Podcast
Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With An Addiction
Hosted by Andrea Seydel · EN
Do you love someone with an addiction? Are you struggling?
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Whether you are dealing with the turmoil that comes from loving someone with an addiction or feeling broken and knocked down from the aftermath, Saving You Is Killing Me is your go-to book and podcast that can help you take back your power and your life.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Whether you are dealing with the turmoil that comes from loving someone with an addiction or feeling broken and knocked down from the aftermath, Saving You Is Killing Me is your go-to book and podcast that can help you take back your power and your life.
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232 - Love, Loss & Letting Go: When the Person You Knew Disappears
Apr 1600:17:38Tap to summarizeLove, Loss & Letting Go: When the Person You Knew Disappears Addiction can slowly transform someone you love into a version you no longer recognize. In this episode, Andrea discusses ambiguous loss, grief, trauma attachment, and the heartbreak of loving someone who feels emotionally gone. You’ll learn: What ambiguous loss really means Why letting go feels so complicated How trauma bonds keep hope alive Practical steps to reclaim your emotional stability This episode weaves Self-Care and Courage into the process of release and self-respect. Explore Andrea’s book Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction and access additional support at: 👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com
Transcribe →231 - Am I Overreacting? When Addiction Feels Like a Questioning Yourself Dilemma
Apr 900:17:48Tap to summarizeAm I Overreacting? When Addiction in Parenthood Feels Like a Moral Dilemma When addiction enters the home, especially with children present, you may question your instincts. In this episode, Andrea addresses gaslighting, parental hypervigilance, and the internal conflict between protection and partnership. You’ll learn: Why your protective instinct is biologically wired How minimization distorts perception The psychological toll of unpredictability in parenting How to define non-negotiables without escalating conflict This episode highlights Self-Compassion and Community as stabilizing forces. Learn more about protecting your peace while parenting through addiction at: 👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com
Transcribe →230 - Breaking the Guilt Loop: Saying No Without Shame
Apr 200:20:33Tap to summarizeBreaking the Guilt Loop: Saying No Without Shame When your addicted loved one asks for money, favors, or help and you say no guilt can feel overwhelming. In this episode, Andrea explores trauma bonds, guilt conditioning, and why saying no can feel like betrayal even when it’s healthy. You’ll learn: Why guilt doesn’t always mean you’re wrong How trauma bonding reinforces over-responsibility The difference between compassion and rescue How to set boundaries without spiraling into shame This episode emphasizes Self-Compassion and Courage as you break old patterns and reclaim your autonomy. Find deeper support and Andrea’s book at: 👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com
Transcribe →Turn Pain into Purpose: A Special Invitation to Join Our Collective Book
Mar 2600:11:00Tap to summarizeTurn Pain into Purpose: A Special Invitation to Join Our Collective Book This is a special episode — a personal invitation. If you’ve ever loved someone with an addiction, you already understand the complexity, the heartbreak, and the strength it takes to keep going. This episode is an invitation to be part of something deeply meaningful. We are creating a powerful collective book: When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction This will be a professionally published collection of real, honest stories from people who have loved someone with an addiction and are ready to share their experience — not perfectly, but truthfully. This book is about: • The reality of loving someone through addiction • The emotional toll and internal struggle • The moments that shift everything • The journey of reclaiming yourself • And the message you would share with someone still in it 💛 This is a mission-driven project. There is no contributor fee. Publishing is fully supported through Live Life Happy Publishing. 📚 We are looking for 24–30 contributors. 🗓 Key Dates: • Application Deadline: May 1, 2026 • Chapter Submission: May 15, 2026 • Final Edits Complete: June 1, 2026 • Book Launch: July 24 (International Self-Care Day) You do not need to be a writer. You just need to be willing to share your story. If your heart is feeling even a small nudge… follow it. 👉 Apply and learn more here: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1uV9qoYYdQJparWNC5gVHywUOYV0TcfrK?usp=drive_link Your story could be the one that helps someone else feel less alone.
Transcribe →229- When Letting Go Feels Impossible: Support Through Abandonment Pain
Mar 2600:19:29Tap to summarizeWhen Letting Go Feels Impossible: Support Through Abandonment Pain When a parent leaves, physically or emotionally, children feel it deeply. And so do you. In this episode, Andrea discusses attachment insecurity, separation anxiety, and how children process abandonment when addiction disrupts family stability. You’ll learn: Why children’s nervous systems respond strongly to unpredictability How to create emotional safety through consistency The power of co-regulation Simple ways to rebuild stability at home This episode weaves Self-Care and Community into parenting through instability. For additional support and resources, visit: 👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com
Transcribe →228 - Comfort vs. Chaos: When You’re Exhausted by the Lies and Enabling
Mar 1900:18:43Tap to summarizeComfort vs. Chaos: When You’re Exhausted by the Lies and Enabling At some point, exhaustion replaces argument. You may feel completely worn down by excuses, blame shifting, and denial. In this episode, Andrea explores emotional fatigue, enabling patterns, and what happens when you reach the end of your rope. You’ll learn: Why chronic chaos creates nervous system burnout How enabling can develop unconsciously The difference between compassion and self-abandonment How to reclaim your power without escalating conflict This episode centers on Self-Compassion and Courage — especially when you’re done carrying the emotional weight. Find tools, support, and Andrea’s book at: 👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com
Transcribe →227- After the Truth Comes Out: How to Rebuild Trust When Honesty Finally Arrives
Mar 1200:15:30Tap to summarizeAfter the Truth Comes Out: How to Rebuild Trust When Honesty Finally Arrives When someone finally admits they have a problem, relief and resentment can collide. In this episode, Andrea discusses what happens psychologically when the truth surfaces after months or years of secrecy. Even when your partner seeks treatment, your nervous system may still feel guarded. You’ll learn: Why trust doesn’t automatically return after honesty The impact of chronic lying on attachment How trauma bonding complicates reconciliation Steps to rebuild safety slowly and intentionally This episode weaves Self-Care and Community into the rebuilding process. To learn more about protecting yourself while loving someone in recovery, visit: 👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com
Transcribe →226- Faith, Boundaries & Inner Peace: Loving with Strength, Not Suffering
Mar 600:21:52Tap to summarizeFaith, Boundaries & Inner Peace: Loving with Strength, Not Suffering When loving someone with addiction, boundaries can feel like rejection — but they’re often the beginning of peace. In this episode, Andrea explores how to love deeply without losing yourself. Whether your strength comes from spirituality, personal conviction, or inner clarity, boundaries protect what matters most — especially your children and your mental health. You’ll learn: Why boundaries are an act of self-respect How guilt can mask healthy limits The difference between control and protection How to love without absorbing chaos This episode highlights Self-Compassion and Courage as essential tools for loving with strength rather than suffering. Find more guidance and structured support at: 👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com
Transcribe →225- When Detox Isn’t Enough: Rebuilding Peace After Broken Promises
Feb 2600:16:38Tap to summarizeWhen Detox Isn’t Enough: Rebuilding Peace After Broken Promises Detox can feel hopeful. Treatment can feel promising. But what happens when you’re still left rebuilding after years of broken promises? In this episode, Andrea explores the emotional aftermath of relapse cycles, shattered trust, and the psychological impact of repeated hope followed by disappointment. Even when your loved one enters detox, you may still feel exhausted, guarded, or unsure how to move forward. You’ll learn: Why broken promises create attachment trauma How relapse cycles affect your nervous system The difference between hope and self-protection Practical ways to rebuild your internal peace This episode centers on Courage and Self-Care — especially when you realize detox alone doesn’t heal the damage left behind. For deeper support, explore Andrea’s book Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction and additional resources at: 👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com
Transcribe →It’s Your Turn to Be the Light: The Story You’ve Survived Could Save Someone Else
Aug 14, 202500:15:59Tap to summarizeIt’s Your Turn to Be the Light: The Story You’ve Survived Could Save Someone Else Supporting you through addiction's shadows Feel empowered, regain happiness, and know you're not alone in our supportive community. 👉 Start Your Journey: Explore Our Resources Now Are you tired of feeling powerless in a relationship with someone struggling with addiction? Join the Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction Podcast and take back your power with insights from positive psychology practitioner and author Andrea Seydel. Learn the science of human flourishing, resilience, and well-being, and gain the support and community you need to reclaim your life. Don't let addiction control your life any longer. Tune in now and start your journey toward regaining your power. The Saving You Is Killing Me Podcast is a powerful podcast, book, and community resource for anyone struggling with loving someone with an addiction. Hosted by author and positive psychology practitioner Andrea Seydel, this podcast focuses on taking back your power, the science of human flourishing, resilience, and well-being. Through her personal experiences and extensive knowledge, Seydel shares insights on regaining your power, self-healing, and fostering an empowering way of life. She discusses the impact of trauma and how to navigate the turmoil of loving someone with an addiction. ✨ NEW: Friday Love & Lift (Live!) Every Friday at 12 PM ET, Andrea goes live on the podcast to offer real-time support inspired by your stories and questions from the community. 💛 No cameras. No pressure. Just safe, gentle support. 👉 Listen live or catch the replay at SavingYouIsKillingMe.com 👉 Post your questions anonymously in the Facebook group or message Andrea here If you're looking for support and community, the Saving You Is Killing Me website and support group are valuable resources. Join Andrea and others on a journey of self-discovery and resilience. 🎧 Start taking back your power today with the Saving You Is Killing Me podcast. 📘 Grab your copy of Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction. 🧘♀️ Explore more at SavingYouIsKillingMe.com, AndreaSeydel.com, and LiveLifeHappyPublishing.com.
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