I Fear We're Not Reacting Enough | Reading Reddit Stories

Summary

Smosh Reads Reddit Stories – “I Fear We're Not Reacting Enough”

Podcast Date: June 6, 2026
Host: Shayne Topp
Guests: Courtney, Arasha
Episode Theme: Overreacting (Am I Overreacting?) – Personal boundaries, relationships, awkward misunderstandings, and the hilarious perils of reading too much into Reddit stories.

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Episode Overview

In this episode, Shayne Topp and his fellow Smosh cast members, Courtney and Arasha, dive deep into the theme of “overreacting,” dissecting a fresh slate of Reddit stories where posters worry about whether their dramatic responses to awkward scenarios are justified. With sharp-witted banter and genuine (if sometimes theatrical) reactions, the trio throws themselves into stories of mismatched relationship boundaries, suspicious sex toy deliveries, nanny drama, catastrophic “bro” texting, and the classic birthday-obsessed significant other.

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Notable Episode Segments

01:00 – 03:10 | Opening Banter & Reactions

• Shayne introduces the overreacting theme, teasing that today's stories will provoke strong physical and emotional reactions.
• Playful banter about who has the most over-the-top on-couch reactions now that the set has more space.
• The cast “backs up” a few generic reactions ("He said what?!", “Wait, can I hear that again?”) to pad the episode, joking about editing them in at will.

  Courtney [02:26]: "There’s like, so bad I can’t even move and I go inside my body, or I need to frolic out of anger. Just throughout the story, being like, 'What? Huh?'"

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Story 1: [03:10 – 18:00]

"Am I overreacting if I end my relationship because my boyfriend kisses me goodbye in the morning... and I hate it?"

Summary

• Poster is losing sleep because her boyfriend (despite being repeatedly asked not to) wakes her up to kiss her goodbye before work, leaving her groggy all day. Requests notes or texts instead, but the boyfriend persists.

Panel Reaction

• Initial confusion: is this complaint for real?
• Consensus forms: It's cute unless boundaries are set and violated.

  Shayne [08:24]: "It doesn't matter if the act is sweet. If someone says, 'Hey, please don't do that,' it kind of doesn’t matter how nice the intention was. The sweetest thing is to listen."

Reddit Verdict

• "Not overreacting," especially with clear communication and boundary-setting.
• Commenters suggest practical solutions (e.g., leaving notes, flipping the scenario).
• Update reveals: Boyfriend missed the door note, admits it was for their anniversary due to existential worries about last words; couple agrees on a better communication/“goodbye” strategy (dry-erase board, less intrusive gestures).

Key Quote

Courtney [17:17]: "With these stories, we get the weirdest single aspect of a person’s relationship and judge the whole thing off that. Everything contains multitudes."

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Story 2: [19:53 – 31:17]

"A package from an adult toy company arrived at my house addressed to another woman. Am I overreacting?"

Summary

• Poster finds a sex toy package addressed to a woman from her husband’s professional circle; husband gets defensive. History of dishonesty makes her suspicious.

Panel Reaction

• Spirited theorizing: “Is the mistress sending a 'hey girly' signal? … Maybe it's a wild but innocent mix-up?”
• Concerns center on the defensiveness and lack of open communication—major red flags.

  Courtney [21:41]: "What if the woman sent it on purpose—like a ‘hey girly, FYI, I’m here’? Out of all the scenarios, that’s maybe the least-dangerous outcome!"

Reddit Verdict

• "Not overreacting," but commenters urge talking to both parties directly (not confronting the woman at work).
• Update: It's an innocent mix-up due to a fat-fingered address input; husband is just habitually defensive.
• Poster gains insight, realizes she deserves better communication and less second-guessing, but everyone (including another innocent woman) is "an innocent girl."

Key Quotes

Shayne [29:39]: "We're all innocent girls!"
Arasha [29:57]: "Anybody, given this pattern, would be like, 'What is going on?!' She did the right thing opening a conversation."

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Story 3: [31:24 – 51:12]

"Am I overreacting about my nanny family having sex during the day?"

Summary

• Full-time nanny suspects employers use their baby’s nap time for intimate activities. She feels uncomfortable and contemplates asking them to stop.

Panel Reaction

• Initial sympathy for discomfort, but quickly turns: private act, closed door, no evidence of inappropriateness.

  Shayne [38:25]: "They're paying you $32 an hour… there’s a degree to which I'd be like, yes, there’s a line, but this ain’t it."

• The group debates boundaries, privacy, and how much power a nanny should (and shouldn’t) exert in someone else's home.

Reddit Verdict

• Strong consensus: Major overreaction. Comments urge OP to “mind your business” and appreciate the job.
• Update: Nanny brings it up, is let go, receives a month’s severance. She realizes she violated employer trust, admits jealousy of the mom (similar age, wealth, happy marriage) was a motivator.

Key Quotes

Courtney [45:37]: “How do I get my job back? … Go to a different Reddit for that one.”
Shayne [51:12]: “Reddit can be a good place for advice, but you need to be honest about all the aspects you think are going on. The amount of times the update is like, ‘Here’s what’s actually going on…’ Goddamn.”

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Story 4: [56:32 – 67:12]

"Am I overreacting for ending things with my date after he accidentally texted me this?"

(A Catastrophic Bro Text & ChatGPT Apology)

Summary

• After a great first date/kiss, a guy accidentally sends the woman a message meant for a friend:

  “11 out of 10 bro. Soft skin, big titties, smells good. She’s got that mommy aura for real... Lmfao I unironically jizzed a little when we kissed…”

• Immediately followed by an overblown, verbose apology (clearly auto-generated/AI).

Panel Reaction

• Laughter, horror, and cringe at the switch between “bro” speak and Mr. Darcy-level apology.

  Arasha [63:18]: "Who is the real you? The one texting your friend, or this insane paragraph full of a thesaurus on wheels?" Shayne [64:02]: "He objectified her, then insulted her intelligence with the apology."

• The friend who excuses the guy's behavior ("that's just how guys talk") is called out as equally problematic.

Reddit Verdict

• Not overreacting. Panel agrees: Red flag to see how someone talks about you to others versus how they present themselves.

Key Moments

Courtney [66:21]: "Shut up. Shut up. You're stupid."
B [67:01]: "He’s stupid. He thinks length equals apologies. Just own up!"

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Story 5: [67:21 – End, 77:44]

"Am I overreacting? I'm mad that my boyfriend wished me happy birthday 25 minutes late."

Summary

• Poster is upset her boyfriend didn't wish her “happy birthday” exactly at midnight, despite being busy with visiting family and planning to celebrate later.
• Received plenty of attention and celebration from others, but obsesses over perceived boyfriend's neglect.

Panel Reaction

• Amusement and incredulity; panel notes she's 19 and likely to grow out of this, but points out the self-sabotage: Declines his calls, ignores texts, then blasts him for “radio silence.”

  Shayne [72:02]: "This 19-year-old… 19 going on 13!" B [74:02]: "You refuse to talk about your feelings, even if they are unreasonable. That helps nobody."

Reddit Verdict

• "Overreacting"—almost to a humorous degree. Commenters recommend grace and appreciation for what was done.

Key Quotes

Shayne [72:18]: "Some people evolve so much. Some don't at all. Some people get worse, and some people go good and then bad and then back again. The amount of fluctuation you'll see…"

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Final Takeaways & Notable Moments

• Meta-Lesson: Judging entire relationships (or people) by a single “am I overreacting” scenario is itself often an overreaction. Stories on Reddit are almost always just a slice of a much bigger context.
• Notable Repeated Themes: The difference between intentions and impact, importance of boundaries, dangers of over-personalizing other people's behavior, and the critical role of communication.
• Memorable Quote:

  Courtney [29:44]: "You're so reasonable for being suspicious when the pattern lines up. And when you have a defensive partner—who just is defensive as a treat? What?!"

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Essential Timestamps

• 03:10: First “overreacting” story introduction (Kissing Goodbye Dilemma)
• 14:09: Poster’s update and compromise (“dry erase board” goodbye)
• 19:53: Sex toy mix-up story begins
• 29:39: “We’re all innocent girls” affirmation
• 31:24: Nanny Sex Scandal story starts
• 45:37: Nanny update (gets let go), discussion on boundaries and regret
• 56:32: Accidental bro-text/AI apology disaster
• 67:21: Birthday “25 minutes late” meltdown (panel reaction and verdict)
• 76:18: Reflections on growing up, maturing past overreacting

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Conclusion & Takeaways

The episode is a hilarious, thoughtful ride through modern awkwardness, reminding listeners that everyone overreacts sometimes—but the key is honest growth and learning from our social faux pas. As always, the Smosh crew leans into empathetic, clever critique, ensuring listeners walk away amused, validated, and maybe just a little less likely to let pride, jealousy, or the midnight hour spoil a relationship.

Courtney [77:00]: "I would unpack that for days."

Tune in next Saturday for more mayhem, misadventures, and reactions!

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Hello and welcome to Reddit Stories. I'm Shane, and today's theme is Overreacting. Am I overreacting? I don't know. I'm joined by two people who frankly do give us some of the best reactions on this show.

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What? What? How could you?

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Courtney and Arasha are.

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Those are some of the great reactions.

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We're gonna be seeing more of that.

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Yeah, you are. Yeah, you are.

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What do you think the chances are of something giving you the type of reaction where you literally get up off the couch and run around? We have a lot more room now.

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Yeah, we do.

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We do.

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To run around.

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We do have more space. This couch is a little bit bigger. I can just roll around and just start just going crazy washing.

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Mm, mm. The poof went.

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You cannot throw that poof at me.

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Well, okay, well, challenge accepted. Yeah.

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Okay, well, I have a pillow now.

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Oh, cool. Good luck. Good luck.

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So you're gonna like fe. If I throw poof? You'll return with pillow.

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I will walk with pillow. Throw pillow.

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Okay. This is day two.

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Stay tuned. This is our first time on the Reddit set. How is this chair for you?

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It's nice. It's comfortable.

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Hell yeah.

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I feel like it's the Martin Scorsese thing now where I'm like, I'm fully locked in.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Nice, Nice here.

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Nice.

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Yeah. I'm excited for the stories today. I feel like the reactions, like it can be either so bad that I can't even move and I go inside my body.

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Yeah.

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Or.

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Or where I need to frolic out

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of anger or Just throughout the story. Just being like, what? Huh?

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I know.

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Huh? Throughout.

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He said what? There. You can use that at any point in the video.

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Yeah, let's just like backorder a few reactions up at the top. Okay, let's go.

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Let's do it. He said what?

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Wait, can I hear that again?

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Mm.

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Okay.

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For real, Shane, why would you say that horrible word?

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Yeah, I got one. I got one. Okay, please, please have an update.

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These are good. You're ready.

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Yeah, and if you put those only at the beginning, it'll be really embarrassing.

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We'll switch those around.

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Yeah, yeah. No, they got our back.

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All right, our first story comes from Am I overreacting? Posted in January of this year, 2026am I overreacting if I end my relationship because my boyfriend kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning? Wait, I was what? I thought that sentence was going different places.

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He said what?

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And then it ended up being super sweet.

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Yeah, let's get that one more time.

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Am I overreacting if I end my relationship because my boyfriend kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning?

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You want to end it?

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Cause of that?

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All right. I hate that my boyfriend loves me.

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Yeah, he's a monster.

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All right. My boyfriend, who's 39 and I, a 30 year old woman, have different work schedules most days of the week. Boyfriend has to be out of the house by 7am As a grad student, I am often up late working but try to sleep in, so I still get at least eight hours of sleep. Fortunately, my partner and I have separate bedrooms, so in theory this should be perfectly manageable. But. But despite repeatedly asking him not to, he always comes into my room to kiss me and tell me he loves me before he leaves, which wakes me up every time I have an Oura ring. So I am also able to see that this often takes place when I am in deep sleep, which in addition to lost sleep hours, leaves me incredibly groggy throughout the day. I know it's sweet, but I've suggested if he wants to be cute to please leave a note or a nice text I can wake up to. I remind him not to wake me up in the morning the night before and will even tape notes to my door that say please don't wake me up. And he still does anyway, otherwise our relationship is great. So maybe it's the sleep deprivation talking, but I'm really feeling at my wits end with this. Please help me find some clarity on what to do.

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Reddit oh Gosh.

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Okay. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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This is tough.

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So interesting.

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Yeah, yeah. Or it's not tough, but it's an interesting scenario.

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It is. Yeah. Yeah. At first. At first I was really mad at her and I was like, no, he's being sweet and that's adorable. But then it's kind of like, you think about it further and it is kind of like, okay, she's kind of being as clear as possible.

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Yeah. With the notes.

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With the notes of like, please don't wake me up. Then it feels a little like, okay, King, just leave a cutie note.

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I wish she had said what his responses were to what she's.

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I know.

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It's just like. But, yeah, if he's lying.

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Okay.

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He's like, for sure.

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Like, I wanna know that.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah. I will not kiss you.

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Yeah. I wonder why I won.

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Like, do you think he's trying, like, after, she's like, please don't kiss me in the morning. He's like, for sure. And then he tries to be extra sneaky. Like he's coming to the room and he's like, meh.

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Yeah.

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Cause, like, my mind goes to imagine, like, some people, it's like, existential or like, where it's like, I want to see my person and say, I love you and kiss you before I leave. Because what if I never get to do that again? Like, some people, it's that deep. But then also, it's like, she's asking for the text.

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She's asking for something.

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She's asking for something.

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I also think people. Some people can fall asleep faster. I'm someone that I can be woken up and I'll just be like, okay, so me.

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Yeah, yeah, exactly. Truly, I want the goodbyes. Cause then I'm about to.

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Sorry.

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Sayonara.

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I can pass right back down.

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Exactly. And then I'll be like, did you say goodbye to me?

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Yeah. Oh, exactly.

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And they were like, yeah. And we talked. You made lunch.

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If it became.

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You made lunch.

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We talked. Yeah, yeah, yeah. If it became a regular schedule thing, it probably would be something that I don't consciously wake up for. My body would start being like, okay, you're heading out. See you later.

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The eyes just at 50%.

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You're heading out sick.

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Yeah.

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All right, I'll see you later.

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That's exactly how it goes.

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It's so interesting with the oura ring, too, because I know my. Cause I've been trying to track my stress and stuff too. When your alarm goes off, I wake up and I go back to sleep and My heart rate gets actually to the lowest it is the entire night. I don't know if it's like, ugh, he's just getting up. I have some time and I sleep like the best I've ever slept in that next room.

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I'm scouting the place.

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I'm like, I feel. I don't know, my body feels extra safe after that.

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I wake up and grab my spear. I'm like, okay, don't worry, I've got watch.

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Yeah. Heart rate lowered.

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So he wakes her up at seven?

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Yeah, he's leaving around seven.

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Yeah. He has to be out of the house by 7am and she's a grad student. She's often up late working. So she's on an opposite schedule than him. But it just sounds like to a degree, she's probably sleeping until 9, 10.

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Damn.

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Okay. I mean, it depends on how late she sleeps.

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Cause if her deep sleep is. I don't know. I'm not a sleep scientist.

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Totally.

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But she's mad about being woken up

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at 7am which makes sense. Cause sleep, you know, it's precious for a lot of people. It's of course, needed for all of us. So it makes sense that it is like you're disrupting something that is so vital to this person being able to actually follow through and be themselves throughout all day.

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And clearly she's the type that she likes her space and her time. Totally separate rooms.

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Yes.

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That's. I mean, it's super. Way more common now. But it says a lot.

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It shows, like, you know, setting boundaries. It doesn't matter if the act is a very sweet act. If someone's saying, hey, please don't do that. Kind of doesn't matter how sweet it is and how sweet the intentions are.

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Totally.

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The sweetest thing is to listen to them.

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Yeah. I mean, a note.

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Come on, say goodbye when you go to sleep.

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Or say like, yeah, wake his ass up. I'm going to bed now.

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You know, I'm going to bed now.

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I'm going to see you in the morning. Yeah.

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It could be a normal thing, I think, for people to be like. Or go to bed. Like, I'll be up. I'll be gone by the time you wake up. So as you're going to bed, it's just like, all right, well, good luck tomorrow, whatever, blah, blah, blah.

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Totally.

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Yeah.

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I think that.

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Okay. And last thing I'll say before we get into comments is. Cause I like. I prefer a goodbye and things like. Me too. I am the type that when my partner is already asleep, When I'm getting into bed, I'm like, aw, I'm saying goodnight to myself. Or in the morning when you leave earlier than me, you say goodbye, I'm like, I don't care what little cost

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it is to me.

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I feel sad when I don't see them.

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I agree, I agree. Yeah. Cause I don't wanna wake up. Why are you guys smiling?

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I'm laughing. Cause like, sometimes I'll go up to bed and I'll start reading and then I'll like fall asleep while I'm reading. But then I'll wake up to Cody and be like, oh, you're already asleep. And I'm like, well, no, awake. And I'll be just like, I know, but I don't care. Cause I fall right back asleep.

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Exactly, exactly. No, I do the same thing. Like if I'm getting into bed late, I will be like, oh, you're asle.

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Oh, you're asleep. Oh, you're asleep. Oh, you're asleep.

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Oh, oh, look at that.

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Oh, you're asleep. Oh, you're asleep.

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And these are the reactions you guys come here for.

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Totally, totally, totally.

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At 4am, if I'm not in the right sleep position, my cat will get up and come right up to my face and just go, meh. And then I have to like, lay this the right way and he's like, all right, sick. And then he like curls in here.

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Totally, totally.

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Yeah, I'm used to it.

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Yeah. So she's wrong.

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So anyway, she sucks. No, he needs to just listen to her.

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Yes.

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The verdict is not overreacting. Comments. Not overreacting. Please help me find some clarity on what to do. Reddit. And then they put a picture of someone opening a door with the bucket of water on the door sill.

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The bucket prank.

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Someone said not overreacting. If he really just won't stop. But you don't want to end the relationship. I would start waking him up to say goodnight. And you love him when you go to bed so he can see the effects of his actions less drastic. I'm also a big fan of a rubber door stopper to keep him out. Hope he said solid ideas.

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God damn.

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Thank you.

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Okay. Yeah, that's crazy.

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Like the, like anti breaking. How about men can just stop?

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Just stop? Yeah.

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Hey, how about we listen to each other?

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It's just wild too. Cause it's like, it's not like, it's not like it's uncontrollable. He's choosing to walk into this door, walk into this room and wake her up after being asked not to. It's just a clear boundary.

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The fact that she has her own, she wants her own space and that they have their own bedrooms. Just like when people are able to do that. That's awesome. But clearly she's not. It's pointless. She's getting woken up.

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Some added context to paint a better picture here, but the TL Dr. When my boyfriend came home for lunch, we talked it out. He had kept the lights off to be minimally disruptive when making his morning coffee and didn't see the sign on the door. He forgot I mentioned I would be up late, but did kind of remember me asking him not to wake me up. But it is our anniversary and for him it's about the worry that if something happened to either one of us and that not being the last thing he did, he's a complete sweetheart. Okay, I know. Crying emoji. Plus plus plus points for all the commenters that think I'm an absolute monster. Oh okay. I'm curious. Okay, so for this one night, he did it cause it's their anniversary. But she's saying that this happens all the time, right?

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Maybe she's just started to stop him and maybe it was like the note was just so big for her where she's like, you did like I put a note and you're ignoring that. That feels really big and intentional. And I have to say sometimes, when sometimes you can be really in the moment with what happened, with the boundary being crossed and really stewing over it. Cause it sounds. Cause yeah, it sounded like in the Reddit post. This is something that's been going on for weeks, but it honestly sounds like she only has started to put the boundary recently. I'm very much filling the timeline.

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I don't know the timeline here, but anyways, she goes on to say he promised he would take it more seriously moving forward and I take him at his word for all of it. A big thank you to all of the sincere responses with suggestions. Because from all of that came a great solution. He is a wonderful illustrator, so I'm going to mount a dry erase board on the back of my door for him to easily leave me messages. But after more thought too, I'm going to tell him later he can come in and kiss me goodbye and just ask him to do it somewhere less sensitive, like the top of my head and not whisper directly in my ear.

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Oh yeah, that can be scary.

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I'm going to Is he also he's kissing her goodbye. Is he kissing her on if he's kissing her goodbye. Was he kissing her on the lips while she's asleep?

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Ooh, sleeping nudie. Oh, I hate that.

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Shutting the jaw to make lips together.

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Me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me. Some good.

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Do you love me? I love you so much.

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She's like, babe, we talked about this.

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I love you so much.

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That's horrible.

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Did you stay up all night? Thank you so much. Yes.

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All right. The responses to this post have given me a lot of perspective as I have also many times found myself scrolling Am I overreacting? And am I the asshole post thinking may this love never find me? All of the comments of which I've only been able to read a fraction, both telling me I should ditch him and those saying he should ditch or cheat on me, have helped me appreciate how little of a window into a person's relationship these posts really give. Honestly, the relationship I have is truly wonderful. We have fun together every day, work together as a team, and I am so glad this love found me. It's weird how many of y' all took issue with the separate rooms thing. We still sleep over and hang out in each other's rooms all the time. But it's awesome to not be completely beholden to the other person's sleep schedule or compromised closet space. I consider it a privilege. Lol. Wild. Yeah.

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Whoa.

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I think that's valuable stuff said at the end there. I mean, I think with most am I the asshole and am I overreacting stories. We get the like, weirdest single aspect of a relationship.

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Yes.

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And we judge their entire relationship off of that. Whereas everything contains multitudes.

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It's also like these comments were overreacting a little bit.

[B]

The comments were the overreact.

[A]

And let's not forget, a lot of times on these comments could be a 12 year old. We don't know.

[B]

In fact, it definitely is.

[A]

All redditors are 12, right? Anyways. Wow. It's a good start.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah, I think that's great. I think we solved that.

[A]

I think we solved that too.

[B]

I think we fixed it.

[A]

We fixed that really tough dilemma there.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

You're welcome.

[A]

All right.

[C]

Would you guys be separate bedroom people if you had the choice?

[B]

I don't think so. I mean, I'm definitely separate closet people because I'm like, we need room.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

But I don't think so. Again, mostly because I'm like Shane, where I'm like, I can sleep through. I was about to say the dust bowl. Hello. I don't know why that came in.

[C]

I Slept through the dust bowl.

[B]

I will sleep through the dust bowl.

[A]

I would have slept through the great depression, I think.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

No, I swear, I'd have been like, man, this sucks.

[B]

I'm gonna go to bed, guys. Sound off in the comments if you slept through Covid or. But I think I would. I really. I just, I think I'm such a deep. I'm a deep sleeper, but I'm also just like, able to be woken up and then go back to bed. So I think that is a lot of the times the reason. But also, yeah, people just wanting generally some, like, boundary or some space. For me, it always is like, I think any relationship can take on any sort of, like, unconventional aspect. And it doesn't have to be a big deal. It's just great you guys are doing what makes sense for you two and we support it. It doesn't have to be like, oh, well, most couples actually sleep in the same bed. It's like, well, awesome. We don't. And we're actually really happy together.

[A]

Yeah. I think there's a lot of strength to a couple making a decision that is outside of the norm because the two of them are like, oh, we want this. Right? And we don't care that it's conventional or it's traditional or whatever. We're doing our own thing. I think that shows strength.

[B]

I agree.

[A]

I don't judge people for that at all. I don't really think too much about it. I think that it makes sense for some people.

[C]

I feel like I like the idea of having everybody gets their own space to make whatever they want with the space. But I would for sure be having a slumber party every night. I can't do that.

[B]

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Do you wanna come over?

[A]

You'd be at the doorway with a blank.

[C]

Have a little walkie talkie. Please come over, please.

[A]

What are you doing?

[C]

Please, Arasha, come to my room.

[B]

Oh, okay.

[A]

All right. Our next story comes from. Am I overreacting? This comes from March 21, 2026. A package from an adult toy company arrived at my house addressed to another woman. Am I overreacting?

[C]

Woo hoo. How does she know it's a sex toy? She broke a federal law.

[B]

Sorry.

[A]

I need an outside perspective because I genuinely can't tell anymore if my instincts are off or if I'm being gas lit into thinking they are. A package arrived at our house recently. Right address, wrong name. A woman I've never heard of. I looked up the return address out of curiosity. It's Adam and Eve, an adult toy company. I brought it to my husband calmly. No accusations, no yelling. Just showed him and asked if he knew anything about it. His response was immediate and defensive. Instead of being confused or trying to figure it out with me, he turned it on me. Started questioning me about why something like that would show up here. I was so caught off guard, I almost started apologizing.

[C]

What?

[A]

Here's where it gets harder to dismiss as coincidence. I looked up the name on the package. She works in the same professional world as my husband, in the same area he frequents, same field. Specific enough that when I saw it, my stomach dropped. He has a history of being dishonest when confronted about things that are hurtful. This isn't the first time I've felt like I was being made to feel crazy for asking a reasonable question. So I'm asking strangers on the Internet, is this nothing? Is there some totally logical explanation I'm missing? Because from where I'm standing, it feels like a lot of dots connecting in one direction. Am I overreacting? Whoa.

[C]

Okay, okay, okay. I'm jumping. I'm already five steps ahead.

[B]

I'll wait. Jump.

[C]

What if guy is, like, you know, trying to cheat and girly. This is a hey, girly, but as a package. Oh, the hey, girly message.

[A]

You're saying that the woman that he's cheating on or cheating with, or that

[C]

we think he is.

[A]

Yeah. That is maybe having an affair with. She sent that package.

[C]

Find my name, find me. That's what she did with Adam and Eve.

[A]

Flight. Like, if she didn't know he was married, she found out he was married and was like, oh, I'm Send some

[B]

shit to the house. Yes, yes, yes. That's so it.

[A]

That's a very, very. Out of all the horrible scenarios that this could be, that's probably one of the more positive ones. The best case scenario is that this was just somehow a complete mistake. But it's the right address. So it's not like a neighbor, Right. It's not like you go to your neighbor's house and you're like, hey, hey.

[C]

And him being defensive.

[A]

Oh, the defensive is the worst part of this, right? That's is one thing. It's the defensive thing.

[B]

Yeah. And I also just wanna flag. I hated the sentence of he's been dishonest with things like this before.

[A]

Whenever OP Writes something like that, it's like, okay, he has a history of being the worst boyfriend in the world, but.

[B]

But he dies. He's hot, right? It's like, well, we're Gonna lean on the side of this is probably a pattern. And this is the day that we're calling it out.

[A]

Right.

[C]

I was hoping that it's like, oh, like, you know, everybody accidentally sends a thing to their old address when it's especially like a website like that you're not ordering from often. Cause stuff, you know, it be lasting.

[B]

It'd be lasting.

[C]

If it's good quality product, then all

[B]

you need is a good wash.

[C]

Washes more.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Or a good wash. A good wash.

[C]

So you know when you're like, okay, six months later or however, like, you've moved, that's one of those random websites where you forgot to change the website or the address.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

And then she. Like this. It's possible that it's a coincidence, but it's also possible it's a coincidence and he's being unfaithful regardless of whether it's with the coincidence or not.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Mm.

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

Yeah. Suspicious.

[A]

Ultimately, the fact that it's a woman who is just so happens to work in the same field in the same area as him. That's a. It's a. It's a crazy coincidence.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Tis.

[B]

But he could be helping the case if he were to just respond with

[A]

that kind of the immediate defensiveness and turning it on her where she's like, I felt like I needed to apologize. I was like, that's the suspicious thing about all of this. Because that is what people who are guilty tend to do sometimes.

[C]

And this is a physical thing. It's not like a. Oh, I saw that you were looking at something. I think I saw you looking at a woman for a long time. Like, something like, this is a physical thing that arrived at your house. How can that be turned on her?

[B]

How can that be turned on her? Of just like, you know, oh, how could you doubt me? Why would you think that I would possibly cheat on us? Like, this is crazy. Why would you bring me this box? And then it makes you feel like, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to shuffle that out.

[A]

And it's a very common thing to get a wrong package sent to your place.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

I feel like there's not a good scenario where he's being defensive.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Right. But let's see.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

The verdict is not overreacting. Comments. Not overreacting. If he immediately gets defensive and has a history of being dishonest. Does she work or live in a town he travels to? Op says it's about 30 to 40 minutes from where we live. So the name on the address works. So far away from where they live.

[C]

So, so far away.

[A]

Why would she order a package to her co workers, to a person who works in the same field as her?

[B]

Oh. Oh, I see. Yeah.

[C]

Not even the same coworker. Not even co workers.

[A]

Like, they just had to hire themselves the same field. But it's a very specific field.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Someone said, the defensiveness is the real issue. If this happened to me and I showed it to my husband, he'd be having quite a laugh. And unless you were, like, some kind of super religious prude who thought these were, like, the devil's toys or something, I think most people would react that way. Opie said, I'm no prude.

[C]

I'm no prude, Gary.

[A]

Queen, okay?

[C]

Period. Queen, period.

[A]

Someone said, you're not overreacting. You're cheating. Moron of a husband ordered adult items for him and his girlfriend and auto filled his own address. Mail them to her and say, these were delivered to mine in my husband's home and see what happens after that. Op said, I like your thought. Maybe I take it to her work and give it to her. I am considering sending her an email due to her field. The info is public. I'm pissed at him for his choices. I don't know what she knows or what he told her. I don't want to ruin her life, but I want to know how long it's been going on.

[C]

Oof.

[A]

Yeah. To be clear, don't show up to

[C]

a. Yeah, don't put this on her. That is an HR issue if you have to. Don't make this. Don't bring this personal issue to her workplace. We don't know how involved she is or if she's aware.

[A]

Put the blame on the right. Like, put the pressure there.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah, definitely. I mean, I feel like maybe I'm coming at it too, from, like, a communicative standpoint, but I feel like maybe I would try to give the information that she found about the woman being in the same field and bring that back to the husband first, too. Like, I think the email is more productive, too, to, like, try to get that line of communication started. But also just, like, I don't know. I guess I'm also just thinking about it in my standpoint of, like, if I were to bring something up like this, the natural reaction would be like, let's have a conversation about how this possibly could have happened and just see how he treats that information. Like, does he also try to tangle that up and make it something that doesn't make sense? Or is he shocked by that? And, you know, I don't know. It's like the whole sleuth of it all, it feels like it's a little scary.

[A]

Cause, I mean, at the start, we were like, oh, is she being a girl's girl, this other woman, and trying to, like, throw her a hint? Like, could she reach out to her? And it's like, hey, what's going on here? To get some clarity. Cause I don't know if she's gonna get the truth out of her husband, who is famously dishonest.

[C]

Right?

[A]

So if you're writing a post and you're going, yeah, my partner, who is dishonest with me all the time, then I'm like, that is a little bit of me being a Redditor, where I'm like, why are you with this person that you cannot trust?

[C]

The writing's on the wall.

[B]

It is.

[A]

Update. Yeah, yeah, yeah. What do we think? Do we think there is that this is all a big misunderstanding, or do we think he's cheating on her?

[B]

I mean, like, my heart wants to be like, it's a misunderstanding.

[A]

Totally.

[B]

You know, and, like, the sex toys were for him,

[A]

and that's his alias.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

What if it was his drag name? You know? We don't know.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.

[B]

That's what we're going with, is he's in drag.

[C]

I'm scared.

[A]

All right. As it turns out, I put two and two together, and I was wrong. I had a burner email and reached out to her. I had receipts, metaphorically. She emailed me back. She's been staying at her mother's house down the street and fat fingered the address. It was one number off. The package was for her and her husband, who are reconciling. I had essentially asked an innocent woman if she was sleeping with my husband via a carefully crafted email from a secret account while she was out here just trying to spice things up with her spouse. She apologized. I told her it wasn't necessary, and I apologized. I invited her for coffee because I clearly have no survival instincts. My husband was defensive because that's just who he is, which is its own fun problem. So am I overreacting? Technically, yes. But also, our marriage needs work, so maybe a stranger's typo was the universe's way of handing me a wake up call wrapped in a very awkward package. Literally.

[C]

Ha, ha, ha.

[A]

Wow.

[B]

Whoa.

[C]

Okay, okay. But here's the thing, all right? There is a lesson that she needs to learn. Stop blaming yourself for all these things that are happening. At you, girly. You don't have to be apologizing to this other woman. Like, I messaged an innocent girl. You're an innocent girl. You're also an innocent girl.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

We're all innocent girls.

[B]

Yes. Yes.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Yes. Say it, Shane.

[A]

I'm an innocent girl.

[B]

Yes. We are all innocent girls.

[C]

Like, I feel bad that this person is so used to going, ah, dang it. I can't believe I did that. No, you were so reasonable for it. No need to apologize. You know, and when you have a defensive partner who just is defensive as a treat. What?

[B]

Yes. Yes. You're so right. Like, truly let us validate this person and that, like, anybody, if that pattern had lined up, would be like, what is going on? Like, this is a crazy situation. And she didn't, like, bring it to him, being like, this is over or anything like that. She was like, do you have an explanation? Like, she opened up a conversation. You did the right thing. And then also, again, didn't storm into the workplace, just, in her words, sent a carefully crafted email.

[C]

Yes.

[B]

Like, you handled things right, girly.

[C]

Yes. You're good.

[A]

But I'm glad she is acknowledging that there's stuff to work on in her relationship, because clearly there is. Can we talk about the fact that someone sent by accident sex toys to her place and she asked them out to coffee?

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

It's just like, hey, man, if someone accidentally sent sex toys to my apartment, I'd be like, what's the quickest way I can give this to you?

[C]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

And simply not make eye contact.

[C]

Oh, I'm in a ghillie suit, throwing it to your porch. What?

[B]

You guys, What? I'd be like, matcha unboxing in front of.

[A]

Are we getting matcha? Matcha.

[B]

What do you like the rose?

[A]

Yeah, Me and a paraglider dropping it off. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[B]

And me, like, moving in.

[A]

Yeah, yeah. She's like, all right, let's hang out.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Moving on.

[B]

Okay, okay, okay.

[A]

It's a good one. It's a good one. Nobody's overreacted yet. No, but we've had misunderstandings.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Our next post comes from the subreddit nanny. I think this is a first.

[B]

Oh, this is gonna get good.

[A]

Ooh, I'm scared.

[B]

I'm scared.

[A]

This is gonna be normal.

[B]

No, this is gonna be good. I used to be in a Facebook page of babysitters and families and stuff like that, and people would just fully post screenshots of the obscene things that families would ask. I can't wait for this. I'm ready.

[A]

Oh, God, no.

[C]

I don't nanny anymore. But I used to nanny. So you nannied as well. I nannied. It's so fun. I love to nanny. I nannied these two sisters and my favorite part was every morning I'd go help them pick out their outfits and then drive them to the school.

[B]

I used to nanny like a little baby too. And my favorite thing, like in the mornings is you would like walk into the crib and you go, good morning.

[A]

You're sobbing.

[B]

Okay, I'm now overreacting.

[C]

All right, ready?

[A]

Okay, let's do it.

[B]

Nanny.

[A]

Nanny. This was posted in October of 2025. Am I overreacting about my nanny family having sex during the day?

[C]

Okay, Nanny Fanny.

[A]

They're making more work for her.

[C]

Yeah. Which is great.

[B]

Giving you more of them. Amazing.

[C]

Creating job stability.

[B]

Hey, we're working here.

[A]

Yeah. Hi, everyone. I'm a full time nanny for a stay at home mom with an eight month old baby. The baby is honestly perfect. So sweet and happy. Naps, great. I've been with the family for about seven months now. The mom and dad are both amazing employers. They're super nice to me. The mom gets me Starbucks and acai bowls, even makes me lunch sometimes. I make $32 an hour with great benefits in a MCOL medium cost of living area. So overall, this is a dream job. Here's my only issue. I'm pretty sure the parents are having sex during the dad's lunch break. Maybe every day or every other day. They go to their room and I never see anything inappropriate, but sometimes I hear what I think might be the bed moving. It's not loud or anything, just enough to make me realize what's going on afterward. Her hair is messy, clothes changed, that kind of thing. Today I asked the mom what she was up to when she came out of the room and she didn't really say much. I kind of jokingly said, oh, were you napping? And she got a little red and awkward. That pretty much confirmed it for me. I know they're married adults and it's their house, but it still makes me a little uncomfortable since I'm there taking care of their baby. They're not being disrespectful or obvious, but it just feels weird. Would it be totally out of line to ask them not to do that while I'm working or am I overreacting and should just let it go? They really are such a great family and I don't want to make things awkward. If this is Just me being overly sensitive. What would you do?

[B]

Whoa.

[A]

Okay, so.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

To go back.

[C]

Yep.

[A]

She's saying, I think they're having sex. They go to the room. I don't hear much. I think I hear the bed moving. I think. And then when they come out, she's maybe changed clothes. It's just. Whatever. And so she's thinking this is happening, and she's uncomfortable with the thought of them having sex.

[C]

Yeah. It's almost like her own hyper vigilance has, like, brought her to, like, well, so now she can't unknow it, but

[A]

she's also, like, paying attention. Like, she's really, like, where and when they're coming out. She's like, what were you up to?

[B]

Right.

[A]

It's like, oh, were you napping? Yeah, I'm just kind of like, what?

[B]

Right, right. It's like, what do you think they would tell you?

[A]

She does not have confirmation of what's happening.

[B]

Right.

[A]

And, yeah. She's also like, they're a married couple.

[C]

They're a married adult couple.

[A]

They're shutting the door. They're going to another room every day.

[B]

I'm impressed.

[A]

Or every other day.

[C]

Good for them.

[A]

Wow.

[C]

After a baby.

[B]

2. Seriously.

[C]

I do think, like, I'm thinking about roommate life. You know what I mean? And how it's like, when you got roommates and life is happening, it's just kind of happening. And you don't. You can't really put rules on that kind of stuff. When it's like, you can, I think, since this nanny is aware that it's happening, but not so much so that it's a problem. It's just the fact that now she knows that it's her problem.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah, sure.

[C]

It's like, maybe she just needs to put some music on. And then maybe then they'll be like, wait, does she know? And then it's like this unspoken. Okay. We're aware, and maybe we need to either be a little more discreet or be more conscious of when or totally. I don't know.

[A]

And I don't necessarily falter for feeling a little weird about it.

[C]

Right. No, that's valid.

[A]

That's totally valid. But she's at a place. I'm like, don't push when they come out of the room. Don't be like, what were you doing in the hall?

[C]

I'm just picturing in the hallway. This was me.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah.

[C]

I'm gonna go all the way over here.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[C]

What were you doing? Were you napping?

[B]

Yeah. Like, actually looking for answers. And it's like the parents.

[C]

I flew up even further into the dark. Just what were you doing?

[B]

Listen. Bouncing up and down.

[A]

I think it's also we just like to jump on the bed.

[B]

Yeah. We're talking about just feng shui.

[A]

I can only assume too. I mean, I feel like in order to afford $32 an hour, this nanny's a full time nanny, has been there for months, getting paid $32 an hour. I can only assume this is a bigger house.

[C]

A full time nanny, Is she living there?

[A]

I don't think she's living there.

[B]

Yeah, she would have said live in.

[A]

I think I'm a full time nanny. I don't think she's a live in nanny, but I think she's a full time nanny. So this has gotta be a nice house.

[C]

Yeah, truly.

[A]

I'm also trying to picture. Cause I'm picturing them like, this is at least a house. I'm like, how close proximity is all of this also. Yeah, there's a few layers, but I mean, ultimately I'm just like, you're getting paid $32 an hour. There is a degree to which I would be like, yes, there is a line that can be crossed here.

[C]

Yeah, I think that's definitely just how you view it, like how you look at it. Cause it's like depending on where you stand, if you're more conservative and you're like, oh, it kind of gives. Clutching my pearls a little bit. How this is written where it's like, I don't know, maybe if I was in that situation, I'd start to go like, oh, lunch is gonna be soon. I'm gonna hang out with the baby on the other side of the house. So I don't hear it. Or it's just like, get it, girl. Good job. Good on them that their love is alive. And this baby hasn't slowed things down. Just kind of now, you know when it happens and you can just go hang out with the baby in the backyard.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. The way I think about it too. Right. Is with these nanny situations, it's so often now that we have work from home that so many parents are just staying home, but somebody is still coming to specifically take care of the child. And when that's the case, the parents are allowed to do whatever. So like if they were taking like a work meeting, you wouldn't jump in there and be like, hey, you can't be doing that right now.

[C]

Or what are you doing?

[B]

What are you doing?

[C]

Are you working?

[B]

Yeah, it's like they kind of have this ability to just like be around. You're getting paid to specifically watch the kid and the parents are free to do whatever in their own house.

[A]

Yeah, yeah yeah. They're shutting the door. She's not hearing a lot. Like how's the bed moving?

[C]

If she wants, like she could. I don't know if they got a stroller situation, like maybe she just goes for a nice little stroll.

[B]

Totally.

[C]

Yeah. It's been seven months working with them.

[A]

Yeah. And I don't know how recent it is. I'm assuming this can't have been for that long, but yeah. Let's see. So the verdict is overreacting.

[C]

Okay.

[A]

I think overwhelmingly so. Comments? You are way out of line confronting the mom boss because you suspect the married adults may have taken advantage of what they expected to be private time to do private things. Really. Op, the kids are napping instead of taking a break or focusing on cleaning up or preparing for nanny kids activities. You are being creepy. Eavesdropping, listening for bed creaks, generating a fence that they might have probably did enjoy a private, intimate mutual activity in the most private space in their private home. You're the problem. Problem? The whole problem.

[B]

When I got a new car I thought my insurance premium would increase and empty my bank account. Like if Fatuin won the lottery.

[A]

I've invested most of my winnings in chicken tenders because they're bomb. But bro, I bought a house and it's sick bro.

[C]

I'm thinking the floor is gonna be all trampoline bro.

[A]

With a helipad on the roof. The contractor said it's structurally unsound. They're just being babies.

[B]

But switching to GEICO saved me hundreds

[C]

so my bank account is safe.

[A]

It feels good to save some hard earned cash. It feels good to Geico. Someone said. Oh girl. Lmao. At $32 an hour I would just put on headphones while baby naps and mind my business. Personally, I would let it go. Maybe that's the reason you're paid so well in the first place. Let mama lay it down on him so you can make $64 an hour.

[B]

Hey.

[A]

Someone said you are overreacting. I don't think you should make comments to them about what they are doing behind closed doors. I personally feel you should not ask them not to do that. You're overstepping and making it an issue. You said they aren't loud nor making it obvious. Adults do adult things. Op said in response. But I'm working. You don't think it's disrespectful to while someone's taking care of your kids under your roof. It's making me uncomfortable. They both go into the bedroom and come out with messy hair and smiley faces. It makes me feel weird.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

I don't know what to tell them.

[C]

Blissful and happy.

[B]

Right. I think it goes back to what you were saying is like, it's how you're viewing this. If you're kind of treating it like he, he, he. Or like, ugh, oh my God, sex.

[A]

I don't know what to say. Cause I'm like, I understand if, like, if people. It's like, oh, what boundary of yours are they crossing? What are they doing to you? It's like they're not doing anything to her.

[B]

Right.

[A]

They're going to another place, they're closing the door. You're not hearing anything, and then you're upset that they're coming out with a

[B]

different Arabic with their Arab.

[A]

I'm like, that's not really a problem.

[B]

Right.

[C]

I guess I'm trying to understand her perspective and like, okay, let's. We talked about roommates. We've talked about neighbors.

[B]

Yep.

[C]

Now let's talk about the workplace, you know, and like, how you'd be weirded out if your coworker in their office was like, watching adult content.

[A]

Sure.

[C]

During the workday.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

So that would feel like if you caught them or even saw them, that you would like, report it to HR and be like, hey, this is making me uncomfortable.

[B]

So.

[C]

But it's purely that she was so, like, checking in and is.

[A]

She's really seeking it out.

[C]

Really seeking it out. And like, it's a really great job. She maybe, like. Cause I'm trying to understand, like, the parallels of like, how this could feel like sexual harassment for some reason. But it's not like. But it really feels like they need her now more than ever. Like, they are trying to maintain a household, a marriage, and like, what does she want them to be doing all day while she's working? Does she want them to also be working the whole day?

[A]

Because if she's a full time nanny, when she's done working, she leaves. They're now in charge of the kids, Right. They're probably not. This might actually be the only time where they're not worried about the kid and they get this and they're together. It is. I can't relate too much to this because I've only worked in shared workspaces like this, which is a very different beast than, like, this. You're working in a private home.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I don't know. It's a little different. And so much of this is not. I am hearing this, I am seeing this. It's. I think you guys are doing this. And I'm uncomfortable by the idea of it. And it's like, I don't know what to tell you, man, but it's like,

[C]

has she ever had roommates?

[B]

But if you're also uncomfortable, then what are you seeking from getting your answers? Why are you going to the door being like, what were you up to in there?

[A]

I know, like, you're pushing it, hearing

[B]

from them, oh, we were having sex. Would that make you more comfortable?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, what was this?

[C]

No. Cause she wants to ask them to stop at that point. And it's like, do you understand the impact you have on other people when you, like, are trying to police their lives like that?

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

No, it's so true. Like, that's probably the only time where they feel like they can have that time.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah. It's interesting.

[B]

It is.

[A]

We have an update.

[C]

Oh,

[A]

update. Thunder.

[B]

Update. Update, Update. We're being fed. Yes, we are updated. We are fed.

[A]

As we were reading this, apparently it is thundering and lightning outside.

[C]

Yeah. So cool.

[A]

I'm sad I'm not outside the power giggle.

[B]

Should we continue from outside?

[A]

Cut to us outside.

[B]

We somehow bring that whole set out there, too.

[A]

Yeah, we know. OP is going to push more.

[B]

I can't wait. I can't wait.

[A]

IPs gotta push more.

[B]

And I hope they push more to each other.

[A]

All right. That Friday morning, I told my mom boss I wanted to talk during the baby's nap.

[C]

Mom boss.

[A]

I brought up how uncomfortable I felt about what I thought was going on and mentioned how I could sometimes hear or notice things that made me think they were having sex while I was there. I told her it made me uncomfortable, and that's when everything went downhill.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

She was very direct with me. She said my only job was to take care of the baby, not to worry about what she and her husband were doing. She told me if I had downtime, I could watch TV or read a book. I told her it just seemed weird that she'd come out with messy hair or different clothes.

[B]

What is with the hair being a mess?

[C]

Messy hair. Messy, messy hair.

[B]

Like, just get her a hairbrush.

[A]

Jesus. And she explained that sometimes they do workout videos in their room. Sometimes it's sexual, sometimes cuddling, and sometimes she's just napping. She said whatever happens in her bedroom is none of my business, period. After that, things got really quiet. She Wasn't mean, but I could tell she was uncomfortable and hurt. Then she told me I could go home for the day, and I just knew that meant I was done. Later, she texted saying they were going to move in another direction, and that was it. I feel horrible. I know I crossed a boundary and I regret bringing it up so much. I missed them terribly. The money was amazing. My mom boss was so kind, and their baby was absolutely perfect. I really wish I could fix this and somehow get my job back. How do I get my job back?

[C]

Oh, how do I get my job back? Go to a different Reddit.

[B]

Enough question.

[C]

Different Reddit for that one.

[A]

This is really a case of, like, look, I do sometimes disagree with the majority on Reddit, but you went to Reddit for a response and you got an overwhelming reaction, and it sounds like you didn't take it into consideration at all.

[C]

You actually, like, doubled down.

[A]

Yeah. I'm like, what were you coming here for?

[B]

I'm so proud of the mom boss.

[C]

Yes, mom boss.

[B]

No mom boss. Actually, to send somebody who's already working the job that you're moving in another direction is so tough.

[A]

Brutal.

[B]

Because you already have this job, you're working it, and now it's like. And we're going elsewhere.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

I love that she responded, being like, sometimes we do workout videos, which I'm like, oh, that makes a lot of sense. Like, P90X would sound like that or whatever.

[B]

Totally.

[A]

But it's like. And then she's like. And sometimes we beat, and sometimes I'd

[B]

be bouncing up and down on that. How does that make you feel?

[C]

How does that make you feel? Okay, we're moving in another direction, and I just style my hair this way. This is how I like my hair.

[B]

Yeah, the hair has nothing to do with it. I tie my hair back.

[A]

That's how my hair is.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Sometimes I have a crazy nap.

[C]

That's crazy.

[A]

Yeah. And I don't think there's any coming back from that.

[B]

No.

[A]

It's so uncomfortable. Right.

[C]

You shattered a wall.

[A]

I think you guys brought it up earlier, and I think it's true that it's like, oh, if something's happening, you're like, oh, I'm a little uncomfortable by this. It's like, what's the most subtle way? Like, oh, you turn on a little bit of music some way that it's just like, oh, I know about it, but I'm not saying that I know about it.

[C]

Yeah. Or just freaking change your perspective on it. Guys, this isn't. We've heard Stories of worse things.

[A]

Oh, wow.

[C]

Where it's like, oh, there's a world where there's a couple doing crazy loud activities.

[A]

Also, I would. I would guess that 9 out of 10 times on subreddits about nannies, that the mom boss is the bad person.

[C]

Right.

[A]

This is just one of the rare occasions where I'm like, I'm not on the nanny side as much, but nannies get treated awfully so often that the

[C]

boundaries can feel rough.

[B]

Yeah, it sucks, too. Cause it sounds like she really does realize all of that now. Yeah, it sounds like after the fact, she's like, well, I shouldn't have brought it up, and I shouldn't have done this. Which is, of course, frustrating because everybody told her not to.

[A]

But she's now broken the seal where they can't have her there. Cause they're like, well, she now is thinking she's paying so much attention. She's caring about how my hair looks when I come out of the bedroom.

[C]

You should be using that energy toward the kid that we have hired you to care about.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

What does she think was gonna happen? What did she think was gonna happen? That the mom was gonna go, ugh, sorry, you're so. Okay, we won't anymore.

[A]

She reminds me of Jesse Plemon's character from Game Night. You're just like, what were you guys doing in there?

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[C]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

Just like, creating your own problems, not solving anything.

[A]

Perceiving a little too much rough update number two.

[C]

Whoa.

[A]

She's back.

[B]

She got the job again.

[A]

Let's see if she. Do we think she got the job again?

[B]

No way.

[A]

Okay. I sent a text message to my mom boss on Sunday morning, and she responded this morning saying she forgives me and that she hopes I take this as a learning experience, but they will not hire me back.

[B]

I love Mom Boss.

[C]

Mom Boss is indeed capital M, capital

[B]

B. I want to hear about Pop Boss.

[A]

She continues. I miss her so much. She said she talked to her husband about everything, and they decided to give me a month's pay until I find a new job. I honestly didn't expect that. It was really kind of them. Even after everything that happened. I miss my unicorn family so much. I was completely in the wrong, and I take full responsibility for that. I know I hurt people who trusted me, and that's something I have to live with and learn from.

[B]

Aw.

[A]

I will not be filing any sexual harassment reports. The people who were telling me to do that were not giving me good advice, and I will be keeping my distance from Them from now on. I miss my nanny baby so much. I can't believe I won't be going back. It breaks my heart because they were such a big part of my life. I keep replaying everything in my head and wondering if there's anything I could say or do to make things right. I know trust once broken is hard to fix, but I wish I could show them how much I've grown and how truly sorry I am. I'm trying to find a new job now, and honestly, everyone's been so rude. It's really been hard. I can't believe my old employers still paid me $5,200 after letting me go. That was so generous of them. I really didn't deserve it after everything that happened. To be honest, maybe part of the problem was that I was a little jealous of her.

[B]

I knew it.

[C]

I knew it.

[B]

I was about to say that, uh. Oh, I knew it. Show us pop boss.

[C]

We need to see the bosses.

[B]

I need to see the bosses. I knew it. I knew it. I knew it. Her hair is messy because. Yes, sexy, man. That's messing it up. I need it.

[C]

I feel like I don't know how old OP is, but they give this situation how the rest of the frontal lobe of their brain, they went, oh. And then she realized all of the consequences and all that they.

[A]

She had her Grinch moment, but it was with her brain.

[C]

Yeah, like, oh, my God. The consequences of my actions.

[B]

I knew it.

[C]

Jealous.

[A]

See, that's. I'm telling you, man. I do think, okay, this is gonna sound a little. I don't know if it'll sound crazy. I think Reddit can be a good place for advice, but you need. It's anonymous, so you need to be so honest about all the aspects you think are going on. If she had written that in the initial post, it would have added so much more of just like. And, yeah, I'm a little jealous of this person. It's like, all right, now we can all work together.

[B]

You just want him to not have sex with anybody.

[A]

The amount of times the update OP is like, all right, so here's actually what's going on. God damn.

[C]

Seriously, you can hear so much regret in that upcoming. I feel really bad for them. Cause they really are like. It was, I think, a really. A moment of ego and, like, totally. Yeah. That just totally clouded her. Like, I wish she could have just Dr. Strange of what could have happened and just chosen not to burp the bubble. Yeah, yeah.

[A]

And look, and here's the thing. Here's the thing I do think it shows like what this mom boss is doing is so important for people to do of like, hey man, don't. Sometimes it is important to bring the fucking hammer down on people when they cross a boundary so that they have to learn. Cause now this is huge for op. Totally. I hope OP finds a job.

[B]

Me too.

[A]

Cause it sounds like they needed a wake up call to be like, okay, I need to respect people. I need to tune in with myself a little bit more. Yes, yes, they will be a better person for this.

[B]

Yeah. And they're being accountable, which is awesome. That's just always the best case scenario is you hear somebody doing something that you're like, ugh. And then they come around. I also wanna say too, it sounds like maybe what was going on because of the jealousy thing, maybe they knew what they wanted to do, which was try to make it stop. So despite there being an overwhelming amount of comments telling them, don't do it, don't do it. They probably were weeding out the ones that were like, you're right girl.

[A]

Cause they were like, oh, I was the sexual harassment once. The verdict was so overwhelming, now they continue on they go. To be honest, maybe part of the problem was that I was a little jealous of her. She's a stay at home mom, beautiful, only 28, rich, has a gorgeous home and she and her husband are truly happy. She's such a good mom. And it just felt like she had this perfect life, her dream life. And I'm the same age. And I think that made me feel small in ways I didn't even realize at the time. I hate admitting that, but it's true. Now I just feel so lost. I miss them so much. I keep wishing I could go back and do things differently. I know I can't. But I still hope one day I can find a family even half as good as them. I don't know if I should try reaching out again down the road or just accept that it's over and move on. Part of me wants to hold onto hope, but part of me knows I need to respect their decision. Any advice on what I can do to maybe get them back? Or should I just leave it and start fresh? I'm really debating and feeling lost about what the right thing to do is. Learn from my mistakes, guys. Don't leave a good family. Let everything go. Don't let jealousy or pride get in the way of something real. Some things just aren't worth losing the people who truly care about you appreciate what you have before it's gone. Okay, so she's 28 and the mom is 28. Yeah. Not that it matters. Like, for some reason, I picture nannies. I guess I picture any age, right? But I think I was picturing OP being younger than the mom.

[B]

Me too.

[A]

For some reason I was.

[B]

Me too. Yeah. Like 16.

[A]

No, I didn't have that. But it kind of adds another layer to, like, when this 28 year old walks out of a room and another 28 year old's like, what were you doing in there? I'm just like, I thought I was picturing, like, a 22 year old and, like a 30 year old mom, and the 22 year old's just, like, young and still just, like, feeling weird about things. But now we know it's a 28 year old who's jealous of the 28 year old.

[B]

Which is precisely the reason that you should not reach back out. There are feelings associated. So even though it was a perfect situation, which, by the way, shout out to that family for being so wonderful, paying her after the fact, too, like, forgiving her, all of that stuff is just showing green flags for his family. So she is right. She did leave a perfect situation. But she should.

[A]

And I think OP is learning a lot. But I don't like that. They're like, how can I get them back? Is there any advice? I'm just like, no, this stop. But it sucks. It sucks. It is so awful when you mess up a good thing and you have to let it go. You have to go, okay, I did this. I have learned from it. I'm not the same person anymore, but I can't have that thing back.

[C]

Yeah. It's like, I don't know how long OP has been nannying, but it's like, really assessing your situation and being like, okay, how much worse could this be? And how much better could this possibly be?

[A]

I would be uncomfortable if I could, like, hear them audibly.

[B]

Yeah, well, when you brought up roommates, that's what I was thinking too, of like, you know, we've always. We've all heard, like, a roommate and their partner doing it in another room. And it's like, you're gonna hear some bumping, you're gonna hear some.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Oh, See, what she could have also done is when they come out, she could have just been like, like, nice sick dude.

[C]

Like, get it, girl.

[A]

Okay. All right.

[B]

How was it? Who came first? Yeah.

[A]

She lights cigarettes for them. You guys need these?

[B]

Yes. Cigarette towels. And they're like, where's the baby?

[C]

Where's the.

[A]

Oh, Shit.

[C]

The baby.

[B]

The baby's already lit up.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

She looks over at the dog door,

[B]

she's like, oh, yeah. She had every opportunity to make this. This funny and awesome.

[A]

You could have made this so funny.

[B]

You could have made this so funny.

[A]

No. While they're in the bedroom, she messes up her hair and changes clothes.

[C]

She's like, guys meet some.

[A]

And they come out. She goes, guys, I had some crazy sex.

[C]

Guys, Adam and Eve package came in. That's so good.

[A]

All right.

[B]

Yeah. But she it up.

[A]

Our next story comes from. Am I overreacting? This was posted in, oh, April of 2026.

[B]

Oh, that's now.

[A]

Am I overreacting for ending things with my date after he accidentally texted me this.

[C]

This screenshot?

[A]

Okay. Oh, I love this. Also, I think you're allowed to end a date for whatever reason you want.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[C]

I'm bored.

[B]

No, I'm bored. I'm so. What I was talking about with my family. I'm bored.

[A]

I'm bored. I'm bored.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

All right, all right. I, a 22 year old woman, went on a first date with this guy who's 22, I met on Hinge. The date was amazing. He's super attractive and we had great chemistry. At the end of the night, he dropped me home and we kissed.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

A bit later, after I got home, we were texting and suddenly things got weird. He sent me a pic of myself and I was confused. No. Then these texts followed. He sounded like a totally different person and I was puzzled. Here are the texts. Okay. So he sends a photo of her. No, no. Oh, no.

[B]

Yes. Oh, yes.

[A]

Oh, no.

[B]

Oh, no, oh, no. What could it be?

[C]

What could it be?

[B]

I have literally no idea.

[A]

He sends the photo of her.

[C]

I'm already crying.

[A]

And then he writes, 11 out of 10, bro. Soft skin, big titties, smells good. She's got that mommy aura. For real. Lmfao. I unarmed. Lmfao. I unironically jizzed a little when we kissed. Lol.

[B]

Oh. I mean, like a little bit. Like period

[C]

a little bit.

[B]

I'd be like, wait, 11 out of 10, big titties. Okay. But mostly that. Mostly this.

[C]

No. 11 out of 10, bro. I'm like, aw. And it's like soft skin. I'm like, aw. And big titty. It's like, ah.

[B]

No, mommy aura is ah.

[A]

She's got that mommy aura. For real.

[B]

Mommy.

[A]

Lmfao. I unironically jizzed a little when we closed.

[C]

No, no, no.

[B]

Who are you texting that to his mommy.

[A]

I think he thought. Clearly, he thought he was texting a friend, a bro. And then he sent it to her, I'm a paw. So she writes back, excuse me. And he goes, wdym. What do you mean? Question mark, question mark, question mark, question mark.

[C]

Still don't realize who you're texting?

[A]

And then he writes in all caps. Holy. I can explain this. It's not what you think it is.

[C]

No, yes, it is.

[A]

I think it's exactly.

[B]

It's exactly that.

[A]

And then he says, I must begin by offering my most sincere and profound apologies for the profoundly unfortunate and embarrassing incident that occurred earlier this evening. Through an egregious error on my part, I have inadvertently exposed you to a series of private, highly inappropriate and, frankly, juvenile remarks that were never meant for your eyes. The fault lies entirely with me, and I take full responsibility for this lapse in judgment and basic etiquette. Please allow me to express how deeply mortified and ashamed I feel at this moment. The content of those messages, while never intended to reach you, was crude, disrespectful, and objectifying in ways that no woman deserves to encounter. Particularly following what I had hoped was a pleasant evening spent in our eyes, in your company. Referring to you in such reductive and objectifying terms reflects poorly not only on my manners, but on my character as well. Furthermore, the tone and immaturity.

[C]

I'm gonna jump somewhere far.

[A]

Furthermore, the tone and immaturity displayed in those texts do not align with the respect I genuinely wish to extend toward you. The line regarding the kiss in particularly was entirely exaggerated. I did not experience was actually awful.

[C]

Unironically.

[A]

It was not my intention to make you feel objectified, sexualized, and in an unwelcome manner or disrespected in any way. Yet the reality is that my careless action has likely done exactly that, and for that, I am truly sorry. I want you to know that our date was genuinely enjoyable for me. I was excited, perhaps overly so, and allowed that excitement to manifest in the most inappropriate and childish private outlet imaginable. That does not justify it, but I hope it provides some small context for my lapse. In no way does it excuse the disrespect inherent in those words. I ask you to give me a second chance. That is all I am asking for. Chapter two.

[C]

No, no.

[A]

I'm just kidding.

[C]

Oh, my God.

[A]

I'm kidding.

[B]

Oh, my God.

[C]

What?

[A]

She continues to write now, just in the post. He immediately apologized, but I'm really frustrated and upset. I was really into him and looked forward to our next date. But now I don't want to continue anymore. I just feel like he has no respect for me whatsoever and doesn't even see me as a human being. I cried a little to my friend, and she said I'm being dramatic and that he's just really attracted and he's hot, so I shouldn't take it seriously because that's how guys talk.

[C]

Oh, not any of you guys I hang out with.

[B]

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

[A]

There is a version of that text that he sends to his friend that is fine. I think. Not this. I'm saying, like, if he'd actually sent her in, he's texting his buddy and he's like, dude, she is so hot. Sure, she's amazing. It's just the way he was talking about her.

[C]

Who was he talking to?

[A]

What's worse? Probably a friend.

[C]

Ross.

[A]

He's talking to Grok. What is worse? His initial text to his buddy or the chatgpt apology that goes on for quite literally pages?

[C]

I think it's just embarrassing, the stark difference in the language.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[C]

Who is the real you? Who is the real you? A person you're texting who is your friend who's known you a lot longer that you're talking to. Like, that or this insane paragraph that just feels like a thesaurus on wheels.

[A]

Well, and the apology, it's clearly AI cause it gives no more details. It's just running in a circle over and over again because it has no information to pull out.

[B]

If you actually wanted to give a lengthy apology, it could have been like, when we were laughing about this on our date, I remember thinking that you were the like, whatever. But instead, it's just like, my lapse in judgment actually indicated that you are upset by me.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Yes.

[C]

It's like he could be like, I'm so sorry. Like, me and my friends, like, is it an inside joke to just be outrageous? And, like, he didn't. Yeah, like, you're right. About, like, no new info at all.

[A]

Yeah, bro.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Stupid, stupid, stupid.

[C]

That was verdict. Was what verdict?

[A]

Not overreacting.

[B]

Yeah. And also the friend is the asshole in this, too, for being like, that's just how guys talk, girl.

[C]

Like, you get it.

[B]

Absolutely.

[C]

Good point.

[A]

He's hot, so let him be the worst person ever.

[C]

No, really? Because I've always said as long as I've been in the dating world, which was a brief time, but I had a while there where it's. I cared a lot about Seeing how that person acted with their friends and with other people that weren't me. Cause that's where you really learn about that person. Because it's so common for people to treat their baby different than the rest of the world, you know?

[B]

And she even described, I think, in the original post that he was texting, and it sounded nothing like him. And that's also just such a red flag of, like, he can clearly manipulate his personality to be like, oh, I'm the perfect guy. That's gonna make you think we have so much in common and all this great chemistry, but then I'm gonna go home and actually be myself around my friends. And that was revealed to her.

[C]

Yeah, right.

[A]

This is insulting her intelligence so much.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

He objectified her and then he insulted her brain as much as possible by sending that and thinking she'd fall for it.

[B]

But I understand her. Like, not. I get her kind of being like, is there any hope? Cause it's like, if it was an amazing date and the concept of, like, you know, when you're dating, you're wanting it to be working out, and this guy did work out, but now this weird situation, you're like, I definitely should stop. Right.

[A]

It sucks so much. I feel like first dates, first few dates, you really don't know the person at all because people are putting on a show. I can't imagine, too. Cause I feel like from what I've heard about the dating scene, especially the LA dating scene is like, dudes put on such an act. Right. And it sucks.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

It's like, what can you do?

[B]

Cause it doesn't take much to just be like, yeah, I love it. That too.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah, I agree.

[C]

And now knowing the switch between how he spoke and what we can maybe likely assume was a chatgpt of some kind, like all the messages leading up to the date, do we know. Does she know who she's talking to?

[A]

Yeah, I mean, it's. Looking at it reading this. It's so obviously chatgpt because it is just one massive paragraph, and it's literally broken up into paragraphs within the text. And I know people text in all sorts of different ways, but when he texted his friend, it was singular sentence text. And then his entire style changes so much.

[B]

Yeah. No, he's just, you know, he's stupid. You know, he's.

[A]

The problem is he's stupid.

[B]

I think I've got it. He's stupid because he thinks just a lengthy response is going to be a better apology than him actually just owning up to it. He, like, quickly went to ChatGPT or something and was like, I fucked up and I really need help, and it has to just include so many details and show how apologetic I am.

[A]

He went from saying mommy ora for real with an FR to writing, please allow me to express my deeply mortified and ashamed feeling at this moment.

[C]

It literally felt like we switched to Pride and Prejudice totally suddenly.

[B]

I must begin my profound apology by profoundly apologizing.

[A]

By profoundly apologizing.

[C]

Shut up. Shut up.

[B]

You're stupid.

[C]

Shut up. You're stupid.

[A]

Comments? Is that an AI generated apology? Someone said, absolutely. Went from jizzing his shorts to egregious error. Someone said, never underestimate the power of post nut clarity. Someone said, not overreacting guy here. This is not at all just how guys talk. Lol. Some guys, sure, but this is not how me or my friends have ever talked about a woman we were interested in. It is in no way a most guys thing. It's a some young assholes and dudes that never grew out of being a shitbag thing. Someone said I unironically jizzed when we kissed. As opposed to an ironic jizz. How does that work?

[B]

Yeah, Wait.

[A]

Yeah, dude, I don't think he's using unironically correct.

[C]

Yo, like, no joke. I just.

[B]

Yeah, no, no, we figured this one out already. He's stupid.

[A]

Right?

[C]

Right, right, right, right.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

All right, it's time for our final story. No, nothing more to say about that one.

[B]

Damn.

[A]

We got it.

[B]

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This last post comes from amioverreacting. Posted only a few days ago. Am I overreacting? I'm mad that my boyfriend, who's 20, wished me happy birthday. 25 minutes late, girl. Okay, 25 minutes late. Does that mean it was the next day, like midnight?

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Oh, oh, oh, you're right, you're right, you're right. Uh oh, Shane's getting sassy. Guys, if you're listening, switch to YouTube. You need to see this.

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Here we go. I 19 overreact about my birthday, and it's important to me. I keep posting about my birthday month on my private Instagram. It just has like 15 close people. And I think everyone knows my birthday is important to me, including my boyfriend. We've been dating for four to five months. He's sweet and caring. His cousins are visiting from London, so he's been busy with them. And that's okay. I don't mind it. But how much time does it take to drop a text saying Happy birthday at 12. Okay, 10 people wished me between 12am to 12:15am, including people I haven't even talked to in months. Most of my closest friends wished me a bit later by the way, and I don't mind that because they were planning something else. I wasn't even mad in the first place, so even if they hadn't planned something, I wouldn't be mad at them for not wishing me a dwelling. But me and my boyfriend can't meet on my B day because of the said cousins. He could have at least dropped a text, even that was 25 minutes late. Then he called but I declined. He called again and I didn't pick up and that's all I got for my birthday. To be fair, we do plan to meet this weekend and he asked me what I'd like as a gift and such. But even then, a birthday is a birthday. My boyfriend doesn't take his birthday very seriously by the way. He doesn't even like to celebrate and gets kind of annoyed if his friends celebrate for him. He texted me twice in the morning too, wishing me a happy birthday. But I had to get ready for my party so I didn't reply. I did call him and talk to him for a while though because my mood was better because I looked pretty.

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I gotta go. I gotta go.

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I mean girl. Sorry. That's relatable.

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No, totally.

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That's relatable. No, but I felt a little better cause I was looking really good.

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I was looking pretty surreal and I was real.

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Talk to him. That's real. But.

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Oh.

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Then all day, radio silence. He had sent one meme to me all day. I was out the entire day with my friends, but I had to get back home around 9 o' clock to 10pm to celebrate with my family. He knew that even then, no texts asking if I'm home or what I'm doing. I think he would have asked that if he wanted to talk, you know what I mean? Especially since I'd definitely be drinking at home with my family when we celebrate. So he could have dropped a text to talk before all that started. Then I was drunk, but I was home in my comfy clothes. So I was texting. In this mutual group chat we have, he could see those texts too. Then my friend called me. He wasn't there with me on my B day and we talked while I was drunk. But my boyfriend didn't even bother with a single text. He called me at 1am I had been home for 3.5 hours at this point and I answered. I was really mad and I had sobered up for the most part too. He asked why I'm upset and I just said I don't want to talk about it. Then he went to sleep. We were on a call for about 20 minutes with him just asking me why I'm upset and trying to talk. And I wasn't saying much because I didn't wanna ruin my day in the morning. Today I woke up to three reels sent to me. He did ask two to three times over text why I'm upset. But a lot of it is like buttering me up by saying I'm so pretty and all that. I don't know if I'm overreacting about this or not. Some guy friend of mine said he'd order me a cake at midnight when I said my boyfriend hasn't even wished me and that he does it for his friends too. It's not that he's doing it because he likes me, but to be honest, he does hit on me, so I didn't agree to that. I already have three cakes, so it's. It's not like I needed it. But then it makes sense too because my other friends got me a cake and flower. Yeah, she's spelling because with a bcs. But it makes sense too because my other friends got me a cake and flowers and such to surprise me. And my boyfriend couldn't even drop a single text. Am I overreacting about all this?

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Yeah.

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Broken heart emoji. He wasn't sleeping. He sleeps later than I did.

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Oh, so it's still going.

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He was up till like 3am he isn't working. He doesn't have a 9 to 5. He has generational wealth. That's it. Edit. I think there could be some cultural difference because I posted this in subs in my country and they're telling me to dump him. Lol.

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Okay.

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I think people are telling her to dump him to just save us all from the agony.

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Just save this man.

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No, save us.

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I want guys to be 19 and for this to be what's going on. You know?

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Right?

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You're in high school. Like you're still. All your memories are back there. Like it is all.

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And I know that it varies, but this 19 year old. 19 going on 13.

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I felt like I was watching an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Cordelia is just going off.

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Modern day Cordelia who can't spell.

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I like.

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That was a lot.

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Yeah. I cannot stand her. I cannot hear that.

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I cannot.

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I cannot.

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I think this is funny though.

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It's hilarious.

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It's pretty funny to read.

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It's funny in the way that, like, I want to kill you. Like, I can't believe we're hearing like.

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It's just.

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It's so angering to hear, like. And he can't even drop a single text after he called me. And there's the same breath we've gotten. And he called me twice and he texted me at this time, but then he can't even send one text. Like, nothing would have satisfied her unless it was, like, this huge grand gesture. But even then, she would have been like, but it wasn't right at midnight and it wasn't here.

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You know, we're talking a lot about her being 19. But I will also say I have heard stories from people I know about their moms going on, like, who are single, going on dates and acting the same way.

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Right.

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There's a very real possibility that 30 years from now, she is the same person.

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Yeah. Which, again, there's some merit to, like. Like, whatever is important to you can be important to you. That's totally fine. Sure. It's then putting that on other people and expecting them to know that and embrace it and just express it at the highest value. That's what feels so inappropriate. And you've been dating for. She said four to five months. That's still pretty early in a relationship to expect somebody to just show up, know exactly what they're saying. I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that she hasn't expressed how important her birthday is to this person because he's over here. Like, are you upset? Did I do something wrong? Like, is there something that you wanna talk about? And she just doesn't want to say it.

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Right.

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That's not helping anybody in this situation if you're gonna refuse to talk about your feelings, even if they are a little unreasonable. Yeah.

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Like, all the pieces were right in front of her where she's like, some people don't care about their birthdays. It's like, yeah. Yes.

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Yeah, yeah.

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She's like, but I care about mine.

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Like, yeah.

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If somebody was texting me at midnight, happy birthday, I'd be like, damn. Like, why?

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Whoa.

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Why are you obsessed with me? Why are you obsessed with me?

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I will say that's it. I think that was. I remember when I was 19, I felt like it was more common for people to do that.

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Like the midnight text. Yeah. When you're young and a lot at

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30, you're waking up at midnight.

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What the.

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Stop.

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Dude. The paragraph. She's like, some friend. Guy. Friend of mine said he'd order me a cake at midnight. And I was like, I don't even need that. I already have three. I don't even need anymore. I'm like, what is happening?

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Right?

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I'm like, I do think.

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My theory is, I think she's drunk writing this.

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She might be.

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She sounds drunk to me.

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But sometimes when you're 19 and you're just like, I remember being on Tumblr

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and just go, yeah, it's also true. She's just free writing.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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This is an exercise.

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Yeah.

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So verdict? Overreacting. You declined his calls at 12:25, didn't reply to his morning texts, and then complained about radio silence for the rest of the day. You are self sabotaging. You effectively shut down his attempts to celebrate you, and then got mad that he stopped trying to shout into a void. Someone said, you're overreacting. I wouldn't even talk to you after this. It's 12 in the morning and you need everyone to say happy birthday to you immediately and then leave. Everyone who doesn't on read. You refuse to talk to him for hours over such a minor issue. His feelings are probably hurt and you sound so entitled.

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Mm.

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So instead, you're overreacting. He didn't wish you a happy birthday late. He wished you a happy birthday 25 minutes into a 24 hour day. I sincerely hope this is rage bait and not actually how you treat your partner. Opie said, wow, this is real crying emojis.

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Wow.

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I knew people like this when I was 19.

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Right.

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And a lot of people are shaking their or like nodding their heads in here.

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Yeah.

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I think a lot of people know someone like this totally at some point

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and listen like you. Hopefully the goal is that you get that insight and are suddenly like, oh, my gosh, I've been so hollow.

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Yes. I knew people who were like this. Extremely so. Who then cut to 10 years later. You would never have guessed they were like that.

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Right.

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Like, people evolve so much.

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Totally.

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And some people don't at all.

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Absolutely.

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And some people get worse.

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Yeah. And some people go good and then

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bad and then bad. It's actually good by the time you're in your 30s. It's crazy.

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Right?

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The amount of like, fluctuation you will see.

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Totally. Humans are fallible, but we grow, we change. Yeah. Like you said, we evolve. We're gonna be in different versions. So it's like, it's easy for us to critique and be like, oh, my God, girl. But yeah, at the same time. It's like, for me, as long as I hear eventually, like a sense of responsibility or like, oh, my gosh, of course. You know what, guys? I was being entitled. For me, it's always like, great, awesome, we've moved on. You have caught up to date. Like, we're good.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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I personally have never cared about the happy birthday texts because I'm really bad at them myself, so I could never expect.

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I'm so bad at it.

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But if people. I'm like, if you're in the first hour or even by like 9:00am, I'm like, wow, that's really sweet. Especially if she did communicate that I think a 30 minute grace is valid.

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I would say 30 minute grace is valid for sure.

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In the most minimal sense.

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Okay.

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Totally, Totally.

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I would unpack that for days.

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Yeah. A lot to unpack from today.

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Yes.

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Thank you both for joining me.

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You're welcome.

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You're welcome.

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And thank you all for watching. Let us know what your reactions were to these stories in the comments down below. And we will see you next Saturday.

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Good night. Bye.

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Next Saturday.