Podcast
Roses Are Dead
Hosted by Terry Roseland & Jones · EN
Roses Are Dead is where hand-me-down myths die. We challenge the entry-level performance of manhood—holding doors, flashing wallets, staring at exits—and demand more: vision, discipline, emotional strength, and purpose. In this space men confront the myths they inherited, hold one another accountable, and rise as whole leaders. Masculinity isn’t a role to play; it’s a standard to live.
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Porn Always Wins
1w ago00:58:17Tap to summarizePorn feels “better” because it is easy, emotion-free, and always available, but that same convenience can quietly sabotage real intimacy. We talk through shame, trust, novelty, and the situations that make loyalty harder than it needs to be. • why porn can replace real sex even in a live-in relationship • how novelty rewires desire and makes commitment feel boring • the habit loop that turns porn use into relationship avoidance • embarrassment, reputation, and why “how she makes me look” matters to some men • where we draw the line on a partner’s past and what changes after years together • why major lies feel like falling out of love overnight • OnlyFans hypotheticals and the difference between secrecy and consent • how cheating ends the old bond and forces a new relationship or a clean break • why trust is really about positioning and avoiding high-risk situations • birds of a feather flock together and how friend groups shape morals If you're not on the Patreon, make sure you join the Patreon after September 1st. That's where we will be exclusively. The main show we put out on Saturdays is still gonna be free on Patreon, audio and video, if you join as a free member. Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →All Men Need It
2w ago01:12:08Tap to summarizeWe go from Chicago culture and July Fourth to a blunt conversation about male accountability and why so many men carry pain until it warps how they move. I lay out how one-sided friendships, untreated trauma, and fear of rejection can turn into disrespect, harassment, and broken relationships if we do not get real and get help.• Chicago pride, Juneteenth context, and what people actually celebrate when they gather • The shift to Patreon and why community matters more than public reach • Legacy thinking, finding my voice through podcasting, and doing the thing even if it does not “blow up” • One-sided friendships, uneven rapport, and why silence creates fake dynamics • How to pull someone closer or ice them out without cruelty • Why every man needs therapy and where to find support • The rolled ankle metaphor for emotional pain and how men normalize dysfunction • Person-in-environment, social expectations on men, and why strength is not the same as wellness • Reentry pressure, why some men return to prison, and what that says about mental health • A Chicago pastor scandal as a case study in entitlement, denial, and ignoring rejection • Teaching boys confidence, routines, and how to accept no without violating someoneIf you're not the Patreon, make sure you join the Patreon after September 1st.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Dancing with the Devil
3w ago00:47:44Tap to summarizeCheating arguments get messy fast because everyone wants a clean rule for a problem that lives in gray areas. We start with the uncomfortable question: where does betrayal really begin? Not just sex, but the moment you’re flirting on purpose, enjoying the attention, and pretending it’s “just conversation.” We talk about patience inside relationships, the way people stereotype femininity and sensitivity, and whether “masculine” automatically means stoic or if emotional honesty can coexist with strength.Then we get into the real meat: boundaries. We compare “inappropriate” vs “cheating,” test the idea of “if you wouldn’t do it in my face, it counts,” and walk through scenarios like reacting to DMs, texting with an ex, exchanging numbers, and building a long message thread that feels innocent until it doesn’t. We also dig into transparency and overthinking, why therapy can help you trust yourself, and how compatibility often comes down to what you both agree is acceptable.The conversation widens into anti racism and culture, plus a sociology lens that ties everything together: behavior settings, place identity, and place attachment. If environments can pull different behavior out of the same person, what does that mean for how we judge people, and how we design solutions? We end with a vision for changing outcomes by changing settings, and we shout out Capture for anyone who wants to be present at events without juggling a phone.Subscribe, share this with a friend who loves the hard conversations, and leave a review with your answer: what’s your line, and why?Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →First Degree Racism?
Jun 1401:10:40Tap to summarizeWe start with a real story about being a kid who feels unsafe at school and how fear can push you into carrying something that changes your life. We break down two cases where “self-defense” gets complicated fast, then zoom out to talk survival mode, the legal system, and what accountability looks like when the game is not fair. • a childhood moment that explains why kids make risky choices • what self-defense means in court versus in culture • the Karmelo Anthony case and how “premeditation” gets argued • why carrying a weapon changes how the law reads your decisions • the Cyrus case and why shooting someone in the back breaks the logic of threat • how prosecutors, plea deals, and missing lesser charges shape outcomes • survival mode, environment, and the pressure of the hood • tailoring your reality through circles, routines, and opportunity • why growth can be lonely and why that can be healthy • learning your family history to strengthen identity and purpose • practical advice for boy moms about getting a driver’s license early • raising standards in business through real customer service If y'all on YouTube right now, y'all not the Patreon, I want y'all to guess which former Roses our dead guest scam me for $11,000. Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →It’s about the principle!
Jun 701:24:02Tap to summarizeWe challenge the way we claim “principles” while cutting people off for small personal slights and giving a pass to bigger moral red flags. We sort out what our core values actually are, how accountability should work in friendships, and where loyalty quietly turns into enabling. • principles versus preferences in friendships • money disputes and “it’s the principle” logic • political and social beliefs as real dealbreakers • core values as actions not slogans • discipline integrity and loyalty in relationships • accountability versus judgment and why we confuse them • loyalty that tells the truth privately • enabling that blocks consequences and protects patterns • friendship seasons and what growth changes • parenting standards including consent and fairness • faith doubt and making room for hard questions • celebrity culture fandom and consuming public self-destruction Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Who Stole Black Boy Joy?
May 3000:39:32Tap to summarizeWe challenge the idea that men “have fun” when they’re really just being entertained, then unpack how fear of judgment trains us to stay guarded until alcohol makes us stop caring. We talk through what real joy looks like for grown men and how staying true to our personalities changes our friendships, dating lives, and confidence. •fun vs entertainment and why the difference matters •how rigid masculinity blocks joy, play, and emotional freedom •why some men need alcohol to loosen up and what that costs •the fear of being judged as “sassy” or “lame” in public and in dating •defining fun on your own terms and choosing environments that fit •how the right company can make anywhere feel fun •staying authentic instead of living someone else’s dream All you got to do is download the app, request one of our reps, they’re gonna show up to your location on demand, take your content and you’re gonna get it delivered back the same day. Make sure y’all come out June 27th. Kick it with us. We going to Patreon right now, man.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Talk Yourself Through It
May 2601:00:03Tap to summarizeWe kick around the ugly truth about self-talk: the voice in your head can either coach you through hard moments or talk you into the easy way out. We figure out how to build real confidence by keeping our word, filtering outside noise, and changing how we speak to ourselves when nobody is watching. • the inner voice as accountability when no one is around • using the StairMaster as a self-trust test • why harsh self-talk can help in the gym but hurt in real life • shifting from “do not be weak” to “keep your word” • training the brain through repetition, sustainable systems, and practical affirmations • how environment, rejection, and validation shape self-esteem • capitalism, marketing, and influence engineering insecurity • rebuilding identity over time and choosing future-focused habits • parenting lessons on listening, accountability, and making kids feel heard June 27th, we having the cookout, and you’re invited. Pull up. If you’re chasing something in life, chase that shit. Decide plan sacrifice.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Power Dynamics Pt 2
May 1701:08:15Tap to summarizeWe start with a story that leaves one of us feeling powerless in our own home, then use it to question how consent and leverage can show up in everyday co-parenting. We keep pulling the thread into gender power dynamics, double standards, and what real accountability looks like when nobody wants to admit harm. • a co-parenting ultimatum that turns safety into leverage • feeling violated without physical force and why it still counts • why society downplays harm when boys and men are the target • physical strength versus authority, influence, and professional hierarchy • therapist client ethics and how trust can be weaponised • workplace flirtation, social pressure, and fear of consequences • club and party examples that reveal consent blind spots • why “women do it too” can become a deflection tactic • setting standards as men and staying consistent under pressure • building self trust through small wins, discipline, and time horizons June 27th, you know, cookout, field day. Let’s go to Patreon, fuck it. Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →Same Gender War, New Couple
May 501:05:54Tap to summarizeWe talk about how the online gender war turns real pain into points, then trace it back to changing money dynamics and outdated ideas about what men and women “should” do. We also get into school discipline, classroom structure, and the day-to-day grind of raising kids who test boundaries and bend the rules. • a real-life dating story showing why money does not guarantee tolerance • how celebrity breakups become personal online and feed the gender war • why women earning and leaving changes what men must bring • how kids learn gender roles early through media and routines • rejection in modern dating and why entitlement turns into resentment • a rapid-fire game on dating habits and relationship hypocrisy • why school behaviour is often a structure problem not a kid problem • classroom management basics: consistency, consequences, avoiding power struggles • parenting through fights, lying, disrespect, and repeat offences If y'all want some more, y'all need to get go to the Patreon though.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
Transcribe →The Spectrum Of Male Entitlement
Apr 2501:11:22Tap to summarizeWe trace a spectrum of male entitlement, from “small” everyday violations to coercion and rape, and talk about why focusing only on extreme monsters hides the harm most women face. Along the way, we look at consent as a culture issue, not a courtroom standard, and ask what it really means for men to make women feel safe. • the idea of a spectrum of male entitlement and why it matters • how “polite” approaches turn into pressure and anger • why “are you single?” often ignores women’s agency • women managing men’s emotions as a safety strategy • persistence, DM access, and refusing to take a hint • teaching kids rejection and consent early and often • fight, flight, freeze responses in sexual situations • rape culture as American culture through media scripts • male privilege and the work of unlearning entitlement • clothing discourse, the male gaze, and victim blaming Download, capture. When it drops, right now, just join the wait list. It’s in my bio of capture.app. That’s capture with a K.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_
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