The One About Crying

Summary

Sibling Rivalry – Episode: "The One About Crying"

Hosts: Bob The Drag Queen & Monét X Change
Date: September 29, 2021

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Episode Overview

In this deeply personal and often hilarious episode, Bob and Monét dive into the emotional topic of crying—what makes them cry, how they each experience and express emotion, the social context of tears, and why it’s okay (and sometimes necessary) to show vulnerability. The conversation is a vibrant blend of their signature banter, insight into their friendship, revelations about their childhoods, and stories about crying in the queer community and as performers. The episode is peppered with authenticity, warmth, and moments of proud Black queer joy.

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Key Discussion Points & Highlights

Opening Moments: Setting the Emotional Tone

• Monét opens with a prayer for the podcast [04:12]
  • “Father God… let our voices be used to edify the name of sibling rivalry Jesus.”
  • Immediate tongue-in-cheek playfulness sets the tone.
• Monét playfully calls out Bob for being grumpy [05:12]
  • Monét: “From the time Bob the Dragoon has sloshed his ass up here, he has not cracked a smile.”
• Revealing Immediate Emotions:
  • Monét admits to being on the verge of tears, having an “emotional couple days” [08:04]
  • Bob is supportive, despite sleepiness, leading to one of the episode’s first vulnerable exchanges.

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Family, Queerness, and Acceptance

[15:01–16:17]

• Monét’s Family Visit:
  • Monét describes the joy and surprise of having her aunts from the East Coast celebrate her in Los Angeles:
    • “Especially growing up, I just never thought this would ever, ever, ever in my life be a reality where my family would want to celebrate me and be so open and free about it—it just means so much to me.” [15:24]
• Parallels Among Cultures:
  • Monét touches on shared experiences of queerness in West Indian, African, and Asian cultures—“many parallels between those three ethnic identities.”
• Bob Reflects on Ancestors:
  • “You are your ancestors' wildest dreams.” [15:31]
  • Bob relates their queer, Black, drag existence to the hopes of ancestors who survived chattel slavery.

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Friendship, Vulnerability, and Giving Flowers

[09:45–10:51] & [20:15–20:40]

• Bob and Monét express gratitude for their friendship, supporting each other through career highs and emotional times.
• Bob shares a moment from TikTok that made him realize “If I were told that Monét was dying, I’d just be really upset.” [10:40]
• Quote:
  • “Your life is just so fruitful right now. It's producing fruit…and I’m happy to be able to be a part of your remarkable journey.” – Bob [09:58]
• Mutual Hype:
  • Monét hypes Bob’s "We're Here" trailer, expressing deep pride in Bob’s work. [20:15]
  • Bob: “Oh my God, Monét, you’re gonna make me cry. Let’s take a break.” [20:40]

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On Crying: When, Why, and How

[26:07–32:23]

• Segue to Main Theme:
  • Bob: “Which leads us into our topic today. Today we’re talking about crying.”
  • Monét is dubbed “the queen of segues.”
• Is Crying Easy for You?
  • Monét claims not to cry easily. [28:24]
  • Bob disputes this: “I’ve seen you cry more than five times, for sure.” [28:49]
  • Monét: “Okay. When?” [28:57]
• Moments They’ve Cried:
  • Both recall crying on the podcast, during Black Lives Matter, talking about raising children, and after Drag Race victories. [29:00–32:23]
  • “I think there’s actually a video of me crying at Pieces, looking like a blubbering fool.” – Monét [29:32]

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Drag Race and Drag Community Emotion

• Bob unpacks the emotional length of Drag Race:
  • “By the time you pack up for Drag Race and the time the finale airs, it is almost a year of your life.” [30:35]
• Reactions to Winning:
  • Discussion of Monét’s and Trinity’s dual win on AS4 and the shock/emotion accompanying it. [31:49]
• Favorite Shared Memories:
  • Performing “Disco Inferno” live after Monét’s win; audience joy. [34:21–36:02]

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Childhood & Crying: Patterns and Family Dynamics

[38:11–44:13]

• Beatings vs Whoopings:
  • Monét describes getting “whooped” for talking in class. Bob contrasts with his own rare physical punishments. [38:22–39:59]
• Sibling Rivalry Goes Way Back:
  • Bob’s story about crying over his brother’s birthday gifts and his mother photographing him mid-meltdown:
    • “When I say, at the drop of a hat, I need you to know I’m not kidding around. I would just cry whenever.” – Bob [41:30]
    • “She would whip out her camera and take pictures of me whenever I cried.” [43:13]

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Crying as Adults, Friends Who Cry, and Emotional Triggers

[45:28–55:47]

• Friends Who Cry:
  • Bob lists friends in the community who are tearful (Mitch, Ezra, Peppermint, Eureka, Matteo), describing lovable emotional meltdowns. [45:36–49:19]
  • Particularly sweet: Bob filming Ezra “just bawling because of how great things were.”[46:37]
• The Need to Cry:
  • Monét: “Sometimes you need to cry. Honestly, I genuinely believe in crying. You need to let those tears and that emotion flow so you can get through it.” [46:48]

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Crying On Stage, On Camera, and As Performers

[52:30–61:30]

• Bob on Forced Crying for Art:
  • Talks about crying eight shows a week during "Angels in America," the challenge of keeping tears authentic, and a director telling them, “Y’all are crying too much. Every scene can’t be crying!” [63:26–64:26]
• Monét’s Take on Opera and Emotion:
  • Opera, she asserts, is often not deeply tearful—“opera is very like, ah, done!” [52:44]
• Monologue Challenge:
  • Debate about reading and performing sad monologues, touching on the ethics of using real-life tragedy for theatrical effect. [66:16–68:04]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Monét (tearing up):
  • “I really am about to start crying. …I’m just so happy.” [08:04–08:49]
• Bob:
  • “You know, you are your ancestors’ wildest dreams.” [15:31]
• Talking about fan tags and being associated:
  • Monét: “They just associate us together a lot. …I’m like, let Bob have his flowers. Give her her moment.” [16:19–16:31]
• On crying as release:
  • Monét: “I use a movie… as a gateway… You need to let those tears and that emotion flow.” [46:48]
• Bob’s childhood tears:
  • “The crying did not work on my mom. I was just a very emotional child.” [41:51]
• On performing out of pride for each other:
  • Bob: “When Naomi came, I gave Naomi the theater, honey. …I really have to, like, do a good job.” [61:30]
• Summary of friendship:
  • Monét: “Despite all of that, despite of everything that you are, I love you.” [71:01]
  • Bob: “No fake hoes over here at Sibling Rivalry, honey.” [71:55]

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Opening Prayer and Emotional Check-in: [04:12–09:17]
• Family, Cultural Pride, and Affirmation: [15:01–16:19]
• Crying in Drag Community/Drag Race Stories: [29:00–36:31]
• Childhood Crying Stories & Parenting Styles: [38:11–44:13]
• Who Are the Biggest Crybabies in Our Circle?: [45:28–49:19]
• Performing Tears/Acting Discussion: [52:30–63:26]
• Monologue Challenge & Ethics of Crying as Performance: [66:16–68:04]
• Final Affirmations/Love Letter to Friendship: [71:01–71:52]

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Episode Tone & Takeaways

• Dynamic: Warm, fluid, candid, and always quick with a joke—even when discussing deep feelings.
• Key Message: Crying is not weakness; it’s a human release. Queer joy is worth celebrating, and it's okay to be emotional, especially with the ones you love.
• Friendship Model: The episode is a living example of chosen family, open vulnerability, mutual accountability, and—of course—shade.

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Memorable Moments

• The playful “prayer” for podcast success [04:12]
• Monét’s unapologetically emotional day and Bob’s gentle ribbing
• Reminiscing and laughing about being crybabies or not as kids—and their parents’ responses
• Heartfelt support and pride for each other’s achievements
• The running joke about “secret projects” that can’t yet be discussed
• The long list of “friends who cry the most”
• Discussing the authenticity and challenge of crying on stage or on camera (plus a potential monologue “cry-off”)

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Closing

Bob and Monét wrap with mutual appreciation and affection, underlining the importance of realness, emotional honesty, and an open heart in friendship—and a hearty reminder that "Sibling Rivalry" is all about that messy, loving, and sometimes tearful bond.

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Fans are left laughing, moved, and maybe—just maybe—even a little lighter about their own emotional moments.

Transcript

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[B]

My name is bob the drag queen,

[C]

and I'm monet x change.

[D]

And this is sibling rivalry.

[C]

On today's episode, Bob just woke up.

[B]

We talk about crying.

[D]

And we find out what made Bob say this.

[B]

Jackie would not like to hear all this shit talking about West Indian people. And we find out what made Monet X Change say this.

[C]

I feel like I'm getting like. Well, like what's here. Bob, before we start this podcast, are you interested in engaging with me with a little bit of prayer?

[B]

No, but you can pray.

[C]

Father God, as Bob the Drag Queen and I come together, Lord, on this night to record his podcast, Jesus, I

[D]

ask, Lord, that you let our voices be used to edify the name of sibling robbery Jesus. That today that this podcast will serve to uplift, edify Jesus, to exemplify the excellence, the exemplarance of fierceness, ferocity, and drag, Lord. And we just ask that the words that come from my lips, Jesus and God.

[C]

Oh, hallelujah. That it comes from God Lips, Lord. That comes from Bob's lips, Lord, will be the words on the wings of

[D]

babes that will soar like eagles. Jesus. That will cast, Lord, the amazing, unequivocally

[C]

ascending purpose of queerness, gayness, and overall cosity. Thank you, Lord.

[B]

Hey, you hang out with Monique so long.

[C]

This is obviously okay. Bob, we started bitch. Okay, Civil rivalry. People watching. From the time Bob the Dragoon has sloshed his ass up here, he has not cracked a smile. He has not said a hello. He looks like he is bothered to fucking be here today. And I once said the record shirt, I have come with an open spirit. I have missed Bob. I have not seen you for a couple days, even though it was maybe like, what, five days ago? I still miss you very much. And you sent a text message to me the other day, and literally, just reading it, I literally almost cried. But you have come here giving me. I don't know what this energy is, but I need you to fix it. Jesus.

[B]

Well, to quote you a couple episodes back, what is the energy? What is. What have I done differently? Do you remember that?

[C]

Roberta, I miss you so much. Can you please smile for me? Give me.

[B]

Come on, baby.

[C]

Give me a little smile, baby. Give me a little smile.

[B]

You're ridiculous. Money's also not mentioning to you all that I. That I'm sleepy, Bob.

[C]

Sleepy. You stay sleepy.

[B]

I walk about in my sleep. Monat tried to do the podcast an hour later than we're supposed to do it.

[C]

Okay.

[B]

Did you not.

[C]

I want to point out there have been many times where, because of your busy schedule, where you have had to change dates. So have I. So this is not a new thing that we change. Like, we moved the time around a little bit to accommodate both of our schedules. So it was just. And then when I said an hour later, Jacob was like, no, Bob is. He's a different time zone. Can we do half an hour? I said, sure. Which we met at half an hour. So please don't act like I have you acting like I pushed the podcast eight hours. Like, can we do it eight hours later? It's 30 minutes, mama. 30 minutes, baby.

[B]

You also. You also acting like I was. That's the thing about 20, 21, y'. All, your whole life been on the Internet. So Monet's like, I need more time. Monet's always something. We've accommodated you because of your job. Monae is in her living room hanging out with her buddies.

[C]

First of all, my. First of all, I flew into town this afternoon. I landed in LA at 3pm this afternoon. My family's. What is this face? What is this face? Bitch. I was working. My family is my. My three aunts from. From the east coast are visiting me from the east coast, and I took them out to dinner and stuff. And things are running late because I'm with three beautiful, rambunctious, crazy West Indian women. Things were running a little late, so I pushed the time.

[B]

What do you think about West Indian women?

[C]

That they are fierce, funny, rambunctious, and time wise.

[B]

One of my best friends. Watch what you say about West Indian people. One of my best friends is West Indian

[C]

pop. I miss you so much. That technology you sent, I'm not kidding.

[D]

You sent it.

[B]

And I was literally. Jackie would not like to hear all this shit you talking about West Indian people.

[C]

I was literally on the verge of tears when you sent it. I don't Know why? I'm also having, like, a very emotional past couple days, and I was like, oh, my God. I was like, I don't know if you're feeling. I feel like I'm getting like. Well, like I'm putting tears in your neck. I'm not even kidding. I'm not even being funny. I. Such an emotional couple days, and I'm trying not to cry. I don't want to cry on camera. I don't know. Just a lot of great things are happening, and I am not even being funny. I really am about to start crying. I'm not trying.

[B]

What's happening in your life?

[C]

Just lots of beautiful things, and I'm just so happy, and I miss you. Oh, my God. I'm fucking crying on camera. This doesn't ridicule. Get ready. Come on.

[B]

What is going on with my.

[C]

My sweet little baby?

[B]

Oh, my God.

[C]

I'm really crying on camera, and I don't want to cry. I hate when people cry on camera. It's so stupid. Like, you know when people do Instagram lives and they start crying, like, what the fuck are you crying? Oh, my God. Oh, my God. This is insane. This is insane. Oh, my God. What is happening? I don't even know what's happening. I'm just so happy.

[B]

My sweet baby. I'm glad that you're so happy.

[C]

I love you so great things.

[B]

I love you very, very much, and I'm really happy to be your friend.

[C]

Oh, my God. What is happening?

[B]

You're emotional. I text Monet the other day. I am, like, really going through it. Were you sipping on something a little bit today? I was not sipping.

[C]

I had one cocktail today.

[B]

Oh, my God, Monet, you're so sweet. You really.

[C]

I'm like. I'm just.

[B]

Well, your life is just so fruitful right now. It's producing fruit in your. And you're reaping. You're harvesting. You're harvesting everything from your. From all of your hard work, and it's all coming to fruition right now, and I'm happy to be able to be a part of your remarkable journey. I don't know why. I think. I know I text you the day I was. You're gonna laugh at me. But I was on TikTok anyway, and it was like. It was like. This was hard to listen to, and it was this lady listening. It was this lady receiving bad news about someone in her family, and she was just so sad, and I was like, oh, my God, that is just so sad. And I feel like if I Were to be, you know, told that Monet was dying, I'd just be really upset.

[C]

So I take a man.

[B]

I said, you're not allowed to die before me.

[C]

I know. I was just. And that just brought a whole wave of emotions, which. That is very. You also sent it at 10:30pm I was just about to go perform. Or you said the time. You said, I was just about to do something important. I was like, not by.

[D]

It was.

[B]

It was 4 o' clock in the afternoon.

[C]

Well, which means where I was at, it was 8pm So I was. I mean, yeah. Oh, my God. So you. I read that. I was like, no foul. Sending me this. I was like, oh. All I could text was, aww. Cause I was literally. I couldn't text anything else. I was feeling so emotional at that moment.

[B]

This is gonna be one of those moments that people are gonna be like, I love their relationship so much. Get you a friend like Bob and Monet.

[C]

What is his voice?

[B]

You know my voice? I do when I'm imitating people. Let me turn this air off real quick.

[C]

Quick.

[B]

So it doesn't. Hold on one sec.

[C]

Oh, God. My God, Mona, you're so.

[B]

You're so funny.

[C]

Trying to be funny. I'm just trying to be a human being. I know.

[B]

Oh, I. I'm awake now. I just. I just woke up. Like, when I tell. Like I'm telling you. Like, I woke up and I had to be on this call at 11:30. I woke up at 11:29 and I was like. I was like, here I come. And then I had to use the restroom. And then after using the restroom six minutes later, I logged onto this.

[C]

Damn. Did you have Chipotle for lunch? What had you in the Burcolate that long?

[B]

Well, I think that you and I both know that I take longer in the restroom than most people. Except when I'm peeing. When I'm peeing. I'll be back in like three seconds.

[C]

Let me say something. Bob goes to pee. I can. You can count the sec. The milliseconds go by. Bob will enter the restroom, come out, and maybe a second has turned over on the clock. I'm like, this is insane.

[B]

But when it comes to, you know, the other one, I tend to, you know, take a little bit of time. So then I sit down. And when I. When I sit down, when they was like, praying, and I was like, oh,

[C]

God,

[B]

she's doing this to irritate me. And then I was like. And then I. My microphone wasn't plugged in, so I was like, oh, my God,

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Y'.

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All.

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Y'.

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All.

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Y' all know Bob when he's in serious mode. Deadpan, not a smile. Jacob, Jacob, be myself in the recording so I can plug in my microphone, please. And I was like, well, but it wasn't attitude. Y.

[B]

It wasn't like.

[C]

It was not attitude. It was not attitude at all. It was just sleep. It was just sleepy, disoriented. Bob being like, jfk, can you stop recording? So I'm plugging my mic in, please. I was like, oh,

[B]

you're so. You are so silly. Is all the good stuff happening in your life? Is it just, like. Is it one of those, like, can't talk about it? Or is it, like, it's one of

[C]

them I'd rather not talk about, but the other things are just good.

[B]

You do love to get on the podcast and talk about things you can't talk about. Big project, can't talk about it. We'll tell you guys soon. Hashtag big teenscoming. Hashtag, we out here working, working hard. Hashtag, you'll see. Hashtag in due time. Hashtag I'm like, oh, my God.

[C]

One of them is a lot. Some professional career stuff that is growing great. And two, my family is visiting me here from east coast, and we went out today. And, you know, like I've said before, I come from a very conservative West Indian. A lot of you guys who are West Indian, who are African, lots of Asian folk also identify with this as well. I don't know something about those three cultures. They are. They seem to be very similar in the way that they regard queerness. And a lot of. There are many parallels between those three ethnic identities that I find a lot of.

[D]

And then.

[C]

So they're all visiting me here, and they're these great women, and just to see them just be so happy and proud of me. And literally every restaurant we go to, hey, you need to play love like this. You need to play Beyonce. You need to soak it up. Like, oh, my God. And just to see them just be so happy and just so free and so proud and especially growing up, I just never thought this would ever, ever, ever in my life be a reality where my family would want to celebrate me and be so open and free about it, it just means so much to me.

[B]

I mean, you are your ancestors wildest dreams. You ever seen those? You ever heard that meme or that T shirt? No, it's like a black thing, and it says, you are your ancestors wildest dreams. I think that about myself a lot. I think to myself, you know, I had some ancestors who were products of, you know, American chattel slavery. And I'm out here and some of them were queer. I mean, statistically speaking, right? I know that some of them are queer.

[C]

You know what I mean?

[B]

So imagine if they could see my big black, queer, drag queen ass today. You know, on We're Here, like, you

[C]

know, Lucifer is popping off, bitch. I have seen if. If I get tagged in one more Lucifer screenshot, screen grab, I'm gonna fucking delete my Instagram. Stop tagging me.

[B]

Lucifer, why are they tagging you in that?

[C]

Oftentimes people will tag me and stuff with you because they just associates with us together a lot. They're like, Bob the Dragon, Bob turning up in Lucifer. Monet, change tag two. I'm like, let Bob have his flowers. Give her her moment.

[B]

You know, when you were in

[C]

Lovecraft

[B]

Love cup country, I was like, yo, I know, I know, I know, I know y'. All, I know one of the Lovecraft y'.

[C]

All.

[B]

I promise you. I know. Thank you so much for letting me know that. That means. That really means a lot to me. But I've been also, last time, I want to give the fans a little bit of closure. I don't even know how long ago. It was months ago at this point, maybe almost half a year ago. At this point, on one of our podcasts, Monet was in a hotel, and Monet was like, I can't say where I am or why, but let's just say. And at the time, it was because you were doing the Bachelor. The Bachelorette.

[C]

Oh, yes, yes. That was. I had the tan and white stripe thing. It was, you know, it was the episode about driving. It was the episode about driving. I was filming the Bachelorette, and that

[B]

was one of the times where everyone was like, monet loves to be doing a super secret project that she can't tell nobody about.

[C]

I couldn't say it,

[B]

but again, you know, sometimes for me, whenever I'm doing something I can't talk about, I'll try to avoid the topic altogether.

[C]

So tell us where you're at now.

[B]

Well, see, you're doing the thing where you're making it. Okay, But I am, I mean, excited that we are wrapping out. We're doing the final episode of We're Here Bitch.

[C]

The We're Here trailer. I'm sorry, Sorry to cut you off. I'm gonna Kanye West Taylor switch to you right now, bitch. I'm sorry to cut you off, but the mother tucking We're Here Season two Trailer done had been. Had. Dropped it. And Bob, no sorry to these girls. Eureka and Shangela. You ain't no crumbs, baby. Everyone looks amazing. I'm not trying to shade anyone but mama.

[B]

What are you being so sweet to me? You know, I was really proud.

[C]

I mean, you know, I told you this before. Yeah, Bob, you. I mean, obviously the jaw drop of the season is your fucking that blue lady. Okay? So now I can talk about it. When you sent it to me, when you sent it me on Facebook, when you were like, did it in real time, my mouth was agape. I was gagged. I was like, this is insane. You look so good.

[B]

So for everyone wondering what it is, is in one of the episodes, I wear this anyone. I've never done a titty plate. I've never done a titty bib ever once in my life. And I did this, like, pumped up, like, Juvederm Botox filler house. Everyone in the comments keeps calling me Candy Burrs.

[C]

My Katie Burris.

[B]

Of course, my mom was selling, like, Blac Chyna, but it is giving very much like reality TV star. Like, overly, overly done up. By the way, that's a human hair piece that I'm wearing, by the way,

[C]

Bob is a human hair.

[B]

It's like a long. It's like a high pony long human hair down to, like, the middle of my back. So I gotta tell folks, like, honestly, what makes Queer here such an exciting show is like, bitch. When you give a queen, like, a budget and a team. Like, we each have, like a. We each have, like, a RuPaul style team on this show. We have, like, a dedicated designer who has a team themselves. And then we each have a makeup artist, and we each have a person to help us produce our stories and stuff. So it. Thank you so much. I saw you. You hyping me up, Monet. That really meant a lot to me. And maybe this contributed to my emotions

[C]

too, because when the trailer dropped, I was like, oh, my God. You just. I'm just. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. I'm having a worse. I was like, oh, my trailer dropped. Oh, my God. I swear, I'm not even timing this for this episode. When the trailer dropped, I just felt so proud because the amount of work that I know that you personally put into we're here, I just felt so

[D]

proud to see the trailer.

[B]

Oh, my God, Monet, you're gonna make me cry. Let's take a break.

[C]

Fuck, it's going on.

[B]

Let's take a break.

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Monet, please take a break.

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[C]

Fuck.

[B]

But you were so emo girl.

[C]

I was so emo today. I don't know what is going on. I don't know what is going on. Oh my God. Bitch. Pull it together.

[B]

It's the moans.

[C]

No, but okay, I'm together. Okay, we're back. But no, I Have seen all the hard work that you put into it, Roberta, and just see the trailer and to know all the shit that you've done, I'm just like. I was just so proud to see it.

[B]

Oh, you just. You're being so sweet to me today. Which leads us into our topic today. Today we're talking about crying. And I've always said, monet's the queen of Segways. And you really ate this for girl. Monet said, oh, bitch, I remain the queen of Segways. My segues gonna stay on point. Are your aunts in your home right now?

[C]

Yeah, they're in my living room dancing to Calypso and Soka. They are living their. They were having such a good time.

[B]

So I saw this video, and I. I assumed that these were your family members. If. If you don't mind me saying.

[D]

Why?

[B]

Because I feel like Monet typically talks about, like, all of her. Like, any of Monet's friends who. Who I don't know. Like. Like, if I knew Monet's friends that I know through her, I pretty much know who each of them are. And I've seen. But then these three people, I was like, Monet was like my favorite women. I was like, I don't even know these. Like, I am not. And then one of. And then also one of them is. Is a little bit older than Monet. And I was like, Monet's. I was like, this must be, like, an auntie or somebody in Monet's family for Monet to, like, know these. These Caribbean ladies who are all dancing to love like this, which must be a really amazing feeling all, like, in your house, dancing to your song in your living room, in your big, beautiful home with your couch.

[C]

Finally have a couch and your cat.

[B]

Do what, Mom? Jacob. Yeah. What are your family members?

[C]

Met Colin yet? Okay. So I had to. So my. My family came in on Thursday, and I left Thursday.

[B]

Like, Colleen just failed.

[C]

Then I left Thursday. So I was like, I cannot, like, leave Thursday. And, like, my aunts have never been to my home. They don't know what they're doing. Kind of just leave my cat here. So Colleen's at the pet sitter. I pick her up tomorrow. And then Colleen's coming back home because I just landed today.

[B]

So you admit that Colleen is a lot, and it'd be really hard for her to be around people.

[C]

For people who have never cared for a cat, yes. That is a lot to ask them to care for my cat. Oh, my God. I drink smart waters, too. Oh, my God, no. I'm kidding. Could you imagine? I started crying when I was drinking Smart Water.

[B]

Not a smart Water. Do you cry easily?

[C]

I really don't, Bob. When have you ever seen me cry? I do not cry easily. I cannot tell you the.

[B]

Roll the footage.

[C]

I cannot tell you the last time I cry. That's why. I don't know. But again, I still like a lot of stuff. This one's. I'll tell you off camera. Don't try to do no shady shit. I'll tell you off camera something.

[B]

I'm not the one trying to get you to tell me where you are. That's you. That's your cup of tea.

[C]

Something extra, extra, extra sweet happened today that really, like, set me off, I think.

[B]

And, I mean, I've seen. I mean, maybe I've seen you cry more than most of you, but I've seen you cry. I mean, quite a few times, I think. I've seen you cry more than five times, for sure.

[C]

Okay. When?

[B]

Well, you and I have had several sweet moments where we would just cry because we were feeling sweet at the time. I've seen you tear up, too, just from straight up. Tearing up in general. You cried on the podcast, like, two or three times. We cried. Black Lives Matter. We talked about. We cried. We cried talking about children. Raising children.

[C]

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. We did the one about.

[B]

And I think there's, like, maybe parenting. Apparently, that's what it was. Yeah. You cried, and I feel like you cried when I won Drag Race. I feel like you did.

[C]

Oh, I. Absolutely. I think there's a video of me crying at Pieces, looking like a blubbering fool.

[B]

But I remember, like, you cried, like, with me, like, you. And I like. Cause I was. You were at pieces. I was. I was. You were in the West Village. I was in Midtown. That was a real crazy day.

[C]

That was wild.

[B]

I mean, me and Monique, I mean, we're not trying to be, like, elitist, but, like, winning Drag Race is such a weird experience, because, first of all, I have, like, cried over pageants that I've lost and. Or come close to winning that I worked on for, like, a month. Okay. Drag Race is. And, I mean, I get a local club gig. I infamously broke down at Tuesdays. And so when you, like, going on RuPaul's Drag Race, which y' all don't realize, but by the time you pack up for Drag Race and the time the finale airs, it is almost a year.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Of your life.

[C]

Yeah. Yeah. For sure. It's a very big chunk of your life. This was a very big chunk. And in that time, you're just thinking about the could have beens, the what would have happened, and how it's all gonna turn down. Like. Like. Like, for me, my experience, I kept on playing a lot of those things in my mind, like, throughout that entire year, waiting for it to air. And you just start to build a lot of emotion up in there.

[D]

When you.

[B]

When you won Drag Race, was it. Because I know there's a video of you and Trinity together, and then, like, when you won. I mean, I'm not. I'm not. I don't. I don't know what was in Trinity's mind. And I. And I can only engage in conjecture, but it felt like Yuri, she was. She's a pageant queen. And I felt like she was, like, pageanting her. Like, telegraphing her emotion, shall I say? Anticipating something, and then also was a little bit shocked because she was either prepared to, like, win and be like, oh, I'm so sorry, Monae, but I'm glad I won, or be like, congratulations, Monet, you deserve to win. And I didn't. But then she got the third option, which she wasn't even ready for, which was. You both won.

[C]

It just treated like this.

[B]

Yeah. And Monet is, like, in, like, true. Typical Monet fashion,

[C]

like.

[B]

And weren't y' all at a Casey Musgraves concert?

[C]

Okay, so we watched it at the bar across World of Wonder. We watched it in this bar. That's the reaction you're talking about. We were watching it.

[B]

There's a bar across from World of Wonder.

[C]

Yeah, we watched it there with, like, the World of Wonder.

[B]

That place literally across the street.

[C]

Literally across the street next to Markham.

[B]

Is that a straight bar?

[C]

It's a straight bar.

[B]

Listen, we did not throw bricks at Stonewall to have Drag Race watch Drag Race at us, though, having their announcements at a straight bar.

[C]

Yeah, we did that. And then that's when we both found out with the rest of the world. And then. Or we. We did that private screening, and then the rest of the world found out later. And then after, like. So that happened at, like, maybe 3:30 in the afternoon, that video y' all saw. And then later that night at, like, 10:30, we went to the Casey Musgraves concert, and then she announced it in front of everyone.

[B]

No spoiler alert.

[C]

Just straight up imagine Carrie brought her boyfriend Johnny to the Casey Musgraves concert. And they're. And they plan to. They DVR Drag Race. They're like, babe, she's like, babe, when we go home later, I want to watch Drag Race together. And he's like, oh, okay, babe. And then they're at Casey Musk's Grace concert, and she's like, Monet. Trinity won. And Kelsey was probably mad as hell. Carrie, whatever. I said her name was mad.

[B]

I mean, but it is a cool way to be there and be like, oh, my God. They. And also now they're standing in front of me and. Did you all come out and, like, during one of her songs or what?

[C]

Yeah, it was the. Have you seen enough? Seen it.

[B]

I thought she did a country version of Champion. Greatest.

[C]

That would have been great. Oh, my God. This is why Bob always has great ideas. Bob. Where. Why didn't you tell her management team if she would have done her little own version of Champion? That would have been fierce.

[B]

Where was I when you. Where was I when you won RuPaul's Drag Race, where were you? I was. Was I on Work the World?

[C]

I don't know. I don't remember.

[B]

I don't.

[C]

I don't remember when I spoke to you. I don't remember.

[B]

Oh, no. But I was. I was in New York City, because I remember you came back. Oh, my God. This was actually one of my. This is actually one of my favorite memor of me and you ever. This is, like, one of my favorite, favorite memories. You came back and we did the show at the Bell House, and. Oh, yeah, and it was like. It was like, right. It was like, right after you went, like, within a week of you winning.

[C]

Yeah, we did the show at the

[B]

Bell House, and there's this video online, and I reposted, and I said, when you force your little sister to perform for your mom in the living room. And it's me and Monet doing Disco

[C]

Inferno, and we're doing.

[B]

Oh, now I want to Cry. We were doing. So I went out first, and I was, like, doing the number, and everyone cheered because everyone's like, we love Bob. But then when you came out and they were all just, like, going, so. I mean, they were going so crazy that you had just won Drag Race. And it was, like, in this big room, and everyone was, like, just. It was really wild to be able to be in there, because I feel like I've been there. I mean, when you were competing at the Monster. Not at the Monster, at Saliva, at the Ritz.

[C]

Saliva, bitch.

[B]

This is, like, so in my head, I'm seeing, like, the drag queen who, like, glued feathers to the shoes, to the wedges, to the Espadrilles. The queen who glued feathers to the espadrilles. And you had this weird, like, feather hat. And, like, Money was wearing those hideous feather lashes. They were so bad. And Monet would put in white contacts and then just like, draw, like, squigglies under her eyes. And she thought, like. And Monet was really into, like, military jackets back then, too. And Monet was like, bitch, I am literally the winner of this week. I won. And Monet did not even place. But then turn around and, like, you're in this room and we're in our matching outfits and everyone's just like, screaming.

[C]

It was amazing.

[B]

And it was like, I mean, obviously they recognize you from the back. If the two of us turn around, they're gonna recognize you from the back for obvious reasons. But it was just so great. So if y' all like, well, if you're in the Patreon right now, you can scroll back. I think we have these things, like, saved in, like, little tabs. And there's like, live performances. We have not been able to do a Silver rivalry live in such a long time. And the energy at those live shows used to just so crazy.

[C]

Can we do a one off? Can we do in the fall? Can we please just do an LA and New York York? Let's just do an LA to New York. One LA show, one New York show. Because our show, our live. Because it will be announced soon. Our tour is coming in 2022 or changing up the show a little bit. So I think, Bob, we can do an LA and a New York and just do the old show because we'll be doing a different one.

[B]

Yeah, I mean, that'd be. That'd be really amazing. And we could.

[C]

I mean, the Globe Theater, the ace Theater. Honey, 2000 down easy.

[B]

I mean, honestly, we really could. Like, it's just. It's just so wild to think about us performing for, like. I mean, when I. When I say no one at the Monster, I need y' all to know there are times we were literally performing for, like, three drunk people. Like, am I lying? When am I telling the truth?

[C]

There were times, you know, we had

[B]

busy nights in the Monster. We did have some busy nights, but there were nights where we just had. I mean, I mean, y' all remember I would get into a physical altercation with a patron of hardware, and then Monet, Ms. Cracker perform for Caitlyn

[C]

Mitch. Not even the bartenders wanted to be. They're like, can we clock out? Can we go? This is not worth my time.

[B]

Yeah, so it Is really wild to be on this, you know, this remarkable journey with you.

[C]

So can y' all please sound off in the comments? If we did a New York show and an LA show, would you guys come? Or do you guys want to see that? Are y' all interested? And if we do that and comment for real, don't be just like, yeah. Then when we posted, you, like, no bitch comment. If you're really gonna come. Full tea.

[B]

Did you cry a lot as a kid? Were you a crybaby?

[C]

I was not a crybaby as a kid. I mean, I would cry when I would get, like, beatings, but I wasn't like. If I didn't get my way, I didn't cry.

[B]

Beatings?

[C]

Yeah, I would. My. My mom beat me with a belt. I got beat with a belt also. I went to school

[B]

in my mind. A whooping and a beating. I mean, if it was a belt, that's a whooping. Beating are like throwing hands.

[C]

Okay, Okay. I guess whoopings. Then. I got. I got whooped pretty often because I was. I was always talking in class. I was always talking in class. Class.

[D]

I just.

[C]

I couldn't help myself. I couldn't stop. I could not stop talking in class. I would. Every report card. Because in St. Lucia, it was old school, I guess, in. In the States, too, but they would, like, write a thing and they were like, physically write. It wasn't like a printout with your grades.

[B]

Oh, yeah, yeah. These would be one stock card. They would write your. Your name, your. Your grade, and then how you are doing.

[C]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I would always be like, kevin is great. Kevin really small, but he won't stop talking in class. Literally everything I look at the same.

[B]

That's so crazy. I get the same report cards over and over again. He will not stop talking. How do we get. How do we get him to stop talking?

[D]

He just.

[B]

He just won't stop talking.

[C]

And would Ms. Martha give you whooping because you wouldn't stop talking?

[B]

No. My mother very, very rarely used any corporal punishment on us. Like, very rarely.

[C]

Gag, bitch. My mom would tear it up.

[B]

So my mother was. Give us an option a lot of times. So if we. Let's say we. Me and my brother, both do again. Me and my brother, we always got in trouble together. It was never one at a time. So if one of us broke something, then we were both like. We broke it. It was us. I am Spartacus.

[C]

This is us.

[B]

We both broke this. This is us. And then so my mom would be like, all right, y'. All broke this ball. So how do you want to get a whooping, or do you want to get. Be grounded? And my brother would always take the whooping, so that way, if you get whooping, you can just go outside right away.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

I would take the grounding because I didn't want to get hits. I would take the grounding, but then Justin would play right outside the window. Like, he would literally only play outside the window and be like, I'm having so much fun. Oh, my God, I feel this is so great to be having this much fun because I'm not grounded. And then I would get really mad. Like, I would like my whooping now. And she'd be like, no, no, no. You made your mind up. You're grounded.

[C]

Let me tell you, every time you talk about your child, how you're raised, Bob, it makes so much sense about the person you are today. It literally tells me everything I need to know about this. What does that mean? Because the fact that you're like, oh, no, you chose that, Bob. That sounds. That is literally how you are today. I was like, no, Monet, no. You already said what you wanted. You already said what you wanted to do. Now we're going to do this thing that is so you. I just want to point that. I do.

[B]

I. I give people space to change their minds, Make you beholden to their decisions.

[C]

You know, I was. Yeah, I was not a big crybaby as a kid, but you were, you bitch. I. You. I heard that you was a cry baby girl, so I'll try to get

[B]

some pictures so Jacob can send them. So I cried. I mean, when. When I say, at the drop of a hat, I need you to know I'm not getting around. Like, I would just cry whenever.

[C]

Were you crying on cue? Like. Like. Like, were you, like. Were you crying because your mom said something, or you were like, I know she's gonna say something, so I'm gonna cry to make the punishment less. Less severe.

[B]

Okay. The punishment was never less severe because I cry, because I cry all the time. The crying did not work on my mom, and I was just a very emotional child. Just very emotional. I was.

[C]

So you were Monet exchanged to that? Just emotional?

[B]

Yes. I was riddled with emotion, and I would just be like, anything would just make me cry. I mean, I cry. I told you I cried. My brother's birthday is January 2nd, so because it's so close to Christmas, that's, what, eight days after Christmas? My mom. We just didn't have enough money to have Christmas and then my brother's birthday party. So Justin, growing up, never got to celebrate his birthday. On his birthday, he would get like one small little thing. Like, I think my mom would just like, like set a Christmas present aside and give it to Justin eight days later. Because she just couldn't afford to give Justin a celebration on his birthday. Cause his birthday is the second day of the year. So Justin celebrated his birthday on my birthday for a long time, June 22. So six months later, Justin would celebrate his birthday, which is kind of crazy. I would have never let that fly. I would have been causing a scene as a child. I would have been like, crying, acting a mess, just being wild. And then one time on my birthday, which is our celebration, mind you, Justin got more physical bills than I got. I had more money than him. Like, I had like 20 and he had like three fives. And I remember being like, justin has more money than me. This is so unfair.

[C]

Did you cry?

[B]

And I did I cry. I caused a scene. Like, I didn't. It wasn't just like sobbing. It was like loud crying. It was like show stopping. Like everyone has a pause to watch me cry. My, my. And my mother would do this thing whenever I would cry. She would whip out her. Whip out a camera and take pictures of me whenever I cried. So. But. And she'd be like, look at you crying.

[C]

I love that. And I say when I see kids crying in public, I'd be like.

[B]

And then she would pose with me like this, and she'd be like. Like, I would just be sobbing. So there's all these pictures of me growing up as a kid, and I am. I am like screaming. I remember crying so hard, like, my throat hurt. And I was just like, you know, you're crying and you're like coughing, and you're like. Like you're coughing, you're heaving, like, everything. And my mom was just in the picture.

[C]

Like, when I see kids fucking crying in public, that shit irritates me. I just feel so bad for the parents. The other day at the airport, this woman. It was just this woman. And, like, her four kids. And they were all. They had to be all between. Like, none of them could be older than 5 years old. And I'm just. One is in a stroller, one is in her arm. One is. One of them is helping a person stroller. The other one. And I was like. And she just trying to corral these kids to just get through security. And two of them are crying. One is. I was like, poor Jesus Christ. Children are the Worst. This woman just could not. She just could not do anything. These kids were ruining her day.

[B]

I feel that whenever I see, like a parent and a kid, especially if it's a lady and a kid, and like the woman is disciplining this child and a lot of folks are like, oh, my gosh, she's younger, that kid. And I think to myself, what did that shitty kid do? Drive this woman to where she's yelling at the kid and for. What did this kid do? This poor lady that. She is this stressed out, that sweet sweetness, demon, twink of a child, giving this woman, like, agita. I always. I always side with. I always side with the mom every time.

[C]

For sure. For sure. She probably asks. She's at her wits end. Do you have any friends that cry a lot? I think I know who you're gonna say.

[B]

I mean, I have a few friends who cry a lot. Mitch cries a lot.

[C]

Does he?

[B]

Mitch cries? Yeah.

[C]

What the hell am I crying about? What's wrong with him?

[B]

What's wrong with him? Ezra cries. Ezra cries all the time.

[C]

Does he really? Well, what are you doing to make Ezra cry?

[B]

I'm not. Ezra will cry. I have a video on my phone. Maybe I can find it and I'll ask Ezra if. I'll ask Ezra if I can post it in the Patreon. But it is just a video. Ezra had a concert. We did like. We did a digital concert for Ezra.

[C]

For a girl baby?

[B]

Yeah. No, no, it was. It was before girl baby. It was like. It was just. I mean, he played girl baby, but he just did like. It was just like a quarantine, you know, we were all in quarantine, finding ways. And I said, babe, let's just do a digital concert for you. So it was like this one day, and then, like, everything was coming. It was like, you today. Everything was happening right at the right time. And then he just started, like bawling. So then I did a Martha and I just started recording. And I was talking to him. He was just like, everything is just happening.

[C]

So wonderful.

[B]

And I can't believe things are all so great and everyone's being nice to me. And he was just like bawling because of how great things were.

[C]

Sometimes you need to cry. Honestly, I genuinely believe in crying. Sometimes you just have so much emotion built up, you need to let it out. I definitely had other things going on, and I use a movie or something that I really find emotional as a gateway to let that emotion out. Because I feel. I genuinely feel leaving that emotion bottled up Inside is not good for you. You need to let those tears and that emotion flow so you can, like, get through it and want to. The next thing. I. I feel that way. Do you watch, like.

[D]

Do you watch things?

[C]

Do you watch things, like, intentionally to cry?

[B]

No. Let me say this one thing. Answer your last question. Also, Peppermint cries a lot. One time, me and Pep were playing. Yes.

[C]

Oh, yeah. I remember when she was crying when you play, when she had to kill you.

[B]

Yeah. We were playing Dead. Dead by daylight.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

And it's like a game where it's like. It's like, basically, like, Friday 13th or something. And she was the killer. And I was like, hit me. Because I was like, we want to know how to know the game. I was like, hit me. And then she just started crying, and she was like, I don't want to kill you.

[C]

The video's on your YouTube. Y' all should watch it. It's very funny.

[B]

And I was like, pep, it just hit me. She goes, I don't want to hit you. So Pep is like this big monster with, like, a meat cleaver. And we're just, like, walking around this graveyard, like, smelling Pep or Eureka.

[C]

Oh, my God.

[B]

Eureka also cry. Eureka is also a crier. Eureka cries a lot.

[C]

Do you know who don't cry? Shangela. Because she don't give a fuck.

[B]

Shangela does. I. I don't think I've ever. I'm not. I've seen Shangela cry when we're here before. I've seen Shangela cry once. That's.

[C]

That's what I thought you were gonna say. Mateo. Mateo cries.

[B]

Mateo cries. Probably.

[E]

Actually.

[B]

I don't know how to think of it. Out of. Of all of my friends, Matteo cries the most. And Matteo, if you are even anything less than completely nice to Mateo, he will start crying. I've been able to cry before.

[C]

That's what I thought your number one was going to be. That's what I thought. I thought that was the first name you were going to say. Mateo.

[B]

I think Alfredo's made Mateo cry, like, two or three times. I said, actually, Alfredo, the other day, I called Alfredo, and I was like, girl, my. My. My episode of Lucifer's out. And then he was like, yeah, I've seen the clips on Instagram. And I said, oh, the whole episode's out now, if you want to see it. And he was like, you know, I listen to your podcast and I watch your review show, and I watch your tiktoks and everything you do. I think it'll Be fine if I miss this one thing. And I was like, alfredo is the

[C]

opposite of someone who cries. Alfredo is. Alfredo is literally as the line. And the Wiz would say, I'm a mean old lie. Alfredo is just mean. Alfredo.

[B]

I've seen Alfredo cry before.

[C]

Have you? Can you say it on here?

[B]

The one person, the one friend of mine I really have not seen cry is Nick Smith. Nick is like, the one close friend of mine that I've never seen cry. Yeah, that's everyone else I've seen cry. I've seen Jacob cry. Jacob cried. Oh, my God. You remember when we did that, when we did the State of America? Jacob was crying with us in the basement.

[C]

Oh, was he really here?

[B]

He was. We were.

[C]

We were. We were.

[B]

We were recording. And then, like, Jacob. I'll never forget this, Jacob took off

[C]

his glasses and went, oh, mother, Jacob. That's so cute. Yeah, those.

[B]

I've seen Jacob cry other times outside of that. But I, I, I. That is a distinctive memory I have. Like, like all three of us in the basement.

[C]

Bitch. No, I was at home.

[B]

No, you were with us, weren't you?

[C]

No, I did his.

[B]

It was me and Jason and me and Jace. Jacob. Jason and the baker. I say Jason and the Bake Up. Me and Jacob in the basement. And you are down at 1:40.

[C]

I was on 145th between Broadway and Riverside, which, by the way, I always

[B]

told y', all, if you watch. If you watch the world, the world, you will know because they fully show. The dry cleaners are right across one of those. I was like, not them showing me a dress. Crazy. Yeah. Not wild doxing Monet exchange.

[C]

Are they fully. My address is fully out fully on Work the World. And, I mean, they blurred it out a little bit, but you can use context clues to fucking figure out where the fuck I live. Yeah.

[B]

Because the name of the company is not blurred out. Yeah, the address of the company's blurred out.

[C]

So I was like, okay, whatever. But, yeah. Have we. Have.

[B]

We didn't. Also to whoever lived in Monet's old building. And you would see me and Monet in the building all the time. And Monet would see that person. Then people, it was these gays. And she'd be like, oh, we're visiting a friend. And whenever me and Monet would be in the elevator and we see this one little gay guy with a nice butt. Do you remember this gay guy had

[C]

a really cute butt? Do you remember this? Yes.

[B]

I remember being like, oh, my God, this butt is great. And then he was like, oh my God, Monet X Change, Bob the Drag Queen. Do you live here? And Monet was like, no, I'm visiting a friend. And I was like, at some point would he be like, damn, Monat stay visiting this friend?

[C]

And you know, packages still get sent to my old building. And they DM me. They're like, hey girl, we have a package here for you. I'm like, what is wrong? Why are people still sending packages there? Probably lots of press stuff is probably going to the house, but they got all kind of free shit over there.

[B]

Well, apparently. Cause my stuff usually gets into Kennedy's place because I, I did not. My front door was out. It was literally outside. Yeah, like if you open my door, you were literally outside.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

So I never got packaged glues in my place because they would get just fully mopped. So all my stuff went to Kennedy's place. And the folks who live there are like, oh, we, we stay getting stuff from promo packages.

[C]

And yeah, who knows what they got. They got all kind of fair. I wish I had.

[B]

Have you heard the cry on camera before?

[C]

I've never had to cry on camera. I would love to do. I would love to cry on camera. I would never have though. I would love to have you or

[B]

on stage or an opera, anything.

[C]

No, not opera is not really emotional like that. Opera is very like, ah, done.

[B]

But is it. I mean, I don't know a whole lot about opera, but isn't like Maria Callas the one who like really put acting for opera on the map?

[C]

Sure, that argument can be made, but this, this, this people love. People don't love Matteo and big Maria.

[B]

Oh, he gonna cry, he gonna cry.

[C]

Big Maria Kalistans love to say that she was the one who started really acting as an opera singer. But she was not the first and she won't be the last. Because that, cuz that is what dead. So many people used to cry before Maria Callis.

[B]

Jesus Christ. One time me and Mateo got into an argument, like, and I mean it was like an argument and it was over Maria Callas.

[C]

Why? What were you arguing about?

[B]

I can't remember, but he was trying to say that, like he was. I can't remember quite what it was, but he was like talking about Maria Callis's impact and I was like, yeah, like. And I mentioned someone contemporary and he was like Renee Fleming. Oh, I can't remember who it was, but he was saying that, that, that this, this woman's impact wouldn't, would never scratch the surface of Maria Callis's and, and I was like, well, I think that they both have really big impacts. And, and, and, and we were like, great. It was heated and I. That's when I found out that he is very serious about this Maria Callis stuff. Like he has a Maria Callis tattoo. It was serious wild.

[C]

Mateo is so funny. He is so crazy. Mateo is.

[B]

I had to cry during America.

[C]

You had to cry in Angels America.

[B]

Eight shows a week. I had to cry.

[C]

I mean, did you ever struggle doing it or it was very easy for you?

[B]

It was, it was. I will say this, when you and an actor are like in the groove and you do it so often, it can, after ages of the week, feel less organic. So, by the way, Randy Harrison is a really brilliant actor if you all don't know. Randy Harrison was in Queer as Folk. And, you know, I think I'm gonna come back actually.

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[C]

All.

[B]

So for those who don't know, Randy Harrison was Justin and Queer as Folk, he's a really good actor, insanely talented, great singer. He's really just. He's great. So he made it really easy, especially in rehearsals because it was brand new. We rehearsed for three months and then did the show for three months, so. But then after a while, I think I just got so used to seeing the emotion that. It kind of. It became hard to reach it. But then one day, his understudy went on, and it. Everything changed just a little bit. You know what I mean? Because you're working with a new actor. And I remember, like. Like, it felt like Beckham rehearsing. I remember, like, losing it on stage. Like, I was like, I. Like, I lost it during. There's this one scene in the. In the play where we leave a funeral. And it becomes clear to my character that Belize. No, I wasn't. Louise. I was.

[C]

I said Belize.

[B]

I think he said Louise. It becomes clear to Belize that Prior is losing his mind. And at one point, he just can't. He's just. He just left the funeral. He's a. He's a. He's a. A nurse in an AIDS ward. And he just sees it all day long. And then he's starting to see these signs in his best friend, and he just freaks out. And he was like. He basically saying, I can't remember the lie. But it's basically like saying, you can't. You can't go crazy. I mean, you can't. You can't do this. Like, I. I need you to. I need you to keep it together.

[C]

It's. It's certified freak seven days a week.

[B]

That one. That line.

[C]

Right?

[B]

But. But yeah, that. That's the scene. And, like, he. And he has to, like, do this. And. And. And I remember that day come on stage, and everyone was like, oh, girl. She was. She was really feeling it tonight. There was a couple of times where if I have, like. I mean, I know I should be giving the same performance every time, but when you do eight shows a week, it's kind of hard to be honest. Yeah, but there were a few times where, like, someone would show up in the audience. Like, Peaches would show up, or, like, one of my friends from college would show up or, like, Alfredo or someone, and I'd be like, I'm acting for the children today, honey. I'm giving the children some. Some. When they. When Naomi came, I gave Naomi the theater, honey. Because I was like. I was like. I feel like Naomi looks up to me. I really. I really have to, like, do a good job.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

And Naomi. It was crazy. Naomi is one of those friends who is just. She is really a remarkable person.

[C]

I love that girl.

[B]

Yeah, she's great. Naomi, like, came and. But does not particularly love theater. But she said through seven hours, that

[C]

of theater, that is devotion with an

[B]

hour and a half break in between. She was like. It was really great. Like, I just was, like, so into it, and I'm so proud of you.

[C]

Like, Naomi is another person that's, like, such like a good friend. Like, she is not about that fake shit, and she, like, really shows up for her friends, and she's. She's great. She's great. Great. I'm not gonna. Oh, my God, my eyes are weird. I can't. I can't. I can't. Hold on, hold on.

[B]

I agree. Yeah, she's. She's really phenomenal. But anyway, so I was able to. I was able to cry on if. If you and I had to cry right now.

[C]

Do you.

[B]

Who do I mean? Right now you're emotional, so you probably beat me to the.

[D]

The.

[B]

The punch.

[C]

What do you think that we could.

[B]

That we could. That you could cry if we had to right now?

[C]

Yes. You want to do it? Jacob, Jacob, Jacob. Can you time it and maybe we can put it on screen?

[B]

Where do you want to do a scene? Do you want to improv a scene?

[C]

What scene? What are we. What are we gonna see?

[B]

Like.

[C]

Like to each other, just improv right now?

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

I mean, I don't know what I'm gonna say. I'm. I'm gonna say some funny and I'm not gonna cry. I. I can't.

[B]

All right, so if we're just. If we're just talking. But also, I don't mean, like, just like a tear rolling from your eye. I mean, like, also before we start, so. Something I learned in class, I remember in acting school when I was, like, 18, and I remember being, like, able to, like, really make myself break down and cry and thinking to myself, like, bitch, I'm the only fucking actor in this goddamn class. These bitch don't even know what's what. I.

[C]

That is so aggressive to cry.

[B]

Jesus Christ. I started crying. And then I remember my teacher being like, this is not good.

[C]

You see, you try to.

[D]

You.

[C]

You try to bring the comedy to get to knock me out. I see what you doing, bitch.

[B]

No, tell the story. She was like, this is like. Just because you can cry, like, does not mean you need to cry in every scene. Like, this is like. She's like, you were overly emotional. Like, ma', am, this is the Denny's.

[C]

Little five year old Bob was like, yeah, yeah, we out here crying, yo.

[B]

Yeah. She like, man, this is a Denny's. I need you to write the emotion. We did a rehearsal of Angels in America, and at the end, the director was like, y' all are crying too much. He was like, we Can't. Every scene can't be crying. We can't cry in every scene. Every scene cannot just be like. Like, this is. This is. Y' all gotta reign it in, you know, make it sparse.

[C]

Mary. All right, so wait.

[B]

How. How do we do this? Wait, I don't know.

[C]

How should we read.

[B]

Should we find a sad monologue online? Like, one at a time?

[C]

No, I feel like we should read a sad. We should read a dramatic scene.

[B]

Cause you can't think of anything you're proud of with me.

[C]

I already told you 90 times. I'm proud of you. I tell you all the time. I don't feel like telling you again today.

[B]

Damn. Alfredo. Alfredo joined the chat.

[C]

I reached my threshold of compliments for you, whore.

[B]

When Alfredo said, I'll be fine if I miss this one thing, I said, damn.

[C]

You know what I love appreciate about Fredo, though? You will never get some freak. Alfredo will never come and give you the fake. Alfredo's gonna tell you how he genuinely feels. And that's what I really appreciate about Alfredo. I can always get the honesty that I. That, you know.

[B]

No, that is true. I. I mean, I. Yeah, this. Alfred is one. It was one of my best friends and is one of my oldest friends, actually. Like. Like, he's just. I don't know. He's just really great. All right, I looked up to have monologues. Here's one called More Ways Than One.

[C]

Wait, send it to the chat.

[B]

I don't even know what the. This. I don't know anything about this monologue. It seems unfair. If I were to, like, go back and do, like, one for Angels in America or something, would that be cheating if I did Angels in America monologue? Oh, my God.

[C]

Money.

[B]

Do you want to do. Oh, my God. Jacob, can you find the. The one about. The one about the national anthem? I mean, it's not really. It's not really a crying monologue. I do think it'd be inappropriate to cry in that particular monologue. But it is very, very. It's a very good monologue. I mean, I don't think Belize has, like, a crying monologue in Angels.

[C]

You know what I mean?

[B]

I mean, there's also this. This really. I don't know, this maybe. This feels exploitative and probably inappropriate. So we'll see if I need to edit this part out. But there's a really sad monologue in the Laramie project.

[C]

Oh, my God, I love Laramie.

[B]

Do you know. Do you know the Larry Project?

[C]

I don't. I know it's about hiv, aids. But I don't. That's all I know.

[B]

It's not about HIV or aids, actually. Nope. The Larry Project is about Matthew Shepard, and

[C]

of course I know Matthew Shepard is. You think I wasn't born in the 90s?

[B]

Well, I feel like you just thought he had AIDS, so.

[C]

Well, I thought the Larry Project was a movie akin to Angels in America or like a documentary of Angels in America. That's what I thought the Laramie Project was.

[B]

No, Laramie Project is about. Is about Laramie, Wyoming, which is where Matthew Shepard lived. And I think I. Anyway, he has a famous monologue. His father has a famous monologue in the show, and it's really a powerful monologue. He's reading a note to his son's killers. Do you want to read that?

[C]

Oh, my God. That sounds a little inappropriate. I feel weird reading that.

[B]

Well, it's part of the play. It's a monologue in the play.

[C]

Okay, okay.

[B]

See, but also, this might be fully inappropriate because it fully.

[C]

I feel like it might be inappropriate for, like, a challenge. This needs a little.

[B]

Also Viola Davis's monologue in Fences, which is so good.

[C]

Oh, my God. I never saw Fences.

[B]

You never saw Fences?

[D]

I did.

[C]

I need to watch it, right?

[B]

Oh, it's so good. It is really brilliant. I mean, it is very.

[C]

Viola Davis is brilliant. What a great. I saw this clip of her talking about, like, acting, and. Oh, my God, she's just so. Oh, she's so amazing. Viol is so fierce.

[B]

She's one of those people who did you see? She tweeted out. She tweeted out. I know what y' all be saying about me and my snot because she's famous. Like, snots and spit hits when she's, like. When she's doing her. Her acting, girl, Fences.

[C]

Rose's monologue.

[B]

It's really good. So this monologue is about. What's happening here is Troy, her husband, has. He's like. He has a bit of a drinking problem, and he sometimes has a feeling like he's the only one sacrificing anything in a relationship. And in this monologue, she lets him know that he's not the only one who's been sacrificing things.

[C]

All right.

[B]

Do you want to try it?

[C]

I mean, so are we both reading it?

[B]

We can both read it. Yeah.

[C]

Like separately?

[B]

Yeah. Bit separate.

[C]

Okay. Who's going first?

[B]

Maybe this is going to be page exclusive.

[C]

Damn. Y' all be. Y' all be. Y' all be trying to really. Y' all be getting the The. The listeners. Damn. I'm sorry, y'. All. Y' all heard Bob. He's gonna make some Patreon exclusives. I'm gonna just go with what he won't do.

[B]

Yeah, I guess I'm really twisting Monet's arm on this one. Y' all ain't never seen Monet lay down and roll over over nothing once in her life. Monet's like, it's Bob. Bob's.

[C]

Really? Oh, okay. Yeah. Make a fiction exclusive. All right, y', all, that's it. That's the episode about crying. I just love you so much, Roberta.

[B]

Have you ever cried in a movie on a plane?

[C]

I think I have. Like, once, maybe, statistically. Patty, Patty, stay crying. Movies, on a plane.

[B]

Statistically, people cry more when they watch movies on planes than they do. I do not know. It's like. It's like a phenomenon. There's no rhyme or reason behind it. It's not a chemical thing. It's just like. Like one of those weird coincidences because they stage. They're like, is it altitude? Is it. Blah, blah. People just get more emotional on planes.

[C]

That's weird.

[B]

Then maybe it's like this feeling of, like, you're in the air and it feels dangerous, and then you're watching this thing, and I've watched some very sad. I watched the Amy Wine. I was like, in mid round.

[C]

Oh, my God, I did, too.

[B]

Yeah. I was like, oh, this is sad about it. But anyway, I don't know why I brought that up at the last minute when we're leaving. I love you very much, Mom.

[C]

I love you very much, Roberta. I'm very happy for you, and I'm proud of everything that you do. And even though we argue and we fight and we say dumb shit, and I think an episode before this or two, we were really on one together. And I just love you so much. And despite all of that, despite of everything that you are, I love you.

[B]

Well, I love you very much, too. And I know a lot of people. Some people are like, oh, my God, this argument is too much. I'm like, y', all, the podcast is called Sibling Rivalry. Like, I don't understand what is going on where you come to this podcast, a podcast called Sibling Rivalry, and you're like, I just. I cannot believe they're arguing so much. Bitch. Yes, Monet and I argue a lot. This is part of our friendship. But I think that. I think that you and I have a very healthy relationship. I think that you and I talk. Talk everything out ad nauseam, even which I think is part of why we are such a great team.

[C]

I think so too.

[B]

No fake hoes over here at Silver Rivalry, honey.

[C]

Yeah. This ain't the bald and the beautiful. This ain't ratio pod.

[B]

Alright, on that note, thank you so much everyone. Have a good night.

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