Dr. Stephanie Covington and Dr. Vanessa Carlisle continue their conversation with Dr. Rob about awakening sexuality to create a healthy sexual identity, especially after betrayal or trauma. Their new book Awaken Your Sexuality: Seeking Connection and Intimacy After Addiction and Trauma offers a personalized process to learning about your own sexuality, regardless of experiences you have had in the past.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:22] Vanessa’s perspective on sex workers.

[6:29] If you love me, you wouldn’t do this.

[10:13] Betrayed partners get to choose what they are going to do next.

[13:40] Compartmentalizing addictive and betrayal behavior.

[15:52] Creating a healthy sexual partnership.

[19:36] The danger of comparing your sex life to porn.

[22:42] Learning about intimacy from the queer community.

[25:29] The shame of non-sexual but intimate couples.

[27:31] Slow moving steps in healing from betrayal.

[31:45] Faith-based sexuality.

[35:36] Awakening your sexuality through a personalized process.

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Dr. Stephanie Covington

Dr. Vanessa Carlisle

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES:

“It is a fallacy to believe that the people who love us will never hurt us.”
“Betrayed partners get to choose what they’re going to do about the situation they're in.”
“Do you want to be in a relationship with someone that you don’t respect?”
“You can’t use porn as your sex teacher. You’ve got to use your own body.”