
Hosted by Julie Fennell · EN
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Pansexual polyamorous kinkster, proud slut, and PhD sociologist Julie Fennell discusses some of the things near and dear to her heart and overanalytical brain. Expect lots of in-depth and highly opinionated discussions about her areas of professional expertise like gender and sexuality, along with plenty of content on sex and relationships, polyamory, BDSM, and the wild world of artistic rope bondage (shibari). Some episodes are solo, and many are duo/interviews. This podcast is what happens when an academic goes rogue!

Julie and her sub Artifiction have both been writing erotica for years. In this episode, they share their wildly different journeys to the same destination of writing smutty stories. They discuss the qualities of good erotica, share perspectives on erotica reading and writing, and end with tips, tricks, and games for writing it for yourself, an audience, and/or your partner.Julie has published stories in:Best Women's Erotica, volume 8Big Book of Quickies

~Content warning: Very explicit BDSM erotica~Welcome to the Valentine's Day erotica special! This episode is a two-parter. This second episode contains two original short stories by Julie that are Fem Dom/masc sub. The first is "The first taste" and the second is "Possession."If you're looking for published versions of my stories, check out these anthologies:Best Women's Erotica, Volume 8Big Book of Quickies

~Content warning: Very explicit BDSM erotica~Welcome to the Valentine's Day erotica special! This episode is a two-parter. This first episode contains two original short stories by Julie that are Masc Dom/fem sub. The first is "Your dirty little fuck toy" and the second is "The kind of slut you are."If you're looking for published versions of my stories, check out these anthologies:Best Women's Erotica, Volume 8Big Book of Quickies

In this conversation between Julie and Doug Robinson, they unpack some of the quirks and challenges of defining and articulating more complicated "sexual orientations." Both of them feel like usual labels don't do a great job of encompassing their own sexual desires and experiences, and they question the usefulness of these labels. In particular, Julie questions the wisdom of depending on "born this way" as an explanation/justification for sexual attraction, arguing that even if sexual attraction is a choice, that shouldn't make it any less legitimate.Fashion plate toy mentioned in this episode: https://amzn.to/3WISInk

In this episode, Julie interviews playwright Doug Robinson about his experiences growing up and living as a gender non-conforming man. A pressing point in their conversation is the need for a social equivalent for feminine butch for men. We have come to accept a gender identity/presentation (at least for queer women) of "woman, but kind of masculine," but we have no corresponding identity/presentation of "man, but kind of feminine." Inspired by male seahorses, who can carry the babies of their species, Doug argues for a more expansive social construction of masculinity.Mentioned in this episode:You Know Me Well by Nina LaCour and David LevithanAlso, if you're in the DC area this Feb through March, you can see one of Doug's plays!

In this episode, Julie talks about many the things that she loves about rope bondage (sometimes called shibari) and discusses vocabulary for talking about what we all love about rope. From art to dance to sex to intimacy to spirituality, there are so many ways to approach rope and do it with passion. This episode is intended for experienced rope lovers to articulate what they love about rope, and for people who are unfamiliar with rope learn more about what the rest of us get out of this demanding and versatile hobby-kink.Rope and Photo by Lex_Red, Bottom JulieLinks to related instagram posts:How to talk about what you love about ropeDifferent perspectives on loving rope

Trigger warning: brief discussion about Consensual Non-Consent (CNC) and Dubious Consent (DubCon)Feminine dominants are a much misunderstood, misidentified, and misrepresented bunch. In this episode, Julie has a laughing (very late night) conversation with her co-top partner SugarandPoison about their "villain-coded" kinks as fem tops/sadists/doms. They discuss some of the challenges of finding an identity as a fem dom, and spend a lot of time going over their pleasures in it as well. Most of all, they remind listeners that you can do and be a fem dom however you want--their version just happens to lean rather dark and evil.Photo credit: Julie tying ScarlettPanda at Boundcon '24, photographed by LadyZady

Many people are understandably confused about the relationship between sex and BDSM because... the relationship is very confusing. In this episode, Julie draws from the research she's conducted on the BDSM subculture as well as her extensive personal experience to try to answer the question "is BDSM about sex?" The short answer is, "ish, but you should never trust anyone who gives you a simple answer to this question, because it's extremely personal and subjective." Referenced in this episode:Please Scream Quietly: A Story of Kink, by Juile Fennell"The Prosocial Sadist," by Jennifer Erickson and Brad Sagarin

Throughout developed countries, young men have been running to extremist conservative politics with disastrous consequences for democracy. Rather than responding with sympathy or concern, liberal discourse has largely focused on disgust, rejection, and revulsion. In this episode, Julie and her husband Jonny (whose chief stated expertise is "I'm a guy") unpack some of the social disadvantages that men in developed countries face that liberals frequently deride or ignore. They argue that liberals need to open their minds, hearts, and ears to these issues so that young men will stop finding "sympathy" from the wrong people, and describe strategies for society and individuals to engage more positively and proactively with men.Mentioned in this episode:Of Boys and Men by Richard ReevesViolated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Century by Julie Fennell with Remy Green

Neither mainstream culture nor BDSM subculture is particularly supportive of masculine submission--especially for hetero(ish) cis-men. In this interview, Julie's submissive Artifiction describes his personal experiences trying to reconcile social norms of cis straightish masculinity with the fundamental desire to have someone else be in charge. He and Julie unpack some of the considerable social and personal obstacles that he and other masculine submissives like him face. These include lack of fictional or real role models, lack of social support, and constant struggles for legitimacy.Mentioned in this episode:Please Scream Quietly: A Story of KinkViolated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st CenturyDominatrix: Gender, Eroticism, and Control in the Dungeon