Men, Masks, and Meaning: Sean Hegarty on Being “Fine,” Identity, and Men Forge Forward

Host Andy Grant talks with Sean Hegarty, founder of Men Forge Forward, about how many men hide stress behind the mask of being “fine,” shaped by pressure, responsibility, and fear of appearing weak. Drawing on years as a paramedic and healthcare manager, Sean describes seeing men buckle under hidden load—especially during COVID when support networks vanished—and shares his own “dark time” after being diagnosed with complex PTSD and Functional Neurological Disorder, which ended his paramedic career and triggered depression and suicidal thoughts. Through therapy, networking, and coaching, he learned to separate identity from job, focus inward on values, and build an accessible Skool-based community that became a supportive brotherhood.

He explains signs of being stuck, the power of vulnerability and peer support, his critique of commercial coaching frameworks, and emphasizes that “it’s okay not to be okay.”

00:00 I'm Fine Lie
00:23 Meet Sean Hegarty
01:11 Emergency Care Stress
04:10 Masks And Weakness
06:51 Losing Paramedic Identity
08:38 Coaching Turning Point
11:20 Building Men Forge
13:36 Brotherhood Community
16:23 Not Finished Just Stuck
21:34 Signs He's Not Fine
23:39 Leading With Micro Wins
25:54 Connect And Closing

Connect with Sean
Men Forge Forward — http://menforgeforward.com/
LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/seanhegarty01/

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