Sibling Advicery: Thor's Hammer/DILF

Summary

Sibling Rivalry Podcast — Sibling Advicery: Thor's Hammer/DILF
Monét X Change & Bob the Drag Queen
Released: January 24, 2022

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Episode Overview

The queens of comedy, Monét X Change and Bob the Drag Queen, bring their signature wit and unfiltered honesty to “Sibling Advicery,” an advice-centric episode dedicated to answering listener-submitted questions—many of them delightfully queer or unconventional. Topics range from sexual health and dating dilemmas to home decor, sugar daddy hunting, and drag-themed marriage proposals. Delivered in their trademark banter, this special sees the duo toggling between hilarity and heartfelt insight, with a healthy dose of shade and pop-culture side tangents.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Advice for Sexual Health & Anal Fissures (Thor’s Hammer Story)

[03:53–08:59]

• Listener submission: A listener reveals they have chronic anal fissures after experimenting with a Thor hammer as a child and seeks advice on navigating anal sex.
• Monét and Bob stress:
  • Neither are medical professionals: “We are not doctors.” — Bob [04:38]
  • Recommend consulting a specialist, referencing “bespoke surgical group” in NYC.
  • Importance of being open with partners about anal limitations.
  • Possibility of exploring non-anal forms of sex, like being a “side”: “You’re not a top, you’re not a bottom, you’re a side—and you just don’t do anal.” — Bob [07:26]
  • Use of smooth toys and ample lubrication is stressed for future experimentation, post-recovery.

2. Developing Feelings for a Roommate (Roommate Crush)

[09:22–12:23]

• Listener: 19, moving in with friends, has romantic feelings for one.
• Monét: Warns against moving in before clearing the air: “Do not move into and share a space with someone that you’re like, tackle that before you move in together.” [09:42]
• Bob: Less alarmist, notes youthful love often fades, but supports being prepared for rejection; suggests alternative ways to find roommates (social media, school listings).

3. Three-way Invitation Drama (Dating, Friends, and Threesomes)

[14:11–21:24]

• Listener Theron: Is being asked for a threesome by someone connected to a guy he's been dating.
• Bob & Monét:
  • Clarify there's often a lack of exclusivity without explicit conversation: “You cannot expect monogamy from someone” before discussing boundaries. — Bob [15:34]
  • Both agree it's not “fucked up” for the friend to ask, but recommend having an honest conversation about expectations if the situation feels uncomfortable.
  • Bob notes sometimes “people just want to fuck because you’re hot.” [17:17]
  • If you want more with Zed, clarify intentions; don’t expect unspoken exclusivity.

4. Sexy Home Decor Advice

[24:05–28:28]

• Listener: Moving out, wants tips for making his home “hot and heavy” for guests.
• Monét: Ambient lighting & neon signs for a sexy vibe.
• Bob: “It almost doesn’t matter as long as you don’t live in a rat-infested dump.” [26:16] — attraction trumps decor, but comfort and self-expression matter most.

5. Audition Tape Tips for Graduates

[28:33–31:29]

• Advice:
  • Memorize as much as possible, get a reader in the room, familiarize yourself with the script.
  • “If you do not get a role, it does not mean you’re not good enough. It just means that maybe there was someone who was better for this particular role.” — Bob [30:41]
  • Don’t beat yourself up about rejection.

6. Hooking Up with Friend’s Newly Out Dad (DILF Question)

[32:34–35:33]

• Listener: Should I hook up with my best friend's 53-year-old, newly-out dad?
• Both: Legally, both are adults, but friendship may be jeopardized.
  • “I do not think you need your friend’s permission to fuck his dad.” — Bob [33:42]
  • “Know that this is probably gonna be bad for your best friendship.” — Monét [35:16]

7. Virginity, Shame, and Social Constructs

[35:50–39:16]

• Listener: Lost virginity to a stranger, feels shame.
• Bob: “Virginity is a social construct.”
• Monét: Starting your sex life with shame is unhealthy; learn and move forward: “A dick is a dick or a pussy is a pussy or whatever it is you had sex with… there’s nothing to feel ashamed about.” [37:25]
• Bob: Most people rarely have lasting connections with first partners; don't dwell.

8. Fetishization: Attraction vs. Objectification

[40:33–46:31]

• Listener: How to express attraction to someone's physical feature without fetishizing.
• Monét: It’s complicated; be mindful, but also be honest.
• Bob: “Having a fetish is not a bad thing.” [42:32] — as long as boundaries are clear, and both parties are consenting, it’s not inherently wrong.
• Both recommend establishing a rapport before highlighting “fetishy” attractions, especially with sensitive features (e.g., race, disabilities).

9. Dating Down-Low (DL) Men in the Black Community

[47:32–50:14]

• Listener: Been dating a closeted man for 1.5 years, frustrated.
• Bob (strongly): “DL guys, especially if you’re Black, are the lowest fucking common denominator in the Black community. Do not speak to them.” [47:35]
  • Cites harm to Black queer people and trans women by DL men.
  • “If they are not willing to love you out in public, in front of people, then they do not deserve [your attention].”
• Monét: “Do not waste your time. This person will never come out the closet…You are literally wasting years, maybe decades of your life on this person that will never, ever love you openly and fully, period.” [49:26]

10. Teenage Relationship Drama & Fighting Over Boys

[50:16–53:41]

• Listener: 15, worried friend is stealing her man, wants to fight.
• Both: Don’t fight—it’s not worth it and has lifelong consequences.
  • “If there’s a chance that Anna can steal your man, then, bitch, let her have him.” — Bob [52:39]
  • Monét points out the relationship won’t likely last past high school.

11. Finding Sugar Daddies in NYC

[53:53–58:50]

• Listener: 18, new to NYC, wants a sugar daddy.
• Monét: Go to classic gay bars (Townhouse, Hangar), especially for older sugar daddies.
• Bob: The Internet is best—sites and apps for sugar babies; warns sugar daddies are rare, competition is fierce, and investments (like trips to Fire Island, P-town) may be necessary.
• Both give practical advice on finding—and impressing—potential patrons, regardless of looks.

12. Organizing an Extravagant Drag Proposal

[60:14–65:19]

• Listener: Wants ideas for a “most extravagant drag proposal.”
• Bob: If you have money, you can hire almost any queen—even RuPaul! If not, coordinate with local drag queens or impersonators for creative, themed proposing.
• Suggestions:
  • Incorporate Disney, Marvel, or Drag Race elements.
  • Propose at a drag show, with the help of the performing queen.
  • “If you’ve never done drag, get yourself up in some unrecognizable drag”—get creative and involve the community. [62:54]
• Monét: “Make sure it’s a good drag queen, though… don’t make it some Bust a bitch.” [64:12]
• Both stress focusing on what’s meaningful and fun for the couple.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Outing Straight People:
  • “You cannot out a straight person. That’s not a thing.” — Bob [02:34]
• On DL Men:
  • “They are the number one perpetrators in killing Black trans women. Do not. Do not give DL men your fucking attention.” — Bob [47:38]
• On Virginity:
  • “Virginity is a social construct.” — Bob [36:07]
• On Friendship & Sex:
  • “I do not think you need your friend’s permission to fuck his dad.” — Bob [33:42]
  • “You better suck them wrinkly balls, bitch.” — Monét [33:46]
• On Decor vs. Hotness:
  • “It almost doesn’t matter as long as you don’t live in a rat-infested dump.” — Bob [26:16]
• On Being Honest:
  • “If you like someone, there’s nothing wrong with being like, hey, I’m really into you.” — Monét [21:21]
• On Fighting Over Boys:
  • “Let them go. Become one with the wind and sky.” — Bob [52:03]
• On Proposals:
  • “If you have the money, you can get almost any drag queen in the world to be part of your proposal… you could get RuPaul.” — Bob [60:43]

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Important Timestamps

| Timestamp | Segment/Question | |-----------|------------------------------------------| | 03:53 | Thor’s Hammer anal fissure advice | | 09:22 | Roommate crush warning | | 14:11 | Three-way friend entanglement | | 24:05 | Sexy home decor for single life | | 28:33 | Audition tape tips | | 32:34 | Hooking up with friend’s dad (DILF) | | 35:50 | Virginity, shame, and sexual beginnings | | 40:33 | Fetishization vs. appreciation | | 47:32 | Dating DL men—why not to | | 50:16 | Teenage triangle: fighting over a boy | | 53:53 | Finding a sugar daddy in NYC | | 60:14 | Planning an extravagant drag proposal |

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Summary

This episode is a rapid-fire, uproarious journey through the trials and tribulations of queer life, sex, love, and community, delivered with Bob and Monét’s signature blend of candor, comedy, and occasional chaos. Even the wildest questions are met with a mixture of practical wisdom and light-hearted humor, making “Sibling Advicery” both hilarious and genuinely insightful for fans and new listeners alike.

Transcript

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[Monet X Change]

My name is Monet X Change.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And my name is Bob the Drag Queen.

[Monet X Change]

And this is Sibling Advice. We've never done it before. We never. Should we do it?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Do you know. Can you sing our. Can you, like, sing our advisory song?

[Monet X Change]

I haven't even heard it. I've not listened to the show.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I can't.

[Monet X Change]

You don't know the advisory song? I, I, I don't. I can't, like, think about it right now. What is it? It's like, that's not advisory. That's rivalry.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, it's advisory. No, rivalry is. No, but this, like, Yeah, it's like, oh, look. Sibling. Sibling advisory. And it sounds like this. What is this?

[Monet X Change]

You make fun of me, bitch.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is not my official account.

[Monet X Change]

Well, it is. That's not what you did.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, I don't have. I'm not great. I'm not a great singer. You caught me.

[Monet X Change]

But you're trying to drag me for not knowing again. But you literally did the same thing twice.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, I like that little song work.

[Monet X Change]

Well, this is Sibling Advisory, where we give advice to young queer, mostly, I would assume folk. Oftentimes queer folk.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Why? I don't know what part of our audience.

[Monet X Change]

A lot of them have been like, hey, I'm fucking these two guys. Hey, I want to be a lesbian. Like, we've had a lot of those.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm not saying. I'm just saying I don't know what percentage of our audience identifies as queer. I don't know how many of them

[Monet X Change]

are metamorphosis and how many of them

[Bob the Drag Queen]

are, you know, the rest of the cast?

[Monet X Change]

Do you think metamorphosis is going through a phase? Oh, my God.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Like a straight face.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. Or a gay face. I don't know.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, apparently she's not gay. That's been a very large constraint.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. Did you see when people were mad saying that RuPaul outed Maddie, you cannot

[Bob the Drag Queen]

out a straight person. That's not a thing.

[Monet X Change]

That's not a thing. And I got Into a little tip. I commented someone posted on Twitter. I said one thing back then. I was like, you know what? I'm not getting on this road.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ain't no back talk. You know what I mean?

[Monet X Change]

I'm like, no, who is that?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Nikki.

[Caller/Listener]

Oh.

[Monet X Change]

I'm like, I'm not even gonna go down this road. It's not a thing. And I just stopped responding.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, you can't out straight people. That is not a thing.

[Monet X Change]

It's not.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We're not doing this. We're not entertaining this. We're not doing this. And we're not insinuating that you can outstrap people, because you cannot do that.

[Monet X Change]

You cannot do that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And this is the end of that discussion. We're on the same page. Page 14.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, 14.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. Second paragraph.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, my God, look at this.

[Caller/Listener]

They're back.

[Monet X Change]

Kennedy is rubbing her. Okay, shall we get with the question?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. I mean, we normally talk a little

[Monet X Change]

bit more than this before we get to this.

[Orderly Meds Announcer]

Do we?

[Monet X Change]

I don't remember. Well, last time.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We only know what the song is. You forgot we had a song last time. We got through four.

[Monet X Change]

I want to get through more of them because we have audio ones, and we have a lot of written ones, too. And we really want to get to the advice giving. You like, to give, like, three people advice. There are a lot of people who want our advice.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It's about quality over quantity.

[Monet X Change]

I think there's a happy medium where we can do both quality and quantity.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Quality.

[Monet X Change]

Quality.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

All right, so let's do some audio submissions.

[Monet X Change]

Some audio submissions, Jacob, shall we?

[Caller/Listener]

Hey. I absolutely love you guys. When I was a kid, I. I would say accidentally, but I shoved the handle of a Thor hammer up my ass. And this is a. This is a true story because I accidentally. I was, like, experimenting, and I saw it was my brother's, and, no, he didn't get it back, but I've had, like, these anal fissures ever since, and I got diagnosed.

[Monet X Change]

Like, we've had this. We did this already because of that

[Caller/Listener]

story in the last episode. So really, how should I go about, like, still, like, trying to experiment with anal even though I have this thing? Thank you. Love you guys.

[Monet X Change]

First of all, when did Nick start submitting questions to Simon Watcher Advisory?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think it. Okay, so we're not doctors.

[Caller/Listener]

We are not.

[Monet X Change]

I am not a medical professional.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Neither am I. I want to start by saying that. And I want to say if you're having problems with your anus or your sphincter.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think that you need to go See a specialist, someone who specializes in assholes.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, for sure. And there's a big one in New York City. They're like the. The bespoke doctors in New York City. They are literally ass doctors. They help, like, a lot of gay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What do you apply for this job?

[Monet X Change]

Gay adult folks. Just. Just Google.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Are you saying like, porn stars?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, porn stars. Just go Google New York City. Bespoke, anal. Just Google those keywords and it will pop up. It is called the bespoke surgical group. And they. If you are in New York City or in the surrounding area, I really encourage you to look them up. They, like, literally specialize. It is their thing that they do. And they do.

[Caller/Listener]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean, now I feel like it is okay to be open with your partners about your insecurities if you're going in. I mean, you don't want to talk to you. Like, I'm insecure about my asshole, but I think that being like, there is a. I don't know. Do you tell someone I have anal fissures?

[Monet X Change]

Can you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Can you see them from the outside?

[Monet X Change]

No, you can't. Typically, you can't. I mean, I'm sure there are situations that you can, but normally they're like, right. It's a little tear right on the inside, so you can't really see animal fissures. You can't really see them.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So you need to be like, most

[Monet X Change]

times you can, but most times you can't.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So you need to be like, take it easy on me. Wait, so you're.

[Monet X Change]

But even take it easy is that shit will still get. It will still rock your world because it is a tear in the anal wall. Sometimes there can be a centimeter big or bigger, whatever your situation is. And so as you're putting a penis or a hammer in your.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Or a Mjolnir. What's it called?

[Monet X Change]

A Mjolnir. Mjolnure.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Mjolnir. Mjolnir. That's the name of the hammer.

[Monet X Change]

So you put that in there. It's stretching the hole, and it's so painful. Even to take a shit is painful. And shits are soft.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Wait, so you have a tear from when you were a child, and it's still torn?

[Monet X Change]

Because if you never take care of it, it never has a chance to heal if you keep on putting things up there. Normally you take a bow.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean, I don't. This is from when he was a. Unless you're 13 and you're writing us right now. If you were shoving a Thor hammer up your ass as A child, and you still have the same anal fissure, and it hasn't healed yet.

[Monet X Change]

It might be chronic, baby.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, go to the. Go to the doctor.

[Monet X Change]

I'll go to a doctor.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, you need to. And also, when you're having fun with people, you need to be like, hey, you know, I have a situation going on, and I want to engage in fun.

[Monet X Change]

Patty was telling us about this thing people are saying now. Well, sorry, he's talking to me and Andy about people who don't do anal sex. They only do, like, oral stuff and everything else. There's, like, a term for it now.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. See, this guy on TikTok coined a term. They call it sides.

[Monet X Change]

Sides.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You're not tops. You're not a bottom.

[Monet X Change]

You're a side.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And you just don't do anal.

[Monet X Change]

So that's also an option to explore that. Explore. Just doing aura stuff and really perfects your craft doing other things that are not anal or on the top.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Top. Bottom is making its way outside of just gay men.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, yeah, for sure.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Like, a lot of people are using the phrase top and bottom as they're starting to explore what they want to do with their partners in bed.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. You know, so it is 2022. The possibility is that analysts do not think of sex as so black and white, as just bread and cheese. There are so many things. You can have a turkey cheese sandwich. You can have a ham and cheese. You can have some provolone up in there. You can have some switch girl. There's so many things.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You can have a hammer. You can have a hammer in your anus.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. But good luck with that, babe, and keep us updated. I want to know how these pictures, I want to know if they're chronic,

[Bob the Drag Queen]

and I would try to smooth anal toys. If you're gonna start doing stuff, like, down the line, once your fissure is healed, stick with. I'm imagining the hammer has ridges on it.

[Monet X Change]

No, but even poops hurt a fissure.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm just saying, once your fissure has healed. Again, not a doctor. It just seems smarter because he wants to put stuff in his butt. He's saying, I want to put things in my asshole.

[Monet X Change]

Well, you also said it slipped in there, which I'm like, how does a hammer slip in there?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Just hanging out. You're both having drinks. Mirror Norris leans up to you and is like, you know, I know Thor. I always think of smooth toys.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And dicks tend to be relatively smooth, for sure. Relatively.

[Monet X Change]

Good luck, babe.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And lots of lube. Lot o. Lubrication.

[Monet X Change]

Never Enough lube? Yeah, if you. If you put a lot of lube, you do not put enough, but just a little more.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know, when I go to get my eggs cooked at a restaurant, I always say they go, how hard do you want your eggs cooking? I say cook them until you're like, this is too. No one want to eat this. And then leave them on for another minute and then I'll be happy.

[Monet X Change]

You don't like a runny yolk.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I do not like a runny yolk.

[Monet X Change]

I don't like it either.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And I don't like. I don't like wet eggs. I don't want them to be wet. Fluffy, not wet.

[Monet X Change]

Got it, got it, got it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

All right, play our next one.

[Caller/Listener]

Jacob, please, please help. So I'm 19, I'm moving out for the first time, and I'm moving in with some friends. But I've started to develop some really strong romantic feelings for one of my girl. What do I do?

[Monet X Change]

Okay, this is a very, very red flag. Do not move into some. Do not move into and share a space with someone that you're like, tackle that before you move in together. Because what happens is y' all move in together, then you express these feelings to him, and they're like, bitch, no, I'm not interested. Absolutely not. You're gonna feel some type of way, and then you're forced to live with this person for at least a year. Most leases are a year. That is gonna create animosity, resentment. That is not a healthy situation to put yourself in. And also, it is not good if you have these feelings confron you move in. Do not wait until you entrap this person in a. In a lease for a year. I think that is a bad decision.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean, I don't know what your. How you handle things, but I know that I am capable of having someone not be into me. And then we. I can be around them. Some people cannot be around people who have rejected them. I know that I can, so maybe have to figure out how that works for you. Also, part of me is like, honestly, mary, like, you're 19, and I. I'm not discrediting the love of 19 year olds, but I also kind of am, to be honest. And I don't feel bad about it. Like, who you love at 19 is more than likely, it's probably not going to last. Probably not only that, roommates you have at 19 are more than likely not going to be your roommates. Very, very far down the line.

[Monet X Change]

They're not. But.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So both of These. So, like, if. If you and this person don't make it, or you just get a different roommate, you'll be fine. Just get another roommate and just kind of, like, talk to them. And if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Like, it'll be fine.

[Monet X Change]

I say do not wait until you, like, you imagine, like, you're like, oh, yeah, I'm so happy to be roommates. They too. I want to fuck you. I love you, and I want you

[Bob the Drag Queen]

to more than just fucking.

[Monet X Change]

I think it's more obviously, I'm being a little hyperbolic, Bob. Like, imagine that. That's too much. I feel like just tell them, like, just throw a little something out there. Be like, you're really cute. Maybe, like, we should go out to the movies together or something. Or, like, get some drinks.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. I think it could be potentially hazardous to your living situation if you can't. If you don't handle rejection well. And that being said, again, I think that, like, just get different roommates. Like, you're 19. There's a lot of people who can't afford to live alone who need roommates. So, like, be roommates for some of them. Go online. Go on. I mean, I found roommates on. I don't think people use Craigslist anymore. Back in my day, we used to use Craigslist. How do you find roommates then?

[Monet X Change]

Facebook, Instagram? Honestly, normally School sent out a list of people back when I was in school, four years later, after you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Back when I was to send out handwritten letters.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, but this person, y' all gonna be living together, they're gonna be bringing people home to sleep with them or whatever, and you're gonna be like, damn, that could have been me. And that could be in your back of your mind. I know that's how I'll be a little bit. So I would just not do that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Quick. Can I do a quick side tangent? Did you hear about the guy who got rejected from Juilliard and now he's, like, a huge celebrity?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. Cause they did, like, a TikTok, did the whole thing.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And then Inside. Then Inside, Inside Edition, the New York Times. I know he has a modeling contract now.

[Monet X Change]

A modeling contract?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yes.

[Monet X Change]

That is crazy. For what was he going for acting work?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Is he cute? I mean, I guess he's. He's. He's. He's traditionally attractive. I'm not trying to smash, but.

[Monet X Change]

So he's cute. Why can't you say, yes, he's cute?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You're like, I guess because cute is subjective. I'm trying to give context.

[Monet X Change]

So you don't think he's cute, but you think he's attractive?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think he's traditionally attractive.

[Monet X Change]

So that's not cute to you?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

He's what people call a cute guy. You know what I'm saying?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, but you wouldn't call him that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't want to smash Alice Weber.

[Monet X Change]

So you don't think he's cute? Just say yes or no.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Someone can be cute. You don't want to smash them. Okay?

[Monet X Change]

That's what I'm saying. Is he cute?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yes or no? I said I don't want to smash him. And he's traditionally attractive, but he's traditionally too. So is he cute? Yes, he's a cute person. But I'm not trying to like get it in with Alex Webber, okay. Or Axel or whatever the fucking name is.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, he is. He look crazy. He look like a little monkey person.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So anyway, he got into. Then like all these people came, like all these huge celebrities and massive things were like coming out, being like, it's okay. Like, you don't feel bad. And then. And. And he's the whole thing. He's like living this like tiny little apartment in New York City.

[Monet X Change]

I think I saw this. Yeah, I saw his TikTok.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

He's like this. He's like. This is what it's like to. I saw that cabbage from the street.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Or make ramen and stuff.

[Monet X Change]

He looks like if y' all know you want the show recession. Yeah, he looks like the kid. There was like a crazy kid in recess who was kind of like homely and he was like a jungle kid. He looks like the jungle kid from recess. Anyway, next. Can we play the next audio submission for favor?

[Caller/Listener]

I'm Iguana. Hey, Bob and Monet. My name is Theron. I'm 29. I've been going on dates with this guy and his friend. We're gonna call him. Zeb on Sunday randomly messaged me asking about this person's friend and what am I up to. And then Shrada just asked me to have a three way with him and another random person. How should I approach this situation? I am single by proxy, but I think it's kind of fucked up and show you that that person did that. How did you two respond?

[Monet X Change]

I'm so confused.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It sounds like a friend's friend asked him if he wanted to have a

[Monet X Change]

three way, but who was the one that he was talking to?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think he's talking to any of them.

[Monet X Change]

Is he?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

He was he's talking to Zedd.

[Monet X Change]

No, Zed is one.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So Theron's talking to Zed and Zedd's friend.

[Monet X Change]

Ask Theron.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ask him to be in a three way with him and Craig.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, well, this is very obvious what's going on here. Do you want to go first?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So it sounds like, okay, you're not dating Zed.

[Monet X Change]

You're not.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't believe you belong to people or that you have to. That's just me. Especially when you're not official. Like, I don't think you have the right. I don't think. I think it is. Let me phrase. I think it is unrealistic to expect someone to take themselves off the market before you make it official and set those boundaries 1000%. If you have not set those boundaries and said out loud, I would like to be. I would like to be. Not celibate.

[Monet X Change]

Monogamous. Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Then you cannot expect monogamy from someone. Agree. Especially if you are just fuck buddies or romantic and smiling.

[Monet X Change]

And Theron, clearly Zed has expressed to his other friend that you are. You ain't shit to him.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

He's like, yeah, go ask him. Go fuck him.

[Monet X Change]

Zedd has clearly made.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Maybe Theron's just really hot and this guy's like, fuck, I want to fuck him too.

[Monet X Change]

And Zedd is like, go ahead. So this means Zedd.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think Zedd's holding on. I don't think Zedd knows. Yes. I don't think Zed does. Zedd know about the thing, Jacob, do you think? No, I think that's so. Yeah. I don't think Zedd knows that his friend is trying to fuck him up.

[Monet X Change]

But if Zedd and this person are friends, and then Zedd and Theran are friends, Zedd is the connective tissue. So obviously, whatever conversation Zedd and this other person.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, I think this would be like if, when you and Andy before you were official, if Andy's friend came along but does not know you and just like, wow, Monet's hot. I want to fuck. He's not checking with Andi. He's like, I want to fuck.

[Monet X Change]

But probably because Andy and that person are friends. They hang out. Like, so probably whatever Andy and this person are talking to. Andy has made it clear that me and him were not a thing. So which made the person think, it's okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think it's clear to everyone involved that they're not a thing. Everyone knows that Zedd and Theron are not a thing.

[Monet X Change]

Right.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And it's just one of Them Andy's random friends who wants to fuck you. He's not checking in with Andy. He's just like, I want to fuck you. And I have a friend who wants to run a 360.

[Monet X Change]

And that's why I'd be like, so Andy. So what the fuck are you telling to your friends? Why you? Why?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Why? I don't think that it has the. It's not. It's not a letter of recommendation. He just wants to fuck Karen. Cause he's hot.

[Monet X Change]

Well, I need you to make it clear to your friends that we are,

[Bob the Drag Queen]

but you're not a thing.

[Monet X Change]

We're not a thing, but we're on the pasta thing back in the day.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You think that's how that should work? No, that doesn't even. I was like, I'm trying to make the math. Ain't math.

[Monet X Change]

Ain't math.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, I think Theron's just hot. People want to fuck him. And if you want to have sex with those two guys, then go do it. Yeah, like, make it. Like, make it happen.

[Monet X Change]

Theron doesn't want to because he wants to be with Zed.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

He didn't say that. He said, I don't know what to do.

[Monet X Change]

He said, I don't want to do it one more time.

[Caller/Listener]

My name is Theron. I'm 29. I've been going on dates with this guy and his friend. We're going to call him Zeb.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, the friend is Zeb.

[Caller/Listener]

Sunday randomly messaged me asking if I was this person's friend and what am I up to? And then Shrader just asked me to have a three way with him and another random person. How should I approach the situation? I am single by proxy, but I think it's kind of fucked up and shady that that person did that. How would you two respond?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So it sounds like he. It sounds ambiguous.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, because. Okay, because the only way that he could have gotten Theron's number was through the other. Was through the.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Or on Facebook or Instagram on his number. I could have followed.

[Monet X Change]

No, he said he could have randomly texted him.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

He could have asked. I think that if you think it's fucked up.

[Monet X Change]

I mean, I don't think it's fucked up.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think it's fucked up.

[Monet X Change]

I don't think it's fucked up. But I do think that whatever Zedd and the person that Theron is talking to, whatever they're.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think you keep thinking that this guy's trying to get somebody because the

[Monet X Change]

only way that he got Theron's number was, I'm guessing. Cause we don't have all the information.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I should have just asked him. You're making these. You're making some bold assumptions.

[Monet X Change]

I think that. Well, okay, well, we have. There's a lot of pieces to the puzzle piece.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm just trying to not make assumptions. What we know is that Zedd ended up with Theron's number. We don't know. You're implementing this guy he's dating as some villain. You keep being like, he must have told him. He must have gave. It must be something he said to him.

[Monet X Change]

Listen, that's what I'm deducing from the situation. So if that is the case, Theron, then I think you have to wonder what your thing with this person is that makes other people think that it's okay that y' all aren't on the path to becoming something. Because, for example, if you and Jacob are. Y' all weren't boyfriends yet. And y'. All. I know y' all are all open in monogamous, whatever. I mean, open poly, whatever. But if y' all want to pass to something and then I know nothing about Jacob. No, you and Jacob are doing. Are doing your own thing, talking ki, ki, ki, ki, ka, kaka. And then I message Jacob to. But you're so different because you're poly and open. So it's a different thing. Like, y' all are not.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

They're not boyfriends. If someone's like, I don't think that people. Like, I just don't think. Weird. I don't think it's up. I think if you don't want to have sex with this guy, another guy, then just say that.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, sure.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think that.

[Monet X Change]

I agree.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think Zed's up to anything weird. I don't think that Zed's friend, the guy that Theron's talking to, I don't think he's up to anything weird. I think that there's a. Maybe there's a possibility that if Zed knew you two were actually gonna be a thing, he wouldn't do something. Maybe there's also a chance that Zed and the guy aren't even that close. They probably just know each other, like they should. Probably.

[Monet X Change]

Well, you're assuming.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, I'm saying that I said probably. That's different. Probably. Like, I don't even know. We're barely friends. I think that you should just be like, if you want to have this threesome, then just do it.

[Monet X Change]

He doesn't want to if you want to have.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We don't. He didn't make it super clear that he doesn't want to have. But if you want to have threesome, then do it. If you don't, then don't have sex with him.

[Monet X Change]

And if, and make your intentions with this person clear. Like if you, if that, if this is upsetting you, then I think there's a conversation because you clearly want something more with this person. So then have an open and honest conversation and be like, hey, I really like you. Like, where do you see this going? So that you have. So you know exactly what the fuck is going on.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Dramatic TV moment when like after fucking someone on the bed and goes, what are we doing?

[Monet X Change]

Dramatic tv, you know, when someone goes,

[Bob the Drag Queen]

what are we doing here? What are we doing here?

[Monet X Change]

I mean, I'm, I'm, I'm. Jacob's trying not to talk. I'm very honest with my.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If Jacob is trying not to talk because he doesn't have a microprom, he

[Monet X Change]

refuses to record himself. Well, also Jacob, Jacob is saying that we can also put subtitles. What Jacob is saying, except if it's a paragraph, that's a lot. Anyway, I think I'm not on the same thing. A Bob thinking is dramatic. I feel like if you like someone, there's nothing wrong with being like, hey, I'm really into you. I like going to the movies with you. I like hanging out. I don't think there's anything weird with that. Cause Theron feels some type of way to send us a fucking submission. So he clearly feels something about it. So talk to this person you're talking to.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But I did not say there's anything wrong with the communication. But there is something TV dramatic about being like, what are we doing?

[Monet X Change]

Oh my God, what are we doing?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That is, that's funny and dramatic.

[Monet X Change]

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[Caller/Listener]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Monet X Change]

Can we play the next question, please? I think that's funny and dramatic.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Don't. Don't do this. Don't do this.

[Caller/Listener]

So this year I'm getting two big milestones. I am moving out and I'm going to start dating again after seven years. Please don't laugh. So my question is, what decor do y' all recommend to make the boys

[Bob the Drag Queen]

hot and heavy when they go back? Monet's not paying attention. I can't even pay attention because this is so distracting. I told you not to do that. I told you not to do that. So Monet was, for some reason, nothing wrong, she was taking the cap off the Perrier, pouring the Perrier into the cap, and then drinking and then drinking it from the cap. And I was like, don't do that. And then the Perrier said spilled all over the table. Which we can't even hear this.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, please let me think one more time. You are so messy.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm messy? You're literally a mess. You're covered in period.

[Monet X Change]

Acid is water, Monet.

[Caller/Listener]

It's Brett. So this year I'm hitting two big milestones. I am moving out and I'm going to start digging again after seven years. Please don't laugh. So my question is, what decor do y' all recommend to make the boys hot and heavy when they come over? Looking at my Pinterest boy right now, I seem like a 40 year old virgin that has no life. So any help is appreciated.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ooh, you say when they come over, do you mean like when they come to your home?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, to his new to his place. He's moving out on his own.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, with home decor?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, like home decor, not his clothes? Yeah, yeah, I think. Listen, I think obviously like, you go for trends. Neon is a big thing. Not a lot of people are into. Neon is a thing. Maybe get some. There's a place called Elitist or something like that. Elitist.com that has really dope neon signs, I think setting an ambiance and a vibe. Like you don't want a lot of overhead lighting. If you're trying to be fucking a lot of people and you want. Cause you clearly want to make the boys hot and bother, you don't want a whole bunch of overhead lighting. Shit. Now when you get into a relationship, have all the overhead lighting you want.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Right, babe?

[Monet X Change]

So I think that you should have nice ambient lighting, like a lamp like in the living room, one in the kitchen. Or you could put the lamps on with some neon and that can create a nice ambiance.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You fuck trade in the living room.

[Monet X Change]

No, but I'm saying. But that's the first place they see when you come into. Well, I mean, depending on your setup, obviously you have. The drag lab is the first thing they see.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, you see my living room. My living room is the first thing you see in my home. You open the door and you're looking directly into the room.

[Monet X Change]

Wait, it passed the drag lab?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, it's a. It's a completely closed door.

[Monet X Change]

Do you ever fuck people in your drag lab?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No.

[Monet X Change]

Would you?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You fuck people in your living room?

[Monet X Change]

You fuck people in your living room?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. I wasn't. I was just asking.

[Monet X Change]

You fuck people in your living room?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Sometimes, yeah.

[Monet X Change]

You just don't want to go to the bedroom. Why the living room?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I like the couch. The couch is comfortable. I used to have a really high bed. My bed was really, really high. And it was kind of uncomfortable to hook up on sometimes, but not always. And we used to have a really small bed. We used to have a full size bed. Work instead of a king, now we have a king. And also now we need to put some pads on our bed because our bed just slides around so easily.

[Monet X Change]

Fucking sliding all over.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Like not fucking. You can sit on the bed and the whole thing would. We'll shoot across the room.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I would say set up nice ambient lighting with some neon and like, just not a lot of bright. Like that's. That's too much.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm gonna keep it a buck with you.

[Monet X Change]

What?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It almost doesn't matter as long as you don't live in like a rat infested dump. Honestly, if. If you're hot and the guy's attracted to you, he will probably more than likely still fuck. I mean, it is. It is. Once someone is like horny, especially gay guys in the mood and they have traveled and they're in Your home, you would have to live in wreckage to get them to turn around and leave.

[Monet X Change]

Well, okay, I think we all know that. But he's trying to, he's trying to go a step above that, Bob, because he wants to. He wants to create a vibe and an ambiance. He wants to.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think you should break your back trying to figure just do the like honestly whatever you feel comfortable with because they're gonna fuck like, they're gonna fucking like you know, you fucked in some horrible condition. I have fucked all.

[Monet X Change]

I have never had sex outside of my before Andy was the first ones I ever had sex with. I never had sex with.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We'll just listen to old episodes of the podcast. But yeah, I think that you should, you know, I don't think it is wise to make your home like gear your home toward trying to get people

[Monet X Change]

to be attracted to you or that's what he wants.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't. Again, I'm going to reiterate. I don't think it's wise. I think you should gear toward your comfort, toward the things you like, toward things that make you smile, things that make you happy in your home. And usually guys gonna come over because he's attracted to you. Unless guys are coming up because you live in a like a massive mansion or a huge penthouse and that's, that's part of what turns them on. So your house, as long as they're into you, your house can look like probably almost anything Now I also wonder, he didn't mean by the chance to court his clothing.

[Monet X Change]

No, he said his home. He's moving out when he got 20

[Bob the Drag Queen]

because he also had like a 40 year old version.

[Monet X Change]

Well, he also said he's moving out. He hasn't dated anyone for seven years

[Bob the Drag Queen]

out of his parents house. I think.

[Monet X Change]

Got it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And I think he said like a 40 year old virgin. Like what in his home looks like a 40. Is it his. When I think 40 year old version, I think of the clothes you're wearing.

[Monet X Change]

I think he maybe the way he decorates is old. Like he decorates like an old bitch.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But how does Steve Carell decorate his home in 40 years?

[Monet X Change]

I mean it's kind of just oldish.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, was it? Yeah, I haven't seen it in so long now.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, it's not, you know. That's good. Yeah. So that was my idea. That was my idea. Some ambient lighting, some neon and don't have bright overhead lighting.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's the thing I think. Go for comfort. What makes you happy, things that make you Smile and they'll fucking anyway because they're horny and they travel to your house.

[Monet X Change]

Work. All right, I'm going to read the first one because I graduated summa cum laude.

[Caller/Listener]

Okay.

[Monet X Change]

Hi, Bob and Monet. In a. I'm a research up the

[Bob the Drag Queen]

first word at an art school.

[Monet X Change]

Anyway, at least I finished. I'm a recent graduate from acting school and I'm finally out in the world. Going out in the world and doing auditions. Any tips on how to make the best audition tape? When do you know that it's ready to send? Sincerely, future Oscar winner. Baby, let me tell you something. These motherfuckers get so many tapes. And I mean, you audition for stuff all the time. I audition for stuff. Like, unless you. I don't know what rings true. How many things have you auditioned for?

[Caller/Listener]

A lot.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I auditioned for a lot of things. And it's really interesting when you audition for stuff because especially in the world of black queer people, people who are like, queer coded in their blackness. Drag queens, specifically, especially drag queens. We are all auditioning for the same

[Monet X Change]

song, the same thing, and then we

[Bob the Drag Queen]

all see the other person cast in the thing that we were auditioning for. That happens all the time. And I know girls have seen me casting things they audition for. I've seen girls casting. I auditioned for that movie that Simone's in.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, really?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. I don't know if it was for the role Simone has, but that Billy Eichner movie. I auditioned for that.

[Monet X Change]

That fucking thing that Shams did on Fahrenheit whatever with Sherry Vine. I auditioned for that and I was like, work. It was like a year ago. Fahrenheit 41A. Station 19, some fire show.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Fahrenheit 451 is A.

[Monet X Change]

It's like station, station, Ladder 49. Some spin off of a Grey's Anatomy. And it was Shangela, Sherry, vine and somebody else. Anyway, so many things I've seen. That fucking thing that Eureka ended up doing for American Horror Story. I auditioned for that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I know lots of girls who auditioned for Tales of.

[Caller/Listener]

Of the City.

[Monet X Change]

Tales of the City, I auditioned for that as well. And they asked me and I was like, you can give it to Bob because he's just one. And it's like, oh, that's so kind. Of course I love you. That's nice. So, yeah. So in terms of standing out, I think doing your. Doing the best you can do, obviously, trying to be off book as possible. There ain't nothing like looking at audition

[Bob the Drag Queen]

tape and you can see the bitch reading this. Well, sometimes they be asking you to learn a lot. They be like, and if you have the time to learn it, then, yes, go ahead.

[Monet X Change]

But try your best to memorize, because I think that's the way to stand out.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Familiarize yourself with the script. Get someone to read with you in the room, if possible. Yeah, get someone to read with you in the room. Go over it a couple of times and make sure that you're happy with it. And something I learned a long time ago, this one, I was actually auditioning kids and casting them and stuff. This is something that helped me in my life. If you do not get a role, it does not mean you're not good enough. It does not mean you're not good enough. It does not mean you're not good enough.

[Monet X Change]

It just means that you're a shitty actor.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It just means that maybe there was someone who was better for this particular role. For example, if Meryl Streep was auditioning and did not get cast as Kunta Kinte, it just means that maybe you took it. Levart. I'm trying to make a point. I'm trying to make a point. It means that maybe Laverne Barton. What's his name?

[Monet X Change]

LeVar Burton.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

LeVar Burton was just better suited for the role. I mean, there was talks about having Julia Roberts play Harriet Tubman. That's not even a joke.

[Monet X Change]

Is that true?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

There was actual talk in the 90s. It didn't go very far, but there were talks like, let's have Harry Harris, Julia Robin Harrison.

[Monet X Change]

Imagine Julia Robinson. She would regret that for the rest of her life.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. So I'm sure someone must have had their thicker hat on and said, this is. She's not right for the role. It does not mean that Julie Roberts is not a good actor. She's a great actor. She's not Harriet Tubman. Speaking of hats in the right role. You have not asked about my hat yet. And I want to tell everyone about.

[Monet X Change]

Because I've heard it 49 times, but

[Bob the Drag Queen]

they haven't heard it yet.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, my God.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Bob. Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

What's up? This is a very cute hat.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Thank you.

[Monet X Change]

Where'd you get it from?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So this was a birthday gift that Jacob got for me back in June. Is your boyfriend? Yeah, my boyfriend Jacob.

[Caller/Listener]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And. And this was actually owned and worn by Carol Channing.

[Monet X Change]

The Carol Channing. The Carol Channing. Carol Channing and Jacob.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And her estate sale.

[Monet X Change]

What else was there?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

They were selling her Golden Globes, some Tonys, her dress from hello Dolly.

[Monet X Change]

How much was a Toni?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think a Tony was $20,000.

[Monet X Change]

$20,000. I think that's crazy.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know how much it costs to win one?

[Monet X Change]

It's like $500.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, I mean to buy one. Yeah, yeah.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, yeah, yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But putting on a show, that's a lot of money.

[Monet X Change]

Anyway, next one.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Dear Bob and Monet, I am a 22 year old gay man. My 23 year old gay male best friend's dad, who's 53, just came out of the closet when I was visiting. He's. He was kind of flirting with me. I'm into it and I see him on a grinder. Can I hit it or should I ask my friend first? What if he says no? Sincerely? Lucky for you, I got all these daddy issues.

[Monet X Change]

Look at you, dummy. I say, bitch. Go for it. Go for it. Go for it, Mary. Do it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know, I'm gonna say out loud right now that. Listen, daddy issues, if your friend's dad wants to fuck you, you are both consenting adults. Is daddy in the. So daddy came out.

[Caller/Listener]

He was.

[Monet X Change]

He came out.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

He's out, came out. He just came out the closet.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And also a lot of times for people who are older and are coming out of the closet, they're like making up for a lot of time, for sure.

[Monet X Change]

You know what I mean?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And I imagine that if you're 53 and coming out, then you kind of lost your chance when you were younger, right? To be hooking up with like 23 year olds.

[Monet X Change]

It's not 30 years younger work, I think.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think you. I do not think you need your friend's permission to fuck his dad.

[Monet X Change]

You better suck them wrinkly balls, bitch.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I do not. I mean, are there smooth balls? People actually do get injections. Their balls make them smile.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, I know.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Who. What do you mean, you know?

[Monet X Change]

I know.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Do you have any injections?

[Monet X Change]

We know someone. We'll talk about it later. We'll talk about it later.

[Caller/Listener]

Go.

[Monet X Change]

We'll talk about it later.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Anyway, you do. This is very short. You do not need your friend's permission to his dad.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean, there is a small chance that this could affect your friendship with your friend.

[Monet X Change]

I think it's a big chance.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If. If I.

[Caller/Listener]

Your mom.

[Monet X Change]

If you. My mom, I would be fucking irate.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I would be at who I would be, both of y'. All.

[Monet X Change]

I would not do this podcast anymore, bitch. We're done.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You don't want me and your mom to find love with each other?

[Monet X Change]

That is crazy. I mean, nine times out of ten, your friend is going to be Upset about this? I mean. Yes, I think his friend is going to be upset about this for sure. For sure. It's not just a sumo friend. His best friend. That means that y' all are. Tell each other everything. No. I would be so pissed if you fuck. Yes or no, Monet.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Frank, you could fuck my dad if you want to. If I fucked your dad, my dad. I don't give a damn. I don't give a damn.

[Monet X Change]

What if now, what if me and Martha had some. Had some sexual proclivities?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If you guys find love with each other, who am I to. Who am I to say no to your love?

[Monet X Change]

You're an insane person. You're not. You're not a. You're not. Well, you're not a normal person.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm just not here trying to limit my mom's love.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, well that's my. I say go ahead and fuck him. But know that this is probably gonna be bad for your best friendship. And you may not be best friends after this. You may not even be friends after this. So go in knowing that. And is sucking the nut out this 53 year old man's dick worth it? That's up to you to decide.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Probably. Maybe this could be the love of his life.

[Monet X Change]

It might be, but you're gonna lose your best friend in the process. So gain a husband and then you'll

[Bob the Drag Queen]

be your friend's stepdad. And then your friend, you'll be like, hey, I want to talk to you about the birds and the bees. I want to talk to you about the birds and the birds. I want to talk to you about the bees and the bees.

[Monet X Change]

Honey, the bees knees. All right, here we go. Dear Bob and Monet, I lost my virginity to a guy I didn't even know and now I feel ashamed. What would be your advice to people who lost their virginity in such a way and now feel ashamed? Is virginity real or not? Sincerely, Madonna.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So you know, virginity is a social construct. It is so in an essence, in a social sense, yes, virginity is real.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And I know, I don't know what your anatomy is, but the idea, the notion of a hymen being intact. It is possible to have sex for years and years and years and still have your hymen be completely intact. It is possible for your hymen to not be intact. And you've never had sex a day in your life, so. But I also don't know if you're. I don't know what your anatomy is, but I will say this. The. The. The social notion of A of virginity is a real social construct. And I think that if you had a fun and you were, you and the person were both consenting and you enjoyed yourself, I don't think you need to feel shame. I think starting off your sexual proclivities and your sexual journey with shame could bring a lot of trauma down the line. You know what I mean? It could really affect your ability to have a whole phase later in life. So I say do the, feel free to do the work on yourself to not feel shame about having sex with a stranger. Because I have had sex with a lot of strangers and I don't feel bad about it. It wasn't, it was, that's not. But that was my first. But you know.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I agree with Bob. Starting your sexual awakening, your sexual liberation, your sexual desires, your proclivities, whatever. And shame is a bad way to start. And again, I agree. If you, if you guys are both consenting, you guys had a good time whether you knew, you know him or not. Just girl just know a dick is a dick or a pussy is a pussy or whatever it is you had sex with is many people on this earth have it and there's nothing to feel ashamed about. If you enjoyed yourself, you had fun and just think about, you know. But again, I think maybe that's discovering what you like. Like you're discovering what speaks to you sexually. And maybe having sex with strangers is not something that you like. That is a thing that you're not into. So you're learning that about yourself. So you know, going forward, if you want to have a good time and feel good afterwards, you have to have sex with people that you know. So that's good to find out about yourself.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Plus fun fact, Madonna, let me tell you right now, most people, I, I, I felt confident saying this. Most people no longer talk to the person they had sex with the first time, most of us. So there, I mean, if you think of it in that context, the idea of a stranger, that is also a social construction.

[Monet X Change]

Everything is social construct.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. Not, not everything.

[Monet X Change]

Everything is either a social or physical construct.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, yes, sure.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But everything's not everything is not. I want to be clear. Everything is not a social construct or

[Monet X Change]

physical, but it's either one of the two.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

There's, there's probably more and maybe if I had time to think about, I could probably give you more. But everything that's social anyway, what I'm saying, even the idea of a stranger, a lover, those are all social constructs. So it's really no different for you to no longer talk to the person than it is for me to talk to the Keisha. Me and Keisha don't talk no more.

[Monet X Change]

Was a woman yeah. Work okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, yeah, work. I mean, we were teenagers, so were we adults. I was a boy, she was a girl, and now she's a woman.

[Monet X Change]

Work.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Were we 18 yet? Oh, yeah.

[Monet X Change]

Did you have sex before 18?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

Work yeah.

[Caller/Listener]

Okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean, I wasn't busting while watching Nick Jr. Like you was.

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

Dear Bob and Monet, what is the best way to tell someone you are attracted to a certain feature, a specific part of them without it sounding like you are fetishizing them? Sincerely Lost in translation, but it's the

[Monet X Change]

best way to tell someone you are attracted to a certain feature or a specific part of them without it sounding like you are fetishizing. That's tricky. Especially in this day and age. That is a very tricky territory.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think fetishizing is a buzzword that's being. You want to go first? Actually, I went first last time.

[Monet X Change]

What is the best way to tell someone you are attracted to a certain feature, a specific part of them, without it sounding like you? I don't know because I. In this day and age, I think it's very tricky. Like when I talk to people even. Even not even sexually. I guess you're not saying sexually just this may be platonically.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Whatever it is this sounds like. I mean the word fetish has a sexual connotation to it.

[Monet X Change]

You think?

[Caller/Listener]

Yes.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I guess it does. Well, I don't know. It's tricky. Cause I struggle with this Sometimes too. Like, if I tell. Like, we know. I've said on this podcast many times, I love tall guys and stuff, and Bob would make fun when they White fetishizing tall guys, whatever, and make fun of it. I'm not. I'm just. That's what's. That's what I. You have. I mean, you were playing around and being Bob about it. You weren't being like, dead serious. I don't think why. Bob acting like that is not something that you would do. You know, that is.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I feel like what's something I would do is more wait for you to say another time that you. They don't have to be tall and then be like, which one is it?

[Monet X Change]

Yes. I'm saying that sounds more like, Right.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Is it tall? Is it tall or not tall? You remember, like, Monet loving big dicks and Monet not eating big dicks. Monet. It has to be a third leg.

[Monet X Change]

And then, like, it could be a pinky anyway. So I struggle with this too. And I think that most often for me, I know that I'm not coming from that place. And if someone does feel that way, they normally expressed that to me, and I'm like, okay, no, that's not what I meant. And I'm very clear, and we clear the air. But I think it is hard to do so in this day and age because there's so many things that you're looking at immensely. I'm always doing mental gymnastics to make sure that I'm not fetishizing someone by their race, their height, their this. But they're just things that I'm into, and that's just. It's hard to navigate.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think that maybe we could destigmatize the word fetishization if the. If the. If the fetish. Fetishizing something isn't necessarily bad. Having a fetish is not a bad thing.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, it's not even on that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think that if you and the person are in some sort of a consensual thing about this fetishization. If you. If it's a person, like, let's say it's someone you're already hooking up with, but you don't want to tell them, I love your. Your huge feet. I love your big ass feet. They're so. They're hot, but maybe they're into that, maybe they'll be like, oh, you can massage my feet. We are both benefiting. We both have a mutual benefit from this fetishization of my feet. If they are not interested in that, I would Say, then immediately back off. Like, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that you weren't into people being into your feet. So I don't think that. I don't think that necessarily having a fetish is a bad thing, or fetishizing something or a body type or something is necessarily a bad thing. Especially it's.

[Monet X Change]

Racially, is when it gets tricky and hairy.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, if the. If. If the two people are consenting to it, I don't think that's bad either.

[Monet X Change]

But I think this person is saying, like, no.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

A part of your body, a specific part of them, or a feature or a part of them. So we don't know. We don't know what they're fetishizing. We don't know what it is.

[Caller/Listener]

Right.

[Monet X Change]

I mean, when you say certain. I mean, features obviously be anything but. I mean, she writes. She didn't say racially. Okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Or a specific part of it.

[Monet X Change]

We don't.

[Caller/Listener]

Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

It could be anything. True.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It could be because they're short. It could be because they're. Who knows? Yeah. And if you. And if you and that person are both into race, sexual fetishization, if you're both consenting, there's no problem with that. There's. As long as you're both consenting. Consent, Consent. Consent. And enthusiastic. Yes. Are you both into it and are they interior experimenting?

[Monet X Change]

Well, if you're talking to someone on an app, then this part of that half of that consent is not there. Like the first message you send. I guess maybe that if you talk to someone, if you're engaging with someone on an app, maybe first, before you start expressing the parts of them that you are into that you're hot about, that you're fetishizing, maybe. But then sometimes that sexiness

[Bob the Drag Queen]

is asking for it. So I don't think that it is. I don't think you need consent to ask for consent. I.

[Monet X Change]

Okay. If I hit you up and I'm like, oh, my God, Bob, I love. I love your. I love your sexy chocolate black skin. I'm fetishizing.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You're shocking. And I have the opportunity to just not engage with that or get mad.

[Monet X Change]

But I think this person is trying to avoid that from the onset. And I think that is first starting a conversation so that both parties feel comfortable.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It could work to have a conversation. I don't like to have a lot of conversations on grand.

[Monet X Change]

I don't either. But this is.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If someone loves that I'm tall. If someone writes me and goes, I love tall guys, that does not bother Me, I'm not bothered at all. If someone hits up you and says, I love big asses, would that turn you off immediately?

[Monet X Change]

Yes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Be honest, Monet. Give this person.

[Monet X Change]

I'm kidding.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Give Lawson translation advice. Would that turn you off immediately? Yeah. So obviously, I think that there are certain things that you need to be more sensitive about when it comes to race, when it comes to someone who may be differently abled. If you have some sort of a fetishization for, like, little people, there might be a little person who is into that, who's into you, but there might be someone who's like, I'm sick of being fetishized for being a little person.

[Monet X Change]

But something. I don't know that and something. We've all seen those Best of Grindr clips of someone saying, hey, hey. Oh my God, I love. I love your tiny nose, whatever. And someone posts them and being like, can you believe these fucking people? We've all seen those clips.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But I think that engaging in it on Grindr through a message is a form of like. Is it consent to be like I. Because that's where it gets, like, tricky.

[Monet X Change]

Like, I know in 2022.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Are you saying, like. Are you saying, like, I think that if someone sets a boundary, then to respect it.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, for sure. Immediately. Yeah. Sometimes you don't know that going in,

[Bob the Drag Queen]

but then again, I don't. Again, I don't think you need to ask. You don't need to ask for consent to ask for consent.

[Monet X Change]

Agreed. But I think this person is trying to avoid being.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, if they told us what the hell they were looking for, we'd be able to help you out a little bit more. So basically what I'm saying is if it's raised or about someone being differently abled or about, I don't know what else people are. There's lots of things that people are sensitive about. Then maybe you should tread lightly. And then maybe dabble in after. After you've already established some sort of a sexual connection. Yeah, it also maybe it's important establishing a sexual connection.

[Monet X Change]

There we go. Yeah, we like that. Start light. Before you start talking about my chocolate skin. Talk about you like the fact that I have two eyeballs. When then people.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's all. That's all you're gonna get on Instagram now. Everyone be sliding it. Wayne, your two eye eyeballs. And I'm only just cheating on everyone with one eyeball. I know now I'm now on the

[Monet X Change]

Village because I hate being with one eyeball. Now here we go.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You get one eyeball you're not saying

[Monet X Change]

how many, how many, how much time we have left?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob, do you have somewhere to be?

[Monet X Change]

No, we don't want an hour and a half episode. We're trying to keep you. I'm. I'm worried about the podcast. You just. You just talk, talk, talking.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Where you going?

[Monet X Change]

Oh, my God, dude. Read the next.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

There's a white party tonight. Monet.

[Monet X Change]

Monet.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Hey, y' all sure that you can go do cocaine? Do cocaine?

[Monet X Change]

You're the cocaine queen. We've already established that on this podcast. Sniffles McGee.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, that's not snow outside, honey. I dropped my bag. Dear Monet and Bob, they didn't write that. Yes, they did. They wrote Bob Monet and Jacob switched it around. So you feel good about yourself, boy.

[Monet X Change]

Please read the question.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Dear Monet and Bob, what's your best advice on dating? Talking to DL? I don't even want to finish this. I will finish it, but I'm up front saying. Saying DL guys, especially if you're black, are the lowest fucking common denominator in the black community. Do not speak to them. Do not talk to them. Do not give them. I will. I will finish reading. But I'm going to say all with off the bat, don't even look in their direction. They are the people who are hurting black queer people the most. They are the number one perpetrators in killing black trans women. Do not. Do not. Do not give DL men your fucking attention. With that being said, I've been talking to someone for about a year and a half and I'm stuck.

[Monet X Change]

Girl,

[Bob the Drag Queen]

the feeling of being in the dark isn't fun. But I know it's his story and no one can write it but him. He. I know there's not a timeline on him coming out. He will never. But I think if we've invested a year and a half together, something should be done. Love you both. Come to Denver soon. We're very close. Four hours away. Under the red. Let me start right now. Go watch the Salem episode of We're Here. Watch Akilah's story. Her boyfriend Derek is a former DL guy. He was talking about how that life was nothing but bondage. And then another person on that same episode. I forget his name. Shangela's dragster in this episode was almost murdered. Do you hear him telling you? Almost murdered? Because he was with an ideal relationship with the guy for, I think three or four years.

[Monet X Change]

Ten years.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ten years with this guy. And then he was like, what's our next step? And then the guy came to his house and Fucking tried to kill him, threw his arm up, shot through his arm. This is the only thing that saved his life. Do not give this guy any of your time. If they are not willing to love you out in public, in front of people, then they do not deserve. And I am very passionate about this, bitch.

[Monet X Change]

I lived this life for so long and I'm telling you. I agree. Do not waste your time. This person will never come out the closet. It will never be a thing. Nothing you do, nothing you say, and no matter how much time they ask you for is never gonna happen. It is. You are literally wasting years, maybe decades of your life on this person that will never, ever love you openly and fully, period. Do not waste your time. Walk away. Drop them. It is not worth it. Be done. Be done, bitch. And I know that there are so many emotions and feelings wrapped up in it. You obviously, you spent a year and a half with this person, and you've invested a lot of love and a lot of care and building something with this person that will never, ever, ever materialize. So just drop it. Be done. Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You've spent a year and a half probably in hotels and bedrooms and not existing outside of that bitch.

[Monet X Change]

Why you can't go to this thing? Why you can't do that? Because this person is in the closet.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Your relationship has been in quarantine, honey. And it is time to treat the symptoms and get rid of them.

[Monet X Change]

Do not drop them.

[Caller/Listener]

Drop them.

[Monet X Change]

Wait. Drop that motherfucker like a fucking hot potato. Hey, Bob. Hey, Monet. And Bob. I'm struggling with my self control as of right now. My good sis Anna is trying to steal my man. We have been friends for about a year now. And I thought we were better than this. We're 15 and I have stuck by her.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm not laughing.

[Monet X Change]

I'm not laughing.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm laughing. I'm not laughing.

[Monet X Change]

We're 15. I'm stuck by her, thick and thin. And this is what I.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is how I'm repaid.

[Monet X Change]

This is how.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What I'm repaid with.

[Monet X Change]

What I'm repaid with. Not gonna happen. I don't know what to do right now. It's either she keeps it cute on my time or I snatch that all up. Sincerely about to fight a fish.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What grade is 15?

[Monet X Change]

15? That is 10th grade.

[Caller/Listener]

Girl.

[Monet X Change]

Girl, this is some Euphoria shit.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is Euphoria High. Y' all go to Euphoria High? You girl Bitch about to fight a bitch. Say hey to Ru.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, my God, girl, you are too young for this. But again, you know, I'm not. I can't trivialize their experience. This is Anna. And about a fighter, bitch, you can't trivialize their struggle. Like, this is real for them. And I think what I'm saying to you, fighting. Wait, so Anna is her best friend? Oh, she's just her good sis. Good sis could be best friends or besties. Oh, friends for about a year now. Bitch, y' all haven't been friends for a year. That is not enough to be good friends.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I will say this. Zoom out. About to fight a bitch.

[Monet X Change]

Do not fight her.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Zoom out. You fighting her could have some very serious implications on your life.

[Monet X Change]

The rest of your life.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't know where you. Where you live, but where I went to school, if you fought at 15, you now have a jail. You have a criminal record. I got arrested for getting to a fight at school. Like arrested arrested? Like, full on arrested, basically.

[Monet X Change]

You never fought in school?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I didn't fight in school. I fought after school, at home, in my neighborhood, and then I got arrested when I got to school the next day.

[Monet X Change]

I've never heard this.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'll tell this. We'll do a quick little. So. And Also, whether you're 15, whether you're 30, or whether you're 40, if your partner wants to be with your friend, do not try to stop them. Let them go. Let them go. Become one with the wind and sky. Yeah, you will save yourself some grief, yourself, some anger, yourself, some trauma down the road, but don't ever try, in my opinion, try to force someone to be with you.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, it's not worth it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If there's a chance that Anna can steal your man, then, bitch, let her have him.

[Monet X Change]

And also, you don't own people. He's not. I mean, yes, he's your boyfriend, but like, to Bob's point, like, if he's gonna cheat on you with Anna, it's gonna happen. Also, bitch, you're in College. You're 15. I'm assuming he's close to or maybe a year or two older than you or younger. Whatever it is, you are not. When you graduate, chances are you will not even know this motherfucker. You will not know. Y' all will. This relationship will cease to exist. So do not ruin your future for this motherfucker who you will not care about in two, three, four years. Like, it's a wash. Do not fight him. And also, if you do happen to fight, don't do it on school problems property. Like, Bob, like your situation, but you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But also, honestly, don't don't fight in general. I, I, I, I cannot tell you how much trouble I had as a teenager in Georgia because I got into a fight. I thought because we weren't fighting at school, I made it better. I still got arrested. Had to do community service, Had a criminal record like fighting is really. I will not fight with you unless you attack me during a drag.

[Monet X Change]

I did not know you've ever had a fight.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yes, his name was. I told you, I've told you. His name was Jimmy Carter, the pr. I did not fight the President. But his name was Jimmy Carter.

[Monet X Change]

I'm gagging. I didn't, I, maybe I'm just, I'm

[Bob the Drag Queen]

not a peanut farmer. Dear Pocket Monet, I'm an 18 year old gay guy. I just moved to New York City from the middle of nowhere. What's the best place to find a sugar daddy in the city? Sincerely, Designer taste.

[Monet X Change]

Townhouse, the piano bar. Townhouse, yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The town's piano, which might not be getting a townhouse.

[Monet X Change]

18. I mean, go get a fake IDs in New York City. You can get a fake ID anywhere in New York City.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm gonna tell you right now, the best place to find a sugar dad is on the Internet.

[Monet X Change]

Sure. But no, no, if you want to find like an oldish New York City sugar daddy, that's the, if you, if you follow New York Sugar Daddy TikTok, you follow New York Sugar daddy. Older, gay New York City sugar daddies, they are hard to find online. You have to go to Town. They're like three bars. Yeah. Go to Townhouse, you have to go to Hangar and somewhere else. They said, I don't remember the other one, but Townhouse is the one. I know Townhouse is an old piano bar on the east side midtown area. And just look it up online and that's normally where they hang out. Because I mean, obviously, like to Bob's point, yes, Internet has changed things, but if you wanted to do it the old fashioned way, it's seen them in person. They see you in person because people be catfishing a lot online and older dudes ain't trying to be on. If you're a sugar daddy, chances are you ain't spending your days on the Internet doing your shit.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think what you're saying is necessarily true. I think that if you are sugar daddy, if part of your fetish is being a financial sub or being, or giving money to people, then I think the Internet is a perfect place to

[Monet X Change]

do that for some.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And I don't think that there's necessarily some notion that like that you don't want. I don't, I. I still think the Internet is the best place to do it. Especially because you're 18. I'm not going to condone you sneaking into bars. Aquaria Aja. But there are also lots of bars that you can go into. You don't have to be 18.

[Monet X Change]

There are sugar daddies, aren't there?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Maybe not. What's that piano part? That there's a. Not piano. There's a bar.

[Caller/Listener]

Bar.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Whiskey bar on 50. It's not a gay bar, it's just a regular bar. It's on 50, it's on 6 and like 50 something and a lot of like Broadway producers and like musicians go to this bar. Broadway actors go there. And you know, I would say sugar eggs are hard to find because they're so rare. And baby, you're gonna have some stiff competition. There are going to be some fucking hot fucking pieces of ass trying to grab these sugar daddies.

[Monet X Change]

You're 18 and young. You have, you have everything going for you. You were 18.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

There's also gonna be some 18, 19, 20 year olds who are gonna be fucking. You know, I don't know how you look, but baby, if you're gonna, if you're trying to be a sugar baby a lot, I feel like a lot

[Monet X Change]

of that is like self care amendments.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. And also finding out and it's not just about like pecs, skinny, whatever. Because there are some sugar dads who just want a fucking little chubby. A chubby baby.

[Monet X Change]

Oh yeah, for sure. You know what I mean?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But the chubby baby, whoever you are, the whole thing, I feel like a. But it's like also making your sugar daddy feel like loved and wanted if

[Monet X Change]

that's what they want. Sometimes they want. They don't want that. They want to feel abused. They want to feel taken advantage of.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

They want to feel sexy.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But whatever that means to them.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. So find your street. I say go to piano bar or hangar. Oh, not Jacob Jerome.

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Steven.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob left the show.

[Monet X Change]

I say go to townhouse or piano or townhouse or a hangar and find you a old guy. And. Or yes, you specifically want an old sugar daddy. And that's where the old diggers be at. They be at townhouse listening to show tunes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Does she doesn't say old. It says what's the place to find a sugar daddy?

[Monet X Change]

Oh, I'm an 18 year old old gay guy. Okay, sorry. Well, if you like olders and I

[Bob the Drag Queen]

also, you need to really get comfortable with the fact, the. The notion, the highly likely possibility that you will not find a sugar daddy. Oh for sure like that is. That is the most likely outcome. You probably won't find a sugar daddy or full tea.

[Monet X Change]

Hang out at a really expensive. Just go to bars at a really really really nice hotel Hotels because that's where them be at too. If you want to find someone in real life like the St. Regis over there in fifth Avenue. There are many old like expensive ass hotels in New York City. Hang out at the bar that you will see. Sometimes they may be what they may be straight, gay, whatever they are by. You're gonna see them and you're gonna make a little eye, a little wing.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I just figured your out for you.

[Monet X Change]

What? What? Corvette. Corvette. Corvette Corvette.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Take. You take leave New York City. You're gonna find them on vacation. You're gonna find them in P town. You're gonna find them at Fire Island. You're gonna find them on a cruise ship.

[Monet X Change]

True.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

These guys have money. I'm gonna repeat that. P Town.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Palm Springs cruise ship. Fire Island. Especially Fire Island.

[Monet X Change]

He can't afford to go around like that. Fire island is probably.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If you're trying to get a shirt, you have to invest.

[Monet X Change]

Oh yeah, you have to invest.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You're gonna have to buy that $17 ticket to Mass Springs. You're gonna have to get yourself a $20 ferry ticket to get to the Pines.

[Monet X Change]

Sleep on the beach and find your

[Bob the Drag Queen]

sugar daddy shower in the pool. Yeah. So baby, you're gonna have to invest. You gotta save a little coin so you can get to where the sugar daddy's at.

[Monet X Change]

Starting Fire Island. That's a close one to start at Fire Island.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But these cruise ships, you will find some sugar. Yeah, I would agree with that. And the best scenario for you is you get two sugar daddies who want one sugar baby. Like an old couple who wants a young. You got double the fucking shit.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Double the money. And you could also possibly save their relationship doing some think we doing the Lord's work.

[Monet X Change]

Honey, do you think you could have a sugar baby?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The short answer is Jacob. The short answer is no. The long answer is I would rather be a sugar daddy than a sugar baby. I don't think I. I don't have the capacity to be a sugar baby.

[Monet X Change]

But you would do. But you would be someone sugar daddy.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean not. The short answer again is no. Like I would help someone like.

[Monet X Change]

Like for. For sexual favors.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think she cares anything about sexual favorites.

[Monet X Change]

I'm specifically asking for you like what would you want? If you're someone sugar daddy and you're doing this stuff, What. What do you get? What are you getting from it?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Like, we're, like, emotional. Like we're. We feel like partner. Like we're partner.

[Monet X Change]

Also, it'll be getting a third partner. Are we getting, like, another partner?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, I mean, like, for, like, for example, I make more money than both. Than both my boyfriends. This is not a secret. But also Jacob. I pay for most stuff in our relationship, but Jacob also does a lot of work. Jacob runs my entire social media, takes all of my photos, edits all of my YouTube videos. He does a lot of that stuff. And that's.

[Monet X Change]

So Jacob is a sugar baby.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Maybe Jacob's a sugar daddy and I'm the one benefiting. Honey, I haven't paid him a dollar. Honey.

[Monet X Change]

Is this our last one?

[Caller/Listener]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Work. Where are you going?

[Monet X Change]

Oh, my God. Dear Bob o', Monat, I want to organize a proposal for my boyfriend. We're gay, but I don't know what to do.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, at least they're telling us now.

[Monet X Change]

Before. I know. Before we had no idea. What's the best, most extravagant drag proposal I can do for him?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Help.

[Monet X Change]

He likes Disney, Ariana Grande dogs, drag race, Marvel movies and ballet. What should I do? Sincerely, head over heels.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Can I go first?

[Monet X Change]

Please?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, first of all, narrative. Second of all, when you say most extravagant, how much money do you have?

[Caller/Listener]

Right?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Like, I'm dead ass. Like, if you have. Let me tell right now. If you have the money, you can get almost any drag queen in the world to be part of your proposal. Bitch. If you have enough money, I promise you, RuPaul, you could get RuPaul.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, absolutely.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I probably.

[Monet X Change]

If you got the fucking Ariana Grande money and you pay RuPaul, he gonna show up.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If you don't have that much money, I would say go to a place like Screaming Queens, which is an agency that. That. That has a lot of celebrity impersonating

[Monet X Change]

drag queens based in New York, but they do it all over the country of the world.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Who's the guy from Vegas? Frankie. What's his name?

[Monet X Change]

Frankie.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

He used to run the celebrity impersonation show.

[Monet X Change]

I have no idea.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Anyway, they can help you find like, an Ariana Grande impersonator. Maybe do a Disney theme. There's. There are so many talented drag queens where. I don't care where you live. There's like, drag queens are really, really creative. They have all these, like, sewing. A lot of them. Especially in New York City. They have a lot of Performance experience, and they'd be more than happy. I just did a wedding. I didn't. They weren't. I wouldn't have them propose. I have helped you propose to before, by the way. Also, I'm here right now if. If y' all are just adorable and, like, just like. So, like, we're in love, bitch. A lot of places you go, you can just go to, like, a show. I've seen people that work the world get a meet and greet ticket and go propose there. And they. They ask the. The person organizing me, is there any chance you can get. Get Bob the Drag Queen on stage to help me propose? My boyfriend. And there have been times. There have been times when I was just like, I'm not into it. No, I have done it before every time. And I was like, oh, that sounds like a lot of fun. It's all based on how they act with us at the meet and greet. Because that time I'm doing it for free. I mean, I'm for my regular pay for the show, but, like, we'll bring them up and then, like, we'll do something during the game or something. So it depends on the queens.

[Caller/Listener]

I've.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I've done it on stage at Work the World. I've done it at bars. So you're saying the most? I think if you have all that money, you should go for, like, a celebrity drag queen. Find out your partner's favorite favorite celebrity drag queen. Get them to come to whatever town you are in, Go to their job, maybe go to a drag show. The person comes out and they go, wait, wait, actually, I have. Can I bring so and so on stage? There's so many fun things you can do. Maybe if you've never done drag, get yourself up in some unrecognizable dragon, and then this person doesn't even recognize that you're the drag queen.

[Monet X Change]

That would be extravagant, though, because you'll bust it if it's your first time.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, I would hire someone. Hire someone. Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. I would say, listen, if you like Disney and Marvel movies, maybe you can set up some scenario where you can get two Disney male princes or male characters in Disney or Marvel, like fucking Captain America and fucking Hulk or Captain America and Iron man, and set up some scenario where you think where they're gonna propose to each other, like ones that look like you and something that could be really unique and fun and cute.

[Caller/Listener]

I just thought of it.

[Monet X Change]

What? What?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It's coming to me. All right. Go to your local drag show, right? Talk to the queen, ask Them. You have to. You have to prepare the whole. You have to do all the groundwork if you're gonna save money. I want to do. Have the queen come out and do. Going to the chapel and where everyone be like, oh, this is kind of cute. And then what you have to do is you have to have the. The queen up on there in, like, this wedding dress. And then the queen can be like, oh, you're cute to your boyfriend, right? And pull him up. And then she's like, oh, this is the guy I'm marrying. And then when she gets them up there, someone can come out. And then all of a sudden, the drag queen leaves, and then you come out. Or maybe you can get him to turn around somehow, and the drag queen goes away. And then when he looks back, you're down on one knee, and you're actually the one proposing.

[Monet X Change]

That's cute.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That would be fierce.

[Monet X Change]

Make sure it's a good drag queen, though. Don't make me some Bust a bitch. And you, like, you know, make it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Do you have any recommend people who. It shouldn't be any busted drag queens. You shouldn't do it.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I mean, what's that bitch name? The one that won season eight, Kim Chi.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She was robbed. She's the real winner. Can I get bombed? You said Kimchi's the real winner of season eight. You said it several times. So who's the winner?

[Monet X Change]

I think you have options. I think making, like, two Disney princes, like, flipping that into making how it could relate to you or two Marvel male characters.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You also don't need to do everything Disney. Ernie Grande dog. Drag race, Marvel Studios ballet. It doesn't need to be everything.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I think he's just giving us a lot of options that we can shoot.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I would go with the drag, maybe some Disney, but I would stick with the drag and drag race. If you can get a drag race girl to do it. There are over 200 drag race girls just here in the United States of America. So there. And some of the girls are very affordable.

[Monet X Change]

Bitch. We here doing the same gig for the. If you want a cheap one, we're here doing the same gig for the same amount of. What you talking about?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, no, no, no. Check your paystack, honey. Check your pay stub.

[Monet X Change]

My pay sex? My pay stub.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Your pay stub. My pay sex. Listen, yours is a little stub. Why is it checked?

[Monet X Change]

Anyway, thank you for listening to this episode of Sibling Advisory.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Monet.

[Monet X Change]

What?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Rip to headphone wearers. Thank you all.

[Monet X Change]

We'll see. Y' all next week.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

All right, bye. Send us a video of that wedding thing.

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