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Savage Marriage with Phil and Priscilla
Hosted by Phillip and Priscilla Fretwell · EN
In a world obsessed with sharing every detail of life, there’s one thing that few people ever share: problems in their marriages. Real problems: adultery, pornography, prostitution, and the dysfunction that comes from hiding trauma and wounds of the past. Join Phil and Priscilla as they transparently share how God rescued their marriage, and how He can rescue yours too!
For more information about Savage Marriage, visit www.savagemarriageministries.com
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Podcast #47: Can I - Should I - Trust Again?
Jan 1000:28:58Tap to summarizeOne of the most frequent questions we receive is "Will I ever be able to trust him/her again?"It's a delicate subject, because underneath this question is pain and fear, and no one wants to go through the trauma of betrayal, hurt or disappointments again.Of course, we had to also deal with this question in our marriage, and in this episode we share with you what God showed us.So, join us today as we provide a point of view on rebuilding trust that you may have not heard before.Phil and PriscillaP.S. - Do you need help in your marriage? Book a free introductory coaching call with us on our website at savagemarriageministries.com. We'd love to talk with you!Resources:Schedule a coaching call with Phil and Priscilla at Services 3 — Savage Marriage MinistriesJoin the Savage Marriage Community at Savage Marriage MinistriesBuy Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, at Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540208: Amazon.com: BooksBuy the Savage Marriage Study Guide on Amazon at Savage Marriage Study Guide: Overcome Your Past. Fight for Your Future.: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540239: Amazon.com: BooksAnd follow the Savage Marriage podcast on Spotify, iTunes, Youtube, and many other platforms.
Transcribe →Episode #46: Healing The Wounds Behind Same-Sex Attraction: Niki's Journey to Freedom and Genuine Love (Part 2)
Apr 30, 202500:32:27Tap to summarizeDuring a conference, we once asked everyone how many people had same-sex attraction as some part of their history, either from childhood, the porn they watched or a relationship they pursued. Over half the people raised their hand.Today, 22% of Gen Z identify as LGBTQ. Even with this level of cultural prevalence, many Christians struggle with how they view people with same-sex attraction, and what should they say to them.On this podcast, we have Part 2 of our conversation with Niki Speed, and how God pursued her life to not only save and heal her, but to bless her. You'll be encouraged by her story as we bring her husband Paul into the conversation. Together, they paint a beautiful picture of how God took a hopeless, helpless, hot mess (Niki's words), and turned her into something only God could create - beautiful, whole and redeemed.Phil and PriscillaP.S. - Do you need help in your marriage? Consider attending a weekend intensive with Whatever it Takes Ministries (witministries.com). They would be glad to speak with you!Resources:Want to talk with Phil and Priscilla? Schedule a coaching call at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. To receive marriage resources, updates and insights, join the Savage Marriage Community at SavageMarriageMinistries.com.Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, is available at Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540208: Amazon.com: BooksThe Savage Marriage Study Guide is available on Amazon at Savage Marriage Study Guide: Overcome Your Past. Fight for Your Future.: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540239: Amazon.com: BooksAnd follow the Savage Marriage podcast on Spotify, iTunes, Youtube, and many other platforms.
Transcribe →Episode #45 - Will I always struggle with this? The truth about Same-Sex Attraction, Shame, and the Power to Overcome: Niki Speed's Story
Apr 23, 202500:36:30Tap to summarizeWhen we first heard Niki Speed's story, it was instrumental in helping us believe nothing was too big for God, including same-sex attraction and the trauma of our past. Today, we're so pleased to introduce Niki Speed, who is married to Paul Speed, the Founder of Whatever it Takes Ministries. We've served with them for many years at weekend intensives with Whatever it Takes Ministries, and Niki is real, raw and shares transparently about how she not only embraced a lesbian lifestyle for 20 years, but also how she got there, and how God rescued her life.So, if you need a fresh touch from God in believing Him for what seems to be impossible, listen to Niki (and Paul) as they share how God brought Niki from a life that most would think could never recover, to a ministry that's helping people overcome the trauma and wounds of their past.Phil and PriscillaP.S. - Do you need help in your marriage? Consider attending a weekend intensive with Whatever it Takes Ministries (witministries.com). They would be glad to speak with you!Resources:Want to talk with Phil and Priscilla? Schedule a coaching call at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. To receive marriage resources, updates and insights, join the Savage Marriage Community at SavageMarriageMinistries.com.Buy Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, at Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540208: Amazon.com: BooksBuy the Savage Marriage Study Guide on Amazon at Savage Marriage Study Guide: Overcome Your Past. Fight for Your Future.: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540239: Amazon.com: BooksAnd follow the Savage Marriage podcast on Spotify, iTunes, Youtube, and many other platforms.
Transcribe →Episode #44: Spiritual Intimacy: This was the Key that Changed Everything
Nov 28, 202400:29:13Tap to summarizeWe've found that most marriages are chasing intimacy but looking in all the wrong places. We sure did, and it never created a relationship that met the deep needs of our souls. What we eventually discovered was that spiritual intimacy needed to be the foundation of our relationship, and that spiritual intimacy would lead to emotional intimacy. These two things, working together, then created a foundation for a new marriage, and one in which our sexual intimacy could grow and even flourish. Join us on this episode as we discuss the one thing we discovered that was key to becoming spiritually intimate. It's the most frequent question we receive from couples looking for a resurrection in their marriage. Phil and Priscilla P.S. - Do you need help in your marriage? Book a free introductory coaching call with us on our website at savagemarriageministries.com. We'd love to talk with you! Resources: Schedule a coaching call with Phil and Priscilla at Services 3 — Savage Marriage Ministries Join the Savage Marriage Community at Savage Marriage Ministries Buy Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, at Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540208: Amazon.com: Books Buy the Savage Marriage Study Guide on Amazon at Savage Marriage Study Guide: Overcome Your Past. Fight for Your Future.: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540239: Amazon.com: Books And follow the Savage Marriage podcast on Spotify, iTunes, Youtube, and many other platforms.
Transcribe →Episode #43: "Chapter 12, Radical Courage and Vulnerability" (The Last Chapter!)
Jun 4, 202400:48:17Tap to summarizeAfter experiencing God's healing in our marriage, we wanted to share with others what He had done for us. It gave purpose to our pain, and every opportunity we had to share reminded us of what God had done. But this meant that we had to sometimes share very personal details of our journey. As we did this, we gave other couples "permission" to transparently share their stories. This mutual vulnerability created beautiful relationships as we became intimately known to others in a God-honoring way. Join us as we read the final chapter of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage, Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction. You'll discover what we found out - that radical courage and vulnerability allowed us to participate in the healing of others. We encourage you to share this podcast with a friend and subscribe so you don't miss an episode. You'll be glad you did! Phil and Priscilla P.S. - This episode also includes the Epilogue, where our youngest daughters provide their comments on how our coming clean affected them when they were only 11 and 9 years old. It's candid and fresh and will encourage you to also share your story with your kids. Resources: If you'd like to have coaching with Phil and Priscilla, details are available on their website at SavageMarriageMinistries.com Our hardcopy book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, is available on Amazon.com at https://a.co/d/eiZKpNy The popular Savage Marriage Study Guide is also available on Amazon.com at https://a.co/d/gzUdIGB Also, join our Savage Marriage Community at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Thanks for partnering with us! Phil and Priscilla
Transcribe →Episode #42: Chapter 11, "Discovering True Sexual Intimacy"
May 21, 202400:39:04Tap to summarizeAfter going through the pain of betrayal, many couples struggle with whether, when and how to reengage again sexually. In fact, some studies suggest that 20-30% of all couples live in a sexless marriage. Is it really possible to create new feelings of sexual desire and intimacy after suffering the pain of betrayal? Or to create sexual intimacy that never existed before? Join us as we read Chapter 11 of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage, Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction. You'll discover what we found out - that God wants to be invited into your sexual journey, and with his help, your sexual intimacy can flourish no matter the pain you've gone through. We encourage you to share this podcast with a friend and subscribe so you don't miss an episode. You'll be glad you did! Phil and Priscilla Resources: If you'd like to have coaching with Phil and Priscilla, details are available on their website at SavageMarriageMinistries.com Our hardcopy book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, is available on Amazon.com at https://a.co/d/eiZKpNy The popular Savage Marriage Study Guide is also available on Amazon.com at https://a.co/d/gzUdIGB Also, join our Savage Marriage Community at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Thanks for partnering with us! Phil and Priscilla
Transcribe →Episode #41: How Forgiveness led to Becoming Battle Partners: Rey and Jane's Resurrection Story (Part 2)
May 7, 202400:42:46Tap to summarizeIn Part 1 of Rey and Jane's story, Jane described how she forgave Rey for a 10-year relationship he had with her sister. Rey described how it was so hard for him to accept Jane's forgiveness, believing that forgiveness was only for people who were better than him. Today, you're going to hear how this path of mercy, grace and forgiveness took them toward becoming battle partners. It's an amazing story, and you don't want to miss it! We've served with Rey and Jane for the past five years at weekend intensives with Whatever it Takes Ministries, and they are real, raw and share transparently about what God's done in their marriage and family. So, if you need a fresh touch from God in your marriage, listen to Rey and Jane, as they share how God brought them from a marriage that most would think could never recover, to a ministry that's blossomed over the past 19 years. Phil and Priscilla P.S. - Do you need help in your marriage? Do you want to hear more from Rey and Jane? Consider attending a weekend intensive with Whatever it Takes Ministries (witministries.com). They would be glad to speak with you! Resources: Want to talk with Phil and Priscilla? Schedule a coaching call at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. To receive marriage resources, updates and insights, join the Savage Marriage Community at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Buy Phil and Priscilla's award-winning book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, at Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540208: Amazon.com: Books Buy the award-winning Savage Marriage Study Guide on Amazon at Savage Marriage Study Guide: Overcome Your Past. Fight for Your Future.: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540239: Amazon.com: Books And follow the Savage Marriage podcast on Spotify, iTunes, Youtube, and many other platforms.
Transcribe →Episode #40: When Forgiveness Looks Impossible: Rey and Jane's Journey of Healing (Part 1)
Apr 30, 202400:41:47Tap to summarizeWe first heard Rey and Jane Alvarenga's story 7 years ago, and it was instrumental in helping us believe that God could rescue our marriage, no matter how big the pit was that we had dug. Today, we're so pleased to introduce Rey and Jane to you. We've served with them for the past five years at weekend intensives with Whatever it Takes Ministries, and they are real, raw and share transparently about what God's done in their marriage and family. So, if you need a fresh touch from God in your marriage, listen to Rey and Jane, as they share how God brought them from a marriage that most would think could never recover, to a ministry that's blossomed over the past 19 years. Phil and Priscilla P.S. - Do you need help in your marriage? Consider attending a weekend intensive with Whatever it Takes Ministries (witministries.com). They would be glad to speak with you! Resources: Want to talk with Phil and Priscilla? Schedule a coaching call at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. To receive marriage resources, updates and insights, join the Savage Marriage Community at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Buy Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, at Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540208: Amazon.com: Books Buy the Savage Marriage Study Guide on Amazon at Savage Marriage Study Guide: Overcome Your Past. Fight for Your Future.: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540239: Amazon.com: Books And follow the Savage Marriage podcast on Spotify, iTunes, Youtube, and many other platforms.
Transcribe →Episode #39: How to Escape Temptation
Apr 16, 202400:29:41Tap to summarizeWhen you hear the word "temptation", what feelings do you have? Sin? Failure? Frustration? All these feelings are normal, because few people know how to escape from temptation. Join us for this podcast, where we share with you the game changers in our marriage that have allowed us to understand that temptation is a testing, but doesn't need to necessarily lead to sin. If temptation has created fear and insecurities in your marriage, you don't want to miss this one! Phil and Priscilla P.S. - Do you need help in your marriage? Book a free introductory coaching call with us on our website at savagemarriageministries.com. We'd love to talk with you! Resources: Schedule a coaching call with Phil and Priscilla at Services 3 — Savage Marriage Ministries Join the Savage Marriage Community at Savage Marriage Ministries Buy Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, at Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540208: Amazon.com: Books Buy the Savage Marriage Study Guide on Amazon at Savage Marriage Study Guide: Overcome Your Past. Fight for Your Future.: Fretwell, Phil, Fretwell, Priscilla: 9798985540239: Amazon.com: Books And follow the Savage Marriage podcast on Spotify, iTunes, Youtube, and many other platforms.
Transcribe →Episode #38: Chapter 10, "Embracing our Emotions"
Apr 4, 202400:42:40Tap to summarizeAfter going through the pain of betrayal, many couples settle for just getting back to a functional marriage, but not one that's emotionally intimate. Is it really possible to recover feelings of emotional connection? Or to create emotional intimacy that never existed before? Join us as we read Chapter 10 of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage, Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction. You'll discover what we found out - that empathy and compassion are the gateways to emotional intimacy. Once we began to see one another's back story and understand why we did what we did, God allowed feelings of empathy and compassion to spring up, taking us toward a level of emotional intimacy we'd never before experienced. We encourage you to share this podcast with a friend and subscribe so you don't miss an episode. You'll be glad you did! Phil and Priscilla Resources: If you'd like to have coaching with Phil and Priscilla, details are available on their website at Services 3 — Savage Marriage Ministries Our hardcopy book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, is available on Amazon. The popular Savage Marriage Study Guide is also available on Amazon. Also, join our Savage Marriage Community at SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Attend a weekend intensive for women, men or couples with Whatever it Takes Ministries. Find out more information at WITMinistries.com. Thanks for partnering with us! Phil and Priscilla
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