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Should Have Listened to My Mother Podcast
Hosted by Jackie Tantillo · EN
Host Jackie Tantillo is proud to announce that "Should Have Listened To My Mother " has won a 2024 People's Choice Podcast Award for best podcast in the Society and Culture Category. SHLTMM is also a 2024 Nominee in two additional categories including, "Best Female" Hosted Podcast & "Best Podcast" in the Kids and Family category.
SHLTMM is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the role they play/played in ones life. The mother/son, mother/daughter bond is unique for each of us and it is like no other. "You'll be amazed at human nature and how we can overcome our obstacles, says the podcast host. Our mother/son--mother/daughter relationship is such an integral part of who we are. What we choose to do with it, is up to us, not our mother.
"Did your mom influence you by her actions or words or both? Are you who you are today because of or in spite of, your mother? What would you say to your mother if you could speak with her again today?
This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to learn from others about who and/or what shaped their life. My guests, some of which share similar backgrounds, interestingly enough, had completely different outcomes in their future. Why is that?
I hope you enjoy these timeless oral history recordings of the role mothers and maternal figures have played throughout society. The impact these women have on our lives is insurmountable. What the women that preceded us overcame has undeniably given us liberties and knowledge enabling us to have the bright future that we have. They opened so many doors regardless if they were in the eye of the nation or merely in the hearts of their children, and they should be given a voice. Yes hindsight is 20/20, but by sharing these stories now, we can help the next generations of mothers and give them the tools they need to stay healthy, balanced and strong for the betterment of their children and themselves.
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She Ignored The Elephant In The Room With Guest Weight Loss Coach Leslie Chen. LB@S4E3
1w ago00:29:48Tap to summarizeAs the middle child of five, Ping experienced a lot of family pressure and political pressure as she was raised in China during The Cultural Revolution from 1966 through 1976. Enduring tremendous upheaval, it took a toll on Ping and her family. Perhaps because of Ping's past, she found it in her heart to stand up against society and family. Ping was there for her daughter at a number of crucial life changing events. She deserves a lot of credit for believing in her daughter and her daughter's behavior, when culturally it was frowned upon. In one particular situation that you'll hear about in the interview Leslie says "my mom's lack of response saved me." So many lessons to learn from two women, very similar personalities yet a generation apart. Leslie shares that she knew at a young age that she wanted to leave China and go to college in the United States and it was her mother who stood in front of thousands and advocated for her daughter and didn't succumb to the intimidation. Today, Leslie is a mom and business owner. She is not a doctor, yet after her own experience of weight gain and years of studying and research, she now is able to help others with their food obsession. Her philosophy incorporates current day reasonings as well as Chinese traditions to reprogram your relationship with food. "It's rather a lifestyle and a kind of mindset and routine which can help you loose the weight effectively without being addicted to this weight loss game," suggests Chen. One of her suggestions for curbing further cravings for sugar is, "Teassert." She explains in the interview. Hope you enjoy our conversation. "Leslie Chen is a high-performance weight loss coach who helps high-achieving women all over the world get a head-turning body permanently and effortlessly, using timeless wisdom from Asia. Leslie's Resources For You: - To learn her work, visit www.riselean.com - To learn about how to overcome food obsession, visit www.riselean.com/food-obsession/ - Leslie's Guide To Lose Weight Left and Right Without Dieting:https://www.riselean.com/how-to-lose-weight-without-dieting/ - To learn about her weight loss coaching program and why constantly delivers success to people, visit www.riselean.com/weight-loss-coach - To join her free, limited-time masterclass The 5 Winning Keys To Stop Food Addiction While Gaining A Head-Turning Body, visit: www.riselean.training/r/c You can also follow her on LinkedIn (www.riselean.com/in/leslielchen) and TikTok (www.tiktok.com/@riselean) for frequently shared insights and knowledge. "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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Anxiety Got In The Way Of Her Beautiful Personality With Guest Children's Author Kristina Lucia. LB@ S4E2.
2w ago00:28:49Tap to summarizeMy guest, Kristina, was fortunate to have at least two significant female role models in her life. One being her mother and the other, her maternal grandmother, Lucia, who was the more compassionate one. As the oldest of three children, Kristina felt that her mom was hardest on her. She shares wonderful stories of cooking delicious Italian food with her mom, everything from scratch and loves having all the family recipes. Her mother was very talented and creative, very charismatic yet her mom didn't believe in herself, didn't have the same confidence that her daughter has. "She was an amazing seamstress, made all their Communion dresses and gowns." Unfortunately, Linda Marie "suffered from a lot of anxieties and narcissism as well and it would affect her and make her really insecure," reflects my guest. As an adult, Kristina has been in therapy and it's helped her to start her healing process. This has been a difficult journey however, Kristina has come to understand and appreciate that "her mom was doing the best with what she had. She was working to be the best version of herself every day." Lucia also shares with us her beautifully crocheted -Curiously Created Creations-Bella and friends. Lucia's mom always wanted her daughter to be a teacher. Now, Kristina has created these darling children's books and stuffed animals "to help children process their feelings and help them navigate through their range of emotions. "These books are love letters to my mom. I think it's important to acknowledge the trauma, it's important to see the dysfunciton, but the healing is equily as important because it's showing that we do have a choice. My mom's choice was to raise the best kids she could possibly raise." Her main character of the series is Bella Lucia. The mission of the series, explains Kristina, "is communication between parents and children. I like to focus on that because when we're able to identify through our feelings and communicate with each other, we're able to acknowledge it and get down to the why." I hope you enjoy our conversation. WWEBSITE: https://cccokl.com/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/KristinaLucia21583 INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ccc_of_kristina_lucia/ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/kristinalucia0006/ TIK TOK: @ccc_kristina_lucia LINKEDIN:https://www.linkedin.com/company/curiously-curated-creations/about/ https://www.subscribepage.com/a-simple-activity-to-spend-quality-time-with-your-child_copy "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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"You Can Do Anything, You Can Achieve Anything, If You Work Hard Enough" with Guest Human Rights Attorney And CAO of REFORM Alliance Jessica Jackson. LB @S4E1
3w ago00:29:52Tap to summarizeIt was a pleasure to speak with Jessica and listen as she shared all that she experienced as a high school drop out and single mother with a husband behind bars. This major turning point in her life, motivated her to complete her GED as well as complete college and law school, with honors, in order to help those similarly unfamiliar with the way the criminal justice system works. When you hear the compelling stories about both Jessica and her mother, you'll say, 'the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree.' Both women have been working tirelessly for decades in order to educate victims and their family members, as well as inform society to be more compassionate and aware and to update the parole and probation system. Resilience is one of the words that Jessica uses over and over again when describing her mother Maria who is originally from Stockholm, Sweden. Jessica also describes her mom as "a pioneer in her field." Very early on in the AIDS epidemic, Maria was involved with helping patients and their families maneuver the scary waters of a frightening disease. While in graduate school, Maria brought her days old daughter Jessica with her to class. Jessica went where ever her mother took her, to HIV/Aids conferences, seminars, etc. "She showed us" says Jessica, when referring to her mother, "by her actions, not her words, on how to live life." Jessica was adamant about how her mom had a "show them, don't tell them" philosophy about life. In other words, Maria was an example by her actions, not her words. Jessica reflects, "I never once saw my mom give up." Again, the parallels between mother and daughter are striking, Maria working with HIV/AIDS patients and Jessica with people in prison. Again, those whose lives were turned upside down, found a smart, caring and devoted women to make a difference in these unfortunate individuals lives. When Kim Kardashian West wanted tutoring in law once aware of wrongfully incarcerated first time offenders, she went to Jessica Jackson for help. On November 29, 2019, USA Today wrote "Kim Kardashian West came on board with the campaign after she heard about Alice Marie Johnson, a grandmother who had served 21 years of a life sentence for her first-ever drug conviction, and was moved to help. Kardashian West was instrumental in convincing Trump to grant Johnson clemency. " That's just one of thousands of cases that Jackson has had overturned and continues to fight in order to get families back together under one roof. Both of these women with all that they have accomplished and continue to accomplish is living proof that if you set your mind to something, anything and everything is possible. As Maria said to her daughter "you can do anything, you can achieve anything, if you work hard enough." REFORM Alliance Mission Statement: REFORM Alliance aims to transform probation and parole by changing laws, systems and culture to create real pathways to work and wellbeing. A justice system that holds people accountable and redirects back to work and wellbeing leads to stronger families and safer communities. Instead of keeping people trapped in a revolving door from probation/parole to prison — which costs taxpayers billions of dollars — we’re working to move people from the justice system into stability. History REFORM’s story starts with the unjust re-imprisonment of recording artist Meek Mill. The shocking two-to-four year sentence he received for popping a wheelie spurred the international #FreeMeek movement, which led to release on bail and eventually his freedom. Although Meek had the resources and public platform to fight his case, his case is only one of millions. The vast majority of people trapped in the system don’t get their stories told, or have the resources to fight back. On January 23, 2019, a world-class group of philanthropists and activists came together to launch the REFORM Alliance to change this REFORM Alliance 1675 Broadway, 21st Floor New York, NY 10019-5820 If you would like to learn more about how to support REFORM, please contact us at development@reformalliance.com. #cut50-Co founder along with Van JonesAn organization designed to cut prison populations, but also wipe out the stigmas associated with being incarcerated because of the current criminal justice system. The family member behind bars is not the only one negatively affected. COO/CAO Reform Alliance; Fmr. Mayor & Council Member City of Mill Valley; WEF Young Global Leader; Co-founder of #cut50; Human Rights Attorney "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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Misogyny Impacted Her Career As A Pilot And Working Mom with Guest NYC Artist And Podcast Host Gregg LeFevre. LB @ S3E48
4w ago00:28:50Tap to summarizeAs host of SHLTMM, I wanted you to know that this episode of my podcast contains some graphic or sensitive content that some may find disturbing. Gregg's podcast, "The Compulsive Storyteller" which can be found where ever you listen to podcast, is Gregg continuing the art of telling stories handed down from past generations. Worth a listen for sure. (Link is below.) When Gregg was a little boy the family had moved to the Albany, New York area. Betty owned a plane, so who better to fly with his mom on a regular basis. He loved seeing the landscape from way up in the sky. It was quite an experience for a little boy. They'd go out to lunch and fly from one location to another. Gregg really cherishes his memories of his mom. Gregg's parents were apparently too similar personalities to make a good match according to Gregg. When Betty was checked out of the WASP at the end of WWII, she received a job offer as the first ever female flight controller at LaGuardia Airport. Her husband sent her a telegraph ordering her to go back to buffalo and wait for him and not to take the job. Gregg shares a few very telling stories about his mother's experience in the military. Unfortunately a strong, talented, fearless women had a tough time in a male dominated industry such as the military. Gregg often says, "she was a woman ahead of her time." Betty flew an AT-6 which was considered the best fighter training aircraft during WWII, P38 Fighter Bomber and more. Over the 32 years that Gregg knew his mother, he laments "she never once said 'I'm sorry,' nor did she say so to my sisters or my father. That was a real disability she had. She was very proud." Unfortunately, Gregg's maternal grandmother held onto grudges similar to his mother. Anyone who went against his grandmother, they also were crossed off the list forever. Being in the military was not always easy, the most challenging was when confronted by misogynistic men. That happened on a regular basis. Unfortunately, the harassment continued after the military while working in the real estate business. "A woman who was strong and decisive and stood up for herself was basically a difficult woman," Gregg explains out of frustration. Unfortunately, Betty LeFevre, even with all her accomplishments, was more unhappy than anyone could have understood. * About Gregg In His Words I'm a public artist with permanent commissions around the world, a passion for the art world, entrepreneurship, multiculturalism, & stories. I have completed over 200 permanently installed public art projects all over the world, many in the USA and a dozen in Manhattan. Library Walk, at Fifth and 41st, is the latest work of public art in NYC. Many of my projects are unique in that they consist of a series of bronze panels with text and imagery that are set in sidewalks, parks and plazas. Library Walk is two blocks long, and it's 96 bronze panels lead the viewer toward the front door of NY's central Schwarzman Library. My public art is all about exploring the history and character of the places where it is set. I have a particular interest in telling the lost and forgotten stories from African American history, women's history, Hispanic history, natural history and those of other minority cultures. I have also turned many my experiences in and around the world of art into a podcast of short personal stories that proves truth can be stranger than fiction. The Compulsive Storytelleris my podcast of intriguing comic, tragic and weird stories, many of which involve getting myself into and out of trouble. It is available on Apple, Spotify and most other platforms. Reviews of my public artworks can be found in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Boston Globe, the Washington Post, the Chicago Tribune, and many other newspapers, magazines and online publications. Discover More http://andrewslefevre.com/ https://www.gregglefevre.com/nyt-bronze-star https://www.gregglefevre.com/nyt-what-lies-beneath https://www.wsj.com/amp/articles/the-great-library-way-1411003094 https://www.grandcentralpartnership.nyc/our-neighborhood/library-way https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqwr1WdayQ0&feature=emb_imp_woyt https://open.spotify.com/show/5MllPsrmeipHqZ0vtiw2Mx https://www.thecompulsivestoryteller.com/ https://www.instagram.com/thecompulsivestoryteller/ https://www.facebook.com/TheCompulsiveStoryteller "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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Four Strong Women's Lifetime Commitment To Making The Invisible More Visible With Guest Author And Translator Kathryn Spink. LB @ S3E47
Jun 900:30:00Tap to summarizeKathryn was born in the Himalayas. However, both her parents were English and had the same desire of "going out to India, spreading the Gospel message and serving the poor," explains my guest. Living in Vienna as a young girl, Kathryn remembers her parents taking in refugees who were seeking political asylum and it was normal to have refugees sleeping on their floor regularly. These memories had a profound effect on Kathryn and she was certain that this is how her interests in helping the less fortunate came to be. Kathryn shares that her mother was not warm and fuzzy but she was from the generation of tough and strong women. Kathryn always felt very loved. Ruby was a teacher and taught her daughter and other children from the Embassy. Ruby was determined that Kathryn would not be spoiled. Kathryn was soon sent to boarding school because her parents were working and traveling regularly. "A little pencil in God's hand" is how Mother Teresa would refer to herself. She never wanted credit or accolades for her work. "She could be a tough cookie," Spink reflects however, "she was difficult to deal with sometimes, because God was so definitely on her side and that could make things tough. Mother Teresa was so determined, nothing could get in her way." "Poverty saddened Mother Teresa the most according to Kathryn, "I don't think it angered her not in relation to God. Waste most likely angered her the most but never with God." Mother Teresa was always seeing the presence of God in the poor and it helped her persevere. "Tolerance was deeply ingrained in Mother Theresa" explains Ms. Spink. "Mother Teresa believed that God was at work in every soul, so it wasn't up to her to try and convince others of the 'correct/best religion." My guest remarks "Mother Teresa used to say "come to Calcutta and I'll put you to work". This is what this demure but mighty woman believed with her whole body, mind and spirit. Kathryn even shared stories of the similarities between Mother Teresa, whose birth name was Agnes, and her mother Drana. "The family that prays together, stays together" was one of Drana's favorite expressions according to Spink. Caring for the sick was a common thread for the two woman. "It's not always about the physical suffering, but the whole process of being abandoned by people" was one of the toughest things for Mother Teresa to comes to terms with, comments Spink. Mother Teresa founded the order, "The Missionaries of Charities." She wanted to give shelter to abandoned babies and to help the poorest of the poor. In 1979 she received the Nobel Peace Prize and after her death was canonized as Saint Teresa. I could have listened for hours to my guest share her stories of all of these selfless women. Mother Teresa was known as 'Mother' because when a nun/sister is appointed to a superior position within the church, they are known as 'Mother.' INFORMATION: Kathryn Spink is the author of several books on the work of Mother Teresa and her coworkers, as well as other inspiring contemporary figures, including Brother Roger of Taize, Beede Griffiths, Dominique LaPierre, Prince Charles’ and Lady Diana Spencer and more. My guest is also the chronicler of the “South African Women's Human Rights Organization.” https://www.kathrynspink.com/ https://www.harpercollins.com/blogs/authors/kathryn-spink-20167212026170 "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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A Mental Health Journey that Began with Forgiveness With Guest Singer, Voice And Piano Teacher Christen Horne. LB @ S3E46
Jun 200:27:24Tap to summarizeChristen Horne refers to herself as a nerd, geek and gamer. She's a big fan of reading and loves Star Wars. As an accomplished singer, she received her Masters in Opera Performance. In addition to the entire family being singers and musicians, archery became a big part of their lives as well. When Karla, Christen's mother, was in high school she became the California State Champion Archer and the family still enjoys the sport today. Having a mom that worked wasn't that unusual for Christen. Her mom had been a paralegal for years after completing her associates degree. As the three children were growing up, Karla was leading worship at the local church. They spent a lot of time at the church. But my guest says she enjoyed it because they were always singing. Ms. Horne fondly remembers her mom embracing whatever fun activities the kids would be involved in, including going to water parks and going down the water slides together, playing board games and spending quality time involved with the family. Years ago, Christen was actively involved in her community theatre programs. She fondly retells the story of the production of "Fiddler On The Roof," when her mom and aunt were "volun-told' that they had to play village fathers. There were no other boys/male actors to play the part. They still laugh about it today. Christen considered her mother as being firm yet compassionate when it came to disciplining the three kids. Homework definitely took the priority especially over video games. Homework wasn't done, no one got to play. Christen says "mom was always really good about helping us find the balance in things. Making sure we had time to play and making sure we got our homework done." It wasn't until Christen started to realize that she often hid her emotions, that she started to recall other instances from her childhood that were clearly unhappy. She had suffered from depression at a young age that was left undiagnosed. She felt that her mother was embarrassed when Christen showed her true emotions. Horne shared with me that "through my mental health journey, I've gotten more comfortable being more myself around my mom." Often feeling "this is my fault," Christen often blamed herself and felt that if her mother rejected her, it would be devastating. It's scary to be a young child and not understand complicated emotional situation. Working with coaches on a regular basis has helped Christen tremendously. "You pick one hurt, then move on to another," reflects Horne. Through working with her coaches she says her relationship with her mom is so much better and she's very grateful for all the support. Christen is now working on her fantasy book which features her main character 'Alkara' who's named after mother and who also is an archer. Here is the link. https://worldofurda.com/ Christen Horne https://lajollamusic.com/christen-horne-voice https://hornestudio.lpages.co/ https://hornestudio.lpages.co/discover-our-classes/ Discover More Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/horneperformancestudioundiagnosed "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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"I Don't Want To Go To School Today" With Guest Emmy Award Winning Travel Expert Erik Hastings. LB @ S3E45
May 2600:33:43Tap to summarizeErik has always loved music, performing, dance and laughter. He didn't like school. Erik's mother, Gerri, was very clear from the beginning on how exactly he was to get through high school. As an english teacher, she knew the benefits of a great education and wasn't about to let him slip through her fingers. Nor was she going to take any part in his decision to not get out of bed, which meant, she wasn't going to be responsible for him not graduating. She was very specific when she said she wouldn't be attending any parent teacher conferences or discussions when Erik had issues at school. It was his responsibility. If he had to repeat a grade, "he'd have no one to blame but himself." That said, Erik and his mother were extremely close. She was a devoted and committed mother. She found the joy and humor if life. Having a role model like his mom has helped him raising his two daughters. Erik says one important lesson he learned from his mom is "she was present. She was not 'unavailable' when she was physically present." With all the distractions that we have in life now, this one memory of his mother really helps him with his girls. They are his priority when they're together. Looking back, Erik recalls how his parents fostered self reliance and individuality. His mother taught english at night to help others who wanted to empower themselves. She often worked with bartenders, cashiers and workers who hoped to get a business degree and change their lives. Erik The Travel Guy : like and subscribe to his youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=erik+the+travel+guy "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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Letting Go Of My Mother While Keeping Her Spirit Alive With Guest Artist And Author Shannon Grissom. LB @ S3E44
May 1900:28:54Tap to summarizePat, my guest's mom, grew up in Washington state. Because her parents had divorced wen Pat was a little girl, Pat spent the school year with her mother on the coast of Washington and summers with her father in the eastern part of the state. Pat learned independence starting at the early age of five years old as her parents put her on a train by herself, back and forth across the state. This part of Shannon's journey begins with her mom's Sock Monkey and it's opened up a world of learning and inspiration. Incase you're not familiar with what a sock monkey is, it's a toy for young and old. Stuffed Sock Monkeys were very popular in the 1930 and 40's, especially during The Great Depression to help uplift the spirits of children and adults. After Shannon's mother died, she came across a Stuffed Sock Monkey in her mother's possessions. She took it home with her and it's created a life of its own, a significance that Shannon is still surprised by today. In regard to her mother Shannon says "she was a teacher by nature and a teacher by trade. In fact, Pat was a 6th grade teacher for a while in addition to a Special Education teacher. Everything was a teaching /learning experience." Shannon, her twin sister, Cheryl, and their mother had a very close relationship. All three women have intuitive capabilities and Pat allowed Shannon to make her own mistakes. Shannon in her late 20's, started to develop her own psychic abilities. And as a twin, Shannon and her sister Cheryl, have psychic abilities that they work on together from near and afar. Shannon shares stories of all the music in their home growing up. "Mom, she was brilliant. She could play any instrument by ear you gave her. Her main instrument in our home was the piano." With an infectious laugh that Shannon most likely inherited from her mom, my guest fills us in on how funny her mother was. She just lit up the whole family with her witty sense of humor. Shannon Grissom is an award winning artist, author and illustrator of the book "Monkey Made of Sockies" and most recently the creator of 'Sock Monkey Oracle Cards." - Each card is a unique painting of a sock monkey which correlates to a specific Oracle Card. What are Oracle cards? Shannon Grissom will explain all of this and share more stories of her mom Pat. https://twitter.com/ShannonGrissom FB Page 1.4K FB Personal 2.1K https://www.facebook.com/ShannonGrissomCreations/ YouTube 410 https://www.youtube.com/shannongrissom LinkedIn 1.1K (CENTRAL VALLEY TALK SHOW-APRIL 2022 WITH AUSTIN REED. https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannongrissom/ TikTok 95 https://www.tiktok.com/@shannongrissom IG 1.1 https://www.instagram.com/shannongrissom/ *WEBSITE https://sockmonkeyoracle.com/ "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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Needing Room To Breathe with Guest Poet Richard Fireman. LB @ S3E43
May 1200:25:30Tap to summarizeClare was born in New York City yet her parents were originally from Ukraine. Rich is a very warm and caring son. Looking back, Rich would like to have asked his mom "what she was so worried about all the time." Looking back, my guest also has regrets for his mom's lack of happiness and wellbeing. As a teen he was more concerned with himself than the welfare of his mom. In hindsight, he wishes she had taken better care of herself- had more friends, etc. As a young girl, Clare's mother, Rich's maternal grandmother, put a lot of pressure on Clare to practice her music. Clare was a phenomenal concert pianist. She studied piano from a young age and within a few years she suddenly quit playing the piano, defiant to her mother's constant nagging. Rich's mom was overprotected and as he says "kind of spoiled." Interestingly enough, Clare was overprotected by her own mother and then did something similar to her only son. Rich refers to it as a "constant hovering." As a result, Rich created his own internal world or a world of imagination which he found at the library and through books. A college professor recognized that Rich showed some true talent in his poetry and encouraged him to pursue it. Today, Rich is a poet and has almost one hundred poems published in the Monmouth Review (Monmouth University) and two in the International Journal of Poetry Therapy and several in other literary publications. Twenty years since his mom's death, he looks back fondly on his memories of his mom . His memories don't rattle him as much now. He's embracing the whole picture of her life and not just the last five years that she endured Alzheimer's. Poem#1 The Science of Medicine Poem #2 Bringing In The Tide https://www.amazon.com/Writing-Away-Demons-Creative-Transformative/dp/0878393293 Richard's forthcoming book of poetry "Constellations" due to be published late 2022. "Constellations are our attempt to make sense of the universe. We create patterns in the sky, trying to understand what God might mean, and write our stories as if we knew. These poems are my constellations. The words are stars. May their light be a guide to find your way home." - Richard Fireman "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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The Secrets That We Keep With Guest Author And Animal-Human Health Expert Carlyn Montes De Oca. LB @ S3E42
May 500:30:45Tap to summarizeMontes De Oca translated from Spanish means "mountains of Oca or bird similar to a goose" -from an area in the Basque region of Spain in the north central mountains, and that is where Carlyn's family originally emigrated from. Carlyn is a first generation Mexican American who was raised in California. It wasn't until she took a DNA test in her 50's, just to see what her more specific lineage was, that she found out some shocking news. There was a discrepancy in one of the results that caught Carlyn's eye, but being busy, she let it go. She had noticed that all of her siblings seemed to be very quiet and distant once she started asking questions. Had she spent more time on fully reading the results, she would have seen that there was a woman's name listed as a potential relative. "Ancestry DNA doesn't lie" is what Carlyn was told by this stranger's husband. Carlyn's mother and father made a life changing decision based on love and compassion . They didn't hesitate or dwell on the possible difficult road ahead. They did what they felt was the right thing to do. a sister and two brothers that live nearby plus 2 other siblings in Mexico that were a lot older. As teens, Carlyn's older siblings suddenly had an adopted baby sister and were told by their parents, not to tell anyone, including their baby sister that she was adopted for fear of someone trying to take her away. You will never tell her she's adopted because if you do, there are people out there that may try and hurt her. " Children born out of wedlock where not looked at fondly and Carlyn's parents didn't want that stigma to follow her. When I asked my guest how she's been handling all this upheaval, she says "it's a paradox. Life works in mysterious ways and it gives you the information that you need at exactly at the right time. The first year was really hard and this is tough stuff." Her parents were both strong people and they raised their children to be tough. "It's hard to have the rug pulled out from under you and to loose your identity in the snap of the fingers." I guess you never know what you'll find in your results when you do a DNA test. It especially is difficult when you get conflicting results as an adult vs a baby or child. Carlyn mentioned LDA or Late Discovery Adoptees. I've attached the link if you'd like further information. https://www.latediscoveryadoptees.com/ It's been a journey for Carlyn since she got this startling news of being adopted. In the subsequent years, she's done a lot of soul searching and research. She's interviewed many people and family members, found her biological mother and adopted her dog, Grace. November 2022, Carlyn released her most recent book "Junkyard Girl: a Memoir of Ancestry, Family Secrets and Second Chances." Mary was known for being very over protective of her daughter and it in fact it caused a lot of contention between the two ladies. She loved her daughter and felt that because she was adopted, she needed to keep an eye on her for her safety. The only regret that Carlyn really has is that her siblings didn't tell her the truth before her parents passed away. Carlyn's older sister thought she was protecting her adopted sibling, just as Carlyn's mother, Mary, thought being over protective would serve her well. Carlyn's Books: "Dog As My Doctor, Cat As My Nurse" "Paws For The Good Stuff-A dog lover's journal" "Paws For The Good Stuff-A cat lover's journal" Discover More https://animalhumanhealth.com/ http://animalhumanhealth.com/media-press/ https://animalhumanhealth.com/book/ https://animalhumanhealth.com/junkyardgirl/ https://animalhumanhealth.com/blog/ https://animalhumanhealth.com/press-kit/carlyns-bio/ https://www.facebook.com/carlynmontesdeoca/ https://www.facebook.com/CarlynMDO https://www.instagram.com/carlynmontesdeoca/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tq8EpIit7Lw "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".MORE INFORMATION ABOUT SHLTMM PODCAST:Link to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/ and https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantillo Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother
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