Podcast
Seeing Other People
Hosted by Ilana Dunn · EN
Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week.
Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.
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30, Single, and Happier Than Ever
1w ago00:49:51Tap to summarizeThis week, I’m joined by content creator Annie Jorgensen to talk about what really shifts when you turn 30 and stop looking for someone to complete you. From a major heartbreak (with a cheating ex who had already bought a ring) while all her friends were getting engaged, to rebuilding her confidence and completely changing how she dates, Annie shares how she went from dating for validation to actually asking, “do I even like them?”. We get into letting go of timelines, solo travel, dating apps vs real life, and why being single isn’t being behind — it’s just not settling.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop & I Have a Big Announcement
1w ago00:42:09Tap to summarizeJake's back from Florida with a roulette win and some bachelor party receipts. Ilana has a major life announcement that's been months (or years) in the making.. Two listener questions: does astrology actually matter in dating, and how do you stop waiting for the other shoe to drop when something finally feels really good?ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Your Next Relationship Might Be Around the Corner
2w ago00:41:40Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we sit down with Kerry Russo, the creator behind UES Things, to talk about what it actually means to put yourself out there — and why staying in your comfort zone might be the biggest thing holding you back in dating and life. From meeting people in real life to going to events alone, starting conversations, and doing things that feel uncomfortable at first, this conversation is all about taking action instead of waiting for things to happen. We also get into giving people a real chance, letting go of rigid “types,” and building a life that naturally creates more opportunities to connect.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Stop People Pleasing, Start Feeling Secure
2w ago00:48:51Tap to summarizeTrevor Hanson is back for part two, and this episode goes even deeper into people pleasing, anxious attachment, and what it really means to feel secure in yourself. We talk about why even secure people can feel anxious in certain relationships, how to stop abandoning yourself to keep others happy, setting boundaries without guilt, and how identifying your values can completely change the way you date and heal.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Bachelor Parties vs. Bachelorette Parties: We Are Not the Same
2w ago00:42:56Tap to summarizeJake's heading to Fort Lauderdale for a bachelor party with zero itinerary and a plan that's basically "watch the Knicks, find a Chili's." We kick things off comparing how differently men and women plan these trips, and it's not even close. We tackle a listener question about bachelorette party costs spiraling out of control and how to set a boundary without being labeled unsupportive. Then, A listener wrote back about last week's question on dating while your mom is dying — she kept dating, met someone who'd lost his own parent, and they're now getting engaged so her mom can be there. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Meeting Someone When You Least Expect It
3w ago01:01:44Tap to summarizeJuliette Haas is about to leave a life that works — great friends, a solid routine, and NYC exactly as she always imagined it — to move to London anyway. In this episode, we get into what it really means to choose discomfort on purpose, from solo traveling for the first time to realizing she didn’t want to be the person who only talks about doing things. We talk about growing up online, unlearning toxic wellness habits, navigating post-grad identity shifts, and how dating in your 20s can shape (and raise) your standards. Plus: the chaotic NYC dating stories, the relationship she didn’t expect right before leaving, and why this move isn’t about running away, but about choosing more.Follow Juliette on IG @thenutritiousnorm and TT @thenutritiousnormALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Why You’re Still Single (It’s Not Bad Luck)
3w ago00:49:22Tap to summarizeAmy Chan returns to Seeing Other People five years after her first appearance to talk about her new book UNSINGLE and what it actually takes to create a healthy, lasting relationship. We talk about why so many of us keep repeating the same dating patterns, how we're often optimizing for the wrong things, and why chemistry alone isn't enough to build something long-term. Amy shares her “dating funnel” framework to help identify where you're getting stuck, plus the mindset shifts that can help you break out of dating burnout. We also dive into limerence, dating outside your type, and the four pillars of healthy relationships — chemistry, compatibility, timing, and mutuality. Amy explains why the “perfect person at the wrong time is the wrong person,” how to challenge limiting beliefs about love, and the experiment she created that has helped people finally find lasting relationships.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Should You Keep Dating While Your Mom Is Dying?
3w ago00:45:50Tap to summarizeWe're back with Ilana's LA trip recap, a lot to be grateful for, and two listener questions that made us cry. Ilana returns with two unhinged stories — a barista who said something unhinged to every customer and a saleswoman who congratulated someone on a pregnancy that was very much not happening. We answer a question from a 28-year-old in NYC who's trying not to be bitter about being single, and one that wrecked us both about whether to keep dating while your mom is sick. We close with the follow-up we've been waiting for: the girl who went on a Hinge date with her situationship's friend's roommate wrote back — and they're officially official.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Dating As A Single Dad: Finding Love After Raising His Kids
4w ago00:41:54Tap to summarizeRyan is a 43-year-old single dad living in a small coastal town in Mississippi, navigating dating with a uniquely small dating pool — and a clear idea of what he wants. After two divorces, gaining full custody of his kids, and years focused on raising them, he’s now approaching life as an empty nester and ready to find a partner.In this Unfiltered episode, Ryan shares what it’s like dating long-distance, hiring a matchmaker, why he’s intentional about keeping doors open, and the moment he ended a relationship after his partner crossed a boundary with his kids. He opens up about resilience, starting over, and balancing hope with acceptance when dating later in life.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Dating Intentionally: From 150 Dates to Marriage
Apr 2100:48:48Tap to summarizeAfter going on 150 dates with 60+ people in 10 months, Talia Koren didn’t expect to meet her husband when she did, especially because he wasn’t her type, didn’t give instant sparks, and entered her life while she was still dating other people.In this episode, Talia shares how dating intentionally and treating dating like a research experiment helped her move on from a six-year relationship, stop chasing chemistry, and recognize what actually matters in a long-term partner.From the first message on Hinge, to the third-date click, to defining the relationship and moving in together, this conversation breaks down what healthy dating actually looks like in real life, not just in theory.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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