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Sex for Saints
Hosted by Amanda Louder · EN
As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!
In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.
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Episode 423 - The Weight Men Carry Into the Bedroom
3d ago00:21:16Tap to summarizeWhat happens when a man spends his whole life believing his desire could hurt someone? In this episode, I will explore how religious and cultural messages about male sexuality can lead men to disconnect from their own desire, constantly monitor themselves during sex, and quietly seek validation from their wives without even realizing it. I'll talk about how this pattern shows up differently in marriage, why it often creates pressure and disconnection for both spouses, and what actually helps men become more present and connected. I'll also share how wives can support without taking responsibility for fixing it, and what changes when men finally learn that their desire was never the problem in the first place.
Transcribe →Episode 422 - Slow Down to Connect: The Science of Sexual Mindfulness with Dr. Chelom Leavitt
1w ago00:35:35Tap to summarizeWhat if the key to a more connected, nourishing sex life is simply slowing down? In this episode of Sex for Saints, I will talk with sex researcher Chelom Leavitt about sexual mindfulness, shame, emotional connection, and why so many women struggle to feel fully present in their sexuality. We will explore how curiosity and non-judgment can transform not only our sexual experiences, but also the way we relate to ourselves, our spouses, and even our faith. We'll also discuss women's arousal, emotional safety, vulnerability in marriage, and why slowing down may be one of the most healing things couples can do for intimacy. Here's more information about Dr. Chelom Leavitt: Dr. Chelom Leavitt received her PhD from Penn State. She studies sexuality in committed relationships and examines how mindfulness during sex is associated with positive outcomes for men and women. Her recent publications include work on sexual mindfulness, how loneliness impacts relationships, forgiveness, infidelity, and men's and women's sexual response cycles and orgasm. Chelom is married to David Leavitt, and they have nine children.
Transcribe →Episode 421 - Why Talks About Sex Keep Going Sideways
2w ago00:20:28Tap to summarizeHard conversations don't fall apart because of what's said, but often because of how they start. In this episode, I will show you why "ambush conversations" trigger defensiveness and disconnection, even when you're trying to fix something important. I will walk you through how to create true consent in conversations by giving context, asking for the right timing, and honoring your spouse's capacity to engage. I will also share what to do if you're the one being caught off guard or if your partner keeps avoiding the conversation altogether. When you shift the way you start hard conversations, you will begin to create safety, trust, and a way forward together.
Transcribe →Episode 420 - Redefining Protect and Provide
3w ago00:25:20Tap to summarizeWhat if "protect and provide" isn't outdated, but just misunderstood? In this episode, I will break down how these ideas have quietly shaped marriages and why the old definitions may be leaving couples disconnected. I will walk you through what it will actually look like for a husband to provide emotional safety, real presence, and the kind of connection that makes desire possible. We'll also talk about protection in a whole new way, not just physical, but emotional, relational, and even within your sexual relationship. If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right but something still feels off, this conversation will help you see what might be missing and how you can start showing up differently.
Transcribe →Episode 419 - Sexual Integrity: Becoming Whole
May 100:24:19Tap to summarizeWhat if the tension you feel around sex isn't about your relationship at all, but about being divided within yourself? In this episode, I will unpack what sexual integrity really means and why so many of us feel disconnected, even in good marriages. I will walk through the subtle ways we slip out of alignment. Things like saying yes when we mean no, hiding desires, or going through the motions. And I will talk about how that fragmentation quietly impacts both intimacy and self-worth. I will share what it actually looks like to come back to wholeness, reconnect with yourself, and show up honestly in your relationship. Because when you do, everything about connection will start to shift.
Transcribe →Episode 418 - Your Wife Isn't A Problem To Solve
Apr 2400:35:15Tap to summarizeWhat if the very thing you're doing to improve your sex life is actually making it worse? In this episode, I'm breaking down the "fix-it" mentality so many men bring into their relationship and why it creates pressure, shame, and disconnection instead of desire. I share what to do instead, including how to be present, listen without trying to solve, and approach intimacy as a team. We also talk about what this shift looks like in real conversations and how both partners can take ownership of their part. When you stop trying to fix your spouse and start truly seeing them, you create the conditions where real connection and desire can grow.
Transcribe →Episode 417 - Better Foreplay: What Actually Works (And What Doesn't)
Apr 1700:23:01Tap to summarizeIn this episode, I talk about how most of us have misunderstood foreplay and why it's not just something that happens right before sex. I share how true connection and desire are built throughout the entire day, not just in a rushed few minutes, and walk through five different types of foreplay that most couples are completely overlooking. We'll also get into why slowing down actually creates more passion, how to read your partner instead of following a script, and what it really means to pursue each other. I dive into the importance of balancing giving and receiving, and how small shifts can completely change the way intimacy feels in your marriage. This isn't about doing more, it's about creating deeper connection, desire, and meaning in your relationship.
Transcribe →Episode 416 - Did You Marry the Right Person? The Only Two Things That Matter
Apr 1000:23:43Tap to summarizeHave you ever caught yourself wondering, "Did I marry the right person?" I want to show you why that question is actually leading you in the wrong direction and what matters so much more. In this episode, I break down the two things that truly determine whether a relationship will work, and what to do when you feel like you're the only one trying. We'll talk about how to shift the dynamic in your marriage, how to evaluate whether it's sustainable, and how to stay grounded in your own integrity no matter what your spouse chooses. If you've been feeling stuck, discouraged, or unsure about your relationship, this conversation will give you a completely new way to look at it.
Transcribe →Episode 415 - The ABC Loop: How to Stop Pressuring Your Spouse About Sex
Apr 300:27:50Tap to summarizeIf you've been trying everything to fix your sex life and nothing seems to be working, this episode might feel a little uncomfortable, but also like a breath of fresh air. I'm sharing why the harder you push for connection, the more distance you might actually be creating, and what's really going on underneath that dynamic. We'll talk about the subtle pressure that shows up in relationships (even with the best intentions) and why it can shut desire down completely. I'll walk you through a simple but powerful framework called the ABC Loop that helps you create change without resistance. If you're tired of feeling rejected or stuck, this episode will give you a completely different way to approach intimacy.
Transcribe →Episode 414 - Mutual Masturbation
Mar 2700:19:44Tap to summarizeIn this episode, I talk about a sexual experience that doesn't get discussed nearly enough, mutual masturbation, and why it can be so powerful for connection, communication, and intimacy in marriage. I walk you through how learning your own body is essential before you can share that knowledge with your spouse, and how this experience becomes one of the clearest ways to show each other what actually feels good. We will dive into the vulnerability that comes with being seen in your own pleasure, and why that vulnerability is often what creates deeper emotional and sexual connection. I will also cover the importance of consent, communication, and when this might not be the right fit for every couple. If you're looking to move away from performance-based sex and toward something more authentic and connected, this episode will give you a whole new perspective.
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