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Resiliently Rising Podcast
Hosted by Carrie Holladay · EN
Join husband and wife as they share their betrayal trauma healing journey using a somatic-based approach. This podcast explores nervous system regulation, self-trust, and practical tools for restoring relationships with yourself and others. Whether you're navigating betrayal or seeking deeper emotional healing, you'll find insights, support, and expert guidance to help you move from survival to safety.
Carrie Holladay is a Trauma-Trained Somatic Practitioner and founder of Resiliently Rising, where she helps individuals heal from betrayal trauma through body-based, nervous-system-informed approaches.
After years of living in survival mode following both childhood and marital betrayal, Carrie discovered the power of somatic healing—learning that true recovery begins not just in the mind, but in the body. She’s trained in Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Attachment Therapy, the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Treating Trauma and Affairs, Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness, and Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy.
Today, Carrie support survivors around the world in reconnecting with their body’s wisdom, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and connection. Her work blends professional training with lived experience, offering a grounded and compassionate approach to trauma recovery that helps people move from surviving to thriving.
*This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.*
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Ep 43. Disclosure vs. Discovery: Why the Way Truth Comes Out Matters
Yesterday00:40:56Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Carrie and David explore the powerful difference between disclosure and discovery in betrayal trauma recovery. They unpack why trickle truth, partial disclosures, and ongoing deception can be just as damaging... and sometimes more damaging... than the original betrayal itself. They discuss how secrecy impacts trust, why the body often knows something is wrong before the mind can explain it, and what happens when a relationship is built on incomplete information. Whether you're the betrayed partner questioning if you have the whole truth or the person who caused harm and is struggling with fear, shame, and honesty, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and hope for what real healing requires. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
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Ep 42. Somatic Safety Session: Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does
1w ago00:14:54Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we slow down and explore that moment where your body knows before your mind catches up. We talk about how your nervous system is constantly reading for safety, how it communicates through sensation and reaction, and why those early signals are often more honest than the story your mind tries to build afterward. You’ll begin to understand how to recognize those subtle cues instead of overriding them or second-guessing them. And most importantly, how to start building trust with your own internal signals again—so you can move through life with more clarity, steadiness, and self-trust, even in moments that feel uncertain or overwhelming. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.
Transcribe →Ep 41. WYW: "Since the Betrayal, I've Lost Myself. How Do I Get Me Back?"
2w ago00:25:00Tap to summarize In this episode, we’re talking about the painful experience of feeling like you’ve lost yourself after betrayal. We explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, why survival mode can disconnect you from your own identity, and how healing often begins through small moments of reconnecting with your preferences, needs, and inner voice. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even feel like me anymore,” this conversation is meant to remind you that you are not broken… and that your way back to yourself is possible. Connect with Carrie: Mental Health Bundle 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
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Ep 40. The Wounds of Betrayal with KayLee Dunn
3w ago00:47:37Tap to summarizeIn this powerful conversation, Carrie sits down with trauma psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach KayLee Dunn to explore the deeper wounds betrayal creates beyond just the initial trauma. Together, they unpack how betrayal impacts identity, self-trust, reality, attachment, and agency… and why so many people feel “regulated but still lost” long after the crisis phase has passed. KayLee shares both personal and professional insight from nearly two decades in the betrayal trauma field, offering language, validation, and hope for those trying to reconnect with themselves after betrayal. This episode is a compassionate, deeply validating conversation about healing, meaning-making, and finding your way back to who you are. Connect with KayLee: https://www.kayleedunn.com/ Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
Transcribe →Ep 39. Fight Right: What the Gottmans Want You to Know About Conflict
4w ago00:30:06Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Carrie and David break down why so many relationship conflicts—especially after betrayal—feel like they go nowhere and leave both partners more hurt. Drawing from the Gottmans’ Fight Right, they explain how conflict itself isn’t the problem… it’s how we handle it that determines whether it builds connection or creates more damage. They unpack what happens in the body during an argument, including “flooding”… when the nervous system goes into survival mode and real communication becomes impossible. They also explore the difference between solvable and perpetual problems, why most relationship conflicts never fully “go away,” and how trying to win those arguments often keeps couples stuck. This episode offers practical, compassionate guidance on recognizing your own triggers, taking effective pauses, and learning to approach conflict with more awareness and intention… so you can stop fighting against each other and start understanding what’s really underneath. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
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Ep 38. Somatic Safety Session: Coming Home to Yourself
Apr 2800:18:05Tap to summarize*]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto">A gentle, guided somatic practice focused on healing your relationship with yourself after betrayal. This episode helps you move out of self-judgment and into compassion through simple, body-based awareness… creating small moments of connection, kindness, and internal safety that begin to rebuild self-trust from the inside out. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar *]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto"> 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.
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Ep 37. How Do I Begin Healing After Betrayal?
Apr 2100:41:32Tap to summarizeWhen the discovery is fresh, the most common question is the simplest one: where do I even begin? In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David answer that question with honesty and compassion — covering how to find the right support, why professional help needs to be betrayal-trauma-specific, how to start working with the body instead of against it, and why your job right now is safety, not trust. David also speaks directly to the betrayer: what not to do in those early days, why speed and grand gestures don't work, and what presence and radical honesty actually look like. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.
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Ep.36 Inside the Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic with Drew Daniels
Apr 1401:09:20Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Carrie sits down with relationship coach Drew Daniels to explore the anxious… avoidant dynamic and what’s really happening beneath avoidant behaviors. Drew shares his personal journey of recognizing his own fearful-avoidant patterns in marriage and the transformation that led him to help other couples understand and heal these cycles. Together, they unpack the fears, shame, and insecurity that often drive avoidance, and why these patterns can leave partners feeling confused, disconnected, and stuck. Carrie and Drew also discuss how real healing happens when both partners develop greater awareness of their own patterns, learn to tolerate conflict, and practice vulnerability instead of protection. This conversation offers powerful insight for anyone navigating anxious-avoidant dynamics, reminding listeners that change is possible… but it happens slowly, through honesty, compassion, and the courage to show up differently. Connect with Drew: 📲 Tiktok: @drewwdaniels 🛜 WWW: drewdaniels.me Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
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Ep35. Anatomy of an Apology
Apr 700:33:15Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Carrie and David explore what actually makes an apology meaningful after betrayal. While many couples believe that saying “I’m sorry” should be enough, they unpack why apologies often fall short and why some even deepen the hurt. Using the framework of the Five A’s of an Apology, they walk through what true repair requires and why rebuilding trust is a process, not a moment. Drawing from their own relationship and their work with couples healing from betrayal trauma, Carrie and David discuss the difference between regret and repair, the role of accountability, and why consistent behavioral change is what ultimately restores safety. This conversation offers clarity for both the betrayed partner and the partner seeking to make things right, helping you understand why your pain makes sense and what genuine repair can actually look like. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
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Revisited: Ep5. Mistakes to Avoid When Rebuilding After Betrayal
Mar 3101:09:45Tap to summarize*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto">In this Revisited episode, we bring back one of our earlier conversations by combining Episode 5 Part 1 and Part 2 into a single episode. Carrie and David walk through the most common mistakes couples make when trying to rebuild a relationship after betrayal. Drawing from both their personal journey and professional experience, they share why real repair takes time, honesty, accountability, and steady change. If you’re navigating healing after betrayal, this episode offers perspective on what truly helps rebuild trust… and what can unintentionally keep couples stuck. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.
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