Sibling Rivalry – “The One About Cheating”

Date: September 1, 2025
Hosts: Monét X Change & Bob the Drag Queen
Podcast Description: Two Drag Race legends, Monét X Change and Bob the Drag Queen, serve up their signature humor and unfiltered takes as the intensely hilarious “non-siblings” with infectious chemistry on Sibling Rivalry.

Episode Overview

In this laughter-packed episode, Monét and Bob dig into the concept of “cheating”—not just in relationships, but in wigs, drag, games, family traditions, and school. True to form, the duo bounce between playful accusations, real talk, and raunchy jokes, revealing much about their personal boundaries, friendship dynamics, and the values they live by. Expect sharp wit, candid confessions, and a few classic moments of friendly bickering.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Cheating in Relationships

• Defining Cheating:
  The queens open the main conversation (22:24) with a debate on the definition of cheating, agreeing it’s about breaking the "agreed upon boundaries" of any relationship.

  • Monét's Google AI definition:
    “Breaking the agreed upon boundaries of the relationship, which can involve emotional or physical intimacy with someone outside the relationship.” (24:18)

• Personal Experience:

  • Bob: Never cheated—claims he's always followed the rules set in his relationships, often in open or poly arrangements (22:26–23:04).
    “I’ve never done anything outside of what me and my partners have agreed to.” (22:50)
  • Monét: Also says she's never cheated, qualifying that "situationships" don’t count unless exclusivity was established (23:11, 23:34).
  • They agree that emotional boundaries are as important as physical ones.

• Relationship Rules:

  • Bob & Jacob’s Policies:
    • Always communicate when things get serious with someone else.
    • No eye contact during hookups (jokingly) (25:44).
    • Nothing with friends is explicitly forbidden, but honesty is essential.
  • Monét & Andy’s Rules:
    • Only open when not together; fully monogamous when together (27:29).
    • No hookups with friends—Monét: “I put friends in a friend box and hookups in a hookup box.” (27:57)

• On Whether Hookup Partners Can Become Friends:

  • Monét is firm: “That has never happened… you’re an associate, a coworker.” (28:08)
  • Bob teases: “To any Monét’s hookups… just know that you were literally nothing but a piece of meat in her hotel bed.” (28:23)

2. Cheating in Drag: Wigs & Appearance

• The Wig Meltdown:
  • Huge tangent (06:32–12:48) about “lace melting” on TikTok, expensive theater laces, and the racial/economic politics of lace front wigs.
  • Bob laments the “invisible lace” arms race and the pressure for queens to mask their wigs: “Once your lace is not completely invisible, somehow you have failed at the art of… wigging, which I think is just like, girl, y’all need to calm down.” (08:31)
  • Monét credits TikTok for making quality wigs more accessible, discusses doubling up glueless wigs for more volume as a ‘big-headed’ queen (11:50–12:48).
• Wigs and Grace Lore:
  • Both recall early Drag Race seasons where Gloria (Wigs and Grace) would photograph queens in dozens of wigs for the site—a rite of passage (14:26–15:41).
  • Amusing lipstick name misunderstanding: “Blankety sounds like you’re blanking on the name and don’t want to tell me… Velvet Teddy sounds like a lipstick name.” (16:29–17:03)

3. Cheating in Games

• Bob Admits to Cheating (Sparingly):

  • Once, Bob and Jacob “cheated” in Among Us by sitting together and sharing information (37:00). “Jacob and I cheated one time in Among Us during lockdown… and someone got really mad at us and reported us.” (37:40)

• Accusations Fly at Monét’s House:

  • Bob claims Monét’s partner Andy cheats at game night. They bicker over whether rule-breaking equaled cheating or honest mistakes.
    • Bob: “Everyone who plays at that house knows Andy cheats. Everyone. This is… everyone but you, actually.” (40:33)
    • Monét: “What? I just don’t remember that!” (40:30)

• Cheating in Family or Childhood:

  • Jacob chimes in: his mom used to teach him to cheat at Candyland (48:09):
    “My mom used to cheat at Candy Land… you stack the cards, you’re guaranteed to pull a Queen Frostine.” (48:15)
  • Bob and Monét never experienced encouraged cheating at home.

4. Cheating in School

• Monét’s Music School Hack:
  • “I showed out in college, girl!” (Cheated using notes hidden in a clear folder during tests.) (54:44) “Anyone who does music, theater… knows how hard those classes are… I would put all my notes on a piece of paper and put it in the back of the folder…” (54:48)
• Bob: Never Cheated, Favors Open-Book Tests.
  • “Is the point to give people the ability to research information?” (55:39)
  • Bob boasts about his memory and loving pop quizzes (57:00–57:15).

5. Hygiene Tangent: Germaphobia

• Beer Pong & Floor Food:
  • Monét: Thinks beer pong is gross due to unwashed balls and floors; Bob: Not a germaphobe, will eat off the floor if it “passes the eye test” (50:38–52:21).
  • Lively debate over whether germaphobia is “real,” and what makes someone a stickler for cleanliness (53:15).

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Monét (to Bob, recurring): “You nasty, nasty woman. You are so nasty.” (02:29–02:57)
• Bob, after Monét describes her ‘friend box’:
  “To any Monét’s hookups… just know that you were literally nothing but a piece of meat in her hotel bed.” (28:23)
• Monét, about hookups:
  “A juicy piece of meat that I sucked the nut out of… that I stuck in my ass and rode that motherfucker into the sunset…” (28:30)
• On the “Velvet Teddy” lipstick mix-up:
  “Blankety sounds like you’re blanking on the name… but Velvet Teddy sounds like a lipstick name.” (16:29)
• Jacob, on Candyland cheating:
  “You stack the cards, you’re guaranteed to pull a Queen Frostine… then you just go from there, and it’s a pretty easy scoop.” (48:09)
• Banter about correcting each other’s speech or flaws:
  • Monét: “You have made me self-conscious about my speech...”
  • Bob: “You may have apologized, but you didn’t stop.” (41:24–42:15)
• Bob, on memory:
  “If one thing I can do is remember something… I’ve been very good at retaining information my whole life.” (57:09)
• Monét, slamming Bob’s water retention:
  “If you retain information like you retain water, you’re probably really good at it.” (57:15)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Start of "Cheating" in relationships: 22:23
• Open/Polyamorous rules talk: 24:43–27:20
• Wigs and melting lace deep dive: 06:32–12:48
• Game cheating stories: 37:00–41:02
• Debate: Andy cheats at game night? 39:36–41:02
• Family culture around cheating: 48:00
• Monét’s test cheating confession: 54:44
• Bob on open book tests & memory: 55:39–57:15

Final Thoughts

This episode blends the duo’s signature humor with honest disclosures about love, friendship, and the rules—written or unwritten—that hold relationships and games together. The line between “cheating” and cleverness is as blurry as the definition of lace “realness” in drag. Expect authentic insight, plenty of shade, and riotous laughter throughout.