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There is no better way for you and I to center our homes upon Christ than to practice regular, consistent family worship.
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Family worship. For some of us, hearing those two words brings back delightful memories from our childhood. For others, perhaps it makes us break out in a sweat knowing that this is an area where we haven't been consistent. Or maybe the entire concept is new to you. Whatever your reaction to those two words, that's what we'll be learning about today as we seek to help and encourage you. Hi, I'm Nathan W. Bingham, and this is the Monday edition of Renewing youg Mind. Our guest teacher this week is Jason Holopoulos, the senior pastor of University Reformed Church in Michigan. And we'll be spending a few days in his series created for worship, and we'll send you the series on DVD and a physical copy of the companion study guide, plus unlock access in the Ligonier app when you donate today at renewingyourmind.org or when you call us at 800-435-4343. As we approach the new year, be reminded afresh why it is we were created. So what is family worship, and why would a Christian do it? Even how would we do it? These are just some of questions we'll answer today. Here's Reverend Helopoulos.
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What I want to look at together here over these next minutes is family worship together. It is, oh, something I'm passionate about because I've seen such incredible benefits from it. And it's something that the evangelical church, at least in the last couple hundred years, has lost sight of and has lost the practice of. And there's great detriment, I think, to our spiritual lives and to our life together as churches because of it. And so I want to talk about that here with you over these next minutes together. Family worship. It may be a new concept. Some of you, you probably can put things together and figure out what it means, but it just means gathering together with those that are in your house. Maybe it's mom, dad and their 2.5 kids, or maybe it's mom and dad and one child. Or maybe it is you and your roommates. Or maybe it is a husband and wife and Uncle Bob who lives in the attic, whoever it is in that home, just gathering together for a few minutes, hopefully daily to read the word, to pray and maybe even dare to sing together just for a few minutes each day. It has a wonderful effect upon our Christian lives. It has a wonderful effect upon the home. I want to challenge you as to why you should consider doing this and why it should be part of your daily practice in your home. Even if it's something you haven't done and you're on the older end of the spectrum, or if you're on the younger end of the spectrum and you live with roommates, you think, I'm not quite sure how they would feel about this. I want to encourage you that this is a good thing to do. Two primary reasons why One, we want to center our homes upon Christ. We want to center our homes upon Christ.
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I think this is something we think we are doing much more than we actually are. When we're not practicing consistent, regular family worship, we think, well, we're a Christian home. We are both Christians and we love Christ. But that doesn't necessarily make it a Christian home. Two, bankers living together doesn't make it a bank. It's the commerce that goes on inside of the place that makes it a bank. And what is Christian above all else? It is to worship Christ, to center upon Christ. And there is no better way for you and I to center our homes upon Christ than to practice regular, consistent.
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Family worship in the home.
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We are to be, as Jonathan Edwards once said, a little church in our families. A little church. And what our church is filled up. They are filled with worship.
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It's a joy, it's a delight for the Christian to worship, and it should be a joy and a delight for the Christian family to gather together for worship. It's just a natural expression of living a life of worship to God. We are seeking to do it everywhere we are, and we're at home a lot. And these are the people that we desperately love in this world. And we want to center our life together upon Christ and family. Worship is the best way, I think, to do that.
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The second is it helps to pass on the faith. I say this especially to you grandparents and to you parents in the room. There is nothing that more ably does this than family worship. Now, it's not a silver bullet that does it, but what we are doing is we are continually putting our family, especially our children, in the way of the means of grace. God works by his means, as we've discussed over this series. He works by his word, he works by prayer. And so we're just putting our family members in the way of the means of grace. This is one of the best ways to pass on the faith. When I think of passing on the faith, I think of Psalm 78 and Asaph's Psalm there. It is, a wonderful psalm. Just want to look at these verses with you here together and his focus and kind of think through this together. And how does family worship do this? What are we doing in family worship as we practice together? And I think it's accomplishing what Asaph has in mind here. In Psalm 78, he begins and he says this. He says, give ear, O my people, to my teaching. Incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable. I will utter dark sayings from of old, things that we've heard and known that our fathers have told us. What is it that he's beginning with? Well, he's beginning with we want to preserve something. What is it that he wants to preserve? He wants to preserve what he has been told, what his fathers have told him, and what is it that his fathers have told him? He's going to go on and say what they have told us is who God is and the mighty wonders that he has done. And then Asaph for the rest of the psalm, is going to recount, God did this, and God did this, and God did this. What is he doing? He's trying to say it's important that we preserve history.
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You say, well, I didn't like history in high school and bored out of my head in junior high with history. But as a Christian.
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We love history in this way. As we think about it redemptively. He's saying, look, God has been at work and it is our God, and we want to recount all of these things that he has done. We want to preserve that. But he doesn't just want to preserve it. Notice what he goes on to say in verses 4 and 5.
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We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord and his might and the wonders that he has done.
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That he is saying, we don't want to just preserve it, we want to proclaim it. We want to proclaim this truth.
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We want them to know these stories so that they know these stories are true.
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When you read the pages of Scripture, do you read it as true?
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Do you know that there really was a flood, that Noah built an ark for, that David really did slay Goliath, that Daniel really did emerge from the lion's den, that Peter really did walk on the water, that Lazarus really was raised from the grave, that Christ Jesus truly was crucified, that he really did die, that he really was buried, that he really was raised on the third day?
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See, we're proclaiming that. That's Asaph's concern. Let's preserve this Truth, and let's proclaim it.
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Why, that's what he goes on to the next right, that we might pass it on.
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It says verse 5 and 6. He established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers to teach to their children, that the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn, and arise and tell them to their children, and here's the key. So that they should set their hope in God and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments.
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And that they should not be like their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation, a generation whose heart was not steadfast, whose spirit was not faithful to God. Isn't that the great hope that we have for our children and our grandchildren? That they would do this? That they would set their hope in God and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments. That they would love him, they would adore him, that they would serve him.
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We have to proclaim. We have to preserve this history and then proclaim it so that then they see themselves as, in the best sense of the word, as actors in this story.
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We're actors in this great story.
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Do you think of it that way?
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First church I served in North Carolina, it was over.
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Children and youth ministries. And there was a Sunday I went down to.
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The five year old classroom and there was a dear woman that taught that class for 40 years. And she was in her late 70s. As she was teaching that class, continuing to teach it, kids adored her. And I remember all the kids were sitting on the floor and she asked the kids, she said, do you know the story of Eli and Samuel?
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And a little boy in the class raised his hand, his name was.
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Said, I know the story.
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And her name was Ms. Garwood. And Ms. Garwood said.
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You know that story? He said, I do. And then he started to tell it.
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And he told it for like 10 minutes.
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The passage where Samuel is laying down and Eli is in the other room sleeping. And Samuel hears Samuel, Samuel. And he gets up and runs to Eli, did you call me? No. He lays down Samuel, Samuel. And he told the whole story for ten minutes and we were all enthralled. Five year old Ms. Garwood said to him, she said, how do you know that story so well? And he said, it's about me.
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Now, a little bit of a disconnect.
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But in another way, that's how you and I are to see the scriptures. This is a story about me.
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It's a story about God sending his son into this world to die for a sinner. Like me.
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This whole story.
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Is about redeeming me and redeeming you for his glory and his praise.
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Do you see yourself as an actor in that story?
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And as we're teaching our children this, we're helping them to see that look, you're part of this story.
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Believe in this God. Place your faith in this Christ.
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It's one of the best ways to pass on the faith is to practice family worship. It just consistently and constantly puts the story before our children.
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They just keep encountering the grace of God in the Word and as we pray with them.
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I know it sounds scary.
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It is scary to start something like this. If you are a husband and wife that have been married for 50 years and you haven't done this, it's scary to think about it. It's scary to think about it with young children. It's scary to think about it with roommates. And yet it is the best way to center your home upon Christ. And it's the best way to put all of those that you are linked in life with just in the way of God's means of grace.
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I think it's something we think we're doing a lot more of than we actually are when we don't just consistently have something like this.
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Let's talk about the what of family worship. What does it look like to practice family worship? Well, it just means gathering together to read, to pray and to sing. That's all it is. It's very, very simple. It's just gathering together a few minutes. We're just going to read the Scriptures. We're just going to pray a short prayer and. And we're going to dare to sing together just for a few minutes. It can take all of seven minutes.
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If you want to be an overachiever, you can go for 12 minutes, but it doesn't have to be long. It doesn't have to be in depth.
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Say, well, this feels like you've added a weight. You've put something else upon me that, oh, this feels like legalism. No, it's not legalism. It's no more legalism than it is to go to corporate worship each week or for you to practice your private devotions day in and day out. It's a means of grace.
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God ministers to you and I by his word and prayer.
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And so we're just putting ourselves in the way of it. It's not meant to be a burden.
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I think what often happens is we will start up family worship.
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Maybe like me, where I was an overzealous young husband, I Had some concept that we were supposed to do something like this and, you know, jumped in and we were going, if we're going to do it, we're going to do it. And.
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Scared the living bejeebers out of my wife and it just turned into a train wreck. Early in marriage, a lot of husbands, they get convinced that we should do this and they think we're going to read through the whole book of Leviticus tonight and then you're going to tell me how it affected you. No, don't start there. It's just slow, it's just simple. Just read a little bit, you pray a little bit and you dare to sing a little bit and, and listen, you miss a night, you miss two nights, you miss three nights, you all of a sudden realize that you've missed a week. You're not restarting up the wheel, this isn't some great kind of work. You're not restarting the engine. It's just, you realize it, you pick it right back up. It's a means of grace.
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It's a means of grace.
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How God ministers to us and allows us to minister to those that are in our home with us together.
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It was a night that my family was gathered in worship. My son allows me to tell this story.
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And this is where it really pressed home to me just how practicing family worship consistently and can open up doors that otherwise probably wouldn't be there. We were sitting together as a family on a night and my son was probably 7 years old or so, 8 years old maybe, and we were doing the account of the transfiguration. We were just reading through that passage.
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And as we read about Peter and James and John being on the mount with Christ as he was in his glory.
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I made a comment about, oh, won't it be wonderful when we are in heaven and we're looking upon the glory of Christ in heaven? Something we'll talk about here.
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Down the road together in this series together.
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And I was just talking about that and.
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I closed and my son said, dad.
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He said, if I'm in heaven, will I see Christ's glory?
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And I didn't miss it. There was that two letter word at the beginning of that question.
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And I said some what do you mean by if you are in heaven?
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And there was silence. It felt like.
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Silence that lasted forever, but it was probably only a minute. And we all sat there.
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And he said.
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Dad, I don't know if I will be in heaven.
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I said, son, why don't you know if you will be in heaven?
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And again Felt like silence forever as we waited.
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He said, dad, I have such mad thoughts and bad thoughts about people.
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I said, oh, son.
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Don'T you know that Christ's blood that was shed upon that crawl.
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That it's sufficient to cover over all your bad thoughts and all your mad thoughts?
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Next morning, I was getting ready to go and work, and I was getting dressed. I was in our bedroom. We have this little hallway that goes to our bathroom. And my wife was getting ready in the bathroom at the time she homeschooled our two children. And Ethan came running into the room. And at the time, the iPad was the greatest invention ever in the history of mankind in his mind. And the games on it were the best thing ever. And I heard him go into the bathroom and ask my wife if he could play a game that morning on the iPad.
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And my wife is a rock. And she said, not until we've done school. And if you've done well in school. And I heard him, he's a little lawyer. Still a little lawyer. And he began to plead with her in the bathroom, mom, can I please just play one game on the iPad before we go to school and start school? She is a rock. And she didn't budge. She told him, no, not until school was over.
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He turned out of the bathroom, and he came storming down that hole.
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And I watched him as he came storming down the hole. And he just had tears running down his face.
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And I knew my son well enough to know that this.
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Wasn'T angry this time.
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There was something else going on. And so I sat on the bed and I called him over to myself and picked him up, and I put him on my knee, and he laid his head on my shoulder.
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And I said, son.
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Are you having mad thoughts and bad thoughts about your mother?
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And he just started weeping.
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He said, oh, yes, Dad.
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I said, do you remember what we talked about in family worship last night? Yes, dad.
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Christ's blood is more than sufficient to cover over all your mad thoughts and all your bad thoughts.
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Yes, dad. Do you want to pray about that together?
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Yes, Dad.
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I think.
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Could that moment have occurred apart from family worship?
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Maybe.
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But I know it occurred because we practiced family worship. I had insight into his heart that I didn't have before.
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I understood my son in new ways that I didn't know before.
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Just because we were consistently putting ourselves in the way of the word of God.
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Now look in my house. It's a great week. If we make it four nights a week, that's a good week. It's a fabulous week. If we make it five or six nights a week.
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It'S a bad week. If it's one or two nights a week, we don't beat ourselves up. It's. Well, it's a new week. Let's try and do better this week. Just putting ourselves in the way of God's means of grace Just taking a little time to read the Word.
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To pray the word, and dare to sing the Word.
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We are just putting ourselves in the way of God's means of grace. What a helpful way to simply describe family worship. That was Jason Holopoulos on this Monday edition of Renewing your Mind. The series you heard today is called Created for Worship, and while it does examine family worship and private worship, it also delves into corporate worship, considering the Word preached, prayed and sung, along with baptism and the Lord's Supper and other topics. We'll send you all 11 messages on DVD a physical copy of the study guide so that you can easily mark it up and take notes as you work through the material, along with digital access to both in the Ligonier app. Simply donate at renewingyourmind.org or when you call us at 800-435-4343 and we'll get this resource package in the mail for you. In Christ, we have been recreated to worship God in spirit and truth, and part of what this means is knowing what worship is all about. So request this series with your donation@renewingyourmind.org or by using the link in the podcast Show Notes.
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We've reflected on the why of family worship today. Well, tomorrow be sure to join us as we consider the how of family worship. That'll be Tuesday here on Renewing youg Mind.
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