Which One Of Yall

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast - Episode: "Which One Of Yall" Release Date: December 27, 2024 Host/Authors: Drea and Lex Produced by: 85 South Media

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1. Embracing the New Year: Hope and Positivity

As the hosts, Drea and Lex, kick off the episode, they delve into the significance of welcoming the New Year with a mindset of hope and positivity. Lex emphasizes the importance of not just setting intentions but actively striving to achieve them.

Lex (01:03): "This is gonna be an episode about hope and faith and positivity. I feel like that's how you have to bring in the new year."

Drea echoes this sentiment, reinforcing the idea that mere jotting down of goals isn't sufficient without the accompanying effort.

Drea (43:11): "You can't just write some things on a board and think, oh, I wrote this on the board. So this is gonna happen in 2025. It's gonna be my year."

2. Setting Goals for 2025

Drea's Goals: Drea shares her aspirations for the upcoming year, focusing on personal growth and business expansion.

• Acting Ambitions: Motivated by her friend Belynn's passion, Drea plans to take acting classes seriously, aiming to venture into comedic acting.

  Drea (11:07): "I want to focus on my acting for me, but I also want to surround myself with people who motivate me in different ways."

• Scaling Muse Beauty: Despite Muse Beauty being her passion project, Drea aims to elevate it from the "back burner" to a forefront business by launching new products quarterly, initiating brand ambassador programs, and targeting placements in major retailers like Sephora and Ulta.

  Drea (17:42): "I'm very proud of Muse. In the past two years, I've made almost six figures without any promotion from others."

Lex's Goals: Lex outlines her objectives centered around personal development and maintaining a balanced life.

• Continuous Learning: She has overcome her initial struggles with acting classes and looks forward to further honing her skills.

  Lex (15:26): "Acting is hard, but I went to the beginner's class and it's something I look forward to."

• Supporting Friends and Community: Lex aspires to create opportunities for other Black women in podcasting, making it easier for them to share their voices.

  Lex (24:19): "I want to make it easy for everybody who's Black, woman, whatever you want to sit on a couch and talk about."

3. Reflecting on Past Episodes and Memorable Guests

Drea and Lex reminisce about standout moments and guests from the past year, highlighting the impact these interactions had on their journey.

• T-Pain: A full-circle moment for the hosts, bringing their experience from appearing on T-Pain's show back to their own podcast.

  Drea (29:53): "Having him come on Poor Minds was like a full circle moment."

• Queen Leora and Cash Doll: Celebrated for their vibrant personalities and the fresh perspectives they brought to the conversations.

• Devale: Noted as the most-watched episode within a specific timeframe, Devale's insights into a happy, long-term marriage resonated deeply with the audience.

Drea (31:37): "Devale was like really dope. Having a man on the show that's married and speaks highly of his wife was refreshing."

4. Navigating Social Media: The TikTok Dilemma

A significant portion of the discussion revolves around the potential shutdown of TikTok, drawing parallels to the demise of Vine. The hosts express concern over platform instability and the importance of diversifying their online presence.

Lex (47:56): "If Vine can shut down, it's very possible TikTok can too. That's why it's important to utilize all the apps and be posting consistently."

Drea highlights the robustness of their multi-platform strategy, ensuring their content reaches audiences beyond TikTok.

Drea (86:33): "We have followers on other apps like Instagram and YouTube, so it's not as bad."

5. Announcing "Poor Chronicles"

Exciting news for listeners as Drea and Lex unveil their new show, "Poor Chronicles," set to launch on Patreon on September 2nd. This spin-off promises interactive segments like challenges, live chats, and exclusive content tailored for their dedicated audience.

Lex (28:31): "We're gonna be doing talk to me, chit chat with me, spilling a little tea off. Everything y'all been wanting to see, we're going to be doing it right here on Patreon."

6. Open Conversations: Sex Talk with Friends

In this segment, Drea and Lex explore the boundaries of discussing one's sex life within friendships. They debate what should remain private versus what can be openly shared, emphasizing respect and personal comfort levels.

Lex (77:54): "There are certain things that go in the bedroom that I just keep to myself, more so about me and his bond."

Drea adds that honest communication and aligning with like-minded friends can strengthen these conversations without leading to misunderstandings.

Drea (79:57): "Sometimes people have different friendship styles. It's about being friends with people that align with you and understand you."

7. Listener Engagement: "Pour Your Heart Out"

The episode features the popular segment where listeners send in questions and testimonials. One notable question addressed financial strain in a relationship, with Lex offering candid advice on balancing responsibilities and expectations.

Listener Question (95:31):
"My boyfriend and I are struggling financially as we're both 23. I'm paying most of the bills while we decided to go 50/50. What should I do?"

Lex (96:07):
"If you agreed on 50/50 and he's not showing up, you're teaching him to depend on you. At 23, he should be able to contribute."

Drea supports Lex's perspective, advocating for fairness and accountability within financial contributions in relationships.

8. Final Thoughts and New Year Cheers

As the episode wraps up, Drea and Lex announce their new ebook and e-course bundle, "Pour Into Your Pod," designed to help aspiring podcasters launch successful shows. They also introduce the "Item of the Week" segment, encouraging listeners to promote their products or businesses.

Drea (41:52):
"We have a brand new ebook and e-course bundle, 'Pour Into Your Pod.' Head to pourminds.com to purchase your copy."

Concluding with festive vibes, the hosts share a celebratory toast, singing snippets of memorable songs and reinforcing the community spirit of their podcast.

Lex (99:20):
"Happy New Year! We'll see y'all next week. Make sure you share the content, subscribe, and follow all that good stuff."

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Key Takeaways:

• Active Goal Setting: Success in achieving New Year’s resolutions hinges on actionable plans beyond mere intentions.
• Diverse Aspirations: Both hosts balance personal growth with entrepreneurial endeavors, showcasing the multifaceted nature of their lives.
• Platform Diversification: Emphasizing the importance of maintaining an online presence across multiple platforms to mitigate risks associated with any single platform’s instability.
• Authentic Connections: Building and maintaining friendships based on mutual understanding and clear communication fosters a supportive community.
• Engaging Content: Reflecting on past successes and introducing new projects demonstrates the podcast's continuous evolution and commitment to its audience.

Notable Quotes:

• Lex (01:03): "This is gonna be an episode about hope and faith and positivity."
• Drea (43:11): "You can't just write some things on a board and think, oh, I wrote this on the board."
• Lex (47:56): "If Vine can shut down, it's very possible TikTok can too."
• Lex (77:54): "There are certain things that go in the bedroom that I just keep to myself."
• Lex (96:07): "If you agreed on 50/50 and he's not showing up, you're teaching him to depend on you."

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Transcript

[A]

I think anything works. As much as you put the effort in. As much as you put the work in.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You can't just write some on a board and think, oh, I wrote this on the board. So this is going to happen in 2025. It's going to be my year.

[B]

What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's.

[A]

Your girl Dre and Nicole.

[B]

And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds, where a drunk.

[A]

Mind speaks sober thought.

[B]

We ain't got no guest today. We ain't got no guests today.

[A]

And it's New Year's.

[B]

Oh, a new year.

[A]

I love a new year. So bring it on.

[B]

Bring it on. So I want y'all to know, this episode, we're gonna be reminiscing, but we're also going to be expiring. This is gonna be an episode about hope and faith and positivity. I feel like that's how you have to bring in the new year. Bare Minimum. I get it. We depressed, we sad. Life is hard. But bare minimum, Please, at midnight, January 1st, bring in that new Year with hope, faith. And if you don't do it on January 1st. Hey, try again on the 2nd. Try again on the 3rd. Just keep trying yourself off and try again. Come on, rock that boat and tell them.

[A]

I'm telling them. I just told him what you did. Dust yourself off and try again. If at first you don't succeed. She was on to something when she said that. Because it's a fact.

[B]

Don't stop, don't stop.

[A]

Won't stop believing.

[B]

And that was a good one. Sorry. You know, I go this way with the Don't Stop. And you go.

[A]

I was going, can't stop. Won't Stop. Rockefeller Records. Cause we get down.

[B]

I got it.

[A]

We get down. Girls. Girls that love us. Okay.

[B]

See? Come on, Rat.

[A]

Ain't that Ice Cube? Don't stop. You can hit it.

[B]

We gonna do it. We gonna do it. We gonna do it.

[A]

Do it, do it.

[B]

Oh, my God. I knew I would.

[A]

Put your into it, into it. Put your into it.

[B]

I used to want to go. So y'all have to realize, when I was younger, I could. I thought when I went to the club, they were gonna play Ice Cube.

[A]

He said, don't stop. Get it, get it for real.

[B]

Don't stop.

[A]

You can hit it. I will.

[B]

We gonna do. Wait, wait. You gotta finish it. We gonna do it.

[A]

We gonna do it.

[B]

We gonna do it.

[A]

Do it, do it.

[B]

Oh, my God. I wanted to be in the Club when they played that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Do y'all know when the adults were in the club when that came out? They had a ball of time.

[A]

It remind me of Friday afternoon. That party looked so crunk.

[B]

Oh, yes. Crunk. It wasn't lit. It wasn't jumping.

[A]

It was crunk.

[B]

It was crunk.

[A]

That party looked so crunk. That party at the apartment that they was about to get evicted from. Mm. Merry Christmas, new. Merry Christma. Mr. Nickel. What's up, nickel?

[B]

Sup, Nick? Yes. That's what I was gonna say, too. Oh, my God. They did in the club.

[A]

All the party in the club. I like the dance battle, personally. I have always wanted to go to the club and have a dance battle with somebody.

[B]

You know who you need to go.

[A]

To the club, and I never did that. Who?

[B]

Belyn.

[A]

I thought she was gonna say you. Cause I'm gonna say I've been in the club with you many a time. But we've never had a dance party.

[B]

No, I said go to the club with beelin. Y'all gonna enter.

[A]

Go to the club with Belen.

[B]

And guess who was dance battling her on the flow Nav? No, in la. Me and belynn.

[A]

Oh, no.

[B]

Well, okay.

[A]

It wasn't you.

[B]

No, but I'm talking about when we went over there, Me and belynn had a whole dance battle. It was a whole thing. And that's what I posted for her birthday thing. But outside of that. Cause we finna have B. Lynn on the show.

[A]

We are. Cause that's our girl, y'all.

[B]

So we just went to the Usher concert. When I tell y'all, me and B. Lynn danced the whole time. We did not stop. The lady at the end of the show said, hey, Usher should have paid y'all and brought y'all on stage. That's how hard we dance. Y'all have to go watch that vlog. B. Lynn has a vlog out of us on that night. I have never danced so hard in my entire life. I've never been front row at a. No, never. I've never been front row at a concert, though.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Have you been front row at, like, a major concert before?

[A]

Yeah, I haven't.

[B]

Have you been front row? I haven't. So you know how it feels being front row.

[A]

It's fun.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Oh, my God. Then Usher performed my favorite song. What's your favorite song for two seconds. That's in a pocket. Usher. Tell me. People don't know that song. So tell me. I want you till I you know that song. He was skating Too. So he came out skating to that bitch. Oh, baby, I was cutting up.

[A]

I had fun at the Usher concert, too. I went to the Usher concert, too.

[B]

Somebody said, they seen you, and they was like, I didn't want to say it on my live. They said, oh, my God. I seen Dre at the concert, but I know how she is, and I didn't want to feel like I was trying to clock her, so I left her alone.

[A]

Why? Cause I was with my man.

[B]

Yeah, that's what she said. That's what she said.

[A]

He was giving love in this club.

[B]

Y'all was kissing in the club? I mean, in the concert.

[A]

No, of course not. We are classy based. Shout out to.

[B]

Y'all are not classy based.

[A]

We are.

[B]

I done been to the club with y'all.

[A]

How what we be doing? Y'all be.

[B]

He be smacking that ass. Oh, I be so grossed out.

[A]

No, he don't.

[B]

We're gonna talk about that later in the bedroom. No, he don't. Yes, he does. No. You know what I say? I said something to him one day. I said, yeah. Cause she be twisting that ass and be looking good. He said, facts. I said. I said, excuse me, sir.

[A]

No, we wasn't. We definitely was not kissing, but it was very much giving love in his club. Like, he was singing to me. He kept recording me. He was sending me videos the next day of, like, him recording me. It was fun. I seen a whole bunch of people I knew, though. I was like.

[B]

I mean, at this point, it's like, anyway, Chad, I don't like this is.

[A]

The thing, because we just talked about this on a Christmas episode. My thing is, I don't care about people knowing who I'm dating, because it ain't no secret. You know what I mean? But, like, I just feel like for me to be loud and proud and be posting someone, you need to.

[B]

I feel the same way.

[A]

Because we at that age.

[B]

We are at that age.

[A]

Like, I'm not. I'm not. I'm just not doing that. Of course we be out together. Of course we be places together.

[B]

Because. Oh, no. See, that's what I'm saying.

[A]

That's what I'm saying. We be everywhere together. Like, it was so funny because somebody literally, maybe like four or five months ago, because, you know, I've been getting on Tick Tock Live a lot more lately, which we got to talk about that real quick about Tick Tock getting cancelled. But I was on Tik Tok Live a few months ago, and somebody was literally leaving his name on the Tik Tok Live. But they were spelling it wrong. Like, they were spelling the last name wrong. But you know something, though, because you got the first name right and you got part of the last name right. How you know that? I had to block them real quick. Cause you.

[B]

Yeah, you know, it ain't even.

[A]

Because you know too much. You trying to spill my tea. You can't spill my tea before me.

[B]

Right, Right. Let the right thing. You did the right thing. Yeah.

[A]

Let me feel.

[B]

But the bad thing about blocking somebody. Cause you don't know what they're gonna do after that. Cause they'd be like, oh, I was right.

[A]

I mean, and that's. Well, I'll tell you where they was wrong. Cause Shay told me she seen something online. And they said I was dating Mr. Reggie.

[B]

People always say that.

[A]

And I was like, Mr. Reggie, our trainer.

[B]

We love Mr. Reggie.

[A]

We love Mr. Reggie. Down. Shout out to Mr. Reggie.

[B]

Somebody DM me.

[A]

But it never gave me Alexis dating Mr. Reggie.

[B]

Somebody DM me that months ago said, oh, he. Who? Fine. I know you him. I was like.

[A]

And he is. He's very attractive. But it never gave me. And lex was dating Mr. Reggie.

[B]

I think people. This is the problem, though, when we talk about platonic friendships. And I like to say this because we always. We always get on the men. But let's talk about the women. We always talk about how men don't know how to have platonic relationships. Yes. Women. When y'all see another woman around a fine, attractive man, y'all be like, oh, they not friends.

[A]

Mm.

[B]

It very much is like a cool homegirl, homeboy friends type relationship. Cause everybody was swearing up and down. They was like, which one of y'all date Mr. Reggie? Which one of y'all.

[A]

Which one of y'all going home with Reggie?

[B]

Neither one was. But shout out to Mr. Reggie.

[A]

But shout out to Mr. Reggie. But no. Shay told me she seen that online. She was like, yeah. She was like, it was people trying to say that you are dating Mr. Reggie. And I was like, for real?

[B]

Oh, my God.

[A]

That's crazy. Cause the tea is so cold.

[B]

Somebody tweeted, I'mma show you the tweet. Cause it threw me for a loop.

[A]

I love that we be, like, clocking people these days. It be something. Cause I know they be mad. Cause they really be feeling like they be on to some scrappy.

[B]

So Killa had actually on to nothing. On to nothing. Somebody had sent me this tweet. Look at this tweet. When I seen This. I said, what do y'all be cold.

[A]

I mean, partially hot.

[B]

It was partially hot.

[A]

But still cold.

[B]

But still cold. I'm not gonna say what the tweet is, obviously, but somebody DMed my best friend today and was like, oh, her boyfriend is. I was like, what is going on?

[A]

And then my thing be, okay, so then if you figured out who it is. You want a cookie? What do you want? We don't got no more. We actually ate them all.

[B]

Ate them all.

[A]

Shout out to all of them. But, I mean, we could get you some. We could send you a basket, maybe a fruit basket. I don't know. What do you want for knowing who me and Lex are dating? Like, because the thing about me and you, we don't be trying to hide who we're dating because we be outside with the.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

It's just again, for me to post somebody on my social media. I just kind of feel like I.

[B]

Don'T gotta let you in my business.

[A]

Yeah. Because anybody who matters, the people in my personal life, we know what. Everybody knows who I'm dating. Yeah.

[B]

It's like, he ain't gonna let us forget it. Okay. Okay. Okay. So I want to get into. I want to get into the 2025 stuff. So. So I want to ask. I wanna. Okay, I wanna ask you this, and.

[A]

Song was so good.

[B]

Don't stop. Get it, get it. I will. Don't stop. Let me hit it. I will. Unless. Do we. We gonna do. We. We gonna do it. Okay. Come on.

[A]

You know how sometimes make you feel like you gotta make a face like this? Really?

[B]

You know how the beat it was like, do it, do it, do it, don't do it. That was so fire.

[A]

I thought my hat was.

[B]

Okay, so I have to tell y'all a story because we're gonna get into our 2025 goals. So, Ty, I want you to think about your goals. Okay, Dre? I want to think about your goals, because I'm going to talk about my goals first. I'm going to start off. I'm going to kick it off. What's up, y'all? It's your girl xp.

[A]

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[A]

Acting is hard.

[B]

Acting is hard. And this is an improv class on top of that. So. But I went the first time, and the first time I went, I was in the advanced class. I was like, oh, I can't. So I went to the beginner's class, and that was a little. So, honestly, it's something.

[A]

You went to the beginners one? The second.

[B]

The second time, yes.

[A]

And that was.

[B]

It was. It was still hard, but it was better. And I feel like now I look forward to it because now I'm challenged. I feel like I'm doing something that's challenging to me. So for 2025, that's my goal. I really want to, like, get into acting and take it serious. Cause I was talking to a vet about Beelin, my homegirl. We talked about Be Lynn, and she is hilarious. If y'all think I'm crazy, I have never met somebody like, I'm not gonna lie. That was, like, beautiful and really fucking funny. And I'm not saying that there's not women out there like that. I'm just saying, like, I don't really. I don't personally meet a lot of women like that. So when I met her, I'm like, man, this girl is really fucking funny, and she's gorgeous. So seeing her, like, do her skits and do her thing, and then she dropped this, like, Halloween thing. But she was, like, seriously acting like she got it serious. But she was phenomenal. I was like, oh, she can really act, but she's Never taken acting classes and never did anything. She's like, oh, I want to take acting classes with you. I said, oh, you ain't finna come with me. Embarrass me, yo. Yeah, but I'm gonna let her come with me still. But it motivated me. So in 2025, I want to focus on my acting for me, but I also want to surround myself with people who motivate me in different ways. And even with you, like, seeing how hard you go with, like, Muse, Beauty and stuff, I'm like, that's how hard I want to go with my business as far as, like, love Lex P and my other venture that I'm working on. Because by the time this drops, you know, it'll. Everything will be out in the open, and the YouTube will be up and running, so. But I know it's easy to start something, but it's not easy to stay with it. And the way you have stuck with Muse, Beauty, baby, you don't. She gonna drop them. So I feel like for 2025, that's my goal. Stick with my acting classes, stick with my love Lex P, and surround myself with people who inspire me.

[A]

Okay, that's good goals.

[B]

You know, what you got for me?

[A]

I really want to scale my business this year. I feel like the first two years that I ran Muse, I mean, obviously, I'm gonna be honest, it was kind of. I have stayed consistent because it's something that I'm passionate about, but it's definitely been hard with simultaneously doing poor minds. Like, I feel like Muse has always kind of take took in the back burner when it comes to, like, poor minds. You know what I mean? Because poor minds is obviously like my bread and butter. This is how I make majority of my money. This is how I sustain my livelihood. So with Muse, it's just kind of always taking the back burner, and I really want to scale it this year. Like, I've made really good money from it in the past two years, but I feel like I haven't even really went as hard as I could. So I'm So a lot of the time, I'm like, damn if I haven't even really been going as hard as I could these past two years. And I've made this. Imagine what I could do if I'm really, like, trying to scale it, if I'm really, like, running ads, because all of the money that I've made, truly, which is something that I really am very proud of and maybe I could brag a little bit about, but, like, I'VE made almost six figures in the past two years from Muse and I have had no promotion from other people other than myself. Other than just talking about it on Poor minds, you know what I mean? Talking about it on my social media, whether I'm on live and stuff like that. I have not had any brand ambassadors, I haven't paid anybody, I haven't really ran ads from you online and stuff. So all of the sales have been for me in word of mouth. So I'm very proud of that. Cuz like it's hard to run a small black, small black business by yourself. So this year I really want to focus on scaling the business. I want to be consistently coming out with new products like every few months. Cuz I do come out with new products every year but I want it to be like a every quarter type of thing. I really want to start running ads. I really want to start a brand ambassador program. And yeah, I just really want to scale the business and my goal is to get it into stores like Sephora, Ulta. That's like my ultimate goal. And then with poor Minds I really want us to get picked up as a talk show. Like that's, that's like a major goal for me when it comes to poor mod because I mean no shade, maybe a little shade but like I feel like we kind of like dominated the podcasting lane to be honest. As far as like black music I.

[B]

Think that to be and I. And when I. I'm not saying like nobodies but we started off as. There wasn't no TikTok around. We didn't have a TikTok audience where you can make 30 second videos. We weren't viners, we weren't nothing. And the fact of the matter is like when we dropped that nav episode it hit 100k in like 6, 7 days on YouTube. Long form content. I say that bragging because people are not doing that in long form content. People want to see a TikTok. They want you to show how to make a turkey Mac and cheese yams in 30 seconds and we need to see it all and we know exactly what you're doing. So the fact that we are having people sit down and watch this long form content is a feat within itself.

[A]

And that's just our visuals, you know like the 100k on YouTube that we get almost every week. That's just the visuals. That's not even including our audio numbers because we do like another 50k, 60k in audio.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So I think that's an amazing Feat, like, it's. It's really hard to do what we've done and not only do our stuff get a lot of views on YouTube, but he get a lot of views on Tick Tock and Instagram and stuff too.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So my next goal with Minds, I really wanted to get picked up as a show because I don't know, I just sometimes kind of feel like we're so much bigger.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Than a podcast at this point. And then I also am starting my own YouTube channel as well, which, like, when this episode comes out, the first episode will be up as well. And I just want to, like, try to be consistent with vlogging and showing, like, more of my life because I feel like it's something that people are really interested in, but I've just always shied away from.

[B]

I feel like you would do so good in that, like, beauty lane that, like, Jackie Aina does. And like, maybe not beauty, but only because.

[A]

Only reason I say no is because, like, people like Jackie, they really do looks. I literally wear the same, like, I'm a switch up my. I'll. I can show different lip combos, but, like, I don't be switching my makeup.

[B]

But what I'm saying is it's not about, like, switching up looks. It's about, okay, I, like, I tried this foundation. It didn't work. You can do the same look with different products.

[A]

That's true.

[B]

People just want to see what works for your skin, what you're doing with this, what you're doing with that. But I think that beauty lane is so good for you. Because even. But when I say beauty lane, it's like also, like, get ready with me. They want to see what lotion you putting on. People just want to see that. Even so I think, like, that, like, that's why I'm excited for your YouTube, because I know it's going to do well.

[A]

People ask me about my outfit too.

[B]

All that beauty, getting ready your makeup, your hair, all that stuff. I think that is, like, even your workouts. Like, people want to see you work out all this stuff. I think that's like the perfect lane for you. And that's why I say I think Poor Minds is so good because we're so opposite. So it's like people want to hear me talk. They want to hear what, what movies, what I think about this. They want to hear the gossip. And so. And then, like, so we can go our separate ways and do this. So we'll still be on YouTube, but for poor minds, it's time to be on HBO, Max. It's time to be on Netflix. It's time to. You know what I'm saying?

[A]

And also to another goal. Cause I don't know, girl. I got a lot of goals. Cause I did. I wrote all my goals down for 2025. And I really want to start working on our scripty show, too. Which I feel like we've never talked about that on Poor Minds, but we haven't.

[B]

But I know who I feel.

[A]

But that's something that I really would like to, like, get started in 2025. Cause I feel like it's such a good. It's gonna be such a good show.

[B]

And, you know, there I. And I'm gonna just. I'm gonna throw her name out there. Because I be talking to her in the DMs. And that's my girl. And we had her on the show. Shout out to Diara. She had the show D. Ara from Detroit. But she's so brilliant. When we work on this show, if I'm not working with Issa, I wanna work with Dara.

[A]

Cause she.

[B]

I love her. She's so creative, and she's so amazing. So I feel like if there's any two people that could make our vision come to life, it would be one of them, too. Like, 100%. Because I feel like a lot of people look at people like Diara and Issa, they be like, oh, Dre and Lace, they can't relate. But when Diara sat on this couch, she was like, I fuck with y'all.

[A]

But I always wonder, why do people think we can't relate?

[B]

Because they think that we're one way, but they don't realize that we're multifaceted. But that's okay. We gonna break down the door so the girls behind us who have podcasts, y'all can come, and it's gonna be easy for y'all. That's my goal. I wanted to make it easy. I want everybody who's black, woman, whatever you want to sit on a couch and talk about xyz, do it. And it's gonna be easy. Because they gonna believe in you. Cause they see what poor minds did. Cause that's how it be for the others. The others.

[A]

Oh, for sure.

[B]

Ty, what's your goals?

[C]

I have a lot of goals. My number one goal is work, life, balance. This year, while super successful, my role at Crown so Mixie doing incredible numbers. It was a lot. And I felt stressed a lot of the year. So my personal goal is to go into and just kind of like, Prioritize a lot better and really figure out what direction how I want to scale the business. So with so mixy, we're getting more into products. We're stepping away from, like, smaller events, working more with bigger brands and more of our corporate clients. So we are closing our books. If you are not a current client.

[A]

Ooh, hey, but can we.

[B]

That's a good name. Close them books.

[A]

But can we still squeeze in if we need a little party next year? Okay. Yes.

[B]

Like, so we can get an event.

[A]

Because I'm like, oh, I might want.

[B]

To have a little party, but we can. But we good. Yes, but you're closing books to me.

[A]

But that's amazing.

[C]

So, like, random people, they want us to do, like, their birthday parties. We are so thankful for the business, but at this time, we're just growing at a, like, an accelerated rate.

[A]

And I just.

[C]

I need bigger. Like, I'm looking for bigger budgets.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Be doing a little couple hundred dollars here. No, we need commas.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

So that's definitely a step four. So looking to scale in that capacity, and our team is expanding, and then we're coming out with some products. So we actually are going to. I've been working with Yvette. We are working on a cocktail calendar that is dropping now, so you can get [e-mail] mixie.com and it's going to feature today's cocktail too, when I teach it.

[A]

Exciting.

[C]

And then what else? My role with Crown Royal, I came in the door, like, really doing big things, and I just want to continue that trajectory, continue to bring and lift uplift, women of color, specifically people in our community, educating on spirits and just really, like, dominating the brand ambassador field for spirits.

[B]

I love that you're doing an amazing job. Like, Ty, when I tell you, you have been such a asset to this show, and that's why I say, like, I'm so proud of you.

[C]

Thank you.

[B]

And I. And I. And I know you're gonna reach your goals, like, because you're so good like you are. You can. Nobody can make a drink like that. I'll be going to the bar, telling them how to make a drink. Well, let me tell you. Have you had a blood orange before? Ho ass. Nicki. Yeah. They don't be knowing what a blood orange is.

[A]

No. Nabi's doing her big win, and she has definitely helped elevate the show so much with her presence. And we love you and we appreciate you and I hope that you reach all of your goals 20, 25. And hopefully we can support you in any way that we.

[C]

Period, y'all. It's been two years, by the way.

[B]

I know. I know.

[A]

We fooled crazy together.

[C]

So thank y'all for taking me on the journey with the girl.

[B]

You ain't going nowhere. That's. I'll give up. When we get our t. When we.

[A]

Get our TV deal, it's coming.

[B]

Y'all be like, oh, can I come make drinks? Hell, no, you can't. What can. What else can you.

[A]

If we being honest.

[B]

If we being honest. No, you can't. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's.

[A]

Your girl Dre Nicole.

[B]

And we have a very exciting announcement.

[A]

Announcement.

[B]

Today we have a brand new show dropping yes.

[A]

So we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon. It's gonna air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We're gonna be doing so much stuff on there. We're gonna be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella, no shade, where the hell could you go?

[B]

If you can't go to Bella Noche, what the hell can you go?

[A]

We're gonna be doing Talk to me. Chit chat with me. We're gonna be spilling a little tea off.

[B]

My God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God.

[A]

Everything y'all been wanting to see, we going to be doing it right here on Patreon.

[B]

Yes. Y'all ask us for so much. Well, we f to give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's going to be a time y'all know Poor Mods has grown into its own little entity where we going to have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down.

[A]

Thanks.

[B]

I want to talk about our favorite Poor Minds moments this year. I want to talk our favorite Poor Minds moments. I want to talk the favorite Poor Minds guess I want to talk favorite Poor Minds. Anything you want to start? Who want to start? I. I started last time.

[A]

My favorite Poor Minds moments this year, definitely when we had T Pain on the show, that was amazing. That was a full circle moment. Because we went on T pain show in 2022.

[B]

Yes. Yes.

[A]

So having him come on Poor Minds was like a full circle moment, obviously, because, I mean, it's fucking T Pain.

[B]

A legend.

[A]

A legend. Like, we grew up listening to him. He's amazing. He's still putting out fire songs. Fire music. He's had that song with Glorilla, like. Yeah. So that was an amazing moment for me also, I think the episode that we had with Queen Leora was really good.

[B]

Love her.

[A]

Because I love that we've. Like, to me, it's just so amazing seeing all of these young people become successful and rich from Tick Tock. Like, it's amazing. It's something that generations before us were not afforded those same opportunities. So I love to see the younger people, like, blowing up on Tick Tock and really getting to a bag. And like, she came on here, she had so much personality. She was exactly the same way she was that she is on Tick Tock. Yeah, like, I loved it. I thought it was an amazing episode. Um, who else was like another favorite of mine from this year? Obviously devale.

[B]

Oh. Oh my God. Devale was like, that was the most watched episode. Oh, no, no, I lied. But I'm talking about in the amount of period in the time period. Like, because in podcast world they do the 30 day mark. 30 day mark Devale was the most watched episode.

[A]

Yeah, for sure, for sure. So devale was like really dope. I feel like it was very refreshing to have a man on the show that's married that speaks volumes and speaks very highly of his wife and they're in a healthy, happy marriage and have been married for like 20 years and have four kids. Like, I just thought it was a really dope episode to get, you know, a different perspective because I feel like obviously me and you a lot of the time have different perspectives, but it's always nice to have a man on the show that has a different perspective as well. And especially when it's married. That's like a family man. I really enjoyed the Cash Doll episode cuz we've been wanting Cash Doll on for a long time. I love Cash Doll. It was a really great episode. She was super dope, super funny. Everything I thought she would be, she was.

[B]

Yeah, she didn't surprise me.

[A]

No, me either. She was everything I thought she was going to be. So I really enjoyed that episode. And then I'm trying to think, what did we have some other guests this year?

[B]

But talk about like a moment or a clip. Like, that's what I said. You look, you were supposed to give. I'm talking about favorite. Well, I'm just.

[A]

Well, no, I mean, I feel like I'm just talking about my. I mean, you could give clips. I'm talking about my favorite.

[B]

What was your favorite clip?

[A]

I don't know because I can't think of it off the top of my head, but those were my favorite guests that we Had.

[B]

Those were some good guess.

[A]

Yeah, I wish. If I would have known we was doing clips, I would have liked, you know, did my research.

[B]

I didn't think about clips either.

[A]

You don't have one either. That's crazy because you just wanted me to get one.

[B]

I didn't know if you was thinking about one. I know you got one clip you can think about.

[A]

Do you?

[B]

No. Oh, I mean, I'm a think, you know. Okay, I'll say this. My favorite clip. My favorite clip of the year was when we was talking about the dicks with fucking Glamazonte and I said, boil that dick up. That was one of my favorite clips. I mean, if you was dating females, you would want the same dick. I'm boiling that dick.

[A]

Why was that your favorite clip?

[B]

Because it was funny as hell. It was funny as hell because Tay was so confused because she was like, no, I can get my dicks made. I said, hell no. Boil that dick up. Boil that dick up. That was a good moment. That was funny as fuck. That was a good moment. As far as clips go, another clip. This is a clip that I actually don't like, but it's gonna be a classic clip that sticks with us for life. The 50,000 clip that's gonna stick with us for life. That was in this year. That was this year making $50,000. Don't date. Oop. I'm just being for real. Yes. That was in February. That was around February.

[A]

It was.

[B]

That's a clip that's gonna stick with us for life, unfortunately, cuz when something.

[A]

$50,000.

[B]

Yeah. $50,000 clip. Yeah, that's a. That. That's a clip that's going to stick with us, you know, for a long time.

[A]

I think for me, if we're talking about moments, like a recent moment, I feel like the episode we did with Develle when we did karaoke, like, that was like probably the best karaoke that we had in a long time. Meeting in my bedroom. You.

[B]

He was cutting up.

[A]

Meeting in my bedroom. Karaoke with the bell. That was so fucking.

[B]

He was cutting up.

[A]

That shit was so fucking.

[B]

It was funny.

[A]

I'm not gonna lie. Like, I had a great time doing that.

[B]

Another one that I like is when we had Wiz Khalifa on and people in the comments were just dying because they was like, oh, my God, I can't believe you didn't know Wiz's name. You thought his name was wiztepher. I didn't think his name was Wisoper. He was. I was joking around but calling him Wiztoper, that shit. Funny as fuck.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So that was another moment. Cause I was like a Wiz. Stan, like, literally love Wiz. So the fact that we had fucking Wiz Khalifa on the show, and then, of course, you know, Nav, home team episode with Nav was fire. It was funny.

[A]

Per usual.

[B]

Per usual. Love us someday, Nav.

[A]

Don't miss Nav.

[B]

Do not miss.

[A]

You know me.

[B]

That's what's crazy. Nav can have a conversation with anybody about anything. But I will say my favorite guest of the year, of course, like, you know, the T Pains, Wiz, everybody. I loved everybody. I love. I don't know what it was. I really loved Glamazante episode. I. It was a vibe. I really loved that episode. I did. Of course, I agree with you with Queen Leora. And I do want to start tapping in more so with the tiktokers and the people. Because we're in a different world.

[A]

I mean, the tiktokers are on the same level with the celebrities.

[B]

But what I will say about TikTok is, like, it's quick content. So I feel like. And this is. I'm not being shady because TikTok is hard. That's why I'm not a tiktoker. That's why I can scroll and watch y'all. But we're in the long form content. They gotta make short form content. And I feel like I necessarily can't be funny in a minute, but I can be funny once, you know, you hear and we talking and we vibing. So we're in two different worlds. So I feel like it's different, but I like when we collide. I like it.

[A]

Yeah, I agree. I feel like we did a lot of really good solo episodes.

[B]

Solo episodes.

[A]

The solo episodes are really funny. The. The Thanksgiving episode was hilarious.

[B]

The Thanksgiving episode was people still talking to me about that fucking green bean casserole. Bitch.

[A]

You done talking about that? Just so you know, the past three.

[B]

And I'm not gonna stop until y'all try it.

[A]

I would like for you to stop. Cause nobody want to eat that shit. I don't care how appetizing.

[B]

I'll make you some.

[A]

Oh, I'm not gonna eat it.

[B]

Pause. Since we talk about Thanksgiving because we recorded that Drea made some green beans for Thanksgiving. The most was busted.

[A]

Not casserole.

[B]

No, it wasn't casserole. But it was green beans. It was good. You had the meat in there, the potatoes.

[A]

I didn't have no meat.

[B]

It wasn't the Meat in there. Maybe it was. I was. It had some potatoes in there, though. She was good.

[A]

It was potatoes in there. Yeah, I. I be really cooking. Cooking for real in the kitchen. Giving big mama your own.

[B]

He had made some pomegranates.

[A]

Not to toot my own horn, but.

[B]

Kiki had made some pomegranate lamb chops. What? Tiffany had made some jerk chicken.

[A]

He also made some sweet potato cornbread.

[B]

Oh, that's.

[A]

She made a sweet potato cheesecake. She made a regular sweet potato pie. Kiki be cooking.

[B]

He could be cooking for real.

[A]

She made some greens with turkey.

[B]

Oh, them greens was fire.

[A]

And then you had made Mac and cheese. That Mac and cheese was bussy. You know, Mac and cheese was busy.

[B]

The Mac, I'm not going to lie.

[A]

You did.

[B]

Kiki, look, I. Kiki friend, he was. He had. My Mac and cheese was so good. He DM me the next day. He said, what is going on with it?

[A]

He said, this the best Mac and cheese I ever had in my life.

[B]

And I said, I know you lying, cuz I know Kiki Mac and cheese better than mine. But I will say I mean yours up there. My Mac and cheese. But it's crazy. Like, I don't. I do. I can't cook. I just. I'm picky when I cook. That's it. But I know how to. I know what I'm doing in that kitchen now.

[A]

You did that though, with that Mac and cheese. I ain't gonna lie. The next day I had took me a big ass scoop.

[B]

That's right.

[A]

And I was tearing it down.

[B]

But I'm gonna give it to you when it's fresh out the oven next.

[A]

Time you need to.

[B]

Oh, you deserve.

[A]

I'm ready. But it was good. Like the Thanksgiving meal.

[B]

Yeah, we did that.

[A]

We did that. We ate that.

[B]

When we. It's time for us to have a Thanksgiving party. We only need us too.

[A]

We really do. Because it's gonna go down, I think, for. I don't know. Well, I'm going home for Christmas, but maybe for New Year's. I was thinking about maybe having a New Year's party at my house again, because that was fun. That's the same thing Tiffany said. Can we. I feel like we could maybe possibly have another New Year's party at my house.

[B]

We going. But I think we should contribute more. I feel like last time, like you cooked everything. We did a taco night. And then we kind of showed up and everything was done. I think we should all contribute a little more. But we're doing that.

[A]

But yeah, cuz it ain't. Cuz being outside just ain't the more years no more than me. I'm too old for the now.

[B]

Before we get to the topics, Ty, what was your favorite Poor Minds moments this year?

[C]

Hands down, T. Pain, Cash Doll, and Wiz, and Eric Bellinger.

[A]

Oh, I forgot about Eric. We did have Eric Bellinger.

[C]

He gave us tickets to the concert.

[A]

Yes.

[C]

So that was super dope. And then really just like, I like the solo episodes. I felt like I participated a little bit more. People are getting to know me. The Mai Tais out there.

[A]

Ooh, Mai Tai. I'm Mai Tais. That's so cute, baby.

[B]

I didn't know about this. Cause I'm a Mai Tai president. I love Ty. Come on.

[A]

I like my ties. That's really cute.

[B]

Ty. Do you know what you need to do? You need to get on TikTok and make your drinks and just take so much.

[C]

But that is.

[B]

You gotta do it.

[C]

Yeah, you gotta.

[B]

The Mai Tais. What?

[A]

That's really cute. I ain't gonna lie.

[B]

I'm shook as fuck. Cause I'm like. When we start our personal YouTube, it's like, what are your. What are they gonna call? Cause we got the poor crew. So what do they. What do Dreya's fans call her supporters? We'll think about it. We'll come back. Cause I don't know what I'm calling them either. I don't know, girl. We gotta think of something. Everybody has to have, like, Dreya Twos. Dreya Twos? What's that mean?

[A]

Like, you know, like, me too.

[B]

We gonna revisit. We gonna revisit that. They'll come up with it too. Like, they'll play.

[A]

Oh, no. Okay, Throtta, come up with something.

[B]

So what's up, y'all?

[A]

It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.

[B]

And we are here to tell y'all about our brand new ebook and e course bundle pour into your pod.

[A]

Yes, y'all, we have been working on this for a while, and we're so excited to put it out and give it to y'all, because we know so many people have been asking us for such a long time about how to start a successful podcast, and we have literally put all of the information that we have and everything that we've utilized into this one ebook.

[B]

Yes. And this is not your typical ebook. Cuz I know what a lot of y'all are thinking, but I'm telling y'all, we give y'all direct access to how we built our brand. It's not, no fluffiness and all that. What I've read in ebooks before. This is the ebook that gets straight to the point and gives you all the direction you need to start your podcast today.

[A]

Absolutely. And you can trust that we are putting 100% good information, no filter into this book and it's going to help you build your brand and it shows you exactly how we build poor minds and made it into a six figure company.

[B]

So make sure y'all head to pore minds.com to purchase your ebook or the ecourse. And we also have it available in a bundle for you so you can get both ponds.com pour into your pod. We're keeping on the topic of the New Year's. Do you feel like vision boards are a scam or do they really work? Think about your vision board last year or the year before. Like, do vision boards work? Like, do you feel.

[A]

I think anything works as much as you put the effort in. As much as you put the work in.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You can't just write some shit on a board and think, oh, I wrote this on the board. So this is gonna happen in 2025. It's gonna be my year. Yeah, no, I think anything works as much as you put the work in. So with a vision board, it's like you can sit down and you can write out everything that you want to do this year, everything that you want to accomplish. But if you don't have an actual.

[B]

Real plan, Come on now, come on.

[A]

Set in place to make these goals happen and to accomplish these things. It's just words on a paper. It's just words on the board. Like, what does that matter? So, yeah, I. I think that you have to put the work in. I think that a lot of people just be writing down and they just be like, yeah, I'm manifesting this. Manifesting.

[B]

Talk about it. Talk about manifesting, because I know you can go in on this, talk about it.

[A]

Yeah, because I'm a manifester myself. I'm a manifester, but I feel like I also put the work in to get the things that I really want. I don't just sit around, like, hoping and crossing my fingers that, oh, this is gonna happen for me. Like, no, you have to have a real plan of action. And then if that plan of action don't work, you should have a plan B. People don't be having plan B's. They be feeling like, oh, I only got a plan A and if plan A don't work, then I don't know what I'm gonna do. And then plan A don't work, and you don't know what you gonna do. So you need to have plans. You need to write down plans. You can't just have a goal with no plan.

[B]

Agreed.

[A]

It needs to be steps that's going to be taken to get you to what you're trying to do. And, yeah, something might end up happening, a miracle might happen, and some shit might just come out of thin air and it be the opportunity that you was looking for, because that does happen. But in the meantime, in between time, you need to have a plan.

[B]

But I also think you have to be prepared for that opportunity. If an opportunity comes, you gotta be ready. Cause, yeah, and I know we talk about this all the time, but, like, when Carlos invited us on 85, we were prepared. We were a package. Me and Draya already knew how to sit in front of mics and talk and spit that shit and be funny together. So I think you have to be prepared for opportunities as well. So, like she said, just have a plan. Poor minds was poor minds before, you know, 85 came along. They elevated us, of course, but we had a plan of action. If they didn't come along, like, we knew. We knew what we wanted to do and what we were trying to get to and how we were gonna get there.

[A]

I mean, yeah, like, vision boards can work. They can, but it's just a vision.

[B]

Yeah, it's just a vision.

[C]

It's supposed to just be inspiration to get those juices flowing and get you motivated to execute.

[B]

And let me tell a lot of people this, because I used to be, and I love X, Twitter, whatever you call it, you are not gonna tweet your way into an opportunity. You're not. I don't know who needs to hear this? I don't care how fucking many retweets you get. Twitter is the app that's down here. Especially since Elon took it over. You not going to make nothing from Twitter. So y'all be tweeting all day. I'm so creative.

[A]

I'm so.

[B]

I'm so this. I'm so that. Put some fucking content out. Record yourself. Let your nuts hang. Y'all so scary. I realized that after a while. I used to be on Twitter all day, every day, and I'm like, what am I gonna do? I had to prop that fucking camera up. You not gonna tweet your way into an opportunity. That is the worst app to think that you're gonna get somewhere off of. And I. And this is coming from somebody. That was the app that I used the most. Bless you. That was the app I used the most out of Instagram. It's people who are millionaires off of Facebook. Y'all be on Twitter laughing at Facebook people. They are millionaires off Facebook. I just started my Facebook. I got, like 800 followers on there. So y'all go follow me. It's. But people have millions of followers, and they be making money. Yeah, you make money on every app. The money that you make on Twitter. Snapchat. Snapchat. Okay.

[A]

It's consistency. It's the consistency that matter. Also. Speaking of, like, these apps or whatever. I said we were going to talk about that. Tik Tok. So do y'all think that they're really going to shut Tik Tok down for real on January 19th this year? You do AWOL. Oh, wow. For real.

[B]

So y'all can't hear him, but he said they're removing the watermark so y'all can download the videos and move them to wherever you want them to be.

[A]

Now, they've been saying it for.

[B]

This is.

[A]

But let me say.

[B]

Let me say I agree. I agree with awol. I. I thought I was finna. This is me back in the day, y'all. I thought I was finna be a Vine star because I saw all these unfunny people doing Vine. I said I could do. I could. And then I saw Vines shut down. I never thought I would see vine shut down.

[A]

Y'all have to remember, yeah, vine, dish.

[B]

It was people on there. They were superstars. And I'm not being dramatic. And I saw it shut down. Now, TikTok is on another level than vine was, but vine was huge. But if vine can shut down, it's very fucking possible. That's why I said for us, for me, like. And YouTube is cool, too. But I'm like, what else? Cause if YouTube shut down tomorrow, you know what I'm saying? How are people gonna reach us now? Good thing 85's smart enough. Cause we all got the 85.

[A]

They gotta ask.

[B]

No. Cause, bitch, we finna be on 80 live app, too. We're gonna figure something out.

[A]

Our beach. Start our own.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So we got.

[B]

We got the formula. But I will say that's what it is. Scary.

[A]

No, it is. It is. And that's why I'm grateful that we have, you know, a audience on multiple platforms. So, like, because we do have a pretty large following on Tick Tock, I mean we have like over 300000 followers on tick Tock right now. Now and it's growing every day. But if Tik Tok does shut down, we also have a large following on Instagram. We also have a large YouTube following. We also have large personal followings on Instagram. So it's not as bad. That's the part that just kind of like concerns me for the people on Tik Tok who have like millions of followers and then they don't have a fan base on any of these other apps. Cuz like I even on Facebook I think we got like a hundred and something.

[B]

Oh we, I think we had like two something now for real maybe.

[A]

But yeah, it's like we have followers on other apps. I be concerned about the influencers that are mainly on Tik Tok. That's where they make their money. What are they going to do? Cuz if you ever notice, it's a lot of these people who have like 2 million followers on Tik Tok and then you go look at their Instagram page, they be having like a hundred thousand followers, fifty thousand followers, if that. So it's like. And I know if you got 2 million followers on Tik Tok, you clearing probably like 7,000, 8,000 the. At the least. Minimum.

[B]

Yeah. If your videos are getting watched.

[A]

If your videos, if your videos are getting watched and you making a minute at the least, that's what you making. How are you going to supplement that income if Tik Tok get shuts down?

[C]

They can't just convert them. Like try to get their audience, I.

[A]

Mean very hard these days on Instagram it's so hard to get people to follow you. Like it was so easy back in the day because I, I've been having a lot of followers on Instagram for a long time, but these days it's just. It'll take me 30 days to gain like 10,000 followers on Instagram these days. Back in the day I'll actually.

[B]

You can look it up because I feel like my Instagram has been growing. I always compare my Instagram to Poor Minds because obviously I used to have way more followers than Poor Minds. Poor Minds surpassed me at one point. Then I surpassed Poor Minds, but now Poor Minds has surpassed me again. So let me look at my insights. So total followers. So from December 11th to December 17th, that's the past seven days. Oh, should we do 30 days?

[A]

Yeah, do 30.

[B]

Okay, I'll do 30 days. Update. Okay, so for the past 30 days overall I've gotten 8,000 followers in 30 days. Right. That's a total of 14,000 follows. And I've had 6,000 unfollows. But on TikTok, I don't post on TikTok. Every time I log in on TikTok, I've got a hundred. I get 100 followers a day.

[A]

Lame.

[B]

A day. Cause the way. I don't know. Way I don't know how they set up that algorithm. So when me and Draya started coming up in the YouTube Instagram world, it was hard. Now on TikTok, you can tell a story about how your drink was nasty and you just gotta go like this. And they be like, oh, my God, that's so funny. And this is no shade, no tea to TikTokers. But the TikTok algorithm is different. So I hate that. I hate that. Because some people are actually talented, but that's why people like Jackie Aina. I can't pronounce her new last name, but that's why she's been able to go from. Jackie's gonna be fine because she can make long form content. She knows how to navigate. So it's gonna be very interesting to see if it. I don't want the app to shut down. I'm trying to be a tiktoker.

[A]

Well, I mean, we've been gaining a lot of followers on our personal TikToks. We both almost at like 50k followers.

[B]

I'm trying to tick tock. I can tick tock. If I can do this for an hour, I can tick tock. You can tick tock.

[A]

You know, I don't really know if I be wanting to be a tiktoker, though.

[B]

I want to be a tiktoker. I want to clean up before they get out.

[A]

It's about to be out, though. I don't know how much you can clean up.

[B]

I'm going to clean up a little bit.

[A]

I don't know how much you can clean up in a few more weeks.

[C]

One month, literally to the day.

[B]

I need to clean up. That's what. But you was right. Get on all the apps, make your promises.

[A]

I think it's important to utilize all the apps and be posting consistently on all the apps because you never know. Like you said, like, if vine could get shut down, anything could get shut down.

[B]

Vine was my shit. I just knew I was gonna. Well, Tushy was the.

[A]

Vine was that girl back in the day, but it's just not. Not no more. But yeah.

[B]

Okay. So moving on.

[A]

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[B]

O. I'm glad you brought this one.

[A]

Up in 2025 or period. How do y'all feel about friendship demotion? You asking me first? I don't really know if I feel like friendship demotion is a real thing to me, cuz, like, get rid of the. Throw her away.

[B]

Hello. What the you waiting on?

[A]

Why am I demoting you?

[C]

Why are you waiting till the new?

[B]

Why are you waiting.

[A]

And then why am I waiting until 2025? You could go today. What's today? The 18th? You can go today.

[B]

You've been demoted. Hey, this is what I have to say. Sometimes people are not meant to be in your life. And that's okay. It's cause I'm not gonna lie. I've had situations where I feel like, you know what? This person hurt my feelings. But I wanna talk to her because I know she didn't mean to hurt my feelings. So I'm gonna talk to her about it. But when I feel like I have to demote you, it's no demotion. It's no talk. I'm just not talking to you no more. It ain't no process. This ain't no job. Be a good person. Or don't.

[A]

I think the motion is one of those things where like, I think people. Some people. Cause me, I get rid of my family too. But some people demote their family members cause they be feeling like, oh, this my family. So I'm just. Well, you know, as a matter of fact, I could actually speak on it. Cause I do have a family member that like.

[B]

You demoted them.

[A]

Yeah, yeah. I used to be way closer to them back in the day than I am now and we just not as close anymore. Because I feel like as we've gotten older, our interests have not aligned. We're misaligned. We just don't care or value the same things. We don't see a lot of the same way. They actually called me earlier this year about the election and pissed me the.

[B]

Off that was voting for Trump or.

[A]

What they were advising me or wanted me to to do. So I'm just like, yeah, this why I don't be fooling with you like that no more. So I guess in some situations I get demotion because at the end of the day I still love the person.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

But it's just like, I just don't fuck with you like that. Like you tripping, but you are real.

[B]

That's how I know you from Texas. Because what Slim said, if you don't fuck with me, don't fuck with me. It's not confusing.

[A]

It ain't.

[B]

It's not confusing.

[A]

It's not confusing. It's either we cool or we not. And I think I'm very much the type of person, like, if you've been demoted, bitch, you're gonna know. If we not cool no more, you're gonna know.

[B]

I'm not waiting on New Year to do nothing, bro. I'm not waiting to the new year to do now. I do believe New year, fresh start. So I feel like not for you though. Yeah, not for these friends, not for you. That's what I'm saying, A friend. And I consider friends family because I don't have a lot of family. So if I demote you as a friend, especially for me, you have to then did some messed up. I forgive everybody for everything. So I feel like demotions shouldn't wait. Don't wait till 2025 to demote somebody. This is somebody who's in your personal space and I think that's weird. Cause if you are plotting to demote somebody, you're no better than them. Cause you're like, ha ha. Daniel Ray Ray won. Oh, wait, nigga, you're fucking outta here. Well, you wanna have your moment? You think you finna do your big one?

[A]

Cause you can go now.

[B]

Cause you can go now.

[A]

The door is open. I just. I don't be having time for that type of shit. I don't.

[B]

I think about you though.

[A]

You can get the fuck. Any, any one of you.

[B]

It could be your birthday, bitch, she gonna be like, happy birthday. You don't call and don't come back.

[A]

You giving a little Too much credit to think I would even say happy birthday. Like, bitch, I'll cut you off on your birthday and not even say happy Birthday.

[B]

Facts.

[A]

Like, no, I don't give a fuck. Like. Cause I don't. I am very much a person. Me and my best friend was having a conversation about this the other day, and I think that's why me and her are just so locked in, because we just get each other. By the way, my best friend, I think I said this before, she is Sagittarius. But she was just like, I just don't feel like nobody owe me nothing. I think that's like the biggest blessing for me as a person that I've came to the realization don't nobody owe me nothing. But the beautiful epiphany about that is that I also don't owe you either. I don't owe nobody nothing. Because she was talking about how she used to talk to this guy. Because I'm not gonna lie, my best friend is terrible at, like, responding to people. She is.

[B]

I text her happy Birthday. She didn't text back for like six hours.

[A]

Yeah, I mean, that's how she is.

[B]

I said.

[A]

And she don't mean no harm by it. That's just how she is. A lot of times she be having her phone on do not disturb and stuff. So she was just like. I was talking to this guy and we had only been talking for like a few weeks, and he was just like, you be taking too long to text me back? And she was like, do I owe you to, like, text you back within an hour or so? Like, what have you done? What have you done to be that priority status in my life to where I have to say something to you within a few hours? Like, if I'm busy, I'm busy. I don't feel like I owe you that. She was like, I just. But I just don't feel like people owe people anything, so. And I would have to agree.

[B]

So let me ask you this, though. What does somebody have to do to feel like you owe them? Is there anything a person can do to feel like, okay, they should answer on time or they should do, does anybody owe you that?

[A]

Well, from what she said to me, she said she felt like her and this person had never had a conversation about actually really, like, trying to date each other. Like, we're talking, we're communicating, we're texting, but we haven't had an actual conversation about, like, this is what we doing. We really trying to, like, go to the next step, go to the next level. So I guess in her opinion, she felt like we're not exclusively dating. I don't owe you anything.

[B]

But I'm asking you, though, what do you feel? Cause you said you feel the same way. I don't owe people nothing. Oh, but a person that you feel like I owe them to answer this phone call, to respond to them, to show up for them. What does that look like?

[A]

I just feel like if I'm really completely being honest, which I know is gonna piss some people off, but I feel like I. I truly feel like it's to your discretion. I don't feel like you really owe anybody anything. I think a lot of people's number one problem is, like, talking and responding and going out of their way to do things when they don't feel like it. Like, sometimes you be having a mental fucking breakdown. Sometimes you're not in the capacity to talk. Sometimes you don't want to sit on the phone for two hours and have a conversation with somebody about some shit that you don't care about. And I think it's okay to not want to do that. It's fine. Now, depending on the type of person that you are, maybe you want to give the person a courtesy text and be like, hey, girl, I'm not in the mood. Or, I don't have the capacity to have this conversation with you today. But I think some people just don't. And I think my best friend is one of those people. I think sometimes I could be one of those people. I don't be necessarily feeling like I owe a person a courtesy text if I'm fucking having a bad day.

[B]

Yeah, I agree.

[A]

Cause you might be having a bad day, too. And now you. And you calling me to talk to me about your bad day. But, bitch, I'm having a bad day, too.

[B]

But that's why I say. I always. When I'm having a bad day. I say, hey, can you talk? What's up? But also, I had a. I had a bad mental breakdown the other week. I had to text everybody. I text you. I text my sister. I text Killer. I text Lauren. I said, hey, I'm okay. Please just leave me alone. Like, I'm going through it. Da, da, da, da. Cause I don't feel like I owe y'all that, but I just feel like, let me communicate.

[A]

Because then I called you, and you was being me.

[B]

Cause I was like, I told you, don't call me. Leave me alone.

[A]

She said, that's why I said, hey.

[B]

I said, okay, okay. And I'm sorry for Being mean.

[A]

No, you don't have to apologize. Cause the thing about me, I don't apologize to people for not answering the phone. Sometimes I just don't answer the phone. Cause I just don't feel like talking. And then when I call you the next day, I'm not gonna be like, oh, girl, I'm sorry for not answering you yesterday. Like, no, now we can. What's up? We can resume. Cause I'm having a better day. But I think people. People have too much entitlement. These. That's what me and my best friend were talking about. People have way too much entitlement to your time. You don't owe nobody. I don't owe nobody words to some.

[B]

People because they gonna hear this and they gonna feel some type of way, but it's the truth. I don't stop thinking everything is revolving around you. Sometimes somebody not talking to you has nothing to do with you.

[A]

And that's why it'd be so funny to me when, like. Cause I have, like. I feel like sometimes my man will say, I feel like, oh, the world revolve around me. But the thing about me is when I don't talk to people or when people don't answer my phone calls, I really don't give a fuck. Like, it just be like, okay, you having a bad day, Cool. I don't really take shit like that personally. I really don't. You just be like, all right, cool.

[B]

I don't either. Like, if I somebody on time, I'll text you. I'll be like, hey, bitch, I called you. I'll be like, call me back. Oh, that's my text.

[A]

No. One thing about you, that is you.

[B]

Yeah. No.

[A]

If you don't answer my phone calls, I don't be like, call me back.

[B]

Well, sometimes I don't know people. I don't know if people seen it or not. So I'll just send a text, so. Cause sometimes calls don't go through this. So it's not like, no bothering you. I'll just be like, hey, call me back. So you can just see it. You know, it don't be like, oh, my God. And then if I text that and it say deliver, I know you got it. So you gonna call me back whenever you can. I just do that because I know how I am. Because sometimes I don't see the phone call and I'll. Maybe I'll be on my laptop and I'll see the call me back. I'm like, oh, shit, let me call her back. Or let me say you know, let her know. So I'll call, I'll shoot a text, call me back. But thinking like, oh my God, they're mad at me. Oh my God. Or oh my God, I need to talk to them. Or oh, what's going on? It's like, bro, nobody owe you a conversation.

[A]

Yeah, no, I don't feel like that. I mean I definitely feel like I do be feeling like the world revolve around me. I feel like everybody world should revolve around them. It's your world. It's your world, bitch. It's my life. Like it's me. My world should revolve around me. Like who else is it supposed to revolve around? But at the end of the day, if people don't call me back in a timely manner or if they don't text me back unless it's something important, if it's about business or if it's about something like an emergency, then yeah, you need to call me back. But like if it's just about some and you don't want to talk to me today, I don't be, I don't.

[B]

2025 is about self care and being self care. Selfish. Yes, be selfish. Self care take.

[A]

I've been like this since 1991.

[B]

Oh, and you know me, baby. I don't give a about nothing. If I don't want to do something, I'm not coming, I'm not showing up, I'm not giving it. Leave me alone. Leave me the alone, please.

[A]

Yeah, but that's a little different though.

[B]

Leave me alone.

[A]

That's a little different. And not answering a phone call. Not answering a phone call and not wanting to do is two different things.

[B]

But I'm just. Sometimes I don't wanna go.

[A]

But sometimes you need to go.

[B]

But I'm talking about like we're not talking about like stuff like that. But like, but honestly I feel like I'm starting to learn better though how to navigate with like my mental health things. Cause I used to be like, oh, fuck everybody, fuck everything. Da da da. So I think now I'm being better with it, you know what I'm saying? But definitely in the past I used to be like, oh, fuck everybody, doesn't matter. But what I've learned is my issues aren't everybody else's issues. So that's another thing too. I feel like you can be like, okay, you and this, but sometimes you do have to show up and you do have to do certain things. So it's a balance.

[A]

Well, yeah. Cause I feel like you have to. This is, this has always been my thing. I think it's important to prioritize yourself and your own mental health and mental wellness. But you should never make people around you feel like, oh if I'm going through something it's you, cuz it's not you, it's just I need some time to myself. But then I think some people make people feel like, oh well if I'm going through something it's everybody. Well, and that's wrong.

[B]

Yeah, I agree, I now that I can agree that's wrong.

[A]

Cuz those going to be the same people that you need, that you're going to need at some point. You know what I mean? And it's like you done told them them or you done been on somebody, you type shit, now you need them six months from now, a year from now.

[B]

Right.

[A]

You just have to be.

[B]

But I think that's where communication comes in. That's where communication comes in. Because sometimes people will act a certain way and you don't know why. That's why I say it's easy to say, hey, I'm clocked out right now, I'm not doing well say that so people don't be like oh and then now you got to come back and explain, oh it wasn't. Fuck you, I wasn't being mean. Nah, bitch, you should have just said, hey, I'm going through something. You don't gotta talk to me on the phone for three hours. Just say, hey, I'm not good right now. I gotta do what's best for me and just say that we gotta work. And that's another thing for 20, 25 we gotta work on the girls gotta and the guys communication. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

[A]

Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I think I talked about this before on the show and some people are gonna agree and some people are gonna disagree. But I think sometimes people just have to be friends with people that they align with and people that understand them. I think again, going back to me and my best friend, one of the main reasons that I feel like we get along so great is because we understand each other.

[B]

Yep.

[A]

When we first became friends, it was certain. She used to do. They used to rub me the wrong way and I used to tell her and I'll be like this be rubbing me the wrong way that you be doing this. And she was like this be rubbing me the wrong way that you be doing this. And we've both made conscious efforts to not do certain anymore. But then when it's times because I know too that sometimes she suffer from anxiety and stuff. It's not about me. If you didn't answer the phone. But then cuz we share locations with each other if you didn't answer the phone. But I see you at your apartment so I know you probably not doing nothing. It's fine because it's not personal. But I think that goes into friendship styles and being friends with people. You have to be friends with people that are like minded like you. Some people be friends with needy ass people and you not a needy ass person that goes.

[B]

Remember that? They remember that conversation we had. We were talking about anxious attachments and different type of attachment styles. That's why I said we going to get an expert on here because I think we kind of glazed over it. But that's, that's a good point. It goes avoidant attachment styles. Anxious like an avoidance should not be with somebody who has an ancient like you can't do it.

[A]

I have another friend who I'm still friends with right now too who we had had like a little falling out like last year because she was just like. I feel like I'm always calling you first. So I'm always calling you all the time. And to me, I don't know, like I'm just such a person who live in my own world a lot of the time. Which is something that I did say 20, 25 maybe I need to work on that calling people more because I have like two friends that I actually call all the time. And I do feel like a lot of my other friends they be calling me first. And it's not personal, it's just I think some people make me calm and some people give me like make me a little anxious.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

So the people who make me anxious. Yeah, I'm probably not gonna call you all the time but it doesn't mean I don't want to talk.

[B]

Right.

[A]

If you want to talk to me and you want to call me and talk to me about something, that's fine, you could do that. But I'm not trying to make you feel like the friendship is only one sided. But I think that also goes into friendship styles and relationship styles because I don't not trying to be. Cause I'm trying to make sure our word is right. Cause it's not to say I don't want to be friends with somebody like that but like stuff like that be so petty to me. Conversations like about who called somebody first and who made the last phone call. And I just feel like, is that what we really talking about?

[B]

One thing about me? I do not. I don't even pay attention to that shit. I don't give a fuck if I called you the last four times. I'm gonna call you the fifth time. What you doing, girl?

[A]

But that's what I'm saying. Like, stuff like that is just kind of. But. But then for some people, it feels. And so that's where I feel, like, friendship styles. I don't know if that's really a real thing. It is, but I feel like that's important.

[B]

Love, languages, all that stuff. As much as it applies to relationship.

[A]

It applies to friendship too.

[B]

It definitely does. I know so. Yeah, I know so. I think that's why, like, certain friends and certain people that I'm cool with, I have to treat certain friends differently in xyz, but they get me. We may. We may not get along all the time, but it's an understanding there. It's a certain level of understanding. So I do feel like in the year of 2025, be around people who actually like you and who actually are good friends and who actually understand you.

[A]

Cuz sometimes people don't be liking you.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. A lot of times y'all be around people who don't like you. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. What's up, y'all? It's your girl xp, and it's your.

[A]

Girl Dre and Nicole.

[B]

Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week, but do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds, your opportunity is here, period.

[A]

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[B]

We love to support a small business.

[A]

Now in a black business at that, but I mean, we don't discriminate. Any business is welcome.

[B]

Now it's time to get into the bed. Oh, about Bell.

[A]

Bell.

[B]

Todd, did we even do the drinks?

[A]

Nope.

[B]

Okay, hold on. Let me clean this up. Are we drinking?

[C]

I'm making Lex's drink now, but this is. And I was already sipping Mine, since we're in the episode. But Yvette's gonna put some really cute pictures up of this drink because it has some glitter that was, like, circulating around. But this is the new year new me. Okay, 20, 25, we stepping in with our big girl shoes and our big girl panties on the thongs. Okay, Pull them up and let's go. All right, let's get these back. New year, new me, we have your spirit of choice. We have some elderflower liqueur, some grapefruit, a little bit of lime, and some lavender syrup. And then we topped it off with some champagne just to give that New Year's fizz. And we added some edible glitter to it. And that is it, ladies, the new year new me. And, Lex, yours is coming right back.

[A]

I like that.

[B]

Do it again, man. Shout out to the Yin Yang Twins.

[A]

Facts.

[B]

They used to drop them bangers on their ass.

[A]

They did.

[B]

They was the first people that was whispering in the ear on the song.

[C]

So I don't mind asking for head.

[A]

You heard what I said? Need to make it back to the. You start using your head, like, to.

[B]

Fall into that freak stove. Say something like that, right? Oh.

[A]

Beat that pussy up. Like, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam.

[B]

Like, beat the beat the. Oh, my God. That was such a good song.

[A]

It was.

[B]

There was another song that I knew.

[A]

Was that I wondered. We about to go in the studio.

[B]

Cause you know what's crazy? So many people try to remake a whisper type song, and they couldn't do it. There's been no. Like, a lot of Atlanta people rappers were trying to do, like, a whisper, and they couldn't remake that song. Yeah, there was another song that they had. They were whispering on. What was it?

[A]

Do y'all remember the Yin Yang Twins?

[B]

They had another song where they were kind of whispering on it. I gotta pull up my Spotify, y'all. I'm sorry. I have to. But Drea, in the meantime.

[A]

Okay, in the meantime. So for the bed topic, we're gonna be talking about sex talk with your friends. What do you tell your friends, and what do you not tell them about your sex life or about your man or your woman? Like, are there certain things that are off limits? You feel like, I shouldn't tell my friends this, or are you the type of person that you just feel like, you know, if we friends, I'm just let the chopper sing.

[B]

So I feel like it's certain things that I like to do in the bedroom. Honestly, I'll say this. I tell my friends a Lot I do. But as I've gotten older, I feel like it's certain things that I just like to have between like me and my man. It's not that it's nothing like, oh, freaky, embarrassing, but it just be certain things that go in the bedroom that I just keep to myself. I think it's more so about me and his bond and things that we can have just that's between us that other people don't know. And also, like I said, I feel like I used to share so many things that I do in the bedroom on this show too. It be stuff that I, like, maybe tried or I thought was funny and I was making a joke about it. And it be like years later and they still be bringing it up and talking about it. It's like, relax. But people like to take a little inch and what is it? You give them an inch and they take them out.

[A]

Yeah, relax.

[B]

So honestly, I feel like there's certain things that like you and your friends can laugh about, but I feel like if you're in a serious relationship, there are certain things that should be between you and your man. I agree.

[A]

I don't think everybody needs to know everything, but I also don't. I don't know. I think it depend on why you keeping stuff to yourself. Like, I feel like. I don't know. I don't operate in fear when it comes to anything, so.

[B]

Right.

[A]

I think that some people don't like to share stuff about their relationship or they sex life and stuff because they be feeling like, oh, if you tell somebody too much or if you share too much with your friends, then they gonna want to your. My not gonna y'all period.

[B]

So it ain't about that.

[A]

So I'm not worried about that.

[B]

Like, damn, I never thought of it that way.

[A]

Well, I'm saying. Cause maybe that's not how you look at it. But I'm saying, like, I've heard a lot of people say stuff like that. Like, I don't want to tell my friends too much about my relationship. I don't want to tell my friends too much about this or too much about that. Because I feel like if I share too much about my man and like that he's well endowed, or that he's good in the bedroom or he eat good, whatever the case may be, then they gonna want to my. Well, I'm not worried about that.

[B]

And also, if you hear your friends say that and you be wanting to him, that's weird.

[A]

Weird as hell. That's weird as it Is weird, But I do think that there are women like that. But I think that more so goes into the company that you keep.

[B]

I mean, because men. Because we know that men be like that.

[A]

Because, first of all, why are you friends with a. That you think will fuck your nigga? And why are you with a nigga who you think will fuck one of your friends? Hey, if I ever had that type of doubt in my mind about my man or my friend. You not about to be my man or my friend.

[B]

Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. That's my bitch. Y'all don't gotta say that. My nigga don't have to say that. And I also think, too.

[A]

I just think it's. I think a lot of the time, to me, that's why people don't share stuff. Like, I don't know you right?

[B]

I didn't think about it that way. I was more thinking about, like, oh, there's certain secret like. Like, it's certain secrets that, like, me and you have, or, like me and Killa have, or me and my man have. Like, I like to have that. We have that together, and it's just ours, and it's something special. I never thought about that. But you right.

[A]

You right. I just. I don't know. I'm really a person who I can truly say when it. Depending on how close in prox. Like, how close our relationship is. I'm like an open book with people that I'm close to.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So I don't care about you knowing certain. I'm not gonna go out of my way to just tell you my sexual business. But if we're having a conversation, like, for example, if one of my friends is having a conversation with me and they asking me about, like, head or a certain scenario in the bedroom, something that they want to try, and it's something that I've tried. If you asking me about it, I'm not gonna be like, oh, girl, I don't know. And me and my man, indeed. You know what I mean? Or I'm experienced in that realm. I'm not gonna sit here and act like, oh, girl, I don't know about it, or not talk to you about it, because I don't want you to know about what me and my man be doing. I don't know. I just.

[B]

I agree with you.

[A]

I think stuff like that is a little weird. It's like, you don't trust your friends, and if that's the case, then why are they your friend?

[B]

That's true.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

That's True. I don't know, but I think, like I said, if you be around your friend and you want to her man or your man want to you, and you know it. Y'all just weird as.

[A]

I mean, the signs be there, though. A who want to your or would your or a who will one of your friends.

[B]

You gotta give us the signs now. This is what poor minds is about. Oh, sorry, I burped. I'll say this is the sign. If y'all, like. If y'all like, out and she be all in his face type shit, like, you know what I'm saying? You know how somebody be in somebody face. Too flirty. Too flirty. Being like, ah, we outside, bro.

[A]

You're so funny. Oh, my God.

[B]

Yeah. Like, she all in his face. Or she try to embarrass you in.

[A]

Front of the nigga in front of the nigga.

[B]

She be like, mm, girl, you need some gum, bitch. Bitch, you need some gum. Or she be like, uh, not.

[A]

You need some gum where it's like some thunder.

[B]

Yeah. Or she be like, ugh.

[A]

Bitch. Bitch, why do you keep grabbing my toe? I'm ticklish.

[B]

You are?

[A]

Yes. My mama. You ain't stop.

[B]

It's a Taurus thing.

[A]

Why the fuck is you.

[B]

You ticklish?

[A]

I am, and I just said it, so. Why would you keep doing that?

[B]

How come you not laughing? Why you getting mad? My mama used to get so mad. Why? No, they don't think I thought it was funny. I never knew that. And her mama. Her and my mama got the same birthday. I used to grab my mom's feet. She would get so mad, she would never laugh. She. Now I know you better fucking stop. Oh, it reminds me of my mom. I have a memory.

[A]

I'm so. And it's.

[B]

Give me my memory.

[A]

And I'm so ticklish in the weirdest places, too. Ty. Like, under my butt. Like, on my thigh under my butt. My whole life, my mom, whenever she would know I would be mad at her, she would start tickling me, like, under my butt when I was, like, a teenager and stuff. And I would be like, stop.

[B]

Then give me my memory. It's about. It's for my mom.

[A]

Girl, move, please. Okay, but I'll say this.

[B]

You in a nigga face or you trying to embarrass your friend?

[A]

What we said on that last episode, the Outkast song.

[B]

What else? Oh, you and your mama songs. I found the other whiskey sound.

[A]

I'm gonna get that.

[B]

Do y'all remember this song? Okay.

[A]

You and your mama remember.

[B]

Do Y'all remember this song? What happened? I missed it. What happened?

[A]

You can go. Get the hell out.

[B]

My mama was ticklish on her feet. Okay, Drea, before you go and tell your things, do y'all remember this Yin Yang Twin song? Look, you done talked a whole lot of.

[A]

But wait till you see my dick.

[B]

Hey, I ain't really for the talking game, but you and came in the room to start handling things first off, okay? And I beat the up. Hit it from the back and beat the up doing all that running Bosnia. Still a long dick coming. A ride on the dick like he was dancing in the club, Y'all, I remember it. You heard her say, long dick coming.

[C]

Long dick coming is.

[B]

My long dick coming is okay. That was the. So they did another whisper. They were kind of. He wasn't whispering, but he was kind of whispering. Shout out to the Yin Yang Twins, Pioneers in the game. Nichols was really trying to whisper on that track.

[A]

You need to cut it out. You need to cut it out. But no, I don't know what's up.

[B]

Y'All, it's your girl xp, and it's.

[A]

Your girl Dre Nicole.

[B]

And y'all, do not forget to call our shot line. I know you've heard of a hotline, but this is the Poor Minds shot line.

[A]

Yeah, we love to hear from y'all. Y'all need to call in y'all, and this is not necessarily for questions. You know, we just want to hear from y'all. Like, we want to know y'all feedback, y'all thoughts on the show, or just what's going on in your life. So you can always call 678-827182C.

[B]

Yes. And y'all know, keep it short and cute. Don't be calling and letting us know about your baby daddy, sister, brother, cousin, boyfriend.

[A]

Okay, well, I want to hear about that, actually.

[B]

Well, you know, they can let a little something, but, you know, we want to keep it cute and short, like she said. This is not questions. This is not pour your heart out. So just call, give us a little feedback. What you want to see on the show? Any suggestions what you think about the show? If you just want to simply give us our flower, you know, or any. It could be anything. What's bothering you this week? What got on your nerves this week? If you just want to vent and get some things off your chest, call the shot line again. The number is 678-827-1826. Time to get into the bed. The bop, see, see, see, see the.

[A]

Bop A the bop Bow, bow, bow.

[B]

Bow, bow, bow, bow we in a new year My teeth clean, my cun looking real clear I'm that bitch and I fuck on your nigga but he can't fuck on me. He ain't got six figures.

[A]

Ooh.

[B]

All right.

[A]

Mood.

[B]

I was stuttering a little bit. I'm gonna have to work on it.

[A]

Why?

[B]

I gotta go to the stool. I gotta get it right. Okay, so the bop of the week. Okay, you want me to go first? Okay. So my bop of the week, Alex Vaughn. I made her my bop of the week about two years ago. She had a song called so Be. And it was so fire. She's so good. And I want you R and B artists stop just not dropping music. You gotta be consistent. And this is not to Alex Vaughn. I'm just saying in general. But she has a new song called Hit a Wall and it's so relatable. You would love this song. You would love this song. Because sometimes that's what happens. You hit a wall and you be like, what the fuck are we doing? Sometimes you gotta hit a fucking wall and be like, what is going on? Crash out. Alex Vaughn. I don't know what she does. Let me tell you about this indie music. They be talking about real. When I tell you I sung the out of that.

[A]

Me too. When Usher sung that song, I said.

[B]

I was ready to get on. But. Yeah, no, but I'm saying Alex Vaugh hit a wall. If you are in a relationship right now and you feel like you don't know what to do, listen to this song because you're gonna know. We are all going through it in this holiday season with our men.

[A]

We are. Amy, don't.

[B]

You're not alone. I don't care how bad you are, how funny you are, how much money you make, how amazing of a woman. Like Cardi B said, I got little feet. Cardi, I don't care how small your feet are, we all going through it. Okay? That's all I gotta say. I don't care. I got a size 10, she got a size 7.

[A]

I got a size 7. And just cause you seen me at that concert, we still going through it. That don't mean the size of your foot don't matter.

[B]

We all going through it. So Alex Von Little feet don't mean shit. It don't mean nothing. The tens and the sevens are 10. Telling you it don't mean it. Anything but Alex Vaughn. So be it. That's the song I. I put on my playlist a long Time ago. Go listen to that. She's got a new song called Hit a Wall. Alex Vaughn, you're amazing. Please keep dropping music. I'm gonna give Mazat Mazadi. I hope I'm saying your name right. You had a song that you dropped, like, three or four years ago. It's called Intoxicated Truth. Mazati, I don't know where you are. I don't know if you are under another name. God, I hope you didn't pass away. I don't know where you are, but please drop some more music. It's M A S A T I, y'all, please find him for me. Blow him up. And maybe. Maybe he don't want to do music no more. And let me know because I don't want to be bothering this man, but he has a song called Intoxicated Truth. I made this my bop, like, two years ago, But I went in like a rabbit hole the other day trying to look for him, and I could not find anything, so. Mazati, Intoxicated Truth, where are you?

[A]

Remember that song back in the day? When you start spelling his name?

[B]

Why you mess me up?

[A]

M A, C, K, E, V, L.

[B]

E, E. You doing it wrong. S, P, L, A, C, K, A, V, E, L, L, F, I, E. Blackavelly. What the did you spell?

[A]

I said Machiavelli.

[B]

A, S, Y, F, V, B, E.

[A]

I said M A, C, K, bitch.

[B]

M, S, E, M, V, P, Y, E Ma cause. What song are you singing? She said no M, B, M A.

[A]

C, K, E, V.

[B]

My bitch know the song. Y'all got her fucked up. M, B, Y, X, Y, Z, T, V, E. Oh, X and Y, Z the Alphabet. I knew what you was talking about.

[A]

Oh, my God. That was such a good song.

[B]

Everyone needs that.

[A]

Cause what the fuck is Blackavelli?

[B]

Mother you can call win a man. I think that was Jack Thriller.

[A]

No, it wasn't Blackavelli, was it?

[B]

Yes, Blackavelli is Jack.

[A]

Look it up.

[B]

Oh, my God.

[A]

Look it up.

[B]

Blackavelli is Jack Thriller. Spli. That sound like you.

[A]

No, it's just a song. Like a die Gucci. Like a die.

[C]

R B song.

[A]

Is this on? Y'all talking about an R B song? Yes, it's called. It's by Pressure.

[C]

Pressure, Pressure, pressure.

[A]

She's for in Jack Thriller.

[C]

This do not look like Jack.

[B]

Okay, my bad, my bad. I was wrong. I was wrong.

[C]

Is this the song y'all talking about?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Every woman needs her own split a.

[B]

Brother she can call when her. You can't Play it though. They going to flash.

[C]

Tell me what kind of superman would.

[A]

Take you in his bedroom, baby.

[B]

Y. Yep. Yeah. Song by.

[A]

I know y'all was listening to that in Chicago.

[C]

I have no idea what this heard of Splacking Valley? No, but I definitely will.

[A]

Y'all press play.

[B]

Oh damn. This not Jack.

[A]

I'm from the home of the original.

[B]

But why do you know Jack but why do you know. Why do you know Jack Thriller's song though? How you know? How you remember that song? What Jack Thriller song?

[A]

Cause that was a rememberable song.

[B]

Rememberable. Memorable. Rememberable.

[A]

I know rememberable ain't a word.

[B]

Sing it one more time. What Jack Thriller song?

[A]

No.

[B]

What's your bible?

[A]

Circadian Rhythm by Drake. I haven't had a Drake song in a very.

[B]

She's trying to stunt very very. I'm gonna let you stunt starting a year off with with that girl. She trying to make up cause she been jamming Kendrick hard as it don't matter.

[A]

I could jam both the fuck hey, I'm not scared of neither one of them.

[B]

The shit I'm really putting on the.

[A]

The same squabble up so you know I can like both artists.

[B]

You can. You can.

[A]

I'm with and yes, Drake had came out with Circadian Rhythm. It actually came out like back in August. But I just never said it as my vibe because I been listening to it for a minute.

[B]

I got to listen to it.

[A]

I don't think I'm have I heard it unite.

[C]

It wasn't promoted that much.

[B]

Oh that's what I'm saying. I don't think I've heard it.

[C]

It's no like cover art or anything.

[B]

For but in the meantime.

[A]

Okay y'all, now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show which is pour your heart out. You know, if you have any questions, any testimonials, you can always send them into ask poor minds gmail dot com. That's a s k p O-U-R-M I n d s dot com. Why did you take your crown off?

[B]

Cause my. It was like squeezing my head a little bit. Can we switch crown? No, cuz this is questions, not my speech. Okay, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.

[A]

Hey Lexandrea. I'm gonna make this short and sweet. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost four years. We are high school sweethearts. He's everything I always wanted in a partner. He treats me so well mentally, physically and emotionally. But financially we go 5050 on bills and recently I have been paying the bills for both of us because he's not making money right now. We are both 23 and I'm struggling financially myself, taking care of us both. I can't see myself being with anybody else. But at the same time, I don't want to stress myself out paying all the bills with no help. Need advice?

[B]

So let me say this. 100% on the man and 0% for the woman is not for everybody, first of all. But if y'all agreed on 50, 50, where your 50 at, nigga, you gotta show the up. So this is not what we agreed upon. If you signed up for 50%, you need to show up for. Guess what? I can't show up here. I can't be like, Ty, I don't got it. This month I'm gonna pay you 25%. I can't do that. I can't do that. That's not. You don't. You know what I'm saying? If you have to show up in your household, because if he had his own apartment and he was on his own, he gotta pay that rent by himself. You are teaching this man to depend on you. And the more you do this, the more he's gonna get comfortable with being lazy and doing nothing. You want a man who bare minimum can show up for you 50%? He don't even gotta show up 100%. You asking him to show up 50% for the bills and he can't do that. Y'all are 23. So y'all young. I know y'all probably not living in no high rise or no big ass townhouse or this and that he should be able to show up with. I'll throw out a number here. If you can't show up $1,000 a month at 23 years old, you not going hard enough. And you got a person that's helping you at 23? I didn't have nobody helping me like that. Well, yes, I did. Let me not lie. But what I'm saying is, at 23, you have a woman who is willing to go 50 50. When most people are not trying to go 50 50, but the average person in a relationship is going 50 50. Girl, you be better off getting you a one bedroom and figuring shit out on your own. But if you're gonna stay with him, make him pay. Because you're teaching him that this is okay and that you're gonna hold shit down. He too young to not be able to show up. Now if we are millionaires and something you come on Hard times. That's a different ball game. That's a different ball game once we talk about some real money. Cause sometimes shit happens, and you be like, hey, I gotta handle the mortgage this month. Because whatever happened, baby, y'all are 23, and he can't show up for you. If he can't show up for you at 23, he not gonna show up for you at 33.

[A]

I agree. I think that was very great advice. Licks to the P. Now, of course, make sure you shop musebeautycollection.com. get your lip glosses, your matte liquid lipsticks, your lip liners, your jelly blushes. We are also having a sale right now, so make sure you go to muse beautycollection.com. make sure you follow my personal YouTube channel at Dre and Nicole with three E's. Make sure you follow Lex personal YouTube channel @Love Underscore.

[B]

It's just Love Legs.

[A]

Oh, it's just a lovely speed. My bad at Love Legs. P And yeah, y'all. We'll see y'all next week.

[B]

Bye.

[A]

Happy New Year. Oh, we gotta pop the.

[B]

We got popping bottles.

[A]

Oh, can I pop on? Yes. Is way too excited.

[B]

Come on, Shay.

[A]

Come on.

[B]

Oh, okay. Five, four.

[A]

Three, two, one. Happy New Year.

[B]

Nothing came out of my eye. Oh, girl. We'll see y'all next week. I'll be in trouble if you're laughing now. See y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content. Like, subscribe, follow all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out, y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P O U R Underscore. M I N nds. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no Underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page. Okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one Tick Tock. It is P O U R Underscore. M I n D S. All right?

[A]

And we got hella fake Facebook page.

[B]

Oh, the Facebook pages.

[A]

Our face. The crazy thing is, our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers.

[B]

So if you're on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers.

[A]

The one that's not us got, like250,000 fake.

[B]

If you actually look at the content because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English because their captions.

[A]

Are like, bumba clutch.

[B]

Should men should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes, no check answer below blah blah.

[A]

Like that's literally what the captions I.

[B]

Like you what with that DDG's Bumba Claude. I love that video. I am me.

[A]

She's thinking like she thinking about trying me she wanted she can't take no more. I must have take us up my spot Imma get a hot she gonna turn around and when I beat beat beat beat beat.

[B]

She gonna make me beat beat beat.

[A]

Beat beat she gonna let.

[B]

Go go go go go go.

[A]

Imma have a screaming like go go go go go. But sexy Can I take you to my crib? Make love on my piano? Girl you know me little shoddy from Atlanta. I want to do some things to you. Touch your body, make you get naughty. Say my name when I beep beep beep. We could do it in a pool or the jeep jeep jeep. Cause girl you know you're turning me on. Shorty been eyeing me she looking like she thinking about trying me she wanted she can't take no more. I'm about to take her to my spot. Imma get it hot. She gonna turn around and let me be. She gonna let me be. She gonna let me be. Oh my goodness it's screaming like go.

[B]

Go go go go go. Imma have a screaming like go go go go go go.

[A]

I'm a terror condo I can make it rain, I can make you clap for me. You driving me crazy I know you want me Cause girl I want you Tell me can we kick it tonight? Lights, camera, action. I'll play direct turn you out, Let me sneak a peek Turn you out on a late night creep. I ain't playing no games tonight.

[B]

Me she looking like she thinking about.

[A]

Trying me she wanted she can't take.

[B]

No more, no more, no more. Take it to by 5 I'mma get it high beat beep beep beep beep. She going to make me a beat beat beat beat beat.

[A]

Be, be, be be be.

[B]

Misses Officer.

[A]

Oh that's another way I swag it out. I got enough. She said she likes to wear a worker out till she passing. Now you want to be with us all? Well baby I'm an astronaut. Let her lick the rapper. I'll call it a jawbreaker. If her back was the law Then call me the law breaker.

[B]

What?

[A]

Call me the law breaker.

[B]

What?

[A]

If her back was the law? Call me the law breaker. Yeah.

[B]

Man, we'll see y'all next week. Happy New Year.

[A]

Let me do my little one cheek.

[B]

All right, wrap this sa.