If you've ever felt like everyone else is having the sex life you're supposed to have — and you're just white-knuckling your way through it, faking it, or coming up empty — you're not broken. You're just not talking about it yet. Whether it's a desire you've been too scared to voice, a fantasy you've kept to yourself for years, or a body that's never quite gotten there with a partner, the shift almost always starts the same way: someone finally said the thing out loud.

In this episode, three real listeners share the moments that changed everything for them — and none of it looks the way you'd expect.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What finally happened when one husband spent months asking his wife for something she wasn't sure about — and why one unexpected text message changed their relationship and sex life forever

• How a 20-year marriage, a night out dancing, and a chance encounter with a stranger led to a first threesome that was hotter, messier, and more human than any fantasy

• Why so many vulva owners can't orgasm during penetration — and the exact combination of communication, touch, and mindset that finally got one woman there after years of trying

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:02 - Story #1 : A Husband's Pegging Journey After 12 Years Together

4:40 - Dr. Emily on Why Pegging Is More Common Than You Think

6:00 - The Psychology of Receiving & Breaking Sexual Shame

8:05 - Story #2: 20 Years Married & Their First Threesome

13:52 - Dr. Emily's Takeaways on Fantasies, Communication & Embodiment

14:09 - Story #3: Five Years of Not Orgasming With a Partner

17:00 - Dr. Emily on Sexual Trauma, Repetition & Being Heard

19:26 - How Jasmine Finally Got There (Breathing, Grinding & Letting Go)

21:48 - Dr. Emily on the Clitoral Network, Foreplay & Wandering Minds

23:24 - Closing: Share Your Sexy Story with Dr. Emily

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