The One With Ms. Pat

Summary

Podcast Summary

Podcast: Sibling Rivalry
Episode: The One With Ms. Pat
Date: November 26, 2025
Hosts: Bob the Drag Queen & Monét X Change
Special Guest: Ms. Pat

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Episode Overview

In this energetic, unfiltered, and hilarious episode, comedians Bob the Drag Queen and Monét X Change are joined by the inimitable Ms. Pat. The trio dives into fiery debates, shares wild stories about comedy, family, and sexuality, and puts some of Bob and Monét's longstanding quarrels to rest—Ms. Pat’s way. Along the way, Ms. Pat offers raw wisdom, biting wit, and heartfelt perspective on queer issues, open relationships, her journey from crime to comedy, and why representation—and keeping it real—is so important.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Ms. Pat’s Background & Atlanta Roots

• Neighborhood Debates: Bob, Monét, and Ms. Pat debate Atlanta geography and the realities of Clayton County vs. Ellenwood, and how perceptions differ for New Yorkers versus Southerners.

  • "Clayton county is not the nicest part of Atlanta." – Bob (03:25)
  • Ms. Pat recalls living in Section 8 housing, now remodels properties in the area, and jokes about gentrification and her move to nicer digs (Peachtree City). (03:15–04:08)

• Comedy Origin Story:

  • Ms. Pat describes her path to stand-up: "From just committing crimes, and I couldn't get no job, and this is the first thing I could do that did not give me a criminal background history." (07:50)
  • She credits her humor to honesty, saying what others are afraid to say (07:54–08:37).

2. Meet-and-Greets: Why Ms. Pat Keeps It Real with Fans

• Ms. Pat explains her viral post-show meet-and-greets, why she keeps them free (just buy some merch!), and how these are often the best comedy moments.
  • "It's the best comedy where you can go out there and you can see a lady getting drunk in a wheelchair with one leg. And I get to say those things, and we laugh about them." (05:14)

3. Ms. Pat & The Queer Community – A Candid Evolution

• Ms. Pat openly discusses her past homophobia, what changed her perspective, and her unwavering support for her queer daughter and the broader LGBTQ+ community.
  • Memorable moment: "Can y' all lesbian please stop trying to eat me? You don't want to eat me. I have a salt and pepper vagina. It's not edible." (11:09)
  • Ms. Pat’s journey: “My daughter hid that she was gay because of the shit she heard me say... When that hit home, I was like, I love my child. I ain't gonna treat my motherfuckin child like that.” (12:23–15:20)
  • Shows compassion by inviting her daughter's friends (displaced by their own families) to Thanksgiving: “That's a gay Thanksgiving right there down there in the pool house.” (15:59)

4. Sibling Rivalry Court: Settling Bob & Monét’s Petty Fights (with Ms. Pat as Judge!)

Case 1: Sharing Phone Numbers (28:03–31:16)

• Bob refuses to give out contact info without permission; Monét forgets to remind him as requested and gets sassy when Bob reminds her.
  • Ms. Pat’s Verdict: Monét's in the wrong for letting pride get in the way. “So pride will be your damn father.” (31:06)

Case 2: The Feather Dress Debacle (31:31–34:55)

• Matching dresses...except Monet’s had way more feathers.
  • “So she gave you a dress that had alopecia?” – Ms. Pat (32:27)
  • Ms. Pat sides with Bob that Monet’s dress was objectively better but also notes, “Are you mad because she can shake the feathers and you can't?” (34:21)

Case 3: Bob Claims Monét is Biting His Style (41:22–45:49)

• Bob accuses Monét of copying his photo dumps and career moves.
  • Ms. Pat’s Solomonic ruling: “You are encouraging Monet. She's looking up to you.” (43:12, 45:49)
  • Ms. Pat compliments their Instagram, marvels at Bob's recurring presence on her feed, and notes that inspiration can flow both ways.

5. Candid Comedy Industry Talk & Ms. Pat’s Career

• Ms. Pat talks about collaborating with Jordan Cooper on “The Ms. Pat Show” and “Ms. Pat Settles It,” and shares how their partnership came to be (22:25–23:40).
• She emphasizes why she avoids “remaking the same shit” in Black entertainment and jokes about wanting to “go solo” on any new comedy tours (35:30).

6. Relationships, Sex, and Queer Culture: Raw, Real & Hysterical

• Open Relationships: Bob and Monét lay out their open relationship rules, with Ms. Pat responding in classic form:

  • “Would you ever be open?”
    “Fuck no, sir. I've had gonorrhea. That shit burned.” (60:45)
  • The trio discusses jealousy, safety, and why queer folks sometimes have happier relationships due to less restrictive expectations (58:59–58:16).

• Sex and Body Positivity:

  • The group exchanges raunchy, body-positive banter about sex, bathroom rituals, and anatomy.
    • “For that type of dick, you need a Kroger bag.” – Ms. Pat to Monét (58:09)
    • Ms. Pat on aging and intimacy: “When we get old and shit, start working on him and start working on me. I'm going unstick his dick with cocoa butter from his leg and we going to watch TV together.” (61:15)
  • Ms. Pat jokes about only ever being a “side piece” once—at age 12! (55:45)

7. Comedy Styles, Career Philosophy, and Living Out Loud

• Ms. Pat doesn’t alter jokes for cancel culture, as her storytelling is always hyper-personal, especially about her daughter and family:

  • “If you in the audience and I'm talking about my gay child or I'm talking about my child is stupid. How the you gonna tell me who not to talk about in my child? … I give a. About me. And do my chicks clear?” (51:09–51:51)

• She rarely takes in other comedians’ work, preferring “sad songs”—Whitney, Patti LaBelle—for inspiration. (54:19)

8. Memorable Ms. Pat One-Liners

• “I have a salt and pepper vagina. It’s not edible.” (03:31, 11:09)
• “If you want to eat pussy. I even got her teeth fixed so she can eat more pussy. Cause I was like, you shouldn't be out here eating no pussy with raggedy ass teeth.” (15:20)
• “So pride will be your damn father.” (31:06)
• “For that type of dick, you need a Kroger bag.” (58:09)
• On relationships: “You ain't gonna be able to get you mon post.” (48:47)
• On open relationships: “Y'all gays be having so much fun.” (56:44)
• Random praise: “Monet, he had so much dick, the drawers didn’t have no more elastics in them.” (50:32)

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Notable Quotes & Moments (with Timestamps)

• Ms. Pat on meet & greets: "It's the best comedy where you can go out there and you can see a lady getting drunk in a wheelchair with one leg..." (05:14)
• Ms. Pat on acceptance: "When that shit hit home, I was like, I love my child. I ain't gonna treat my motherfuckin child like that." (15:20)
• Ultimate judgment: "So pride will be your damn father." – Ms. Pat (31:06)
• Classic roasting: "For that type of dick, you need a Kroger bag." – Ms. Pat to Monét (58:09)
• On sex positivity: “How many penis you think you sucked?” (63:01)

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Segment Timestamps

• Intro & Atlanta Neighborhoods: 02:08–04:35
• Meet-and-Greet Stories: 04:53–06:38
• Ms. Pat’s Comedy Journey: 07:40–08:37
• Ms. Pat & Queer Community Acceptance: 11:01–15:20
• Sibling Rivalry Court: Cases #1–3: 28:03–45:49
• Open Relationships & Sex: 56:29–61:02
• Comedy, Fame, and Sad Songs: 54:19–55:45

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Episode Tone & Style

• Language: Explicit, honest, direct—reflecting each host’s comedic style and Ms. Pat's unfiltered humor.
• Atmosphere: Intimate, raucously funny, occasionally poignant.

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Final Thoughts

This episode stands out for its rare blend of side-splitting humor and sincere heart, especially around queer acceptance in Black families. Ms. Pat shines as a guest—unafraid to tackle awkward subjects, tell the truth about her past, and show love to her “chosen family.” Rivalries are squashed (and reignited), boundaries are pushed, and wisdom flows in unexpected, unforgettable bursts.

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For more Ms. Pat:

• Touring dates & info: misspatcomedy.com
• "Ms. Pat Settles It," Tuesdays on BET

Essential listening for comedy fans, queer fam, and anyone who needs a reminder to keep it real.

Transcript

[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

My name is Bob the Drag Queen.

[Ms. Pat]

And I'm Monet X Change.

[Monet X Change]

And this is simply rivalry.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

On this week's episode, we get the final verdict on some of the most fiery arguments in the history of sibling rivalry.

[Monet X Change]

We welcome the fabulous, hilarious Ms. Pat to the podcast.

[Ms. Pat]

And we found out what made Monet say this.

[Monet X Change]

Pride will be your downfall. And we find out what made Bob say this.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

At the time, she was being a little black bitch. And we find out what made Ms. Pat say this.

[Ms. Pat]

I have a salt and pepper vagina. It's not edible.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, my goodness.

[Monet X Change]

Y', all, this is legendary, honey.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Iconic.

[Monet X Change]

Iconic. We have the legendary Ms. Pat Harrod. Sibling Rivalry Studios Incorporated.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yes. First of all, from Atlanta, Georgia.

[Monet X Change]

I know she's from Atlanta.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I heard that shit about Atlanta you always talking about. Run your mouth about Atlanta.

[Monet X Change]

Now you're from Clayton County. Ms. Pat, where you from?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Atlanta.

[Ms. Pat]

Clayton County. I got a house in Clayton County.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Riverdale. I'm from Macon. Not Macon Morrow.

[Ms. Pat]

Morrow. Yeah. Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, technically, Ellenwood. I'm on the Ellenwood Morrow border now. Talk this shit about Clayton County. No, talk that shit about.

[Monet X Change]

I like where Ms. Pat live.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't like where you live at. I don't even live in Ellen Mar.

[Ms. Pat]

I don't live there anymore. That's when I was on section A.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

See, I keep telling Monet, Monet thinks that Clayton county is really nice.

[Monet X Change]

Monae thinks it is very nice.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's what. This is, what I keep trying to tell Monae. Clayton county is not the nicest part of Atlanta.

[Ms. Pat]

I don't want to be robbed. This is what I told your ass beat.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Mon is from New York City. So Monet thinks that the. That if you're in, like, a not nice area, it has to look like, I don't know, the south side of the Bronx project.

[Ms. Pat]

Let me say this. It's not horrible. Like, where I grew up in the West End, you know, the West End. So West End is being gentrified now. So it's a lot better. But, you know, it's. It's. I wouldn't. I don't live in Clayton county anymore. I do own some property there.

[Monet X Change]

Got it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay.

[Ms. Pat]

I'm in the middle of remodeling rent, but it's not bad. It's livable.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I live there.

[Ms. Pat]

You live there now?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, I live in Hollywood. Excuse me, girl, please.

[Ms. Pat]

Can I ask y' all a question? Tell us, why the fuck are y' all squeezed on that little sofa together?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Because we love each other.

[Monet X Change]

We like them close.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We're sisters.

[Ms. Pat]

My little sister.

[Monet X Change]

We are two big asses on this couch. Y' all can look.

[Ms. Pat]

Career reminds me of living colors. Oh, yes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yes. This is our representation of your titty. Squeeze it.

[Ms. Pat]

That's a good ass representation.

[Monet X Change]

Your boobs are huge.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The girls are sitting up.

[Monet X Change]

That's very funny.

[Ms. Pat]

These are Medicaid titties before the bitches put shit in them. This is what you get when you was born on Medicaid and bread and cheese and all the good shit. This is called eating.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

When did you start doing these meet and greet videos that are Going so viral, y'.

[Monet X Change]

All.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I like. I don't always do meet and greets, but now I want to go to the meet and greet because it looks like you get in a whole comedy show before. Is it before or after the show?

[Ms. Pat]

You did mean it's after the show.

[Monet X Change]

After the show. So you get it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You do a whole comedy show, and then they get a whole second improvisational comedy show afterwards.

[Ms. Pat]

It's not real. I'm just talking. And, you know, people want to come up to me and tell me they problems and how I say they lives. And I listen. And you know me, I'm a people person. So no matter how big I get in life, in this career shit, I'm a normal person. I shop for myself. So I and my team be like, you need to stop meeting. You need to charge. What the hell am I charging people? They just bought a ticket. I want to go talk to these people. And it's the best comedy where you can go out there and you can see a lady getting drunk in a wheelchair with one leg. And I'm thinking, like, the alcohol ain't gonna balance because you don't have two legs. You gonna be drunk on one side. And I get to say those things, and we laugh about them. So I. I love the meet. And greet. So I started them about two, three weeks ago.

[Monet X Change]

Okay. Oh, wow. That recent.

[Ms. Pat]

Is it that recent recording?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, wow.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

A lot of comics don't do meet and greets, which I gagged to realize how many comics. First of all, you're leaving a little bit of money on the table.

[Ms. Pat]

Well, I don't charge for them.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, they don't charge, girl. Free.

[Ms. Pat]

They're free.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, my God. You better than me.

[Ms. Pat]

Well, I'm better than me. If I do a theater and it's 2,000 people, that's a lot of people. So all I ask you is to buy anything off the merch table. I don't care from 5 to 50. I don't care what you spend. So whatever you spend, as long as you buy something, you can get in the picture line. And to me, that cuts down how many people that just don't, you know, don't want to buy anything. And I got to take a picture with you, so the picture is free as long as you buy something.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So why don't you do free, meaning greets?

[Monet X Change]

You know, it's because of the terrorists.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The terrorists?

[Monet X Change]

The terrorists.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The terrorists. On meet and greets, y' all are.

[Monet X Change]

Getting the price of.

[Ms. Pat]

Wait, wait. What? Your ass flew in.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, money Money didn't have a BBL that she doesn't want to talk about.

[Monet X Change]

I do not have a bbl.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Silicone is like this.

[Monet X Change]

This body is from eating collard greens and all the things growing up for all my.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Y' all eat collard greens in St. Lucia? Yes, we do. Acting like you're from the South. Collard greens and yams.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, we do eat.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You're from New York and St. Lucia.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, St. Lucia. We eat cauliflowers.

[Ms. Pat]

Me. God damn. You got a.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You arguing and behave himself.

[Ms. Pat]

Do y' all know I'm here? I. I literally watched my. And came here and put on makeup, and you just arguing at each other. I'm here.

[Monet X Change]

He can't behave himself as bad.

[Ms. Pat]

What the is St. Lucius?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's my cousin from Mississippi. St. Lucius.

[Monet X Change]

No, my family is from. My family's from in the. The Caribbean. St. Lucia.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, okay. I thought, like, what the is St. Lucia? Can y' all add me in this conversation? I took a bath to be here.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, so, Ms. Pat, how long you've been in these comedy trees? For a very long time.

[Ms. Pat]

Over 20 years.

[Monet X Change]

Over 20 years, yes.

[Ms. Pat]

And again.

[Monet X Change]

And how do you. How did you find your way to comedy?

[Ms. Pat]

From just committing crimes, and I couldn't get no job, and this is the first thing I could do that did not give me a criminal background history. And so somebody just kept saying, you funny. People like you funny. I'm like, I'm not funny. I'm just not. I say the stuff you wish you had this guts to say. Like, I remember one time my son played baseball, and it's really hard to play your kids to do little league sports. And somebody. Daddy is the coach. But everybody knew the coach son wasn't shit. So I stood up and said, you, coach, put my son in. Cause your son ain't shit. And the parents were like, yay. Cause they were scared to say it. And so the parents would just gather around me and be like, you so funny. I said, no, I'm honest. I'm honest. Cause y' all know this man's son can't play, so. But nobody wants to tell him. So it started off just being honest and saying whatever comes up came out.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

The harsh.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Were there any crimes you committed that they didn't catch you on and you want to admit.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, yeah, no, I don't want to talk about it. God damn.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This opportunity, you know, it's.

[Ms. Pat]

It's horrible to get locked up from a gay podcast.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The stat of limitation must have worn off by now.

[Ms. Pat]

What The. I. You was over there with Bunny and Clyde and you say you did who? The. No, no, no, no, no.

[Monet X Change]

I think if we were doing crimes, I think I could. I can get away way easier than you.

[Ms. Pat]

What?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I mean, probably people think she's like Monet, has a happy disposition, you know? You watch Wicked?

[Monet X Change]

No.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, I'm more Elphaba. She's more Glenda.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay.

[Monet X Change]

I'm the nicer sibling.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, Glinda's not nice. Glinda.

[Ms. Pat]

So why do you think you. You think you can get away with a crime?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, for sure.

[Ms. Pat]

Like what?

[Monet X Change]

Because I have a lot of. I'm very persuasive. I can, like, loot a lot of shit. Yeah. Oh, I can steal real good.

[Ms. Pat]

Have you.

[Monet X Change]

Did you have a boost from this studio? So many things.

[Ms. Pat]

No, I'm talking about in life, before you became.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, so one time stole eyeliner from Target. And they.

[Ms. Pat]

Come on now. Gay men steal all the time. Tell the truth.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But she got caught.

[Ms. Pat]

You are the king of stealing.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She got caught, though. Like, gay men steal alive.

[Ms. Pat]

Hell, yeah. That's all y' all doing, steal.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, as a matter of fact. I mean, Monet got caught, though.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I got caught.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Your first time stealing, you got caught?

[Monet X Change]

My first time stealing from Target. I saw some eyeliner and some gel, something. And then they caught me, girl, as I was walking out, they came all right on my shoulder and said, excuse me, sir. Come on. I said, sir, Sir.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You big shouldered man.

[Monet X Change]

Have you ever stolen anything?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I. I have never in my life stolen anything.

[Monet X Change]

I don't believe you.

[Ms. Pat]

Anything.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ms. Pat, you believe that I have never stolen anything.

[Ms. Pat]

Excuse me, this from Clay County.

[Monet X Change]

Exactly.

[Ms. Pat]

You lying.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You lying.

[Ms. Pat]

Morrow, Georgia, all you do. There ain't nothing but Negroes up there. You're lying. You're lying. You making my high flash. Give me one of damn car so I can fan myself.

[Monet X Change]

Put the AC on. It's a little warmer than AC is on. I think they shut it down.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah, put it on menopause.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Can we also get Ms. Pat a clack fan?

[Ms. Pat]

A clack fan?

[Monet X Change]

Oh, my God. Do you think Miss. Miss Pat, can you. Can you.

[Ms. Pat]

Can you clack a clack? But I do sell those fans.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, so I want to talk about something real quick. The gay community loves you. You know this, right?

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

And I love the gay community, especially lesbians.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If you get lesbian love, lesbian love will go a long time, honey.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, it's a. It's a.

[Ms. Pat]

Can y' all lesbian please stop trying to eat me? You don't want to eat me. I have a salt and pepper vagina. It's not edible. Please.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Salt and pepper pussy. Yes.

[Ms. Pat]

I'm 53.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Savory pussy. But they.

[Ms. Pat]

That ain't savory. That's been on a shelf.

[Monet X Change]

It's got a little umami flavor on it.

[Ms. Pat]

I don't fucking know. Some days it's rough down there. But I think that, I think that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The queer community loves you so much because you. Okay, first of all, you, you know what you did, which a lot of people will not do. Especially my. I used to have a TV show on the. We're on HBO called We're Here where you talk to a lot of moms about the way they treat their queer children. You have actually come clean and been like, I was homophobic.

[Ms. Pat]

I was homophobic. But let me get. Not towards my daughter. My daughter had a cheerleading coach. Yeah, the coach. My daughter had a cheerleading coach. And I just, I've been to prison. So I really never liked. I take that little one. I, I really never care for gay women. Cuz I went to prison now. They didn't try to eat me or nothing. I just, I just, you know, we was. I'm black raised. If you was gay, it was something wrong with you. That's the black community. That's the biggest mistake we could ever do is, you know, take our kids and throw them away. I never did that to my daughter. My daughter hid that she was gay because of the shit she heard me say.

[Monet X Change]

Got it?

[Ms. Pat]

Like she heard me say elf words and, and punks and all of that kind of stuff. So she kept all of that stuff. Well, I don't want to say it in the game.

[Monet X Change]

I was just making sure that Monet knew what it was.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah, I'm quite sure he did. So when my daughter finally came, I was at the Bulldog. We were sitting across the.

[Monet X Change]

But bulldogs.

[Ms. Pat]

So we were standing across the Bulldog.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So we went down at the Bulldog. That is so going. The Bulldog is so funny.

[Ms. Pat]

So let me tell you the story. So we, I took out, we all went out one night, me and my friend Tracy with our kids and we stopped at the Vortex to eat. So across the street was the Bulldog and all these fine ass black men. And I was like, look at them elf. You know, excuse me. Look at them. And my daughter was burning high because at the time she hadn't came out. She was like a senior in high school. So I tell my friend, I said, let's go over here and see what they doing. So I, I just walk in the Bulld and damn my Beyonce. All the single ladies. All the single ladies. That was the hottest song. I walk in the back of the bulldog, there's my brother with his shirt over his hood doing that's. What the fuck are you doing here?

[Monet X Change]

Like, like you're like your. Your blood brother.

[Ms. Pat]

My blood brother. He said, what the fuck are you doing here?

[Monet X Change]

This feel like like Spider Man. Like what you who to be here.

[Ms. Pat]

What?

[Monet X Change]

Okay, so you have a gay brother, a lesbian daughter.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

And then so, so you. So that moment, you ain't a gay?

[Ms. Pat]

No, I ain't no. Hey, sir, that's a rainbow DNA. If you stop being gay for a minute, I'll fuck you as a man.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Even if it's for a minute.

[Ms. Pat]

You gotta stop being gay now.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, so then, so that, so that moment happened, you were like, okay, like I have queer people in my family. And then that was like your life.

[Ms. Pat]

That didn't matter to me, you know? Cause I was still that same person. So my daughter go off to college and me high school. She graduated from high school, she go off to college. And I started hearing rumors, but she never said I'm gay. So she disappeared for about three years. And as a mom, I'm like, where the fuck my child?

[Monet X Change]

Like not contacting a law every now.

[Ms. Pat]

And then, like, where are you, Ashley? I'm Virginia. Why? What you running from? So one day I tracked her down on Facebook and I said, ashley, I said, what are you running from? And she was like, huh? I said, are you gay? She said. I said, just say it out your mouth. She said, I'm gay. I said, well, come on home. We live in Atlanta. Everybody eat pussy. And so she came home and that's when I didn't know that people like throw their kids out, mistreat them. Ashley came home with so many homeless black friends and as a black mama, I'm like, who the fuck can treat their kid like that? Cause they chose to eat the same thing they got. Who cares? And that was an eye opening for me. Cause I love my kids. But to see so many of Ashley friends that was homeless and had been molested and had been beat on and kicked out. That shit shocked me because I mean, I never told my daughter she had to go because she was gay. It was just how I felt. But when that shit hit home, I was like, I love my child. I ain't gonna treat my motherfuckin child like that. I said, if you wanna eat pussy. I even got her teeth fixed so she can eat more pussy. Cause I was like, you shouldn't be out here eating no pussy with raggedy ass teeth.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You gonna cut the clit up. You gotta have a nice spot to eat some pussy.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah. You don't want the click to slip down your throat.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If you have a gap, the click can slip in the gap and then it gets stuck behind it. It's a whole baby.

[Ms. Pat]

I don't want you to cut the click off. Now you in jail for killing a bitch. Yeah.

[Monet X Change]

Like, don't take a bite out of crime.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Just don't. Don't take a bite out of the crime. No unsanctioned clitorectomies on accident.

[Monet X Change]

Hilarious.

[Ms. Pat]

You have never. So they. They got me over here crying.

[Monet X Change]

They crazy ass.

[Ms. Pat]

So that was a life learning lesson for me. When I. Then that's when I really realized how people treat, you know, the gay community. I was like, I'm not gonna be that parent because I love my child.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

And I do. And I just. I. That's so many times like. You want. You want to know something? I do every year. Every year I throw a thing. Thank. Well, for the last two years, I throw Thanksgiving. And for all my daughter friends who can't go home to their parents, I put them in the pool house. I said, now that's a gay Thanksgiving right there down there in the pool house.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, you better get that pool house scrubbed. Hello, Ms. Pat. I hear you acting up.

[Ms. Pat]

Honey, they don't act up at my.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ms. Pat, I hate to breaking news to you. That pool house is bulldogs too. That pool house got more DNA than the cdc, baby.

[Ms. Pat]

Wait a minute now.

[Monet X Change]

If you sit down there for slack.

[Ms. Pat]

I'm not the cow ask you.

[Monet X Change]

Girl, you go there, you put on a little black light, you gonna be. Huh?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If you sit down in that pool house, your daughter gonna have some siblings. Cause you gonna get pregnant in that pool house.

[Ms. Pat]

They just eating. I mean, not each other. Yes, I assure you. You shut the hell up. You can't assure me them people got turkey and ham down there. Why would they be eating pussy and sucking dicks on Thanksgiving?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm just saying. I'm just saying. I know what I would do.

[Ms. Pat]

Well, I'm not inviting your freaky ass.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You still live in Atlanta?

[Ms. Pat]

I do.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Where you at now?

[Ms. Pat]

Down by Peachtree City.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Hey, Peachtree City, honey.

[Monet X Change]

Is that by Buckhead?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Is that what that is? It's north. It's above Atlanta. This is where they driving the golf carts, honey. That's where all the delta pilots. Well, you know what?

[Monet X Change]

20 years in the career you Fucking earned it like you did your big one. And you deserve all that shit.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We will talk more about a mismatch Peachtree City estate.

[Monet X Change]

Wait.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

When we get back from this break, and if you do not want to experience the breaks, please consider going to the simple RV Patreon. Go to Patreon that been Civil War podcast.

[Monet X Change]

The best Patreon on the market.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Easily, easily.

[Ms. Pat]

They said it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

I want a lot of things. I want happiness. I want to be joyful.

[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Monet X Change]

Okay, Ms. Pat, so. Okay, so you and your daughter, you're in a good place. And then now you work with Jordan Cooper, who like y'.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

All.

[Monet X Change]

Now y' all are like. Y' all are like lifelong creative partners at this point.

[Ms. Pat]

Yes, we created the Ms. Pat show together. And we also created Ms. Pat settles it along with 495.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

Yes. The Court Show. The Court Show. I have.

[Monet X Change]

Where did y' all meet? At Bulldogs. Oh, you.

[Ms. Pat]

Ladies.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, we know you go to bulldogs.

[Ms. Pat]

No, the. I do not go to bulldogs.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You told the story.

[Ms. Pat]

I said I went one time.

[Monet X Change]

One time.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, we're going to review the security footage.

[Ms. Pat]

Don't you. Adam, lesbians up there looking for me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You can come Out.

[Ms. Pat]

You can just say, I'm do like, it's bad.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You g all.

[Ms. Pat]

I'm such a. I know a nigga named James.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, since you brought it up, I want to go ahead and we're going to talk about it. Ms. Pat sells it, Monet and I. This show is called Sibling Rivalry.

[Monet X Change]

I want to hear about Jordan Cooper, how y' all met.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay. Okay. So I was in the business. I had gotten sold the miss Pat show to Fox along with Lee Daniel. And so we was looking for a writer. I went through two writers, and then Lee was like, I found this young kid who's still in college. I want you to meet him. So I fly from Iowa somewhere on my birthday, April 2nd, and I go and I meet him doing his play, Ain't no More. And I sat there and I watch him, and he's so young and had never done anything but this play.

[Monet X Change]

Still in college. That's crazy.

[Ms. Pat]

Still in college. And I was like. And I told him, I said, boy, I said, I think you was a big black woman died and came back as a gay man. And so he knew of me a little bit because he had saw me on tv. And when I tell you this kid became me. And that's why that show is so good. He listened to everything that I did. Every interview. He talked to me over the years of trying to develop the show. If I said something funny, Jordan would write it down in his phone. So when we finally got picked up, he was like, do you remember saying this? I said, where the you get that from? And he just. He really just studied me. Studied. He really studied, studied, studied, studied, studied.

[Monet X Change]

Thank you.

[Ms. Pat]

I don't know why I can't get that part out.

[Monet X Change]

And then. So y' all create the show and what I love. So I saw the viral clip when y' all were both on Breakfast Club, and Jessica Laris was talking about, you know, you was gonna have you on your show. But then the comments that I made about trans women, trans men having babies became a thing. And, like, you were like, listen, baby, I love what you said. Cause you said, just let people be who they want to be.

[Ms. Pat]

Just let people. You know, I don't know why anybody want to argue with people with their sexuality. I don't know why anybody want to talk about, you know, you can't say who you. If you want to say you a fucking angel. Angel. You can be an angel. Just tell me what your angel name is. Yeah, I'm not gonna try to talk you out of being whoever the you want to be. And I think that's what's wrong with society. Yeah. Society is so busy in other people's bedroom and in other people business, if somebody say they want to have a baby, if they think they can have a baby, let them.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

And. And they go as far as getting a Social Security check for it, I don't care. I've learned to mind my own business. I'm not gonna try to talk you out of nothing that you believe in then, because that's your dream. That's your hope. What you got going on over there, I don't have going on. And just like I told, Just hilarious. And everybody. Oh, she right. I don't. We. We both right. You know, she has an opinion on what she believe, and I have an opinion on what I believe. But when you start talking about the gay community, it affects me because my goddamn child is gay. If my daughter wanted. My daughter's a film. But if she wanted to turn into a man. And then you gonna. And she believes she's a man. And you tell her she ain't a man. I'm gonna tell her she is a man.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Absolutely.

[Ms. Pat]

She you to tell me what I'm not.

[Monet X Change]

Absolutely.

[Ms. Pat]

This is a free world. I can be whatever I want. But you know the crazy thing when you was little, they were saying they would teach you as a child you could be anything in the world you want to be. All of a sudden, the gay done got popular. Oh, no, you can't be that shit.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, you.

[Ms. Pat]

Well, whatever happened to telling these kids.

[Monet X Change]

You could be anything in the world.

[Ms. Pat]

You want to be? You can fly. You can. But, oh, soon as I want to suck a dick, you got a problem.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, if they ever see how I do it, they wouldn't have a problem.

[Ms. Pat]

God damn.

[Monet X Change]

But I love that because I thought it was a very great teachable moment.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

For Cause, you know, I don't think Jess learned anything from that.

[Monet X Change]

I don't think she did either. But I think the people who watch the Breakfast Club and who cause a big segment of the black community does watch that show. So it's nice that you're having someone like you who is a black woman speaking to that. I love that moment.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

There's only two older black women in the comedy space who are really riding hard for the gay community. I will say three. Monique. Monique don't play about the gay community.

[Monet X Change]

She has gay kids.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I once went to go see Monique when she did her Vegas show, and she. She saw me in the. I had to go in drag, and she Saw me, and I was just sitting there, like, laughing, crying. Cause it was so good. And then she knew who I was. She was just like, you come to my dressing room after the show. I was like, oh, my God. I was like, so gagged. Adele Givens.

[Monet X Change]

Adele.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Because Adele also has a stud sister.

[Monet X Change]

Oh, wow. See, it's always gonna hit your family. You're like, oh, shit. Like, that's like the.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And Ms. Pat.

[Monet X Change]

Ms. Pat.

[Ms. Pat]

Well, it's always. I mean, it's just everything in the world.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And obviously Wanda Sock. But she's a lesbian.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah, but it's.

[Monet X Change]

It's.

[Ms. Pat]

It's like this. We don't really give a About something until it affect us. It's like this whole. This whole politics thing, you know, I voted this away for a certain reason, but as soon as that hit, they don't. What are you doing? You with me? So, you know, until it hit you and make you realize what? What? How up a person you are, then you don't care.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

And when it. When it hit my daughter, I started to think about all the things I heard my grandparents, my granddaddy say, my mama said. I was like, oh, I don't feel like that. This is my child.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

I carried this child for nine months. I love my. And my child do not have a horrible parent gay story. Thank God. Now I call her a little black bitch, but it was not for being gay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She was a little black bitch at the time. At the time, she was being a little black bitch.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, We've all been bitches to our parents.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm going to start a petition right now. Ms. Pat needs to be a judge on RuPaul's Drag Race.

[Monet X Change]

Ooh, that'll be great.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Easy, Ms. Pat. And Ms. Theron, I know you be watching. Get Ms. Pat as a judge. Would you ever do a show like the Traitors or anything like that? One of those. One of the murder mystery who did it and why shows, Reality TV shows.

[Monet X Change]

Lying, cheating, stealing kind of show with celebrities.

[Ms. Pat]

If I can keep up.

[Monet X Change]

You can, miss Pat. You'd be great. Okay, so we know you have Ms. Pat. Settles it. Bob and I, as you can see, we oftentimes are going back and forth about different things. And we need someone like you, Ms. Pat, to settle the beef and tell us who is the winner of the thing.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Who's in the right, who's in the wrong?

[Monet X Change]

Who's in the right? Who's in the wrong?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

All right, so we're gonna start with this thing. Okay. What, Jacob, what's our first One that we're going to bring up. Okay, here it is. I got it. They're.

[Ms. Pat]

You didn't get Jacob.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I thought I saw I lost the card and I saw I was okay. So, Jacob, I have this thing that I do where if someone ask me for someone's phone number, I always say, let me call that person first to see if I can give you their phone number. I don't pass out nobody's phone number. Even if you lost the number you had with. Let me just call. Let me text Jacob. Can I send Ms. Pat your phone number? Jacob says, yes, then I will send Ms. Pat the phone number.

[Monet X Change]

Okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So Monet asked me for this illustrator's phone number, right? And then I was waiting for the illustrator to respond to me. He had not responded. Monet text me back, being like, I really need that number for the illustrator. I need the number right now. And I was like, oh, that's not what happened. Then I said, monet. Monet was like, give me the number. I said, well, I was playing a video game. I said, monet, text me to remind me, because I'm playing this game. I'm going to forget. So just text me to remind me me the thing, and then I'll do it. I need a reminder because I'm focused on this game. You can't pause. I'm playing online. So just text me to respond so I can write the guy.

[Monet X Change]

Monday.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Text me back. I said, oh, but, Monet, you didn't text me. You didn't text me to remind me. And I asked you to remind me so that I could call the guy and ask him for the number.

[Monet X Change]

Now you can pick up a story from there. Yeah. So I had forgot to text him. So the next. So this is the next day now, right?

[Ms. Pat]

The following day, I'm Dawn.

[Monet X Change]

I'm doing something. I was about to record my talk show, and then I get a text from him. Like, hey, you didn't. Did you not want that number anymore? I was like, what number? He was like, the number you asked me for yesterday. I was like, oh, girl, I forgot. He's like, well, I told you to remind me. I said, girl, I just forgot. I was like, listen, give me the number or not. I don't have time for this, like, escalating. Give me the number or not. So then he goes and he texts me back, wow. Pride will be your downfall before you start taking pride. I was like, there's no pride. I'm just busy. You remembered. You should have just, like, let me know if I can get the number or not? Who was in the wrong here?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And I did send her the number, by the way.

[Ms. Pat]

Did you ask the person?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I asked the person and I sent money the number.

[Monet X Change]

But the beef is like he's mad I didn't text him to remind him when I just sent him the wrong.

[Ms. Pat]

I think he was in the wrong.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Thank you.

[Monet X Change]

Because I forgot to text him back.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah, you asked for the phone number. You asked for the phone number and then. And he reminded you about the phone number. Then you became an asshole.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, well, miss Fat. Okay, well, hold on, don't argue.

[Monet X Change]

Hold on, hold on.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She is the judge and adjudicator.

[Monet X Change]

But he had bailiff. When he had texted me to remind me to say like hey. To remind me he had already gotten a number already. So it wasn't like he was waiting for me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's not true. I had texted him, he had to.

[Ms. Pat]

Wait till him respond. And he was playing a video game. And I don't know if you know anything about people play video game, but they go empty minded. My son is 30 something years old. All he plays is a video game. He forgot he got three kids and a wife. So that's why he said remind him. And you didn't remind him. So it wasn't that important. Order. Because you didn't remind him. If it was that important, he wouldn't have called you the next day and asked you that you still need the number. After the person said you can have the number. So it was your fault.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And then you let me gather you by your little point.

[Ms. Pat]

Then you had the attitude when he called back to be nice and say, hey. The person say they can have your number. So pride will be your damn father.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And do not argue with her. She said what?

[Ms. Pat]

She said, that's right.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, the second one is this. Monet and I, we do a lot of shows together. We are business partners as, as well as best friends. And Monet and I.

[Monet X Change]

Wait, let me, let me do this one. Which missing dress? The new one.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, there's a story leading up to the missing dress.

[Monet X Change]

The feathers. Yeah. Okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So we did a show in San Francisco and Monet said, we. I'm bringing us matching dresses. They are the exact same dress, just in different colors. And I said, okay, I won't bring a dress then because you are bringing a dress. At the time we were the same size.

[Monet X Change]

I will say when we showed pictures of the dress. You saw the dresses?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yes. And in the pictures they were the same dress. Monet shows up to the gig, she gives Me, a dress that is. Has, like a little feather bow at the top, a marabou bow at the top. And then Monet has one. And Monet's dress has gigantic fact.

[Monet X Change]

This is already not true.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob, bring up the video of you introducing. I mean, Monet's dress is huge.

[Monet X Change]

Ms. Pat, this is already a fabrication.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Hers is more elaborate than my dress.

[Ms. Pat]

So she gave you a dress that had alopecia?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yes.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, Ms. Pat, this is. This is.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob's going to bring it up. You don't need to. You don't need to do your doctor photos. No, the live video of San Francisco live. You announced us. We came out in the dresses.

[Monet X Change]

I'm going to have pictures of both dresses.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob's going to bring up the video, not your doctor chat GPT AI Sora videos, honey, where the arms are moving all like this and shit. Sorry, Ms. Pat.

[Monet X Change]

I want.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I want to see the real deal.

[Monet X Change]

Ms. Pat, do you like? Do you like AI?

[Ms. Pat]

No, I don't know how to work it. You better stop that. It's gonna put you out of work. They gonna make.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She talking mean to her.

[Ms. Pat]

They gonna make you a drag queen. You. And it's over.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So what ended up happening was Monet and I did a second gig, and Monet was like, okay, I'm gonna bring the dresses. And I was like, I don't trust you off Rip. I don't trust you because the last dress you gave me was janky, and you gave yourself a better dress. So why don't you give me the dresses?

[Ms. Pat]

So back up before you go to the next dress. Did you wear the alopecia dress?

[Monet X Change]

I.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Cause I didn't have a choice. I didn't bring it up. Bring it up in San.

[Monet X Change]

No.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, I'll text you it. I promise. It's the San Francisco live show.

[Ms. Pat]

I think Jacob is confused.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Maybe the San Francisco live show.

[Ms. Pat]

San Diego, first of all.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

San Francisco.

[Monet X Change]

Okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We were definitely backstage in San Francisco.

[Ms. Pat]

Are you talking back, baby?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Just Google San Francisco silver rivalry live, where you announce us.

[Monet X Change]

So, Ms. Pat. Anyway, so the dresses. One was green, one was purple, and I.

[Ms. Pat]

What color did you have on?

[Monet X Change]

He owned a purple one. Hmm. Yeah, this is.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, this is literally the one, baby. Yeah. Now go back to the interest. Cause I want Ms. Pat to see. Look at you. See how many feathers Monae got on hers? So I come out in this dress, Ms. Pat.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This dress that Monet gave me. I look so good here. Look at Monet's feathers versus my feathers.

[Monet X Change]

But again, they're the Same dress.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The same dress.

[Monet X Change]

This one has a little more feathers on it. But again, Ms. Pat, this Bob saw. I showed him both pictures of the dress.

[Ms. Pat]

What's wrong with your feather feathers?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, my look.

[Monet X Change]

Thank you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But you see how many she has, how many I have.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah, but you got boobs.

[Monet X Change]

Exactly.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So.

[Ms. Pat]

So it's still look good. You know, I'm up here thinking you had a feather on like a chicken had been plucked. You got feather. I mean, she do has way more feathers than you, you know. Are you mad because she can shake the feathers and you can't?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, I'm mad because she. Because she purposely.

[Ms. Pat]

Look, she blowing her feathers.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She's doing that because she knows she has more feathers than I.

[Monet X Change]

You could do, too. You can get in the fan, too.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is August.

[Ms. Pat]

Get your ass in there. Let them little two feathers flow.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So when it came to the second.

[Ms. Pat]

Gig, you rolling your eyes. You hating this? Cause I'm wearing the ugly dress. Ah, that dress ain't ugly. Look, she pissed off.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, I was hot.

[Ms. Pat]

She like, get up, bitch.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I was a fish. I was fish grease hot. Ms. Pat.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, I could tell, baby. It's all over your. You look, baby. You look like Oprah Winfrey 1986. Ms. Pat, would you.

[Monet X Change]

Would you ever do, like, a new Queens of of Comedy tour?

[Ms. Pat]

I don't know.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No.

[Monet X Change]

Like, do you?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She didn't say no. She said, I don't know.

[Monet X Change]

Do you play well with others on the road?

[Ms. Pat]

I'm nice to everybody. I don't care about who I work with. I care about do the check clip.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, we need to have a new Queens of Comedy. Like, they haven't been one since, what, 1990, whatever that year was.

[Ms. Pat]

But you know what? I'm tired of black people remaking the same shit. Do we need that? Yes. Well, I need to be solo. Y' all just buy a ticket to see me. Okay, let's go.

[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

Off Walden University Set a course for change. Certified to operate. Raped by Shev.

[Monet X Change]

You know that moment when y' all be putting in your last pair of contacts and a little voice goes, yo, did I reorder? I've seen y' all out here, y' all contact wearers. And it's even worse when y' all didn't reorder. Y' all be looking crazy scrambling, wearing an old pair way too long or dusting off those emergency glasses that you ain't pulled out in a decade. It's not ideal. Now, you don't have to let it get to that point because if you use 1-800-contacts and they've completely know how to change the game and manage your eye care, they send exactly exact contacts doctor prescribed right to your door with fast free shipping. No, you don't have to leave the house. You don't have to make a last minute appointment. You don't have to waste time running around trying to find a brand in stock. The big win. Their express exam is a Quick online vision exam that lets you renew your contact lens subscription from home. It takes under 10 minutes, and a doctor issues a renewal, so you can get what you need without sitting in a waiting room. They've been doing this for over 30 years, y', all, and it shows. They've got over 100 million lenses in stock, a best price guarantee, 25 customer support, and even perks like free returns and torn lens replacement. Getting contacts doesn't have to be a hassle. Let 1-800-contacts get you the contact lenses you need right now. Order online at 1-800-contacts.com or download the free 1-800-contacts app today.

[Ms. Pat]

So next time y' all do dresses, you always should pack extra feathers because it seem like you a feather chick. So you know you want extra feather, so bring your own little pom poms with you, so when you don't have enough, you just glue them to you.

[Monet X Change]

The problem is when beggars want to be choosers.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

O, you beg nasty. Do you see how she gets nasty, Ms. Pat? The difference is I am larger than Monet. I am taller.

[Ms. Pat]

We see that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I am taller than Mon. We see that I am wider. My arms are bigger. I'm a big man. I'm six two. I am £235.

[Ms. Pat]

We see that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Not too much. So. So I need more. I need the va va voom. So my drag tends to be. I'll do, like, something Monet does. Like, a little. Typically Monet does it very subtle. Monet be up there in jeans and.

[Monet X Change]

A tank top if I'm doing stand up. Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But this one day, Monet wanted to be cute and cunt.

[Monet X Change]

Enter the party.

[Ms. Pat]

You know, you been coming in my timeline. You had on all black one night doing something. So I said, who the fuck is this dude? Who is this dude? And you done came down my timeline, like, five or six times all last week. And I was like, who the fuck is this new comedian? And so, you know, I don't really watch comedy. And then you dress. Really? That's what really caught me. And I was like, oh, he's a comedian. Oh. I said, but who the fuck is this? So my. She knows everything. So I was like, you know this. And she said. She was like, you need to get on that podcast. Who the fuck is this?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's so funny.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

Cause you had on this black leather suit. You was a. I've saw you many times. You just popped up on my timeline.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't know how I have to infiltrate the Ms. Pat timeline. So I don't know how to get in there.

[Monet X Change]

It's a great place to be. It's a great wait. So this is. You have season two of Ms. Pat. Sellers are coming up.

[Ms. Pat]

So season three.

[Monet X Change]

Season three.

[Ms. Pat]

Every Tuesday night going on right now.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

Bet.

[Monet X Change]

We need to get you an Emmy.

[Ms. Pat]

Well, I've been nominated for three for the Miss Pat Show. Yes. Yes.

[Monet X Change]

Congratulations.

[Ms. Pat]

You know, it's bet, so I was. We're the first show to ever get nominated for an Emmy.

[Monet X Change]

Wait, what?

[Ms. Pat]

Really? Yes, Forever. For BET and bet. So, you know, I don't think. I think they were shocked. We was like, who the hell are y' all from BET here? I said, we here, bitch. Absolutely. Three.

[Monet X Change]

Three. Three nominations. Congratulations. That's great.

[Ms. Pat]

So it's a big deal, I guess.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So our last case, I want to present to you.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I believe that Monat has been biting my style for years now.

[Ms. Pat]

Impossible, I'm telling you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Thank you. Thank you. This is what happened. I went on RuPaul's Drag Race.

[Monet X Change]

Okay. Oh, my God.

[Ms. Pat]

You won too, right?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I did win.

[Ms. Pat]

Yes.

[Monet X Change]

And I won as well.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You won All Stars. And then Monet went on RuPaul's Drag Race. Okay, After I went on. Okay, I won Drag Race, and then Monet won Drag Race. I went on a show called the Traitors. And then after me, Monet went on the Traitors, I moved to LA, and then after I moved to LA, Monet moved to LA. I started doing standup comedy about 17 years ago, and then Monet started about five years ago, and then you got.

[Monet X Change]

Funny two years ago.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay, well, that's just categorically not true.

[Monet X Change]

We're setting facts.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And, well, the comments below will let you know that obviously, I'm literally one of the funniest queens to ever come RuPaul's dream. And then allegedly. And then now Monet has been copying my. My Instagram.

[Monet X Change]

Please tell me how I'm copying your Instagram.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So, Jacob, show the footage. Go to Instagrams. So the other day, I posted a. What do you call it? A photo dump.

[Monet X Change]

Okay?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

And Monet's photo dump is almost identical to my photo D. And it really drove me. It. It drove me crazy.

[Monet X Change]

You invented.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So here's a picture of me in my Halloween costume sitting in a chair doing my own, followed by a photo dump. Now can we go to Monet's Instagram, please? You invest in photo dumps. A few days later, Monet X Change posts almost an identical photo dump to mine. Monet in her Halloween costume, sitting in.

[Monet X Change]

A chair, looking Ms. Pat, the two of us literally did a photo shoot together in those two same characters.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But why do you have the same photo dum I have on?

[Ms. Pat]

Because.

[Monet X Change]

What do you mean?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Go through the date? Two of the dates. What are the dates?

[Ms. Pat]

You.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jacob. Two weeks. Mine was two weeks ago. Monday's was one week ago. Ms. Pat, do you see any biting going on at all here?

[Ms. Pat]

You know, I don't think it's biting. I think you are encouraging Monet. She's looking up to you.

[Monet X Change]

I think you have your. He does encourage me. In Instagram, not so much.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah, absolutely.

[Monet X Change]

I think that my style is a more. If you had to critique these two styles on Instagram, which one would you?

[Ms. Pat]

Let me go to their pages, Let me see how they dress. I saw you coming down my timeline.

[Monet X Change]

Just scroll a little bit.

[Ms. Pat]

So this is. This is you, right?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is my Instagram. This is me doing his. Is that you? That's me, yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

I'm sorry. He was on my timeline. Hey. Oh, hey. Hey. Oh.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh. Hallelujah.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, God damn. Your feet loud.

[Monet X Change]

And they big, too.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Holly.

[Ms. Pat]

So I been seeing you for weeks now. I said, who the Fuck is this?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ms. Pat, you don't know how much you just did for me. You.

[Ms. Pat]

How the fuck did I think that was you?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, especially after you heard the comedy. I don't know why you thought this was funny.

[Ms. Pat]

It was you. I've been seeing you about two, three weeks now. You just keep popping up with stand up. Oh, my God.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That. That.

[Ms. Pat]

You.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That just did. I.

[Ms. Pat]

You. You know what?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't even need the version.

[Ms. Pat]

I know that jacket.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, that's my little jacket. So you can scroll through the Instagram.

[Ms. Pat]

So let me see his stand up to make sure. Cause you know, I wear glasses and I got menopause, so I'm going through.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know, I got cataracts and my one eye go the other way.

[Ms. Pat]

I saw you, too. I saw you too. I saw you, too.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah. Thank you.

[Ms. Pat]

So you stand up. You do stand up and drag?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay, so you have any problem with the audience?

[Monet X Change]

No, they love it. I will say, well, we both get this a lot. They say they love our audiences because our audiences, it's the.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, so it's your audience.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay, okay, okay.

[Monet X Change]

It's the girls. Gays and days, they tip well.

[Ms. Pat]

The girls what?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The girls gaze and daze the ggt. You know what?

[Ms. Pat]

Let me tell you. So I tell lbg G, B, T, D. He's a new channel.

[Monet X Change]

Elementop.

[Ms. Pat]

No, it's D now. And. Cause y' all you gays have been doing it wrong. So I put D in it for the download. Cause y' all been leaving them out.

[Monet X Change]

And Ms. Purpose.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Hello.

[Monet X Change]

Bobby's making fun of me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Cause I.

[Monet X Change]

For a long time that's only who I used to be canoodling with.

[Ms. Pat]

Yes, I put D in your community.

[Monet X Change]

Cause therefore the LGBT dqif.

[Ms. Pat]

Yes, the D. We got y' all ass. Uh huh. Uh huh. Trying to play like you straight the down low. And then you come back home and kiss me, you dirty.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I am screaming. That is crazy. Yeah, this is my Instagram.

[Ms. Pat]

I don't think. I don't. I think you just encouraged Monat, that's all.

[Monet X Change]

Do you want to admit that, Monique?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That I'm an inspiration?

[Monet X Change]

I listen to you. I wasn't your inspiration. But you do encourage me, and I encourage you. I try to encourage you on a lot. Many things, honey.

[Ms. Pat]

Have you all never dated?

[Monet X Change]

No. No, we did not. It wouldn't work. Why? We are too. Too much friction.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Why you say it like that?

[Monet X Change]

Because Bob is a lot like.

[Ms. Pat]

What is friction?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

We awaken us literally in the opening of this podcast.

[Monet X Change]

You were like, can y'. All. Can. Can you imagine that all the time where we just.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay, fight too much. Cause when you talking about friction, I was thinking about something else.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. Monet's. Monet. Monet's loose and sloppy. There'd be no friction. It's like a. It's like parking a Fiat in. Okay, Ms. Pat, if we were.

[Monet X Change]

If we were a couple.

[Ms. Pat]

You know what? I had hemorrhoids yesterday. That shit was so bad. And my hairstylist is gay. I'm like, how do you take this shit? This thing coming out of me, like to kill me. I had to lay down. I had to lay down. I was bleeding so bad out my ass.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You never sit on your hip.

[Ms. Pat]

I was constipated. And I mean, you ever had to do it in rock and get it out? Oh, and I got big booty cheeks, so I had to let them flap so to let her chop it off.

[Monet X Change]

So when I sit.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is crazy.

[Monet X Change]

So tell me if you do this when I sit, I gotta. I gotta part the red seas. When I. When I sit on the toilet, do.

[Ms. Pat]

You do too yet when I'm constipated, cuz I need. I need that extra area for it to come out. So I'm in the bathroom just trying to break it off, and I walked out there.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Y' all hear the round of applause in the bathroom. Ms. Pat, by her side.

[Ms. Pat]

I felt like I had been raped. I told my. I said I need an ibuprofen for my ass.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Don't we all spread our cheeks when we sit? When I sit on the toy, I put one cheek on one seat. And then I grab that friction, I slide it over and then I plant the other cheek on the other seat. And then your asshole is just.

[Monet X Change]

Well, that's cause you have a little.

[Ms. Pat]

You have to be careful too. Cause you'll split that little thing up the back if you do too much.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I've heard about that going crazy. It's just a little slide. I'm not like grabbing the wall.

[Ms. Pat]

No, no. If you pull your cheeks too far on the seat, you can split your booty hole. Yeah. So unless you put Vaseline back there.

[Monet X Change]

Like, you know, at like the top of the crack.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah, that shit hurts. It feel like somebody cut you with a piece of.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Have you invested in a squatty potty?

[Ms. Pat]

What's that?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You gotta get a squatty potty. You put a squatty potty is basically a footstool with a hole cut out for your. For your toilet. And then you put your feet on it. It will help the flow of the feces coming out of your butthole.

[Monet X Change]

Because they say back in the day that's how we used to shit. We used to sit outside. Yeah, outside and just shit on the leaves. Yeah. Dig a little hole in white. Okay, so if we were a couple, who would you say is the top and who is the bottom?

[Ms. Pat]

Sir, I don't know what the top and bottom is.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Use your imagination.

[Monet X Change]

Use your imagination, Ms. Pat. Who is the top?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The top, bottom. The top, the top.

[Ms. Pat]

I would hope that he would be on top, cuz. Wait a minute.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

The top is doing the bending. No, no, no.

[Monet X Change]

The bottom is doing the bending. The top is giving.

[Ms. Pat]

Well, you short so he gonna have to be on top because you. You ain't gonna be able to get you mon post.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's mon.

[Monet X Change]

I don't know.

[Ms. Pat]

They got. He might be able to reach the top.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is.

[Ms. Pat]

God damn, this is smut.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ms.

[Ms. Pat]

Pipe. Why are you wasting all that good dick in the gay community? Jesus Christ. Is that real? I better call some straight bitches to get you. Jesus Christ.

[Monet X Change]

Ms.

[Ms. Pat]

Path, is that real?

[Monet X Change]

Yes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Jesus Christ.

[Ms. Pat]

The gay community. So lucky. Did you not see all that dick Monet got? Jesus, Monet. We need to start calling you Marcus. Oh my God, you don't make me blush.

[Monet X Change]

You know black people can't be blushing like that, girl.

[Ms. Pat]

Dick, please be straight for a Weekend.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Lord have mercy.

[Ms. Pat]

You needed something. See all this dick Monet just had?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She said, I'm good.

[Monet X Change]

I'm good.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Now, Ms. Pat, you famously.

[Ms. Pat]

What you said. Did you see Monet?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So he can't post Internet, mon.

[Ms. Pat]

Not even as attractive to gay men. But why you wasting all that good dick donation? Answer the question, black as you over.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

There just skiing those sheets and answer the question.

[Ms. Pat]

Jesus Christ, Monat, how do you feel about what your shit look like?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I have a very nice penis. I don't show it on the Internet.

[Ms. Pat]

Jacob.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Let me pull up pictures.

[Monet X Change]

What you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Why you holding up pictures, Jacob? Hold on now.

[Ms. Pat]

Hold on, hold on. Oh, God damn.

[Monet X Change]

Have you ever.

[Ms. Pat]

Nigga in the hood, they call you Big Dick Marcus. Oh, Monet, he had so much dick, the drawers didn't have no more Alaskas in them. God, it was just hanging. Jesus, Monat.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Don't show pictures. Don't show no pictures of me, Jacob. But I don't show draws, though. I'm a very conservative. I don't like when you put your phone.

[Monet X Change]

Ms. Pat, have you ever. Have you ever pulled jokes because of, like, cancel culture or you were, like, afraid that. No, never.

[Ms. Pat]

No.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Have you ever regretted a joke?

[Ms. Pat]

What?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Have you ever, like, regretted a joke that you told?

[Ms. Pat]

No, never. Because I'm very personal.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

So I don't go out. I don't go out talking about people. If I'm talking about the gay community, I'm talking about my child. So everything from my point of view, I don't go out and, you know, tell dumbass gay jokes or just talk about people. My stuff is very personal. So how. If you in the audience and I'm talking about my gay child or I'm talking about my child is stupid. How the you gonna tell me who not to talk about in my child? I got the right to talk about my child. I'm not talking about your child. I'm talking about my child. So I think that's why I'm able to get away with a lot of stuff. So. And I don't. I don't. I'm not gonna talk about any community, you know, I don't give a. I'm not gonna bash the gay community. I don't give a. About no less. I don't give a. About no straight people. I give a. About me. And do my chicks clear?

[Monet X Change]

Hello.

[Ms. Pat]

That's all I care about.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I will. I have bashed the gay community before, but that was because of personal grievances. You famously don't.

[Ms. Pat]

They try to give you back to the straight community.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, they don't want me. They're not. They're not interested.

[Monet X Change]

I ousted if you got dick.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Like.

[Ms. Pat]

It'S a shortage in Atlanta, boy, they looking for some good deals.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm gonna say Atlanta. I didn't even know they allowed straight people to still live in Atlanta. Like y' all. There are not straight. I'm telling you, Atlanta is the gayest, blackest city in the world.

[Monet X Change]

I do well in Atlanta. I love going to Atlanta.

[Ms. Pat]

Are you in a relationship?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, I am.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, good.

[Monet X Change]

Engaged? Yeah.

[Ms. Pat]

Ooh, Lord, he lucky. Let me see your penis too. Oh my God. I'm a bit judging gay dicks today. Who got it and who don't.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Imagine I show miss Pat a dick pic and that would be insane.

[Ms. Pat]

You.

[Monet X Change]

You did on your show.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I know I did show my dick pic. I'm not.

[Ms. Pat]

No, no. I don't want to see it with.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That a picture of my penis.

[Ms. Pat]

I want to see how yours hold up in them bikinis like my neighbor.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I don't wear. I do not wear bikini. I'm. I'm a little. I'm a little too thick in the midsection to be walking around in a bikini.

[Ms. Pat]

So we got to squeeze your nipple for your.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, I'm. I'm not. I'm not bikini ready. I'll wear some. Some high waisted pants.

[Ms. Pat]

So he what he. So he that type of dude. He got looks like stomach, right? You got to push that stomach back and you fell dick and it's really hot down there and your eyelashes fall off. Cuz you know when they got that stomach sitting on that stay heated all year round.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

My stomach's not hanging over my penis. It's just like a little, you know.

[Ms. Pat]

Right there, right there, right there.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I guess it is kind of touching my dick a little bit so it.

[Ms. Pat]

Keep it gonna keep that area warm.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Just realizing my belly is fully touching my dick. I just had a revelatory moment.

[Ms. Pat]

My belly stuck to covering my vagina too. It's just a front po. So come on and sit on it.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Come sit on the front porch, y'.

[Ms. Pat]

All.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You heard it right here. Please come sit on the front porch.

[Ms. Pat]

But baby, he got the backyard. He got the backyard. I ain't never think I said this about no gay man. Won't you just leave your dick in the straight community? It's a black. It's a shortage of black babies. Don't be trying to get out of this, you big.

[Monet X Change]

No, that's comedian. They used to do a thing. Oh, was it Wanda Sax about. She wish she had a detachable.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah. She wish she could take her off and leave it at home when she go for a jog. Yeah. Pretty brilliant.

[Ms. Pat]

But what it don't move.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Now, here's the thing I've been wondering because you, you. You've been talking about people. You don't listen. You don't watch standup comedy.

[Ms. Pat]

Not a lot.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So what do you listen to when you're like doing your makeup or driving in your car or getting ready?

[Ms. Pat]

Sad song. Whitney Houston.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, which ones?

[Ms. Pat]

Saving all my love for you.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I like sad music too. I do. And I'm. It's interesting how many, like, jovial people just genuinely love sad music. I love that. That Sad ass. Patty LaBelle.

[Ms. Pat]

Yes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, I love some. You know what's the one that. The one that I'm obsessed with. No, the one she's like, I'm under your spell. I don't wanna be free, you know, out of me. Patti LaBelle. But you know, but you know who.

[Ms. Pat]

I've been listening to a lot?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Somebody loves you, baby. That song Somebo.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay, yeah, that's some sad. I listen a lot to that monat, the AI girl.

[Monet X Change]

Ms. Pat, you just say you don't like AI, but you listen to Z.

[Ms. Pat]

But I don't know who back there singing them. Them song. But them song hit home. When I used to get beat up by my baby daddy, that hit home. That be blowing though. She got a grandma song, a grandpa song, a daddy song, a mama song.

[Monet X Change]

You visit Pat, what you listen to AI?

[Ms. Pat]

That's the only one I listen to.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Damn, you got sza.

[Monet X Change]

You got all these girls out here though, that got that make side piece.

[Ms. Pat]

I'm too old for that.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay. I don't think Ms. Pat was a side piece. Were you ever side piece?

[Ms. Pat]

Hell yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

My baby daddy was married, you remember Daddy was married?

[Ms. Pat]

Yes. I was 12, he was 22. Oh my God, that is crazy. That was the only time ever I was a side piece with though, and I had to become the whole plate. I was like, you gots to go niggle.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ms. Patrick.

[Ms. Pat]

Yes.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's one of my. One of my favorite quotes of all times. And you just reminded me of Jennifer Lewis. And she was talking about how she wanted to break up with this guy she was dating because she. She said this tree was beautiful. And he was like, you say that about every tree. And all she said was, well, nigga, you got to go. And you just remember that is one of my favorite. Nigga, you got to go. So, yeah, so Monet and I are both in relationships now. This is where some controversy comes in, because we got. We got. We kind of got some beef on the Internet because Mon Monae is. We're both in open relationships.

[Ms. Pat]

Open?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Yeah, open.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, you need to be in open all that. Get your baby.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So we're both up relationships. Mon's engaged. And like, how you going to be open and engaged? And I. I have two boyfriends.

[Ms. Pat]

What the. Y' all gays be having so much fun.

[Monet X Change]

I got.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I got two of them.

[Ms. Pat]

Y' all got money too, don't you?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I'm not. I'm not poor.

[Ms. Pat]

I told my daughter. I said, my daughter po. I said, you just up the gay community. You need to come on back over here on the straight side. You ain't got no money today.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

What did she do?

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, see my daughter do makeup.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Okay.

[Ms. Pat]

Hold on.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Why is the pause of the answer. Hold on.

[Ms. Pat]

No, she all right. Never. But. But when she first started, I was like, gay people got money, they take trips.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

A lot of us don't have kids.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah, you have no kids. You live a life. So tell me about this open relationship. Cause this is wild.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, so my boyfriend and I, we.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But we're.

[Monet X Change]

We're only open when we're not together, so, like, we're both home. What do you mean, so, like. So. Because I travel a lot for work, so when I can leave, he can.

[Ms. Pat]

Get some other dick.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, and same vice versa. I can.

[Ms. Pat]

I can see y' all ain't worried about STDs, HIV.

[Monet X Change]

We get tested all the time. We w. On prep. And if.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If I am feeling.

[Monet X Change]

If the vibe is really off, I'm using a condom. But I'm also on prep.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You know what prep is?

[Monet X Change]

You don't prep. Pre exposure prophylaxis.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, I thought you said about prepping your food for the next day.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, no, no. Prep is a pill you take once a day and it prevents you for getting hiv.

[Ms. Pat]

This have made y' all gays take off condom. That ain't safe.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

No, some gays.

[Monet X Change]

Some gay. No, no, I use them a lot. Some games. I still use condoms. I use condoms, but I take prep just in case, you know, Cuz sometimes condoms be breaking.

[Ms. Pat]

If. If y' all be just lying. No, they be breaking.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

She. She don't be using them.

[Monet X Change]

No, I do ask condoms.

[Ms. Pat]

For that type of dick, you need a Kroger.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

One of my Kia bags.

[Ms. Pat]

Wait, so you. You have an open relationship and he can have sex while you go? Do he have to tell you yeah. Do we have to send you.

[Monet X Change]

It's not like you have to send me a thing at the end of the day, but when we talk every night. So how was your day?

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, I just. Fuck Willie D, who's back.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You broke today?

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, if we ask. But it's not like you do a thing.

[Ms. Pat]

You don't get jealous? No.

[Monet X Change]

I mean, at the beginning, I will say there was a little jealousy there. Cause you were still trying to figure out how that works with your dynamic. But we've been together for, what, four years now? So we've come to a place where we're at.

[Ms. Pat]

We're good. You ain't enough for him. You enough for him. He ain't enough for you?

[Monet X Change]

No, it's not about.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, he's the top, actually. The boyfriend's the top.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So maybe doing the bend. I can't stop saying doing the bending. So.

[Monet X Change]

But I think. Ms. Pat, I think. But to your point earlier, I think that.

[Ms. Pat]

Why are you sharing that?

[Monet X Change]

I think that that's what happens with a lot of straight people. Like, the reason why gays are, like, we tend to be a little happy in our relationships is that we're not constricting our partner to, like, if they want to do something. We're like, I'm giving you the freedom to do that. But we still come back to each other. We love each other, and we have this common, this understanding between us.

[Ms. Pat]

But don't you know that there's gonna come a time when you're big. Ain't gonna get up so well, girl.

[Monet X Change]

Miss Pat, I don't have that problem.

[Ms. Pat]

Well, not right now. It's coming. Ask your daddy.

[Monet X Change]

Yeah, ask your daddy. Help you with a hav.

[Ms. Pat]

Doing.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But Bob is.

[Monet X Change]

Bob is in a party.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Really gagging. So I have two boyfriends.

[Ms. Pat]

What?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

One of my boyfriends has another boyfriend. And then I also live in two homes. And I drive between the two homes each day.

[Ms. Pat]

Day to get sex.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Well, we have sex, but also to watch movies and eat breakfast.

[Ms. Pat]

So do all five of y' all get together sometimes? Not.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Not sexually, no. But we do hang out, though. So it's me and Ta. And then me. That's Jacob. That's my other partner right there. So it's me and Jacob live on.

[Ms. Pat]

You fucking that little dude? That dude too little for your Kyle? You taking all that big black.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Are you okay?

[Ms. Pat]

Do your parents know where you at? Do your kids know where you at? No wonder you was short.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

My other boyfriend is shorter than him. He's a little short. Yeah. My Other boyfriend is. I like short guys.

[Ms. Pat]

Why do you like these little keychain white boys?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

My other boyfriend's not white. My other boyfriend's black. This is my other boyfriend, keychain white boy.

[Ms. Pat]

You didn't put him on your keychain?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

This is my other boy. He's like, he's like five, four, five foot four.

[Ms. Pat]

That's my height.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

I like short guys.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, Ms. Pat, so how is, so.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

How is your look?

[Monet X Change]

I mean, you're married.

[Ms. Pat]

Yes.

[Monet X Change]

Happily married?

[Ms. Pat]

Yes.

[Monet X Change]

Would you ever be open?

[Ms. Pat]

Fuck no, sir. I've had gonorrhea. That shit burned.

[Monet X Change]

Okay, yes, but it's curable, so yes.

[Ms. Pat]

I don't want it no more.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

But think about you.

[Ms. Pat]

Never.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

You never been at the Walgreens and locked eyes with the man behind the counter?

[Ms. Pat]

No. No.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Do guys ever hit on you at the meet and greet?

[Ms. Pat]

They hit on me.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Sure they do.

[Ms. Pat]

You know what? I've been married for 30 something years and it's, I'm so out of the world of dating. If most of the time my, my assistant be like, he hitting on you? I'm like, are you talking about. But I, I shut down. I'm married. Get out of my face. Cuz, you know, I, I have a career now. My husband's retired. I up. He take my money.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

So can, can we do a role play? I'm going to hit on you and I want to see how you would have not.

[Ms. Pat]

Yeah.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, Ms. P, you. That was real funny tonight. You was real funny and you look real good now.

[Ms. Pat]

Come get your.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Because I know it's some. I know with some. Some. I know you are testing very well in these gen M streets. They have to be chasing you and you. Plus you got a bag. So these, these men, they're looking for a come up. And you. And you're also open and you, you talk about sexuality in your life.

[Ms. Pat]

They tell me they're attracted to me, but I don't listen to that. I mean, because I, I, you know what? I only been with three men in my life and that's my, my husband was the third one. I don't have time for that. I wanted some and I don't want to share no man. When we get old and shit, start working on him and start working on me. I'm going unstick his dick with cocoa butter from his leg and we going to watch TV together.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

How many guys have we been with, Monet, you want to tell us? 5. Many guys we've been with.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh God, if you got five today. So I Can imagine. I mean, you done been with.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

If I had to guess, I would say I have probably been with roughly 6000. It's somewhere between actually 800 and 1500 guys.

[Monet X Change]

I'm definitely four digits. How old are you?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

39. Jeez.

[Ms. Pat]

And how much dick you had?

[Monet X Change]

I'm definitely four digits, I think. But here's the thing.

[Ms. Pat]

What is four digits?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

At least a thousand.

[Monet X Change]

At least a thousand. But it's not always penetration. I count. Like just prolonged eye contact? No, but, like, count like making out with somebody and like, touching each other. I count that as hooking up. So it's not always penetration. I'm just talking generally.

[Ms. Pat]

So how many penis you think you sucked?

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, my God. Jesus christ. At least six men from sucking dicks. I've sucked at least 600 dicks in my life. Minimum.

[Ms. Pat]

Whoa.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

At least, minimum. So, Ms. Pat.

[Monet X Change]

So do you still want to use that straw? You using?

[Ms. Pat]

I'm scared. I'm so scared. I was like, I'm at a gay convention and I'm using. I might need to leave this shit alone. Gay convention.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

All right, y'.

[Monet X Change]

All.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Ms. Pat, where can we find you? Where can they see you? Are you still on tour? Before we get out of here, where can they see you, Ms. Pat?

[Ms. Pat]

If y' all don't do, check out Monet. And that's bikini. Jesus Christ. Your website is misspackcompany.com Mississippi.com and check out all of my dates. Every Tuesday night, I'm on bet on Ms. Pat setters it. And if you watch the Ms. Pat show, it's coming back soon. But please catch me on tour. Baltimore, I'm on my way. Charlotte, I'm on my way next week. So make sure this come out.

[Monet X Change]

We can put it out.

[Ms. Pat]

Okay. So make sure you get there and see me, cuz we going to have a good time.

[Monet X Change]

Thank you so much for being here. You. You've been such a light. And you're so hilarious.

[Ms. Pat]

Oh, my God. I love you guys. I just love y'. All.

[Bob the Drag Queen]

Oh, you're so sweet. Thank you. All right, bye, everyone. Bye, y'.

[Monet X Change]

All.

[Ms. Pat]

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[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

That's the OG it kicked off this.

[Monet X Change]

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[Bob the Drag Queen]

So if you've been living in the.

[Monet X Change]

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