Sibling Advicery: Swallowing/Lying for Jobs

Summary

Sibling Rivalry – “Sibling Advicery: Swallowing/Lying for Jobs”

Hosts: Bob the Drag Queen & Monét X Change
Date: March 14, 2022

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Episode Overview

In this advice-centric episode, comedy duo and drag superstars Bob the Drag Queen and Monét X Change take on a series of distinctly queer and deeply relatable listener questions in their signature playful, authentic style. The subjects veer from the great “All Stars strategy debate” to breaking up with toxic partners, catching a partner at a shady massage parlor, ethics of lying on resumes, navigating friends-with-benefits, all the way to explicit queer sex advice. Humor, personal anecdotes, and hard-earned wisdom combine to make this a quintessential “Sibling Advicery” installment.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. All Stars Strategy & UK vs. The World (02:00–07:00)

• The episode starts with Bob and Monét riffing about the aftermath of “RuPaul’s Drag Race UK vs. The World,” with Monét offering a Blue Hydrangea impression and a spirited debate on whether queens should send home their strongest competition.
• Monét: “Y’all can’t have it both ways. Either you want them to play the game like Survivor or you want them to play the Trinity.” (03:22)
• Bob: “If you send home your biggest competition, you still beat them,” citing Heidi N Closet’s wisdom (03:55).

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2. Fans’ Intense Parasocial Attachments (07:00–08:30)

• Bob and Monét joke about how passionately listeners react to their on-air fights and banter, with Bob reading out extreme fan comments and both urging fans not to take the show so seriously.
• Bob: “I literally... I read a comment that was like, ‘I’m shaking right now, I had to call out of work’...” (07:11)
• Monét: “Well, also, Bob swears that it’s the Monet Stans that are these big, nasty, monster bitches... They’re just the sweetest little angels.” (08:11)

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3. Sibling Advicery Listener Questions

A. “How to Break Off a Toxic On-and-Off Relationship” (09:09)

• Caller: On/off college relationship for 5 years, can’t seem to break it off.
• Bob: Points out the large fraction of her life devoted to this cycle: “That’s roughly about 20% of your life.” (10:00)
• Both agree this pattern is unhealthy.
• Monét: Advises deleting phone numbers, blocking on social media, and honest communication: “You need to detox that person out of your space...” (11:18)
• Bob: Suggests open communication and also jokes about toxic approaches: “If you really need to get them a message, send them a dollar on Venmo...” (13:47)

B. “Caught My Man at a Massage Parlor” (14:38)

• Letter: Listener’s friend caught her partner leaving a notorious massage parlor, but is stuck due to a lease.
• Bob: Recognizes the gravity of lying in a relationship, but says a lease isn’t worth mental anguish: “What is your mental sanity worth?” (15:17)
• He also cautions against the belief that any dishonesty or cheating must automatically end a relationship.
• Monét: Downplays the act: “It’s just a hand job. It is not the end of the world. It will be fine. Just have the conversation.” (18:57)
• Memorable moment: Bob jokes: “If Andy got a handy, would it be fine?” (19:31)

C. “I Lied to Get a Job” (23:19)

• Letter: Listener faked experience and created email addresses for references on a resume for a support worker job.
• Monét: Stunned at the level of subterfuge: “You are fucking making shit, programs and fucking sentinels. This is crazy. Crazy.” (23:59)
• Both admit to mild resume stretching, but draw a line at elaborate fraud.
• Bob: “If you got this job through deceit and trickery and scams and lies, then you might lose your job through truth and light and honesty and openness.” (25:45)

D. “Friends with Benefits—But Only Sex” (28:54)

• Letter: Listener wants to hook up with a longtime friend but doesn’t want a relationship.
• Monét: Never done it, but says the risk of friendship loss is real: “Maybe y’all fuck and some weird shit happens... But just go in knowing you’re two grown ass adults.” (32:31)
• Bob: Shares personal experience—hooked up with friends and remained friends: “If you’re not sexually compatible, I can still be friends.” (35:26)
• Memorable story: Monét tells of cutting off someone after a non-consensual kink (34:25).
• Bob: “If my friend and I decided to hook up and they had a kink I wasn’t into...it would ruin our sexual dynamic for sure. But I don’t think it would ruin my friendship.” (33:48)

E. “Do I Need to Swallow?” (36:09)

• Letter: Anxious, newly out 18-year-old wonders if swallowing ejaculate is required when giving oral sex.
• Monét: “When you suck that dick and they reward you with cum, that is a reward, baby! You accept it as such...But if you don’t like the taste, you don’t have to.” (37:11)
• Bob: Offers practical, anatomical tips: “If you don’t want to taste the cum...push it all the way to the back of the throat and you just skip right over the taste buds.” (40:05)
• Both validate that everyone has preferences and no one should feel pressured.

F. “My Boyfriend’s Not Well-Endowed—What Do I Do?” (44:48)

• Letter: Listener’s only ever bottomed for a boyfriend with a 3-4 inch penis and is worried about sexual fulfillment.
• Bob: Suggests trying penis extenders and exploring sexual openness: “Feeling sexually fulfilled is really important...maybe you and your partner might be into cucking.” (46:00)
• Both stress importance of toys, open communication, and that using larger toys will not render someone ‘permanently stretched out.’

G. “Tips on Getting Sober in Your 20s” (50:28)

• Letter: Listener blacks out when drinking out with friends, worries if this is alcoholism, and wants tips.
• Bob: Candidly shares his own definition of alcoholism, noting everyone’s “rock bottom” is different, and that blacking out is a significant red flag: “If alcohol is majorly impeding my life...then alcohol is a problem for me.” (52:23)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On fan reactions:
  “This is just the ebb and flow of our relationship...the folks who’ve taken this too serious, y’all are wild.” – Bob (07:11)
• On breaking up:
  “Delete the contact...block them on social media...give yourself that time to detox.” – Monét (11:18)
• Dating after infidelity:
  “A bit of dishonesty does not necessarily mean now we have to break up.” – Bob (17:11)
• Job lies that go too far:
  “You might lose your job through truth and light and honesty and openness.” – Bob (25:45)
• Sexual advice for anxious beginners:
  “Cum is an acquired taste. You can acquire it...after a while, it just...stops tasting weird.” – Bob (39:27)
• On using toys in a relationship:
  “Maybe your partner really get off on going bigger and bigger on you...take a trip to the sex store together.” – Monét (48:05)
• Sober advice:
  “Everyone’s rock bottom is completely different. You don’t have to be in a gutter, homeless...” – Bob (52:30)

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Timestamps & Episode Structure

• 00:00–01:09 – Commercials (skipped)
• 01:09–07:00 – Drag Race UKVW fallout and all stars strategy
• 07:00–09:09 – Discussing intense fan reactions & parasociality
• 09:09–14:23 – Toxic relationships and how to break the cycle
• 14:38–22:26 – Massage parlor dilemma and when to break a lease
• 23:08–28:27 – Lying on resumes and fake references
• 28:54–36:02 – Friends with benefits: can you hook up and keep the friendship?
• 36:09–44:28 – Queer sex Q&A: swallowing, techniques, preference-shaming
• 44:48–50:24 – Sex and size: supporting partners with smaller anatomy
• 50:28–53:12 – Getting sober while young
• 53:12–End – Wrap up & closing banter

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Final Thoughts

Bob and Monét bring a rare blend of irreverent humor, lived experience, and real compassion—you’ll laugh loudly, think deeply, and maybe even learn a little about yourself (or about the creative uses of Venmo). This “Sibling Advicery” is a master class in chosen family wisdom for a queer, sex-positive audience—delivered, per usual, with no holds barred.

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Best One-Liner:
“When you suck that dick and they reward you with cum, that is a reward, baby!” – Monét (37:11)

For new listeners:
Start at any listener letter—each is its own rollercoaster, with Bob and Monét’s hilarious candor and advice leading the way.

Transcript

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[Bob]

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[Monet]

Hello, Rebertha.

[Bob]

Good morning.

[Monet]

Is it a good morning? Is it a good morning?

[Bob]

Is it good? For me? It's good. It is snowing where I am. There is a snowstorm.

[Monet]

Oh, God. Where are you?

[Bob]

Here you go, girl.

[Monet]

I hate snow. I do not like snow. I hate snow.

[Bob]

The city is mourning the loss of UK versus the world.

[Monet]

Oh, work Hydrangea's in the game now. She just won Drag Race. She gonna put her big pussy in your ugly face.

[Bob]

Did you send a congratulations to the queen of the mother tucking world?

[Monet]

I have not spoken to her yet. I'm going to send a little WhatsApp. Do you do that? Do you find that when you. Because we're in the States, we don't use. You also sound really. Bob, you sound really low. Does it sound low for you? My volume is all the way up. Isn't that better? Oh, that sounds great. That sounds great. Be a darling. I wanted to good impersonation of Blue.

[Bob]

No, blue's more like, oh, mummy. Oh, mommy.

[Monet]

You just did what I said a lot.

[Bob]

Do yours again.

[Monet]

Do yours again.

[Bob]

No, do yours. You sound like Lawrence Chaney. Do it again.

[Monet]

Now I can't remember what I said.

[Bob]

You said, which is Lawrence. You're like, oh, it sounds great.

[Monet]

I want to do a little impersonation of Blue, you know, Cause. You know. Cause blue talks like this.

[Bob]

She goes, oh, mommy. Bob, I was watching the shower. I was in the shower taking a shower the other day. I was taking a shower the other day and I thought to myself, you know, actually, I think I'll send home My biggest competition.

[Monet]

Okay, here's a question. Are you a fan of the strategy of sending home because people get. People love to stay in interviews. Not people. Not you specifically, but people would be like, ugh, I wish the girls in All Stars would, like, do more strategy, like, send on the biggest competitor. And now we're in a season where people actually did that. People are like, ugh, I can't believe they sent home the biggest competitors. They're such fucking pussies. Like, I'm like, y' all can't have it both ways. Either you want them to play like, the game. Oh, my God. Either y' all want to play. Either y' all want to play the game like a fuck, like fucking Survivor or fucking Big Brother, or you want them to. To play the Trinity. I want. Listen, at the end of the game, I want to go against my biggest competition. I'm not sending girls home who are strong.

[Bob]

I. Well, I want to say. Okay, first of all, you are. This is a. Okay. I. I don't know. You know, I've never been in this situation. I feel like I would say no. I'm team Heidi in Closet. Heidi in Closet said, if you send home your biggest competition, you still won, you still beat them. This is what Heidi and Karl. She said that on the Pit Stop with Trixie. If you sit on your biggest competition, you still beat them. I know that you didn't play like that. You were playing that nice.

[Monet]

I mean, yes. Okay. No, that's not true. Bob. When I had the chance, had I won that lip sync against Manila, I mean, against Naomi, I would have sent me it all home. I chose her lipstick. I was absolutely going for the biggest competition.

[Bob]

Absolutely. All I'm saying is Naomi did what you could. Naomi did what she was afraid to do.

[Monet]

Naomi, I was not afraid to do it.

[Bob]

Made the most iconic TV moment and said, life's not there. The. The icon. Naomi Smalls. Icon.

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[Monet]

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[Bob]

Well, actually, you want to hear the Realty? It is. It is by Aisha Erotica. But I recently found out that, well, maybe this is not my tea to spill, but all I've heard is that that sample was actually stolen from an artist that I really adore. Let's put it that way.

[Monet]

Mona X change work.

[Bob]

Yes.

[Monet]

Monet X change. It does. Well, Bob, this is not RuPaul.

[Bob]

I would have sent home the biggest competition.

[Monet]

RuPaul.

[Bob]

Life's not fair. What's good?

[Monet]

Have you heard the song?

[Bob]

Yeah, I was gagged because it's. Have you heard it, bitch? RuPaul did not set foot back in the studio. It is just a remix of all ru's old songs. It's literally just Rue's, like, it's Ru's biggest hits made into, like a three minute club mix. I was thinking a verse or something. It is literally just a song that. A song made of songs that already exist.

[Monet]

Yeah, I was gagged. Maybe. Maybe this is just a little. A little taste and then they gonna give us a bop in the summer. Who knows?

[Bob]

Nah. But Blue XROU is a good name for a group. Blue xrou. That shit was fierce.

[Monet]

I like Roo Blue, like, almost like Roblox.

[Bob]

It also could have been moreu

[Monet]

Mo Ru. Oh, my God. If I won. Yeah, yeah.

[Bob]

Begaroo

[Monet]

Pan Roo.

[Bob]

I will Pan. Did not make the. She did not make close to.

[Monet]

Jim rue.

[Bob]

Rude you be.

[Monet]

Bob. This is not sibling guachery. This is advisory. We need to get to the advice giving.

[Bob]

Everyone thought we were too nice in the last episode.

[Monet]

Oh, they did. They always think that when we have. When we have so many fights in a row, they're like, y' all don't

[Bob]

realize that the girls are trying to

[Monet]

be nice to each other. Now I see them try to be nice to each other.

[Bob]

Well, y' all don't realize that sometimes we will record the fight episodes back to back with episodes where we're nice to each other. Like, we don't. We're not. It's not like some devious game where we're trying to peaks and valleys of being nice and mean. This is just the ebb and flow of our relationship. And also, I will say this to the folks who. I appreciate your fervor, but the folks who've taken this too serious, y' all are. Y' all are wild. The folks who were taking this like, Bob is. People were like, Monet is. I literally. I read a comment that was like, I'm shaking right now. I had to call out of work. I. You don't understand how much I rely on this podcast for my mental health. I'm like, this is too.

[Monet]

Oh, you're back.

[Bob]

Oh, I was just saying, like, people who are like, you don't understand how much this podcast is a part of my mental health is too much. Y' all are doing too. It's too much.

[Monet]

Well, also, Bob swears that it's the Monet Stans that are these big, nasty, monster bitches. People like my fans, people who stan me. They are always kind and they don't ever speak ill. They're just the Sweetest little angels. And Bob is like Monet fans be like, bob is stupid, big black ugly bitch.

[Bob]

We fucking hate her.

[Monet]

We're gonna fucking slice her neck. Bob swears, bitch, you swear. That's your team.

[Bob]

Bob is always like team Bob. When we're doing it, we're like joking. We're like ha ha ha.

[Monet]

And we're not joking.

[Bob]

No, your fans be like, I literally feel bad for. I can't even watch this episode. I actually had to log out. It hurt me.

[Monet]

You are so full of shit.

[Bob]

Jacob, play the first question. I will find some of the highlights from. From team Phonet. Jacob, go ahead. First question, baby.

[Caller]

Hi Bob and Monet. So I'm a 28 year old female and I have been in an on and off again relationship with this guy for the past five years. When things are great, they're great. And when things are bad, we get into arguments, we don't talk for months. And then when he reaches back out to me, me, we get back on and we go through this vicious cycle again and again. It started when I was 23, I'm now 28 and it is getting old. Have you guys ever been in a situation where you're just on and off with somebody and you can't seem to let go? And if so, how are you able to break it off? How were you able to end it completely? Thanks.

[Monet]

Oh, girl. Five years. Five years. Five years. 5 years. That.

[Bob]

That's a lot of your life. That's too much of your.

[Monet]

If you're 28, that is approximately. That is roughly about 20% of your life. That means you'll spend 20% of your life going back and forth with this person.

[Bob]

Not my name, the mathematician. Oh shit. I mean, I'm gagged. Like, you graduated, you were graduating college age and you are now fully in your Saturn's return and you've been fucking with the same nigga the whole time. That's too much, in my humble opinion. And you know, to be honest, I don't have any advice based on

[Monet]

any

[Bob]

experience of mine, but I do think that it sounds like this is causing you distress. It doesn't feel good. It doesn't seem like it feels good to you. It seems like it is time for you to prioritize yourself and how you're feeling and also know that in my opinion, there are people in the world who are more compatible for you than this person you've been awning and offing with for the last five years. You know what I mean? Because if you don't Stop it now. You've been in it for five years. Your. Your brain will let you do it for another five. Sometimes we get comfortable with the. With the. Sometimes what starts to feel. It starts to feel normal.

[Monet]

Yeah.

[Bob]

You know?

[Monet]

Yeah, I agree. I think you are. You are in a toxic relationship. This has been going on way too long. You.

[Bob]

You. And.

[Monet]

And it's not a thing where you're like, you're playing this thing, like. Well, I don't know. You have clearly said, like, three times in your message, this is not good for you. You don't like this. But I think I've never been in this situation romantically, but sexually, of course, and I know it's. There are two different things. So sexually, there are different stakes, and there's different. To me, sexually, I didn't feel like that. Like, it was not an emotional thing. Like, I felt like I could cut it off at any time, but I kept on going back because the sex was so good and we had such good sex. But emotionally, I knew that it meant nothing and it never would be nothing. So I put it in that side of my brain. But since this is an emotional entanglement that is toxic, I think that you need to dead it. Like, you need to let the person know and then also erase. Delete the contact. And if you need to block them on social media, like on Instagram or on Twitter so they can't contact you. Cause, you know, because if you have tried to do this before, I'm sure when you try to dead it, the person found a way to hit you back up, and you were like. Like, they sent you a dm and you were like, okay. And then. And then the whole cycle started over again. So I think the solution is deleting the phone number, at least for now. Deleting the phone number, blocking the social media so they can get in touch with you. So you have time where. Whether it's a month, two months, six months, two weeks, whatever time you need so you can detox that person out of your space and you don't see the name, and you don't. And you can't call them and you can't contact them, because then that just starts the cycle over and over again. So date the numbers, block the social media, and give yourself that time.

[Bob]

Someone causes more drama, though. You don't think that, like, sometimes. Like, sometimes, like, not responding, like, blocking someone causes even more drama sometimes for people.

[Monet]

But I think that that's where they're at, though, because Instagram so and so

[Bob]

blocked me on Twitter, you know, but

[Monet]

sometimes you need that. And it's NVA to social media where people have so much access to you. There are so many gateways for people to get access to you. Bitch, back in the day with our parents, once you. Once a person couldn't. Couldn't call you on the phone, then that was it. Like, it was like, that was a wrap. But now, okay, don't call you, all right, I'm a DM you on Facebook. All right. I'm hit you up on Instagram. All right, I'm hit you up on Twitter. I'm a tag you on the TikTok video. There are so many ways for people to get in contact with you now. So I think that is a solution is like dead ing it so that they cannot contact you because you're weak to that person. You want to talk to them even though you know you shouldn't. So I think that's the best way.

[Bob]

I do think some. I would recommend some open communication before you do that. If you think, oh, yeah, first.

[Monet]

Yeah, for sure.

[Bob]

Also, I'm going to give you all a really bit of toxic advice. If you ever. If someone blocks you on everything and you really need to get them a message, send them a dollar on Venmo and attach.

[Monet]

My God. What if the person listen to this? Not a person going to do that,

[Shopify User]

Bitch.

[Monet]

Not even a dollar a penny. Give them a penny on Venmo, A

[Bob]

penny for your thoughts, and they'll check it. But the question is, will they be bold enough to block you on Venmo? Bitch, when they block you on Venmo, it's a wrap.

[Monet]

Honey, you are so toxic. That is so toxic. I. All right, I can read the first one.

[Bob]

Yeah.

[Monet]

Hey, baba. Monet, my friend has a huge dilemma. We were hanging out in a car and she checked her man's location and he was at a message parlor. Oh, and he was at a massage parlor around 10pm it's known to give happy endings. We went to the parlor and his car was there where they said he wasn't in the shop. We pretended we left and saw him leave the shop trying to hide his face. My friend is super upset because she's stuck in a lease and she cannot support herself on her own. What is the best advice you could give? Love you both. Sincerely, unhappy endings. Okay, go ahead. You go first.

[Bob]

Well, there's a few things going on here. I mean, just because he was in the massage parlor, that gives happy endings. Does that mean that he got a happy ending? But the lying is Certainly indicative of a problem. In my humble opinion, it is a red flag. You know, I really hate to sound like a broken record, but it's really intriguing to me how often the answer is just open and honest communication. And sometimes open and honest communication leads to a scenario that we might not be ready for. Sometimes that leads to you openly communicate and then you realize it is time to move on, it is time to let go. Being in a lease for me is not enough reason to stay with someone. That is mental anguish. Now, this is coming from someone who's been. I've been evicted before. I got evicted when I was like 19 years old. And honestly, I got over it. I ended up being fine in the end. I didn't get evicted because of like. I'm talking about how, like, the roughness of. Of being having a legal situation with your housing. You know, breaking the lease, you normally lose a month's rent, which is a lot of money. Maybe you and the person can both. Half that or both figure out a way to do that. Or I guess you have to just weigh the odds. What is your mental sanity worth? What is this relationship worth? Can you talk it out? Also, you know, a bit of dishonesty does not necessarily mean now we have to break up. I think that there's this notion in the world that, like, if you find out your partner lied to you, that's it, you got to break up. You got to break up now. You have to. It seems like there's a convention that's like, if your partner cheats or lies, then the only answer is to end things. I don't think that's necessarily true.

[Monet]

I mean, listen, I don't know what your financial situation is. I don't know if you can afford to break your lease. Well, obviously you have some reservations about breaking a lease. I don't know if it's because you don't want it to impact your ability to rent things later or you don't want to end up on the street. I don't know what your situation is, so I'm going to respect that breaking the lease thing, but I agree with Bob. I don't think that just because your partner lied about going to this massage parlor is. That's the end of it. If you're in a relationship, you have to be willing to work things out, things that you may. That you may be unsatisfactory with and not just resort to the worst case scenario, which is you went to a massage Apollo, you didn't tell me. Fuck you. I hate you. And I hate your family. Get out of my house. I don't think it needs to be all that. I think there is conversation that can be had. Like, babe, and just be honest about the thing. The thing that. Because I'm guessing if you saw his location, he must have been sharing it with you. And you guys know that you are sharing locations. So telling him that you saw him at a massage parlor won't be like snooping, like you're spying on him. Just be like, where you at the massage parlor? And see what he says. Now if he lies and said he wasn't at the massage parlor and you clearly saw him leaving there, like, bitch, I saw you like I saw you. So how can you have not been there and then see what that conversation is? But I don't think the worst case scenario is the answer, which is ending it and throwing away however long this relationship is. Number two, bitch, it's just a happy ending. They went in there. Second is. I mean, I don't know how they do happy endings there, but it's just a happy ending. I mean, Ava, clearly you guys are not open or you guys don't do these things, but I want you to think, if this is a massage place that offers happy endings, they do this in multiple. Also, is this hearsay? Is this known in the community that they do happy endings or you just think that this place does it? Is that a fact? And if it is, bitch is just a little handy at the end of a massage. He's not cheating on you with this person. They're not in a relationship. It's just a little something. It is just a little happy ending. It is not the end of the world. It will be fine. Just have the conversation. If he lies about it, address the fact that you know he's lying because you saw his occasion and see what the answer is. But I don't think you should just end things and fucking end a whole relationship over a little hand job. Girl, it's just a hand job.

[Bob]

I mean, I guess I don't want to minimize this person's perception of it being a. If it is. If it is outside of your. A verbal agreement or understanding with each other, then yeah, it is cheating. But I mean, listen, if Andy got a handy, would it be fine? Andy Monet,

[Monet]

Not the fucking nursery rhymes. Bob is the Dr. Seuss of podcast.

[Bob]

I mean, we.

[Monet]

Okay, Mother Goose, we're not. We're not in a relationship. But if Andy's. When he went to a massage place and got a happy ending, I would

[Bob]

be like, really, babe.

[Monet]

And we honestly would probably laugh at it. But now if he said he went to fucking Rocco's or Mickey's and got a hand job in the back, that's a different story. That I would be like, oh, that's something else. But if they had a massage ball and they gave him a little. A little booda boodle boop at the end of it, I'd be like, I would give him a little side eye. But I don't think that's enough to end their relationship over.

[Bob]

I mean, I agree with you. It really interesting where people draw the line and. And what means what to who. And I'm not trying to diminish, by the way. I'm not trying to diminish the. The severity of breaking your lease. Usually if you. I don't know about legal law, but usually if you break your lease and you pay the. And you forfeit your. I believe if you break your lease and you forfeit your security deposit, it doesn't go on your record or anything. What, What I'm. What I'm basically trying to get at is like, you know, I also bear in mind when I got evicted, I was 19 years old. I am now 35. That is so far in my past that it doesn't affect me anymore. So I think, yeah, me and Monet are on the same page. I don't think that every infraction of trust is cause for a relationship to end. But I think movies tell us if someone cheats, you end it very that bitch. It's a movie. Also, I found one of the comments that was tripping. I hate Bob. Bob is such a vindictive nigger. Bob is a vindictive nigger monkey. And Monet told me to say, no, I'm kidding. That's not a thing.

[Monet]

I'm just kidding. Okay? We did not say that. You're a mess.

[Bob]

But there is one comment that says, by the way, the monation, which is not as good as phonation.

[Monet]

Is that the monation? I love that.

[Bob]

Well, tell me you don't go onto the Patreon without telling me. You don't go on the Patreon. Also. Not the other day when you were like, no one told me about the

[Monet]

what?

[Bob]

You were like, no one told me. No one told me about the Discord. And then, Because I was like, when I used to join the Discord, you were like, I didn't even know about the Discord, but it was tickling because everyone in the Patreon knew about the Discord.

[Monet]

Okay? All I'm saying is that we who work at Civil Rivalry, the two owners and Jacob know that we're supposed to have a whole meeting with, you know, and the Patreon.

[Bob]

Everyone at Patreon. Everyone on the Patreon knew about the discord before you did.

[Monet]

Yeah, the Patreon knew, but I'm saying that that should not have been that way. You. Anyway, this is. This is back. This is office Talk. I don't want to take up the people time with office Talk, but we were supposed to have a whole meeting with Hi, Juan, who she emailed us, by the way, with her whole crew. Anyway, you know what? We'll talk about this when we're not doing the podcast, because we have. This is office Talk.

[Bob]

Don't act like you're the manager around this bitch. Don't act like you're.

[Monet]

Well, clearly I am. Next question. Clearly you are.

[Bob]

You don't even know we had a discord. Anyway, here's our next question. Hi, Dolls. I have just killed. I have just killed at a job interview.

[Monet]

Dolls.

[Bob]

Hey, Dolls. I just killed in a job interview that I really want. It is for a support worker that helps support addicts and those with mental health issues. I grew up with my entire family being drug, alcohol addicts. So I have a lot of personal experience. The only problem is I lied during the application and stated that I had professional experience. I created two fake email accounts, even paid for a professional email address to set up the illusion. My question is, have you guys ever lied for a job? How far you take. How far did you take the lies? Sincerely, House of Cards girl.

[Monet]

What in the sherry pie?

[Bob]

Have you ever lied to get a job?

[Monet]

Okay. Absolutely have lied for a job. I have lied to get a job, but it has never been this deep. Bitch, you have created the matrix. You are fucking. You are fucking making shit programs and fucking sentinels. This is crazy. Crazy. Yeah, I have lied for a job. But it was something like. For my reference, instead of like, putting like an old boss. My reference, I'll put like. I think I put Bob before actually for a reference for job or like dejuan or someone. Someone like that. And I'll put their number, but I wouldn't. And I would never lie and make email accounts and respond to me. To me. That is crazy. You are looking to get yourself caught in, like, a lot of trouble. So I think that's a little crazy. I think that

[Bob]

I cannot.

[Monet]

Wait, I need to read this again. I created two fake email accounts and paid for a professional email address to help Set up the illusion Lord. Yeah, I hit my. But I've never taken it this far. And I think that you are setting yourself up to be caught. And they will. As fast as they may offer this job to you, they will take it the fuck away. And you're gonna be sitting there looking bald headed and confused.

[Bob]

Yeah, I've never lied on a resume before. You don't really have a lie to work at Applebee's. I mean, you know, I've never. The most serious job I ever had outside of my current career was in real estate. And you also don't have to lie to get. I didn't have a lot to get the job either. I just had to go to real estate school, which I did. You really can't lie about that. That's kind of hard to fake. Or for me anyway. But you might have been able to MacGyver some shit girl. But that had been really tough for me to fake. And you know, I. Honestly, if this ends poorly, you really can't be shocked.

[Monet]

Like, not at all.

[Bob]

If you got this job through deceit and trickery and scams and lies, then you might lose your job through truth and light and honesty and openness. Because the thing is, you're gonna have to keep lying. Like, you can't. A lie cannot be supported by the truth. A lie can only be supported by more lies. It is. The only way for a lie to live is you have to tell more lies to prop it up. And I am concerned for your future and I think that maybe this is a great time to move forward. I mean, I wouldn't quit the job or anything, but I would say going forward you should definitely try to be more open and honest. Open and honest. Here I am, broken record with your, with your resume and stuff.

[Monet]

I say that if they find you out, you just lie and be like, oh, yeah, I have like, I struggle with problems of lying and like say that you need help.

[Bob]

Is that true?

[Monet]

Clearly.

[Bob]

I mean, just cause someone lies doesn't mean they necessarily struggle with lying. I mean, they. But I don't know this person's mental history. But I would not feign. I personally would not feign mental illness as a ploy to keep your job. I think that is actively bad advice.

[Monet]

No, I'm kidding. I obviously do not do that. I was kidding. Yeah, I think you have. I think if they. It's gonna come up. Because the problem is now this is going to come up. These like. I feel like this is the way you set it up is going to come up again. And then what? Like your. Only. If it comes up again, your only option is to either lie more or be like anything you say to dismiss these people that you made up. There's no way you can. Like, what you gonna say? Oh, they did. That's a lie. And I don't know. I just feel like you really put yourself in, like, a tight spot. So if it does come up again, and then if you tell the truth, then you could be. You could end up getting fired. I don't know, girl, you put yourself in a really bad place. But, I mean, keep us updated. I want to know how this turns out. I really do.

[Bob]

Yeah. This is a truly precarious situation that you have put yourself in, and I would be nervous at work every day, personally.

[Monet]

Right, right. They'd be like, oh, so Sally Scissorhands, that you. That you used to work for, we would actually love to do a partnership with her for the thing. Can you. And then. And then they didn't. They fucking email her. And then you get. Girl, it's going to become a whole thing anyway.

[Bob]

Scissorhands. We never met us. We never met someone whose last name is Scissorhands before. So can you put us back in contact with Sally Scissorhands, please?

[Monet]

Yeah. And is there any relation to Edward Scissorhands? Because I find this work fascinating.

[Bob]

Y' all put me in Monet. Put me and Monet down as a reference. I won't lie for you, but I would love to get a call.

[Monet]

Do not forget that reference.

[Bob]

I don't know that motherfucker.

[Monet]

Let's read the next one. Hi, Bob and Monet. I had this friend from high school, and we've been friends for 12 years. We are in our 30s now, and we find each other hot. He's been sending hints about hooking up with me, and honestly, I want him, too. How do I go about hooking up with him and preserving the friendship? I should add that it's just sex I want and not a relationship. Thanks in advance. Sincerely, friends with Benefits.

[Bob]

Interesting. You had something like this before.

[Monet]

I've never had something like this before. My friends always stay in the friend box. I've never been in my entire life like, someone who were friends that I started hooking up with like that because I just. That's just not how I jive. It's not how, like, I. I move in the world. So I've never been in this relationship and in this. In this situation, but what you're saying, it sounds consensual. It seems like both of you want it, both of you are trying to do it, and your only fear is that it won't, is that you could lose a friendship. I'm seeing. But if you guys are both on the same page, I mean, that's also. That's. That's. That's part of the mystery that you guys could lose a friendship. I mean, I know you don't want that, but that could happen. But it's a big possibility.

[Bob]

Well, I don't think it's a matter of consent. I think they also seem to be worried about the other person wanting more than just sex, and they seem to be afraid of it becoming some sort of a relationship outside of just a friendship. You know, I have one maybe more than once. Yeah, maybe like, twice now, where I've had a friend for, like, a few years, and then down the line, we just decided to hook up. And who do what? Who?

[Monet]

Bitch, you heard me. You heard me. Y' all saw this nigga actually even hear me and be like, what?

[Bob]

No, I didn't hear you because we were talking at the same time. I'll tell you. I think. Anyway, so. And, you know, I'm still friends with both of them. We're still buddies, and we still text back and forth and chat. And one of me and one of them, I even still like, flirt and sex back and forth with. And I think that for me, we were. Well, I will say for us, it was not. It did not start as just a. Like, once we started talking, we were, like, kind of dating, but not officially dating in any capacity. And the other one was just, like, one night of fooling around, and we just ended up still being friends afterwards. But it's important to establish up front that especially, are you in a relationship with someone else and you don't want. Or do you just. Do you not want a relationship in general or just you don't want a relationship with this person? Because I found that when people say, like, oh, I'm not looking for a relationship, and then they end up dating someone else, I'd be like, so what's the truth then, bitch? What's the truth? I thought you were looking for a fucking relationship.

[Monet]

You know what I mean? Everyone's different. Maybe they weren't looking for a relationship and then they hooked up with this other person, and that ended up happening. Sometimes that shit just. It just happens, and that's fine, too.

[Bob]

Yeah, it still hurts. Someone's like, I'm just not looking to date anyone right now. You've heard people Say, I'm not looking to date anyone right now. Then what the fuck's going on two weeks later? What's that about?

[Monet]

Well, bitch, that's not my problem. This person did it, right? This person just had a bit of connection. And I'm not gonna be chastised for having a connection with this person that I had sex with.

[Bob]

We're not talking about you. You really made this personal.

[Monet]

I'm not saying me. I'm this person. I'm talking. I'm the voice of this person. Yeah, I think that just. I mean, sex. I think sex is a muddy ground, that you can lose a friendship. I think you'd be naive to go into this not knowing, not thinking that you guys cannot be friends after this. Like, maybe y' all fuck and some weird shit happens, or they expose some kink to you that you're like, oh, my God. And it makes you feel weird, like using the friendship is a possibility. But you. But just go in knowing that you guys are two grown ass fucking adults in your 30s, and then this person wants to fucking take some shit and fucking. And fucking rafiki your forehead with it. Just be like, I'm not cool with that. And then move on. I just think that you just need to know that something can happen with sex that you may not jive with. And you can't hold that against a friendship. You have to separate the sex from the friend.

[Bob]

That took a real hard. That's like a very hard left turn, left turn.

[Monet]

I'm speaking for me, if I was hooking up with a friend and then that happened, and then they, like, came out the way. And again, I'm not king shaming. It'd just be something that I'm not into that it would take me by shocking. And they're like. Then they express some shit to me. I'm like, whoa. I would have to separate that from my friend and be like, that was a sexual thing, but we're still cool.

[Bob]

If my friend and I were. If my longtime friend and I decided to hook up and they had a kink that I wasn't into, I don't think it would ruin my friendship. I probably would just stop having sex with them. Like, me knowing this person likes to shit on people wouldn't make me not. It wouldn't ruin my friendship with them. It would ruin our sexual dynamic for sure. But I don't think it ruined my friendship. I don't think I've ever had a. I don't think I've ever had sex, like, ruin a friendship. Or interaction that I've ever had with anyone in my entire life. But maybe that's cool. I have. I mean, I have for sure.

[Monet]

When someone shit on my chest against my will, I have never talked to that person ever since that day.

[Bob]

Were you friends?

[Monet]

I mean, we were hooking up steadily for like a year, over a year. Like, we would text here and there, like, yeah. But after that I was like, bitch, no. You do not come. Do not contact me. Don't you ever talk to me.

[Bob]

Was it a kink or was it an accident?

[Monet]

It was a kink.

[Bob]

I don't know. I'm asking. Damn.

[Monet]

Well, you clearly don't listen to the Bald and the Beautiful because I talked about it on that episode of the Bald and the Beautiful. Parts only.

[Bob]

Anyway, you're right, I don't listen. You caught me. I don't listen to Bob and Bald and the Beautiful.

[Monet]

Wow. So you don't support your white friends?

[Bob]

You know, some of them I do, but I don't listen to that one podcast that is. That is one podcast I don't listen to. Which is. Which is the truth for me. But I don't know.

[Shopify User]

I

[Bob]

do think that non consensual kink is a problem.

[Monet]

Right.

[Bob]

But if someone's like asking. I think what I'm thinking is I'm assuming that whatever you all are doing will be consensual. And if you're not sexually compatible, I can still be friends with someone that I'm not sexually compatible with.

[Monet]

Oh, yeah, for sure, for sure. In my experience. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Bob]

I mean, I think that if your friend is trying to shit on you without your permission, this goes deeper than just this. There's a lot to unravel in this in terms of trust and. And maybe you need to, you know, have a. Take a step back and see if this person is, you know, something.

[Monet]

Anyway,

[Bob]

Aloha, Monet and Bob. I need sex advice, please. I'm an 18 year old gay male and I recently come out of the closet during my first year in college. So since I'm gay now, during the blowjobs, do I need to swallow the cum every time? I don't know what is expected of me, of the community, during these moments. I'm terrified because I've only tasted cum before. I've only tasted my cum before. I hated the taste. I actually threw up afterwards. Anyway, I also have a super sensitive gag reflex and I'm afraid I'll be a horrible gay if I voice my concerns about giving head or in Bob's voice. Oh, slurpity succulent. Please help. If you have any tips on how you've learned to make. To learn to make giving oral a more pleasurable experience, I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much. P.S. as a native Hawaiian, I've tried the pineapple thing to make mine taste better. Doesn't work. Still gross. Sincerely. He's just not giving.

[Monet]

Okay, girl, okay. Let me tell you this. When you suck that dick and they reward you with calm, that is a reward, baby. You accept it as such. You swallow that shit. Okay? You were like, thank you. I've been waiting for this. But if you have always. So you've only ever. You've only doing swallow. The truth is you do not need to swallow every time. And again you can find. If you do not like the taste of cum, you don't have to. I was just kidding before. If you like cum, bitch, just go. Got it? Go get it at the store. You can get it anywhere, really. But if you don't like the taste of cum, you don't have to swallow every time. And I think you can. What?

[Bob]

Go get cum at the store?

[Monet]

Yes, girl, you can get. You needed some nut at the store. But if you do not enjoy the taste of cum, you do not need to feel the pressure to swallow it. Every time you give a blowjob and the person comes, you do not have to do that. And if the person that you're having sex with is gonna make you feel pressured to do that or make you feel like you're not finishing the job or you're not doing the whole thing cause you don't swallow their load, then that person is a toxic person that you should not be sucking their dick and you should not be fucking anyway. And if it's just a one night stand, a hookup that you never see again, who care, bitch, when they come, either as they're about to come, take the dick out your mouth and let it come on your hands or shoot wherever it goes. Or if you don't, if you. If swallowing it is a part you don't like, let it come in your mouth and just spit it out afterwards. But don't. Do not feel the pressure to cum. And I agree. The pineapple thing, I've never tasted my own cum. Everything people are like, you never tasted your own? Like, no, I've never had the inclination to taste my own jizz. I'm not into that, but I've heard that. So I don't know how mine tastes, but I have tasted cum before and I have Never tasted one that has tasted like pineapples. Especially people who smoke. Like, if you smoke cigarettes, oh my God, your cum tastes like fucking battery acid. And you should not feel the pressure to swallow that shit. That shit is nasty.

[Bob]

It doesn't taste like pineapple. It just tastes better if you eat pineapple. And as someone who has accidentally tasted Monet's cum, it's disgusting. You know, I have a couple of thoughts. I have a couple of thoughts.

[Monet]

Yeah, you do.

[Bob]

And the names of Jacob and Ezra, if you. First of all, in my honest opinion, and I'm not. Cum is an acquired taste and you can acquire it like after, like the first time. You're like, this tastes wild. And after a while it just, honestly for me just kind of stops. It doesn't taste weird anymore. And that was just for me the first time. I was kind of like, this is wild. Like, how do people do this? And now I'm like, oh, it's just a taste of cum. It's just a taste of cum. Another trick.

[Monet]

Have you tasted bad cum, though? Someone that smokes cigarettes? You never tasted that shit. It tastes crazy.

[Bob]

Well, I was going to say another trick to not taste the cum is. Which seems to be a problem for this wonderful little Kanaka Mahu, is if you don't want to taste the cum, you just. When they're cumming, just push it all the way to the back of the throat and you just skip right over the taste buds. You don't taste anything. It just goes all the way down the hatch. And then, you know, that's. That's another trick. But that also seems to be a problem for our little, our little, our little baby here. I think that if you want to suck dick, if you're asking like, how can I get better? You have to just keep trying and keep practicing. You have to soften the palate. You have to just kind of like less teeth. You also have to consider the angles you're at. Some people. And it's the shape of the penis. If the penis curves down, it'll probably be easier to swallow. And if it curves up, you might want to lie on your back and let them go in. That way it'll just find.

[Monet]

Or 69. 69 is a great wing for that.

[Bob]

It'll find its way down the chute, you know. But I do think that a lot of people in the queer community do expect to get. When they're getting the suckity slurpity, they do expect to get the swallowy wallowy as well. But if you just say, I don't swallow, and I'm sure they'll be fine. Like it's head.

[Monet]

No one's gonna turn down people.

[Bob]

Probably not gonna turn down head. Cause you're not swallowing.

[Monet]

Also, just also to kind of piggyback on Bob's point, if you don't like swallowing, make them maybe perhaps you like a facial. Make them know that your kink is. You want it to come on your face so that you are mixing the mouth altogether. So as they come, they'll be like, they'll let you know so that they'll just nut on your face. That way you're not tasting it. But then, bitch, that should get in your eye. And now talk about battery acid. You will literally burn your fucking retinas. Bitch. If that cum gets on your eyeballs, you'll be sitting there looking blind as hell.

[Bob]

How do you feel about the taste of cum? Do you swallow cum?

[Monet]

I swallow com for sure.

[Bob]

How do you feel about it?

[Monet]

I don't. Again, if it's not like an avid smoker, it's fine. It tastes like whatever. But if it's like someone who smokes

[Bob]

a lot of the taste over time, like at first I was kind of like, oh my God, this is new. But then after a while just like, it just tastes like cum. Like I'm just used to tasting Cummings.

[Monet]

Yeah, but I mean, not like in like, not like, like years. Like it took me like, like I had that like, ugh, I don't like that. Like it's like a weird taste. Like, like a solid like two years. And then I was like, then, then, like, then it subsided. But it wasn't like a, like, like three guys. I was like, oh, this is great. It took me like a year, year

[Bob]

to be like, for sure, yeah, maybe you just gotta. I don't know how frequently Monet was swallowing.

[Monet]

Come.

[Bob]

Maybe it's, it's. If you get someone to give you some frequent samples, you can speed up the process of getting paced. Maybe Monet was spacing them out between her opera career and her singing also.

[Monet]

And if you. Oh, let me tell you, when I

[Bob]

was a singer, at the time when they was in college, she was already 50 men down. This is middle school on the train. I forgot.

[Monet]

Excuse me, you are. How many times do you think I was having sex when I said I had sex in middle school when I had my first sex experience, we weren't fucking every day. It was like once a year. So just because, just because I had my first experience in middle school doesn't mean, I was, I was sucking the dick at lunchtime every day.

[Bob]

But you said you, you said, when we first said, you said, I used to go to the glory holes or whatever or the sex stores or whatever.

[Monet]

Yeah, my friends and I, we would go to the sex stores and like, this was high school. My friends and I would go to

[Bob]

the sex store on Valentine's Day.

[Monet]

Yeah, we'd go to the sex stores, but we wouldn't like. We were also like high school kids who were like worried about. So we wouldn't like go and like have sex of glory holes. We would go in there and be like high schools. We were like walking and be like, oh my God. Like, it wouldn't be like, we would be in there like, yeah, I need five minutes, man. It was like we were high schoolers. We were young, immature high school kids. Like, oh my God. It was that. It wasn't like you're saying you didn't

[Bob]

go to Euphoria High.

[Monet]

I did not go to Euphoria High. Also for tits. For sucking dick. Another one, if you are getting complaints that you're a little toothy, might try sucking the dick and like putting. Cooking a ha ha ha. So that you're not getting. So you're not scratching the dick up with your dick too. That is also a good way to practice good dick sucking skills by covering your bottom and top teeth with your. With your lips.

[Bob]

Yeah. Do you have a little mouth? I mean, how big is this dick that you're trying to suck? Like, you know, sometimes everyone's not built for sucking big dicks. Some people got to hang out with, you know, something less than crazy. But also, luckily for you, most people in the world don't have huge dicks. So, you know.

[Monet]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Work. Let's read the next one. Hi, Monet and Bob. I'm a male bottom. My boyfriend is not very endowed. We're talking like three to four inches hard. I love him a lot. Excuse me? I love him a lot, but I don't know if I am super sexually attractive because of that. Do you have any ideas on what we can do to make sex better? With this being the case, I don't want to make him feel bad about it. And I'm also afraid that I use that if I use a dildo larger than him, it will never be pleasurable having sex with him afterwards. He is also the only person I have ever had anal sex with. So I don't even know what that is supposed to feel like. Sincerely, Shortcomings Rebertha.

[Bob]

Interesting. So you, you, you've never had sex with a bigger dick, but you're sure you want to try it? So you know, I don't know that assholes are quite like, if you use a bigger dildo every now and then, that your boyfriend's dick will never be able to accommodate you again. That's not quite how assholes work. It's not like it's not gaped out for the rest of your life.

[Monet]

You know what I mean?

[Bob]

I also think that if you and your partner are open to other things, like trying. There's these things called penis extenders that you can like literally put on your penis to make your penis basically like bigger. But it's like a, it's like a hollowed out dildo, basically. And honestly, Mary, if your partner's dick is three or four inches, they know, they know they have a small penis. They already know. And they're probably aware that they're going to need to make some accommodations for their size. Maybe it's one of those. Maybe you and your partner, maybe you and your partner might be into cucking. Maybe it'll be one of those things. Maybe your partner is a bottom two and doesn't know it. Who knows? Maybe you're one of those couples that invites over tops to fuck you both. You know what I mean? I think that feeling sexually fulfilled is really important for me. And having a partner that is open to me, being sexually fulfilled is also very, very important to me. So I think that if you're planning on being just each other, I would explore maybe trying the penis extender, which they do have. You can just put it right over your penis. Or maybe try inviting another person to the room so that you two can hook up. Also offering up two people is a lot of leverage on the apps. You can really jump to the front of the line.

[Monet]

Oh, a penis extender. Interesting. I'm. I've never seen that before.

[Bob]

Yeah, there's this guy that I follow on Twitter who I found out about them through him. His name was like cage jock or something. And he's into chastity and like lock and key. And he only tops with a dildo. He only pegs.

[Monet]

He says. I think toys will be a great addition to the bedroom. Cause maybe you can introduce your partner again. You can obviously work your way up because your partner is the first person you bought him for. You haven't bought them for an array of penises, only that one. So maybe you guys can really get into. And he can find, he can find a lot of sexual pleasure in this. I have a couple friends like this where their partner just gets different toys and the partner really gets off on, like, putting toys in there, like bigger ones, and like, stretching their partner out. So maybe you, maybe. Maybe you guys can find as a couple something that's really going to invigorate you both sexually, that you guys don't do. Don't do now. So I would say take a trip to the store together and well, before you do that, Gage is interested in it. Maybe maybe watch some porn about it and so you guys can, like, see, like, how people really get into it and how. And how. And how it can turn you guys both on and try to explore different toys. And maybe your partner really get off on going, like, bigger and bigger on you. And maybe you have become a fucking fisting bottle. Who knows? The possibilities are really endless. I would say start with toys and play around with, With. With. With awakening new sexual desires that you guys can do together so that he doesn't feel like you just want to go get other dicks. If you guys are in a closed relationship and it doesn't make him feel inferior and it doesn't make him feel wanted and desired, because I can tell that you still want to play with your partner, but you just want to try different things. And the fact of the matter is you have the equipment. You have. You can't. I mean, there are surgeries. I've seen surgeries. You can enlarge or whatever. That is the thing what I'm saying, you guys both have what you have. So maybe the answer is finding toys. So play with it that you guys can both stimulate each. Well, he can stimulate you. And like Bob said, maybe he's a model, too, and you can start simulating him and you guys can really find and awaken some new sexual stuff that you guys will both feel fulfilled.

[Bob]

It also sounds like you're not very sexually experienced. Bitch. You might be the top. You might be the top insulator. You have no clue. You know what I mean? I don't know what you're working with and if what you have, your partner can accommodate. But maybe that is true. But also I do want to say I don't think that you should prioritize, in my opinion, but this might be toxic advice. I don't think you should prioritize your partner's feelings over your own. You need to prioritize your own feelings. You can always consider your partner, but your feelings need to be the priority, in my opinion.

[Monet]

Work. Yeah.

[Bob]

Hi, Bob and Monet. I guess my question is mainly for Bob. I'm not sure if you ever shared your story about why you decided to go sober, but recently I've been thinking. Thinking about going sober myself. I don't see myself as an alcoholic. I'm not drinking by myself during the week or hiding it from my friends and family. But when I go out to the bars and hang out with my friends, I drink to the point of blacking out. Any advice or tips about living a sober lifestyle while still in your 20s would be incredibly helpful. Love y'. All. Somebody who should probably be sober. You know, drinking. Being an alcoholic is not necessarily what, like, what you see in the movies. It's not like sitting in a room by yourself, sad drinking, you know, Cutty Sark and beating up your family. Like, it doesn't necessarily have to be that. You know, being an alcoholic can mean a lot of things. I think if the alcohol. This is for each person to decide. I cannot decide for you if you're an alcoholic. But for me, if drinking alcohol is having a major impediment, is majorly impeding my life, be it through personal relationships, work relationships, or romantic relationships, then alcohol is a problem for me. For me, it was professional, and my friendships were all suffering because of my drinking. And that's really not something that happens frequently for people who are not alcoholics. I will say that I don't think most people black out every time they go out to bars with their friends. Again, I can't tell you that if you're an alcoholic, but I can say that I don't think most people black out every time they go drink. That is cause for alarm. And I don't think that everyone's rock bottom looks different. You don't have to be in a gutter, you know, homeless and in the middle of a divorce with your family hating you. Everyone. Everyone's rock bottom is completely different. That's why if you go to the rooms, you'll hear people qualifying, and after a while, you'll be like, wow, I resonate with that one. That's my story. That one actually makes more sense to me than hearing the folks who are like, I was drinking a pint in the morning and a pint in the evening of vodka, not beer, and I had to drink to stop shaking. That's not everyone's story. I did not have the delirium tremor. I wasn't shaking, but it was seriously impeding my work life and my friendships, which is why I stopped drinking.

[Monet]

As someone who is new to sra, I Found that listening to the podcast three times a week has really helped me because I think just the two episodes, the rivalry and the advisory wasn't enough, and it has really helped me.

[Bob]

What is SRA Simming Rivalry.

[Monet]

Anonymous. All right, Bob, we have done another advisory. I think that my favorite question today. What was your favorite advice that you gave today?

[Bob]

You know, teaching the young queer how to suck dick is always a joke. Oh, my God.

[Monet]

Yeah, me too. You know. Cause I think that it is our duty as queer. I'm not an elder. I act like I'm a queer. I'm not a queer.

[Bob]

Damn you all.

[Monet]

I'm a drag. I am a drag senior. I wouldn't say I'm a drag elder. I think I feel like I'm in a drag. I'm in, like, a. What level of drag are you? I feel like I'm like somewhere between a drag junior, senior.

[Bob]

Well, how long have you doing that?

[Monet]

I've been a drag. Ten years. Oh, my God. Ten years.

[Bob]

Damn you.

[Monet]

Swear you bitch. You can never be Kevin Hart. You will never be Kevin Hart. Let's get Dasher. You could never be that funny.

[Bob]

You're right. I'm about a foot and a half away from being Kevin Hart.

[Monet]

I feel like I'm a drag junior going into my senior.

[Bob]

I feel like I'm a sophomore. I mean, I feel like I have.

[Monet]

No, you're definitely a drag senior. For sure.

[Bob]

Why am I a senior if shaquiti

[Monet]

for over 10 years.

[Bob]

No, 20. 20 is senior.

[Monet]

Shaquita's an elder. We talked about this before. Shaquita's an elder. You're a drag senior.

[Bob]

I don't like that. I don't want to be that. I don't want that label. It doesn't interest me. Doesn't speak to me. Doesn't speak to me. At the junior prom,

[Monet]

people how to suck dick. Love to give him that advice. For sure. Yeah. All right, bye, everyone. Bye.