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Summary

Smosh Reads Reddit Stories

Episode Title: Reddit Stories That Make Us Crash Out
Date: November 1, 2025
Host: Shane Topp
Guests: Courtney Miller, Ian Hecox
Theme: Am I Overreacting? (Relationships Edition)

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Episode Overview

This episode dives into a wild batch of “Am I Overreacting?” Reddit stories, all centered on relationships—whether romantic, familial, or platonic. Host Shane Topp is joined by Smosh castmates Courtney Miller and Ian Hecox for their classic mix of commentary, jokes, and empathetic takes. Each story sparks the group to decide if the Reddit poster is truly overreacting or perfectly justified, covering everything from red-flag first dates to roommate drama and a notorious “waffle stomp” incident.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Tinder Date Turns Red Flag Nightmare

[03:42–13:19]

• Story Summary: A woman recounts a date with a man who, after being refused entry to her house on the first date, sends a series of increasingly hostile, drunken texts in the middle of the night. He later apologizes and tries to make amends, blaming alcohol.
• Highlights:
  • The crew immediately spot red flags with the man’s entitlement and quick flip from charm to anger.
  • Ian: "If you show that you're this kind of mythical Jekyll-and-Hyde thing when you’re drunk, that's a red flag in and of itself." [06:30]
  • The Smosh cast agrees that women’s instinct to pull away at the first sign of anger or entitlement is not just not overreacting, but smart.
  • Courtney shares a personal story about a persistent and creepy Tinder match who was obsessed with her skin: "Didn't know I was talking to a serial killer. Ha ha." [12:13]
  • Takeaway: Overreaction? Absolutely not. Instead, trust the early red flags—entitlement and boundary-pushing are disqualifiers.

2. The Birthday Dress Debacle

[13:41–25:57]

• Story Summary: A woman’s boyfriend spends months hearing her pine for a beautiful, expensive dress, then buys it as a gift for his mom—presenting his girlfriend with a small Sephora gift card for her birthday.
• Highlights:
  • The hosts are baffled at both the bizarre decision and its thoughtlessness; they speculate on possible Oedipal undertones (“There’s no tones of Game of Thrones here” – Shane, [17:09]).
  • Some posit maybe he thought his girlfriend had good taste, but everyone agrees the real issue is a total lack of communication and care.
  • Courtney: “There’s no mistake here…he knows” [20:53]
  • Following the update, things get worse: the boyfriend admits he did it to "humble" her for being too excited over a dress and to “see her reaction.”
  • Shane: “The boyfriend doesn’t want to buy the dress as a gift, but he will spend $200 to humble her.” [23:50]
  • Takeaway: Massive red flag. Deliberately hurting a partner for fun is manipulative and cruel.

3. Waffle Stomp: The Shower Incident

[26:28–36:40]

• Story Summary: A woman confronts her girlfriend after she poops in the shower during a drunken night—and learns this is not a one-off event.
• Highlights:
  • The story takes the group from shock to horror to uncontrollable laughter.
  • Ian: "Break up, break up, break up. It's over. Send her to the dark realm." [28:50]
  • Shane explains how unusual or unsanitary habits can surface as relationships deepen: “When someone tells you who they are, believe them—even if they’re actively shitting while they say it.” [30:08]
  • The physical realities and etiquette of shower drainage, and the questionable state of the girlfriend’s feet, become a running gag.
  • Courtney: “The shower drain is not built for these decks!” [32:02]
  • Takeaway: Extreme behavior like this is a deal breaker, especially when presented with zero shame or willingness to adapt.

4. Roommate Entitlement Spiral

[37:44–48:59]

• Story Summary: A girlfriend is concerned about her boyfriend’s treatment of his older, accommodating roommate—first scolding him for tidying, then expecting him to handle all the chores due to his own workload.
• Highlights:
  • The group is alarmed by the boyfriend’s inability to communicate respectfully, and pure sense of entitlement.
  • Courtney: "This roommate owns this house... and also doing things for him. Like, that's like what—?" [44:16]
  • Shane, Ian, and Courtney all stress that seeing how someone treats others—especially those ‘below’ them in a hierarchy—is essential for relationships.
  • Shane: “He is one of the most entitled people I've ever seen.” [43:51]
  • Takeaway: How someone treats service staff, roommates, or others when they’re not motivated by self-interest is a huge and accurate reflection of character.

5. Bride Exiles the New Girlfriend

[50:12–70:09]

• Story Summary: OP is literally kicked out of a wedding breakfast she evidently was invited to, forced to drift in the rain for hours, while her boyfriend stays to eat and party with exes and friends.
• Highlights:
  • The crew is appalled by both the rudeness of the bride and the abject spinelessness of the boyfriend.
  • Shane: “That is stereotypical movie moment, like deal breaker moment where it’s like he did not stand up for you, quite literally.” [58:18]
  • An update reveals layers: the boyfriend used to date the maid of honor (who almost certainly orchestrated this “seating error”), and although he later says he’s livid, he still doesn’t meaningfully apologize or comfort OP.
  • Courtney: “That risk is too high. You gotta have each other’s back.” [71:40]
  • Takeaway: Partners who fail in moments of public humiliation and safety crises will fail in other crucial circumstances.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "If you show that you're this kind of mythical Jekyll-and-Hyde thing when you’re drunk, that’s a red flag in and of itself."
  – Ian [06:30]

• “Let me make it up to you by taking you out again. Like, no, you have not earned that yet.”
  – Courtney [06:55]

• “Didn’t know I was talking to a serial killer. Ha ha.”
  – Courtney [12:13]

• “The shower drain is not built for these decks.”
  – Courtney [32:02]

• “When someone tells you who they are, believe them—even if they’re shitting while they say it.”
  – Shane [30:08]

• ** “Break up, break up, break up. It's over. Send her to the dark realm.”**
  – Ian [28:50]

• “He is one of the most entitled people I’ve ever seen.”
  – Shane [43:51]

• “That is stereotypical movie moment, deal breaker moment where he did not stand up for you, quite literally.”
  – Shane [58:18]

• “That risk is too high. You gotta have each other’s back.”
  – Courtney [71:40]

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Tinder Date Story: 03:42–13:19
• The Birthday Dress: 13:41–25:57
• Waffle Stomp Incident: 26:28–36:40
• Roommate Entitlement: 37:44–48:59
• Wedding Rejection: 50:12–70:09

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Episode Tone

• The tone is boisterous, irreverent, but deeply empathetic. The group’s signature levity does not undercut the value of their advice, especially when confronting deeply hurtful or outright dangerous behavior revealed in the stories.

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Final Thoughts

• Across all the stories, the trio agrees: if you’re feeling a situation is “off,” not only are you not overreacting, you’re probably not reacting strongly enough.
• The behavior you tolerate often reflects what you think you deserve—but listeners deserve respect, communication, boundaries, and basic hygiene in relationships!
• Regardless of how zany the stories get, the take-home message is “React Responsibly”—with boundaries, self-respect, and a willingness to walk away from truly bad situations.

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Next Episode: Tune in next Saturday for another round of Reddit’s wildest stories, with more Smosh reactions and possibly more shower etiquette debates.

[End of Summary]

Transcript

[Courtney]

Limu Emu.

[Narrator]

And Doug, here we have the Limu Emu in its natural habitat, helping people customize their car insurance and save hundreds with Liberty Mutual. Fascinating. It's accompanied by his natural ally, Doug.

[Shane]

Limu is that guy with the binoculars watching us.

[Narrator]

Cut the camera. They see us.

[Shane]

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[Courtney]

Are you.

[Shane]

Are you playing me off? That's what's happening, right? Okay, give it a try. @mintmobile.com Switch upfront payment of $45 for three month plan. $15 per month equivalent required. New customer offer first three months only. Then full price plan options available, taxes and fees extra. See mintmobile.com hi, welcome to Smosh Reads Reddit Stories. I'm Shane and today's theme is am I overreacting? Particularly with relationships. And I have two people who are always overreacting.

[Ian]

Shut up. What do you mean?

[Shane]

Courtney and Ian are here.

[Courtney]

Hi.

[Ian]

We are very calm.

[Courtney]

We're so Zen today. So we're actually really confident we're not gonna overreact about anything.

[Ian]

Okay.

[Shane]

Okay, cool. I dig that vibe.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Nice.

[Ian]

Oh, wow.

[Shane]

All right.

[Courtney]

That was calm. That was a cal. Relaxed bird.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Ian]

For the listeners at home. I flipped Shane the bird.

[Courtney]

Very Zen like.

[Shane]

Yeah. The last time we did. Am I overreacting? Courtney, you had probably your most famous Reddit stories moment.

[Courtney]

I think that's the most I've ever crashed out on Smosh. Aside from maybe when I, like, yelled at you on among us in the pandemic.

[Ian]

I blocked that out of my memory. I try to block it out too. Oh, no, I really try. I gotta go back and watch that. Or should I not? We should not.

[Shane]

And now you are.

[Courtney]

And that's fine.

[Ian]

Now everyone is.

[Courtney]

I'm joking.

[Shane]

Judges for our 202020 content.

[Courtney]

Don't go back there.

[Shane]

Why would anyone?

[Ian]

Cash outs were allowed during the COVID lockdown.

[Courtney]

The stories you read on that episode, by the way, very warranting for crashing out.

[Shane]

Oh, yeah. We have all. I feel like we've all been on smosh for 10 years or more. We have overreacted plenty. We've also underreacted plenty. So much has happened.

[Ian]

So much.

[Shane]

Yeah. All right, well, let's get into these stories and determine if they're overreacting or not. I have a feeling there maybe not.

[Courtney]

You never know.

[Shane]

We'll see. First story, am I overreacting? Am I overreacting or should I be creeped out by my Tinder dates? Messages?

[Courtney]

Usually. Yeah.

[Shane]

Hi guys. Using a throwaway account for my own Privacy. I, a 21 year old woman, met this guy, 25 year old male, on Tinder recently and things were going pretty good between us. I thought he was funny and seemed sweet through our conversations. We talked frequently and I eventually gave him my number. He recently asked me out on our first date at some fancy restaurant and the date was going very well until he dropped me off at my house. When we got there, he basically tried to invite himself inside by saying that we could continue the date and have a few drinks inside. I was like, wtf? Because this was the first date and I don't do that type of stuff. And he was overly pushy about it, which made me uncomfortable and unsure if going on this date was a good idea. I. I eventually got him to go by saying I was feeling tired and that I had to get up early tomorrow for my morning shift, which wasn't a lie. The next morning I had woken up to these weird ass texts from him early in the morning. It genuinely creeped me out. But I don't know, he said he was drunk, but I still feel weird about the whole thing and I haven't replied back yet because I don't know what to do. Am I just overreacting or is this something to be concerned about? I have the text message.

[Ian]

Let's go.

[Courtney]

Re.

[Ian]

Okay, I need to hear this.

[Shane]

Okay. I would say already? Already? Yeah. If anybody was like, oh, yeah, we went on a date. And then like when I told him like, oh, I don't want to go inside my house, he was like pushy. He was pushing at all. If it's not just okay, I'm like, that's a huge red flag.

[Courtney]

What's going on? Yeah.

[Shane]

Right off the bat. All right, these text messages. All right, we have our text messages. What time do you think these were sent at?

[Courtney]

Oh, God, 3:00am I'm thinking like between 2 and 4.

[Shane]

3:42Am There you go.

[Ian]

Let's go.

[Shane]

Way to go. All right. At 3:42am he texts. Hey, I was thinking of you all night when I got home. We should go out again. I'm disappointed we couldn't do more during our date. Would love to spend the night with A pretty girl like you. That was at 3:45am now at 4:07am this is about 21 minutes later. 22 minutes later, he goes, now that I think about it, I'm pretty unhappy with how the night ended. 4:11am I don't know. I don't appreciate your bitchy attitude, not letting me in after such a nice night. 4:14am If I'd known you weren't gonna give me shit, I wouldn't have wasted my time with you.

[Courtney]

Oh my God.

[Shane]

So from. In the span of a half an hour, he goes from, I had such a great time. No, I didn't.

[Ian]

I had a terrible time. You didn't give me poo, Nanny.

[Courtney]

Oh my God, dude.

[Shane]

Okay, so he leaves it at that. At 4:14am 7:30am she texts him, WTF is your problem? I don't appreciate being spoken to in that way. And that was really uncalled for. If this is how you're gonna act, I don't want to continue talking. 11:21am he responds, Had to sleep some off, I guess.

[Ian]

Yeah, yeah.

[Shane]

And I'm gonna even read out the misspellings.

[Courtney]

Cause it's funny. Okay, awesome. I love that shit.

[Shane]

I think there's only one, but it's funny. Holly shit. I am so sorry for all of that. I got drunk last night and don't remember shit. Please ignore that I didn't mean a word I said and don't think of you like that at all. Fifteen minutes later. I know you are probably pretty unhappy with me, but I wanted to make things right. How about we go see that movie that you told me about so I can make things up to you?

[Courtney]

Smiley face, gnar.

[Ian]

No, I'm really surprised we didn't get a haha.

[Shane]

I know you're a ha.

[Ian]

No, don't hate me.

[Courtney]

You're so sexy. Haha.

[Shane]

Or a lol. Or male. Yeah, no, don't talk to this guy.

[Ian]

I think if you show that you're this kind of mythical Jekyll and Hyde thing when you're drunk, like, that's a red flag in and of itself.

[Shane]

It's also like, there's a red flag no matter what. Cause his excuse is, oh, after our date last night, I went and got drunk. So drunk that I. And then I got mean after I got drunk, I'd be like, hey, man, there's no way out of this one. This one's bad.

[Courtney]

Also being like, let me make it up to you by taking you out again. Like, no, you have not earned that yet. Even if she wanted to consider giving him another chance, he needs to work back that trust all over again. This isn't a relationship that they've been in a while. They are two people who met on an app. She's still getting to know you. Like, I see stuff online about these kind of. I don't know if it's divine intervention or whatever, but like, when early in a. In a dating app situation, like the first time that the guy, the dude is told like, no or oh, you cancel on a date. Like, their response is actually a very telling blessing of like, someone was like, hey, I actually had to cancel on a Tinder date last minute. And he exploded at me.

[Shane]

Right?

[Courtney]

Like, stuff like that is. It's.

[Ian]

Those are the most important moments I've even heard of. And I don't agree with this as a test, but I've heard of doing it on purpose. Yeah. Doing it like canceling last minute on purpose to see how the man reacts. And then if it's bad, then they're like, okay, crisis averted.

[Courtney]

Right.

[Ian]

And if it's good, then it's like, okay, then green flag. But also, like, that's fucked up to like, play around with somebody's time.

[Courtney]

Regardless, it's. You're being ingenuine and. Yeah. Cause I remember we talked about that.

[Shane]

That test thing. I heard about that too, and I had mixed feelings on it. Cause I'm like, I understand, like, being scared and wanting to be like, you know, sure about a person. And I'm like, I see where the test can show a green flag or red flag. But if I'm the guy in that situation and I'm about to go on a date and last second they cancel, I am probably gonna lose interest just. Cause I'm like, oh, they're not into me. Right. And it depends on the situation. And even if they explained that test, I would. Maybe. I don't know how I would feel. But I also understand the sentiment because it's like, you don't know who you're dealing with. And you don't want to end up in a situation where you're at your front porch and then they're not going away. So I understand the dilemma. I don't think there's any situation where you're overreacting. After a first date, you're allowed to just say you don't want a second date. Yeah, there's really not a situation where I would be like, you're overreacting. She also hasn't done anything besides just say, hey, that's messed up. No.

[Courtney]

Yeah, she's able to help.

[Ian]

The entitlement on this guy is crazy.

[Shane]

Yeah, she is. She's underreacting. I would go so far to say the verdict, not overreacting. Comments. Whoops. In quotations. Whoops. Sorry about that. Mask fell off for a second. He's hiding who he really is behind a nice guy act. Deep down, these drunk texts are how he really feels. After a long enough time, this is the guy you'll be dealing with, not whatever version of him you saw on the first date. And even that version of him was pushy. Run, run, run, run, run. Someone else listed out a couple bullet points here. They said, number one, drunk texting is serious impulse control. Anyway, lots of us have done it and regretted it, but this is next level after a first date. And that hostile towards someone he just met. Number two, the passive aggressive attitude. He goes from sweet guy to douche canoe at Mach 5. That's controlling male behavior right there. Guilt moves him into a position of emotional control over you. Number three, if I understand correctly, he was insistent on coming in, hooking up, whatever it was. A man that respects women doesn't push that boundary until the woman is ready. You can want a female sexually all the livelong day, but you're a goddamn adult. Keep your dick in your pants, idiot. As an older man, 57, who has made his share of mistakes and is now happily married for 15 years, in my opinion, this is not the kind of hassle you need, want, or deserve, especially after one date. Walk away, young lady. You can do better. No, you deserve better.

[Ian]

Walk away, young lady.

[Courtney]

This guy loves red eyes.

[Ian]

Walk.

[Courtney]

This person was doing Reddit for a long time. This person does this as a hobby.

[Ian]

The first Redditor.

[Shane]

I love that it became our impression of a 57 year old. He's like, hey. He's like, whoa, dude. I'm like, hold on. Last comment. Someone said run without a word. Sounds like he knows where you live. A mistake I learned a long time ago no one gets to know where I live until I've vetted them for a while.

[Ian]

No, that's fair. That's very valid.

[Courtney]

That's fairly fair. I don't know if I've told the story on camera, but we've talked about how that one guy on Tinder who, like, I'm so glad I never went on a date with because he was so pushy about going on a first date. But I had expressed very, like very explicitly from the beginning that I was only on there to talk. Wasn't gonna do anything or meet anybody for a while. Cause I was like, freshly single. He kept pushing for a date.

[Ian]

Was he the one that was obsessed with your skin?

[Courtney]

Yes. So let's go down the line first. But yeah. Where I was literally like, I'm not. And he'd be like, please, can we just go on one date and then we don't have to another one for a long time. Just one date, please. And I was like, I, no, you're overwhelming right now. Like, this is not what I want. He was like, you know what? You're right. I'm sorry. I would rather talk to you than not have you at all. And like, women are complicated. Or like, what did he say? It was like, yeah, women are so different from men. Like, women's skin is malleable and stretchy and soft, whereas men skin is tougher and whatever. And I was like, lol. Didn't know I was talking to a serial killer. Ha ha. And he was like, I'm just stating a fact.

[Shane]

That's the most serial killer response to that.

[Ian]

He's like, a fact that I verified.

[Shane]

A fact that I know.

[Courtney]

I ended up having to block him. And then apparently he found me at a bar later, but my friend who just hates men happened to push him out of her way. And so I didn't even interact. It's so wild.

[Ian]

We all need that friend.

[Courtney]

Yeah. I agree, though. Being careful taking things out from dating apps. You know, you just never know.

[Shane]

100%.

[Ian]

I think it's weird. Cause I've gone on dates where we'd find a place to eat and then they send me their address to pick them up. I'm like, you just give out your address to strangers all willy nilly.

[Shane]

Yeah, I agree.

[Courtney]

They're lucky it was you.

[Ian]

Well, I still murder them.

[Shane]

Well, I still kill them.

[Ian]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Shane]

We have a small, tiny little update.

[Courtney]

Okay.

[Shane]

I didn't end up responding to his texts and blocked him. Hopefully that's the end of things.

[Courtney]

I hope so too. Hopefully he forgets your address.

[Shane]

Maybe he was drunk already, so.

[Ian]

Yeah, that'd be the hope.

[Courtney]

Was he drunk by himself? I'm like, did he just go back out? Did he hang out with other people?

[Shane]

That's what I mean. It's a red flag no matter what. Yeah, it's not a great look.

[Ian]

No text. No text. No 3am Text is a good thing.

[Shane]

3, 42. Basically 4am Text. Drunk, alone. Yeah, weird. All right, next story. Am I overreacting? My boyfriend gave his mother the dress I wanted for my birthday. Wow.

[Courtney]

Wait, say that again. Say that one more time.

[Shane]

My boyfriend gave his mother the dress I wanted for my birthday.

[Courtney]

Oh, mommy.

[Ian]

Mamacita, Mamacita.

[Shane]

All right. I, a 23 year old woman, have been dating my boyfriend, who's 26, for the past three years. About two months ago, while we were out shopping, I saw this really gorgeous, amazing dress that was just perfect for me and in my favorite color. He looked at the dress and said it was beautiful, but it was rather expensive, $200, so he didn't end up getting it. For weeks after this, I would constantly talk about the dress to him and how I couldn't stop thinking about how beautiful it was and hope one day I could save to buy it. Since we've been budgeting a bit lately, he would hear about this dress from me all the time and talked about how great he thought it would look on me. So yesterday was my birthday and we had a little get together with some members of both our families to celebrate. Except when his mother arrived at our house, she was wearing the exact dress in the exact color. I was stunned. I thought that he must have told her about it and she went and got one. But it turns out that that wasn't the case. In my surprise, I said, oh my God, there's no way that's the same dress I was looking for and dying over for months. And she replied saying, oh really? Zayn Op's boyfriend gave it to me as a gift last month. I was shocked and confused. Even more so when my boyfriend gave me the birthday gift he got me and it was a gift card for Sephora for $50. For the rest of the night, I sat quietly in a corner in silence and confusion. I felt hurt and was lost in my head as to what was going on. My boyfriend and everyone was blissfully unaware and happy the entire night and I didn't want to ruin the mood and so I started to try to put on a good face. But I can't shake this feeling of being hurt. A part of me feels like I'm overreacting and acting spoiled and entitled. Am I just need to know if I need to calm down and not be upset about this limu game.

[Narrator]

Oo and Doug, here we have the Limu emu in its natural habitat helping people customize their car insurance and save hundreds with Liberty Mutual. Fascinating. It's accompanied by his natural ally, Doug.

[Shane]

Uh, limu is that guy with the binoculars watching us.

[Narrator]

Cut the camera. They see us.

[Shane]

Only pay for what you [e-mail] Liberty Liberty. Liberty. Liberty Savings vary underwritten by Liberty Mutual Insurance Company affiliates. Excludes Massachusetts.

[Courtney]

Okay, so what I'm hearing is what? Okay, so what I'm hearing is he buys this dress that he said would look so good on his girlfriend for his mom, and then goes to his girlfriend and goes. And. Yeah, maybe put on some makeup, toots.

[Shane]

Yeah, here's $50 of makeup. Fix your face.

[Ian]

And $50 at Sephora is like, a sample size of moisture.

[Shane]

That's like nothing.

[Courtney]

That's like one cleansing balm.

[Shane]

So what the hell?

[Courtney]

That is.

[Ian]

What in the world? That is crazy.

[Shane]

So he looked at the dress and said, it was beautiful, but it was rather expensive. She was the one who was like, this is perfect. This is perfect for me. He goes, oh, well, it's a little expensive. But then in that month, he buys it for his mom. What in the hell? And I don't even think they explained that it was for her birthday or anything. Like, his mom didn't have a birthday. He just bought it for his mom.

[Courtney]

We're all thinking the same thing, right? We're all thinking the same thing.

[Shane]

Whoa.

[Courtney]

This is a little.

[Ian]

He's just a guy that loves his mom. I don't see what the big deal is.

[Courtney]

Yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying.

[Shane]

There's no tones of Game of Thrones in here.

[Ian]

Wow. I don't even know. Like, the logic just doesn't. Logic to me.

[Shane]

No, it doesn't make any sense.

[Ian]

It doesn't make any sense.

[Shane]

She's not overreacting at all. I understand, though, why she is coming here, questioning this, because everyone in this room, everyone in that room there at the celebration was acting like this was all completely normal. They established, yeah, you wanted this dress, but he bought it for your mom instead. For his mom instead.

[Courtney]

Right.

[Shane]

And, hey, that's just how it goes. Whatever.

[Courtney]

I mean, let's entertain the fact that, okay, they've been in a relationship for three years.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Courtney]

You know, your mom and the weight that your mom would hold in your life compared to someone you've been dating that you haven't known as long as you know your mom. Like, maybe you're willing to spend more on family. You know, maybe that's where his logic was.

[Shane]

They've been together for three years. Like, three years is where I'm like, hey, that's a serious relationship.

[Ian]

I'm just like, is it head trauma? Did he think that, like, his mom. Did he think that his mom was his girlfriend? Head traumatroph got him mixed up.

[Courtney]

He was Italian.

[Ian]

I'm like, did he go back to the mall? And he's like, oh, the dress. There was a woman that said that she wanted this dress.

[Shane]

Who did I.

[Ian]

There's only two women in my life. 5050 flip a co and I guess it was my mom.

[Courtney]

Oh my God.

[Shane]

I need to know. I have so many questions. The verdict was not overreacting comments. Sounds like he did it on purpose. He probably knows you have good taste and used that to get a present for his mom. Was it a gift for something specific or just a gift out of nowhere? He had to know you'd see her wearing it. What was he thinking? Sounds like he wasn't, to be honest. Sounds like he's a mama's boy and didn't put in any effort for your gift. I'd be livid. Don't put up with this BS girl. You deserve better. If you want to talk it out with him, do that and see what he says. But I don't know, it doesn't seem worth it to me. But if you do mention how it was obvious that you wanted that dress and how hurtful it was that he gifted it to his mom and not you when he knew you loved that dress, OP responded saying, a part of me also had this thought. Was this intentional and planned? Then I thought I was being paranoid and they would never do that. But then thinking more, I then thought it had to be done on purpose. My head is in circles trying to piece it together. Someone said, babe, there is no way a 26 year old man is this oblivious. He is treating you like dirt. It's not about the dollar value of your birthday present. It's that it was just a gift card with zero thought. Then for him to know how much you've been banging on about this dress and to randomly buy it for his mother is Beyond Strange. You're 23. Just quietly end the relationship. You don't even need to cite this as the reason he and his mama will gaslight you anyway. Just say you don't feel the same and are ending it. Don't say more. Someone said I would be upset too. It's okay that he gets his mother a present more expensive than yours, but buying the thing you wanted so much for his mom and letting her wear it at your birthday? That's either stupid or really mean.

[Courtney]

Yeah, I mean, okay, the previous commenter, like, guys, it's not like you can't just go like it sounds like he's like, just flee the country and start over. You're 23. Like I so desperately want op to just ask why. Yeah, like, that's all I want. Because, yeah, OP is not crazy. They were talking about this dress constantly for months. Like, yeah, there's no mistake here. The boyfriend knows.

[Ian]

But for the Redditor, and it's classic Reddit, being like, oh, this person looked at you funny. Break up with them. I don't think it's necessarily breakup material, but it's definitely like, hey, what the fuck?

[Courtney]

We can't just ignore this.

[Ian]

We need to talk about it 100%.

[Courtney]

And see how he reacts.

[Shane]

Yeah, that's fair. I agree with that. But three years is like. And she is 23. And like, I have said this before that when you're in your early 20s, like, if enough red flags happen, I'm like, hey, like, it's okay. Like, there's no stakes involved as far as, like, you're not married, you don't have kids. Like, you have so much life ahead of you. Like, and I think that mindset should be the case no matter what your age or situation is, depending on what's going on. But especially so, I agree that I think, like, she's confused. She should talk to him and gauge how he reacts and how he respects her in his response on what she should do.

[Ian]

That was an interesting take that one Redditor had was like, maybe he just thought you had really good taste and then used that. I feel like that's an interesting take that I didn't consider. I mean, was it still right? Cause if she was like, I love that dress, I would really like that dress, then I don't know, maybe that doesn't.

[Shane]

I guess it's a red flag to me because it's so. For me, with a relationship, it's like, you communicate these things, right? It's like, oh, you love this, right? So I'm like, I would probably let you know if I'm like, oh, you love that. Could I buy that for someone else? Just say that. Cause it probably. This all could have been averted if he goes, this dress is so awesome. My mom, like, I was gonna get her a gift soon and, like, this dress would be great for her.

[Courtney]

And let's not forget the favorite color part. Which means. Sounds like that there was other colors at the store when they were looking at it. And she's. And it's perfect. It's in my favorite color, and it was the same color. I have theories on why this happened, but I need to know.

[Shane]

Yeah, well, we might find out. Cause we have an update.

[Courtney]

It's Zen.

[Shane]

It's not a huge update, but it's an update.

[Ian]

We can't overreact. We have to be Zen.

[Shane]

Okay. I finally got the nerve to straight up ask him about everything, and his response was he thought I had to be humbled a bit because I got way too overly excited about something and as trivial as a dress.

[Courtney]

Oh. Oh.

[Ian]

Kick him to the curb.

[Courtney]

Oh.

[Shane]

He thought it would be fun to see my reaction to it all.

[Courtney]

Fine. Sorry.

[Ian]

Where's Zed? Where's Zed? It's okay. Everything's fine.

[Shane]

His mother had no idea about any of this and just thought her son was giving her a gift. I am so upset and hurt that I just called my mom to come get me and will be staying with her for a few days while I figure out the next steps, but I am not going back to him.

[Courtney]

Oh, my God.

[Shane]

Wow. Mom, can you come pick me up?

[Courtney]

My boyfriend's a nightmare.

[Shane]

So the boyfriend doesn't want to buy the dress as a gift, but he will spend $200 to Humble. To humble her.

[Courtney]

Disgusting.

[Shane]

Oh, wow. That would not have been one of my guesses. Was that one of your.

[Ian]

No.

[Courtney]

I thought that the mom maybe saw him shopping for it and she was like, I'm more important than your girlfriend. Buy it for me. Like, you know, the classic, like a mama's boy situation. Yeah, like a boy, mom. Yeah. But, yeah, no, that's not. That is way worse. That's way worse.

[Ian]

That's wild. I mean, I just would never assume evil intent. And that's getting there.

[Shane]

We're seeing it a lot with stories these past few years, and I think it's just online rhetoric with dudes, with how they treat women. It's just like, well, you need to be humbled. Like, oh, you're being. You want too much. Oh, you care about a dress.

[Courtney]

Yeah.

[Shane]

I don't know.

[Ian]

God forbid a woman loves a dress. I know. What?

[Shane]

Like, what, does she need to be hungry? God forbid a woman loves a dress. Way too overly excited about something as trivial as a dress.

[Courtney]

Overly excited. I am so sorry. I'm sorry.

[Ian]

So he's deciding what she should be excited about. Cool.

[Shane]

I'm excited about this. You know what? You know what can I say?

[Courtney]

I'm sorry, guys. I'm sorry.

[Ian]

Hell yeah.

[Shane]

You know what? You know what upsets me about this is because I'm someone. I struggle sometimes with buying people gifts. Right. Cause it's not always easy. It's like, what do you get people? Right? And sometimes you get a perfect serve up where you get to hear that someone goes, oh my God, this thing. I want this thing. And you're like, fuck yeah. Now I know that you want this thing. And that happens. I feel like it happens all the time around the office where I don't know what to get someone. But then you'll hear something in passing or they'll mention something. It's like sweet, awesome. And he had that a month before her birthday. He slam dunk and he does this. I'm like, do you want to break up? Just break up. Like, oh my God, man.

[Ian]

He tried to humble her, but he wound up humbling himself. But she's gonna break up with his family.

[Shane]

He's gonna probably humble himself out of many relationships unless he changes this behavior.

[Courtney]

That is not someone who cares about you at all in any sense. If they do that.

[Shane]

No, no. And I'm so glad she immediately. Both of these people have reacted very properly in Walking Away. Truly, some people hate Joy. All right, our next story. The title is a good one.

[Courtney]

Okay.

[Shane]

Wow.

[Courtney]

Okay, so you're just gonna hold it over our head like that? You're a little too excited about this story, buddy.

[Ian]

Hey, hey, hey. Zen, Zen, Zen.

[Shane]

I'm sorry, am I overreacting? She shit with me in the shower.

[Ian]

Oh, okay. I'm gonna need some more details.

[Shane]

All right. I actually think this. I'm trying to gauge what exactly is happening here. I think some people gonna waffle.

[Courtney]

You didn't see shit in the.

[Ian]

Okay.

[Shane]

I'm like, there's many versions of this.

[Ian]

I wanna. Because I wanna. Okay, this is so interesting.

[Courtney]

Cause it could mean so many things.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Hello, longtime lurker, first time poster throw away. Cause I don't want this affiliated with my mane. I, a 22 year old woman, have been dating this girl, a 21 year old woman, for about three months and it's been great. The only red flag I've seen before this was. She was a bit messy, leaving things without putting them away, including trash. Anyway, yesterday.

[Ian]

Sorry.

[Courtney]

I'm so sorry. I'm just like, I know what's coming. I feel like. I feel like I know what's coming.

[Shane]

Anyway, yesterday we went to a karaoke club, got super wasted and she spilled her drink all over us. No big deal. We went to my apartment, we were in the shower. Nothing sexy or anything, we were too drunk for that. But I remember looking down and there was a streak on the bottom of the shower. And I asked her what it was. I shit you not. She said, oopsie, I did a poopsie.

[Ian]

Yes. Yes.

[Shane]

And pushed a ball of shit into the drain with her tongue.

[Ian]

That's what that is. Wife material right there. No, no. In the moment.

[Courtney]

She didn't even poop in her head.

[Ian]

And throw it in the toilet.

[Courtney]

She didn't even poop her head and throw it in the toilet.

[Shane]

I didn't know what to say. I kind of just stood there. This chick really just pooped and she.

[Ian]

Waffle stomped and she did.

[Courtney]

It doesn't sound like she almost stomped.

[Shane]

It sounded like she liked.

[Courtney]

Oh, no.

[Shane]

She booped the poop.

[Ian]

Booped the poop. She pooped the poop.

[Shane]

God, Eric. I told myself that she was drunk and we could talk about it tomorrow. Today. Fast forward to this morning when we woke up. I could not get what I saw yesterday out of my head. I tried to keep it light and laughed about the pooping, but I tried to keep it light and laugh about the pooping, maybe try to get it into the toilet in the future. And she goes on to explain that she just feels comfortable with me and doesn't want to hide who she is anymore. No, no, no.

[Ian]

Break up, break up, break up. It's over. It's over. Cinder to the dark realm.

[Shane]

I don't want to hide who I am anymore. The trash man. I throw trash all over the ring. I asked if she poops in the shower all the time. She does. I asked if she could refrain from doing so in my shower, and she agreed. I just feel like I can't move past this and look at her the same and kind of want to break up with her. Am I overreacting? All right, I. Okay, can we. Let's. Let's spin back real quick.

[Courtney]

Okay.

[Shane]

Because what I thought this was maybe gonna be is the more normal version.

[Courtney]

Of this where you're in the shower and then she's in the.

[Shane]

Where you're in the shower and someone comes in and they use the toilet. Right? Which I think, like, I feel like there's plenty of relationships out there where they go, that's normal. Yeah, sure. And then there's plenty of relationships where I feel like they go, no, like. But I'm like, this is. I've said this before. My view on relationships is like, it's like those day to day things that are huge, right? Where it's like how you view the bathroom, how you guys share the bathroom together. Do you shut the bathroom door? Do you leave the bathroom door open? This is all. And the way they entered this arena and she is saying, hey, this is who I am. And look, when Someone tells you who.

[Ian]

They are, believe them.

[Shane]

Believe them. Even if they're definitely. When they're shitting actively while they say it.

[Courtney]

Oh, my God.

[Shane]

Like, she has.

[Ian]

She has to know it's not normal to poop in the shower and then waffle stomp it down the drain.

[Shane]

Oh, ween.

[Ian]

She has to know. So then for her to just fling it upon her girlfriend.

[Courtney]

Don't say these words. Don't say fling.

[Ian]

Rather than maybe approach it and be like, hey, babe. So this is something that I like to do. Yeah. That's crazy. That's.

[Courtney]

By the way, the poop in your hand thrown in the toilet. It's a joke. It's something that I heard from someone and I thought it was so funny.

[Shane]

There's a famous.

[Courtney]

Repeating it to. Whenever there's an opportunity, monkeys do it.

[Shane]

There's a famous. There's a famous.

[Courtney]

Throw it in the toilet.

[Shane]

Oh, there's a very.

[Ian]

Throw it.

[Shane]

There's a very famous online clip of a guy not like that's what he was doing for all his life, and he didn't realize that wasn't normal. It's actually. So we've read a lot, and this is a thing where people. Like. Because it's not something people discuss in adulthood or just even at a certain point, people have very unique bathroom habits that were probably normalized in their family growing up.

[Courtney]

Right.

[Shane]

And then they never learned that it wasn't normal because it's not discussed for sure.

[Courtney]

And that's fine. Everybody's got their routine. But then when another person is in the shower with you, it becomes a different thing.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Ian]

I want to know, does she wash her legs? Like, is she the type to just do, like, pits and bits and air? Or does she? Does she? Yeah. And in what? And in what, like, bits.

[Shane]

Bits, Shits.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Courtney]

Here's the thing.

[Ian]

And then in which. What does she do first? Does she shit first and then wash? Cause I feel like that would be the same.

[Shane]

Yeah, that would be.

[Courtney]

We're really going into this. Huh? So, but let's assume we've got some people in the chat who do this. Let's assume.

[Shane]

I don't know if a. I know people are here.

[Courtney]

I just want to state right now, the shower drain is not built for these decks. We have to have the toilet. Let me finish my poop etiquette. The toilet is built in a sense where the material. There's things are not supposed to catch on these pipings and things, because that's a lot of bacteria that could build up the shower Drain cannot handle that. It can barely handle like piss. Or like it can handle piss. I don't know what this is, but you know what I'm saying? God, delete the piss part.

[Shane]

Not my piss.

[Ian]

Hair.

[Courtney]

It can barely handle handle hair. It can barely handle frickin conditioner sometimes. Or an exfoliant. God forbid I use an exfoliating wash. But like limu game.

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[Shane]

Uh, limu is that guy with the binoculars watching us?

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[Shane]

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[Courtney]

So just understand if you are a shower pooper. That's what's happening.

[Shane]

I'm very excited. I'm very excited to look at the comments. Cause you know we're gonna have a few comments of plumber here actually.

[Ian]

It's healthier actually show for it.

[Shane]

Pipe scientist here.

[Ian]

Actually I also like, I'm curious like was she just full standing or did she take a squat?

[Shane]

I think she was standing.

[Ian]

Yeah. That's wild.

[Shane]

This rolls down your leg sounds uncomfortable as hell.

[Courtney]

I just can't fathom like maybe she'd been doing that like in her shower probably like without him for a long time and just you would never know.

[Shane]

Yeah. And they've been paid for three months, so like three months in three months. So that means she was not shitting in the shower unless they had not showered together. But I don't know. This just seems like a brand new behavior that she is revealing to her. The comments, the verdict. Not overreacting. Fair comments. Nope. She is just a nasty, disgusting person. I don't care how comfortable people are with each other. Pooping in the shower is gross and that should never ever happen. And that she is so cavalier about it. Just too much. You can never unsee that someone replied to that saying. Right? This is just completely unacceptable. What else has she been keeping under wraps from OP That's a serious hygiene sanitary issue that can't be overlooked. Even if the girlfriend washed her feet and bleached the shower and her feet afterwards, it still wouldn't make it okay. Not to mention that OP said she's not good about picking up after herself, including trash. Chances are she is not bleaching her shower every time she poops in there. I just can't wrap My head around this not overreacting that it's common. Run. Op Run. Someone said by the title. I was thinking, girlfriend took a shit in the toilet while she was taking a shower. I'd prefer someone to wait until I was out of the bathroom, but if they couldn't hold it, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. In the shower with me. No. Just no. And then on top of that, it wasn't a drunken one off. Gross. I couldn't get past that. OP responded. You really can't. It's been replaying in my head today. I just don't find her attractive anymore.

[Courtney]

Yeah. And.

[Shane]

And she is into foot stuff.

[Ian]

What? Oh, no.

[Shane]

I put that toe in my mouth before.

[Courtney]

No, no, no, you did. You did not just say that. Shane, you did not just say that. Take it back. Take it back. Take it back. You're ranking us. You didn't say that.

[Ian]

Let's not. No, look, I was gonna say I hope she's not into feedstuff and she's into footstep, bro.

[Shane]

No, no.

[Courtney]

She's into fun stuff.

[Ian]

And we don't know if she's bleaching her feet afterwards.

[Courtney]

She's stinky.

[Shane]

That meme of the wolf ripping the shirt. She's into foot stuff.

[Courtney]

Oh, my God. She's stinky.

[Ian]

Dude, when your girlfriend is a waffle stomper and a foot person.

[Shane]

Please, that's crazy.

[Courtney]

Please, I'm begging.

[Shane]

Your girlfriend's putting a lot of boyfriends to shame right now. Yeah.

[Ian]

Damn.

[Courtney]

Holy crap.

[Ian]

I. Like, at the start of this story, I thought what it was going to be is the op shit themselves in the shower on accident, and then the girlfriend, in solidarity shit herself. I was like, oh, baby, it's okay. And I've been like, oh, that's really disgusting, but sweet, but no.

[Shane]

No.

[Ian]

There's no redeeming this person.

[Shane]

Sorry. Your girlfriend's straight out of Resident Evil.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Courtney]

No. You're gonna create a monster.

[Shane]

Yeah. Like, that's how the T virus formed.

[Courtney]

Oh, my God. That's toxic waste. That's dangerous.

[Ian]

You're putting it in your mouth.

[Shane]

Put that girl on the train wreck poop cruise.

[Courtney]

Oh, my God. Yeah. She was the one who started it all.

[Shane]

She started the poop cruise.

[Ian]

She went, this is elementary shit to me.

[Courtney]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Where I belong. I'm in my elements. How was the cruise? Amazing.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

There's one last comment. You cannot spend your life with somebody that shits on the floor and mashes it down the drain with their foot. I feel like this isn't A thing that even needs to be verbalized.

[Courtney]

Oh my God.

[Shane]

Yeah, man. That is a open and shut case.

[Ian]

That might be one of the wildest stories. I think we've.

[Shane]

It's been a minute since we've had like just egregious, like an immediate egregious behavior like that. Wow.

[Ian]

All right, so I guess she's like single now or.

[Shane]

Our next story. Am I overreacting at how my boyfriend talks to his roommate? I think it's a really good, like, that's such a good litmus test of your. When you're dating someone or even just a friend, like how they treat other people is not something that should go un ignored, but it's something that I think people ignore all the time.

[Courtney]

Yeah.

[Ian]

Especially servers.

[Shane]

Servers.

[Ian]

If you see somebody like, never say thank you to like a waiter or.

[Shane]

Something, you're like, ooh, yeah, it's a huge red flag. And then beyond that, even if they're nice to waiters and stuff, it's like how they treat your friends. How they treat their friends. Like that matters just as much as how they treat you. Yeah, I feel kind of weird about this. My boyfriend, who's 26, lives with his 31 year old roommate. 31 year old man. And has been since January of this year. It's the roommate's house. He just rents a room out to my boyfriend. I remember right when he moved in, my boyfriend didn't like that his roommate washed his dishes and went into his bathroom to get his trash. My boyfriend can be lazy, but he also works a lot. So I told him his roommate was probably just helping him out. Here's some text messages between Op's boyfriend and his roommate. So Op's boyfriend says, hey, so I don't want any issues, but can you not touch my things without my permission, please? Roommate responds, your things. Like my dishes and stuff. Oh, okay, Yeah, I won't touch your things. I was just trying to help, that's all. I apologize. Op's boyfriend says, like going into my bathroom and getting my trash. Roommate responds, I just try to collect all the trash before the garbage pickup, but I'll stay out of your things. I'm sorry, I don't go through your personal things. I just get the trash.

[Courtney]

Aw.

[Shane]

Fast forward to now where my boyfriend is working 12 hour shifts and now all of a sudden he wants help. I told him he was out of line talking to him like that, but he said it's just because he's blunt and doesn't beat around the bush. But still, there's a way to get your point across. And you should be asking a hell of a lot nicer if you want someone to wash your dish. Okay, so now I guess the boyfriend has flipped and now wants him to wash his dishes and do his shit.

[Ian]

Got you.

[Shane]

So Op's boyfriend texts his roommate saying, so when I work 12 hour shifts, I really don't want to come home to a pile of dishes in the sink.

[Courtney]

Uh, uh, uh.

[Shane]

Roommate says, what do you mean? I mean if. I mean, if the dishes sit in the sink for two days, you can wash them. I wash mine, then you can wash mine. Not trying to start shit, but I'm tired as hell when I get off. And to see the dishes just piss me off. You're at home all day. You told me not to touch your things. I'm so confused right now. Boyfriend says, is it not common sense if I haven't washed the dishes in two days that something is wrong? The roommate says, the roommate says, yeah, I guess so. Don't be mad, please. I will wash them now.

[Ian]

Oh, my God.

[Shane]

And then later he says, they are cleaned. Smiley face. I will keep them clean for you until you tell me to stop. I'm sorry. I should have been doing it anyways. I just didn't want to overstep.

[Courtney]

What?

[Ian]

This is like, my heart. This is like a conversation that I feel like somebody would have with an AI and not a real human being.

[Shane]

This part, this sounds like Jarvis.

[Courtney]

Well, he's talking to this person like it's his wife. Like, not even, like, as someone who treats their wife like shit.

[Shane]

Like a wife who should divorce him. Yeah.

[Courtney]

A bad situation, like, going like, I don't wanna. I come home from serving and bringing family food and I'm sorry.

[Shane]

Oh, man.

[Ian]

Oh, man, you've changed since this new haircut.

[Courtney]

This haircut is bringing out, like, an Italian man constantly.

[Ian]

Where I'm like, no, I'm all for it.

[Shane]

I had roommates, you know, for a year or so, and there was a lot of times where it's like, I got annoyed that people left their own dishes in the sink a long time. But, like, people would wash each other's dishes on occasion. It was like, is this like, a thing? But if someone was like, hey, man, I expect you to wash my dishes, I know that even me at 23 would have been like, fuck you, dude. No, that feels like a universal. Like, that's not my job, bro. But to be asked, don't wash my dishes. Yes, bro, you're being weird. Don't wash my Dishes.

[Ian]

But if they've been there for two days, okay, then like how could you not wash them?

[Shane]

Is it really obvious? Common sense, bro.

[Courtney]

Okay.

[Shane]

King of the universe. She continues on saying, he says I'm being sensitive about this because I said he needs to apologize. Am I overreacting? I don't know. It kind of has me looking at him differently. Also, is it just me or does it seem like his roommate is scared of him or something? The constant apologizing seems weird. I've met his roommate and he's really nice. Just shy and keeps to himself. Oh my God.

[Courtney]

Poor guy.

[Ian]

He's probably just trying to keep the peace, you know, keep the roommate situation positive. I feel bad for the guy cause he's obviously being very overly accomplished. Yeah.

[Courtney]

And he's older than Op's boyfriend, right?

[Shane]

Yeah, he's five years old.

[Courtney]

31 versus 26. Like how can you be. I know it's not like a whole you must respect your elders thing, but for you to be talking down to this person as if like it just like, what?

[Shane]

Yeah. And I'm like, you gotta figure out that's your responsibility. Your dishes, that's your responsibility. I don't care how many hours you're working.

[Courtney]

And you know, there is a human way to go about this. Yes, I can understand, like even if someone was trying to do me a solid and going into my bathroom and getting my trash, I probably would be the same of like, hey, my bathroom is my space.

[Shane]

Right.

[Courtney]

I appreciate it, but I got it. But it's like so sweet that this person does it. But then it's like, oh, Now I'm working 12 hour days. I'd be like, hey, I'm so sorry I'm doing this to you. But I actually really appreciate that you were doing that. Especially now that I'm working really hard. So the boundary I set before is no longer there. Do whatever you feel.

[Shane]

That's entirely fair. All the actions that happened could be fine if there was, if it came from a respectful place. He is one of the most entitled people I've ever seen. Hero.

[Courtney]

Well, to me it sounds like he's too insecure to say. And it feels like he's losing and losing the ground that he took by saying, I'm sorry. Nevermind. He's going, no, he has. It just gives insecurity to me.

[Shane]

This is this guy's house. He's renting a room out of this guy's house and then making all these demands from this guy.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Courtney]

This boyfriend is very lucky that people have Allowed him to treat them this way because this roommate owns this house, that he's renting this room to this guy and also doing things for him. Like, that's like what.

[Ian]

I kind of feel like it's not even. It has nothing to do with the dishes or the trash. Like, not to get like, you know, unqualified psychologist on this, but, like, it sounds like he doesn't have much control over whatever else is going on in his life and he's like, taking it out on somebody else, being like, actually, you need to do it this way. You need to do it this way. Cause it sounds like, you know, maybe he. He doesn't sound like a happy person.

[Shane]

No, he sounds awful.

[Courtney]

He does not sound like a happy person.

[Shane]

OP needs to run. That is so disrespectful like that, to treat someone that horribly.

[Courtney]

And at that familiarity, imagine, you know.

[Shane]

I'm just like, he's gonna do that to you. You have to assume he's going to do that to you unless you talk to him and he has a come to Jesus moment and he's like, oh, you're right, I'm being a horrible asshole.

[Courtney]

Which he hasn't done yet.

[Shane]

Know that that's not gonna happen. Yeah, she tried and he's clearly not.

[Ian]

She tried to.

[Shane]

She said she was telling you. I said, he needs to apologize.

[Courtney]

And he said, no, he's not.

[Shane]

He says, she's being sensitive.

[Ian]

Oh, yeah.

[Courtney]

Oh.

[Ian]

Oh, no.

[Shane]

Run the verdict. Not overreacting. Comments. If your boyfriend was my roommate, the first thing I would have told him is, I don't give a fuck if he's working 60 hours a week. He's a big boy and needs to wash his own dishes. And on that note, I do not appreciate him leaving his dirty dishes in my sink for two days if I stay home all day and do absolutely nothing. As the owner of this place, that is my right. In the future, if he wishes to continue renting my room, he needs to make sure his trash and dirty dishes are out of common areas within 24 hours or I will be speaking with him. What a fucking tool. I wonder if anyone has ever set him straight before.

[Courtney]

It doesn't sound like it.

[Shane]

OP responds. Crazy thing is that the roommate doesn't sit at home all day doing nothing. He just works from home. This whole situation just made me feel gross and look at him differently. Yeah, someone said, not overreacting. Poor roommate needs a spine because that's his mother effing house. And your boyfriend is being a complete asshole to him. Who the Fuck does he think he's talking to? Man better be glad he caught his roommate because most people would absolutely not bend to this bs. I'd shut that down so fast and he'd do his own dishes or get the fuck out of my house. Your boyfriend is 100% a bully and quite frankly, an indecisive, moody, entitled little shit. You seem lovely and I hope he doesn't treat you this way. OP responded saying, he does not treat me like this, but now I'm kind of giving him the side eye. I don't see or speak to his roommate much when I go over, but he's very soft spoken and from what I can see, clearly doesn't like confrontation. Lastly, someone said, it's not his house. He is telling the owner of the house to do the dishes he used and is justifying being leaving the dishes he used because he is tired from work after he went off on the owner of the house for keeping the place clean. Your boyfriend is an ignorant man child. And if I was the owner of the house, I'd tell him he has 30 days notice to vacate. Your boyfriend needs to grow up and learn respect and manners regardless of his shift length.

[Courtney]

Mm.

[Shane]

Yeah. That like, that type of behavior. If I saw it from my friends, I'd have to be like, you cannot talk to someone.

[Courtney]

Yeah.

[Shane]

And for them to be like, ah, it's fine. You're a very active person.

[Ian]

Who are you?

[Courtney]

Like, you're being. You have like. Just.

[Shane]

No.

[Courtney]

Just. No. There's no. And I. If I was in OP's shoes, I would go so far as to, like, talk to the roommate. I'd be like, hey, I'm probably not gonna stick around with this guy. And I just want you to know that you do not need to get talked to that way. And, like, I wouldn't be mad at you if you kicked him out or whatever.

[Shane]

Cause to not apologize, to not be like, you're right. Sorry. I was working 12 hours. I was exhausted. I've been bad, like, all these things. He could remedy it by apologizing and being like, I'm wrong, but he's not doing that right. And it's like, all right, man, you've sealed your fate.

[Courtney]

Yeah.

[Ian]

Wow. I feel like those people, they need like a real big wake up call.

[Courtney]

Ego check.

[Ian]

Yeah, Like a wake up call. So, I mean, maybe this will be it. You know, the girlfriend will break up with him. He'll get kicked out of this house.

[Shane]

Yeah. Maybe he'll change hopefully.

[Courtney]

Yeah. Cause it's not like that behavior is gonna just fade away. Like he lives there. She's gonna keep seeing that.

[Ian]

Yeah, well, and he's been like, positively reinforced by being this way. He's still getting the things that he wants.

[Shane]

Right.

[Ian]

So I feel like that's a reinforcement of his behavior.

[Shane]

It's true. Our behavior gets reinforced too. I mean, you get away with shit. And like people who get away with shit keep doing it because they keep getting away with it.

[Courtney]

It's ugly.

[Shane]

It's really ugly. I mean, look, I've said it many times that I think the ultimate punishment for people like this is unless people confront them and they take it in, what always ends up happening, I feel like for these types of people like this guy, is they find themselves later in life with absolutely nobody close to.

[Courtney]

Them and they'll never understand why.

[Shane]

They'll have people they control for brief periods of time, but they're never gonna have a real genuine connection with people because they push everyone away.

[Courtney]

And hopefully that changes. And hopefully that doesn't happen.

[Shane]

But that is the path.

[Courtney]

The current path.

[Shane]

Yeah. Call it karma, but I mean, it's also just like the consequences and the reality of the situation.

[Courtney]

Yeah.

[Ian]

Repercussions. Yeah. People don't want to deal with that shit. Yeah. They don't have to.

[Courtney]

Yeah. And if you're the 31 year old roommate, you are a kind, beautiful soul.

[Shane]

Yeah, dude, I hope that 31 year old roommate listens to this show because, dude, do not tolerate that.

[Courtney]

No, you're a very nice person. And yeah, if I was the roommate, I also would be like, stay out of my bathroom. But thanks for doing my dishes. You're so nice. I will definitely take on the trash market or something. You're so nice.

[Ian]

Let us know if you need a new roommate. Courtney's ready to move in. Yeah.

[Shane]

All right.

[Courtney]

This is so nice.

[Shane]

Wow, he seems really cool. All right, Our next story comes from the subreddit relationships. And it's an older one, a nine year old story. Ooh, classic. Yeah. I, a 24 year old woman, was just uninvited from a wedding that had already started. Am I overreacting?

[Ian]

Whoa.

[Shane]

So she was kicked out of a wedding. I was just uninvited from a wedding that had already started.

[Courtney]

Okay.

[Shane]

That is being kicked out of the wedding. Yeah.

[Ian]

Okay.

[Shane]

Today my partner, who's a 24 year old man, let's call him Eric, and I, 24 year old woman, were invited to the wedding of one of his oldest friends from school. We received our save the date months ago and the Invite was addressed to Eric and Vicky. Our invite stated we were invited for the whole shebang, the service, the breakfast and the evening reception. Our RSVP required both of our dietary requirements for the breakfast, which we replied to ages ago. I thought this was pretty awesome and generous of the bride and groom and as I had never met either of them and Eric was only close with the bride, so it was a very nice gesture. The wedding is a few hours away from where we live and since neither of us drive, I booked train tickets in advance which came to about £60 each return and an Airbnb which worked out at £90 between us. We don't earn a lot, so this is quite a big spend to justify. However, since they had invited us to the whole wedding, we thought it would be rude not to go. The bride also specified colors we should wear, so I bought a new outfit since I didn't have anything formal that would be suitable. Not the end of the world. But with Christmas coming up, it was a bit difficult and I had to be really frugal all through November to make it work. Total spend was probably double what I would spend monthly on fun stuff like going out for dinner or drinks or new clothes. We got to the service and it was beautiful. The bride looked lovely and it was very emotional. I get nervous at weddings, couldn't say why and so I hadn't eaten beforehand, figuring the four course breakfast would fill me up nicely. After the ceremony, we went straight into the venue to have drinks and sit down at tables. We were towards the back of the line into the venue and so half the congregation had already sat down. We glanced at the seating plan, saw Eric's name and headed over. There was no place setting for me. Eric found his name, but there weren't any free seats at the table. Eric sat down and I asked an usher whether there was a mistake. He didn't know, so he waved over the bride. She and I had never met before, but she seemed friendly until she opened her mouth. Oh no, you're not part of the breakfast. The invitation was just for the reception and service. You're welcome to come back later. This was in front of most of the guests who had already sat down in a big venue, probably 140ish seats. The usher suggested I go to the pub. Eric didn't know what to do but didn't want to cause a scene, so he stayed put and stayed quiet. I quite literally have never felt so embarrassed and humiliated in my life. I left and it was raining heavily. I hadn't brought an umbrella. Since it was an indoor wedding, being in a rural place, I had to walk about 20 minutes to get anywhere else. The usher had suggested a pub where the other guests are, so I just kept walking. But my shoes were literally ruined and soaked through. As well as being pretty damn cold because it's December and I was dressed for a wedding. I got to the pub to find a handful of merrymakers drinking heavily at 2pm in wedding clothes. Introduced myself kind of awkwardly as they were total strangers and they were luckily very nice. They invited me to sit with them and tell them about the service. All of them had only been invited to the reception. I asked one of them if I could see their invite and it was crystal clear that they were evening guests. There was no mention of the service or the breakfast, nor their dietary requirements. I apparently was the only person who was invited and then uninvited to the whole dog. I sat with them and had some food because I was starving, but they all started leaving to get ready at about 4pm Being a total stranger, I didn't think it was best to ask to come with them. But I had never been to this town before and besides Eric, I didn't know anybody. Since being ejected at 1:30pm Ish, I was expected to just hang until 7:30pm when the reception started, so I left. I felt so unwelcome and unwanted that I just wanted to go home. The evening events will start in about half an hour without me, but I just can't bring myself to attend knowing that half the guests watched me being asked to leave by the bride herself. I traded in my train ticket which was a return for tomorrow, and now I'm traveling back alone. I texted Eric to tell him, but he didn't respond. I've been holding back tears since I was ejected six hours ago and I feel completely torn. I don't understand what happened with the invite, whether it was a mistake or whether I was just supposed to know that it was only for Eric. Despite being addressed to both of us, despite asking for both of our dietary restrictions, despite explicitly stating we were invited to the whole wedding, part of me feels like I should have gone to the evening reception too. But I'm soaked through, my hair and makeup look awful, my shoes are unwearable, I am barefoot on a really gross floor right now and I'm freezing. I look like a mess and I feel so stupid. Did I mess up here? I feel like I've just been totally fucked over and I'm really upset that Eric didn't stand up for me or say anything or leave the breakfast with me. Although I think that's less because of malice and more that he's just a bit hopeless when put on the spot. I've never heard of a wedding where you invite a plus one by name, but then they aren't invited to as much of the wedding as the other half of the couple. Nobody else at the wedding had this happen. I don't see how it can be personal since I've never met any of them before. I'm really upset and can't wrap my head around how weird today has been. If this happened to you, what would you do?

[Courtney]

Oh, that's so sad.

[Shane]

That's so sad. My God, why did you guys get.

[Ian]

Such a sad story?

[Shane]

This one sounds like a goodness. Sounds like a movie.

[Ian]

Yeah, it's just like, I wish that you would have just done it in a British accent the whole time.

[Shane]

There were parts when it's like, when they're talking where I thought about it, where it's like when the bride's like, oh, no, you're not part of the breakfast. The invitation was just for the reception and service. You're welcome to come back later.

[Ian]

Trot on down to the pub.

[Shane]

Trot on down to that pub right over there. Have a good walk over there. Don't worry about it. Terrible. I'm gonna get roasted. That's why I didn't do it.

[Ian]

Also.

[Shane]

Okay. So many parts of this. Yeah, I will say I have never heard of. Like, I guess it's probably. I know this is probably more normal than I realize, but like having multi layers to the wedding and people being invited to like certain aspects of the wedding.

[Courtney]

Yeah, I mean, I get that. Cause like, you know, not everyone's invited to the rehearsal dinner. And like, I think we break it up a bit more in the US of like the rehearsal dinner the day before.

[Shane]

A breakfast. A breakfast ceremony, reception. Okay, it's interesting, but 140 people at the breakfast. So this was ceremony, then breakfast, then reception that night. So she went to the ceremony, but then was not allowed at the breakfast. That puts her in such an awkward position.

[Ian]

Yeah, especially.

[Shane]

Cause they're out in the countryside.

[Ian]

It seems like a massive, like clerical error. And I'm just upset that like they couldn't, you know, do something. Yeah. Such interesting pull in a fucking chair for.

[Shane]

That's kind of what I'm thinking. It's like. Yeah.

[Courtney]

So interesting that that happened to her and. Must have been an accident.

[Ian]

Right?

[Shane]

Must have been an accident.

[Courtney]

I think first of All.

[Shane]

No, it feels malicious and I feel.

[Courtney]

Really bad that the boyfriend didn't stay. Like, it's the breakfast, dude. I don't know the culture of what the breakfast is in this place, but I would have. I would feel like so bummed.

[Shane]

No, stay. Yeah. What the hell are you doing?

[Courtney]

It's raining.

[Shane]

Not only that, not only the tree side alone. There's the respect aspect of. Oh, wow, you weren't invited. That sucks. This all made it seem like you were invited and now you're telling her to her face she by herself needs to leave. There's the respect aspect of why he needs to stand up. There is also the safety aspect of. Yeah, walk in the rain in the countryside for 20 minutes to a pub.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

That's how Werewolf in London happened.

[Ian]

All right.

[Shane]

You know, I know I've been saying it for all these stories, but I'm just like. That is like, like that is stereotypical movie moment, like deal breaker moment where it's like he did not stand up for you, quite literally.

[Ian]

Maybe the bride and groom were setting him up with a new lady.

[Shane]

You know, I'd believe anything at the zoo.

[Courtney]

I think my theory is that the bride has some sort of feelings about the girlfriend. Like, because must be.

[Ian]

But she doesn't even know her.

[Courtney]

Exactly. But that doesn't matter.

[Shane]

But they don't like the idea of her friend that.

[Courtney]

That this bride has known this guy for a long time. What if there's a history? What if there's feelings there? What if there's just some resentment? What if there's something that caused her that where she. Because notice how when OP writes, she looked so friendly, she seemed so kind until she opened her mouth. What is that?

[Shane]

I know. Well, it's cause she. Yeah, it's cause she just was like, oh, no, you're not part of the breakfast. I wonder how she said that.

[Courtney]

Like, what if she's just like waiting for this moment? I'm so nasty.

[Shane]

You're not part of the breakfast.

[Courtney]

Obviously. It's a Reddit story. Take everything with a grain of salt. But like, I got my conspiracies over there.

[Shane]

Oh, no, you're not possible.

[Courtney]

Darling, you thought you could come to your breakfast?

[Shane]

Oh, darling, it's so sweet.

[Ian]

Oh, no, babe, it's the mother in Fleabag. Yeah.

[Shane]

This feels like a scene from Fleabag.

[Courtney]

Yeah. The stepmom.

[Shane]

Yeah. All right, not overreacting. The verdict comments. This is the tackiest thing I've ever heard. There's a chance that there was a mix up or oversight with the invitation. But in that case, the bride should have taken you and Eric aside to apologize and see what could be done to fix it. But the way it was handled was completely unacceptable. I'm so, so sorry for you. Also, despite your boyfriend being put on the spot. It's been hours now, right? He should have leapt into action by now. Dude, if I like, I wouldn't want to stay. Okay? Despite all the respect, the safety. That's an awkward ass situation. Then to just be like, all right, my partner's gonna leave and I'll just sit here.

[Courtney]

Yeah, I'm weird when you go to.

[Shane]

The bathroom, I'd be like, I want to get the fuck out of here too. This is awkward as hell. Someone said, that is incredibly rude. And even worse, your boyfriend didn't leave with you. I would find his behavior to be a massive deal breaker for myself, personally. Lastly, someone said, wtf, Eric? What a dumbass. He stayed and let you leave alone. Oh, my God.

[Courtney]

Mm.

[Shane]

Eric.

[Ian]

Eric.

[Shane]

Eric. Eric.

[Ian]

Eric. Eric.

[Shane]

What are you doing over there? Eric. Leaving your what? Leaving your lass in the countryside.

[Ian]

Eric.

[Courtney]

Eric, I'm sorry.

[Shane]

Oh, fuck you. Eric.

[Courtney]

No, I'm sorry, Eric.

[Shane]

Sorry.

[Courtney]

Eric. I'm sorry.

[Shane]

I am. Asshole.

[Ian]

You're being an arsehole.

[Narrator]

Oh.

[Shane]

I'm also sorry to all of our.

[Ian]

Fans.

[Courtney]

For the battle.

[Shane]

Acts from the UK and England everywhere. Oh, no. Sorry. They're watching this.

[Ian]

Just like, what are you gonna do about it?

[Courtney]

Punch me through the screen Call your.

[Shane]

Punch me through the telly?

[Ian]

Yeah, I'd like to see you try.

[Shane]

Update.

[Courtney]

Oh, yeah.

[Ian]

Oh, yeah.

[Courtney]

I hope my conspiracy comes to light. Sorry. Okay, I'm done. I'm done.

[Shane]

All right, so this blew up way more than I expected. Thank you, everyone, for your words of support. It's really helped. And I've gone from a wobbly, wet mess to a cackling harpy with my big glass of wine.

[Courtney]

Hell yeah, queen.

[Shane]

You guys don't hold back on your opinions, and I kind of love it. It's nearly bedtime here. Eric stayed at the party and presumably is still there. I came home and felt a lot better for knowing how shitty of a situation this was. Karma's a bitch, and when they go low, we go high. So I'm going to go to bed and sleep on it and think about next steps in the morning. A lot of people think I should dump Eric, whereas that had never crossed my mind. I was mostly pissed off with the bride and the maid of honor, who may have been involved too. I don't know. Eric will be coming home sometime tomorrow and we're going to talk. I want to hear his piece because he's been drinking since lunchtime. He might just be a dum dum rather than a full blown asshole. Either way, no wind up sudden decisions right now. I will try to come back and update as when anything else happens. Thanks everyone but we do not have any more updates.

[Courtney]

What? Why?

[Ian]

That's a lie. That's a lie.

[Courtney]

A nine year old Reddit story?

[Shane]

Then it must have ended there. That makes you feel like it didn't end well.

[Ian]

No.

[Shane]

Or maybe it went fine.

[Ian]

No.

[Courtney]

This story is not over. Oh Captain, my cat.

[Ian]

We can make something up.

[Shane]

Oh Captain, my Cassie.

[Courtney]

Wait, there's an update.

[Ian]

Oh.

[Shane]

Oh, there is an update.

[Courtney]

Oh my God. I almost quit.

[Shane]

Okay, we have found a second update.

[Courtney]

Yes.

[Ian]

Yes.

[Courtney]

See when you stand on it, you get it. There is. The story's on.

[Shane]

Bailey has gone back into the archives.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

And she has found the second update.

[Ian]

The Ancient texts.

[Shane]

The ancient texts. All right. I hadn't expected the big reaction to my first post and just want to say thank you to everyone who gave advice and was supportive. I was feeling super shitty when I initially posted and after an hour of drinking wine and reading your comments, I felt a lot more sane and calm. I wanted to clarify a few things that people were confused about or that weren't clear in my first post. I'm in the UK and our weddings are different to the way weddings are held in the us. Traditionally there is a ceremony, the wedding breakfast, which is a sit down, three course meal. Although it's called breakfast, it is usually in the afternoon.

[Courtney]

Yummy, yummy yummy.

[Shane]

Followed by speeches and then an evening reception which is like a disco. It's not uncommon for people to invite only relatives and close friends to the ceremony and breakfast, then invite lots of evening guests for the reception. However, it is uncommon to invite somebody to the ceremony and reception, but not the breakfast as they are kind of left to entertain themselves somewhere for six hours. Having talked to friends and coworkers since last weekend, what happened to me was a serious no no in terms of etiquette, me and Eric have been together for nearly a year and a half. We live together and we have a pretty strong relationship. He had no past romantic connections with the bride. I'll call her Marie, which some people were asking about. They went to school together from the age of 4 to 10 and remained in touch as pen pals, Facebook friends. Since then, they rarely see each other in person and the wedding was the first time he Would see her in about two years. There was zero phone signal at the venue. We noticed this when we arrived for the ceremony and were a little annoyed as the wedding had a hashtag which we couldn't exactly tweet about with no signal. This is important. Later.

[Ian]

It's the most nine year old post. Yeah, that's 2000. They're using hashtags at their wedding.

[Shane]

Hashtag Twitter. We didn't know this until we arrived at the wedding, but the maid of honor, Helen, was Eric's ex girlfriend. Yes, there it is. Huge detail.

[Ian]

Ding da bing ding ding.

[Shane]

They were together for three years and she cheated on him and dumped him. They have a lot of bad blood and do not have any contact with each other. All right, okay. So onto the update. I feel like the Scooby gang ripping off the mask, being like Helen, Helen. After leaving the ceremony, I got straight on the train and went back to my hometown. I was on the train when I wrote my first post. When I got home, I told my parents everything and they weren't particularly impressed. And like most of the posters here, they were perplexed that Eric hadn't come with me. My mom gave me a big hug, ran me a bath and poured me a glass of wine and I just tried to relax and forget about my day from hell. I still hadn't heard from Eric, but texted him to let him know I was home safe and would see him tomorrow. Eric texted me back at about 9pm asking me what I meant by home, home or the Airbnb that we had booked nearby to the venue. I clarified and he said okay, I'll see you tomorrow. Love you so much. X no, didn't really know what to make of it since the whole day had just been a massive fuck up. So I finished my wine, watched a Disney movie and went to bed. The next morning, Given watched Disney movie? Yeah, what do you want?

[Ian]

She's leaving out important details.

[Courtney]

Come on, give it to us.

[Shane]

I watched this brand new movie, Moana the next morning. Given I still hadn't really heard from Eric at all, I assumed he would be getting in at about midday. So I got up early and started wrapping Christmas presents. At 8am I heard a key in the door and what do you know, it's Eric. Still in his creased suit with red eyes and looking like death. He wasn't really making sense, so I made him have a shower and warm up, made coffee and decided to talk. Once he was looking human again, we sat down together and pieced together his side of the story. Basically, once I had left, Eric was absolutely livid with Marie. He had frozen like a deer in headlights when she was asking me to go and was kicking himself that he hadn't done the right thing. About 10 minutes after I left, Marie turned around and said, oh, actually, a few people haven't turned up. Get Vicki to come back. We have space for her now. And Eric had tried to call me because there was no phone signal anywhere near the venue. He couldn't get through and Marie pretty much immediately said, oh well, never mind, she didn't want to be here anyway. Which obviously was a pile of crap and made Eric feel rubbish. The meal was very formal, sit down affair, so he just kind of grinned and bared it, assuming I would be coming back in the evening. Eric was the only person mentioned in the speeches by Marie's father who wasn't a family member. And apparently it was clear to everyone how disappointed he was that I wasn't there to share it with him. When I texted him at about 6pm to let him know I was going home, he never received it. He was only able to text me at 9pm by hiking down the road for five minutes to find a signal. All the while, his ex Helen was being sickly sweet asking where I was, why didn't I want to come and enjoy the party. Was I shy? Apparently, with quite the evil glint in her eye, like she had got exactly what she'd wanted. Neither of us knew she was the maid of honor until we got there. And given their bad relationship, Eric was pretty pissed off that Marie had failed to mention she was such a prominent role in the wedding. Whether Helen was behind the seating error, I don't know, but if she was, then Marie was just as bad in enabling it to happen. So Eric stayed at the wedding miserably and went back to the Airbnb afterwards. Alone. He barely slept, feeling angry at Marie and Helen for fucking with us and at himself for not sticking up for me, and left at about 4:30am to get the first train home. Hence why he was back at our place so early. He wasn't really apologetic to me at all. He didn't really seem to see how it was shitty for me. He more felt like he had been insulted by the situation and let down by his oldest friend. He is cutting off Marie and doesn't want anything else to do with her. So yeah, that was Eric's take on the whole thing. To be honest, I was pretty pissed that in all of this he hasn't really considered how I felt or what it had been like for me getting thrown out of the wedding. While what he had gone through was pretty crummy, he at least had been warm, dry, and well fed. The indignation of your girlfriend being removed from an event you're at isn't really as bad as being the girlfriend getting soaked in the rain, feeling humiliated and all the rest. So we talked and I laid out why I wasn't okay with what had happened and why his reaction wasn't okay. He can be a bit of a lemon sometimes, and this feels like one of those times. A bit of a lemon. A bit of a lemon.

[Courtney]

I knew you were gonna do that.

[Shane]

He didn't step up to the plate. He just let the world wash over him and acted as a bystander. I'm still hurt by his actions, and he still hasn't really apologized properly. I don't know if he understands that he did wrong too, but this isn't a deal breaker for me. It's a heavy straw on the camel's back, but the camel is still standing. We have a really lovely Christmas coming up. And after a really long autumn of working hard, all I want is to go back to the happy place we were before this fuck up. And honestly, I don't want to think about it. So I know a lot of you guys are going to drag me over hot coals for this one, but we're still together. I'm not going to break up with him over this, but it's a big, dark mark on his record. But I want to give him another chance to prove this relationship is worth it.

[Courtney]

Wow, that is so nasty to do that. That is so freaking nasty to someone that you had a bad relationship with or whatever. This person, the maid of honor, cheated on Eric and then dumped his ass and then for some reason still wants to continue to ruin his life for fun people after years not seeing them, like, is so nasty.

[Shane]

What? I don't know. I'm still pissed at Eric because it's like, oh, I tried to call you and I couldn't reach you. It's like, brother, just run down the street.

[Ian]

Run down the road.

[Courtney]

Waited till 9pm to try that. Or like, yeah, like, it's never too late. Dude, it's raining outside.

[Ian]

Eric sounds like a real knob.

[Shane]

Because here's the thing. He didn't get her.

[Ian]

A total numpty.

[Shane]

No, he.

[Courtney]

He didn't get it till 9pm when he walked down the hill away from the venue.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

And it's like, okay, so that means that you waited. You watch your Partner leave in the rain and walk down the countryside. And then the celebration starts and she doesn't show up for the first hour and a half. And you're like, you don't. You wait an hour and a half, right? She's been gone all day, dude. She could have died, right?

[Courtney]

You never know.

[Ian]

They hadn't talked or seen each other for like, what, at that point, six hours, eight hours?

[Shane]

Like, bro, they're in a random town.

[Courtney]

Holy shit. She was sent to a random pub by herself. Like, it's sad to hear her say in the first post, like, oh, yeah, he can kind of be hopeless in situations like that.

[Ian]

Like a lemon.

[Courtney]

That's really like, that risk is too high.

[Shane]

Yeah, man.

[Ian]

It's this weird behavior of being like. He was told, oh, actually there's an open seat. Why didn't bro just like get up and run down the road to get her?

[Shane]

I understand that there's a lot of situations where your initial reaction, you don't know what to do. He had hours upon hours upon hours. And there was also the in between the breakfast and the party. And he didn't even try to go see her. I'm like, what are you. Come on, man. Like, I don't know. I'm trying to, like, there's an aspect of me trying to figure out what is going on in Eric's mind of like, he froze up. I do that too sometimes where you freeze up, you don't know what to do. But. But at the very least, now she's gonna tell him, you cannot do that again. Like, I need you to stand up for me. I need you to like be there with me. And if this happens again, it's like, then that should be the deal breaker for her. Cause it's like, I get it, he's hopeless in those situations. But you're not gonna be safe. She's not gonna be safe. Like, there's so many situations where it's established he does not have her back, right?

[Courtney]

And that's important for scary situations. It's also just important to build a strong foundation as partners. Is you gotta have each other's back. You got. And this, like. I think there's two things I wanna address. First. It's like this. I know weddings can add a weight to situations. Especially when it's like a long time friend, the family knows you or whatever. Like those that can add gravity to make him unsure how to make a decision as well. So I can understand that, but only so much. And then did she say that he came home in his suit.

[Shane]

Yeah, he didn't change. Yeah, didn't change.

[Courtney]

He went back to the Airbnb.

[Shane]

He went to the Airbnb, had a.

[Courtney]

Hard time sleeping, basically.

[Shane]

Didn't sleep. And then took the first train back home. Cause since he sleep.

[Courtney]

But he never got out of his suit. Not one moment.

[Ian]

Probably drunk as hell out of his suit. I mean, you're drinking for like, what, 10 hours at that point?

[Shane]

I don't know. It also leaves you in this. I. If I'm her. I'm now in this situation too. Of like, what happened, man? Like, I don't know. That just. It's sketchy. It's like. It sounds like a real belly.

[Courtney]

I wonder what this hashtag had on social media, if there was any crazy photos.

[Shane]

I don't know. But it's just. It's hard. I think it's hard to get past those types of things. Like, no, that's.

[Ian]

It just doesn't.

[Shane]

And to top it all off, he tells her his whole side of the story and at no point seems to consider.

[Courtney]

Yeah, that.

[Shane]

That is what I think. Caps it all off. That's what teeters over the edge of. If he had gotten home and been like, I'm so sorry. I froze up. I didn't know what to do all day. I was struggling and I felt so bad for you, and you got so wrong. But he gets home and goes, I can't believe that happened to me.

[Ian]

It's like.

[Shane]

That should be the like. All right, I don't need to figure out your side of the story here. Okay. So that was nine years ago. Based on our producer's research in the past few minutes, the context clues shows they're not together anymore, which could have been.

[Courtney]

What?

[Shane]

Could have been for any reason. What? And it could have. I don't know. We don't know the story. It's been almost 10 years.

[Ian]

But it's indicative of, like, that behavior is indicative of something that was probably a bigger issue in the.

[Courtney]

Is a microcosm of more serious things.

[Ian]

What is that from?

[Courtney]

That's from a viral video that means Shane Code all the time. The Replenish video. Have you ever seen the Replenish? It's a very funny video.

[Shane]

Well, because of all those updates. That's our final story.

[Courtney]

Thank you.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Courtney]

Thank you for allowing the update to happen.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Courtney]

And when you fight for something, you can. Sometimes you can get it. But be nice. Be nice.

[Shane]

Be respectful, Be nice.

[Courtney]

I derailed the episode a little bit, but we got our update.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Call your representatives.

[Courtney]

Call your representatives.

[Ian]

Dude, what a. This was a wild episode.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Ian]

I mean, waffle stomping.

[Shane]

It had it all betrayed.

[Courtney]

Waffle stomping. Stomping in the rain. Stomping.

[Shane]

All of them should break up.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Yeah. They should all be.

[Ian]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Them should break up.

[Ian]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Shane]

Well, yeah, that was.

[Courtney]

I feel like we underreacted this whole time.

[Ian]

Hey, way to go.

[Courtney]

We were so zen.

[Ian]

Yeah, I think we were quite zen. Except for the time that we ran around.

[Courtney]

Except for the time we weren't.

[Shane]

Held it together. Yeah.

[Ian]

Thank you.

[Shane]

Thank you both for being here.

[Courtney]

Thank you. Thanks, dude. Hey, thanks, dude.

[Ian]

You're welcome.

[Courtney]

Just going to derail it a little bit more, just for fun.

[Shane]

And thank you to all our fans, to the Plumbers in our comments and listening. Let us know what you think about that one story. And to all our UK fans, sorry for our accent.

[Courtney]

Sorry.

[Ian]

I'm not sorry.

[Shane]

Ian's not sorry.

[Ian]

Not sorry.

[Courtney]

I'm sorry.

[Shane]

Yeah, I'm sorry. I know it's bad. And we'll see you next Saturday.

[Courtney]

React responsibly, yeah?