Transcript
A (0:11)
Hi, I'm Jessica Porter and welcome back to Sleep Magic, a podcast where I help you find the magic of your own mind, helping you to sleep better and live better. Hi everyone. Thank you so much for being here. Here we are again. We've gotten a lot of feedback lately.
B (0:31)
I just want to give some shout outs.
A (0:35)
First of all, Claudia says goodbye Melatonin. Thank you Claudia. I'm glad you're sleeping better. I really appreciate that. Hemission Forever says they were searching for help falling asleep one night at 4am came across Sleep Magic and was asleep within 20 minutes. They say that they felt like they were floating in air. Great. Someone named Grape Jamming says, I know your secret, Ms. Porter. You're not a hypnotist, you're a wizard. Maybe. Alyssa782 says she really likes the intros as they offer helpful insights. Great. Thank you Alyssa. Thank you for listening. Brittany says she and her husband have been listening for a year now and says the relaxation makes her feel like she melts into the bed.
B (1:33)
I love that. That's exactly what we want to hear.
A (1:37)
And Kkheartsg says stop. Just stop. You found it. This is the sleep podcast you've been wishing for. Everybody, thank you so much for all that feedback. Whether you left it on Sleepiest or the podcast players or my website. Happy Valentine's Day. You are my Valentine's this year. Thank you everybody for listening. I'm extremely grateful to you. So, pivoting to tonight's episode, Valentine's love begins with self love. We recently talked about love for the Wuthering Heights episode. So tonight we're going to look at the topic through a different lens for Valentine's Day. It's almost a cliche at this point, the idea that healthy love requires self love.
B (2:42)
But it does.
A (2:45)
I mean, think about it. If you're going to be part of a healthy and sustainable container of energy with another person, your own container can't be dark and self hating. At least not over the long haul. And sure, being in love with another person helps to heal some of that deep stuff. And that's great. But it's not a workaround for avoiding your relationship to yourself. Your well being should never be in another person's hands. That said, I want to make something really clear. To me, self love isn't generated by the ego. It's not some oh I'm so great like vanity or some exaggerated self esteem. To me, self love is entirely natural, organic. Like we as living beings are meant to naturally align with ourselves, to accept ourselves and support our own journey through life. Our energy is meant to circulate within us relatively unfettered. Some call this coherence because we are, let's remember, just made of natural elements, Just a bunch of carbon and some gases and some minerals, the same stuff as the earth and the stars. And although our minds can make our lives pretty complex, our inner beings are actually really simple. Inner beings just want to be and grow. I mean, think about most animals. They simply do themselves, get their needs met. They're not. I mean, unless they've been abused, all complicated and neurotic, they support their own life force. They're on their own team. And although we are not our only source of support by any stretch of the imagination, we are sort of the spinal cord of our own experience. So to me, self love is not this mirror gazing and self absorption. It's the freedom from conflict deep within ourselves. It's the letting go of negative belief systems, trauma and inner holding that we have been trained to do. Well, Jessica, that sounds easy enough. But we can become strangely attached to limiting thoughts and feelings. They can feel stuck inside of us. So I found that one of the best ways to give ourselves permission to dump all that stuff is to realize that the people who passed on those belief systems or taught us how to tense up, that they too are simply humans carrying their own baggage. And they too yearn to let it all go on the deepest, deepest levels of their beings. They're just organisms seeking peace and freedom too. So tonight we'll be getting in touch with some of that inner baggage and then let it go so you can.