to get up and go to the gym. And I was just so tired. I don't even know how I made it. But I made it.

[Lex P]

But you made it. Amen, sister. My poor decision this week is being honest.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay?

[Lex P]

You know, being honest just doesn't get me anywhere. And I will continue to lie. And I lie for a reason. You know, I was honest with everyone about my car and how it's raggedy. I thought we were having a moment and we were bonding. Now every time anything is on the Internet, a meme of a raggedy car, they'd be like, lex dis you. Lex dis you. Then I ran into a listener at the store. She saw me getting in the car. She said, girl, your car ain't that raggedy. Shut up, girl. Now, you know how when you joke on something, it's for me to joke on? You can't joke on my car. Yeah, I can joke on my car. Leave me and my goddamn car alone.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

You know what I'm saying? Like, that's like growing up when my sister used to make fun of me. Like, she can make fun of me, but if somebody else said something to me, she was gonna beat your ass.

[Draya Nicole]

Right.

[Lex P]

That's how I am about my car. Don't talk about my car. Every time somebody sees a meme or it was like some skit that somebody did, and they were like, oh, when a bitch bad, but she get into a raggedy car, somebody sent that to me. They was like, lex, this. You maybe bitch, but keep that to yourself.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

You know, But I love my raggedy car. We still rocking and rolling, period.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, I mean, it really ain't that raggedy the way you be making it seem. I feel like that's why people be doing that. That's why they be sending you that stuff. Because you be acting like you really, like, in, like, a put put. Like, you be acting like you in one of them cars. You know how I be having, like, the different color paint all over it? It got the dents. She ain't got no rim. She got hub caps. You got a donut on there like, you. You got tape on your window. You'll be making it seem like the car just so.

[Lex P]

You haven't rode in it in a while, though.

[Draya Nicole]

It done been took down through there.

[Lex P]

I rode in it recently when.

[Draya Nicole]

When we went to do that interview for Atlanta News first.

[Lex P]

Oh, yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause remember, you dropped me off at home? Cause the place was right by.

[Lex P]

Oh, yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

It was my house, and I had Ubered up there instead of driving.

[Lex P]

You right? You right. It almost broke down. No, it didn't.

[Draya Nicole]

Well, it didn't. Everything still worked. The air worked, the heat worked.

[Lex P]

My thing fell out. Your wig, you know, like the air conditioner, and it got the thing over it that you open and close. It fell out, so it's just a big hole right there.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

So it feel real good.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't think it was like that when I was in there.

[Lex P]

I stuffed it back in. Cause I had company.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

But.

[Draya Nicole]

Yes, but they do need to stop. Stop sending her to me.

[Lex P]

Yes. That's not nice to tell.

[Draya Nicole]

It's not nice, y'.

[Lex P]

All. I don't think people realize how sensitive I am. Like, some of the stuff y' all be tagging me in. Like, there was this video yesterday of this lady. I guess she was getting in a fight, and she, like, punched this girl. Like, she swung. You would have thought it was like Clarissa Shields. Like, the way she just slid on this girl. Somebody was like, I thought this was Lex P. Why do I. I'm loud. Maybe a little aggressive. But when have I ever said I'm a fighter and I'm aggressive. I am not that person. I was like, I don't get it. And everybody was just laughing so hard under the comment, like, it was just so funny.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause you be saying, you big.

[Lex P]

I am big. But that don't mean I be punching people. I am not violent.

[Draya Nicole]

You have said that, too. On the show. You said you beat niggas up.

[Lex P]

I beat niggas up.

[Draya Nicole]

No, you said.

[Lex P]

I said, if I had to, I'll fight a nigga.

[Draya Nicole]

You said you would.

[Lex P]

And I said I couldn't. And I'm not gonna win. But he gonna feel me in the morning.

[Draya Nicole]

Right? But that's what I feel like you gotta think about. People will say stuff. Cause they be like, oh, well, she be joking about herself, so she wouldn'. If I said something. I think that's what people think.

[Lex P]

I mean, and I don't mind, like, some of the stuff.

[Draya Nicole]

And you joke on yourself for life.

[Lex P]

Like, when stuff is like. When they tag me in, like, the bean stuff, all that shit is funny. But I'm not gonna lie. I had a. And this is no shade to this person, but it was a picture of Magic Johnson's son, E.J. johnson. And he was dressed up, mind you. He looked very tea. But somebody gonna send it to me. It was like, legs, I thought this was you.

[Draya Nicole]

No, they didn't.

[Lex P]

On my mother. And she dead. So I meant it. Yeah, they sent that to me.

[Draya Nicole]

That's not nice.

[Lex P]

I was like, and this is no shade.

[Draya Nicole]

And y' all don't look alike. It would be different if y' all kind of looked like a favor.

[Lex P]

But I'm like, at the end of the day, it's no shame, but I'm not a man.

[Draya Nicole]

That's what I mean.

[Lex P]

I'm not a man. I was like. And then I went. And I have never done this. I went to her Instagram page and I pulled up her picture, and I said, now, if I put you on my story and asked everybody what you look like, what you think would happen? Oh, Lex, I'm sorry. I didn't mean that. I'm a big fan of this show. And I think sometimes people be thinking that's gonna make me be like. Cause I watch the show. I'm a big fan, so.

[Draya Nicole]

And you better than me? Cause I would've took it and I would've put it as my profile picture.

[Lex P]

Like, are you crazy?

[Draya Nicole]

No, I probably wouldn't have put it as my profile picture, but I would've reached one thing about Me on Twitter, I used to do that to people. I don't do it no more. Yeah but I would take they picture when they would say crazy shit to me and repost it and be like this you?

[Lex P]

Yes. I was like, are you are be fucking for real. It was very like. That's why I say I'm a very like light hearted person. I joke a lot but that's why I said this year you on they ass. Big boundaries, big boundaries. I think because I am light hearted and I play a lot and I joke a lot, people think that they can push that line with me. And I have really noticed especially I don't know what it is maybe cause the show is growing and it's more newer people tuning in. But people have just really been pushing the line with me lately and I'm like, do y' all realize like it's a human being on the other side of this camera? Like I get it. Haha Kiki. But keep it cute. Yeah, keep it cute.

[Draya Nicole]

And if you don't wanna cuss them out, tag me.

[Lex P]

But I've been working on, you know I'm playing cause not responding back. But I had to respond back to that lady cause the way she was looking I was like well it just wasn't necessary.

[Draya Nicole]

I haven't been responding to people either. I told myself last year was the last year I was responding to people. I don't respond to anybody anymore. When people are saying rude things blocks I'm not gonna respond. I won't dignify that.

[Lex P]

I have been catching my like with men. I know this sounds bad. I really don't respond to men like when they be in the comments. Cause a lot of that is like weird stuff. But sometimes when the women be tagging in cause somebody said something. Oh it was that video a while back that you had posted about our journey of like oh, starting a podcast with your best friend. And like it went viral or whatever. And a man was like dang Lex, you need to bring them titties back. And it was a woman in the comments like oh my gosh yes. She looks so much better with her titties. And I'm like, as a woman, you don't feel lame and weird as fuck sitting here agreeing with a bunch of incel lame ass niggas talking about another woman's body. Because if you had 1,000 people go, you can't even get 100 people on your page. Even if you had 50 people go on your page and talk about your body and dissect it you would not like that. So as a woman, it always shocks me when women are in my. I expect men to do that. But when women or in the comments, like, commenting on my body and things like that, it be the weirdest shit to me.

[Draya Nicole]

It's strange.

[Lex P]

It's very strange.

[Draya Nicole]

It's very strange. I just think, like you said, people forget that you're human, that we're both humans on the other side of the camera. And, like, I don't even think people think about how difficult it is to kind of, like, live your life under a microscope. Essentially. Most people couldn't do it.

[Lex P]

Thousands and thousands of people talk about you. And don't be afraid.

[Draya Nicole]

You have to have tough skin.

[Lex P]

Yes, the good outweighs the bad. Of course. I always say that. But, yeah. But, yeah, we do. We doing boundaries this year because y' all ain't got too comfortable.

[Draya Nicole]

Just block people. I'm just blocking people. This I swear. Like, I'm not responding to nobody because I feel like you really eat people up even more when you don't say to them. Because sometimes you giving them the gratification, like you giving them what they wanted. They said that person knew you don't look like ej. They said that because they wanted a response.

[Lex P]

You know, everybody, like, to be Eddie Murphy in the comments. I could have had a top comment and get a.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, get it pinned.

[Lex P]

Oh, girl, please. I just made a TikTok video about that a few months ago, and I was just like, I think it's so weird when, like, somebody says, like, I don't like being called auntie. Don't call me auntie. And they be like, okay, Auntie, whatever. Cause there's this thing going on right now where everybody is calling the boys punk. Like, oh, punk, punk, punk. What's that now?

[Draya Nicole]

It's a term for a gay guy.

[Lex P]

It's a term for a gay guy. But mind you, I guess it's like a New Orleans, Florida thing that people were saying, and they were like, oh, it's not offensive. But where I come from, like, growing up, when you call somebody a punk, that was offensive. Yeah, offensive as hell. So me seeing that and I'm seeing a lot of, like, gay men be like, hey, don't call me no punk. I don't like that. And people be in the comments like, whatever, punk. Okay, punk. And I'm like, what do y' all get out of that? Like, maybe that's, like, a generation thing. I don't know if that's, like, the Gen Z find that funny. And like I said, I have the darkest of the darkest humor. Same. But I can respect when somebody doesn't wanna be called something.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, I don't know, respect people boundaries.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

And if not, don't be upset when your ass get blocked.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

You should have known it was coming.

[Lex P]

Very, very, very strange activities. But anyways.

[Draya Nicole]

Yes. So that is our poor decision. So, yes. Let's get into topic number one.

[Lex P]

Yep, yep, yep.

[Draya Nicole]

So for topic number one, I don't.

[Lex P]

Know what made you say this.

[Draya Nicole]

What?

[Lex P]

This topic.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh. Again, I always be having the most unhinged conversations with people. Like, if y' all were able to sit in on some of my conversations that I be having just a good thing that there's nobody recording me when I be having a lot of these conversations, because I don't even know what I be talking about or how we even be getting on the topic.

[Lex P]

Right, right.

[Draya Nicole]

But I wanted to talk about. Have you ever thought about, like, when you die, when you passed away, when you kick the bucky? Have you ever thought about, like, what you gonna look like and how it's gonna happen? Because I be thinking about that all the time. Like, I like leaving out my house, looking good just for that reason.

[Lex P]

In case you get hit by a car.

[Draya Nicole]

Not hit by a car necessarily.

[Lex P]

Well, I'm just. That's so. I mean, this whole conversation is morbid.

[Draya Nicole]

That's so random, though. I feel like, how often do that happen? That people just be getting hit by cars?

[Lex P]

It happened to me.

[Draya Nicole]

It did happen to you. But that's the point that I'm making. Like, you know, one in ten people.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Draya Nicole]

You the one.

[Lex P]

I'm always the one. It's always me. Or maybe not 10.

[Draya Nicole]

Like 10 is even a small number. Like, I feel like that happens to, like, one in, like a thousand people.

[Lex P]

No, but I will say people get hit by cars a lot more than we think, though. For real. Maybe not on foot. Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Not like in another car.

[Lex P]

Yes. On bikes, pedestrians, especially in Midtown. That's why it was a whole big deal and they were trying to ban them motherfucking scooters.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

People be getting hit a lot.

[Draya Nicole]

That's fair. That's fair. I do. But I do think about that. I be like, you know. Cause then I wonder, too, like, when it happened, do I look like young. Find me the finest version of me, or am I gonna look like old 90 something year old me if I live to be that old? Like, what do you look like? Are we just like a spirit floating around? Is it just like a Light or is it like a transparent version of you that looks the same? Do I get to change my hair? Can I go get braids? Can I go get the wedding wavy? Can I switch up my look? Or am I stuck with this for eternity, infinity and beyond? I don't know. So I just think about all of these things all the time. And it's just very interesting to me because nobody actually knows what happens or what we look like, if we look like anything.

[Lex P]

So for me, I don't really think about like the afterlife and what I look like and what happens. I always think about my body on earth. Cause you know, I used to have to wear them diapers on my period, real heavy. So I'm like, if something happened to me and they discover my body with my diaper on, they gonna be talking about me bad. My diapers was big.

[Draya Nicole]

It be your.

[Lex P]

They was full. Yeah, my diapers was big and full.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So if they found my body in my diaper, I would've been like, oh my God, so shame.

[Draya Nicole]

But my mama always told me that grow up. She was always like, make sure you got on clean pennies every time when you leave the house.

[Lex P]

I don't.

[Draya Nicole]

You'll be surprised you laughing. But you would be surprised who don't be having on clean panties.

[Lex P]

That is true. But also I too, I do feel like this as well. Like I don't ever think about me myself. I always think about like my home. Like if somebody had to go in my house. Like that's why I try to. I keep my house very, very clean. Cuz I always think about if somebody had to come in here and clean this out, they gonna be like, oh my God, she was living like this.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Fact. Cause you be seeing stuff like that. Cause again, I don't mean to be too morbid, but when I went to my mom's house spick and span, outside of her being in the middle of the room, but spic and span, you know what I'm saying? Like you. I think about my, I do think about that, like panties, things being clean. But I really think about my living situation. It's like if somebody had to come in there, my laundry, stuff like that, I be trying to keep it spic and span. I guess. I don't know.

[Draya Nicole]

I guess I don't really think about that stuff because I feel like I do that anyway. I do that every week anyways.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

So like if somebody came to my house, if something was to happen, knock on wood. But like, I'm not worried about that. Because my house always be pretty clean.

[Lex P]

Right. But not everybody live like that.

[Draya Nicole]

No, I agree. I agree. That's why you should get your affairs in order if you do live like this. But if I feel like if you just live your life in that way, you don't have to worry about this stuff because your house already gonna be clean. I mean, I might have a little dirty laundry, but who don't, right? If I haven't washed since last week and it's a Wednesday and it happened.

[Lex P]

On Monday, you might catch a little draw in there.

[Draya Nicole]

You might.

[Lex P]

You might see my little diaper somewhere.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, you might see it somewhere. But no, I definitely be thinking about like what we actually. What is our appearance like in the afterlife?

[Lex P]

So I watched this movie the other day and you really need to watch it. Cause I think you would enjoy it talking about this. It's a movie called Eternity.

[Draya Nicole]

That's what I've been thinking about the whole time.

[Lex P]

You saw it? It is such a good movie. So what's the girl's name in it? The Olsen sister?

[Draya Nicole]

Olsen's.

[Lex P]

It's the youngest sister. She was in the Marvel movies. What'd you say? Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

Elizabeth Olsen.

[Lex P]

Elizabeth Olsen stars in it. So basically the movie opens and she's in the car, but she's old. It's an old couple. Long story short, both of them end up dying within a week of each other. So whenever you pass away, you go to this like halfway mark. And there's no heaven or hell. You just have to choose your eternity. But whenever you go to this halfway mark, you have to choose which eternity that you want. So some people choose to go to Paris. Some people choose to go to like the beach. Some people choose to go to like a museum world. And it's all these different choices.

[Draya Nicole]

And you gotta stay there forever.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

And you stay.

[Lex P]

You spend eternity there.

[Draya Nicole]

But the thing is, in a museum.

[Lex P]

When you pass away, you go back to when you were the happiest point in your life.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

And so it's really like a romance movie. And I cried. Did you cry? I didn't cry. I cried whenever she chose the first husband. Cause I was like, that is so mean. You spent your life with him. So basically when she passed away, her first husband that died when they were really young was there. And he had waited in the halfway for her for 67 years. And then her husband had died. So she basically had to choose. Oh, am I gonna spend eternity with you or eternity with you? It is so good. It's a really good movie. But I Feel like I don't know when that happened though. I was like, I do think I've always kind of thought that like when you pass away, you go to your youngest, freshest, healthiest, happy itself. So I always imagine that like you just go back to when you're stress free and you're healthy and you're happiest. Like it's such a good movie. I don't want to give it away because I want you to watch it, but it's a lot.

[Draya Nicole]

You know, I was telling you, I think on the show before about this show I was watching on Netflix at one point called the Good Place.

[Lex P]

I think you did tell me about that.

[Draya Nicole]

It was like, it's a good show and it's interesting too because it's kind of like, like when people die, you either go to like the good place or the bad place. I don't call it heaven or hell, but like it's the good place for the good people. Yeah, the bad place for the bad people. And she was basically a bad person. But some kind of way the paperwork got mixed up mood and she ended up in a good place. But if you go to the good place, it's like you get all of the things that you always wanted, if that makes sense. So it's like you'll have your, your dream place, like your dream home that you always, always wanted, you're living in. You'll have like your dream. Your soulmate is there. So if you weren't with your soulmate on earth, you'll be with your soulmate up there. So I don't know. It's interesting.

[Lex P]

Yeah, interesting.

[Draya Nicole]

Cuz it does just make you wonder and question and ponder over like it is. It's really good.

[Lex P]

Right? I'm gonna catch it.

[Draya Nicole]

And it's like. And it's funny. It's with. What's her name? Kristen Bell. Kristen Bell, yeah.

[Lex P]

Oh, okay. I like her.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, she's like the main character on there. And then the man, what is his name? Ted. Something from Ted Dancing from.

[Lex P]

Oh, okay. Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, so he's in there too. It's, it's a good show. But like, like I said, shows like that just always make me ponder over and wonder like, wow, like what is it really?

[Lex P]

Like, I know.

[Draya Nicole]

And like even when people say, for example, you know, people will be like. Some people have reported that like when they loved ones pass away, they come to them in different forms or they'll get signs that they're around them. Like something that I think I've talked about on the show before is when my dad passed away. Ever since he passed away, it's like whenever I'm sad, whenever I have like a sad day, a really sad day. And it's just hard for me to kind of get out of my. My funk and my mood when I'm missing him. A butterfly always lands on my balcony and stays for like hours every time.

[Lex P]

That's crazy.

[Draya Nicole]

Every time. I'm not kidding. And then also, you know how high up I live. I always be having ladybugs on my windows. And people be saying that about ladybugs too. And I mean, yeah, ladybugs fly, but that's really high up.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

You know, especially for it to be a lot of girls shut up in the house.

[Lex P]

That's a really high up.

[Draya Nicole]

Girl, shut up.

[Lex P]

No, but it is high up for a ladybug. For a ladybug supply.

[Draya Nicole]

Right?

[Lex P]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

So even with that stuff, I'm like, how does that even happen? If that really is what's happening? It's like, is your spirit. I know the butterfly. And then you fly back up there.

[Lex P]

And metamorph back into you. I don't know what be going on. Cause remember, we don't know. It is a lot though. Cause it was a time where I kept having dreams about my mom. And I knew when it was really her. Because I was always having dreams when I was talking to her. We would always be in my house in Orange. And I would feel some type of way when I woke up.

[Draya Nicole]

It was like I could like.

[Lex P]

It felt like it was so real. Versus when I would just have like a dream about her. Cause I was just thinking about her. I would just wake up and it was just like, oh, I had a dream about my mom. Versus like every time I would be like, in orange in our house. And it was like we were talking. So it's like, you wonder what is. What is the other. What is over there, what's in the upper room. I don't wanna find out no time soon.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't wanna find out no time soon either. But it's just. It is things that I think about because we have loved ones that are there. Like people that were really close to us. Like mom, my dad. And you know, I think we. Michael Jackson, we didn't know him, but.

[Lex P]

I did in my soul. Girl, shut up.

[Draya Nicole]

But even like reincarnation, like all of those things, like, I wonder if that's really true that people are like reincarnated. If we have actually lived another life and we've been reincarnated. Into these people.

[Lex P]

I hope reincarnation is not real. But imagine if you came back as like a roach, bruh. Or Monty.

[Draya Nicole]

It'll probably be a short life. Jesus. What?

[Lex P]

What if you came back as Monty?

[Draya Nicole]

I can't come back as Monty. Cause it's only one Monty.

[Lex P]

I'm just like. I'm sorry, Monty. I'm really sorry.

[Draya Nicole]

That's fucked up.

[Lex P]

I love Monty.

[Draya Nicole]

We need to name this episode. Where's Monty?

[Lex P]

It's called the Call to Action. Oh, no. I am so sorry. And see, this is why people don't. And that's why people don't feel sorry for me. Cause they like Lex. You talking about you being stupid. I'm not bullying that man. I'm sorry.

[Draya Nicole]

You are.

[Lex P]

No, I'm not. But what if I come back as a roach?

[Draya Nicole]

Or what if I come back as Monty?

[Lex P]

I'm joking. I'm just kidding. But I hope that reincarnation is not real because I. Because I'm not gonna lie to you.

[Draya Nicole]

But what if you can only come back as a person?

[Lex P]

Okay, as a person. But again, I don't know. Because obviously if reincarnation is real, we don't remember anything for our past life. But I am having.

[Draya Nicole]

As a baby.

[Lex P]

Right. But I'm having a ball in this one. I don't want. I like this one. This is a good one. Imagine in my past life, I was like a white man. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Jesus Christ. Help me, please.

[Draya Nicole]

Well, then, if you think this life is good, that one was probably better.

[Lex P]

Well, yeah, back. Back then especially, they was. They was living it large. But I don't know. But I don't know. I just. I don't know. I've been having. This is a good lifetime. I'm enjoying it. So I don't know. I try to. It's. It's a little morbid.

[Draya Nicole]

It is very morbid. But I mean, I don't know, I think I have a little bit dark humor. I'm a little morbid at times too. So I just be thinking about that stuff.

[Lex P]

Yeah. So I'm more.

[Draya Nicole]

Maybe don't really scare me.

[Lex P]

It's definitely. Well, it doesn't scare me. It's just like, I more so think about. Damn. The things I'm leaving behind.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

[Lex P]

So I want to make sure, like, I just pray that I'm blessed enough where, like, we're all old.

[Draya Nicole]

That's what I was gonna say. I just wanna live a full life.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, I want to Be able to live a full life. And to me, a full life is when people get to live, you know, to be, like, in their 80s, their 90s. Like, I think you've lived a full life.

[Lex P]

Yeah. When you see old people and they be like, damn, I woke up again. I'm ready to go. That's how I want to be. Like, I want to be like, I'm so old. Like, I'm ready to.

[Draya Nicole]

I just feel like if everybody else is gone, I'm ready to head on out.

[Lex P]

That's what I'm saying. I want to feel that way.

[Draya Nicole]

Go ahead.

[Lex P]

Do what you need to do.

[Draya Nicole]

Because that's what happened to my granddaddy.

[Lex P]

What?

[Draya Nicole]

All his friends and stuff had died.

[Lex P]

Damn.

[Draya Nicole]

And he was still alive, but he was waking up.

[Lex P]

He used to go to every.

[Draya Nicole]

He used to be pissed, but every week he was going to somebody funeral. My mama was calling and be like, what you doing? And he'd be like, oh, I'm going to so and so funeral. It was like a funeral every week.

[Lex P]

When did he die, My Granddaddy?

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, in 2015. He moved. He. No, 2016. Because he died earlier that year, right before I moved to Atlanta.

[Lex P]

Damn.

[Draya Nicole]

And he was 89.

[Lex P]

That's a long life.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, he was 89.

[Lex P]

He died the year I was born. That was the year I got my bbl. A brand new me came out that surgery room. I'm about to say the year you was born, bitch. He didn't die then. That was a brand new me.

[Draya Nicole]

That day in 2016. Yeah, that was a good year. That's when I moved. Well, oh, I mean, besides that.

[Lex P]

Uh. Oh. Uh, oh.

[Draya Nicole]

Besides Tiffany.

[Lex P]

Oops. Oh, Lord have mercy. Drea. It was okay.

[Draya Nicole]

That's when I moved to Atlanta.

[Lex P]

Yes, it was. It was. But anyway, yes, let's move on. So let us know how y' all feel about that. Do you feel like, you know, what? Do you care more about having your house and your things in order or, like, how you gonna look?

[Draya Nicole]

I think you should care equally about both. And don't be musty.

[Lex P]

Ooh, yeah. Make sure your house smell good. Everything smell good. Let them coochie lips flap in the wind. All right, air it out.

[Draya Nicole]

All right, it's time to get in the topic. Number two, It's a new year. And I know we have all of these resolutions, but January doesn't have to always be dry.

[Lex P]

It just has to be very intentional.

[Draya Nicole]

This is January ain't dry. A reminder that balance doesn't mean going without.

[Lex P]

It just means you Got to choose better.

[Draya Nicole]

So we're starting with Taylor pork. It's rich, layered and unapologetically smooth.

[Lex P]

The kind of pour that sets the tone.

[Draya Nicole]

A touch of coconut rum. Soft, soft, subtle, smooth.

[Lex P]

Delicious. Just enough to bring warmth without the distraction. Cranberry juice for brightness and fresh lime to keep everything clean and composed.

[Draya Nicole]

Finish with a lime wheel or fresh cranberry or whatever you got at your house.

[Lex P]

Simple, polished and complete.

[Draya Nicole]

January ain't dry. So now it's time to get into topic number two. So for topic number two, I want wanted to talk about are we too easy to get offended or are we addicted to being offended? Cuz I feel like every little thing you say these days is offensive to people. And we could really speak on this as people who are kind of like in the media, media personalities. Our star is rising a little bit. So I feel like we could definitely talk about like how strict it be around this bitch. People definitely get offended by every little thing. Like the climate has really changed. Some of the topics that we talk about these days. I don't know, like people are just very sensitive.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Back in the day, people used to say some wild. If we said half the stuff that people used to say in the media, in songs, on the radio, all of these things and movies, you would get canceled in 2026.

[Lex P]

Do you know who Lilitino is?

[Draya Nicole]

No.

[Lex P]

So it's this part, it's this. I don't wanna misgender her. It's this woman on TikTok. And when I tell you, even her own, like trans community, they do not fool with her because literally she will purposely go to establishments and just look for trouble and look like if somebody says, oh, hey sir, how you doing? Because before she got her corrective surgery and things like that. You know who I'm talking about? You could not, no offense. And I don't, I'm not trying to offend people, but you could not tell it was. She was very male presenting. So if somebody is waiting, you know, getting you your drinks. Hey, sir, what would you like to eat today? Excuse me. Excuse me. And then like constantly making videos like that. Constantly making. So. But I think we are at a time where we are, and this is unfortunate to say you no longer have to be talented to have followers and to make money online, you just have to have clicks. People have figured out that rage bait works. So they want to make you feel like everything is wrong. Everything. Now there's some people who their platform is really kind of like they try to fight for maybe like the Rights of people. Cause I think people kind of teeter that line with Samara on TikTok as well, because she does a lot of things for people who are fat phobic. And you know how the culture, which I will say I'm not a bigger woman, but I will say American culture we know is very fat phobic. We know that. But a lot of people say she teeters that line between really fighting for the cause or you're just being offended for rage, bae. You know what I'm saying?

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So I think it's kind of like sometimes, maybe not with her, but with a lot of people, it be a mix. Like you kind of care about the subject, but it gets the clicks.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Being offended is lucrative. Honestly. It is. Because as soon as somebody rubs you the wrong way or does something, you make a video, it goes viral. We all on your side. You know what I'm saying? Or the majority of people are.

[Draya Nicole]

I think that's fair for sure. I think people definitely do it because it's lucrative. But I also just. I just really believe everybody is just hypersensitive these days when it comes to everything.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Like people. I don't know what happened. People ain't got tough skin no more.

[Lex P]

Yeah. And like I said, I'm the most sensitive bitch in the world. I am extremely sensitive. But I can also like. It's like when I say people tag me and stuff and say I don't go off on them. I don't make a whole video about it. I either just block or I say something back and I move on. I'm not gonna spend days making videos about it. When you. The Tik Tok streets are rough.

[Draya Nicole]

I mean, and most things are opinion based.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Draya Nicole]

This is somebody's opinion nine times out of ten that you're getting offended by. Is it really that deep? If it's just what they think, it doesn't have to be the reality. It doesn't have to be your truth. It's their opinion. I don't understand why people care enough about other people's opinions that they let it up. Offended them all the time. Now, I do think sometimes people definitely say that's offensive. And it's like, who the you talking to? Like we said on the other episode, hell yeah. Who you talking to?

[Lex P]

Y Y.

[Draya Nicole]

You gots to take it there sometimes. Every once in a while you got a little know.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

But a lot of things that I think people just be taking to heart really don't be that. That deep. It just. It don't be that deep. And I think it just has a lot to do with. We live in a society now where people value other people's opinions way too much, Especially when as much as you think people care about you, they don't really care about you as much as you think they do, man.

[Lex P]

Now, that's the truth. That's the truth. But I also feel like it's a way people do it to feel morally superior. Like, you think this way. Well, you don't get it. You're not complex. You're not intel. You know how many times people have told us we're not intelligent enough to have certain conversations about certain things? And it's like, I absolutely can have this conversation. And I did. But actually, you are more ignorant. Because I cannot stand when people try to say, oh, this is stupid. You're a dumb bird, just because I don't think the way you do. That is the most ignorant shit in the world. So it's like, you're not offended by me. You're just a person who is offended by anybody who doesn't think like you, who wants to live in a world where we all think a lot. Like, who wants to live like that? And like I said, there's people who have certain lifestyles and certain beliefs and things that I do not agree with, but I understand that's what makes the world turn, is everybody being unique in their own way. But I'm not gonna get offended. You know what I'm saying? Like, yes, it's some things that offend me. Like, if somebody of a different race say they don't like black people, of course I'm going to be offended by that. But if they have an opinion, like, oh, I don't like beans. Oh, my God, you don't like beans. What have you done in your life to make you feel like you can dis the legume? You know what I'm saying? I'm not gonna do that. But that's what they do. That's how they be acting. That is like, if you don't like something that they like or you say something that they don't agree with, it's just like, they will drag you for days and days. That's why this canceling stuff. There's certain people who definitely need to be canceled. But that's why canceling is also taken as a joke. Y' all will cancel somebody because they'll be like, mm, I don't think people should really be drinking liquor anymore. And in the grand scheme of things, we really fucking shouldn't. But y', all, we drag people. Have y' all seen the weed versus alcohol wars that they have? Like, if somebody says, oh, weed is a gateway drug. People that wake up and smoke are awful. Oh, yeah, well, you liquor drinkers, y' all be killing people and y' all kidney be failing. It's just like, bro, it's all bad if you're inebriated. Whether it's weed, liquor, crack.

[Draya Nicole]

I just think, okay, enough.

[Lex P]

Okay, enough.

[Draya Nicole]

I just. Bro, I cannot. I don't know. I just think even cancel culture is crazy because people be thinking that they have way too much power. Canceling people never works anyways because you always still have a group of people that don't give a. That's gonna support people no matter what the hell they do. They just be die hard fans. I mean, we've seen what have happened with a few people over the past few years, right, who should. Should be canceled, but they are not. And people still support them because they like their music or they grew up being a fan. I just don't think it's. It's an accurate. I don't think it's something that's ever executed accurately or executed like to the point that somebody have really been canceled. Like, I'm trying to think of somebody who really got canceled.

[Lex P]

Is that Michelle? I don't think she got canceled, though. She 100% got canceled. She said it herself. She said she lost so much money. She said her bookings completely just. She said she lost a lot of friends. She said she just thought it was like a moment. She said, I necessarily didn't support Trump.

[Draya Nicole]

I just thought it was cool to.

[Lex P]

Be able to sing at a presidential inauguration. Her words. I just be feeling like.

[Draya Nicole]

But if you get canceled, do people fuck with you to begin with? Cause I think people who be having like, die hard fan bases, they cannot get canceled.

[Lex P]

But I also think it depends on what you do, though.

[Draya Nicole]

We talking about more, I guess, media and entertainment, entertainers. I think if you have a die hard fan base, no matter what, even athletes, like, no matter what you do, people don't really be canceling them.

[Lex P]

Yeah, you know what I'm interested to see?

[Draya Nicole]

I don't think Chrisette, Michelle, and I'm not saying this to be shady, I.

[Lex P]

Promise I'm not you finna Monty her.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm not about to Monty her. I'm not. Cause you, from what you said, she's.

[Lex P]

Already been Monty'd hard. Really? Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

But they didn't cancel Snoop Dogg or Nelly for performing at Trump's recent inauguration. I think that's strange. Like, you wanna pick and choose. I think they tried, but that's what I guess I'm trying to say, like, Snoop Dogg and Nellie are like Snoop Dogg and Nelly. And then I don't think Crisette Michelle had reached that point in her career yet where, like, she was just kinda like, had a place solidified.

[Lex P]

We wasn't jamming Ashton Martin that many goddamn times.

[Draya Nicole]

And we loved Ashton Martin, but we also loved it because of Drake and Rick Ross. You know what I mean? So I just feel like I don't know if she was there yet for me to feel like, yeah, you was a super powerful person that got killed.

[Lex P]

I'll be interested to see if I'm being honest, like, how things go about, like, when Nikki drops her album. If we see. Because that was a really crazy moment. You know what I'm saying? Like, of cancellation. Just because, you know, like I said this, you know, a majority of her fan base is the community.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

And a lot of them were offended. So that's when, like, we'll see if, like. Cause I don't think we've ever seen like, a cancellation on that level of a superstar that big. Because usually people, if you really notice people of that caliber, they kind of really are quiet when it comes to politics. They'll let you know who they support and they keep it quiet. But in this day and age, supporting Trump is basically aligning yourself with like. It's a very kind of like, dangerous party. Like, we can be honest. So I just. I don't know, I'm interested to see how that will play out.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause I feel like it's gonna play out the same way. Everything else been playing out with people on that level. I don't think nothing is gonna happen.

[Lex P]

Yeah. I think the backlash kind of happened, but by the time the album drops, people are gonna want to hear it.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't think people care today.

[Lex P]

Yeah. I mean, and I'm not trying to be funny. It happened with Kanye.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Cause he dropped the album and the album still. So. You know what? Now that I think about it, you are right. Like, I think sometimes you do reach a certain level where people just like, I don't care. I wanna hear the album. Like, I wanna hear what he talking about.

[Draya Nicole]

Some people are just that powerful. And the fan bases that they have created are cult followings. Like, they would have to kill somebody or do something, like, really egregious for people to be like, oh, no, I don't support them anymore. And even Sometimes in those type of situations where people do egregious things. I mean, look at what happened with O.J. simpson, allegedly. I think that's where you get into the people separating the art from the music. I am guilty of that. We're not talking about today, but I do think that there is that level of stardom and that cult following where it's like, damn, I still love you.

[Lex P]

As this artist, and I do want.

[Draya Nicole]

To hear what you're producing, but I don't feel like with you as a person, like, as a human being, I just don't rock with you anymore.

[Lex P]

Yeah, yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

And I think he's just toeing a very thin line because we're still supporting them regardless. Like, yeah, okay, I don't fuck with you as a person, but I'm streaming your music, though.

[Lex P]

But I think it's also silly, too. Like, if you choose not to support somebody, I just don't support them. I mean, I'm not gonna lie to you. It's some artists that I haven't listened to their music in. Like, who I would rather not say, because I want somebody over there on the show.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, okay.

[Lex P]

Not this person, but in that camp.

[Draya Nicole]

Got you.

[Lex P]

But I'll say it's a few artists. I literally. I don't listen to their music, but I don't feel a need to make an announcement about it. It's just my personal choice, you know? Yeah, but I don't know. I think the line is very thin, But I think there's some things that being offended about it's okay. Like, sometimes people do take it too far and things need to be said. But sometimes it's like, a lot of it is rage bait. A lot, A lot. Like, sometimes, like I've seen in the past, people make videos about us or comments, and it's just like, if you watch the show, you know, we have never intentionally sat here and tried to offend people or belittle people. Never. Now, there are people with platforms who literally do that. They literally invite people on their podcast to be like, downgrade them, berate them, everything. And we've never done that. So I can understand if I maybe said something to offend you. But for you to act like I'm purposely trying to offend you and you're trying to rally up the troops is crazy. But it also lets you show how people really feel about you. It's like, some people can't wait till we get dragged. For sure. They be so happy. Oh, I'm fin. I'm so glad y' all are finally seeing them for the birds they are, or whatever the case may be. And, like, it's like, oh, brother.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah. I also just think it's a way for people to feel morally superior.

[Lex P]

Yeah. 1,000%.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, they definitely just be feeling like, I'm offended. I would never do that.

[Lex P]

I'm offended. Yeah, they be. Like I said, it's been a couple people who have actually made videos about us and be hooping and hollering what we should have did and then walk they ass right into our faces. Oh, my God. Hey, girl. Went to the kitchen, ate all our food.

[Draya Nicole]

Damn. Oh, my God. Yes, that did happen that time.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

1000, she was in there tearing them wings. The pizza, she had a few slices.

[Lex P]

Yeah, it was a wild day.

[Draya Nicole]

It was a wild day.

[Lex P]

But, you know, it happens. It happens.

[Draya Nicole]

It was crazy. I mean, it definitely happens. And we just always. So nice. Hey, girl, what's up?

[Lex P]

Yeah, I see everything, and I don't give a fuck. I search my name, Lex.

[Draya Nicole]

You do? Lex, do search her name, Lex.

[Lex P]

Draya. Draya Nicole. Poor minds. I see it all and see, I.

[Draya Nicole]

Don'T be seeing stuff.

[Lex P]

I never say I see it all.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, but I know y' all be talking shit. That's why I don't need to search.

[Lex P]

Especially on TikTok, because, you know, I.

[Draya Nicole]

Already know if I look it up, it's gonna be there.

[Lex P]

See, tweets are a little different because you just type something and send it out. But when people actually sit there to make a video about something, that's when it's just like, like, okay, were they impersonating y'? All? No, she was just ranting, giving advice that she wasn't qualified to give about.

[Draya Nicole]

A situation that happened. But, yeah, I don't know. I just think everybody needs to take a chill pill, Smoke a little weed.

[Lex P]

Smoke a little crab, a little edible.

[Draya Nicole]

Y' all need to do something to, like, relax y' all mind, for real, because y' all be just getting offended by everything.

[Lex P]

Somebody got mad at me because they was like, lex, enough with the crack talk. It's very. It's a dangerous drug.

[Draya Nicole]

But I could see how. But I can see how maybe that might offend somebody who have a crackhead mother.

[Lex P]

I don't mean it like that, though.

[Draya Nicole]

I know, but I'm saying to somebody who is easily offended, they probably. Maybe it's triggering for them because every time you bring it up, they think about her on that page.

[Lex P]

Sometimes I feel like a motherless child.

[Draya Nicole]

Will.

[Lex P]

O. J. I was trying to Force a tear out. All right, hold on.

[Draya Nicole]

Y' all know me. Alex be playing.

[Lex P]

Okay, what we got next? So now it's time to get into the. Bow the bitch, bow the bit. Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow, bow. All right, y', all, we are getting into the bed topic. And y' all know, per usual, it is brought to you by Salt. Xo, listen, whatever you need. This is a wellness brand. Clean that coochie up. Get it together. They have so many products. They have travel sizes. Whatever you need. Y' all know I don't go nowhere without that Salt xl. Okay, so for the bad topic, today, we are gonna talk about hookup etiquette.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay?

[Lex P]

Now, you know me and Draya are in our mid-30s. We don't necessarily like to promote hookup culture, but we know we have a younger audience. So y' all gonna do that anyway.

[Draya Nicole]

Y' all gonna do what y' all want. We was hooking up.

[Lex P]

We was definitely hooking up. You know what I'm saying?

[Draya Nicole]

I was hooking up. I was cutting up all of the ups.

[Lex P]

I used to love a good hookup, you know what I'm saying, back in my day. So we wanted to give y' all some hookup etiquette so y' all can navigate, you know, your hookup days properly and enjoy your hookups. Cause I will say this. It's so many women my age or older, and they talk about dating in their 20s and how horrible it was and how their exes and this and that. I had a ball.

[Draya Nicole]

I had a ball.

[Lex P]

I had a ball.

[Draya Nicole]

I did, too. Especially in my 20s.

[Lex P]

Yes. Like, I truly feel like when I'm married and I'm settled down, I'm never gonna feel like, oh, my gosh, I missed out. Like, I did everything. But it was because I had hookup. Okay.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah. So it's a few things that I think that you should do. Well, to be honest, I mean, I. I mean, I'mma tell y' all not to do it. It's not that I don't think you should do it. Cause I've done this, actually. But number one is don't ghost. I believe in ghosting people, actually.

[Lex P]

Mm. I think after you've been intimate with somebody, we don't gotta text and sit on the phone all day, but it's nice to just. You can shoot a nice text message or something. You know what I'm saying? Even if it's not about. Even if you just made it home, hey, I made it home. Something little or, hey, did you make it home? Safely, like you can be. You can treat people like a human being. And I think that's where hookup culture gets really nasty and weird. Y' all would be fucking on somebody and act like you can't treat them like a human being. It's like, you can check in with somebody. Hey, you straight? How you been? Oh, I was just checking in to say hi. Have a good day. That's it. You know what I'm saying? Now, unless they did something to offend you or.

[Draya Nicole]

But that's what I'm saying. Like, I don't.

[Lex P]

The sex wasn't good. It's things like that. Or even if they did, you can be like, you know what? Hey, that was fun. I'm no longer interested and go my separate ways. You know what I'm saying?

[Draya Nicole]

I don't know. Maybe I think again, because people get offended so easily, maybe it's that people know that they're not gonna take rejection well. So they like, okay, well, let me just ghost them. Because I'm not trying to get into it with you. Not trying to go back and forth, forth with you or have no discourse with you about why I don't want to talk to you no more. I just don't want to talk to you. And people will get offended, right? You never know. Might pop up at your house, might pop up at your job.

[Lex P]

People are crazy over a hookup is crazy.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, but you never know, especially when you don't know that person. Like, you don't know them, so you don't know how they might react. So I think in certain situations, people probably just think it's easier to go, yes. Now me, it really wasn't about nothing being easy. I just go away from me with these Apollo. I'm just done. I don't. And I don't have anything to say.

[Lex P]

I think another one is, this is gonna get. I know y' all like that raw. That raw meat. You like that sushi. Y' all needs to wrap it up. I know sometimes you hook up with somebody. Y' all been hooking up for so long and this and that. But even if you are in a relationship, I know things get a little stickier when you have the commitment of a relationship. Marriage, of course, is different. But if you are hooking up and y' all are not, have no kind of commitment to each other, y' all 100% need to be using a condom. Like it's a non negotiable, like hooking up, no commitment. It needs to be a condom on. I don't care what he say. I ain't gonna nut with a condom on. We gonna have to go beat your meat. We need to. Now we need to stand 10 toes on that one.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, glove.

[Lex P]

Glove it up. Wrap that dick up. Y' all do not. They be careless with that meat, you know what I'm saying? They do. So I think with hookup etiquette is 100% condoms protection should be used at all times.

[Draya Nicole]

Yes, for sure. I think that you should share your partners. Like, you should let somebody know that if you hook it up with somebody.

[Lex P]

Thought you meant like sharing with your friends.

[Draya Nicole]

What do you mean?

[Lex P]

Like, oh, I just hooked up with this. Come get you some. No. Why would I say that? I don't know. Cause you said share your partner, share your.

[Draya Nicole]

I feel like if you're having sex with other people, you should share it with the person that you hooking up with. You should let them know. And I feel like it doesn't matter whether you using protection with all of these other people or not. You should let them know. Like, I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm kind of of just having fun. I'm not going to lie. Like, I'm talking like two or three other people right now. Like, you should let somebody know and give them the option of whether they want to be in a situation like that. Because realistically speaking, I think a lot of people like to believe that they can go into a hookup situation and not catch feelings. But especially for women, a good majority of the time, it's inevitable that if you having sex with one person consistently and y' all are being intimate, you're gonna start having feelings.

[Lex P]

Yeah, of course.

[Draya Nicole]

And you might not want to be in a situation where you hooking up because you know you probably gonna catch feelings for this person where they're dealing with other people and they know that they're not trying to be in a monogamous relationship or it's not moving that way, shall I say? Because it is and has been situations where people have hooked up and it turned into a long term relationship. But sometimes that's literally not what somebody is looking for. Like, they just want to hook up with you.

[Lex P]

Right. And I think that that's another good point too. It's like you can't switch up.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Like, if you agree to, like, oh, we're just hooking up, this is gonna be fun. Very casual. You can't three months in, decide, you know what? Well, I don't want you talking to nobody else. And it's kinda like, mm, that's not what y' all agreed on. Now, if one person brings it up and the other person maybe agrees, that's a little different. But if you bring it up, you cannot get mad at that person. If they're like, hold on, that's not what they said. So you're taking a risk by bringing it up because that person can be like, you know what? I think your feelings are getting too caught up and I might wanna cut this. I wanna cut this off.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So it's like, I think that's something. If you have an agreement, you need to stay in it. You know, sometimes it's time to reevaluate. You know how you, like, hire somebody in 90 days, y' all get an evaluation.

[Draya Nicole]

Mm.

[Lex P]

Sometimes I think with hookup etiquette, let's do a 90 day evaluation. Are we still continuing this? What? Is there anything that you wanna take away?

[Draya Nicole]

We had a change of heart.

[Lex P]

Yeah. You know, sometimes you might wanna do a little add on. Sometimes I want a little mashed potatoes with my steak. I can add on something if I want to, but we need to discuss it.

[Draya Nicole]

Sometimes I want a little A1 sauce.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Which means, you know, maybe somebody new.

[Lex P]

That too. That too. I might want that Wagyu. Not that strip.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

You feel me?

[Draya Nicole]

Not today.

[Lex P]

Not today. So I feel like communication with hookups are really important because that's where things get misconstrued. People get their feelings hurt. This is when you see the girl and the boys fighting on TikTok, arguing on this and that. They posting people this, posting people that stop treating people like they're not humans. You can talk to somebody you're fucking and let them know how you feel. Hey, this is not working for me. And then honestly, too, with hookups, if I'm hooking up with somebody, I don't really want you to stay the night either.

[Draya Nicole]

Mm.

[Lex P]

I don't really like when I was hooking up back in my day, there was just a little hookup. One, two. I did not. Oh, my God. I remember one time I hooked up with this guy and like, I woke up and he was still there. And it was just kind of weird. Cause usually, you know, we had a drunken night. Usually niggas wake up at like 6 o' clock in the morning when they sober up and leave. He was still there, mind you. I'm like getting ready for work. Ooh. What he was doing? Just laying there. Yeah, just laying there.

[Draya Nicole]

He was laying out, looking at you. Get ready.

[Lex P]

Yes. And I'm just kinda like, well, I'm finna go to work. He was like, oh, shit. Uh, oh, okay. All right. I'm finna go. And I was like, he was unhoused. Let me tell you something. On my life, this is when I lived on the east side.

[Draya Nicole]

You let him lay there while you was getting up?

[Lex P]

I had to go to work.

[Draya Nicole]

I would have went and tapped him. Excuse me.

[Lex P]

I kept telling him to get up. He was like, oh, yeah, I got. Do you all know I went to work my shift and I came back and that nigga was still.

[Draya Nicole]

You left him at your house?

[Lex P]

I had to go to work, girl, so. And he would have had to get the fuck out, Girl, when I tell you I was so.

[Draya Nicole]

You're crazy.

[Lex P]

I was so mad.

[Draya Nicole]

You're not the nigga you hooked up.

[Lex P]

With in your house while you knew it. We were hooking up, though. I knew him.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, it wasn't the first time. You know who he was. It wasn't the first time.

[Lex P]

No.

[Draya Nicole]

I thought you were saying this is the first time.

[Lex P]

No, we had been hooking up. But, like, every time we would hook up, it would be like, on a drunk night, whatever. And it was like, I. And most of the time, I would go to his house. So I would. I never stayed the night. I would always either Uber home if I was drunk and I. Like, if I was drunk or something and my car was there. Like, I would wake up super early and leave. When I came home, it was like. Then he had my fruit snacks.

[Draya Nicole]

Ooh, not them wilches.

[Lex P]

Yeah. It was such a weird thing. And I promise you, I never. And then.

[Draya Nicole]

But you never let him come back after.

[Lex P]

Never. Yeah. No. I'm not even gonna get into the details of it. Cause I'm gonna be telling myself too much, which. We'll save that for a Patreon story. It was, like, really vital that he left my house. Like, you need to leave.

[Draya Nicole]

But did he stop your toilet up?

[Lex P]

No, no. Cause it was something else going on. I had another, you know, little situation. Oh. So, like, you're here just hanging out. You need to leave, like, immediately. So, yeah, hookup. That don't mean you're staying the night. And if you are staying the night, it needs to be discussed. Like, you know, hey, I don't mind. You come stay tonight. We gonna kick it. Whatever. But most of the time, it's kinda like, hook up and take your ass home big.

[Draya Nicole]

You're supposed to leave.

[Lex P]

Yes. Once that itch gets scratched, hit the road. Jack the motherfuck on.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay. Immediately pack Your shit and go. But yes. So that is our hookup etiquette. If you gonna hook up, you know, be safe in these streets.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

And always use your salt xo.

[Lex P]

Use your salt, xo. I feel like that's the last rule if y' all gonna be hooking up, especially after the club. Make sure you fresh down there, men and women. Wash that dick off real quick.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause I feel like that's good for musty balls, too.

[Lex P]

It is. It really is. Get that funk off. Get that booty hole.

[Draya Nicole]

Yes.

[Lex P]

You've been twerking all night. Leave me alone.

[Draya Nicole]

So, yes. And also salt XO definitely has curble size. So if, you know you trying to go on a little hookup mission, you can always put it in your little bag with you. And you can keep one in your car, so you ain't got to use the dial sole.

[Lex P]

So, yeah, I think hookups. We need to do another whole bag thing. We keep saying that. We are.

[Draya Nicole]

We're gonna do one. We're gonna do one. Because you need to have Sidexo in your whole bag.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Shout out to salt xo. So now it's time to get into the bop. Hey, the bop bow. The bop Bow, Bow, bow, bow, bow. All right, y'. All. So my bop of the week, you know, I be staying in tune with the kids. Okay, My bop of the week. I actually have made her my bop of the week before. Her name is Ms. Trim. She's from Charleston. And y' all know I love Charleston. Shout out to my bestie, Clay. Shout out to Charleston. So she has a song that she came out with. I forgot the other girl's name. That's so messed up. But she came out with a song with a girl. Her name is Sunshine. It's called Trump the Bill. And it's a vibe like, I love when the girls be popping they shit and just talking that shit on the track. And it's a really cute song. It's giving. I wish they would have dropped it, like, closer to Summertime, you know? But it does what it needs to do. So trump the bill, Ms. Trim and Sunshine. That's my bop of the week, period. Okay. Purr.

[Draya Nicole]

So I was listening to Wale album the other day. Everything is a lie. And I like some of his songs on his album. So shout out to Wale.

[Lex P]

You said you like which one?

[Draya Nicole]

Some of his songs on the album.

[Lex P]

Oh, okay. Shout out to Wale. I need to really, like, do a thorough, thorough.

[Draya Nicole]

I feel like Wale always come out with really good albums. Like, you know, he's an intellectual, so he's a storyteller. He's a storyteller.

[Lex P]

A storyteller. For sure. For sure. All right, and y', all, I love when y' all send me new music. So y' all make sure y' all keep dming me your, you know, your fave artist, your new artist, especially if it's R and B. I love when y' all put me on to new stuff.

[Draya Nicole]

All right, so now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show, which is pour your heart out. You know, if you have any questions, you can send them to ask poorminds Gmail dot com. That's a S K P O U R M I N D sgmail.com.

[Lex P]

Hey, Dre and Lex, I just want to say that I love y', all, hands down, and watch you guys every Friday morning when you listen. Every Friday morning. So I'm single, In my early 30s, no kids, and just living my best life. But lately, my sexual experiences have been showing me either I'm not as freaky as I say I am, or I should be. So I was messing with this guy and was having casual sex. Everything was going good, and we was really feeling each other. We started kissing each other, and then he passionately whispered for me to open my mouth. Now, mind you, I'm not that freaky for real. So I thought he was gonna probably lick my lips or something. Regular freaky shit. So I proceeded to open my mouth and was noticing how quiet it got before I looked up and saw a glob of spit coming from his mouth to mine. Y', all, I panicked. I pushed his ass off of me, offended as fuck, and I put my panties back on and left. Over time, I noticed that men actually do that more often during sex, and I always look immature when I'm against it. So, as a woman in my 30s, is that normal to get spit on during sex nowadays?

[Draya Nicole]

Can I say, Lex, these acting classes definitely pay off.

[Lex P]

Cause I'm over here, like. Like, what is going on? I'm practicing. I am a thespian. Okay. All right.

[Draya Nicole]

I mean, I don't know. I think that was normally your 20s, too, but I don't know. I like a little. I done talked about that before. I like a little speak during sex. Some people don't like that, though. It freak them out.

[Lex P]

It does. But I do think, like, spitting in the mouth, like spitting each other's mouth, I. I do enjoy that. But I do think that's for some. Something like, I wouldn't necessarily say that's like, hookup thing, though. I've always done it with people.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, yeah, no.

[Lex P]

Yeah. So she said they were hooking up. So I think if you're hooking up with somebody, spit in the mouth is. It's.

[Draya Nicole]

You just need to know who you dealing with. Like, it needs to be with your man. It needs to be with your man, cuz I feel like you can get real nasty with your man.

[Lex P]

Real nasty. So you with a hookup person.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, if you was hooking up with somebody, what if y' all hooking up after the club and it's like. Like 3am And y' all just finished eating some wings and then he spitting your mouth and he's like a chicken piece.

[Lex P]

Ooh, hot sauce and Hennessy.

[Draya Nicole]

I would throw up. I would literally throw up. Like, that's. That's just the type of stuff I think about. And maybe I'm always taking it too far left. But like, somebody that you don't know. You don't know how clean they are. I don't know. Like, what if he spit something in your mouth?

[Lex P]

Oh. And honestly, a lot of times people don't know how to spit in each other's mouths. It should not be. It's a dribble. It should not be a loogie. It's none of that, bitch.

[Draya Nicole]

It's like a little stick.

[Lex P]

Yes, it is. Like, when people say spit and tongue, you're not supposed. It's none of that.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause that's coming from way back.

[Lex P]

Yes, it's a spit. Cause your mouth should already be. You should have a wet mouth. That mouth need to be wet, so it should just naturally fall from your mouth. But I also think spitting in your mouth is not like something you just do. I don't think. I think that's a conversation that needs to be had.

[Draya Nicole]

It's something that needs to be had for sure. But definitely certain shit will kill the move. Cause if you do a. Yeah, it might be a little flu in there. Cause that's coming from way back. I don't like that.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that's too much. Like, it's definitely like, you know, you kissing somebody, that mouth wet. They lift up and, you know, you just let it. You just let it exchange.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, it's a conversation you gotta have.

[Lex P]

Yeah, you definitely just don't spit in somebody mouth.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause everybody's not into that neither. Some people really do not like speed.

[Lex P]

I don't. You don't like spit on.

[Draya Nicole]

I agree with her. I would have passed the fuck out don't spit on me. I just start liking semen. Okay, you say you just started liking wigs?

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, I used to just not like it on me at all.

[Lex P]

Now I don't mind it.

[Draya Nicole]

But like, also that's because I'm in a relationship with somebody and I'm not comfortable with it. But that is something that we addressed early on. Like, we're not doing the spit thing. So I feel you sister don't feel.

[Lex P]

Yeah, don't.

[Draya Nicole]

You ain't gotta be that freaky.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Like, if you don't want to do something in the bedroom. And honestly, like I said, that's something that you ask somebody beforehand if they. They even like that.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Okay. I seen a clip today of this lady who said that she enjoys putting her man's semen and she use it. And people was like, it's not working, sis. She really did have bad skin. They was like, you need a new product.

[Draya Nicole]

You need a new manufacturer.

[Lex P]

Oh, I said, that ain't drinking that. Got that battery acid burning her the up.

[Draya Nicole]

What the going on with you?

[Lex P]

Yeah, it was. It was not good way. Y' all give us some advice in the comments. You know, a little spit in the mouth. You know, I don't mind it, but that's. That's. I don't mind it, you know? All righty. Is that it?

[Draya Nicole]

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[Lex P]

I know that's right. Eat them on up. And y' all know they do.

[Draya Nicole]

They do.

[Lex P]

They look real thick and long.

[Draya Nicole]

They do. I can see it from over here.

[Lex P]

Yeah, they long individually. Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

My lashes, my real lashes are pretty long, but that's also cause I let them grow back. Cause I haven't been wearing extensions for a long time. So. Yeah.

[Lex P]

All right, y'. All, per usual, y' all know we have the Bottled up segment. So if you wanna get something off your chest, make sure you send us a little short 30 second voicemail. You know, this is sponsored by Taylor Port, and we like to hear y' all venture. So go ahead.

[Draya Nicole]

Hey, ladies. I love y'. All. Shout out to my girl Jerry, Nicole and my girl xp. Shout out to the whole poor crew. We going up. I'm so proud of everything that y' all have been accomplishing. Had to say that first and foremost. Now, please let me Know if I'm a bad person for dating people and if there's something that's off with them, I immediately get the ick like I could feel with them heavy. But if they got a lazy eye, I can't do it. I can't do it. If the belly too big, it's bigger than mine. Are your titties bigger than mine? Come on now. I'm a beat cup. Why you got a beat cup too? We can't be twinning. Am I wrong?

[Lex P]

Am I wrong?

[Draya Nicole]

This ain't even the pour your heart out segment. But baby, is it? I don't know. Just help me. I don't know if I'm a bad person. I don't want to be vain, but I. I just can't deal with people that look a certain way. You know what I'm saying?

[Lex P]

I mean, I don't. I think Everybody has preferences 100%.

[Draya Nicole]

You know, from what it sound like, you don't like a chubby. You are not a chubby chaser. That is okay. It's okay that you don't like that. I don't think that's wrong. If you want somebody who have both their eyes, that's okay too. I don't see nothing wrong with that. That's not too much. You're the one that keep bringing. You know what, see preferences, go ahead. But preferences are okay. It is okay that you have a preference. I don't even think anything is wrong with vanity. Some people like to date people that they are physically attracted to. And some that's what they need in the relationship. For them to be happy and for them to be able to be faithful and be content with that person. They need to be physically attracted to them. Then you have people who, they don't really care that much about physical attraction. That's not what stimulate them. They're more into like the intellect, the conversation, the chemistry. Some people need all of it, right? You probably one of the people that need all of it. And it's not anything wrong with that. Agreed.

[Lex P]

1000.

[Draya Nicole]

Now if you being mean to people, it's okay to just turn a dude down because he not your type. But if you like being like. If you wanted them girls that be a dude walk up to you trying to holler at you and he like, ugh, yeah. Or why would you try to talk to me? I don't even like you. You got titties that ain't. That ain't really nice.

[Lex P]

I think it's a way to go about it. Cause if you're a nice person. You're a nice person. Just because you're a nice person doesn't mean you have to be attracted to everybody that hit on you. Yeah. Just because a man may be good on paper, but you're not attracted to him, that's okay. And I think that men try to do that to women, make us feel bad, because maybe we don't want the guy that's good on paper. But just because he's good on paper paper doesn't mean he's a good fit for me. So don't let people guilt you into liking your type or your preference. Jab.

[Draya Nicole]

Exactly.

[Lex P]

All right, y' all see. We did good on timing today, y'.

[Draya Nicole]

All.

[Lex P]

Make sure y' all tune into Love Lex P. Every single Monday at 10am of course, y' all can follow me on Snapchat to get my my daily updates and everything that's going on with the Sanctuary. So follow me there at lexp05.

[Draya Nicole]

Period. Make sure y' all shop muse beautycollection.com.

[Lex P]

And follow me at dreyanicole and poorminds.com. get your still sipping tour tickets right now. We'll see y' all next week. Bye, y'. All. Baby, can't you see I'm calling? A guy like you should wear a warning? It's dangerous, I'm falling, there's no escape I can't wait? I need a hit, baby, give me it. You're dangerous, I'm loving it too high, can't come down? Losing my head spinning round and round?

[Draya Nicole]

She be doing it these days?

[Lex P]

Do you feel me now? With the taste of your lips? I'm on a ride? You're toxic, I'm slipping? With the taste of your poison paradise? I'm addicted to you? Don't you know that you're toxic? And I love what you do? Don't you know that you're toxic? Uh oh, it's getting late to give you up? I took a sip from my devil's cup? Slowly it's taking over me? Too high, can't come down it's in the air and it's all around? Can you feel me now? With the taste of your lips? I'm on a ride? You're toxic, I'm slipping? With the taste of a poison paradise? I'm addicted to you? Don't you know that you're toxic? And I love what you do? Don't you nerv that you're toxic? Break it down, Dre.

[Draya Nicole]

It sound like a horror movie.

[Lex P]

It is a horror movie. Free Britney. Oh, she already free at the end of it.

[Draya Nicole]

Like the well, not the end of the beat. Don't it sound like something that's like on a horror movie?

[Lex P]

Maybe taste of your lip shine on a rhyme. Oh, I was too early.

[Draya Nicole]

You was.

[Lex P]

You're toxic. I'm slipping under.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

Don't you know that you're toxic? Period poo.

[Draya Nicole]

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