Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals.

With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last
How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration
The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection

Show Notes:

More John Kim: Instagram | Website | Book
More Vanessa Bennett: Instagram | Website | Book
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