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Hi, I'm Jessica Porter and welcome back to Sleep Magic, a podcast where I help you find the magic of your own mind, helping you to sleep better and live better. Thank you everyone for being here.
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It's so nice to feel connected to you all.
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Some shout outs for tonight. Simon O from Austria says Sleep Magic is nice and calm. I love that. Thank you, Simon. Thank you for listening. Amelie, who listens on Spotify, says she loves the podcast. Thank you, Amelie. I also want to give some shout outs to Fran M, Jodi Leafs, James, who's getting over a cold. I hope you feel better. And someone named. It's me, Claire. Hi, Claire. And finally, someone named. Ah, that poor guy says I found Sleep Magic a couple of years ago and now I look forward to the sweet relief of deep sleep. Jessica hits me over the head with her cartoon Club and I'm zonky pooed for the night. I love that. My cartoon Club. I'm going to carry that image with me for the rest of my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Aww, that poor guy for listening. So thanks to all of you for listening, subscribing, spreading the word, giving us feedback, reaching out, and just generally participating in this relaxation experiment. All right, tonight, letting go of toxic relationships. Life is full of decisions, and some are really simple, like what you're going to have for lunch, while other decisions are much more complex and require more time. I remember the times I've made really big decisions in my life, like moving to a new place or leaving a graduate program I was in, and I had to really listen day after day to the information my body was giving me until I was sure that the new direction was the right one for me. And so it is with many relationships, because relationships are living, breathing things and they change over time. People have layers within themselves, and by being in relationships, those layers are slowly revealed. Sometimes a person who appears to be perfect for you at the beginning reveals layers over time that prove problematic. And sometimes our own layers are not compatible with the other person's. Either way, we will come across relationships in our lives that just don't work over time that are or become dysfunctional or even toxic. To me, a toxic relationship is one that, regardless of how hard you try to fix it, hurts you or pushes you to hurt yourself or hurt the other person. And this can be incredibly perplexing, especially if it felt good at the beginning. Toxic relationships can have a lot of drama, which makes for lots of adrenaline, and that can feel addictive, making you feel alive. But high stakes drama is not the same as gentle, supportive love. Things don't grow during earthquakes. The sign I've identified that I'm in a problematic or toxic relationship is that I find it hard to align with myself. There exists an increasingly wide gap between what I'm thinking, thinking and feeling and what I'm doing and saying. A healthy relationship makes room for me and the other person to be aligned not only with one another, but within our own individual selves. The relationship is a new and valuable creation, icing on a cake, value added as opposed to something that erodes or rots the cake over time. Toxic relationships can be notoriously hard to leave, which might sound strange to anyone who's never been in one, but completely understandable to those of us who have because they can be addictive, isolating and their fundamental misalignment skews our thinking. An unhealthy relationship can make you doubt yourself or your intuition. And some partners are very adept at convincing their mates that things will get better one day or that everything is their fault. So if this pertains to you, I'm sorry and I encourage you to reach out and start telling the truth to someone outside of the relationship. Anyone, just to hear yourself say it. And as you find support, get more and more until you can align with yourself once again. Now, this can be easier said than done, but just know that every person or being has a right to their own dignity. Your dignity is organic to your being, your essence as a living creature. It's not something you have to deserve or earn or try to figure out. So keep exploring and reaching for yours. Keep feeding your own soul in whatever way you can. By giving yourself permission to feel good, to feel free and whole, you will begin to get a new perspective and give yourself permission to make better choices. So tonight I'm doing a hypnosis that will help you experience your inner strength and value the light you carry inside as you let it steer your life into increasingly positive places and into increasingly positive relationships. Now, if this sounds too intense or isn't your cup of tea tonight, you can always listen to another episode that suits your needs even better. But I think this should feel good to most everyone. Before we begin our only ad break which makes this magic possible to listen ad free, follow the link in the show notes.
