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Sexy Marriage Radio
Hosted by Dr Corey and Pam Allan · EN
Straight-forward, honest conversations and actions to create a life and marriage fully alive!
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Can I Trust Him Again #793
6d ago00:40:51Tap to summarizeA month ago she found out. He denied it, then admitted it. She still doesn't know if she has the full story. She's been talking to her pastor, her friends, anyone who will listen. Everyone keeps telling her the same thing — rebuild trust, do the work, give it time. She knows they mean well. But at two in the morning when she can't stop replaying everything, that advice doesn't tell her what to actually do. Corey and Pam sit with her story this week — not to fix it, not to hand her a reconciliation roadmap, but to name what's actually happening and what's actually hers to do something about. Including the question nobody's asking her that matters more than the one everybody is. It's not how do I trust him again. It's how do I learn to trust myself with someone who's proven they're capable of this? The post Can I Trust Him Again #793 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →Christian Erotica #792
2w ago00:27:03Tap to summarizeA listener asked a simple question: is there such a thing as Christian erotica? They'd done the research, found some authors, and sent the links. But that's not really what they were asking. What they were asking — what most of us are asking when we frame a question that way — is: can someone just tell me if this is okay? Corey and Pam don't answer that question. Instead they go after the one underneath it — what does it mean that you need permission? What's the mechanism underneath erotica, Christian or otherwise? And what would it look like to actually examine what you believe rather than borrowing someone else's verdict? Plus — the Song of Solomon is in the Bible. So what exactly are we arguing about? The post Christian Erotica #792 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →Quid Pro Quo #791
3w ago00:28:44Tap to summarizeHe does oral sex almost every time. Toys every time. Bondage, spanking, dirty talk — all things he pushed through because she wanted them. She agreed to reciprocate. She hasn't. Not once. So is he being selfish for wanting more? That's not quite the right question. The real question is what the word return reveals about what's actually been going on. Corey and Pam unpack the difference between genuine generosity and giving to get — why they look similar from the outside, why your spouse can always tell the difference, and what a ledger does to intimacy over time. Plus — what's her side of this? What does it mean that she said she would and didn't? And what would it take for both of them to stop keeping score? The post Quid Pro Quo #791 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →What Am I Wanting? #790
4w ago00:32:19Tap to summarizeOn this week's episode of SMR … This week's episode explores the deep psychological patterns that influence marriage dynamics, focusing on our expectations, meanings, and self-awareness. It offers insights into how understanding our shadow motivations and settling ourselves can foster healthier, more authentic relationships. The post What Am I Wanting? #790 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →Switching Roles #789
Jul 1500:26:05Tap to summarizeThis week's episode explores how life-changing events can serve as catalysts for personal growth and relationship transformation. We discuss a woman's journey from rejection to self-discovery and how she redefines her marriage after a betrayal, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and adaptive responses. The post Switching Roles #789 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →Is It Really About Pegging? #788
Jul 800:27:57Tap to summarizeFrank sexual discussion ahead — this one's for grown-ups. A listener calls in curious about pegging. He found it through porn, and he's terrified to say any of it out loud to his wife. Corey and Pam use his voicemail as the door into a bigger conversation than one sex act. The source of a desire doesn't determine whether it's legitimate. And the real question isn't whether pegging is okay, it's whether he's willing to be known. It ends up where their conversations usually end up. This was never about the act. It's about the risk of being fully known by your spouse, and what a marriage quietly becomes when one person decides that risk isn't worth taking. A line worth pulling: "We think we can hide things. We think we can keep things under wraps. But in reality, it's usually felt in some subtle, pointing-towards way, all the way up to: there's really a disconnect." In the extended content: What does it take for someone to Go First with sharing something vulnerable? The post Is It Really About Pegging? #788 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →Nothing To Ride #787
Jul 100:28:49Tap to summarizeThis episode picks up from "She Knows How to Ride" (two weeks ago), shifting focus from the wife's physical pain journey to her husband's inner experience — seen through her eyes. The couple entered marriage with high hopes and open communication about their sexual relationship. But on their honeymoon, penetrative sex was too painful for her to complete. A year later, little has changed — and he's become increasingly withdrawn, citing tiredness or lack of desire, leaving her feeling rejected and questioning herself. Dr. Corey and Pam explore two possible explanations for his withdrawal: 1. He may genuinely be the lower-desire partner. This is more common than people expect — roughly 25–30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife. If so, the question isn't why he isn't initiating more, but whether he can distinguish between his actual desire level and the desire he's buried to avoid causing her pain. 2. He may be hiding behind "kindness." He could be a higher-desire man who's pulled back out of fear of hurting her — physically and emotionally. But there's a harder question underneath that: is he protecting her, or managing his own anxiety? Because what she actually wants isn't a husband who goes through the motions of obligatory sex — she wants someone present and engaged, something worth riding. The episode draws a parallel to Corey and Pam's own early marriage, where a disclosure just before the wedding shut Corey down for years — a reminder that a single event can rewrite the script for a long time, but it doesn't have to be permanent. The real issue isn't which scenario applies to him. It's whether he's willing to lean in and find out — to be known, to show up with presence even when the answers aren't clear yet. That presence changes everything: the quality of touch, eye contact, the feeling of actual connection versus going through the motions. In the extended content: a deeper dive into the masculine-feminine dynamic and what presence actually looks like in marriage. The post Nothing To Ride #787 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →When Life Turns Upside Down #786
Jun 2400:17:34Tap to summarizeThis episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post When Life Turns Upside Down #786 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →She Knows How To Ride #785
Jun 1700:25:25Tap to summarizeThis episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post She Knows How To Ride #785 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Transcribe →Understanding Isn’t The Problem #784
Jun 1000:29:18Tap to summarizeThis episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Understanding Isn’t The Problem #784 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
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