Sibling Advicery: Homecoming Dates/Boring Boardgames

Summary

Sibling Rivalry: Sibling Advicery - Homecoming Dates/Boring Boardgames

Release Date: January 17, 2022
Hosts: Bob the Drag Queen & Monét X Change

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Episode Overview

In this advice-packed installment of Sibling Rivalry, drag icons and best friend duo Bob the Drag Queen and Monét X Change respond to listener questions ranging from homecoming crushes and long-distance relationships to imposter syndrome and boring board game nights. The episode highlights their trademark irreverent banter, unfiltered honesty, and a deeply sibling-esque dynamic, all while providing guidance with their singular blend of shade, love, and comedic insight.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Behind-the-Scenes: Lost Tapes & Patreon Shenanigans

• The duo lament a recently lost episode due to file corruption, bemoaning, “We were really gelling, we were grooving, we were living our best lives and you fucked it up.” (Monét, 01:21)
• Discussion of unreleased Patreon content—moving footage, surprise plans, and “the infamous I’m gonna walk home episode.”
• Playful comparison of Bob’s Patreon antics to political figures:
  “You are the Donald Trump of our Patreon. I am just little old Liz Warren... I am chocolate. I’m mocha, not Pocahontas!” (Monét, 08:15)
• The hosts argue about the ethics of creators voting for themselves in Patreon polls.

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2. Personal Updates: Mustaches, Eyebrows, and Recovery

• Bob discusses growing a mustache, his lifelong eyebrow situation, and ongoing recovery from throat surgery,
  “This is what my eyebrows… this is a couple of months without shaving my brows.” (Bob, 04:57)
• Monét comments on Bob’s voice post-surgery, and they riff on “healthy” voice habits for singers and performers.

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3. Listener Advice Segment

A. Self-Discipline & Motivation

Listener Question (Braxton): “How do you deal with self-discipline, self-control, and holding yourself accountable?”
Advice:

• Bob stresses celebrating small victories and not beating oneself up over missed goals.
  “Just celebrate what you’re good at, in my opinion, and just try to give yourself the discipline that you think is appropriate.” (Bob, 18:08)
• Monét emphasizes setting small, attainable benchmarks rather than being overwhelmed by big goals, using her struggle to get a storage unit as an example.
  “Starting just set small little goals and small benchmarks for yourself to help yourself get motivated and stay motivated.” (Monét, 21:10)
• The pair toy with the idea of getting a shared brick-and-mortar workspace to boost productivity, highlighting the real struggles of being self-employed creators.

B. AP Classes & High School Identity

Listener asks: How to move past the personality of being an “AP class kid”?

• Bob compares AP kids to air fryer enthusiasts—overly proud, making AP “their whole personality” (25:09).
• Both agree people should grow out of high school definitions:
  "If anyone... Don’t be proud of being the same you were when you were 18... Bitch, grow up." (Bob, 27:13)

C. Imposter Syndrome

• Both hosts admit to feeling imposter syndrome despite their success.
  “I feel like one day it’s just gonna unravel... Do I really deserve this?” (Monét, 31:34)
• Bob urges listeners to rely on their proven abilities and not let negative thoughts undermine their achievements:
  “Celebrate what I’m good at. I just rely on what I know about myself. I know that I’m funny.” (Bob, 33:21)
• Monét shares how repetition, practice, and facing failures helped her overcome performance anxiety, “If it happens, bitch, it happens. But I’m gonna go out there and sing...” (Monét, 35:00)

D. Homecoming Dates: Do I Have a Shot?

• Listener asked someone to the homecoming dance; he said he’d think about it—does she have a chance?
• Bob is blunt: “No, you don’t.” (38:35)
• Monét is more optimistic, noting high school nerves and “maybe” responses don’t always mean no.
• Bob shares a personal anecdote about being directly told “I’m not interested” on dates and recommends honest communication:
  “I don’t want to be guessing. I don’t want to guess if you like me.” (Bob, 39:02)
• Both agree: ambiguity is uncomfortable, but it’s natural in high school to navigate uncertainty and self-discovery in crushes.

E. Long-Distance Relationship Struggles

• Listener’s boyfriend just moved cities; they’re open but struggling to connect.
• Monét is skeptical of long-distance: “I don’t believe in long distance relationships... For me, no—chop it. Get a new boyfriend.” (46:11)
• Bob disagrees, citing his own successful long-distance periods with partners Jacob and Ezra:
  “If you feel like dating long distance cannot work for you, then maybe it’s time to move on. But for me, I’ve done it twice, and... both led to very strong relationships.” (49:46)
• For sexual intimacy at a distance, Monét suggests exploring remote-activated sex toys, games, and filmed encounters (safely). Bob and Jacob enjoyed sharing stories of their outside exploits to maintain intimacy:
  “If we hooked up with other guys, we would just tell each other about it... We would just give very... graphic details.” (Bob, 52:47)
• Both stress respecting boundaries and doing what fits each relationship.

F. Boring Board Games: Help!

• Listener dreads boyfriend’s “long, complicated, boring ass board games” with his friends—what to do?
• Bob says: Focus on finding at least one game you actually enjoy, since “board games are so different, so eclectic.” (55:44)
  Also: It’s OK to skip some nights—partners shouldn’t have to do everything together.
• Monét echoes: Try less frequent attendance; maybe find a game you both like as a couple:
  “Maybe go to one a month. Or maybe not at all… You don’t have to do everything with your fucking boyfriend.” (56:33)
• Both suggest finding joy in seeing partners passionate about their interests.

G. Closeted & Feeling Left Behind

• A 19-year-old closeted lesbian feels left behind as friends date/sleep with boys; asks how to “speed up” coming out and getting a girlfriend.
• Monét: Weigh the risks, be patient, and consider “what are you ok with losing versus what you might gain?” (65:02)
• Bob: Safety first. “If you feel safe coming out, then you should…” (66:01), and shares the privileges that made his coming out easier.
• Both recommend telling a stranger to “break the seal,” and warn that news will spread:
  “Once you tell one person you know, someone else you know is gonna find out.” (Bob, 68:58)
• Monét: “Once it comes out, you’re like, that was not as hard as I thought, and... then you just can’t stop telling people.” (67:46)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Sibling Riffing:
  “You look so cute to have mustache. And I don’t…” (Monét, 03:41)
  “You were like, you look so cute to have a mustache. And I don’t. And then you stopped yourself.” (Bob, 03:53)

• Advice Realness:
  “Don’t be proud of being the same you were when you were 18... Bitch, grow up.” (Bob, 27:12)
  “If you really wanted to go, it had been like, absolutely.” (Monét on the homecoming date dilemma, 38:36)

• Boardgame Battles:
  “Saying you don’t like board games is like saying I don’t like music. Board games are so different, so eclectic.” (Bob, 55:44)
  “You don’t have to do everything with your fucking boyfriend.” (Monét, 56:33)

• On Coming Out:
  “If you feel safe coming out, then you should come out.” (Bob, 66:01)
  “The first person feels so hard, but once it comes out, you just can’t stop telling people.” (Monét, 67:46)

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Important Timestamps

| Topic/Segment | Timestamp | |------------------------------------------|------------------------| | File corruption & lost episode | 01:21 | | Patreon poll shenanigans | 06:45–10:31 | | Bob’s mustache, eyebrows, voice surgery | 03:41–06:01 | | Listener: Self-discipline & motivation | 17:38–23:49 | | Boardgame studio brainstorm | 21:10–23:49 | | AP classes identity | 24:30–27:47 | | Imposter syndrome | 28:19–36:06 | | Homecoming date advice | 38:22–44:54 | | Long-distance relationships | 45:14–54:08 | | Board games are boring dilemma | 54:37–59:55 | | Closeted lesbian: coming out | 64:18–69:47 |

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Tone and Style

The episode mixes witty, unfiltered banter with moments of sincerity. Both hosts often roast each other and their listeners, but always with a foundation of warmth and camaraderie. Their humor, pop-culture references, and openness about their vulnerabilities create an engaging safe space—perfect for the relatable, if sometimes tough-love, advice on offer.

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Final Thoughts

Whether you’re navigating crush drama, fighting imposter syndrome, or bored during boardgame nights with your “white ass boyfriend,” Sibling Advicery offers real talk, hearty laughs, and maybe a little bit of tough love to help you get through it. As Bob puts it:

“I feel good about myself and I’m proud of what we had told these people.” (Bob, 69:47)

Transcript

[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

my name is Bob the Drag Queen.

[Monet X Change]

And I'm Monet X Change.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And this is sibling rivalry.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, so just so y' all know, back of Christmas Eve or two days before Christmas Eve, we did a whole advisory, recorded it for an hour and a half and oh, Caldwell to the queue. His file got corrupted and we lost a whole episode of Rapping. And I will say it was a really good one. We were really gelling, we were grooving, we were living our best lives and you fucked it up. What do you have to say for yourself?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know, I was really upset when it happened because we had to reschedule a lot of times and we also had some great conversations. We were talking about the holidays. It was, it was great.

[Monet X Change]

It was such a good one. Bob, can you uncorrupt the files?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't know how to do it. I really wish I could. I really wish I could, honestly.

[Monet X Change]

You know what? They should just release my half of the conversation and you could just, you listen to me and you just try to record it again.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know, the fans are going to want that. You know, the fans are going to be like, release Monet's half. You know that, you know, the patrons are going to be like.

[Monet X Change]

Or like a few weeks ago Jacob asked me and I forgot to send it to him, as I often do, but which I still have the footage of me moving to LA and like the whole surprise thing that we supposed to put together for our Patreon.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Did we never post that?

[Monet X Change]

You just asked me. No, I never posted it. And Then Jacob asked me for the footages of the infamous I'm gonna walk home episode when you were really mad.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'll never forget.

[Monet X Change]

I wish. Well, that part is definitely not on camera. But that shit was so funny. Jacob was like, I'm gonna call the car. And Bob just looks at me and Jacob in a serious face, pensive. I'm gonna walk home.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think you. I feel like I told Jake I

[Monet X Change]

was gonna walk home.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I effing it up, Jacob. I said I was gonna walk, but I don't think I was like. I don't think I, like, looked over my shoulder in a moment of drama and said, I'll walk. I think I probably said, I think I wanna walk. I think I need to walk home.

[Monet X Change]

No, in my. No. You fully became Heath Ledger in the Dark Knight. You had scars and a smile. You were like, I'm gonna walk.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, my God.

[Monet X Change]

Do you know that in the Dark Knight, he was licking. So it became like a tic he did in the role because his prosthetic. Cause he was talking so much.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I know. Because the prosthetics were falling off. We all have TikTok. We all have TikTok, Monet. We're all on DC Comics. TikTok. Mom.

[Monet X Change]

Okay. I will say you look very cute with this little hat and mustache. And I don't. I don't.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm like, okay, okay. She looking real cute. Okay. Monet cannot give me the way that compliment was this close to being backhanded. The way it was this. You were like, you look so cute to have mustache. And I don't. And then you stopped yourself. You're like, and I don't.

[Monet X Change]

You look like. Well, I'm saying. I was gonna say, I don't. I don't give out compliments often to you. I'll tell you. Literally. And I was just saying that to be siblingy, but I literally. Half my fucking life is talking about how great you are so far.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And it should be three quarters. And it should be three quarters.

[Monet X Change]

You look very cute with your mustache. I think you should keep this for drag. You should become a half bearded queen. You should become a mustache queen.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know, I don't see it. For me, this mustache is going away because tomorrow I'm doing a wedding, and next time you all see me, this is the end of the bob with hair on his head journey. There was like, the mustache, the beard, the hair, the eyebrows never came into play. This is actually. This is. So if you are ever wondering, this is what my eyebrows. Whenever I say I don't have eyebrows. This is what I mean. So I do have. This is me. This is a couple of months without shaving my brows. So really, that's this.

[Monet X Change]

And it's just been this way since you've been a child?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yep. My whole life, I've.

[Monet X Change]

I've always just. There wasn't, like, a time where it just fell away. This is always you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This has always been my. These have always been my eyebrows. So whenever people ask what it'd be like if I didn't shave my brows, this is. I have not shaved my eyebrows since November 3rd, when I got my. My throat surgery. And it is.

[Monet X Change]

Someone said. Did you see one of the comments? They said, what happened to Bob's new voice?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What's wrong with my voice?

[Monet X Change]

Nothing is so great. Oh, God.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Both of them meant, like, they thought my voice went back to being bad.

[Monet X Change]

Again, not bad. I think also, when you first came out of your surgery, you were talking like this. Bob, you only spoke like this. You were like, bob Ross. And you were like, yeah, well, I

[Bob the Drag Queen]

was afraid to hurt my voice. So when I would speak on the podcast, I would talk like this. And I probably should continue talking like this. And it's probably better for my voice. But the more that I, like, settled into myself, it's hard to maintain. It's really hard.

[Monet X Change]

You know, people make fun of opera singers. A lot of opera.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

A lot of opera singers, they talk

[Monet X Change]

like this, and they're like, yes. And today, that's because they speak like that's how. Okay, that's how you're supposed to speak. But speaking that way is the healthiest way. Voice. We're speaking up and lifted and speaking with your. With your soft paddle lifted and your throat open. That's the healthiest way to speak. Do. Do a lot of people see that? No, because everyone. You want to talk about how you talk, but, you know, but speaking that way is the best and the healthiest way for your chords.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But when I do hear myself going back into that voice, I'm like, oh, my God. Don't talk like. Don't talk like. But I can try. Sometimes I try. I. Every once in a while, I try to bring it up and just kind of, like, do myself a favor and by not ruining my vocal cords. Do you want to acknowledge that the patrons that you have it.

[Monet X Change]

Do you want to acknowledge that you emotionally manipulated everyone? Bob, you are. Bob, you are literally, you are the Donald Trump of our Patreon, first of all. So Bob posts. Bob, post a poll to Patreon and then a minute later, he posts this sappy picture with a whole little speech of him with his chips. Who's on my. Some.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

First of all. And everyone. I didn't post.

[Monet X Change]

Everyone in the comments were like, aw, Bob, we feel so bad for you. You look cute. Don't let Monet make you feel bad. Aw, Bob. I was like, not the. It's the sympathy votes for me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I will say this. I did not post the poll. I did post the picture.

[Monet X Change]

You and your boyfriend, you and Jacob, your little sneaky selves.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Again, Jacob and I are not one. You and Andy aren't one. Andyou and Andy don't drive. Drive a party bus. Andy drives a party bus. Okay, so. So Jacob posted the poll, and I want to point out that the poll was. Was very close to 50. 50. I was always slightly ahead of you, always. But it was very close to 50. 50 the whole time. But I was always a few. Maybe like a dozen votes ahead of you. And then I just wanted to thank everyone who was standing by me because you're during these hard times. So I posted a comment. It said, chippy here. Oh, my God, you are such a manipulator. And I just wanted to thank the people who were standing by me in this difficult time. Bob, you are.

[Monet X Change]

You are the most ridiculous person. Someone tagged us on Twitter today, and they were like, honestly, being part of the civil rivalry, Patreon is the best money I spend. These two are so stupid. And they post, like, a screenshot of the thing because our Patreon is wild. You are the Donald Trump of our Patreon. I am just little old Liz Warren. I'm just over here being Mocahantas, living my life, and Baba just over here being crazy.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, well, that was problematic. I am.

[Monet X Change]

I am. I am. I am chocolate. I'm mocha, not my haunted. I was because.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, so

[Monet X Change]

Donald Trump insinuated that Liz

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Warren, but I was just taking folks because you're a little. Here's the thing. The people who like with me on my. We were very calm, demure. Your fans are like, see? Bob ain't shit. Bob is a dumb bitch. I told y'.

[Advertiser/Host]

All.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Bob is a gaslighting this bitch. Honestly, I don't know how Monet even does this podcast. Monet, move on. Move on with your life, Monet. You don't need people like Bob in your life. Honestly, realistically, I can't listen to the podcast anymore because of Bob. It's getting too wild. It's actually bad for my mental health and my parents Are kind of like, ooh, girl, this is. So we were, like, playing it cool, but then when that poll had dropped,

[Monet X Change]

boy, please, I can't. And then I go in the poll, and I see that you and Jacob have voted for your name.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, no, no, no, no. Jacob voted for neither of us. And then I voted for me. That was not Jacob. Now, just so you know, you can also vote. You can vote for all three of them, so you have access. You could have voted anytime you want. I wouldn't.

[Monet X Change]

Because on the master count, I'm going to not be shady and vote for Jacob was at least trying to be diplomatic. And here comes. Oh, Bob Trump going to vote for himself.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, just so you know, every presidential candidate votes. They all do, and they all vote for themselves. That's not. That's not shady. You have the opportunity. You can still vote to this moment. You can still go in there and vote still.

[Monet X Change]

And, you know, and each time you vote for yourself on the MasterCard, it counts as 100 votes. I had heard that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You better shut the hell. That is not true anyway.

[Monet X Change]

That's not true.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

With that being said. Oh, wait. Also, I'm not there. Does Jacob have a microphone set up for himself? Because the fans have been like, oh, my God. Jacob has a microphone. Praise the Lord.

[Monet X Change]

Hallelujah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

Jacob does not have microphone. But what we can.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh,

[Monet X Change]

oh, it sounds good.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. Because I realized what you could do, Jacob, was. You could just. I. I just realized this, actually. We'll talk about live.

[Monet X Change]

This. This is probably boring. They don't want to hear this. Subtitles. Microphone talk. Yeah. Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So we're back with advice on my tattoo.

[Monet X Change]

You going to ask about my tattoo?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, sorry. We talked about it before, so I forgot that we hadn't talked about it because Monday night, we get on the live. We get online or. Or on this thing, we talk, and we forget what we were even talking about before and after. So Monet went to Atlanta, my hometown. Probably didn't even call my mom. Did you call my mom? I forgot, Mon. I have literally never gone to St. Lucia and not called your mom. Shut the fuck up. I have never gone to St. Lucia and not let your mom know. That is so shady.

[Monet X Change]

I mean, what about you, Bob? Last time when you were in Atlanta, did you visit your mom? Did you go say hi to her?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I talked to my mother on the phone every single day, and I did.

[Monet X Change]

And did you visit her when you went to Atlanta the last couple of years?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm gonna tell you what happened. I did not visit her in person, because I was afraid with Omicron going around. I didn't. And I had to go to the studio every day. So instead, what I did was I talked to my mom on the phone every night. We watched Drag Race together on Facebook Live also. Let me see what my mom did. So we watched Drag Race together on Facebook Messenger. And she goes, chris, how can your aunt watch? How can you make a video with all three of us? I made a Facebook room with me, my mom, and my aunt, and then my mom just turned the phone around and started filming the tv. And my aunt watched Drag Race the first episode through the tv through Messenger. I was like, this is so country. But at least I was like, this is the country's mess. So now I was not able to see my mom in person because my mom is at risk. I didn't go over to her house, but we did speak every single day when I was there.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I'm really bad at that. I mean, you know this. I talk to my mom, like, every two weeks, and she's very annoyed by that. I'm very bad at calling family.

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

Can you also please let everyone know why we're back to doing advisory?

[Monet X Change]

Oh, yeah. So we're back to the advisory because doing pit stop and doing washery is too much. It's too much. I cannot handle doing both, Bob. I can't handle doing both. It's too much.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know what?

[Monet X Change]

I'm just gonna do.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's her story. She's sticking to it. It was too much.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, my God. Bob, do not. Please stop the extra ridiculousness.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Now. I want to point out that now a lot of fans online are starting to wonder why RuPaul unfollowed you. Do you have. Do you have.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, and let's also set that straight.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, y'? All.

[Monet X Change]

This podcast, we joke around and say dumb shit. Bob started that last episode, and everyone's like, oh, my God, I want to know what Boday did. RuPaul never followed me. It was just a stupid joke. RuPaul. I don't know who? I don't know. RuPaul has never followed me. Does RuPaul. RuPaul follow you?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

RuPaul doesn't follow any of the girls. RuPaul doesn't follow anybody. Right? Any of us, girl.

[Monet X Change]

No.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

RuPaul doesn't follow us.

[Monet X Change]

By the amount of T on between Instagram and Twitter, they're like, oh, my God, what happened? I'm like, RuPaul never followed me. He never followed me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That shit tickled me so big. Everyone going to be like, oh, my God. Cuz they were all going to chick like, wow. RuPaul really doesn't follow Monet anymore.

[Monet X Change]

You are. Bob, you are the biggest shitsterrer and firestarter. You are just. You are such a shit stirrer.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

They said, wow, RuPaul really unfollowed Monet. What's going on? What's happening? I was like, y' all are wild. I was kidding. I thought it was clear that I was kidding.

[Monet X Change]

I thought it was too, but apparently it wasn't. Also, so here's my tattoo.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, yeah. So it's a koi fish. You said, I need to Google what a koi. I need to google what a koi fish is.

[Monet X Change]

It's a koi fish and a dragon and a dragonfly and, like, a tree. Maya Bailey, is it just like a.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It's just like a shy little fish, Like a little koi fish?

[Monet X Change]

No koi fish. Because I'm a Pisces. So I. So I have this space left. So I'm gonna do probably another one here because, you know, Pisces fish, etc.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I didn't know you were someone.

[Monet X Change]

A Zodiac.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I didn't know you. You was like that.

[Monet X Change]

I'm really not. I really. Bob, you know me, after my second tattoo, I've said many times they don't have meaning. He just asked. I. I literally went to him with no concept. He was like, so, what's what you thinking today? I was like, I don't know. He was like, anything. I was like, maybe a fish. He's like, okay, I can do a fish koi. I was like, oh, yeah. I love koi fish. They're really pretty. Like apples. I love koi fish. Like, I love apples. So. And he just. So he just sketches it freehand. Bob, you need to go get a tattoo for Maya. You will love him. Maya is so great.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm not avoiding. I'm not avoiding Maya work. So we are back to doing advisory. So just so you all know we are doing a peaceful transition of power. We will be releasing Hearst first impressions on my page, but we will be releasing it early on the sibling rivalry Patreon in full. And then we'll be releasing an edited down version. My first guest is going to be Ms. Heidi in closet, and I'll be getting Yanthini, and I'll be getting guests as I go. So as you heard, Monet cannot handle doing.

[Monet X Change]

It's too much.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It's too much. It's too much.

[Monet X Change]

It's too much. It's too much.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So I can't. Let's, let's, let's give some advice and get into advice.

[Monet X Change]

Wait, sitting. Oh, the first one's audio. So, Jacob, how are we playing it? Are you gonna play it, guys?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And as a reminder to you all, before we get into this, I'll remind you all that Monet and I are not experts in relationships. We're not experts in health, fitness, love. We are just professional drag queens who are. Who are very funny and who are good friends with each other. So take all this advice with a grain of salt. This is advice you certainly should not be taking. All right, what's our first. Our first audio?

[Monet X Change]

It's an audio one. Jacob's gonna play it. Hi, Bobby Monet. I am Braxton, a Patreon subscriber from Michigan.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And I just want to know, how

[Monet X Change]

do you deal with self discipline, self control, and just holding yourself accountable in general?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Because I don't know if it's my

[Monet X Change]

ADHD or my Gemini moon just wreaking havoc, but I just cannot seem to stick to any goals or plans or just anything really. So do you have any advice? Oh, you want to start? You want, you want to take this one first?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'll get started. You know, so I have things that I'm. I like, I celebrate. I like to celebrate my victories. I'm really into celebrating my victories. The things I nailed, things I'm good at. I celebrate that. And we're all going to fall short of our goals in time. Honestly. Just don't beat yourself up over it. Like, just. It's okay. It's. It's fine. You didn't, you know, reach that one goal. Baby, it's going to be okay. There are times where I was like, I was like, in this little fitness moment, I was like, I'm about to be so fit, the children are gonna gag. And I was really nailing it. And then my, my focus shifted and I started doing all this career oriented stuff. And then I let my, my physical Fitness slide away. And sometimes, you know, sometimes we're like Monet, we can't do pit stop and I can't do fitness and my career at the same time. So once. So, so. But I'm celebrating what I'm doing right now. I'm celebrating my, my accomplishments in my career. And then I'll pick back up with the fitness stuff when I can, or relationship stuff or, or hobbies or, or interests or learning a language. I'll just pick them up when I can. Just celebrate what you're good at, in my opinion, and just try to give yourself the discipline that you think is appropriate.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I agree. And also, I agree with all Bob said, but also I think because the two of us are self employed small businesses, like, we are like, we, we staying motivated for, for me is half the battle. Like getting shit done I need to do is such a struggle sometimes because you have to, you really, it really is all false to you. Like you don't have a boss telling you, hey, if you don't do this thing, you're gonna get fired. You have to stay motivated a lot. And I have a lot of trouble with that. So, like Bob said, I give myself small tasks to do throughout the week. Like if I want. If, like, for example, this is a big one. I've been trying to get a storage unit here in L. A because drag, no matter how much space you have, drag just keeps on fucking multiplying. It just keeps on taking up your life. And it's like, what am I going to do? So for like literally two weeks I've been trying to. Not even. I'm really being very gracious. For like two months I've been trying to.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That was really for like a couple of hours now. It's been fully discovered.

[Monet X Change]

So this weekend I was like, this week I was like, you know what? So out the bullshit. I'm going to set small goals. So on Monday I called, I got the space. On Wednesday I started bringing a piece here and piece there. And now I'm like almost three quarters of the way through. Like, I started just bringing things gradually as opposed to like, because initially I was like, I'm going to get the storage unit, move everything in there and get a rack and set it up. I was like, no, just do set small little benchmarks, small little goals to get it done. And it may take you longer. But I feel like that when, when you, when you see things starting, start to get a little clearer and a little neater in my, in my, in my situation, you start to See the light at the end of the tunnel, where just thinking about the big picture and try to get the big picture done immediately can be very overwhelming and to me, stop me from completing the task. So I think starting just set small little goals and small benchmarks for yourself to. To. To. To help yourself get motivated and stay motivated.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I agree. That is very good. I also Monat, part of me wants to venture on this idea with you, but part of me is like, it's so unnecessary. But the other part of my head is like, if I. If we do this, I think our productivity will go up so much. What I'm thinking to myself, like, if you and I got a brick and mortar, like, if you and I got a space that was like a storefront that was like, yeah, brick and mortar is like a building. A storefront that had, like, a podcasting studio, some storage, some dressing rooms, and even, like a small little merchandise store in the front. Like, and we went into the office every day. Like, would my productivity be, like, through the fucking roof? Would I resent it? Would I never go? Like, what would that even look like? You know what I mean?

[Monet X Change]

I don't know, but I'm saying, for what I'm paying for the storage unit, bitch, I should be putting it towards a storefront as opposed to just a place to store my shit.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What are you paying? Type in the Facebook chat, what are you paying?

[Monet X Change]

We can just bleep it out. I'm paying.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, my God. How big is it?

[Monet X Change]

It's 12 by 12.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, my God, girl. Okay, my surgery. I'm not afraid to say mine. Mine is like $300 and it is massive. It's huge. It's in. It's in Burbank, where you rent.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, see, mine is right by me. Mine is right by me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, no, girl, I'm in Burbank. Take your shit to Burbank. Take your shit out to Burbank, girl.

[Monet X Change]

Maybe. Maybe. We'll see. But I think maybe getting a storefront will be great so we can have our podcasting set up and also a place to put all of our shit. But the thing is, I don't want to because you're going to start stealing my stuff.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Bitch, I don't want your fucking shit. I do not want your drag. I will look at.

[Monet X Change]

I will look at a video. You go have a little Monet outfit on.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'll be like, oh, last thing I want is a leotard that's all loose in the booty. Sagging off the ass. One time I wore Monet's Leotard in Paris and work the world, bitch. The way that shit was sagging, what. It should have been a wagon. I was like, this is wild.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. So for you, my dear friend, I say setting small benchmarks, small goals that you can accomplish that will make the big one smaller and smaller and smaller. And that was so. So whether that's dieting, maybe if you. If you. Your motivation is to go to the gym and you're like, that seems crazy. Maybe you can download a thing to start doing small workouts at home. And then when you start getting comfortable with those, you're like, oh, I can. I can do more. I can run. I can. Like, setting small things to help you get to the bigger picture, I think is always.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Do you think you and I should get a little storefront? I mean, like, I'm thinking to myself, like, what would I. What would be the benefit? Why should we do it? Would it be worth it? You know what I mean?

[Monet X Change]

I think. Yeah. I think it can kind of like Willems, we can have a place where we can have a full. Like, a studio.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Like a YouTube studio and everything. Yeah. Like.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, honestly, we'll think about it. We both use it. Yeah, we think about it. Okay. Yeah. Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I also spent all this money for the studio you're sitting in.

[Monet X Change]

Just move it. You can just move it over there, and then.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And then you'll pay for half of it.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, none of the hell I won't.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Then we will not be moving anything. We'll be buying new stuff. Play the next clip.

[Monet X Change]

Bob, what advice you got for the school? Kids like me that took AP classes in high school, like, it was their whole personality.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, I think this is because I tweeted out a while back that I was like, people who took AP in high school really made it their whole. Really? It was like, they really made that their s. Like, it was. You know how AP folks were?

[Monet X Change]

I wait. My school didn't have ap, but I went to art school. We didn't have AP classes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No.

[Monet X Change]

Advanced placement? No, we did not. I mean, well, okay, let me. Maybe we did. The people I hung out with were not an AP class, so my friends was in AP classes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If you live outside of America. I don't know if they. What they call it other places, but it's called AP is advanced place. They're just really. They're basically college courses for high school kids. You can also apply them toward college credit. Sometimes yes, sometimes not. But they're just really, really hard classes for high school kids. To take. And I was like, the people who were in it were like, the people in high school who had AP classes act like, the way people with air fryers act today. You know, people with air fryers act. There's. There's a clip online.

[Monet X Change]

It was this woman.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It was like, pov, you're someone. You don't own an air fryer. Like, you talking to the air fryer. She was like, does someone who doesn't own an air fryer just speak to me?

[Monet X Change]

I will say, I love my air fryer. It's great. I can make. I can make crispy, tender salmon in, like, 10 minutes the same way I just made some chicken fries in my air fryer. The chicken thighs in my air fryer the other day, they were delicious

[Bob the Drag Queen]

work. I have. I've never. I've never tried an air fryer, but people who have them, really, they do not be joking around. I did in college have an Express 101. This was one of the best. I stand by this. The Express 101 is one of the best, like, kitchen appliances that's ever been sold anywhere.

[Monet X Change]

It is the George Foreman Grill. Bitch would like to have a world war. You know what?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm gonna do it. Jacob. We're gonna order an Express 101. We're gonna do a YouTube video bringing back the Express 101. This thing was. If I cook, will you come over and try the food I'm making for

[Monet X Change]

the 49th time, bitch, my name is not Monet. My name is Monet.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Please, I have an accent. Monet.

[Monet X Change]

What do you want?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

[Monet X Change]

So AP glasses. How can he distinguish himself from his AP glasses?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't know. I feel like he's just being sassy. But, I mean, Mary, it was high school. I was talking to someone the other day online, and they were like, it was someone from, like, I can't remember as well, but someone's like, you've changed.

[Monet X Change]

And it was someone I knew my

[Bob the Drag Queen]

freshman year of college. I was like, bitch, I am 35. When you met me. I was 18 years. I was an 18 year old alcoholic failing out of college. Yes, I've changed. Yes. I should hope that the person you're talking to now is not. If anyone. Don't be proud of being the same you were when you were 18. If you were in your mid-30s, that is not. Don't. Don't be like, yeah, I've been the same the whole time. Bitch, grow up.

[Monet X Change]

Damn that bitch.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Grow up.

[Monet X Change]

Bitch, I'm busy. That's a really good Priyanka song. Bitch I'm Busy is a good song.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Honestly, Priyanka, really, the way her whole reign was immaculate. I mean, it was fucking immaculate. The videos, the costumes, the photo shoots, the step down look. Yeah, the video to go with the step down look. The humor, great. 10 out of 10. Really fucking did it.

[Monet X Change]

All right, here we go. Hi, Bob and Monet. So you two are very confident people. So I'm just wondering if you have ever faced imposter syndrome, and if you did, how did you all deal with it? Thank you. Just. I want to read the definition of imposter syndrome for myself and also anyone else who doesn't know the exact. Like, I kind of think I know what it is I wanna. Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud work.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

There's also a really great restaurant in LA called Impasta, and it's a vegan pasta place. And it's so good. It is so good.

[Monet X Change]

I went to a place called Crossroads in. In West Hollywood with all vegan food. Again, really good. Louisiana. Louisiana really has some good vegan stuff.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The other day I thought I ordered Jacob some vegan food and I fully fed him. I fully fed him chicken.

[Monet X Change]

Jacob ate chicken. You fed Jacob chicken?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob. What happened?

[Monet X Change]

And so did you, like.

[Advertiser/Host]

Did you.

[Monet X Change]

Did it like upset your stomach? Did you throw up? I didn't realize until I went to order. I was like, this is really good vegan chicken.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I went to order from the same place and it was totally not. But. But also in my. Okay, there's no defense and I apologize profusely. I went to the website and the first thing on the website was this one dish and it was like vegan meats. And I was like, oh, this is great. It's vegan. And I was like. I was like, I think it was. It was vegan. And then I offered a guy double checked. I went to the website and it was. The first thing it says is plant based. Option. Plant based, whatever. And then. But also. So. But Jacob's. Jacob's. Jacob's taking it in stride. And you know, Jacob will. Yeah, I will say Jacob will. I don't know if Jacob want me to say this on the podcast or not, but Jacob has unvegan for or unveggied for my family when he goes back to Atlanta because my family won't cook. They won't. They will not. I don't think my family gets what vegan or vegetarian. Like, they don't get it. Like like, they'll be like, oh, Jacob's vegan. They'll be like, oh, so you'll eat chicken, right? That's how.

[Monet X Change]

That's. I try to explain that to Andy about, you know, Andy's sober. And I'm like, so in. In every. If you're West Indian, y'. All. Y' all know this. West Indians, like, alcohol and drinking is just so much a part of the culture. Like, you go to people's house and you are offered a drink. Like, it's just. It's baked into the culture.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Can I just say that no matter where you go in the world, no matter where you go in the world, someone there goes, oh, in Ireland, we drink. Oh, baby. In Wisconsin, we drink. Honey, it's not that. In Brooklyn, we drink, baby.

[Monet X Change]

No, it's not that. So I told Andy, so when you, like, meets my family in St. Lucia, like, I told him, like, the first day, my mom is going to be very confused because she's going to offer you a drink. You'll say, no, I'm sober. She's going to be like, and what is that like? And. But like, after, like the first day or two, then she'll become protective about it because again, family's gonna come over, they're gonna offer him a drink, and. And I. I'm telling this exactly how it's gonna play out. And then she's gonna be like, oh, no, he doesn't drink. And then she'll start to be like, very, like, mama bear. Like, don't offer him any alcohol. He don't drink. See, so.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But I'm sober, so you'll have wine.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, so to ask the question about imposter syndrome, absolutely. I definitely identify with that feeling of imposter syndrome. Like, I feel like one day it's just gonna unravel. Like, well, for me, myself, like, I'm like, why am I here? Do I really deserve this? Have I really worked that hard? And I definitely have those feelings. And I think that's normal, I think, for people, because, I mean, I don't wanna toot my own horn, but it says here that it disproportionately affects high achieving people. So if you're feeling that way, baby, you're probably high achieving. And I think there's always that fear that you aren't good enough and what you. And where you are and what you've gotten, that you're not worthy of it. And I don't think that's a. That's a. That's a strange thing, people to have I definitely have it at times, and I think it's just working through, like, no, I am worthy of what I have. I worked hard to get there. And. And I'm not an imposter. I'm motherfucking Monet, you know, Roberto.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, no, that's true. And especially when you. It's like, when you're. It can be so tough when you're in the moment or you're trying to, like, do something. Like, for example, I'm here doing this. This wedding gig, and there was a moment where I kept thinking to myself, like, I don't. I'm gonna be doing, like, some comedy about this couple that I. That I just met today, and I'm doing the comedy tomorrow. And I'm. But I have. Let me try now. I have written comedy for myself for dozens of people. It is almost always. It's. It's always funny. It always lands. But in my head, I'm just like. I remember being Hotel Today, being like, man, I wish I could sing. Because if I could sing, I would just go there and sing a song. But that's also invalidating what singers go through. But in my head, I was like, if I could sing, I would just bring a track, bust out a song, and fucking scoot. They would just be obsessed because I was singing so well. And then I'm like, I have to write this fucking Write these jokes. But these people, I don't know, yada, yada, yada, and what they think is funny. But I gotta say, like, when you rely on what you know about yourself, that's why I said, celebrate what I'm good at. I just rely on what I know about myself. I know. I know that I'm funny. I mean, is. I mean. But does everyone think I'm funny? Probably not. I mean, everyone doesn't even. There are people in this world who don't think Celine Dion can sing. So if there can, you imagine there are people in this world who think so. I have an aunt who says that Beyonce can't sing. So listen, if I have an aunt that thinks Beyonce can't sing, there's probably going to be someone out there who thinks that I'm not. That I'm not funny, but I know. But I can rely on my experiences as a comedian getting me this far in life. My jokes have gotten me all the way here. You know what I mean?

[Monet X Change]

I'm telling you that in college, and I know all. All singers. Amber Riley was talking about this on her TikTok the other day. She was like, no, Matter if It's one person. Ten people, a thousand people, 10 million people. She's like, I always get nervous, and there's always a part of me that thinks that I don't sound good and I'm going to, like, flop. Like, she is like. And I, in college, like, that shit used to cripple me. No matter how much I will be, I will be take. I'll be doing voice lessons all week and practicing and doing my bit and sounding so good when I see my voice teacher. But we would have these, these things called studio class. And every time I was like, I'm going to get up there, I'm going to sound like a fucking frog, and I'm going to. They're going to find out that I really can't sing and, like, send me home. It was like a crippling feeling every time we had studio classes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

How did you overcome it?

[Monet X Change]

I overcome it. I overcame it by knowing I was like, listen, if I'm putting in the time to practice and I sound good in the practice room, I was like, I can't let that fear that I'm gonna crumble in front of everyone stop me. I was like. I was like, if it happens, bitch, it happens. But I'm gonna go out there and sing and use a technique that I've been practicing and paying $52,000 a year for carrying me through studio class.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Must be nice.

[Monet X Change]

It might be nice.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm trying to get like, you, my boy.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I'm trying. I'm trying to pay them off. Biden, forgive my. How about that?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I, I. Singing is nerve wracking. I did, I did that saying for

[Monet X Change]

Ezra's family, like, when you went for Christmas.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So Ezra's a musician and Ezra's never really, like, sang for his family. Really, really sang for them. And I was like, ezra, you should sing. Ezra's dad was like, you should do a talent show. You and your cousin should do a talent show. And they were like, yeah. And I was like, ezra, it'd be fun. I was like, ezra, his cousin. His young cousin named Camila, who is so sweet and really confident. This amazing girl, she. She was like, a little bit nervous. And I was like, ezra, if you do it, it'll convince Camila to get up there and do something too. And then. And. But Ezra needed convincing. And I was like, you know what? I'll sing. So I sang.

[Monet X Change]

I say what you're saying.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I sang have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas for Ezra's family to give to. Like, encourage Ezra to sing his Songs for his family. But also, it's different when you know you can't sing. Like, I had nothing writing on it. Like, if these people don't think I can sing, I'd be like, bitch, I don't think I can sing either. You know, can I say, looking at

[Monet X Change]

this thing and seeing, like this microphone on my thing, I was like, I want like a little. A simple little sternum piece Tattoo.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What? Years ago, I told you I was gonna get lines on my neck. I was gonna get a neck piece. You're like, what? I was like, I just want like a line coming down and then maybe going down the side. You were like, ew. And then you are sitting here being like, oh, I think I want like a little piece coming down. I don't want.

[Monet X Change]

First, I never said the word line. I never said neck. Those two main. The two biggest words and what you're getting.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, I'm looking at the mic. Is your sternum going up in there?

[Monet X Change]

Okay, Your sternum is not. Bitch, your sternum is not up here. Your sternum is here.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is your sternum. I know where a sternum is, Mary.

[Monet X Change]

Apparently you don't.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Penny,

[Monet X Change]

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[Monet X Change]

All right, shall we go on to the next one? Jacob, are there any more audio or the rest? Text the text. Okay, I'll read the first one.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

All right.

[Monet X Change]

Dear Bob and Monet, I like this guy, but I asked him out to the homecoming dance at my school. He said he wants to think about it. Do you think I have a shot with Him. No question mark.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, you don't.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. If you really wanted to go, it had been like, absolutely. Like, I'm trying to think if in high school or whatever, someone that you really like asked you to do something unless you were really nervous that you would fuck it up, that could be a thing. Bob, maybe he's like, I really like him, but I don't want to. I can't dance. And everyone doesn't know I'm gay or I don't know this person. I'm guessing they're queer. Look at me. Just assuming there may be factors. Why he said why, they said, think about it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean, there could be an option. There is a chance that maybe this guy has multiple suitors and he's weighing the odds. But I know that, me personally, I do not like to feel uneasy. I don't want to be guessing. I don't want to guess if you like me. People who are like, does he like me? That shit. I don't have the emotional capacity to tango with someone not trying to guess if they like me. I need to know up front, do you like me? Checkbox, yes or no, my nigga. You know what I mean? And I think if you feel dating and I think if for you, that's You. That's. That's part of your dating. That's never been part of my dating. I've never dating.

[Monet X Change]

I mean, like. Like in high school, like, Bob in high school, this is not. They're not adults. This is high school. High school. I think that's part of the thing in high school. Like, again, your kid.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That is your people. There are people who know they like each other, sure.

[Monet X Change]

But for the majority of high school, I think a lot of people who went to high school slash, are in high school can identify with feelings of those butterflies. Like, because you're still trying to. You're still discovering who you are. You don't. You don't quite know exactly all the things you like, how you like, what attracts people to you, what you attracted to people. I think that in high school, you're growing to figure what that is. So I don't think it's weird to be like, I don't know if this guy likes me. And that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That.

[Monet X Change]

That feeling is not strange for people in high school, for young people.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Speak for yourself. I had two girlfriends in high school, and there was never a time where me and either my girlfriends were like, do we? Do we? Like, I don't know if we.

[Monet X Change]

Well, y' all became girlfriend and boyfriend. So Y', all. Of course you knew that. But this person, they're not boyfriend and girlfriend. They're trying to see if this person does like them there. So that's why this person didn't say, hey, be my boyfriend and say, do you want to go to the dance together? And then from the person saying yes or no to that, you can decipher. Well, I guess that person likes me. Like, they're trying to figure that out.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

All I'm saying is, I don't like to guess if people like me. I've never liked this, not since I was in high school. I don't like to feel insecure on the person that I'm dating or on a. Like, for example, years ago, I went on a date with Thorgy's roommate. Oh, cute. Really cute brown guy. And I had another situation like this where I went on this date with other guy. They're almost the exact same date. I went on a date with this other guy that. That was good friends with Mila Jam. He's like this.

[Monet X Change]

I remember this.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And he was like this. Like. I think. I think he was like this. Like, I wasn't gonna say his name, but damn, he's so. He's actually really, really cute. Anyway, so on the date. On the date, beep out his name, because this is not gonna show him the good life. Why on the date, they both, at one point, on different dates, were like, I'm not into you.

[Monet X Change]

They said that with words.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

With, like. In no unclear terms.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, what did they say? Did they say, I'm not into you?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It was like. It was like, while on the day. They were like, you know, I am not. This is just. This is just a little hangout because I'm not interested, like, in so many words.

[Monet X Change]

Got it. Okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So as soon as I heard that, I was like, what? Like. Cause one time we were at this Thai restaurant in Hell's Kitchen, me and Mila's friend. And the other time we were at. Me and Thornton's roommate were down at Rice to Riches on the Lower east side. And I'm sitting here, like, buying this nigga fucking. I'm eating rice pudding like an asshole, looking at this guy who's like, this is nothing. This will never be anything. You eat rice pudding like a dumb bitch. This will never happen. Ever

[Monet X Change]

broke me. But you never broke.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But never laugh. Like, oh, my God. And I hate that feeling so much. It's such a. And I've been in that situation before. I don't like it. I need to know. Know up Front if the person likes me. I don't. I don't want. I don't play games. I'm not gonna call you. I'm not gonna. I mean, I'll call you, but I'm gonna, like, call. Wait for you to call, then call you, and then I don't want to text a lot, so I'm gonna text you. I mean, I want to text you, call you when I want to call you. And if. And if we don't like each other, like, like those two, let me know up front. It's not. It's not gonna. It will. It will never happen for you. Like, like, right, like, like, what's that? Juilliard told that little Axel kid on TikTok you were. This is a kid on Tik Tok who.

[Monet X Change]

Who.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Who was like, didn't get accepted to Juilliard. And then all of his fans, like, stormed Juilliard's Instagram, gave them one star reviews on Yelp. Being like, you need to let Axel in. I cannot believe you guys did not let Ax Lynn flooding. He got an interview with Inside, Inside Edition. Charlie.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, my God.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Charlie Puth was like, it's okay, buddy.

[Monet X Change]

Tik Tok.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jeremy Ohares is like, it's not a big deal. People get rejected all the time. And I was like, why is it

[Monet X Change]

the power TikTok Girl.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Girl. Truly. Truly.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. Okay, well, yeah, but you. That's. When you were a grown adult, you're a full function, paying for your. Paying your own rent, taking people out on dates. Yeah, that's. That's a different situation. I think this person in high school, I think it's okay to figure that out in high school. And I think that again, you're finding out what you like. And asking someone to a dance is a perfect step to find out if the person's into them. And so they're asking for advice. If the person said, I'll think about it, I. To me, that's not a no. Maybe the person. Other people have asked some other people that they're interested in. So them saying, think about it. I think that's a maybe. But to me, leaning on the side of not interested, I think it's also. I don't know.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think it's also okay to set a boundary for yourself that you don't. That you don't have to be someone's second choice, that you don't have to let someone gather their thoughts. I mean, it might limit your. Who. Who you have, who you hook up with or date or go on dances. With or. Or share lollipops with or whatever high school kids do. But you don't.

[Monet X Change]

Have you seen Euphoria? That's what kids are doing a lot.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We ain't got shit on Monet in middle school. Let's get that clear, bitch. If. If Rue. If Ru saw what Monet was doing in seventh grade, she'd be like, I said, God damn. But we thought Euphoria High was crazy.

[Monet X Change]

This is just.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But anyway, so it's okay to be like, I, you know what? You can get your life together. I. But that's just. That's just how I roll. That's just me. What do I know? What do I know? I'll read the next one. Dear Bob and Monet, my boyfriend just moved to the new city. My boyfriend, I think it's. My boyfriend and I just moved to new city and we decided to stay together.

[Monet X Change]

Here it is.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Let's go back. Dear Bob, Monet, my boyfriend just moved to a new city and we've decided to stay together. I love him very much, but long distance is just hard. I feel like we should be talking more, but sometimes there's just nothing to talk about. I also find phone sex to just kind of be awkward. We're gay and open, but there's. We're still struggling to connect sexually over the distance gap. Any tips for keeping up with a good long distance relationship? Sincerely, Vanessa Carlton Jacob. I mean, I think we're gay open as in like they're an open relationship.

[Monet X Change]

I'm assuming that they mean.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean, like we're open to new stuff, I think. Yeah, yeah, you go with this one first.

[Monet X Change]

No, I feel like long distance relationships are. I don't believe in it. I don't. I don't believe in long distance relationships. Have people made them work? Sure. For me. No, I. I mean, I just don't. Well, I think your situation is a little different because y' all were together, I'm assuming for a good, good chunk of time, that's when there's. So you guys have had a chance. But it doesn't seem like that because if a couple is together for a long time. Like for example, if you and Jacob were long distance. Now y' all have been together for three going on four years. Like y'. All. There's so much that y' all have connected with about and so much y' all know about each other, keeping a connection over distance would not be an issue. But this seems like maybe it was new ish than they are long distance. And I feel like setting up that connection. Is it possible? Sure. For me. I don't believe in it. Bitch, chop it. Get a new boyfriend.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I disagree completely. Jacob and I had only been dating for a few months, for about four or five months when I moved to New York City. And Jacob and I were long distance for a couple months after that. And there were times, like, two. I said a couple of months. I didn't say a couple years. I said a couple of months.

[Monet X Change]

A couple of months.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It's not like you and your two weeks to two months situation.

[Monet X Change]

But also, you travel for work. Didn't you go. You went to. You went over there in the midst of y' all being separated, like, in the distance? No, Jacob can't confirm or deny. Jacob said, yes, you did.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I didn't go to. I didn't. I did not go back to Berkeley.

[Monet X Change]

But you saw him when.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, Jacob came to. Jacob came to New York City once, but I did not go to.

[Monet X Change]

Whatever. You saw each other.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay. All I said was I didn't go to Berkeley anyway. And this person just moved. They're probably gonna see each other. But anyway, what I'm getting at is. And also, not to mention that Ezra and I were long distance for a very. For like, over a year. Over a year. Ezra and I were long distance. And there are also times where me and Jacob. Okay, so here's the thing. Jacob and I do not, like, sit on the phone and cackle for hours. Jacob and I call each other, and then for, like, 10 minutes, we, like, catch up on some memes. Some work, some we say we love you, we laugh about things. We share things that we're interested in right now. But Jacob and I, now, to this day, Jacob and I, even at the time, Jacob and I, we did not spend, like, hours and hours, which is

[Monet X Change]

so crazy, because anyone knows Bob is a phone person. Bob would be on.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I.

[Monet X Change]

Bob would be on the phone with somebody for three hours. That's so crazy to me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It's just that Jacob and I's relationship was never, like us just sitting on the phone, like, on the edge of the bed with your feet, you know, dangling like, you know, with your feet behind you.

[Monet X Change]

Turn every situation into a fucking brandy of sitting up in my room skit. Everything is not cutesy, cuddly, Bob. You can talk in the phone. Somebody also.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's how different relationships involve different people. For example, I have friends like me and you. We talk on the phone, but me and Alfredo, we don't talk on the phone. But me and Alfredo are really good friends. We just don't. We just. We just know the kind of. Kind of like hang out, like talk on the phone for a long time. We have very short phone conversations and then we're. We're done. Me and Mateo have long. Me and Nick have long conversations than me and Patty. You know, I think it's just about how people. Different people's dynamics are. I think that it is possible to have a long distance relationship. I've seen a lot of really successful long distance relationships work out. And I think that, you know, I think that for the, like, for me and Ezra's dynamic, for whatever reason, we talked on the phone more than me and Jacob did when we were long distance. But maybe that's just because that's what I. That's what that specific relationship needed. And Jacob and I. Maybe because Jacob and I had more time established together for like four to five months as a couple, we didn't really need it so much, but we were. But when Jacob moved in, it was lovely. And we were apart. It was lovely. And when we lived together again after being apart, it was lovely as well. Jacob came to visit once and was like, oh, I think I'll move here. I think if you feel like dating long distance cannot work for you, then maybe it's time to move on. But for me, I've done it twice, and. And they both led to very strong relationships.

[Monet X Change]

Yes. You saying twice, I mean, I guess. I guess you're counting you and Jacob as long distance, but I don't feel that because I. I mean, I'm out of your relationship, obviously, but I just don't feel like it was like a long distance like that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, you better use your experience to qualify what my relationship was. You better go off one day.

[Monet X Change]

Y' all were together for five months, separate for two, and then Jake and moved to New York.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

First my tooth. First my tooth, then my relationship. What else do you want to decide for me?

[Monet X Change]

Again? I do think long distance can. Okay, you're asking for advice how you can connect sexually over the distance gap. I think something that we plan on maybe doing. Yes, it did. We are gang open. We're struggling to connect sexually over the distance gap.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, you don't. Okay. You don't. You also don't need to connect sexually if you're.

[Monet X Change]

If that's what he wants. We keep on saying he.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Is it. Is it he?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, my boyfriend. But we don't know.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This could be a woman. We have no clue.

[Monet X Change]

That's what I'm saying. So let's say they let's use they pronouns. We don't know who they are. It's a gay couple, two guys.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, you give your advice first and I'll give mine about the sexuality stuff sexual sexually.

[Monet X Change]

If you're trying to connect sexually, maybe I would advise getting toys. They have these little. These little butt thingies. You can put them in vaginas as well, I'm assuming. But you there, you can get a little butt vibrator situation where you. You guys buy it and whoever wants to put in their booty and one has a control and maybe that's like a fun toy that you guys can connect with over the distance that you guys can play around with and how that can percolate your sexual desires. Maybe trying. There are. There's a good one. I forget what it's called. It's called fun loops. Or is this board game for couples, for distance coup for long distance couples. And you guys both get this piece and you guys play together and you can guys, you guys can explore sexual things in that way. But yeah, there are fun games and toys you can buy that can help you connect though you're long distance.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I am not gonna. I. I have a sneaking suspicion that Jacob does not want me to talk about our.

[Monet X Change]

How we kept things spicy.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob, can you confirm or deny any

[Monet X Change]

of this that I'm saying, Jacob, Bob is assuming that you do not want to talk about you guys sexual long distance proclivities. Is that correct?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay.

[Monet X Change]

You said you can't.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So. So something that Jacob and I did to. To. To stay connected, we did like a phone sex thing like once or twice video thing. But honestly what Jacob and I did mostly and it really worked for us was if we hooked up with other guys, we would just tell each other about it.

[Monet X Change]

And that was.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That was fun sexually. To hear about Jacob's exploits, for him to hear about mine. We would just give very serious detail, graphic details about what we did with the person. So if you. So if you fucked my boyfriend when I was in New York City, I found out about it. I found out.

[Monet X Change]

But. But do not say that you held Jacob's hand because then Bob would not be able to take it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No pda. No. I said I have a hard time holding hands. You can hold Jacob's hand all day. But. So Jacob and I would talk about what we did with other people. And we found that really exciting. And if you guys are. You said you're open. If you find that interesting or exciting or sexy, I say give that a shot because you're getting to have sexy talk and talking about sex. Sex, that was really, really fun for me. So give it a shot.

[Monet X Change]

And some, some people might also be into filming. Like if you are hooking up with someone and they're okay with you filming, like film it and then send it to your partner. If you guys are into that and they can like it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Be careful with what you film and put on the Internet. Let me tell you right now, once it is on the Internet, it is practically never not there. Let me say that one more time. I'm gonna say that one more time. What you put on the Internet, it basically never leaves. And if someone wants to hard, like if someone tries hard enough, they can find it. It's just about.

[Monet X Change]

And put an NFT on it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, it's just about how bad someone wants and how skilled they are at finding those things. So I'm gonna throw that out there. Will you ever retire from drag?

[Monet X Change]

I don't know the answer to that question. Oh, so where my career is going to go?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Let me rephrase that. Let me rephrase that. Will you ever, Will you retire?

[Monet X Change]

I knew I saw it coming a mile away.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, let's do, let's get to the next one. It's my turn to read.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Go.

[Monet X Change]

Dear Bob and Monet. My white boyfriend is really into long, complicated, boring ass board games. I've been going to board game nights with him and his friends, but they're low key. The worst. I want to hang out with his friends, but like these board games are bad. Bad. I still want to be present and meet his friends, but I don't feel like it's fair to hijack the night and make everybody play a game I like. What do I do? Sincerely, stranded on Catan.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Did Patty write this about our video game group? So, you know, I don't usually play a lot of board games and Jacob is like, okay. So my partners are very, they have very different interests than I do. Jacob is very into like Pokemon. Jacob's into board games. Jacob's into anime. And Ezra is into like lesbian indie music, like wholesome tick tock content and like hiking. Not my interest. Right. So sometimes when I go with Ezra to something where we're like throwing axes and I'm like, I am. This is why we're throwing axes. This is wild.

[Monet X Change]

Wild.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And I, I try to find the fun in that thing. And it's also okay to just kind of do, let your partner do stuff, separate without you and just have the fun that you have together. Like if you, if you it depends on how bored you are at the games. If the games are really, if it feels soul sucking and draining, they just don't go and just let your partner have fun with your friends, you know what I mean? And just do the other stuff they do. It can't be the only thing they do. And there's also an opportunity that you can just. Here's the thing. I was telling Ezra this. Ezra was like, I don't like video games. And I was like, okay, that's too broad of a statement. Saying you don't like board games is like saying I don't like music. Board games are so different, so eclectic. There's probably a board game you like. There's probably a board game that you actually would have fun and be interested in. So saying like, I don't like board games is just. It's just too broad of a statement, in my opinion.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, yeah, I agree. I mean, I have, I have a white ass boyfriend that does he. He likes a lot of white people. Andy likes hiking, he likes camping, he likes doing all that stuff. And, and again, like, Bob, I'm not a camper, I'm not a hiker. That's not my thing. But I do, because your partner, I feel like having some experiences are very nice to have. And recently I went on a hike. I'm not a hiker. But it was fun to try it did I love it? I didn't love it, but it definitely. I was like, oh my God. Actually this was a fun thing. But you are doing the board games and you don't like them. Like you have done them many times and you don't like it. So I think maybe I agree with Bob. Just because you're a couple does not mean you have to do every single thing together. Does not mean you have to be present at every board game. Like maybe go to. Instead of if they have one every week, go to one a month. Or maybe not at all. Like you don't have to do everything with your fucking boyfriend. Like he can have his game out with boyfriends and that can be that. And I. And he's into board games too. And I've been playing Star Wars, Outer Rim board game. And again, it's not something like I don't know a whole bunch about it, but trying to figure it out with your partner is fun too. Maybe you guys can find a board game that you guys can do, just the two of y'. All. And maybe you knowing the board game more and being able to teach people at board game night will make it more fun for you. I don't know. But maybe find different things about the game that you're playing that will get you excited about it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What if you made your own board game? What if your partner got together and made your own board game? You found a way. I think that sounds. That sounds really fun to me, coming up with some rules. I mean, I feel like most board games are based. There's probably like 10 different models for board games, and card games are all based off some version of that. Just like Apples to Apples is cards against humanity. You know, they're all some version of the other game. Maybe there's. There's a way for you to come up with something maybe that could be fun. And also, there are times when, like, for example, a lot of my friends like Pokemon. Monet likes Pokemon. Jacob likes Pokemon.

[Monet X Change]

Monet likes Pokemon. Bitch, I ain't no fucking Pokemon. I like Pokemon. In middle school when they first came out, I don't know nothing about no damn Pokemon. So you even know me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You the one who's not like you. Whenever y' all talking about games, you're like, oh, I play shield and I play blue, but I don't play this. I.

[Monet X Change]

Bob, I have never said that. You are confusing me with one of your other black friends. Who else is black and bald?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob, that sound angry. You don't play. You never play any Pokemon games In.

[Monet X Change]

In. In middle school when I had the Nintendo D, not the ds. What's the one before the ds, Jacob? Yeah, the Game Boy color. That's the last one I had. And I had the Pokemon games that came out for that. I have wrong friend. Game Boy Advance.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, well, I wrong. The thing is. Okay, sure, whatever. The thing is, I've heard you talking about Pokemon. I never watch Pokemon. The show just did not cross my field of vision. So I have no reference. Not even in middle school. I just. I just never watched it. Alfredo really loves Pokemon. But when Alfredo or Jacob are talking about it, the fact I love watching people talk about things they love, it is really exciting for me. It's really fun. It is really exciting. Even when Ezra's talking about music that I don't particularly like, he loves it so much. That is. That I am interested in. That's why I. That's why I like watching documentaries. Me monetary. Having a discussion a while back, like a little. A little mini argument about documentaries with Jacob's parents the other day, actually. And it's like the documentary. As long as the. The documentarian is really passionate about what they're talking about. It doesn't matter what the documentary is. It can be interesting if the documentarian is really passionate and loves talking about whatever the thing is.

[Monet X Change]

And I'm not saying that's not true. My point was that's not true for me. If. Bitch, you could be. It could be a. This person could love light bulbs. If you do a fucking documentary about light bulbs, I'm not interested. I'm not gonna find it. I'm not gonna find it engaging. No matter how great the content is, no matter how excited you are. For me, that doesn't excite me. I like watching documentaries about things that I want to know more about. For example, Jacob's mom, the lovely Mrs. Ritz, brought up the General Sal Jock documentary. Bitch, do I do. Did I have a knowledge for general style? But no, I eat general style chicken. And I find it interesting to find out who the fudge general style was and why everyone talks about it. I find that interesting also.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

One day. I don't want to rehash the conversation Monet was on. Monet was acting wild this day. So what happened was I was like, you know what would be interesting?

[Monet X Change]

I think it's time I really quick. I like how it's always Monet was wild.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It is never.

[Monet X Change]

I was acting well. It's always me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I didn't.

[Monet X Change]

You were a while consider.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, like I said. Anyway, so Monet was like, so Rose. But I don't think she loves being called Miss Ritz. Her name is Rose. Rose.

[Monet X Change]

Rose.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Not you aging Jacob's mom.

[Monet X Change]

I have respect. So you calling her Rose?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She asked me to call her. I said, you want to call you Ms. Rose?

[Monet X Change]

Jacob is sending me eyes right now. His mom does not like that. They just know that you just an ignorant ass nigga and you like calling people by their first dad.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I said, you want me to call you Ms. Ritz? So she goes, no, call me Rose. Anyway, so Rose goes. She was like talking about this General south thing. And then I said I actually wanted because Jacob's sister makes documentaries as well. And I was like, I want it. Well, she made a documentary. And I was like, I want to make a documentary called Finding the Demon Twink. It's about the demon Twink. And they didn't know what the demon Twink was. I was like, it's so interesting because there was this. There was this thing online where a lot. Where a lot of people were interested in like, oh, my God, who is the demon Twink? What's going on? Why did he throw the Drink. Like, why was the Britney Cruise? Has anyone heard from him? And Monet was like, Monet was making this argument. She was like, well, would you say that more people know General Sal than the demon Twink? And I was like, yeah, sure. That doesn't mean that you can't make a demon twink documentary.

[Monet X Change]

That's not what the. That's not what the argument was. The argument was. We were. We were talking about the reason why the General Sal one is popular is because General Sal, everyone, no matter what country, state, whatever, everyone has eaten General. So chicken. So there are more people. So that's why it's interesting because everyone knows about that. Whereas the demon swing bitch.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I.

[Monet X Change]

Yes, I know about demon Twink. And that is not a popular thing. Everyone.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If you said that. I never said it was popular. I said it was interesting.

[Monet X Change]

I never said general style interesting. That's what we. General style chicken. Interesting.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, what makes your style chicken interesting is not how many people know it.

[Monet X Change]

It's the fact that no one knows

[Bob the Drag Queen]

where it came from. And there was never.

[Monet X Change]

Interesting. Interesting. Not just saying. I say that it will reach more people because more people know about. More people would be interested to know about General Sal than demon Twink because they don't know what demon twink is.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But. But that's. That's not the.

[Monet X Change]

What.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What makes the documentary interesting is what people don't know about General Sal. Documentaries are interesting for what you find out about what you don't know. Not confirming the knowledge you already have.

[Monet X Change]

No, it's not about confirming the knowledge. That's what I'm saying. People. But people know of General. Okay, we can't we. This advisory. It's not rivalry. We have to get to the next question.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Corvette. Corvette.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. This is our last one. Jacob said we got to wrap it up because you talking too much. I got to read the last one.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't think Jacob said it because I was talking to. I don't think Jacob said that.

[Monet X Change]

I paired with Jacob and that's what Jacob has said. He didn't say that. Dear Bob and Monet.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, you read the last one. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I know it. I know it. Ain't Monet exchange trying. Did you know that they did a version of that? So Raven with Keke Palmer?

[Monet X Change]

No. Was she. Was she supposed to do original Raven?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, after Raven Simone, Keke Palmer filmed a pilot for like, basically like continuing the story but with Keke Palmer instead of. Really Instead of Raven Baxter.

[Monet X Change]

Wow. I didn't know that. She's so funny. Kiki Palmer is very funny.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And if you go online, you can in like the deep weathers of the Internet. Not on the black dark web. I found out my dumb ass. I don't know what the dark web is, is. But. But if you go on the Internet you can find the thessal raven version of that with Keke Palmer. It's really interesting.

[Monet X Change]

Anyway, that's so Keke.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's so Kiki. That's the Kiki. All right. I'm a 19 year old closeted lesbian. Well, what's your name? What's your. Drop the pin. No, I'm kidding. We're going to out you today. I'm a 19 year old closeted lesbian. I'm not comfortable in myself enough yet to to come out. All my friends are in relationships and sleeping with boys and I've literally kissed one boy when I was 9 because men are gross. I feel so left behind because I'm literally not ready to come out. How do I speed up the process of basically getting a grip and getting a girlfriend and telling everyone, sincerely, Silk Chiff. Fun life.

[Monet X Change]

So fun.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's the new lesbian, Bob. Do you know that?

[Monet X Change]

No, I didn't know that. The singer is.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Is Sapphic.

[Monet X Change]

Actually, I could, I could look into it. Oh, Monique. Yeah, tricky. It's a tricky time. I know you know it. You obviously feel a lot of pressure from your friends and. But also it seems like you just want to be liberated. You want to live your life free and grabbing as many pussies as you want to and kissing as many girls. Like you really want this for your life. And I feel like I don't know what can be a big motivating thing, but I think you should. On the other side of that is worrying about what, like I think with coming out, a big thing is not what people want to gain, but what is. But what you will lose in the process of coming out. So I think going through that checklist in your mind, like if I come out, what will I lose and what am I okay with losing, I think are the questions that you should answer first as opposed to like what there is to gain. Because I mean, the possibilities are endless of what you are, what you can gain.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, coming out of the closet is really interesting. I always say the most important thing is you have to make sure that you feel safe. If you feel safe coming out, then you should come out. You know, for me, coming out was the best thing. For me, coming out was the. I could, I could not fathom my life today if I was in the closet. Also that in mind, I have a very supportive family. No one in my family is, like, aggressively homophobic and transphobic or queer phobic or any of that kind of stuff. I'm not the first queer person in my family. So I was positioned very well to come out. And I'm understanding that that's a privilege that I had. Not everyone has that. So just assess your situation. Make sure you feel safe. And if you're not being able to get to a place where you. That's why some people come out when they leave. When they leave home, they come out. Then, you know, you have to make sure you're in a position where you can. I mean, you're an adult. I don't know if you live at home. I don't know if you're in college. I don't know if you live by yourself. I don't know what you do, but I know that you are an adult and you have the right to feel free in your own home.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, absolutely. And, you know, and it's always scary at first. Like, oh, God. Honestly, once you tell the first person, it gets so easy. Like, just saying the words out of your lips to the first. First person that you're afraid to say to. I'm not talking about. Not like a stupid co worker you don't give a fuck about, but like one of, like, your closest friends since high school or whatever. Like, just saying it. That first person feels so hard, and you feel like you're gonna choke on your tongue and it's so painful, but once it comes out, you're like, that was not as hard as I thought. And the bitch then you just can't stop telling people you're like. Is just finding that first person that you feel safe telling and that you're afraid of popping that bubble. Makes it a whole lot easier.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And just to be clear, there are lesbians who like more than pussy. You know, pussies do not define women.

[Monet X Change]

I'm not. I'm just reading what she said. She says, I want to kiss girls and I want to.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You added pussy. You're the only one who threw pussy in that. That was all you. You had pussy on the brain. But. But also, honestly, here's a bop. Try telling a stranger. I'm gonna say that again.

[Monet X Change]

That's a good idea.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Try telling a stranger. I remember the first person I ever came out to was. I was moving to Minneapolis to do a gig, that I'd be there for like, nine Months doing. And when I got there, I just told them I was like, I'm gay. I was. This is a whole new group. They don't know anyone from back home. This is my first time just being completely out to a group of people. Here it is. I'm going to give it a shot. And I could. After that, I could never go back. I could never try being. Try being openly queer. Try being open lesbian to, like, a group of strangers. Go to a support group. Go. Go to a. Go to a dance night. But also, here's another thing you need to be in mind. Okay? Once you tell one person you know, someone else you know is going to find out. I am.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, for sure. They're going to tell them for sure.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You're even your best. Judy will tell somebody, their boyfriend, their

[Monet X Change]

girlfriend, their cousin that they're really close

[Bob the Drag Queen]

to, their sister, their mom, somebody.

[Monet X Change]

They're gonna tell somebody. They're gonna tell somebody for sure.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So once you tell somebody, multiple people will start knowing. Just. Just know that as well. But sometimes strangers.

[Monet X Change]

I told Bob I was gay, and he told RuPaul.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And then RuPaul blocked Monet on Instagram. Unfollowed her.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, unfollowed, blocked.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Has she blocked you yet? Has she unblocked you? Or are you. Are you still blocked?

[Monet X Change]

No, I'm still blocked.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I think she'll come around. She likes you.

[Monet X Change]

She really likes you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It's just that you did it dirty.

[Monet X Change]

You did it already. That's our question. That's our advice today, Bob. Did you feel like you gave good advice? Do you feel proud of your advice work?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I do. I feel good about myself and I'm proud of what we had told these people.

[Monet X Change]

I am, too. Oh, you look so cute.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You look.

[Monet X Change]

Do you know what you look like? You look like Justin. Don't you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Don't ever in your life say that to me again. Don't ever. Don't you ever. Justin.

[Monet X Change]

You look just like Justin. What are you. Just go back to doing your cheese with the hat and you're on your face. You look like Justin like that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, listen, for y', all, for those of you on Patreon, I will post a picture of my brother. Justin's my brother. I'll post a picture of my brother, and you all will decide if me and Justin. I don't think me and Justin look anything alike. Jacob, do you think me and Justin look like Jacob?

[Monet X Change]

He's a little bit.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So Jacob thinks all black people look like.

[Monet X Change]

So you think all black people look alike?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I will say this. Jacob and his sister are twins. It is wild.

[Monet X Change]

Jacob and his sister, like, Ellie is

[Bob the Drag Queen]

just a smaller version of Jacob.

[Monet X Change]

Ellie's a smaller version of Jacob. I've never met Ellie. I've never seen Ellie.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, I never met. I ain't never been. No. Ellie is like. If Jacob was like a. A cis woman and like 4 foot, I think 10 or 11 or something.

[Monet X Change]

Whoa.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob is the tallest person in his family. Isn't that hilarious?

[Monet X Change]

That's very funny.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yes. Jacob is the. Jacob is the Shaquille o' Neal I have. Of the Ritz.

[Monet X Change]

I have. I have the smallest booty in my family.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, you do not.

[Monet X Change]

These the women. I have the smallest butt.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What about Sean?

[Monet X Change]

Sean does not have a huge butt, but Sean has a butt for a guy, for sure.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Could you imagine? I'm also not the tall. I mean, I'm not the tallest in my family. My uncle. I have two uncles that are taller than me.

[Monet X Change]

6, 4, 6, 5.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

It's like 6, 3, 6, 4. Uncle Steve Michael. Scotty. All right, Monet, I love you so much. Welcome back to advisory, everyone. Thank you so much for joining us in. So on the Patreon now, you're getting three things. You are getting sibling rivalry.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Y' all think I need to sign up.

[Monet X Change]

Y' all getting a lot of shit. Go ahead, run it down for these hoes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You are getting sibling rivalry. You are getting sibling advisory, and you're getting the long form version of purse. First impressions, honey. This is more content than Netflix. It's giving.

[Monet X Change]

Y' all be well, and we'll see y' all next time with some more advice. 3.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Bye, everyone.

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