Podcast
Roses Are Dead
Hosted by Terry Roseland & Jones · EN
Roses Are Dead is where hand-me-down myths die. We challenge the entry-level performance of manhood—holding doors, flashing wallets, staring at exits—and demand more: vision, discipline, emotional strength, and purpose. In this space men confront the myths they inherited, hold one another accountable, and rise as whole leaders. Masculinity isn’t a role to play; it’s a standard to live.
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Power Dynamics Pt 2
2w ago01:08:15Tap to summarizeWe start with a story that leaves one of us feeling powerless in our own home, then use it to question how consent and leverage can show up in everyday co-parenting. We keep pulling the thread into gender power dynamics, double standards, and what real accountability looks like when nobody wants to admit harm. • a co-parenting ultimatum that turns safety into leverage • feeling violated without physical force and why it still counts • why society downplays harm when boys and men are the target • physical strength versus authority, influence, and professional hierarchy • therapist client ethics and how trust can be weaponised • workplace flirtation, social pressure, and fear of consequences • club and party examples that reveal consent blind spots • why “women do it too” can become a deflection tactic • setting standards as men and staying consistent under pressure • building self trust through small wins, discipline, and time horizons June 27th, you know, cookout, field day. Let’s go to Patreon, fuck it. Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Same Gender War, New Couple
4w ago01:05:54Tap to summarizeWe talk about how the online gender war turns real pain into points, then trace it back to changing money dynamics and outdated ideas about what men and women “should” do. We also get into school discipline, classroom structure, and the day-to-day grind of raising kids who test boundaries and bend the rules. • a real-life dating story showing why money does not guarantee tolerance • how celebrity breakups become personal online and feed the gender war • why women earning and leaving changes what men must bring • how kids learn gender roles early through media and routines • rejection in modern dating and why entitlement turns into resentment • a rapid-fire game on dating habits and relationship hypocrisy • why school behaviour is often a structure problem not a kid problem • classroom management basics: consistency, consequences, avoiding power struggles • parenting through fights, lying, disrespect, and repeat offences If y'all want some more, y'all need to get go to the Patreon though.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →The Spectrum Of Male Entitlement
Apr 2501:11:22Tap to summarizeWe trace a spectrum of male entitlement, from “small” everyday violations to coercion and rape, and talk about why focusing only on extreme monsters hides the harm most women face. Along the way, we look at consent as a culture issue, not a courtroom standard, and ask what it really means for men to make women feel safe. • the idea of a spectrum of male entitlement and why it matters • how “polite” approaches turn into pressure and anger • why “are you single?” often ignores women’s agency • women managing men’s emotions as a safety strategy • persistence, DM access, and refusing to take a hint • teaching kids rejection and consent early and often • fight, flight, freeze responses in sexual situations • rape culture as American culture through media scripts • male privilege and the work of unlearning entitlement • clothing discourse, the male gaze, and victim blaming Download, capture. When it drops, right now, just join the wait list. It’s in my bio of capture.app. That’s capture with a K.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Summer is Coming
Apr 1901:04:12Tap to summarizeSummer makes people act like the clock is running out and that’s when bad decisions get loud. We sit down and talk through what “summer is coming” really means if you’re trying to level up for real: your mindset, your money, your body, and how you move when everybody is outside. We also go straight at a question that hits culture and community at the same time. Are day parties replacing cookouts, and if they are, what are we trading away in the process?From there we get practical. Chicago summers are short, weekends are limited, and that pressure can turn into overspending fast. We break down summer budgeting, why everybody needs a plan, and the little traps that run your tab up like overpriced cocktails, aesthetic restaurants, and swiping your card all night. We talk event strategy, mixing ticketed nights with free moves, and how to enjoy the city without letting Instagram convince you to live above your means.Then we take it into dating and relationships. What happens when your partner is pushing you to go out, but your financial goals are real? How do you balance being outside with being responsible, and when is it time to admit you’re not aligned and walk away? We also use the DeShay Frost clip to talk about entitlement, gifts with hidden expectations, reading signals, and the best rule we can give any man for the summer: leave with your dignity intact.If you got value from this one, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a summer reset, and leave a review with your biggest money rule for going out. What’s your non-negotiable this summer?Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Why People Choose Comfort Over the Truth
Apr 1200:46:44Tap to summarizeThe most dangerous lie we tell ourselves is “I want the truth.” What we usually want is comfort that sounds like truth. We start with a simple reframing that hits hard: it’s not that truth hurts, it’s that truth costs. Once you admit what’s real, you’re on the hook to change your habits, your standards, your relationships, and the stories you use to protect your ego.We connect that idea to real life, not motivational posters. We talk therapy and the fear hiding under “closure,” especially when understanding someone might lead to forgiveness, and forgiveness might pull you back into the same pattern. We break down how relationships act like mirrors, why living with someone exposes the gaps in your discipline, and how to improve your character without becoming a version of yourself built to meet someone else’s projections.From there we move into self-honesty and social media comparison. It’s easy to explain away someone else’s success, but it gets uncomfortable when the person beating you is doing the same work you do and simply outworking you. We also share a mentorship story where a young man has to hear that his plan has a 0% chance of working, plus why community can create a culture of success. We even zoom out into sociology and addiction, linking drugs to depression and unmet needs, then bring it back home with a moment of grief that puts time, regret, and urgency in perspective.If you’re serious about self-improvement, accountability, discipline, and shadow work, listen through to the end then share this with someone who needs the truth. Subscribe, leave a review, and join us on Patreon so you’re ready for what’s next.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Insecurities Are Instructions
Apr 501:15:19Tap to summarizeSomebody once pulled me aside at a men’s mental health event I created and asked a question that hit way harder than it should have: “Who’s qualified to speak about mental health?” I didn’t argue, I didn’t perform confidence, I just felt that sting and later realized what it really was, insecurity with a spotlight on it. That moment became the lens for a deeper talk on imposter syndrome, triggers, and why the comments that linger are often the ones trying to teach us something. I also connect the dots to The Four Agreements and the idea of “black magic,” the way words can plant shame that follows you for years. Then we get practical: some insecurities are fixable skill gaps that need reps, study, mentorship, and better systems. Others are emotional wounds like fear of rejection, abandonment, needing validation, or feeling unattractive, and those require internal work like therapy, support, spirituality, and honest conversations with yourself. The anchor is the Serenity Prayer: accept what you can’t change, change what you can, and build the wisdom to know the difference. We talk about owning your background without negotiating your worth, why perfection kills confidence, how routines build self-trust, and even how parents can help boys unpack teasing before it hardens into lifelong shame. If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s been struggling quietly, and leave a review with the insecurity you’re ready to stop protecting and start facing.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →No Church in The Wild
Mar 2801:01:01Tap to summarizeGod, faith, and religion can feel like taboo topics in masculinity spaces, so we kept it honest and unfiltered. We’re asking the question a lot of men dodge: how important is spirituality to becoming the man you want to be, especially when you’re responsible for other people and life is hitting you from every direction?We talk about why men need an anchor, and how easy it is to claim belief while still drifting through decisions, habits, and relationships. We also get into the parts that don’t fit neatly in church talk: suffering, especially what it does to your faith when you work with kids who’ve been dealt a cruel hand. If God is good, where is God when life is clearly not fair? We don’t offer easy answers, but we do explore what it looks like to keep moving with questions still on the table.From there we go practical: do you position God “in the sky” and wait on a miracle, or do you look inward and move like you’ve got power and responsibility? We tie that to purpose, service, mentorship, and mental health, including the role therapy can play in a strong village for young men. And we break down Napoleon Hill’s Outwitting the Devil as a blueprint for defeating fear, doubt, procrastination, and indecision so you stop stalling on the life you keep saying you want.If this hit home, subscribe for more real self-improvement talk, share it with a friend who needs an anchor, and leave a review with your take: do you look up for answers or look within?Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →First Time in Houston
Mar 2100:48:13Tap to summarizeA TikTok trend turns private moments into trophies: men waking up first after a hookup, filming women while they sleep, and posting it as proof they “cracked.” We couldn’t let that slide, because the real story isn’t just immaturity. It’s how fast humiliation becomes normal when the algorithm rewards disrespect, and how quickly a few viral clips can teach an entire generation to distrust love.We break down what’s actually being sold in those videos: a red pill narrative that women aren’t worthy of relationships, that commitment is for suckers, and that you should stay on defense forever. Then we zoom out to the psychology. Bias and stereotypes don’t come from nowhere, but social media supercharges pattern recognition until it feels like “facts.” Add projection, heartbreak, and echo chambers, and suddenly your feed becomes your dating coach. That’s a problem.From there we get practical. We talk standards that go deeper than outfits and vibes, why judging by appearances can backfire on both ends, and how to protect yourself without becoming paranoid. For younger men especially, we argue for responsible fun, staying focused on your mission, and not rushing a serious relationship before you’re ready. We also push something simple that changes everything: read more, especially authors who expand your empathy and your perspective, because being a better partner starts with being a better thinker.If this conversation hits, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find us. What’s one dating “rule” you believe in right now?Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →The Truth About Going Into Business With Friends
Mar 1401:09:53Tap to summarizeMixing business with friends and family feels like the ultimate loyalty play, until the first real problem shows up. We talk through why partnerships get shaky fast when expectations stay unspoken, roles are fuzzy, and one person starts keeping score. From workload to money to ego, we lay out the ground rules that keep the relationship intact while you try to build something real.We also connect the accountability mindset to everyday life, starting with parenting. When someone blames everything on “what they did,” it shuts down strategy and growth. The same thing happens in entrepreneurship: if you blame your friends for not reposting, blame customers for not buying, or blame the algorithm for everything, you stop improving the product, the marketing, and the plan. We break down why your network can help you launch but cannot keep you alive, and why real customer acquisition requires a target audience, repetition, and content that earns attention.Then we get into branding and marketing psychology, the truth about brand equity, and why people buy a feeling before they buy the features. We talk visual hooks, storytelling, and how marketing often sells self-esteem back to us, plus why “boring businesses” like transport, mattresses, cleaners, and other essential services can beat the flashy lane. If you’re building with friends, this is your reminder to keep dialogue open, avoid main character energy, and pick the friendship if the business starts poisoning the bond.If this conversation hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend you’d build with, and leave a review. What’s one rule you would set before going into business with someone close?Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Violence As A Language
Mar 801:10:30Tap to summarizeThe hardest part isn’t throwing a punch—it’s stopping yourself when your pride is screaming go. We dig into how boys learn to treat violence as a language and why that same reflex shows up decades later at the bar, in a crowd, or in the kitchen with our kids. The thread running through the wild stories and quiet confessions is powerlessness: that small, cornered feeling that makes a quick hit feel like control.We get real about the difference between anger and the emotions beneath it—shame, disrespect, belittlement—and how naming them changes the play. From being lied to over a “we don’t have peanut butter” protein shake to getting pushed off a spot while selling merch, we map triggers to better choices. Then we rewire the deep belief most men carry—don’t let anyone play with you—without tossing out the strength it represents. It’s not about pretending threats don’t exist; it’s about choosing the fights that protect your future.You’ll hear a practical framework for leaders, not just protectors. We break down when force is justified (a real, present threat in your space) and when disengaging keeps you and your partner out of danger. We talk situational awareness, de-escalation, and the quiet power move of getting your people home. We also zoom into parenting: why yelling and spankings create short-term compliance but long-term damage, and how clear systems and consistent consequences teach without harm. Kids learn best when rules are known beforehand and enforced the same way every time.This conversation is raw, honest, and focused on tools you can use tonight—naming emotions, rehearsing exits, separating ego from safety, and building home systems that work. If you’ve ever replayed a moment thinking I should’ve handled that better, this one’s for you. Tap play, subscribe for more real growth, and drop us a review with the moment that hit you hardest.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
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