Sibling Rivalry — The One About Being Slutty
Hosts: Bob the Drag Queen & Monét X Change
Date: December 15, 2025
Podcast: Sibling Rivalry
Theme: Sex Positivity, Cruising, Boundaries, and Slutty Adventures
Episode Overview
This episode is a candid, hilarious, and deeply personal dive into sex positivity, slutty adventures, the etiquette of cruising, and the boundaries around hooking up as queer people — all through the unfiltered banter of Bob the Drag Queen and Monét X Change. The duo explores public sex culture, rules for having sex in friends’ houses, and the rise of prep and other HIV prevention tools, while keeping the laughs coming and the confessions rolling.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
Opening Banter and Set Piece
[02:07]
- Bob teases a new set piece, and Monét sets the episode’s theme: “We talk about being slutty.”
- Patron shoutouts and their importance in funding both the podcast and independent video projects.
- Friendly glam and shade about their looks and recent creative collaborators.
Nostalgia & Pop Culture
[04:11 - 08:00]
- Quick detour into TV shows (“Gen V”), 2000s music nostalgia:
- Bob: “Do you watch Gen V?”
- Monét: Reminisces about “Gasolina” and “Apple Bottom Jeans.”
The Rumor Mill: Drag Race & Outfits
[15:43 - 19:10]
- Bob brings up a Drag Race story where Monét allegedly chose an outfit some considered culturally appropriative.
- Memorable Quote [16:20] — Bob: “If you ever say anything to anybody, even if I give them permission … I’m gonna come and beat you up with my hands.”
- Monét confesses about her “darkest moment” in drag due to a regrettable look.
- Monét: “I have scrubbed … That image … from the internet. You will not find it.” [18:01]
Sex Culture: Bathhouses, Cruising, and Disclosure
[23:01 - 27:30]
- Would Bob ever do a bathhouse or cruising situation?
- Bob is open, but with caveats about privacy due to his visibility.
- Celebrity and anonymity at gay sex parties.
- Monét’s quick autobiography of cruising in NYC teens, and returning to cruising post-Drag Race.
- Monét: “I cruise a lot in New York City … and in the past year, I’ve been back in my cruising bag.” [24:13]
Gym Cruising
[24:29 - 25:21]
- Monét recounts a steamy gym cruising story (eye contact, Grindr, hookup near the locker rooms).
Comfort, Public Sex, and Morality
[26:20 - 31:35]
- The duo unpacks the morality and etiquette of public sex in gyms and bathrooms.
- Bob: “Is it immoral having sex in the … bathroom?”
- They struggle with questions of privacy, consent (for bystanders), sanitation, and cultural norms:
- Bob: “The only thing about it that feels immoral … is that someone might walk in who … did not agree.” [26:47]
- Monét's more laissez-faire approach: “If you’re in a stall, not at the urinal … is that really a big concern?”
House Rules: Sex at a Friend’s Place
[32:35 - 44:01]
- Hilarious debate: Can friends hook up in each other’s houses? What are the rules for couples and hookups during visits?
- Close friends can have sex if staying overnight, but “You can’t host a stranger in my home.”
- Game night hookups? Only if no guests are disturbed.
- Bob: “If you and Jacob were [staying], yeah, sure [you can have sex]. But you can’t bring a foreign agent into my home.” [33:12]
- Monét tries to find loopholes, endlessly reshuffling scenarios: “I just want to make sure I’m following the rules next time I fuck in your home.” [40:43]
Slut Culture & Modern Safe Sex
[44:25 - 46:49]
- Prep, Doxy-PEP, and condoms
- Monét has shifted to event-based prep dosing (“2-1-1”), while Bob uses condoms unless with long-term partners.
- Bob: “I was still big on using condoms for a very long time … Occasionally I do, depending on the circumstance.” [44:38]
- On Doxy-PEP: “Do you think things like Prep and DoxyPEP have made people sl*ttier?”
- Monét: “Yes. I do too.”
The Art of Stacking Hookups
[46:48 - 48:39]
- Monét reveals the logistical side of slutty life — scheduling multiple hookups and handling ‘double-booking’ mishaps.
- “I’ve told you this before. I stack my appointments. That’s why sometimes I run into some accidents …”
- “He’s like, ‘I saw somebody leave your flat. … You think I’m daft?’” [47:41]
Sex, Drugs, and Surprises
[53:52 - 55:56]
- Bob and Monét trade stories about secret substance users (“secret crackheads”), surprises during hookups, and being vigilant about valuables.
- Monét: “He showed up talking a little too fast … and then said, ‘You should really be careful with your stuff in here. Someone could steal it.’” [55:03]
Sex Parties and Friendship Boundaries
[57:44 - 59:15]
- Bob: “My dream is that we go to a sex party together.”
- Monét: “Why do you … you just said you would if it was …”
- Monét would go with some friends, but not Bob: “You’re goofy, I’d be over there being goofy. … I wouldn’t be able to focus on the task at hand.”
- They joke about being banned from being on Drag Race together:
- “We can’t even be on Drag Race together because of our behavior.” [59:12]
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- Bob (about Monét’s Drag Race story): “If you ever say anything to anybody, even if I give them permission … I’m gonna come and beat you up with my hands.” [16:20]
- Monét (about scrubbing images): “I have Beyoncé and Jay-Z’d that image, it is scrubbed from the internet.” [18:01]
- Bob (on gym cruising): “I just need to make sure that no one at the bathhouse is going to be like Bob the Drag…” [23:12]
- Monét (on casual sex etiquette): “You can’t host in my home. No, that’s crazy.” [33:29]
- Bob (safe sex): “I was still big on using condoms for a very long time.” [44:38]
- Monét (scheduling mishaps): “I stack my appointments.” [46:48]
- Bob (on their dynamics): “We can’t even be on Drag Race together because of our behavior.” [59:12]
- Bob/Monét (on drugs and sex): “Can’t you get hard on meth though?” “I bet you get hard on meth.” [54:21]
Important Segment Timestamps
- [02:07] — Set piece debut; episode theme set (“being slutty”)
- [15:43] — Drag Race appropriation rumor and best/worst outfits
- [23:01] — Bathhouse and cruising conversation begins
- [24:29] — Monét’s gym cruising story
- [26:20] — Morality/public sex and hygiene debate
- [32:35] — Debate about hooking up in friends’ homes (rules, boundaries)
- [44:25] — Safe sex: condoms, prep, event-based dosing
- [46:48] — “Stacking” appointments and messy hookup logistics
- [53:52] — Secret substance use in hookup culture stories
- [57:44] — Would they go to a sex party together? (The answer is hilarious.)
Tone and Style
The episode is raunchy, unapologetic, and relentlessly funny, but it’s also warm and candid. Bob and Monét alternate between riffing on each other’s quirks, swapping genuinely useful wisdom (and warnings) about queer sex culture, and pushing each other’s boundaries with increasingly absurd hypothetical situations. There’s a palpable sense of lived experience, mutual affection, and zero judgment throughout, which makes this messy, saucy, and real conversation about “being slutty” as educational as it is entertaining.
For someone who hasn’t listened:
Expect deep and honest laughs, a wild array of queer sex stories, serious insights into boundaries and safe sex, and a perfect crash course in real queer friendship — all delivered with that unmistakable Bob & Monét sparkle.