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Raising Teens with Collett Smart
Hosted by Hope 103.2 · EN
When it comes to raising little ones, we often feel as though we have a small village around us – in morning play groups, meeting other parents at tots’ birthday parties, or on the sides of sports fields. It can feel like we have it (mostly) under control. Until our child gradually emerges into their teen years and so much changes! It is a unique time for both you and your child.
Sometimes, everything you thought you knew goes out the window and you’re struggling to keep up. You look around and the village seems to have diminished. Raising Teens will be part of your support system – your village! There will be something here for everyone who cares for teens. Most importantly, this is your resource, so we want to hear from you – your challenges, your suggestions – you are part of this community.
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The information provided on this podcast is for general educational purposes only and does not take into account your personal situation. It is not a substitute for professional advice. We recommend you seek a medical or healthcare professional if you are seeking advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Busy / Single Parents: Why Connection Beats Constant Presence
6d ago00:14:15Tap to summarizeKey Takeaways: Letting go of the "super parent" myth can alleviate feelings of guilt; focus on meaningful connections instead. Confirming through actions that your child knows they are loved and important is vital in parenting. Small touch points and personalized approaches to connection, such as texts or shared activities, are essential in building strong relationships. Community support and involving other trusted adults in your child's life bolster resilience and provide needed assistance. Understanding your teen's unique needs and responding with flexible, negotiated solutions can enhance your relational bond. Notable Quotes: "Being stretched doesn't mean you're failing." "Connection matters much more than your constant presence." "A five minute meaningful conversation can be more important or have more impact than hours spent in the same room." "No teen is meant to be raised by one adult alone." "Your teen doesn't need a perfect parent… They need a parent who keeps showing up." Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Transcribe →Parenting Teens Is Hard — Here's Why (And What Helps)
2w ago00:14:55Tap to summarizeKey Takeaways: Independence is Key: Teenagers naturally drift away from parents as they seek independence, making this a crucial but challenging time for both. Adaptability is Essential: Parents must adapt to their teen’s rapidly changing behaviors and needs, understanding their own frustrations. Balancing Control and Connection: It is important to maintain connection over controlling every aspect of a teen's life, emphasizing trust and openness. Acknowledging Grief and Growth: Parents can acknowledge their feelings of loss and foreboding while celebrating the new person their teen is becoming. Communication is Paramount: Establish a communication style that respects the evolving needs of teens, guiding them without dictating. Notable Quotes: "It's hard because you care. It's hard because you love them." "The goal shifts from being involved in everything really just to thinking in your mind. I'm available for anything that they need." "If parenting your teen feels hard, it doesn't necessarily mean that something's wrong." "Give ourselves permission to feel those things that worry, that sadness, that excitement." "Influence comes through connection, conversations, trust." Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Transcribe →Navigating School Psychology and Mental Health | Michelle Basson
3w ago00:40:48Tap to summarizeAll views expressed in this episode are personal to Michelle Basson. Michelle Basson is a dedicated school psychologist actively working in both public education systems and the academic sphere associated with university settings. Her role involves providing comprehensive support and counseling to students across multiple school environments, including both primary and high schools. Michelle's work extends to assessment and securing individual student support, making a significant impact on bridging student needs with available resources. Key Takeaways Rising Mental Health Concerns: There is a notable increase in bullying and depressive symptoms amongst younger students, highlighting the urgent need for early intervention and mental health support in schools. Role of School Psychologists: School psychologists are instrumental in assessing students and securing additional support, effectively bridging the gap between student needs and school resources. Navigating Consent and Confidentiality: The process of obtaining consent and confidentiality in school counseling can vary significantly depending on the student's age and situation, necessitating sensitive navigation by school psychologists. Importance of School Systems: For parents, understanding the support systems available in schools and how to access them can be crucial in ensuring their child receives the necessary help. Demystifying Counseling: Open communication and breaking down the perceived complexities surrounding school counseling can foster a supportive environment for students, reducing the stigma around seeking help. Notable Quotes: "There's a real rise in kind of depressive symptoms in young people and anxiety... a really scary trend in schools." "The more information we have, the more knowledge we have, the more the whole process becomes demystified." "In the high school, definitely a lot of the referrals are counseling referrals... very open about what it might entail, the first session will just be getting to know you." "If the student refuses to be seen by us... we have a person called the Student Support Officer." "My hope is just that we continue to talk about mental health... students just know where they can find support." Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Transcribe →Relieved Your Teen Is Leaving? That's Normal
4w ago00:17:24Tap to summarizeKey Takeaways: The process of raising children aims to prepare them to thrive independently rather than keeping them at home. Transitioning to an "open nest" allows for relationships to evolve, fostering a friendship between parents and young adults. Parents have the opportunity to deeply appreciate who their children are becoming, while children gain newfound appreciation for their parents. Family interactions become more intentional and meaningful once children have left home, as time together is a choice rather than an expectation. The journey of parenthood doesn't end when children leave the house; it simply evolves into a new role of guidance and support. Notable Quotes: "Our role wasn't to raise our children who stay, our role was to raise adults who can thrive on their own." "I think an open nest is a home where parents can shift their relationship to a friendship." "Leaving home doesn't end your role, it changes it. You're less of a director, you're more of a guide." "Remember, raising teens isn't about keeping them close forever. It's about helping them grow strong enough to fly." Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Letting Teens Go: The Shift No One Prepares You For
Jun 2300:17:19Tap to summarizeKey Takeaways: Transition from Authority to Ally: Empowering parents to shift their roles from strict rule enforcers to supportive allies, improving the parent-teen relationship. Control and Instructions: Highlighting the risks of micromanaging older teens, emphasising that too much control can create distance instead of fostering growth and maturity. Effective Connection: Suggesting practical ways to nurture connection with teens through natural interactions, like shared activities and thoughtful conversations. Boundaries as Bridges: Encouraging open discussions about household chores, privacy, and personal space to enhance mutual respect and prevent resentment. Acceptance of Different Choices: Emphasising the importance of staying supportive and connected even if children make choices that differ from parental hopes, ensuring they feel safe. Notable Quotes: "Instead of being a rule setter, you might now be more of a sounding board instead of being the manager Think of yourself as becoming an ally." "Mistakes are what help us and them to learn and to grow. And protection can just feel like pressure for them." "Boundaries aren't walls, they're bridges." "Connection doesn't mean we always have to agree. Support also doesn't always mean silence." "The good news is that this stage can bring some of the most meaningful, honest and rewarding relationships that you'll ever have with your kids." Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Empty Nest: When Your Teen Leaves Home - Janet Evans
Jun 1600:37:10Tap to summarizeWin a copy of Janet Evans' book Empty Next by clicking here!!! Janet Evans is an accomplished author and podcast host recognised for her insightful work on the themes of parenting and personal growth. She co-authored the book "Empty Next" with Dr. Amelia Haynes, targeting the often unspoken phenomenon of empty nest syndrome. Alongside her literary contributions, Janet is known for co-hosting the podcast "She Wasn't Born Yesterday," which celebrates the experiences and transitions faced by women over 40. Janet’s expertise in traversing this delicate phase of parenting combines personal experience with practical strategies tailored to support parents through this emotional transition. Key Takeaways: Emotional Spectrum: Parents often experience a mix of pride and grief when their children leave home, highlighting the natural, varied responses to empty nesting. Improved Relationships: Interviews with young adults reveal that many develop stronger relationships with their parents after moving out, underlining the potential for positive change. Reevaluating Misconceptions: The episode challenges common misconceptions, such as the assumption that mothers are more affected than fathers by their children's departure. Global Phenomenon: Empty nest syndrome is not exclusive to Western cultures; parents worldwide experience similar emotional transitions despite differing family structures. Proactive Transitioning: Parents are encouraged to plan ahead by prioritising personal interests and marital relationships to ease the transition into this new stage of life. Notable Quotes: "You bring them up for like 20 odd years. It's a long time to be in the same job." "A lot of [young adults] got on a lot better with their parents once they'd moved out." "You should never feel guilty about missing your children after they've left home." "With all of the people that we spoke to, the dads were just as affected. Oh, my goodness. And some of them even more so." "Every single situation is different, and every personality is different… overwhelmingly, most parents want the very best for their kids." Resources: Janet Evans's book "Empty Next" explores empty nest syndrome and its impact. Podcast "She Wasn't Born Yesterday" hosted by Janet Evans, focused on women over 40. Hope 103.2 Radio, mentioned as an initial platform for the podcast concept. Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Transcribe →Is Your Teen in Crisis? 4 Signs to Know & How to Respond
Jun 900:14:48Tap to summarizeKey Takeaways: Recognise Behavioral Changes: Learn to identify key signs of a teen in crisis, such as withdrawal, risk-taking, diminished school performance, and expressions of hopelessness. Maintain Calm and Support: Discover the importance of staying calm and curious, not reactive, to offer a safe environment where teens feel supported. Focus on Connection: Prioritise emotional safety and connection over immediate problem-solving to build trust and open communication lines with adolescents. Support Over Correct: Understand the need to connect with your teen before introducing any corrective actions or consequences post-crisis. Professional Help: Reinforce that seeking professional support is essential and conveying that doing nothing is not an option for their well-being. Notable Quotes: "Crisis behavior is often communication, not defiance or attention-seeking." "A calm parent becomes the emotional anchor in a teen's storm." "Connect before we correct." "Doing nothing is not an option. My job is to love you and support you." "I'm here to listen if you need me. I'm here for you if you want to brainstorm any ideas together." Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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INTRODUCING Collett Smart - Parenting Under Pressure: Are We Our Own Worst Enemy?
May 2601:00:12Tap to summarizeCollett Smart appears as a guest on a sister podcast With All Due Respect breaking down the intricacies of parenting, chatting about the societal and Christian pressures surrounding it. They discuss whether parenting has become a form of justification by works and how it impacts parental anxieties. Do follow this podcast if you've found value in it. Key Takeaways: The anxiety surrounding parenting may be tied to societal pressures and cultural expectations, exacerbated by digital advancements and social media comparisons. Effective parenting often involves striking a balance between discipline and nurturing, a strategy supported by research on authoritative parenting. Vulnerability and authenticity in parenting, including open conversations about difficult topics, can foster a healthy family environment. Modern parents face unique challenges compared to previous generations, necessitating new methods and flexibility in parenting styles. Engaging in meaningful discussions with children about important life topics, like faith and personal responsibility, is crucial for their development and character building. Notable Quotes: "Parenting has become a sort of visible metric of our sanctification." - Michael Jensen "We are parenting our children for this life and for the people that they interact with." - Collett Smart "We need to let go of expectations we had for them. Those are gone now." - Collett Smart "Parenting is a school for our own discipleship." - Michael Jensen "Allowing our children to experience some discomfort, but then supporting them through that." - Collett Smart Resources: Her Podcast: Raising Teens with Collett Smart Collett Smart's Book: They'll Be Okay: 15 Conversations to Help Your Child Through Troubled Times Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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My Teen Won't Talk to Me Anymore - What Parents Can Do
Mar 2400:18:36Tap to summarizeKey Takeaways: Teens distancing from parents is a normal developmental phase as they seek independence. Parents should provide a "steady presence" and adapt to their teen's communication preferences. Emotional regulation and repair after conflicts are vital to maintaining trust. Giving teens some control over their choices within healthy boundaries can foster connection. Family connection, though on the teen's terms, remains crucial for their overall life satisfaction. Notable Quotes: "Pulling back is often part of building independence, and it's how teens practice being separate, capable people." "Very often, the closeness returns once the emotional storm has passed." "Connection still matters. It's often more on our teens' terms, but connection is what we need to be fighting for as parents." "You will know your teen best. You will know what works well." "Even well-intentioned advice can land as criticism when emotions are high." Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Parenting Through Loss: 21 Gifts from Amy - Raewyn Elsegood
Mar 1700:52:15Tap to summarizePURCHASE the book for $1.39AUD here at Amazon Raewyn Elsegood is a seasoned author and chaplain renowned for her empathetic writing and expertise in grief counseling. With over ten years of experience as a trained writer, Raewyn has channeled her profound personal experience of losing her daughter into her work, penning "21 Gifts" as a testament to her healing journey. Her professional history includes extensive work as a chaplain, where she has supported countless individuals in times of grief with her compassionate presence and insightful guidance. Key Takeaways: Grief is Messy and Individual: Raewyn underscores that grief is not a linear process but unique to each person and can evolve over time. Writing as Healing: "21 Gifts" harnesses the power of writing as a therapeutic outlet, documenting a mother's journey through loss by reflecting on life's gifts. The Power of Presence: Offering support to those grieving involves simply "being there," as a witness to their experience without needing to fix it. Faith's Role in Grief: Raewyn candidly shares her struggle and reconciliation with faith amidst her grief, revealing the comfort and complexity it brings. Lessons in Legacy: Through her book and public speaking, Raewyn continues to honor Amy's legacy, teaching that healing often involves transforming personal pain into purposeful action. Notable Quotes: "Grief is very messy, and even trained professionals need to surrender to it." "Losing Amy didn't mean losing my purpose as her mother. Writing 21 Gifts, establishing her scholarship, speaking to others; this is mothering her legacy." "What I want people to feel as they read this book is they're walking with a companion, and I want them to have hope in their hurting heart." "In our fear, we stay away, not knowing what to do. But there's no perfect words. Please just show up." "Worry is normal, but it is a waste of time." Resources: Raewyn Elsegood's Website Book: 21 Gifts Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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