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Sex With Emily
Hosted by Dr. Emily Morse · EN
Dr. Emily Morse shares her expertise on sex, relationships and everything in between! Submit your questions to Emily at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily. For more sexy fun, visit sexwithemily.com and our online store shop.sexwithemily.com. Order her book today: SMART SEX: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure.
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Listen to This If Valentine’s Day Stresses You Out
Feb 1000:36:22Tap to summarizeA Pressure-Free Reframe on Desire, Connection, and Sex This isn't your typical Valentine's Day episode. I'm skipping the performance pressure and Pinterest-perfect expectations to focus on what actually matters: real connection. Drawing from thousands of your survey responses—and two decades of hearing the same struggles around desire mismatch, stress, and intimacy—I built this Valentine's guide around your actual pain points, not trending hashtags. From why sensory play beats a five-star reservation to how sleep might be the sexiest gift you can give yourself, I break down the science and stories behind lasting desire. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why prioritizing rest is actually foreplay—and how just one extra hour of sleep can increase desire by 14% • How to use your senses (not grand gestures) to create genuine intimacy and take the guesswork out of date night • The difference between romance as performance and connection your body actually feels—and why that distinction changes everything The 2026 Sex With Emily Valentine’s Gift Guide: https://sexwithemily.com/the-2026-sex-with-emily-valentines-gift-guide/ 2026 Sex With Emily Valentine’s Gift Guide Products Mentioned (find the full Guide above): • CERE Enchantment Gel- Go to getcere.com • Promescent Delay Spray- https://bit.ly/sweggpromescent • LELO TIANI 3 - www.lelo.com/tiani-3 (Use code “SWE20” for 20% off!) • Visit Vyleesi.com for full prescribing information or consult a healthcare provider about Vyleesi. • Magic Wand Waterproof HV-360 - https://bit.ly/sweggmagicwandwaterproof • Airbnb - https://bit.ly/sweairbnb • Canyon Ranch - https://bit.ly/swecanyonranch • SmartSX- https://bit.ly/sweggsmartsxfreemonth • Womaness Coco Bliss- https://bit.ly/sweggwomanesscocobliss • Je Joue Naughty Gift Set- https://bit.ly/sweggnaughtygiftset • 1:1 Coaching With Emily- Complete this form: https://bit.ly/sweggprivatecoaching or Email enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information! • Sex With Emily Yes!No!Maybe? List- Head to sexwithemily.com/guides • Ohmibod Foxy Panty Vibe- https://bit.ly/sweggfoxy • Shop Sex With Emily Gift Card - https://bit.ly/sweggshopgiftcard • Crave Pleasure Jewelry - https://bit.ly/sweggcrave • Pleasure Planner - sexwithemily.com/guides • Wisp - https://hellowisp.com/products/omg-cream • Common Confidential Massage Butter - commonconfidential.com (use the code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off) • Essentia Mattresses - myessentia.com/ More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:03 - Why Connection Beats Romance Every Time 3:28 - Experience Gifts That Actually Build Intimacy 5:17 - Dating Advice: Be the Person You Want to Find 7:28 - Desire Doesn't Magically Appear—It's Created 9:35 - Foreplay Starts Way Before Touch 12:11 - Your Nervous System Is Your Sex Organ 16:41 - Self-Pleasure Is a Relational Skill 20:50 - When Your Libidos Don't Match 26:11 - Building Your Ideal Date Night Using Your Senses 29:52 - Why Sleep Is the Sexiest Gift You Can Give Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcribe →Why We Struggle With Commitment
May 20, 2025Tap to summarizeIn this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia 00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety 04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma 07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics 10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory 13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment 15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics 17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility 20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners 22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text
Transcribe →Praise, Humiliation & Other Kinks
Apr 18, 202500:43:19Tap to summarizeWhat feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated.On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
Transcribe →Sex and Self-Confidence
Apr 15, 202500:29:18Tap to summarizeYou’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier.So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication. For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE. . Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
Transcribe →Am I The Asshole? My Partner Never Wants Sex
Apr 11, 202500:36:04Tap to summarizeWe’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decideFor their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE. . Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
Transcribe →Hotline Calls: I’m Sore from Oral Sex
Apr 8, 202500:41:00Tap to summarizeYou’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners.First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment?Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. Nobody does selling better than Shopify. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.
Transcribe →Forget These Myths for Better Sex
Apr 4, 202500:27:24Tap to summarizeWhat’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential. So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
Transcribe →Am I The Asshole for Watching Porn Without Telling My Partner?
Apr 1, 202500:35:23Tap to summarizeEver wondered: Am I the asshole for watching porn without my partner knowing? Am I the asshole for feeling a little misled about our sex life before we walked down the aisle? Or how about: Am I the asshole for just feeling plain bored with our sex life? You’re not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I read your AITA questions and let you know if you’re approaching asshole territory.In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to be a supportive partner to someone with sexual trauma How to get clearer on your sexual desires About the experiences of sex workers Show Notes: Try OSEA Today! Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SWE at OSEAMalibu.com Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
Transcribe →Hotline Calls: Can We Fix Our Chemistry?
Mar 28, 202500:29:22Tap to summarizeAre you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play.Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.In today’s episode, you’ll learn: The surprising truth about sexual compatibility—and why mismatched libidos aren’t the end of the road. Why squirting too much can actually be a turn-off (and how to control it if it’s becoming an issue). The best way to respond when your partner’s kink catches you off guard—without killing the mood. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
Transcribe →Am I The Asshole? Is It Cheating If We Were on a Break?
Mar 25, 202500:40:09Tap to summarizeHave you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more.In today’s episode, you’ll learn: The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies How to work through ultimatums in relationships Why your sex life should evolve over time Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Nobody does selling better than Shopify. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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