Savage Lovecast – After Action Report #27
Date: May 1, 2026
Host: Dan Savage
Guests: Spring & Nyx ("Sprix")
Overview
This After Action Report (AAR) episode of the Savage Lovecast features Spring and Nyx—a couple, sex educators, and event producers—describing their adventurous attempt to recreate the infamous “soaking” practice, often rumored to be a workaround for pious Mormon youth seeking loopholes in sexual abstinence. The episode is playful, explicit, and full of exuberant humor, centering on the couple’s experience at a religion-themed sex party where the soaking exploration required communal participation.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Getting to Know the Guests
- Spring: Sex educator; part of the couple “Sprix."
- Nyx: Kink & intimacy educator; also an event producer (01:33–02:15).
“We like to go by that—Sprix. Like Brangelina.” – Spring (01:40)
2. Setting the Scene — The Soaking Experiment
- The party had a “religious” theme—attendees dressed as nuns, priests, and “sexy Jesus.”
- Soaking, as described: Penetration without thrust, with movement generated by others to create plausible deniability of intent—“thrusting without sin” (03:15–04:03).
- The communal aspect: Enlisting friends to be the source of movement (05:10–07:02).
“If you don’t thrust, then it’s okay. … You ask friends to either jump on the mattress, or in our case, found out holding the mattress is the way to go.” – Nyx (03:15)
3. Recruiting Helpers for the Scene
- Sprix reached out to prior acquaintances at the party, ultimately recruiting eight men to surround the mattress and orchestrate the movement (05:35–06:13).
- The act became a spectacle, drawing a supportive crowd (06:13–06:20).
4. How the Soaking Worked in Practice
- Nyx used a strapless strap-on, with Nyx on top and Spring underneath (06:40–07:03).
- Helpers began by shaking the mattress and perfected their technique through coordinated teamwork, generating a “sex roller coaster” effect (07:48–08:34).
- The experience was physically intense and, at times, almost too intense due to the force created (08:34–10:07).
“I thought we would be kissing, but actually I just had to put my head to the side … our skulls probably would have rattled.” – Nyx (08:20)
5. The Erotic Outcome & Reactions
- Both Spring and Nyx climaxed, attributing success to the unique group dynamic and unexpected pleasures (09:22–10:16).
- The unpredictability and loss of control heightened the experience for both (10:16–10:45).
“It was so intense. … Everyone was supporting our sexual interaction … they were really putting in effort to make this work for us. … That in itself was really hot.” – Spring (09:28)
- Dan Savage’s admiration for their exhibitionism and ability to maintain arousal under such public scrutiny (10:45–11:11).
6. Reflections on Silliness, Exhibitionism, and Group Sex Energy
- Spring and Nyx highlight the erotic potential in mixing humor and sexual expression, noting the exhibitionist energy in front of the crowd (11:16–11:49).
- The event proved even for sex party veterans, there are always new experiences to invent (12:10–12:29).
“It’s almost extra hot knowing that we can be hot doing something silly.” – Nyx (11:40)
7. Advice for Sex Party Newbies
- Be open to new forms of connection; sex parties can look many different ways (12:32–13:16).
- Set manageable goals—maybe just talk to new people, make out publicly, or offer a massage (14:13–14:48).
“Once you break out of the expectation that sex has to look one way … open yourself up to connections and sexy moments of different shapes and sizes.” – Nyx (12:48)
- Not all group sex or public sex is for everyone—that’s fine and not a sign of inhibition or brokenness (13:16–14:13).
8. The Surprising Beauty of Team Effort
- A notable, unexpected takeaway: After the scene, the helpers high-fived, celebrating both the shared effort and the couple’s pleasure—a genuine “team bonding” moment (15:15–15:53).
“They had created a real team bond through this experience. … It was like, ‘Yeah, we did it!’” – Spring (15:30)
Memorable Quotes & Moments
- On Community and Pleasure
“Soaking: It really takes a community. It takes a village.” – Dan Savage (12:45)
- On Erotic Silliness
“Let’s be honest, Spring and I are hot. … It’s almost extra hot knowing that we can be hot doing something silly.” – Nyx (11:40)
- On the Aftermath
“All of the men who had been assisting were like high-fiving each other and congratulating each other. … It was like they had created a real team bond.” – Spring (15:15)
- On Control vs. Surrender
“Usually when you’re having sex, you’re in control of your own body … this was just our both of our bodies surrendering to the force of gravity.” – Nyx (10:16)
Segment Timestamps
- Guest Introductions: 01:26–02:15
- Explaining Soaking: 02:24–03:15
- Recruiting the Team: 05:35–06:20
- Soaking Experience & Mechanics: 06:40–08:34
- Erotic Outcome and Reflections: 09:22–11:49
- Advice for Sex Party Rookies: 12:32–14:48
- Teamwork & Aftermath: 15:15–16:11
Tone & Style
The conversation is playful, candid, and unfiltered—embracing both the humor and eroticism of non-traditional sexual adventures. Spring and Nyx keep the tone open, enthusiastic, and curious, sharing both the logistics and emotional textures of their communal “soaking” experience with confidence and wit.
Conclusion
Spring and Nyx’s After Action Report is an exuberant, detailed celebration of communal play, shared sexual adventure, and the joys of both erotic creativity and teamwork. Their soaking story—equal parts humor, spectacle, and genuine arousal—offers novel inspiration to fellow sex adventurers and valuable, welcoming reassurance to newcomers. As always, Dan Savage frames even the wildest sexual exploits with his signature mix of insightful humor and inclusive sex-positivity.