Podcast Summary

Podcast: Sibling Rivalry
Episode: The One With Ms. Pat
Date: November 26, 2025
Hosts: Bob the Drag Queen & Monét X Change
Special Guest: Ms. Pat

Episode Overview

In this energetic, unfiltered, and hilarious episode, comedians Bob the Drag Queen and Monét X Change are joined by the inimitable Ms. Pat. The trio dives into fiery debates, shares wild stories about comedy, family, and sexuality, and puts some of Bob and Monét's longstanding quarrels to rest—Ms. Pat’s way. Along the way, Ms. Pat offers raw wisdom, biting wit, and heartfelt perspective on queer issues, open relationships, her journey from crime to comedy, and why representation—and keeping it real—is so important.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Ms. Pat’s Background & Atlanta Roots

• Neighborhood Debates: Bob, Monét, and Ms. Pat debate Atlanta geography and the realities of Clayton County vs. Ellenwood, and how perceptions differ for New Yorkers versus Southerners.

  • "Clayton county is not the nicest part of Atlanta." – Bob (03:25)
  • Ms. Pat recalls living in Section 8 housing, now remodels properties in the area, and jokes about gentrification and her move to nicer digs (Peachtree City). (03:15–04:08)

• Comedy Origin Story:

  • Ms. Pat describes her path to stand-up: "From just committing crimes, and I couldn't get no job, and this is the first thing I could do that did not give me a criminal background history." (07:50)
  • She credits her humor to honesty, saying what others are afraid to say (07:54–08:37).

2. Meet-and-Greets: Why Ms. Pat Keeps It Real with Fans

• Ms. Pat explains her viral post-show meet-and-greets, why she keeps them free (just buy some merch!), and how these are often the best comedy moments.
  • "It's the best comedy where you can go out there and you can see a lady getting drunk in a wheelchair with one leg. And I get to say those things, and we laugh about them." (05:14)

3. Ms. Pat & The Queer Community – A Candid Evolution

• Ms. Pat openly discusses her past homophobia, what changed her perspective, and her unwavering support for her queer daughter and the broader LGBTQ+ community.
  • Memorable moment: "Can y' all lesbian please stop trying to eat me? You don't want to eat me. I have a salt and pepper vagina. It's not edible." (11:09)
  • Ms. Pat’s journey: “My daughter hid that she was gay because of the shit she heard me say... When that hit home, I was like, I love my child. I ain't gonna treat my motherfuckin child like that.” (12:23–15:20)
  • Shows compassion by inviting her daughter's friends (displaced by their own families) to Thanksgiving: “That's a gay Thanksgiving right there down there in the pool house.” (15:59)

4. Sibling Rivalry Court: Settling Bob & Monét’s Petty Fights (with Ms. Pat as Judge!)

Case 1: Sharing Phone Numbers (28:03–31:16)

• Bob refuses to give out contact info without permission; Monét forgets to remind him as requested and gets sassy when Bob reminds her.
  • Ms. Pat’s Verdict: Monét's in the wrong for letting pride get in the way. “So pride will be your damn father.” (31:06)

Case 2: The Feather Dress Debacle (31:31–34:55)

• Matching dresses...except Monet’s had way more feathers.
  • “So she gave you a dress that had alopecia?” – Ms. Pat (32:27)
  • Ms. Pat sides with Bob that Monet’s dress was objectively better but also notes, “Are you mad because she can shake the feathers and you can't?” (34:21)

Case 3: Bob Claims Monét is Biting His Style (41:22–45:49)

• Bob accuses Monét of copying his photo dumps and career moves.
  • Ms. Pat’s Solomonic ruling: “You are encouraging Monet. She's looking up to you.” (43:12, 45:49)
  • Ms. Pat compliments their Instagram, marvels at Bob's recurring presence on her feed, and notes that inspiration can flow both ways.

5. Candid Comedy Industry Talk & Ms. Pat’s Career

• Ms. Pat talks about collaborating with Jordan Cooper on “The Ms. Pat Show” and “Ms. Pat Settles It,” and shares how their partnership came to be (22:25–23:40).
• She emphasizes why she avoids “remaking the same shit” in Black entertainment and jokes about wanting to “go solo” on any new comedy tours (35:30).

6. Relationships, Sex, and Queer Culture: Raw, Real & Hysterical

• Open Relationships: Bob and Monét lay out their open relationship rules, with Ms. Pat responding in classic form:

  • “Would you ever be open?”
    “Fuck no, sir. I've had gonorrhea. That shit burned.” (60:45)
  • The trio discusses jealousy, safety, and why queer folks sometimes have happier relationships due to less restrictive expectations (58:59–58:16).

• Sex and Body Positivity:

  • The group exchanges raunchy, body-positive banter about sex, bathroom rituals, and anatomy.
    • “For that type of dick, you need a Kroger bag.” – Ms. Pat to Monét (58:09)
    • Ms. Pat on aging and intimacy: “When we get old and shit, start working on him and start working on me. I'm going unstick his dick with cocoa butter from his leg and we going to watch TV together.” (61:15)
  • Ms. Pat jokes about only ever being a “side piece” once—at age 12! (55:45)

7. Comedy Styles, Career Philosophy, and Living Out Loud

• Ms. Pat doesn’t alter jokes for cancel culture, as her storytelling is always hyper-personal, especially about her daughter and family:

  • “If you in the audience and I'm talking about my gay child or I'm talking about my child is stupid. How the you gonna tell me who not to talk about in my child? … I give a. About me. And do my chicks clear?” (51:09–51:51)

• She rarely takes in other comedians’ work, preferring “sad songs”—Whitney, Patti LaBelle—for inspiration. (54:19)

8. Memorable Ms. Pat One-Liners

• “I have a salt and pepper vagina. It’s not edible.” (03:31, 11:09)
• “If you want to eat pussy. I even got her teeth fixed so she can eat more pussy. Cause I was like, you shouldn't be out here eating no pussy with raggedy ass teeth.” (15:20)
• “So pride will be your damn father.” (31:06)
• “For that type of dick, you need a Kroger bag.” (58:09)
• On relationships: “You ain't gonna be able to get you mon post.” (48:47)
• On open relationships: “Y'all gays be having so much fun.” (56:44)
• Random praise: “Monet, he had so much dick, the drawers didn’t have no more elastics in them.” (50:32)

Notable Quotes & Moments (with Timestamps)

• Ms. Pat on meet & greets: "It's the best comedy where you can go out there and you can see a lady getting drunk in a wheelchair with one leg..." (05:14)
• Ms. Pat on acceptance: "When that shit hit home, I was like, I love my child. I ain't gonna treat my motherfuckin child like that." (15:20)
• Ultimate judgment: "So pride will be your damn father." – Ms. Pat (31:06)
• Classic roasting: "For that type of dick, you need a Kroger bag." – Ms. Pat to Monét (58:09)
• On sex positivity: “How many penis you think you sucked?” (63:01)

Segment Timestamps

• Intro & Atlanta Neighborhoods: 02:08–04:35
• Meet-and-Greet Stories: 04:53–06:38
• Ms. Pat’s Comedy Journey: 07:40–08:37
• Ms. Pat & Queer Community Acceptance: 11:01–15:20
• Sibling Rivalry Court: Cases #1–3: 28:03–45:49
• Open Relationships & Sex: 56:29–61:02
• Comedy, Fame, and Sad Songs: 54:19–55:45

Episode Tone & Style

• Language: Explicit, honest, direct—reflecting each host’s comedic style and Ms. Pat's unfiltered humor.
• Atmosphere: Intimate, raucously funny, occasionally poignant.

Final Thoughts

This episode stands out for its rare blend of side-splitting humor and sincere heart, especially around queer acceptance in Black families. Ms. Pat shines as a guest—unafraid to tackle awkward subjects, tell the truth about her past, and show love to her “chosen family.” Rivalries are squashed (and reignited), boundaries are pushed, and wisdom flows in unexpected, unforgettable bursts.

For more Ms. Pat:

• Touring dates & info: misspatcomedy.com
• "Ms. Pat Settles It," Tuesdays on BET

Essential listening for comedy fans, queer fam, and anyone who needs a reminder to keep it real.