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Relationship Advice
Hosted by Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich · EN
Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships.
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Healing Attachment - What Pursuers and Withdrawers Need To Work On In Individual Therapy
5d ago00:54:45Tap to summarizeHealing attachment wounds begins with understanding how early relationships shaped the ways we seek connection, respond to conflict, and protect ourselves from rejection. In this episode, we explore how insecure attachment patterns can show up in adult relationships—and why healing requires more than simply finding the “right” partner. You’ll learn how self-awareness, emotional safety, consistency, and new relational experiences can help you build a more secure way of connecting. In This Episode: • Understanding Attachment Wounds • Recognizing Protective Patterns • Creating Emotional Safety • Practicing Secure Connection • Healing Through Relationships • Building Lasting Trust Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Breaking Old Patterns for Deeper Love with Stefanos Sifandos
2w ago00:57:09Tap to summarizeFREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we talk with Stefanos Sifandos about how old wounds, relational patterns, and emotional reactivity can shape the way we show up in love. He shares why healthy relationships require self-awareness, repair, and a willingness to take responsibility for the patterns we bring into connection. This conversation explores how couples can move beyond blame and create more honest, grounded, and lasting intimacy. Main Talking Points: - Relationship Patterns - Emotional Repair - Inner Work - Healthy Conflict - Deeper Intimacy - Personal Responsibility Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! Rhythm - Get 15% off + Free shipping the world’s easiest at home blood testing Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Relational Injuries
2w ago00:47:13Tap to summarizeToday we dive into Relational Injuries! Relational injuries come in all kinds of relationships and we will cover what it is, and how it happens. We explore the distinction between relational injuries and typical relationship challenges. And we will teach you how to recognize when a situation escalates to a relational injury. Once we know what relational injuries are, we will discuss the expectations of having relationships with other people. We will dive into the way to manage expectations and have a healthy ability of navigating injuries effectively as they come. We will walk through the way to apologize and take responsibility for the way that we didn’t meet a need in our partners, along with the role of accountability and remorse in the healing process; teaching clear communication and how to rebuild trust and intimacy at the same time.Listen to our therapists’ role play some examples of painful responses to a partner expressing their missed need, as well as an example of the “right” kind of response. Speaking of intimacy, we will walk through the concept of the intimacy pyramid as a framework for rebuilding intimacy after a relational injury.And finally, we will cover how to move forward. How we find hope after relational injuries, and we will share proven strategies for rebuilding trust and connection. Give Me Discounts! Check out Relationship Academy! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! Rythm - Get 15% off your first month + free shipping! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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What Our Withdrawer Spouse Can Teach Us
3w ago00:54:08Tap to summarizeFREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we explore what pursuers can learn from withdrawer partners instead of seeing them as the “problem” in the relationship. Withdrawers often bring steadiness, pacing, self-regulation, and a needed reminder that not every issue has to be solved immediately. When pursuers can appreciate these differences, couples can move out of blame and into a more balanced, secure connection. Main Talking Points: Slowing Down Self Regulation Energy Conservation Selective Needs Healthy Individuation Grounded Stability Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! Rhythm - Get 15% off + Free shipping the world’s easiest at home blood testing Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Treat Trauma
3w ago00:48:06Tap to summarizeFREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we talk about what trauma treatment actually looks like and why healing is not as simple as “telling the story” or getting the memory out of your brain. Trauma is not only stored as information. It is often held in the body, in our nervous system, and in the protective responses we learned in order to survive. Because of this, effective trauma work usually requires more than talking through the details. It requires pacing, safety, resourcing, body awareness, and learning how to stay connected to yourself while approaching painful material. We also explore why therapists may not always ask for every detail right away, how trauma responses can show up in relationships, and why healing often begins with compassion for the parts of us that adapted to protect us. Give Me Discounts! Rhythm - Get 15% off + Free shipping the world’s easiest at home blood testing Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Know If They Are "The One"
4w ago00:54:05Tap to summarizeHow do you know when someone is truly the person you want to build a life with? In this episode, we talk about the big question so many people ask in dating: How do I know if they’re “the one”? We share how we each knew with our own partners, then walk through the real-life markers that can help you understand the long-term viability of a relationship. In this episode, we explore: Shared values Emotional support Healthy conflict Lifestyle fit Hard conversations Intentional pacing The goal is not to find a perfect person or a perfect relationship. The goal is to notice whether this relationship has the ingredients for safety, honesty, repair, joy, and a shared life that actually works. Give Me Discounts! Check out Relationship Academy! Rhythm - Get 15% off + Free shipping the world’s easiest at home blood testing Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Skylight - Use code “IDO” for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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What Is Trauma?
Jun 1800:41:50Tap to summarize[2:13 PM]This week on Relationship Advice we dive deep into the definition of trauma and its profound impact on our lives. In this episode, we unravel the essence of trauma, defining it as anything that overwhelms our capacity to cope, persistently leaving unmet needs in its wake. Join us as we explore the lines between the body and trauma, where we experience freezing feelings, securing them in metaphorical boxes, and employing guards.We distinguish between Big T trauma and little t trauma, shedding light on the diverse spectrum of major life events and everyday stressors. Uncover the profound impact of both on coping mechanisms and recovery, as we explore examples ranging from significant incidents like abuse, accidents, or natural disasters to the subtler but equally impactful everyday stressors such as rejection, failure, or loss.We look into the protective strategies of the brain, revealing the adaptive responses it employs to shield us from overwhelming situations and uncover the long-term effects of these protective strategies, dissecting their influence on mental health and coping mechanisms. Give Me Discounts! Check out Relationship Academy! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! Rythm - Get 15% off your first month + free shipping! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Stop Jealousy From Sabotaging Your Relationship
Jun 1500:58:31Tap to summarizeJealousy and envy can feel shameful, but they often reveal important fears, longings, and unmet needs beneath the surface. In this episode, we explore the difference between jealousy, the fear of losing something we already have, and envy, the pain of wanting something we do not feel like we have. We also talk through how to slow these emotions down, bring them to your partner with vulnerability, and move away from control, criticism, monitoring, or resentment. Main Talking Points: Jealousy vs Envy Fear Of Loss Reassurance Seeking Control Patterns Vulnerable Communication Relationship Boundaries Give Me Discounts! Check out Relationship Academy! Rhythm - Get 15% off + Free shipping the world’s easiest at home blood testing Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Emotional Regulation and Why It’s Important In Relationships: Part 2
Jun 1100:47:57Tap to summarizeIn part two of our Emotional Regulation series, we’re talking all about co-regulation — how to regulate with your partner, friend, or someone you trust.While some people naturally want closeness and support when they’re overwhelmed, others need space before they’re ready to connect. In this episode, we break down why both independent regulation and co-regulation matter, how to know what your partner may need, and how to support someone without escalating the moment. Main Talking Points: Co-Regulation Independent Regulation Giving Space Supporting Calm Partner Differences Repairing Together Give Me Discounts! Check out Relationship Academy! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! Rythm - Get 15% off your first month + free shipping! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Connection vs Safety
Jun 800:53:17Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we talk about how couples can use simple “scales” to better understand each other’s energy, desire, and capacity. Instead of assuming what your partner means when they seem tired, anxious, disconnected, or resistant, naming where you are can turn confusion into context. These tools help couples move out of all-or-nothing thinking and into clearer, more generous communication. Main talking points: Energy Check-Ins Naming Capacity Getting Context Importance Scales Avoiding Assumptions Collaborative Language Give Me Discounts! Check out Relationship Academy! Rhythm - Get 15% off + Free shipping the world’s easiest at home blood testing Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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