Podcast
Patterns of Power with Craig Perra (habits, mindfulness, high-performance, self-leadership)
Hosted by Craig Perra, JD, Executive Coach & Trainer (addictions & bad habits) · EN
Patterns of Power is the essential playbook for MEN: high performers, executives, and leaders ready to dismantle the reactive habits that limit their potential and step fully into their POWER.
Hosted by Craig Perra, world-renowned coach and creator of The Mindful Habit® System, this show utilizes a framework that evolved from treating the most severe addictions into a comprehensive leadership model. We recognize that for a leader, a distraction is not just a bad habit—it represents a massive cost to your focus, your influence, and your legacy.
We move beyond the limited "addiction model" to a Leadership Model. We view every distraction—whether it is imposter syndrome, anger, gambling, shopping, procrastination, shutting down, doomscrolling, porn, alcohol, or overwork—as a failure of self-leadership, and an immediate opportunity to reclaim your power.
From Chaos to Command: Craig’s methodology is forged in fire. Once a top corporate executive fired by billion-dollar companies while battling addictions to heroin, stimulants, sex, and work, Craig hit rock bottom. Diagnosed with PTSD and bipolar II, he realized traditional therapy and 12-step programs weren't enough. He rebuilt his life by engineering a new framework: The Mindful Habit® System.
His expertise and transformation have been featured on The Steve Harvey Show, The Katie Couric Show, A&E's Digital Addiction, Good Morning Sacramento, and the BBC.
Who This Is For This system has helped thousands of leaders in over 30 countries—including CEOs of global corporations, Olympians, professional athletes, and 7, 8, and 9-figure entrepreneurs —move from reactivity to radical self-ownership. Craig holds space for leaders at the highest levels, teaching them that any place where you are reactive is a place where you must lead.
"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek."
Blending neuroscience, mindfulness, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and habit formation, this podcast delivers a science-based alternative to the "recovery" mindset, focusing instead on strategic self-governance.
In each episode, you will learn to:
Hosted by Craig Perra, world-renowned coach and creator of The Mindful Habit® System, this show utilizes a framework that evolved from treating the most severe addictions into a comprehensive leadership model. We recognize that for a leader, a distraction is not just a bad habit—it represents a massive cost to your focus, your influence, and your legacy.
We move beyond the limited "addiction model" to a Leadership Model. We view every distraction—whether it is imposter syndrome, anger, gambling, shopping, procrastination, shutting down, doomscrolling, porn, alcohol, or overwork—as a failure of self-leadership, and an immediate opportunity to reclaim your power.
From Chaos to Command: Craig’s methodology is forged in fire. Once a top corporate executive fired by billion-dollar companies while battling addictions to heroin, stimulants, sex, and work, Craig hit rock bottom. Diagnosed with PTSD and bipolar II, he realized traditional therapy and 12-step programs weren't enough. He rebuilt his life by engineering a new framework: The Mindful Habit® System.
His expertise and transformation have been featured on The Steve Harvey Show, The Katie Couric Show, A&E's Digital Addiction, Good Morning Sacramento, and the BBC.
Who This Is For This system has helped thousands of leaders in over 30 countries—including CEOs of global corporations, Olympians, professional athletes, and 7, 8, and 9-figure entrepreneurs —move from reactivity to radical self-ownership. Craig holds space for leaders at the highest levels, teaching them that any place where you are reactive is a place where you must lead.
"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek."
Blending neuroscience, mindfulness, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and habit formation, this podcast delivers a science-based alternative to the "recovery" mindset, focusing instead on strategic self-governance.
In each episode, you will learn to:
- Stop Coping, Start Leading: Transform reactive behaviors (getting defensive, checking out, acting out) into conscious, executive decisions.
- Command Your Physiology: Master the biology of stress and anxiety to maintain composure under pressure.
- Weaponize Your Story: Turn your deepest shame and worst patterns into your greatest assets for leadership.
- Establish Sovereignty: Build habits that align with your purpose, relationships, and performance, rather than your impulses.
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Why Your Wife Doesn't Want Sex (And Why It's Not What You Think) | Dan Purcell
1w ago00:40:20Tap to summarizeMost couples never learned how to talk about sex — let alone create a deeply connected, passionate relationship that lasts decades.In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig sits down with Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On, coach to hundreds of couples worldwide, host of a podcast with 1.7M+ listens, and creator of intimacy tools used by over half a million couples.Together they unpack:• Why many men grow up believing sex is shameful or dangerous• How porn, secrecy, and performance pressure quietly damage intimacy• The surprising difference between spontaneous vs. responsive desire (and why this changes marriages)• What healthy masculine sexuality actually looks like• Why “duty sex” destroys connection• The hidden ways couples accidentally make intimacy worse• How to rebuild trust, passion, vulnerability, and play inside long-term relationships• Why great sex isn’t luck — it’s something couples can intentionally buildIf you’ve ever wondered:“Why does intimacy feel disconnected?”“Why do I feel rejected?”“Why did our sex life disappear?”“Can marriages actually get better after years together?”This conversation is for you.About Dan Purcell:Dan and his wife Emily founded Get Your Marriage On with a mission to help millions of couples create stronger marriages through fun, deeply connected intimacy. Dan is working toward his PhD in Clinical Sexology, has coached couples around the world, hosts a top relationship podcast, leads retreats and workshops, and created the popular Intimately Us and Just Between Us apps.🎁 Free gift from Dan for Mindful Habit listeners:https://getyourmarriageon.com/mindfulhabitConnect with Dan:Podcast: Get Your Marriage OnWebsite: https://getyourmarriageon.comLearn more about Craig & The Mindful Habit:https://mindfulhabitmastery.com#Marriage #Intimacy #Relationships #MensHealth #SelfLeadership #PornRecovery #Connection #SexualHealth #MindfulHabit #HighPerformance
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Your Dick Isn't Broken. Your System Is. | Erectile Dysfunction & Performance Anxiety ft. Shay Doran
2w ago00:37:43Tap to summarizeMillions of men struggle with performance anxiety, erection problems, stress, shame, and intimacy issues—but almost nobody talks about it honestly.In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig sits down with Shay Doran, who specializes in helping men overcome sexual performance anxiety and erection problems. After experiencing these struggles himself, Shay has gone on to help men around the world regain confidence, improve intimacy, and feel normal again.In this conversation:• Why performance anxiety happens• Stress, shame & the nervous system• Porn, pressure and male identity• The hidden reasons many men struggle silently• Why the solution is often deeper than physical symptoms• Practical steps toward lasting changeConnect with Shay and take his free quiz:https://shay-doran.com/free-quiz/If you’re struggling with stress, habits, shame, or self-sabotage, start here:https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slstSubscribe for conversations on self leadership, habits, performance, stress, and sustainable change.#menshealth #highperformance #success #habits #executive #entrepreneur #performanceanxiety #selfleadership
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I Was A Sicko Perv: What You Watch In Secret is Robbing You Of Your Power (the r@pe instruction vid)
3w ago00:34:55Tap to summarizeWhat you consume in private does not stay private. In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra opens up about the hidden cost of porn, secrecy, shame, and compartmentalization — especially for high-performing men who look successful on the outside but feel out of alignment behind closed doors.This is not a shame-based conversation. It is a call for honesty. Craig breaks down how private patterns can slowly escalate, how they affect intimacy, leadership, self-respect, and family life, and why men need to ask a harder question: Is what I do in private consistent with the man I say I want to become?Take the self-sabotage assessmenthere: https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst#menshealth #highperformance #success #habits #addiction #executive #entrepreneur #professional
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This Is Why You Keep Failing (And It’s Not Your Fault)
4w ago00:15:44Tap to summarizeYou’ve tried willpower. Discipline. Therapy.And you still end up in the same patterns. That’s not failure.That’s a broken strategy.Your behavior isn’t random — it’s the predictable output of a system that was built long before you understood it. Once you see it, everything changes.Take the self-sabotage assessment Craig mentioned (takes 5 minutes):https://mindfulhabitmastery.com/slst
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My Dad Died — 3 Lessons You Need When Life Hits Hard
Mar 2800:21:58Tap to summarizeMy dad passed away on March 1st.This isn’t just about grief… it’s about what it exposed.In this episode, I break down the 3 lessons that hit me in real time — about triggers, pain, identity, and what actually matters when life hits you the hardest.Most men think growth means the pain goes away.That’s not how it works.The real work is being ready when it comes back.If you’ve ever felt like you “shouldn’t” still struggle… this episode is for you.— Learn more about Eric Farewell:https://ericfarewell.com/— If you're ready for deeper work and real accountability:The Patterns of Power Mastermind is launching June 1st.This is Craig’s highest level of support — built around brotherhood, accountability, and real transformation across health, wealth, and relationships.To learn more or apply:Text “MASTERMIND” to 877-356-5573— For coaching, programs, and deeper support, visit:👉 www.mindfulhabitmastery.comand if you're struggling with sex and porn addiction - visit www.mindfulhabithelp.com
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Your Phone Is Destroying Your Brain...
Feb 2700:08:48Tap to summarizeYou think distraction is a productivity problem.It’s not. It’s a health crisis.In this episode, Craig Perra breaks down 6 shocking, research-backed facts about distraction that will completely change the way you think about your phone, your focus, and your one life.From the 25-minute recovery tax your brain pays every time you get interrupted,to the neuroscience showing that — for the first time in 100 years — the current generation is less intelligent than their parents,this episode pulls no punches.But here’s where it gets really personal.Not all distractions are created equal. There’s a multiplier effect when the distraction is secret —and if you’re living with one, your nervous system is paying a price that no productivity hack can fix.This isn’t about willpower.This isn’t about being lazy.This is a war for your mind, your body, and your years —and the data shows the distractions are winning.If any of this lands, reach out.The link is in the show notes.For coaching, programs, and deeper support, visit:👉 www.mindfulhabitmastery.com
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Why I'm Obsessed With Self-Leadership and Why You Should Be Too
Feb 2500:22:14Tap to summarizeWhat if the key to breaking destructive habits, leading at your highest level, and creating a great life wasn’t more discipline… but learning to lead yourself? In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra explains why self-leadership is the missing foundation behind real transformation.Drawing from thousands of years of faith traditions, modern psychology, leadership science, and neuroscience, Craig reveals the one principle they all point toward: there is a center inside you that can lead your life.Most people are not living from that center.They’re being run by a committee of reactive parts—shame, fear, anger, addiction, criticism—each fighting for control. But when you learn to access your Self, everything changes.In this episode, Craig breaks down:Why self-leadership is the true through-line behind recovery, high performance, and personal transformationHow faith traditions across the world describe the same inner center (Christ within, Atman, Buddha nature, the divine spark)What modern psychology and neuroscience say about the observing self and executive controlWhy your critic, shame, and even addictive impulses may actually be trying to help youHow accessing your Self energy shifts you from reactive survival to powerful leadershipThis episode lays the foundation for the entire Patterns of Power philosophy. Because the truth is simple: You don’t eliminate the chaos of life.You learn to lead yourself in the middle of it. If you’ve ever felt like different parts of you are fighting for control… this episode will change the way you understand your mind—and your power.Next Episode:Craig begins breaking down the parts that orbit the Self—like the addict part, the critic, resentment, and procrastination—and how to lead them instead of fighting them.If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to remember: There is a center inside you that can lead your life. Learn more at:www.mindfulhabitmastery.com
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The Emotional Reason Money Controls Your Life
Feb 700:48:08Tap to summarizeMoney isn’t just numbers.It’s memory. Emotion. Identity. Survival.In this episode, Craig sits down with Hannah Chapman to explore why money feels so charged — and how our earliest experiences quietly shape the way we earn, spend, save, and stress.Hannah breaks down how emotional safety, childhood conditioning, and nervous system patterns influence our financial decisions, often without us realizing it. This conversation dives into:Why money triggers anxiety, avoidance, or controlHow early experiences create lifelong financial habitsWhy earning more doesn’t heal emotional scarcityWhat real financial freedom actually looks likeThis isn’t about budgets or hustle culture.It’s about healing your relationship with money at the root.If you’ve ever felt stressed about finances, avoided looking at your numbers, or repeated the same patterns despite your best efforts — this episode will help you understand why.About Our Guest:Hannah Chapman is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP®) with over 20 years of experience helping entrepreneurs navigate the emotional and practical complexities of money.As the founder of X-Squared Wealth Planning and Expansive CEO, she supports visionary business owners in creating financial clarity, long-term security, and a healthier relationship with wealth.Hannah uniquely integrates traditional financial planning and investment strategy with Human Design, Gene Keys, and money psychology — bringing both the intellect and the heart into the wealth-building process so prosperity becomes something you live, not something you chase.Connect with Hannah and explore her work:https://hannahrchapman.com
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Why I Changed The Name from Sex Afflictions to Patters of Power
Jan 2500:23:03Tap to summarizeThere’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally.They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time.In this episode, I’m explaining a major shift:my podcast is no longer called Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions.It’s now called Patterns of Power.And I didn’t change the name because it sounded better.I changed it because over 14 years of doing this work, I realized something I couldn’t ignore anymore:If the framework keeps men stuck in shame, fear, and identity collapse…it might get their attention, but it won’t build the life they want.In this episode, I break down:Why “addiction language” helps some men early on… but can hold others back long-termHow the real issue is often patterns, not pornWhy sex isn’t the root problem… it’s the relief valveThe shift from running away from a problem → to building a system that makes you unstoppableHow power, integrity, self-leadership, and capacity are the real transformationBecause shame keeps people quiet.Power builds movements.If you’re a leader, founder, executive, or high performer who knows something is “off” internally…this podcast is for you.Ready to interrupt the patterns and step into your power?Visit: mindfulhabitmastery.comIf you’re struggling with sex and porn addiction and need direct support:Visit: mindfulhabithelp.com
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Why Successful Men Feel Empty (With Aaron Velky)
Jan 1200:42:25Tap to summarizeThere’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones quietly collapsing inside.They’re driven, disciplined, respected — and deeply disconnected. Hiding behind busyness. Chasing validation. Terrified of stillness. Losing themselves one “successful” decision at a time.Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now!In this episode of Patterns Of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Aaron Velke, founder of Get Out of Your Own Way and creator of the Living Vision Program, to expose the hidden patterns that keep high-performing men stuck — even when everything looks good on the outside.Aaron works with seven-, eight-, and nine-figure leaders who have already “made it,” yet feel restless, unfulfilled, and quietly trapped by compulsive achievement. Together, Craig and Aaron unpack why success doesn’t heal insecurity — it often amplifies it — and why the real work begins when the noise finally stops.In this conversation, they explore:• The masks high-achieving men wear to avoid feeling “not enough”• Why validation, busyness, and adrenaline become addictive• How adventure and challenge can unlock breakthroughs when discipline fails• Why community heals what isolation quietly destroys• The role of stillness in finding real vision, clarity, and directionAaron brings a powerful blend of depth, honesty, and lived experience — challenging the belief that more success is the answer, and offering a different path forward: one rooted in presence, purpose, and embodied leadership.Connect with Aaron VelkeFollow Aaron on all platforms: @AaronVelkeListen to The Living Vision Show on all major podcast platforms.Aaron also leads powerful, immersive experiences for high-performing leaders:• Living Vision Retreat — January 2026• 90-Day Living Vision Accelerator — January / February 2026To learn more about Aaron’s work, upcoming retreats, and programs, visit:https://www.living.visionIf you’ve built a life that looks impressive but feels empty… this episode will hit close to home.
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