Podcast
Secret Self-Sabotage with Jessica Cuatrecasas
Hosted by Jessica Cuatrecasas · EN
Secret Self-Sabotage Podcast is for women who look on the outside as though they have it all, but feel like something is missing and are full of self-loathing, shame and guilt. You wish your life could be happier and more fulfilling and that you could get it together. You're holding on to a secret of feeling unworthy and unhappy. You are ready to let go of the dark, low vibe energy that's keeping your stuck.
This podcast gives you the confidence, courage and self-compassion to take back control from a loving, heart-centred place, release your negativity and build the foundations of a life you love. This show is nurturing, needed and necessary to address how you feel right now, before it contaminates your relationships and the rest of your life.
Hosted by Jessica Cuatrecasas, a life coach who is over 10 years clean and sober, she'll share that a life of happiness, fulfilment and love is out there for you, and it's not that far away. This is one to listen to if you're ready to re-spark your life and let go of your secret self-sabotage.
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023 The True Value of Time
Oct 24, 202200:28:02Tap to summarizeToday's episode will be the last installment of the Secret Self-Sabotage podcast. Thank you so much for tuning in, listening, reaching out, and appreciating how the content is transforming your life. To mark this huge milestone, we'll be discussing the true value of time, and how you can channel your energy into something positive when negativity comes calling. What You'll Learn: - Why you need to stop wasting time on negative thinking - Ways to have more time - What to do when you feel stuck in a dark place - Embracing the free flow of possibility - The power of journaling and seeking your inner guidance - Loving ways to overcome your fear - The difference between a human doing and a human being - You deserve to be happy - How to embrace the beauty of your femininity If you feel like your life is unmanageable or it's utterly impossible to live a life of peace, I'm here to tell you that you were not placed on this earth to survive. You are meant to thrive. Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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022 Why We Sabotage Our Dreams and How to Stop
Oct 17, 202200:25:59Tap to summarizeWe've just moved from Q3 into the final quarter of the year. It's time for that final push to achieve the dreams and aspirations you had at the beginning of this year. Unfortunately, most of us already gave up on those dreams. Interestingly, what we lack is not the ability to dream big but the commitment to create a plan and stick with it. You see, it's quite easy to think big, but it's even easier to act small. In today's episode, I go through practical ways of identifying how we sabotage our dreams and what we can do to stop these self-sabotaging habits. What You'll Learn: - Why we sabotage our dreams and how to stop - How to create an intentional plan for your life - What is the "Passion Test?" - Why you need to honour your childhood dreams and aspirations - The first principle of living a passionate life - Trust that you were meant for greatness - How to break free from the things causing misery in your life - Why women feel guilty for following their dreams - The surprising power of daily rituals Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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021 How to Find Forgiveness to Free Up Your Life
Oct 10, 202200:26:16Tap to summarizeForgiveness is hard when the other person doesn't recognise how much they hurt you. This is why instead of forgiving the people who wronged us, we cling on to the pain and the burden of betrayal. The big question is, is it possible to let go? The simple answer is yes, but it won't be easy. To help you understand how forgiveness can free up your life, today's episode is all about self-forgiveness and how letting go of resentment can lead to physical, emotional, and spiritual freedom. What You'll Learn: - How to find forgiveness and free up your life - You are not responsible for other people's actions - Why you need to forgive and let go of the pain - How to work through anger and resentment - Ways to make affirmations work for you - How to forgive somebody who hurt you - Powerful ways to release and move on Remember, when you forgive someone, you are helping yourself. Accept that what happened is now in the past, and recognise that holding on to grudges only leads to a life of misery. Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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020 3 Ways to Re-Set, Re-Align and Re-Emerge Stronger After Confrontation
Oct 3, 202200:25:38Tap to summarizeThe internet is full of guides on how to reset and live a more meaningful life. However, none of them talk about resetting and re-emerging stronger after a confrontation. Confrontations, especially with toxic people, can become so overwhelming that you just want a fresh start. But moving on doesn't just happen overnight. The true power of resetting your life lies in understanding you cannot do it alone. In today's episode, I'll go through three practical ways to reset, re-align and re-emerge stronger after a confrontation. I'll also share the benefits of embracing our innate feminine energy in this masculine world that we live in. What You'll Learn: - How to reset your life after a confrontation - Why you need to trust your feminine intuition - How the fear of upsetting people is holding you back - Communicating your needs isn't selfish - Strategies for remaining calm when you feel triggered - Why you need to stop running away from problems - How to stand up for yourself in any situation - Reasons why people tolerate bad behaviour Resetting your life is all about finding the strength to defend your boundaries and not letting other people intimidate you. The next time anybody crosses the line, push back. You are much stronger than you think, so tap into your inner strength and stick up for yourself. Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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019 How to Help Your Child Build Confidence After Being Bullied
Sep 26, 202200:31:13Tap to summarizeThere's nothing worse than discovering your child is being bullied at school. A bully can turn something as simple as taking the bus or going for lunch into a nightmare for kids. If your child is being bullied, the first step is to address the bully because bullying won't go away on its own. We're at the beginning of a new academic year, and your child has every right to feel safe and confident in school. Today, we'll go through practical steps to help your child overcome bullying and help them understand that being bullied is never their fault. We'll also tackle how you can boost your child's confidence and rebuild their self-esteem once the bullying has been addressed. What You'll Learn: - What to do when you learn your kid is a victim of bullying - Signs your kid is being bullied - Making your child understand what bullying is - Help your kids understand that they should not feel guilty or take blame - When and when not to intervene on behalf of your kid - Ways to help your child resist peer pressure - The benefits of teaching your kids how to express themselves - What to do when your kid is the bully - Why avoiding a bully will not end the bullying Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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018 How Helping Others Helps Us, Too (In Honour of Queen Elizabeth II)
Sep 19, 202200:26:38Tap to summarizeThe fascinating thing about having purpose in life is that we all crave the need to help others. But serving others should not be a planned act; it should stem from a place of awareness and compassion. The late Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II is a prime example of this. She lived a long and meaningful life, fulfilling her commitment to serve until her very last breath. I decided to dedicate today's session to show my appreciation, love, respect, gratitude, and honour for everything she stood for and valued. What You'll Learn: - Why we ought to honour Queen Elizabeth II - The power and beauty of living a life of service - Why you need to learn to serve people without expecting anything back - Service is not sacrifice - How to become happier through serving others - Why you need to teach your kids how to give - Understanding other people's love languages What comes to mind when you think of living a "good life?" For most people, a good life can only be defined by one word - more. More money, more cars, more clothes, more friends. But ask yourself whether that's an ideal way of living, because no matter how big an impact we wish to have in this world, if it is not in service to others, it doesn't really count. Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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017 How to Say No to a Narcissist and Know Your Inner Voice
Sep 12, 202200:29:09Tap to summarizeDealing with a narcissist is hard, but saying no to them is even harder. Their self-importance and entitlement will make your life frustrating and emotionally challenging. What makes narcissists toxic is that they believe they're 100% awesome - and you're not. This is why learning more about narcissistic traits and the ways to deal with them can help you honour your boundaries. In this episode, we'll go through what it's like to deal with a narcissist, how their behaviour might affect your self-esteem, and what you can do to put yourself first and care for your own emotional wellbeing. What You'll Learn: - How to say no to a narcissist - Signs someone is gaslighting you and what to do about it - The benefits of avoiding confrontation whenever possible - Why you ought to put your needs first and listen to your inner voice - Understand that people-pleasing is bad for your self-esteem - How to release unworthy thoughts - It's not your job to try to change a narcissist - Why you need to set clear boundaries with a narcissist Navigating a relationship with a narcissist can take a toll on your mental and emotional wellbeing. It gets even worse if your life revolves around them. That said, here's what you need to remember - it's not your job to control that person's behaviour, and it's okay to enforce boundaries and put your needs first. Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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016 How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
Sep 5, 202200:18:15Tap to summarizeAre you your own worst enemy? Do you constantly sabotage the opportunities and joys that life presents to you? Maybe you feel like deep down you don't deserve success, joy or love. I know that feeling, and it can be frustrating to feel as though you're working against yourself. So what do you do when you find yourself seemingly working against your own best interests? Tune in to learn the practical steps you can implement today to overcome the roots of self-sabotaging behaviours and stop being your own worst enemy. What You'll Learn: - How to stop being your own worst enemy - Understand that you are responsible for your own happiness - Actions that make you your own worst enemy - How to uncover self-sabotaging behaviour - The benefits of getting over your regrets from the past - The five stages of grief - What it takes to move on - Get to know your inner critic - Look to your past as an opportunity for growth We constantly hear that happiness is a choice. But the question is, how can we be happy when we don't feel happy with our current situation? Your circumstances might be different, but if you're spending time focused on your flaws or letting others determine how you should live your life, you are your own worst enemy. And things need to change. Resources: - Book: "The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self" by Martha Beck https://amzn.to/3KGeIbj - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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015 What is Toxic Positivity and How to Change It
Aug 29, 202200:25:53Tap to summarizeHaving a positive approach to life is good for your mental health, and that's a fact. We all want to live in this perfect utopia full of joy, happiness, and satisfaction. But the reality is that life will sometimes be full of painful emotions and experiences. These emotions will be unpleasant, but they are important and need to be embraced with openness and honesty. In today's episode, we'll take a deep dive into the world of toxic positivity, how to avoid it, and the consequences of trying to suppress emotions that aren't happy or positive. What You'll Learn: - What is toxic positivity? - Understanding the things that make positivity toxic - Valuing happiness versus prioritising positivity - Why it's okay to be negative sometimes - How toxic positivity encourages self-sabotaging behaviour - The drawbacks of repressing your feelings - Choose to talk to people who validate your feelings - Understand that you can't force happiness - Why we need to normalise not being okay Toxic positivity is the "good vibes only" approach to life that encourages people to ignore difficult emotions. While positive thinking has its benefits, it's almost impossible to think positively all the time. You need a balance between positivity and negativity in your life. So when you find yourself feeling particularly down, don't force happiness. Sit through your darkest emotions, validate them, and move on when you feel ready. Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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014 Why People Do the Things They Do
Aug 22, 202200:43:12Tap to summarizeSix fundamental needs drive human behaviour. Although we all share those same six needs, each of us values them differently, and we have varied processes when trying to satisfy those needs. If you'd like to have the best possible summer and make the best possible memories, you need to understand people's needs and the reasoning behind why people do the things they do. Listen in to learn the motives that drive people's actions and tips on how to better understand your needs by creating new action patterns. What You'll Learn: - The 6 fundamental human needs - The link between needs and people's actions - Understanding the reasoning behind people's actions - The underlying patterns for all emotions, behaviour, and actions - Why you need to know your needs and the beliefs around those needs - How to find empowering ways to satisfy your needs - The biggest addiction when it comes to satisfying needs - Polarity in romantic relationships and understanding each other's needs - The difference between love and connection What are your needs? Unfortunately, many people struggle to answer this question. They don't know what drives them to act, think, or feel. They also don't know how to articulate their real needs to other people. Yet knowing your needs and learning to communicate them is essential for finding satisfaction, meaning and joy in life. So if your summer isn't going according to plan, maybe it's time you thought about your needs and how they affect the people around you. Resources: - Get my FREE 7 Subtle Signs of Self-Sabotage https://bit.ly/sevensubtlesigns - Reach out to me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicacuatrecasas/
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