The REAL Kitchen Nightmares | Reading Reddit Stories

Summary

Podcast Summary: Smosh Reads Reddit Stories Episode: The REAL Kitchen Nightmares | Reading Reddit Stories
Release Date: May 17, 2025
Host: Smosh (Shayne Topp)
Guests: Chance and Tommy

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Introduction

In the episode titled "The REAL Kitchen Nightmares | Reading Reddit Stories", Smosh delves into the chaotic and often humorous world of the service industry. Hosted by Shayne Topp, joined by guests Chance and Tommy, the trio explores a variety of dramatic and outrageous tales submitted by Reddit users. These stories highlight the challenges faced by servers, the unpredictable nature of customer interactions, and the personal dynamics within the hospitality sector.

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Section 1: The Dine and Dash Saga

Summary:
The episode kicks off with Shane recounting a harrowing experience from the subreddit Tales from your server. A server describes being assigned a particularly difficult table consisting of a husband, wife, and their newborn baby. From the outset, the husband is demanding—ordering an extensive menu and multiple drinks with aggressive specificity. Despite the hostess's heads-up about his finickiness, the situation escalates when the wife requests drink replacements, leading to confusion and frustration.

Notable Quotes:

• Shane [02:22]: "He proceeded to order around $130 worth of appetizers, entrees, dessert, and got three different drinks for himself all in one go."
• Tommy [04:28]: "A dine and dash after tormenting someone."

Discussion:
The hosts discuss the financial and emotional toll such incidents take on servers, especially when establishments have tip-out policies that further diminish their earnings. Tommy highlights the unfairness of dine and dashes, remarking, "You have to know you're a monster." The conversation also touches on the broader implications of unskilled labor being labeled as "low," emphasizing that every job requires skill and dedication.

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Section 2: The Underage Alcohol Incident

Summary:
Another gripping story involves a server who discovers that a customer has served alcoholic beverages to her underage daughter. Upon confronting the situation, the server politely denies the underage girl the drink, offering a non-alcoholic alternative instead. This act of responsibility, however, earns the server a scathing note on the tip line, branding her negatively for enforcing the establishment's policies.

Notable Quotes:

• Shane [14:55]: "I just can't imagine trying to do something illegal and then being mad when I don't let your child drink alcohol."
• Tommy [16:12]: "You're hurting the server and not the restaurant."

Discussion:
Shane expresses empathy for the server, stating, "It's so mean." The hosts delve into the complexities of tipping systems, where servers sometimes bear the brunt of customers' negative behaviors through shared tip-outs. They also discuss state laws regarding minors consuming alcohol, clarifying that in most cases, establishments must adhere strictly to age verification to maintain their liquor licenses.

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Section 3: Relationship Turmoil Over Job Respect

Summary:
A particularly intense segment features a Reddit user seeking advice on a strained friendship. The user describes how his friend, despite possessing a computer science degree, refuses to take a server job offered numerous times. The friend perceives serving as a "low" profession, leading to hurtful remarks and a deep rift in their relationship. The situation escalates as the friend imposes unreasonable conditions for accepting the job, such as immediate managerial status and living arrangements that infringe upon personal boundaries.

Notable Quotes:

• Shane [20:36]: "I didn't want to say something nasty or get into an argument with him, so I only told him he was being very offensive."
• Tommy [24:13]: "She has to know you can't be made manager if you don't even know the names of their dishes or how to serve a coffee."

Updates:
The story evolves as the user continues to struggle with his friend's entitlement and refusal to accept help. Despite several attempts to reconcile and offer support, the relationship deteriorates further, leading to family conflict and significant emotional distress for the user.

Notable Quotes from Updates:

• Shane [33:55]: "He obviously had given this some thought. I was dumbfounded."
• Tommy [38:42]: "He's an ass."

Discussion:
The hosts empathize with the user, criticizing the friend's excessive pride and lack of humility. Tommy points out that "You have to take what you can get and go and do it," highlighting the necessity of accepting jobs irrespective of perceived social status, especially when facing financial hardships. Shane underscores the importance of valuing all professions, stating, "All jobs require skills. Except for podcast host." The conversation concludes with a unanimous agreement that the friendship may be irreparable due to the friend's intransigence.

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Section 4: Snitching on a Co-worker for Spitting on Food

Summary:
Shane narrates a disturbing account from another Reddit user who reported a co-worker, Tanya, for spitting on a customer's food after a sauce spill. The incident occurred during a particularly busy shift, leading Tanya to express her frustrations by contaminating the customer's meal. Reporting this behavior resulted in backlash against the protagonist, with coworkers branding him as a "snitch," and discovering a toxic work environment where unethical behaviors persist without accountability.

Notable Quotes:

• Shane [41:40]: "That is so bad."
• Tommy [43:27]: "She snitches there."

Discussion:
The hosts condemn Tanya's behavior unequivocally, emphasizing that such actions are unacceptable in any setting. They debate the repercussions of reporting unethical conduct, especially in environments where loyalty to coworkers overshadows professional integrity. Tommy remarks, "100%," supporting the notion that the protagonist acted rightly by reporting the incident. Shane adds, "She should not still have a job," reinforcing the need for strict consequences in such scenarios.

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Section 5: A Heartwarming Encounter with a Generous Customer

Summary:
Concluding on a positive note, the hosts share a feel-good story of a customer who, adorned in a vibrant Hawaiian shirt, not only generously tips but also pays for multiple tables anonymously. This act of kindness leaves a lasting impression on the server, highlighting the potential for positive interactions amidst the often challenging service industry landscape.

Notable Quotes:

• Shane [73:15]: "I just can't believe the words that come out of people's mouths."
• Unknown Guest [75:06]: "Who's paying for my bill?"

Discussion:
The conversation shifts to celebrate the existence of such benevolent customers. Shayne and Tommy express admiration for the customer's generosity, with Tommy recalling similar positive experiences with celebrities like Molly Shannon. This segment serves as a reminder of the good that exists within the service industry, balancing out the previous grim narratives.

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Conclusion

In "The REAL Kitchen Nightmares | Reading Reddit Stories", Smosh provides an unfiltered look into the tumultuous lives of servers and the unpredictable interactions they encounter. From dealing with demanding diners and unethical coworkers to navigating personal relationships strained by professional respect, the episode offers a comprehensive exploration of the service industry's highs and lows. The episode concludes with a beacon of positivity, underscoring the importance of kindness and generosity in creating memorable customer experiences.

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Notable Quotes Recap:

• Shane [02:22]: "He proceeded to order around $130 worth of appetizers, entrees, dessert, and got three different drinks for himself all in one go."
• Tommy [04:28]: "A dine and dash after tormenting someone."
• Shane [14:55]: "I just can't imagine trying to do something illegal and then being mad when I don't let your child drink alcohol."
• Tommy [16:12]: "You're hurting the server and not the restaurant."
• Shane [20:36]: "I didn't want to say something nasty or get into an argument with him, so I only told him he was being very offensive."
• Tommy [24:13]: "She has to know you can't be made manager if you don't even know the names of their dishes or how to serve a coffee."
• Shane [33:55]: "He obviously had given this some thought. I was dumbfounded."
• Tommy [38:42]: "He's an ass."
• Shane [41:40]: "That is so bad."
• Tommy [43:27]: "She snitches there."
• Shane [73:15]: "I just can't believe the words that come out of people's mouths."
• Unknown Guest [75:06]: "Who's paying for my bill?"

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Hosts' Final Remarks:

Shayne and Tommy wrap up the episode by encouraging listeners who work in the service industry to share their own horror stories and memorable positive experiences. They emphasize the importance of balancing negative encounters with the heartwarming moments that make the job fulfilling.

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Listeners are invited to share their own stories and suggest future themes and subreddits for Smosh to explore in upcoming episodes.

Transcript

[Shane]

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[Shane]

Hi, welcome to Reddit Stories. I'm Shane and today's theme is all tales from your server. These are restaurant and service industry stories. They get wild. And I'm joined by two people who have worked in the service industry, Chance and Tommy.

[Tommy]

You can say we've served before. Thank you.

[Shane]

You got your viral moment out of the way.

[Unknown]

Thank God. Now we're done. Now we can just have fun. Now we can just throw.

[Shane]

Now you can relax. It's fine. Our art department decorated this place up a little bit with some restaurant things. Very nice.

[Unknown]

Restaurant.

[Tommy]

Restaurant things.

[Unknown]

Yeah, this place. The vibes are nice.

[Shane]

As you guys know, I started acting when I was like 13, so I never worked a normal job.

[Unknown]

We know change. You're not famous.

[Shane]

I know nothing of the real world.

[Tommy]

But you were born with the heart of a server. You respect the people that work.

[Unknown]

That's really nice.

[Shane]

Yes.

[Tommy]

You respect.

[Shane]

I'm sure you guys have plenty of nightmare stories. I think you've told them before on the show. But as we go through these stories, if you're reminded of any.

[Unknown]

Sure.

[Shane]

Please share. Okay. All right. All right. Our first story comes from Tales from youm Server, which is a subreddit dedicated to these types of stories.

[Tommy]

Good.

[Shane]

A lady called to warn us about her husband.

[Tommy]

Oh, no. Oh, no.

[Shane]

He's coming. You need to close down. Officially. Had one of the wildest experiences in my four years of serving last night. Got sat with a two and a half top. That's two and a half people. Meaning a baby.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

A husband, wife, and their new baby in a stroller. When the hostess came to let me know I got sat, she informed me that the wife at the table called ahead of time to. To let us know that her husband was going to be very picky and difficult before I even got there to greet them. They asked to switch tables two times. For whatever reason.

[Unknown]

No.

[Shane]

Once they were finally situated, I go to greet them and the husband let me know immediately that they were ready to order. He proceeds to order around $130 worth of appetizers, entrees, dessert, and gets three different drinks for himself all in one go. His wife, quiet as a mouse, just orders a drink. During his order, he was so aggressive, making demands and asking in depth questions about every single food item he was ordering and modifying it in some way. And every few seconds while he was ordering, he'd bark and remind me, I want it hot, fresh, delicious. I filled a notebook page with this guy's order. He also asked his wife if she wanted a tequila shot and she shook her head no. He turned to me and said, gotta set the mood, right? You know, we just had a baby and smirked and chuckled at me, which I did not acknowledge in any way. They got their drinks and I was told by my coworker that the wife said she didn't like her drink and wanted to replace it. Their food started coming out while the replacement was being made. And as I was dropping the new drink off, the husband looked at me and said, yeah, we got a big problem. I didn't like any of it.

[Unknown]

No.

[Shane]

I apologized and said I would be right back with my manager. I. I immediately went to grab my manager and tell him what happened. And as we were walking back to the table, they were gone. They left without paying their bill. We had to just comp the whole thing, but it was absolutely bananas. I've had tables leave without paying their tab, but it's never been intentional. Absolutely wild, man.

[Unknown]

That's terrible.

[Tommy]

A dine and dash after tormenting someone.

[Unknown]

Yeah, yeah.

[Shane]

Like you make a scene and then.

[Unknown]

Dine and dash and then leave.

[Shane]

That's bold.

[Unknown]

Wow.

[Tommy]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Did you experience dine and dashers?

[Tommy]

Oh, yeah. Oh yeah. Not personally, luckily. Cause I was only a server server for a short window of time because then I worked at this place that was like, I take the order, I food run. And I, you know, you just become like this all around thing. But shout out to Lorraine in Orlando, Florida, who chased these people down the street. I was like, you're going too far.

[Unknown]

She's like, yeah. No, Terminator.

[Shane]

Terminator, yeah.

[Tommy]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

Wow.

[Tommy]

Cause that Was crazy. But, like, yeah, they do that. People do that.

[Unknown]

Something that I feel like a lot of people don't realize, too, is that a lot of places you tip out, so the servers spread their tips. They, like, tip out 6% of their tips. Or some places will do. You do 6% of your sales. So whatever you sold, you're gonna tip out 6%. So that 20% tip is all of a sudden 14% of everything you made. But if you dine in dash and say your check was $200, I'm now tipping out 6% of what that would have been, what the tip would have been. So now it's just coming out of my personal money.

[Tommy]

Right.

[Shane]

Damn.

[Unknown]

So then you're owing money to even serve these tables.

[Tommy]

You're hurting the server and not the restaurant. I mean, also the restaurant. But when you dine and dash, so don't do that.

[Unknown]

So It'd be like $12 that I'd now have to pay for that table having eaten at my.

[Shane]

Jeez. This like, he hit every single thing. Yeah, he's doing it all in one go. I feel so bad for the wife in this. Like, the fact that she called ahead and she's like, my husband's a nightmare.

[Tommy]

There's something deeper and darker for her to not be able to talk to him about this and have to, like, warn, yes, my girl is stuck.

[Shane]

An absolute horror story there.

[Unknown]

That baby.

[Shane]

There's a lot of diner.

[Tommy]

Dash. That baby. Yeah, go over there.

[Shane]

The iceberg. We got this. And there's a whole iceberg there. That is very tragic. Comments on this. This didn't perchance happen in Chicago. This sounds exactly like people I used to wait on. Op responded, this did happen in Chicago. Someone responded, I believe I waited on them. And they were regulars. Everyone hated waiting on them. The mods were asinine. He would sometimes drink, but when he did it was ordering three drinks in one go. Never heard the wife say anything. They did pay us in cash. They didn't have a baby at the time. But I left that restaurant in 2020 huge bills. Every time we were an Italian pizza spot and they'd order pasta and salads in the most bizarre way possible, someone else said, that sounds like an elaborate dine and dash to me. Lastly, someone said, if the lady called ahead, just weird. But that's gotta be helpful in tracking them down, I think.

[Unknown]

True.

[Shane]

So I guess dine and dash laws vary across states. It can be a misdemeanor or a felony offense, depending on what state.

[Unknown]

Felony.

[Tommy]

Felony.

[Shane]

Okay, maybe depending on the amount of money that you're walking out on. I am. I. It's something that I'm, like, terrified of. Of, like, accidentally getting up and forgetting to pay.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

It's never happened, but I live in fear of that. I can't imagine or would you know.

[Unknown]

If it had happened. Cause you forgot.

[Shane]

Think back and go, okay, I did.

[Unknown]

Okay.

[Shane]

I usually. Or I ask someone else. I'm like, we paid. They're like, yeah.

[Tommy]

It's always Italian restaurants where the craziest things happen.

[Shane]

Really?

[Tommy]

That's where I was. I did a bunch. That's where I went.

[Shane]

I never thought about that. Like, the mos of different types of restaurants.

[Unknown]

Sports bar.

[Tommy]

Sports bars. Sports bars are crazy. Italian restaurants, it's crazy. Like, in the kitchen. Cause everyone's like, hey, what the.

[Unknown]

Hey, what? The mopede.

[Tommy]

Right. Exactly. Yeah. Sports bars, you've got the sportsmen who are drinking.

[Unknown]

Yeah. And then in kitchens, a lot of times, if it's, like, elevated but not quite. Like, they're not classy enough to be. Like, they're not trained, but it's, like a nicer place. So then they get in fights still.

[Tommy]

And then also, if you're in that kind of tier, then the people who are there are like, I thought this was supposed to be classy. And you're like, well, it's not.

[Unknown]

Yep, yep.

[Shane]

Sorry.

[Unknown]

We're doing American tapas here.

[Tommy]

Right. It's like, they're little burgers.

[Shane]

What do you want?

[Tommy]

Like, they're little burgers.

[Shane]

I can't believe this person, like, is so notorious for this that other people are like, yes, I know this guy.

[Tommy]

Insane.

[Unknown]

Cause they probably do it a lot.

[Shane]

I just can't imagine. Like, that's the thing is, like, you are ruining people's day.

[Tommy]

You have to know you're a monster.

[Shane]

And you're. I think he clearly. Do you think he's doing this? Do you think this is, like, a thing he gets a kick out of? Like, that's almost what I'm reading it as.

[Tommy]

Whether it's, like, on purpose or just out of pattern, he's clearly getting something out of it.

[Unknown]

Like free food.

[Tommy]

Free food. But also, like a power trip.

[Shane]

Whether he's going, I'm three drinks in one go.

[Unknown]

That's so crazy.

[Tommy]

That's a lot.

[Shane]

Just a strange. Like, that's almost like a murderer's calling card. You know, it's like, oh, yeah, and he ordered three drinks in one go.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

Also, it's like, then. Cause people, you know, like, the bartender or, you know, the Server or whatever's supposed to, like, if you're looking a little too drunk, they're supposed to stop you.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

So it's like, oh, well, I'm just gonna get wasted and they won't be able to stop me. Cause I'm gonna get three drinks.

[Shane]

I'm surprised. At first I didn't read it as alcoholic drinks, but it must be. Are you allowed to order three drinks?

[Unknown]

I was just about to say specifically has really a lot of alcohol laws. Huh? Like, they had a rule when I lived there that they weren't allowed to have happy hours. You had to have specials. I think they changed us now. But you had to have specials for the whole day. So it couldn't just be a certain number of hours if you had that special. Ooh, yeah.

[Shane]

Wow. Do you guys have, like, a specific customer that you were like, this is the worst one I ever dealt with. Do you have a person who stands out as, like, that was the absolute worst table I ever served in my life, or no. Or is it just a lot of bad?

[Tommy]

I didn't have, like, a devil gremlin person. There were just, like, little moments. There's one actor who I won't name who I adored watching on television. I'm sure he just had a bad day, but I was like, can I get you more barbecue sauce or a house made ranch? And he went, oh. And I went, no, no.

[Shane]

Oh.

[Tommy]

And then there was this guy who ate his entire burger and then tried to return it at the end. And I laughed at. Yeah, I laughed out.

[Shane]

Oh, that's great. I mean, not great, but fine.

[Unknown]

I had a table of these, like, Laguna beach women. They kept getting up and, like, trying to buddy buddy me. And I don't like being touched.

[Tommy]

No.

[Unknown]

And they kept being, like, putting their arms around me and shit. They were drinking their bottomless mimosas. And I had to tell one of them, stop touching me.

[Shane]

Oh.

[Unknown]

Cause he was like. She pulled me and she was like, what, you can't handle it? Come on, you're a dude. And I was like, oh, God.

[Shane]

Oh, no.

[Unknown]

So then I had to get my manager, and I was like, they won't stop touching me. I need them to. And they started doing it as a bit. And I was like, that's the worst. And I was hungover. Bitch. It was brunch. I was hungover. I was not trying to be touched. My manager was like. She was like. She was like, he wouldn't let me touch him. And she's like, why are you. Why do you need to touch him.

[Shane]

He won't let me touch him. He's a crazy complaint.

[Unknown]

Why are you touching him in the first place? She had my back and that was a manager that didn't like me too. But she was like, stop touching my employees.

[Shane]

After it's all done, she's just like.

[Unknown]

I still hate you though. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Shane]

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[Unknown]

Okay, okay, okay, okay.

[Shane]

Very busy Saturday at a brunch restaurant. Table of 10 people. They had been on the wait list and then sat. Probably had to wait 30 minutes. But that's typical for this restaurant. A woman ordered an alcoholic drink, but when I brought it out, she gave it to her daughter. I saw her daughter drink it, so I asked to see her id she left it in the car, and then she said she left it at home. This girl looked 14. I told her that unfortunately, we had to take it away, but I would get her juice instead if she wanted. She was pissed. I had my manager talk to her. We took the drink off the bill. We were nice. Another woman at the table told me it was the best breakfast she'd had all year. Really hamming up how good it was. Well, when they left, the mom wrote, don't be such a C word on the additional tip line. Great. I'll keep that in mind. I just can't imagine trying to do something illegal and then being mad when I don't let your child drink alcohol. What a lovely day. And they included a picture of it to show proof.

[Unknown]

Not the heart.

[Tommy]

Oh, she put a heart, a star, and a smiley face.

[Unknown]

Yeah, a star, too.

[Shane]

The asterisks at the top. Yeah. And then an X on the additional tip line. And that bill was $91. So that was not some small amount.

[Unknown]

Of money, but it's additional tip.

[Tommy]

So hopefully there was some.

[Shane]

There was auto gratuity, but this is additional tip.

[Tommy]

Yeah, auto gratuity isn't all that much.

[Unknown]

And it does it before taxes, which I would take the autograt off because people tip on top of tax a lot of the time. But if you do autograt, it tips before the tax.

[Shane]

Interesting.

[Unknown]

So it's 10% less.

[Shane]

Well, even regardless of the tip, this is just very mean.

[Tommy]

I want to know the story of this mom who's like, I can't stand.

[Unknown]

My daughter unless she's drunk on this.

[Shane]

So, yeah, that's right.

[Unknown]

I let my daughter drink whatever the fuck she wants to do. That's her voice by the way. Yeah.

[Shane]

Cause this what she's now done. It's like, no, you were in the wrong. So you can't make the waitress feel bad.

[Tommy]

No.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

That's crazy.

[Shane]

Doing her job. Right.

[Tommy]

And it sounds like otherwise she's like, weird.

[Shane]

It sounds like she probably has had that situation happen where the waitress or waiter didn't care. Was like, not my problem. I didn't see it.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

But in this case it did happen and you just have to deal with that. But that's such a mean thing to say.

[Unknown]

Yeah. The 14 year old, like, why are we giving them drinks?

[Shane]

Like, did you ever have people write notes on receipts or like, mean stuff ever in place of a tip?

[Tommy]

Not that I can recall. Not that I can recall.

[Shane]

Cause I've seen a lot of posts similar to this where it's like, oh, they wrote this note or they did something really short.

[Unknown]

I've had, like, be more attentive or like, be nice before.

[Shane]

Wow.

[Unknown]

The style differs place to place. Right. And there are some places where the style of service is like, especially in Los Angeles, they don't want to talk to you. They don't really want to interact with their servers. They're just there to get their orders.

[Shane]

Sure.

[Unknown]

And then some places they're expecting a.

[Shane]

Lot out of you.

[Unknown]

Like, I'm here to converse. I haven't been. I don't go out a lot. I'm here to have a good time and I want my server to be a part of that.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

And so when you're getting to a table, you have to vibe check so quickly. Right. And a lot of the time when I would greet a table, I would come in like cold, like, coming. I would like, you decide what energy I'm giving you.

Yeah.

[Tommy]

You're like neutral.

[Unknown]

And so if you give me, like, I'll give you, like. And sometimes I would get like, be nicer. Like, be like, they wanted energy out of me, but I was like, I'm not giving you.

[Tommy]

Well, you weren't, you weren't giving me like, hey, hi. I'd like this if there's a. I've.

[Unknown]

Been on a double for 12 hours working this shit. Yeah. I need you to give. If you're not giving me, you don't need anything from me.

[Shane]

Right.

[Tommy]

We need cues.

[Shane]

That's a really, that's a really interesting perspective for people who like ever complain about their servers or are mean to servers. It's like, hey, what you want out of a server is probably not what someone else wants. And you're trying to adhere to everything. Yeah. That's really interesting.

[Unknown]

And you have six different tables, so you have to remember the different energies of each table. It's like, okay, this one I'm buddy buddy with. This one doesn't really want to talk to me. This one's really difficult. Yeah.

[Tommy]

Especially where it's like, I've been to this table one extra time to check on them and they were annoyed. So it's like, well then I won't come check on you as often. But that's cause you gave me that. And then if they're like, well you didn't come check on us, it was like, well, I came to see if everything was all right and you gave me some pissed off energy.

[Unknown]

Vibes were wrong. I didn't want to come back to you.

[Tommy]

So I'm sorry. Yeah, I was just seeing if your cup was not full.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

God. Comments on this? Your manager was far too kind. No way that would have come off the bill anywhere I've been. And the manager in most places would have told him that we don't put our liquor license at risk for people like them and then thrown them out. OP responded, yeah, but it was like a $15 difference and we took it away after one sip. I don't know, it felt wrong to charge them. Someone else said, apparently in a few states, parents can buy drinks for teenagers. Had a customer at my bar in Nashville berate me for not serving his teenage son a beer. I was shocked it was allowed anywhere, but it certainly isn't in Tennessee. My very bored security guard happily threw him out the second he raised his voice at me. So we have a note here. One of those states is Texas. In Texas, a minor may consume an alcoholic beverage if it is in the visible presence of the minor's adult parent, guardian or spouse. But it sounds like this isn't the case for this story. In this case, it's the establishment's rules. Follow em or don't. Lastly, I had something similar happen. Family came in, young looking kid forgot their wallet, so no id. The dad claimed to be a police officer. And I said, then you should be happy that I won't serve her without an id.

[Unknown]

That's awesome.

[Tommy]

There you go.

[Shane]

Yeah, that's like walking into a full trap. It's like, don't worry, I'm a cop. It's like, what?

[Tommy]

So then I won't.

[Shane]

Then I literally won't. Our next story actually comes from relationship advice, but it's about serving.

[Unknown]

You'll see.

[Tommy]

Okay, I know where this is going.

[Shane]

This is a 31 year old man. My best friend, a 33 year old man, is broke. I've been offering him a job in the restaurant I work at for months and today he confessed he doesn't want to be a server because it's low and people would lose respect for him. I'm deeply offended. So this happened in 2018 for just a little bit of context.

[Unknown]

Different time.

[Shane]

Different time. Yeah, the old times. This happened just before. My friend is broke. He hasn't worked in over a year, he's running out of savings and has even had to ask his parents to support him. I asked him many times why he doesn't try to get a job that's not in his field. He's got a computer science degree but has never worked in the field a single day in his life. Since graduating, he's turned down lots of jobs because of reasons they don't pay him enough, they won't give him a higher up position right off the bat, et cetera. I'm well aware he's deluded in that sense, but he has many other good qualities and that's why I love the guy. So since graduating, the only job he's done is share marketing, something like online investing in Forex. Forex is a foreign exchange trading. He said he made about $20 a day and that it was enough for him. He's single, lives in a shared house and doesn't spend much. Whatever makes him happy, right? The thing is, he's totally broke. I don't think he really is making even $20 a day on the shares because he's run out of money. He's stressed out and won't stop complaining about money problems. This is confusing for me and I think it comes down to his pride not allowing him to get a job that's not fit for his ego. Now I work as a server in a very nice restaurant and have offered him a job as a server many, many times. I have a great relationship with my boss and after telling him my friend's situation, he didn't hesitate to say he wanted to help and and would like to offer him a full time job. My friend has been turning it down for months, not really giving much of an explanation. Today he called me saying his parents have cut him off and asked to borrow money from me. I said that as a personal rule I do not lend money to anyone, but that he was welcome to start working tomorrow with me. He again turned down the offer and I got a bit frustrated because I'm offering him a solution to his money problem, but he won't accept it. So we got into a bit of a banter and he finally confessed. He thinks being a server is low and doesn't get you people's respect. I told him respect is earned by getting off your ass and doing whatever you have to to make ends meet. I asked him if he thinks I'm low and he backpedaled, saying he didn't mean I in particular was low, but the job itself was whatever. He then straight out told me nobody can respect me working as a waiter in my 30s. Wow. To be honest, I'm pretty upset he thinks I am low for working as a server. I got a degree too, but I couldn't find a job in my field, so I had to take the first job I could. I'm not some prissy prick thinking I'm too good to serve others. I take pride in being a waiter and doing a great job. I'm so hurt by his comments. Why is he my friend if he thinks I'm low? I didn't want to say something nasty or get into an argument with him, so I only told him he was being very offensive and I felt like he needed time to think about what he said to me. He replied saying there was nothing to think about, then gave me a list of low jobs like street sweeper, cleaner, et cetera, and said it's a fact those are low, not respected jobs. I asked him to apologize before this snowballed into a full blown argument and he said he stood by what he said. I don't want to overreact, but I don't know if we can keep being friends after this. I really don't know what to do. I don't want to badmouth him, but he should examine his life and learn empathy. I'm a very easygoing and forgiving person, but what he said hurt me and was idiotic. The man who refuses to work is calling me low. I don't know what to do. Phew.

[Tommy]

Well, first off, there are career servers. I was gonna say make an insane amount of money and like work at really important restaurants. You know, it's like this is. It's a viable, respectable career.

[Shane]

In fact, every single job he listed is lower ones where I'm like, I don't think there's such a thing. Like, I think every job has a lot of potential.

[Tommy]

Absolutely.

[Shane]

Like, depending.

[Tommy]

I will say, when you said street sweeper, I thought minesweeper. And I was like, don't click the wrong box. I know, important job. Do you like that?

[Shane]

I also feel like, aren't street sweepers. Isn't that, like, a union job?

[Tommy]

Government jobs.

[Shane]

Yeah. Good benefits. Look, man, I'm gonna be real honest. Like, being an actor for so long, where it's like, I don't know when I'm gonna have another job. Where you're just like, I need to book auditions.

[Tommy]

I could be a mailman.

[Shane]

Those types of. Oh, when I heard about, like. Oh, yeah, like a mailman. I remember in my early 20s, there was a period of time where I was like, being a mailman sounds kind of sick.

[Tommy]

It's not.

[Unknown]

I would suck.

[Shane]

I would suck.

[Unknown]

And now you can work for the greatest company on earth, Amazon.

[Shane]

It's always the funny thing when people list off jobs that they think are low. And I'm like, that's actually a damn good plumber. It's like, dude, no. They're making bank, bro.

[Unknown]

They have to be. Who else is gonna fix my pipes besides the plumber?

[Tommy]

Like, they have the guy, Mario.

[Shane]

Like, I am fully aware, like, I don't view any job as low. Cause I don't think I could do any job.

[Tommy]

Right.

[Shane]

I've done this for so long. I'm fully incapable of everything.

[Unknown]

God forbid. I'm trying to think I would be a terrible servant. Yeah.

[Shane]

I would be a terrible server.

[Unknown]

No, I don't think that's true.

[Tommy]

I don't think so.

[Shane]

I think I'd be really bad. I think if you.

[Unknown]

I think if you actually liked the place, if you actually felt passionately about the food and the drink, I guess that's also fair.

[Shane]

Being a server is completely different depending on where you're a server.

[Tommy]

Absolutely.

[Unknown]

Because there was some restaurants that I really, really liked eating there. Like, I would bring dates there when I'm.

[Shane]

And it sounds like this guy said, this is a very nice restaurant he works at. This is an incredible job offer this guy's getting. And I also. I've heard that, like, this is 2018, but, I mean, the job market's not easy to find a good job.

[Unknown]

No.

[Shane]

Like, it's not.

[Tommy]

Especially in a niche field like that. I understand not wanting to not get a job in your field, because then on your resume, it's like, oh, well, if you did this and that. But when your situation is that situation, you need to take what you can get and go and do it. Cause unfortunately, do we need to work to live in this scheme that we're in?

[Unknown]

I was making some pretty good money as a server. Yeah, you can make great money as a server.

[Shane]

I was making Like, I have family members who worked in servers and made a lot of money. Yeah, like. Yeah, depending.

[Unknown]

Depending. Depending. But the higher restaurants, nicer restaurants.

[Shane]

There's a lot of legitimate reasons why someone would say, I can't take that job, or, I can't work right now, or whatever.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

He is blatantly telegraphing why. And his reasoning is awful.

[Tommy]

Yeah, it's bad.

[Shane]

This is. And it's so insulting.

[Unknown]

It's almost like he has nothing else to do.

[Shane]

Yeah. I just can't believe the words that come out of people's mouths where I'm like, what do you think you're getting out of this by saying that you're telling your friend that the job he's working is low. What?

[Tommy]

You don't realize you're insulting your friend?

[Shane]

What do you think's gonna happen here?

[Tommy]

And the author kind of set. The author. We read a book today, the OP kind of said where it's like, hey, you're calling my job low. But, like, you know, you're in kind of a low circumstance. So it's like, don't be hypocritical like that. Like, I don't know.

[Unknown]

My job is low. What job you got? Like, Right. You ain't got a job, so I don't know how low you are now.

[Shane]

I mean, a job is a job, and I don't think your job is who you are. Right. Like, I mean, it's a big part of your life, but, like. Right.

[Tommy]

But it's not all of you. It's not all of you.

[Shane]

Yeah, there's no. I don't think there are, unfortunately, people who do attribute status to these things. Those people suck. But, like, not on a real level. On, like, an actual level. Should it be that way? And this guy is basically exposing that. This is how he views me.

[Tommy]

Yeah, I know.

[Shane]

So it would be hard to continue to be his friend when it's like, oh, but you think I'm. This is what you think this is all I am. And, yeah, we should address these jobs. They're absolutely not low. And in fact, I mean, I think the pandemic exposed so much of, like, what society is built off of, where it's like, suddenly all these jobs that are so low are the ones that we needed desperately first.

[Tommy]

Yeah. And it's a lot of work, and you're in a lot of people, and it takes a lot of mental energy, and it's like, it's certainly not low. It's quite a skilled. I was. And this is. I'm being vulnerable Here I was kind of a bad server.

[Unknown]

Okay.

[Tommy]

Cause you gotta keep track of so many things and then it's like all the, oh, we're closing. You gotta remember to do all the doodads and things. And every time I counted money, I was over. And I wasn't over. It wasn't over. So I was putting in the wrong numbers. And I would count that money for an hour. And I was always wrong. I was a bad closer.

[Unknown]

But anyway, how were you wrong? How did you.

[Tommy]

I don't know. I counted that money and I thought I was right. And they were like, tommy, you're over. And I was like, how? And then they'd count it and they were like, it's fine, you're wrong. And I was like, I don't want this job anymore. And then I scaled back to not closing anyway. It's a skilled thing. Yes.

[Shane]

Yeah. Whenever I hear the term unskilled labor, I'm like, it's all skilled, man.

[Tommy]

It's all skilled.

[Unknown]

It's all skilled.

[Shane]

It's all skilled. All right, comments.

[Unknown]

I was that bitch who didn't write shit down.

[Shane]

You just had a lot of fun.

[Tommy]

I love that.

[Unknown]

Boom.

[Tommy]

That's awesome.

[Unknown]

And then I'm going. And then I'm usually going straight. We didn't have these. Now they have these. You can do this shit.

[Tommy]

I wish I had that.

[Unknown]

I wish I had that bitch.

[Tommy]

God.

[Unknown]

But. Sorry that I called you a bitch chamber.

[Tommy]

Aw, no.

[Unknown]

But I would immediately get the order and I would run to the computer. I'm not going to any other tables. I'm just doing that order right then getting it out of the way.

[Tommy]

Yeah, the posh piece of shit.

[Shane]

All jobs require skills. Except for podcast host.

[Unknown]

That's awesome. Wow. That's awesome.

[Shane]

Alright, comments. Honestly, be happy he didn't take the job because with that attitude, he wouldn't have lasted long and tarnished your reputation with it. I don't want to overreact, but I don't know if we can keep being friends after this. Honestly, don't keep him as a friend. Doesn't seem that you get much out of the friendship anyway. Someone else said, funny pompous ass is too good to work as a waiter, but isn't above asking to borrow money from a waiter because he's too pathetic to go earn a living to take care of himself. And it's easy. Take the job off the table because it's not appreciated or respected by him and it will only end bad for you and your generous boss. Don't lend your friend anything and let him figure out his problems on his own. Simple life lesson. Coming Update the next day I made this post yesterday asking for advice on how to handle the situation with my friend. Basically, he's very broke and his parents have cut him off. I've been offering him a job in the restaurant I work in for months and he has always turned it down. His situation got so bad he came to me yesterday asking to borrow money. I don't lend money to anyone as a rule, but I told him there will always be a plate of food for him in my house and he was welcome to accept the job offer and start working with me the very next day. Well, long story short, we had a bit of an argument, if you can call it that, and he finally confessed. He thinks being a server is low and won't earn him people's respect. In an interesting turn of events, he called me today and said he'd thought it through and and had decided he's willing to accept the job only with one condition.

[Unknown]

Okay, Howard, this is Beggars choosers.

[Shane]

What do you think the condition is? What do we think the condition is?

[Tommy]

Maybe it's handstand the whole time. No.

[Unknown]

Maybe the condition is that fuck he get to be a manager.

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[Shane]

He'd be willing to do it with only one condition. That he's to be made manager right off the bat.

[Unknown]

What a pompous piece of shit.

[Shane]

And that he should move in with me so that I can drive him to work because the bus from his house to my workplace takes 35 minutes and that's over an hour of commuting a day. He then suggested I move my youngest daughter into my elder daughter's room. So that's an empty bedroom for him in my house. So he obviously had given this some thought. I was dumbfounded. The sense of entitlement and the level of pride you gotta have to make those demands is astonishing. I know he's never had a proper job, but he's not stupid. He has to know you can't be made manager if you don't even know the names of their dishes or how to serve a coffee. It's all about his pride. He's got an ego bigger than I thought. He can't be humble enough to accept a waiter job and work things out from there. He needs to be made manager so that it won't hurt his pride as much as. To be honest, I was so out of words. I said I don't want to talk and hung up. I can't explain how off putting that conversation was. I feel repealed by him. I feel disgusted, as if something has changed inside me. I can't have a person like him in my life. What makes a person refuse all help just out of sheer pride? My wife says I've been patient and kind enough to him throughout the years and I should let him figure things out on his own. He really is broke. Before his parents cut him off, they were covering his rent slash bills and he survived on the $20 a day he claimed to be making investing in Forex. I know he barely eats and can't even afford a new pair of shoes and some other stuff. I know he's got no money, but then why won't he accept the job? He's not shy, has no mental health issues and has no problem dealing with people. He's refused many other jobs in the past, even jobs related to his degree, computer science. He's got the wrong idea that he should be given higher up positions right from the start because he's him and that's what he deserves. That's the reason he hasn't worked a single day since graduating like a decade ago. Anyway, I've gotta do some deep thinking. And reevaluate this friendship because I don't like the person he's becoming. His dad is a bus driver and his mother is a retired teacher. They are lovely, humble, down to earth people. I think they've done the right thing cutting him off. I know they're both struggling financially, so it's not fair for their son to leech off of them. His mother even had to go back to work doing some tutoring in order to make some extra money to be able to support my friend. I'd be so ashamed if I made my 70 year old mother go back to work just so I could be sitting at home dreaming of landing the perfect job while actively doing nothing to get one. Anyway, I'm rambling. Sorry. I'm just so mad. My wife says it's time to cut the cord and distance ourselves from him. I think she might be right.

[Tommy]

She's right.

[Shane]

Yeah, I think she's right. Yeah, she's right.

[Unknown]

I kind of. Okay. I kind of see the thought process behind him a little bit in that. So my parents are servers and they sent me to college. I was a first generation college student and they sent me to college because they wanted me to have a different life than they were able to make for themselves. They didn't want me to be waiting tables in restaurants. They wanted me to have like a career.

[Shane]

Blah, blah, blah, blah.

[Unknown]

That's why I'm a comedian. Makes no sense. But you can have a career.

[Shane]

You're like comedian. They're like, they're like, shit, what the hell, dude?

[Unknown]

Yeah, no, but. So even I had this overwhelming weight on my shoulders after graduating college and not being able to find many jobs as a comedian or in musical theater. So I had this huge weight for my parents where like they did not want me to wait tables.

[Shane]

I see what you're saying. I would say though, like in life, I mean, we all have to start somewhere, right? Yeah, I don't think anywhere. Anyone gets anywhere without working jobs. You don't want to work. Right. Is that fair to say? I mean, yeah, absolutely. But he did it. Says he turned down computer science jobs. Yeah.

[Unknown]

What the hell?

[Shane]

So I don't know what's going on.

[Tommy]

That's where he screwed up.

[Unknown]

He should have just taken lower pay than no pay. What is that?

[Tommy]

Get your foot in the door and then work your way up. But they say or use it to.

[Unknown]

Leverage in a different company.

[Shane]

I mean, I don't. All we know is he told OP these jobs are beneath.

[Unknown]

All I know is he's an ass.

[Tommy]

He's an ass.

[Shane]

That's all we know. It's like, all right, we're gonna take you at your word. That's your reasoning. Like, if you gave us a different spiel, we would go off that. But he said, these are beneath me, so, you know, fuck you. That's kind of where we're at. I just. Wow. Like, he's in such a hard place, and he still is holding onto that. Like, the ego is so powerful. I need to be the manager, and you need to completely shift your children's dynamic so that I can live in your house. Every aspect got wilder and wilder.

[Tommy]

This guy needs to think about other people.

[Shane]

Oh, man. I feel bad for op. They sound like a very forgiving person.

[Tommy]

Yes.

[Shane]

Cause the fact that they're like, I guess I should maybe cut this guy out of his life.

[Unknown]

He's so entitled.

[Shane]

I know. And his poor parent, like, I mean, we don't know, but, like, the parents cutting him off. But sounds like the parents, like, worked really hard to try to support him for a long time. See, I'm wondering, when did Wolf of Wall street come out?

[Tommy]

Oh, does he think he's.

[Shane]

This gives me, like, guy who's like, I know the art of the deal.

[Tommy]

Right? 2013.

[Shane]

2013. Yeah.

[Tommy]

He's had five years to cook.

[Shane]

I don't know why this guy, like, makes me think, like, he watched Wolf of Wall street, and he was like, that's me. Here's what I'm gonna do.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

I'm gonna demand respect, and I'm gonna get it.

[Tommy]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Could be completely wrong, but that's the vibe I'm getting. This next story comes from, am I the asshole?

[Tommy]

Okay.

[Shane]

Am I the asshole for snitching on a co worker? For spitting on a customer's food?

[Unknown]

Okay, that is fucking gross.

[Shane]

That's awful. That is.

[Unknown]

Who actually does that? That is nasty.

[Shane]

That scares me.

[Tommy]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

But I feel like most people are not that indecent. Yeah.

[Shane]

That's one of those things that I feel like happens in movies that it's like, hopefully that doesn't happen in real life.

[Unknown]

And it's also like, if I saw someone already, if I saw someone spit in a customer's food, I'd be like, you need to take that in the back, and you need to get them a new plate. Right now. That is absolutely crazy town.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

That is crazy. And like, Chef. If Chef saw you do that, or if, like, the people who just cooked.

[Tommy]

That meal, they're like, so you just wasted my time.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

Right.

[Shane]

Okay.

[Tommy]

Maybe they deserved It. I don't believe. I don't believe it. I just wanted to.

[Shane]

I don't know.

[Unknown]

Unless they were like, spit in my food. They're like, can you.

[Tommy]

How much is an add on of spit?

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

There's the Family Guy joke where they bring it to the newscaster and he spits in his drink. And he's just like, what's in this? He's like, oh, I spit in it. And he's like, bring me the one with urine like I asked.

[Tommy]

That's awesome.

[Unknown]

That's awesome. Thanks.

[Shane]

All right, let's get into this story.

[Tommy]

Okay.

[Shane]

I work as a server at a popular chain restaurant. Last Saturday, it was a very stressful day as we were extremely busy. One of my co workers, let's call her Tanya, was in an especially bad mood due to the amount of customers assigned to her section. The issue started when one of the customers ordered chicken strips with buffalo sauce on the side. As Tanya was walking with her tray of food, the sauce dish tipped over and spilled some buffalo sauce over the customer's fries and baked potatoes. I'm guessing she didn't think it was a big deal to have some hot sauce on your potatoes, so she brought it to the customer anyway. Well, the customer eventually called her back and asked for new fries and a new potato because they didn't want buffalo sauce all over their food.

[Unknown]

Sure.

[Shane]

Tanya came back to the kitchen unreasonably upset. She was complaining about spoiled people wasting food, extra work, and things like that. The cook made a new plate of food, and as Tanya was walking out of the kitchen, she stuck out her tongue and spit, little flecks of spit on all over the customer's food.

[Unknown]

That's disgusting.

[Tommy]

That's awful.

[Shane]

I was shocked because I'd never actually seen someone do that in real life.

[Tommy]

Right.

[Shane]

I thought that kind of thing only happened in movies and TV shows.

[Tommy]

Literally.

[Shane]

Like I just said, I was even more surprised that she did it during a pandemic. Yeah, this came out. This is 2021. No, for some context. So probably the worst time in history, right? Maybe like Spanish influenza, you know? Every hundred years is the worst possible time to do this. At the end of my shift, I told my boss what I saw, and he had a talk with Tanya afterwards. Now everyone I work with knows that I did this. Since my boss told Tonya that I saw her spit on the food, they're all calling me a snitch. Tonya herself calls me the snitch if she ever has a chance to refer to me.

[Unknown]

She snitches there.

[Shane]

She no longer speaks to me at all. I believe even my boss isn't happy that I snitched. Though he hasn't said anything directly. I just feel a whole different vibe from him now. It's gotten to the point where I basically lost all of my work friends due to snitching. I'm not sure they will ever get over this because of how legitimately upset everyone is. I'm considering finding a new job because it has gotten so bad. Am I the asshole for snitching? Should I have just talked to Tanya privately and not told her boss? Okay, so we have some context. Op did not tell the manager until later. So the food got to the table.

[Unknown]

That is so bad.

[Shane]

I will say I was a little shocked. Cause I'm scrolling down and I see that the verdict is, everyone sucks here. And I was a little confused. Cause I'm like, no, you need to call that out. They spit in food, but they didn't. They let the food get to the.

[Tommy]

People, and they didn't do it in time.

[Shane]

You need to.

[Tommy]

You need to halt play immediately.

[Unknown]

You saw spit in it. Whoa.

[Shane]

Cause I was gonna make a joke.

[Tommy]

Sorry.

[Shane]

I was gonna make a joke before we started this of like, oh, someone's poisoned their food, whatever. Technically, in 2021, that could have been effectively a bioweapon. Right. Now, this could. It could severely harm anyone at any time in any. Right.

[Tommy]

You don't know what you got.

[Shane]

But this is particularly. It's even multiplied more.

[Tommy]

The fact that she still works there, the fact that everyone else at that job is like, oh, you snitch. I'm like, maybe get a different job. These people sound like they don't have.

[Shane]

Yeah, nightmare town. I want to know what this place is. I don't want to go.

[Tommy]

Right. Exactly.

[Unknown]

I don't want to go there.

[Shane]

This scares the hell out of me.

[Unknown]

It's a chain restauran.

[Shane]

It's a popular chain restaurant. I hope it's not Chili's.

[Tommy]

Chili's. That's what I thought.

[Shane]

I know. The buffalo sauce has me thinking it's chili.

[Unknown]

It's like some Applebee's shit.

[Shane]

You think this is Applebee's? Oh, you know, Yeah, I understand. It's gotta. I mean, I've never been in these types of situations. I've never worked these types of jobs with these kinds of steaks. Literally. We'll be right back. But, like, I know. I know that I am someone who would feel a lot of anxiety having to snitch on someone and I fear that I would chicken out in a lot of situations. This is one where I would hope that I would call it out very quickly. Cause that's so gross.

[Tommy]

Right?

[Shane]

It's so awful. I don't even know that legally what level that is exactly, but. Cause, like, there's places where spitting on someone is assault. So it's like, what is. Like, what could this be? I can't believe she still has her job. This. Yeah. Because everyone up and down is horrible right here. So there's some comments.

[Unknown]

Okay?

[Shane]

Everyone sucks here. You for letting her serve food with spit in it to a customer and waiting to report it to your manager. Her, obviously. For spitting in a customer's food over a very reasonable request. Your manager for not keeping your report confidential and not firing Tanya's ass for this. All of your co workers for thinking snitching is a bigger deal than being unsanitary, disgusting, and vengeful towards customers. That is 15,000 upvotes.

[Unknown]

And the stupid patron for not winning. A little hot sauce on your fries and potato.

[Tommy]

I liked it.

[Unknown]

Thanks.

[Shane]

Look, I sometimes dip my fries in hot sauce, but I am someone that. I don't like to have the sauce on the fries. You know, I like to have it the side.

[Unknown]

Like, would you send the plate back?

[Shane]

No.

[Unknown]

No, I wouldn't either.

[Shane]

I would just eat it. I gotta be honest. And this is on me. I'm not saying this is right. I am. I have too much anxiety.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

It'd have to be so bad.

[Tommy]

Exactly.

[Unknown]

I'm the same way.

[Shane]

It would have to be so bad for me. I don't think I've ever sent food back in my life.

[Unknown]

If it's clearly the wrong dish, I'll be like, oh, I think this is the wrong one.

[Tommy]

Right.

[Shane]

I shit you not. And this is. As someone who has no food allergies, no, like, food intolerances, when I get served the wrong, completely wrong plate of food in my head, I just go, well, maybe I'll like this one more.

[Unknown]

Wow.

[Tommy]

Aw, little baby.

[Shane]

And sometimes I discover it's really good. I'm also not a picky eater at all. Like, I have everything. I also have everything going for me where I'm like, I don't mind that much, but if I did care, it would take a lot.

[Unknown]

And watch this as the server. I'm not. Once it hits the table, I'm not taking that shit anywhere else. Right.

[Tommy]

It's yours.

[Unknown]

If it's on the table, I'm leaving it. But a lot of servers will fucking take that shit. And I'm like, no, no, no, no.

[Tommy]

Once it's at the table, you're supposed to leave it there.

[Unknown]

You gotta leave it there.

[Shane]

And so you just also bring.

[Unknown]

You also bring. But you don't take shit off someone. If it goes on another customer's table, you leave.

[Tommy]

It's a germ shit. It's theirs.

[Unknown]

And, like, just give it to them.

[Shane]

Right. Or you'd be going and throwing it away.

[Unknown]

Or you'd be going and throwing it away. That's ridiculous. Let them take it home.

[Tommy]

For the dog. Yeah, the dog.

[Shane]

For the dog. Someone replied to that comment saying, I can kind of forgive OP for not jumping in right away. I have social anxiety, and for me to draw attention to myself in the moment for something like that would be terrifying. Yeah. I mean, I'm not viewing OP as an asshole of the caliber of everyone else. No, they're all horrible for me. It's not even, like, an asshole thing as much as just like, here's what you should have done.

[Tommy]

Right.

[Shane]

But I understand. Cause I'm putting myself in there, and I'm like, I know. The anxiety I would feel, too, because this is the result they got that they were probably scared of. And it's unfortunate that people like this also make people scared to stand up to people.

[Unknown]

I wouldn't have gotten out of the kitchen if she did it in the kitchen.

[Shane]

She did it as she was walking out of the kitchen. But you would have stopped her and been like, you can't serve that.

[Unknown]

Yeah, I think so.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

Yeah. I was just thinking in my head if I would, like, what would be my lie? Cause I don't know if I would be like, your server spat on your food. I'd be like, a cup of bleach fell into the oil. You cannot eat that chicken or you'll die. I don't know. They wouldn't do that. But I'm like, I don't know what Lyle would cook up, but I would definitely try and get that dish back. I would definitely try and get it back.

[Unknown]

I don't know how I would do it.

[Tommy]

I'd put on a disguise.

[Unknown]

Yeah, Raven. That's a raven situation.

[Tommy]

Yeah. Like a guy who would tie a damsel in distress to a railroad track. Come on.

[Unknown]

Go.

[Tommy]

Nah, nah, nah. I'd take it.

[Shane]

I would have done, like, the Disney Channel thing where, like, as soon as it gets down, gets to there, I'd have been. I'd have run over and been like, oh, my God, a cockroach. And I, like, hit the Table hit the plate off the table and I.

[Unknown]

Go, it splatters all over them.

[Tommy]

Sorry.

[Unknown]

I guess I was wrong.

[Shane]

And then it's like I made it even worse.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Other comment. Someone said everyone sucks here. I am a server and have been for years. I have never seen anyone do this. And I work in a high volume setting with tough customers challenging us on the regular. Nobody has ever even joked about spitting on food. Your boss is an asshole for not firing her and for telling her who he saw. He should have just said he saw it on the cameras or that someone saw.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

It could have been a cook. She wouldn't know. Either way, she should not still have a job. And everyone who is siding with her is garbage.

[Unknown]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Tommy]

100%.

[Shane]

Yeah. Wow.

[Tommy]

Yay.

[Shane]

Unless it was that guy from earlier who ordered three drinks in a row, then spit in a spit, then it's all right. And then you. Then you give him the three drinks and you go, I spit in one.

[Unknown]

Of these and I poisoned the other.

[Shane]

One, poisoned the other two.

[Tommy]

And your baby is coming.

[Unknown]

You better hope you get my spit, baby. Sorry, sorry, sorry.

[Shane]

I was just like, you get food and they're just like, I spit in your food. And then you're like.

[Unknown]

And they're like, oh, no, thank you.

[Shane]

Okay, our next story.

[Tommy]

Okay.

[Shane]

Because I feel like the dates do sometimes matter here a lot. This came from. This is in fall of 2020.

[Unknown]

Okay, so.

[Shane]

Okay, so we're sorry. Summer of 2020.

[Unknown]

Okay.

[Tommy]

We're in prime.

[Shane]

We're in prime 2020.

[Tommy]

Annie. Okay.

[Shane]

All right. I feel like as a server, that's.

[Unknown]

Does it say what month?

[Shane]

Yeah, July 10th.

[Unknown]

And does it say where?

[Shane]

We do not know where yet. But this comes from relationship advice. My mom's rude customer turned out to be my girlfriend.

[Unknown]

My mom's rude customer.

[Shane]

So clearly Op's mom works as a server, complained about someone, turns out to be a girlfriend.

[Unknown]

Oh, shit.

[Shane]

This is a 21 year old woman who writes. Who's writing in. I'm 21 and lesbian. My girlfriend is 36 and bisexual. My mom had me young at 16, so she's 37 and works as a waitress at a high end steakhouse. I just moved in with my girlfriend two weeks ago after dating for two months. Moving in with her is a culture shock because she made close to seven figures last year. And I'm a struggling actress college student. So my mom is serving the lunch crowd and goes to meet a woman. This woman did not acknowledge my mom's greeting and interrupted her when she rattled off the specials. When her soup comes, she tells my mom her wallet costs more than what she made in a month, so be careful, okay? She snapped her fingers to get my mom's attention, but when she came without her beckoning, she rolled her eyes and said, will you leave me alone? At the end, when my mom asked if she could take her plate, she sarcastically asked if she had any other bright ideas. In the end, my mom went to take her Amex and saw the name on it and put two and two together. She got a very poor tip. At the end of it, she said she's given me the information and that what I do with it is up to me. I am in denial that my girlfriend would be like this. She's always been sarcastic, but in a very attractive way. In fact, the only problems we've had is that she sometimes comes off as flirtatious to others. And I get jealous sometimes because I can see she has a lot of options when we've gone out. She's been nice to the waiters. But my mom and I have a very close relationship and are very honest with each other. And I see that. The thought of anyone being rude to her. When I asked what the woman was wearing, my mom told me exactly what she put on this morning. So when my girlfriend got home, I asked if she did anything interesting today. She said not much. And I asked if she was in a bad mood and she asked why I would ask her. Now she's getting suspicious because I turned down sex. And when I tried to talk to her again, she said she was busy. What do I do to confront this issue? What can I do? If she was just having a really bad day and this was out of character, I love her a lot and she's been extremely generous to me. So I don't know what to do.

[Tommy]

Well, saying the wallet thing isn't in or out of a character. That is the character that's. You're not gonna say that. Cause you're like, I stubbed my toe, I have an expensive wallet and you're bad. It doesn't work that way.

[Shane]

And a whole hour of choices exactly like, yeah, this wasn't just a one off thing. Yeah, full on statements. It's like, oh man, I slipped up and I said that really nefarious villainous thing. I can't believe I did that.

[Tommy]

I need to clock 21.

[Shane]

36.

[Tommy]

36. And the mom's the same age.

[Shane]

The mom is 36.

[Tommy]

And they moved in at two months.

[Shane]

They moved in at two months. Heard and there's a, there's a power dynamic of the age and experience. But also her partner also is like making her partner's also a millionaire. So that's, I don't know, that's just throwing up a bunch of red flags for Bryan, obviously. Yeah.

[Unknown]

The power dynamic is not, it just.

[Tommy]

Sounds like a not ideal. I mean, there's a world in which that could be fine for someone or whatever, but like it sounds like a not ideal. Especially since we have this example of who this person is.

[Shane]

Yeah. You know, we've brought up like age dynamics before. And for me it's like once I in my 30s, I think back on myself at 21, but I'm just like.

[Tommy]

I was a little child baby.

[Shane]

I was like, I'm thinking like, oh my God, what I know now to what I knew then. And that's not to say that everyone at 21 is different.

[Tommy]

Everyone's got a different path.

[Shane]

No, there's like, I'm not insulting that. It's just, I don't know, it always just raises questions.

[Tommy]

Right.

[Shane]

But the seven figures, honestly raises more. Absolutely. To me. So with a $5 meal deal with new McValue, you pick a McDouble or a McChicken, then get a small fry, a small drink, and a four piece McNuggets. That's a lot of McDonald's for not a lot of money. Prices of Participation may vary. McDouble meal, $6 in some markets for.

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[Shane]

This is her girlfriend. Her girlfriend said all of this. I wouldn't be able to move past that.

[Unknown]

No, and I wouldn't be able to.

[Shane]

Move past that regardless of who the waiter was. Being rude to a waiter is like, that's one of those universals.

[Tommy]

Immediately, I'm Icked out. When someone is.

[Shane]

That's one of those quick red flags. It's like, all right, we're done here.

[Unknown]

Get out of there.

[Tommy]

Yeah, right.

[Shane]

Um. Horrible.

[Unknown]

I'm also kind of big on. I mean, I care about manners, and just like, I think most people care about manners.

[Tommy]

Mm.

[Unknown]

And so, like, there's also. This is a side note. It's also, like, at a table, you need to be able to, like. Okay, I'm going a little hyper specific here. But, like, when there's water on the table. Okay, I'm gonna take the water. This is a little hyper specific. But I'm gonna pour everyone.

[Tommy]

No one else's water first.

[Unknown]

Everyone's water first. Before I pour my own. Like, it's just like, I don't know. And I think, like, at Korean barbecue and Japanese barbecue, you can tell a lot about someone too, because you're sharing a meal and an experience and you're seeing how they. Who are they giving meat to first?

[Tommy]

Right.

[Unknown]

Are they putting it on their own plate? Are they turning it? Are they.

[Shane]

That's really interesting. I think about that, and I just think.

[Unknown]

I think a first date too. Korean barbecue or Japanese barbecue? Bitch.

[Tommy]

Oh, that's a good test.

[Unknown]

You can tell so much about a person. They're gonna put now are they gonna switch off who's cooking? What's the whole vibe?

[Tommy]

Who cook this time, how you do next time.

[Shane]

Yeah. I wonder, you know, like, dining is such a, like, ancient thing, and it's like one of the most interpersonal and personal things for human beings. It's a universal thing. It does tell kind of everything about a person, about how they act with other people there.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

But especially treating servers is just another part of it. It's just like. I think it's like the quickest way of finding out, like, how much this person. How much empathy they have. Absolutely. How much they objectify and dehumanize people. Yeah, absolutely.

[Unknown]

Or leave them alone. If I'm dining by myself, I'm usually not trying to connect with the server. I'm just trying to.

[Shane]

That's different. Yeah, that's fine. Yeah, yeah.

[Unknown]

No, no. But I'm saying she's actively not disengaging. She's actively being rude and sarcastic to this person who's just trying to give her her meal.

[Shane]

Yeah. And it's like, okay, this is what she thinks of a waitress there. What does she think of you?

[Tommy]

Yeah, exactly.

[Shane]

You know, it's like, are you just another non human to her?

[Tommy]

Exactly.

[Shane]

Comments. There is old advice that you should pay attention to how a new love interest treats people like waitresses who are strangers to her in a subordinate role who have no lasting impact or influence over her. There is also a significant age gap to consider given her behavior with your mother. I think that you will see other red flags in your relationship if you examine it. That has 1.9 thousand upvotes. Someone said you lived together already and she's never met your mom. OP responds, to be honest, we've mostly met her friends and family. Things just happened really quickly and she's never asked that much. Beyond the fact that I was raised by a single mom, I was actually thinking of arranging to go out to eat with her and my mom so they could meet each other. But my mom has a pretty unpredictable schedule and has been stressed.

[Tommy]

She never asked.

[Shane]

She never asked. Doesn't seem like she cares too much about oatmeal.

[Unknown]

No, definitely not.

[Shane]

Someone said, lots of people have bad days without being demeaning and disrespectful to others. You really need to think about if this is the kind of person you want to tie yourself to. For me, that would be an absolute deal breaker. I do not like spending time with rude, entitled assholes. It was good of your mom to give you the information and leave the decision up to you. It really is up to you to determine if this behavior is something you can live with or not. Lastly, someone said, I'm seeing more red flags here than the fucking color guard. Ha.

[Tommy]

Wow, that's great.

[Shane]

Yeah, I mean, that's just kind of one of those clear cut lines of just.

[Tommy]

Yeah, that's just.

[Shane]

And I mean to that level. Oh my God. I've never. I have. It's another fortunate thing of like, I have never been friends with anyone who has been rude to a waiter. But I think that would be. That'd be a deal breaker for anyone for sure. I mean, it's just hard. That's just crazy. Okay, update.

[Tommy]

Two days later Two days later Two.

[Shane]

Days laters I. Ooh. I worry that this could be a plot twist.

[Unknown]

Oh, no.

[Shane]

I just worry.

[Tommy]

I think they broke up.

[Shane]

You think they broke up?

[Tommy]

Well, I hope. I hope for the best.

[Shane]

Shit. Do you think I'm just kind of shocked after two months of dating, they've moved in together. This partner has never even seen a photo or anything of her mom.

[Tommy]

Maybe she did, but she was.

[Shane]

Oh my God.

[Unknown]

You think it's. You think it's. What's it called when you. When you think of a murder before you do it?

[Shane]

Premeditated.

[Unknown]

Premeditated. You think she knew it was her mom and she went in.

[Shane]

She was like mean to her mom on purpose.

[Tommy]

That would be.

[Unknown]

That would be insane. She's like, I'm her mother now. Oh well, I can take care of her in ways you never could.

[Shane]

That makes it so much worse. I didn't think it could be worse. And it was okay. There was a lot of tension between me and my girlfriend after I turned down sex the day before yesterday. I was clearly upset about what my mom told me, but didn't know how to confront her. She ended up disappearing into her study after the house manager finished cooking dinner and left. A house manager is a hired staff that oversees operations of the home. So yeah, this girlfriend is loaded.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

Okay.

[Shane]

She came out in going out clothes and didn't say anything to me. I asked where she was going and she said nowhere, just meeting up with some friends. I texted her a few hours later to ask if she was coming home to eat or if she needed a driver. She doesn't text back for a while until she sends me back a picture of a hotel drinks tab that was in the thousands saying she was paying for everybody. Then she stops replying to my texts. I don't know who booked the room or who she was with. I hear her stumble in at 3:30am and she reeks of booze and other random smells. She wakes up at 2pm and goes to her study. I go to her study and she doesn't acknowledge me for a good minute. She finally says, last time I checked, you were 21, not 12. Adults speak when they have something on their minds and tells me to come out with it. So I confronted her about being rude to her waitress. My mom.

[Unknown]

Oh my God.

[Shane]

She says that I have been sulky all week and she's been walking on eggshells since last Monday, even though I thought we were perfectly happy. Then she acknowledged she was at the restaurant, but said none of what I accused her of ever happened. She said that she was served by multiple people and said that at fancy restaurants, waitresses should know to only approach when the customer beckons. And she lightly recalls one of them breaking such protocol.

[Unknown]

What?

[Shane]

When I ask who she was with last night, she says she's getting bad vibes from this conversation and tells me to leave if I'm going to be a baby. Okay. Oh my God, you're an adult. Out with it. It's like, okay, what were you doing last night?

[Unknown]

You're a child.

[Shane]

You're a child.

[Unknown]

You wouldn't understand.

[Shane]

I'm pretty close to crying and she says she's been thinking and this relationship is giving her bad vibes and maybe I wasn't ready for an adult relationship and that she clearly misjudged my maturity. I start crying and saying that she was the most successful person I've ever met and I think she's too good to be true. And a long thing about how I felt she's too good to me. Which scares me now because everything I said was completely from the heart. She then says that when she met me it was like the stars aligned. She asks if the life advice she gave me was not helping, if this relationship already was not changing my entire life forever. She reminded me that I was living with four roommates and now I live like the 1% and she's helping put me through school. All great groundwork relationship.

[Unknown]

Like a good mother.

[Shane]

Like a good mother should, she said. She even introduced me to her well connected friends and when she told them how I was acting, they were so sorry for her. But she told them that bad moments happen to the best of us. I asked her if she would consider meeting my mom to at least talk things out and she said she didn't want to meet my mom right now. She wants to help improve my life. This morning she told me to pick out a dream tote I could use for next semester and joked I was becoming spoiled. I called my mom and she said I needed to stick to the things I knew to be true. And that she's never lied to me before. But what terrifies me is how unprepared I was for her reaction or how scared I was when she asked me to leave. I don't know what to do. I feel ashamed that I set out to get answers and I screwed up and now I feel ungrateful and like I'm self destructing my life. She still works extensively with her ex husband of 11 years and I feel like I'll never measure up to him. Okay. So much information.

[Tommy]

So much.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

And none of it good.

[Tommy]

No, no.

[Shane]

Not a single one of it good.

[Tommy]

This op needs to know that like a kush life with a hard person is not a good life.

[Unknown]

No.

[Tommy]

Like it doesn't even out.

[Shane]

Like no, not at all.

[Tommy]

It's giving groomer.

[Shane]

This is horrible. Yeah. In fact, her wealth and power is clearly only going to be used to torment you as she already is or to control you.

[Unknown]

Absolutely.

[Shane]

Exactly. I like how they basically out themselves. This girlfriend, when she's like, yeah, you know, you're acting like A child. I misjudged your maturity. I'm like, if maturity matters to you so much, date someone over. Date someone your age.

[Tommy]

My God.

[Shane]

Even the phrase, last time I checked, you were 21, not 12. Adults speak when they have something on their minds. Like, that is the most mom sentence.

[Unknown]

And it's to get a rise out of her and to get her. Now she's gonna say it because she feels like less than. She feels cornered. And she's like, well, I have to prove that I'm old enough to just speak my mind.

[Shane]

Yeah. And it's. As she is rewriting what was said in this conversation, her girlfriend is leveraging power against her. It's just like, hey, I'm having you meet my connected friends. I'm getting you through school. I'm doing all these things. It's like, if your partner is doing those things, they're not being your partner at all. They are actively in the moment, trying to control you.

[Tommy]

Absolutely.

[Shane]

This is absolutely so scary.

[Tommy]

I feel bad for how Op's writing, where it's like, yeah, I'm not grateful. And it's like, oh, you're falling for the spell.

[Shane]

And, you know, that's. You can't blame her. I mean, this is where so many people end up, right?

[Tommy]

Yeah, of course.

[Shane]

This is what a great manipulator does to people. Right? You do blame yourself. I mean, she's absolutely. This is textbook written out how people feel in these types of relationships. And it's hard to clock that of going, oh, wait, I'm talking this way. Am I wrong? But you're so convinced that you're the bad guy when you're in a relationship like that, you are constantly up against the ropes and you feel like, okay, I just gotta get off the ropes, and then we can assess this. But you're up against the ropes, and they know if they keep you there, you're never gonna be able to fight back. You're never gonna be able to say anything or even think for yourself.

[Tommy]

You're always in trouble. They'll always have the power.

[Shane]

Exactly. Update number two. Whoa. Oh, my God. Am I the asshole for refusing to choose between my mom and my girlfriend?

[Tommy]

Oh, no, no, no, no.

[Unknown]

Give it. Come on, let's.

[Tommy]

Can I get a chair squeak for that? Yeah.

[Shane]

Can you hear this in the mic?

[Tommy]

A little bit?

[Shane]

Yeah. All right.

[Unknown]

Can you hear this in the mic?

[Shane]

The chair is squeaky, but it makes my shoulders look big. It does. Sometimes it's true.

[Tommy]

If he's wearing the same color shirt.

[Shane]

Depending on the Shirt.

[Tommy]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Anyways, my mom served my girlfriend at the steakhouse she worked at. She said my girlfriend, who didn't know she was my mom at the time, was outlandishly rude and that she knew it was my girlfriend after she saw the name on her card. So after that I ended up confronting my girlfriend and we had a days long fight. Our first fight ever over this before things went back to normal. However, yesterday my mom calls and tells me she's been placed on leave from work because my girlfriend contacted the owner and and said that she exposed her information to a third party and that she felt her privacy had been violated. The restaurant owner happens to know my girlfriend in passing, a very distant acquaintance. My mom says my girlfriend exaggerated her tale to the owner, saying she rattled off numbers of her amex card to me and also exaggerated the stuff that my mom accused her of. My mom said since it is a she said she said situation, she needed me to tell the owner. She only described her general behavior and a few true comments that stuck out. I love my mom, but my life with my girlfriend is so intertwined at this point. No, no.

[Tommy]

I love my mom, but.

[Shane]

But my life with my girlfriend is so intertwined at this point. We're vacationing in the Hamptons, but I moved in with her back in Los Angeles where I am going to college. She's helped me book acting jobs and I only secured a future internship through her. My girlfriend literally got on her knees, cried and said she worked so hard for everything she had in life and what my mom said about her could have destroyed her and that she didn't want to lose me, so she destroyed your mom instead. When my mom called again, I expressed how angry I was that she was giving me this ultimatum and that I wasn't getting involved. She gets tearful and accuses me of resenting her for not giving me a privileged life. My grandma called me angrily and said that I was being a bad daughter who they didn't raise to become this. She refuses to listen to the fact that I'd be alone and possibly homeless if I chose sides. Am I the asshole? I feel like I should have the right to choose not to get involved in situations that are between my mom and my girlfriend. Am I the asshole for refusing to burn bridges when I don't have to?

[Tommy]

No, your mom, you should tell the.

[Unknown]

Truth so your mom doesn't lose her job.

[Tommy]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Cause that is the truth. She did not. According to her, she did not give any card numbers or anything. Yes, but also she's talking about like this is between the mom and the girlfriend. But the girlfriend took a conversation you guys had in private and took it.

[Tommy]

To harm the mom's life, which is crazy town.

[Unknown]

Which is. Am I the devil? Shit.

[Shane]

Yes. This girlfriend is awful to her. Oh my God, dude. I mean, okay, the girlfriend is absolute super villain level. I feel so bad for op.

[Tommy]

I do too.

[Shane]

Cause I also know the situation where she's in where she thinks she's the bad guy. So she's like, oh no. My perfect girlfriend who's doing everything for me. Oh, I just got. I was in reality. Also, we completely skipped over the Vegas going out at night.

[Unknown]

Oh yeah.

[Shane]

And sending a receipt. Being like, yeah, I'm buying drinks for everyone, getting home at 3:30am not talking about it.

[Unknown]

I'm like, what even is he made me drink.

[Shane]

I gotta be honest. Two months into a relationship, that's a deal breaker.

[Unknown]

Absolutely.

[Shane]

Why are we even talking about anything else? Absolutely. Like this story has. And I almost feel like it's part of the play of like you build up so much that you forget the little small things of like, oh, this one thing was the deal breaker, but you've layered it so hard that I'm losing track.

[Unknown]

It also felt like retribution for not wanting sex.

[Tommy]

Absolutely.

[Shane]

Yeah. That's a good.

[Tommy]

Because that's all this 21 year old kind of is to this woman, it.

[Shane]

Seems, which this is a novel of stuff. And I'm sure the comments are going to point out even more things that we missed because I'm. I'm losing track of everything. Okay, now what's interesting here is the verdict on this final update is asshole. That the OP is the asshole of the ultimate.

[Unknown]

The OP is an asshole now for.

[Shane]

Not telling, for being like, I'm gonna stay out of it. It's like, hey, right, you need to.

[Tommy]

Go help your mom.

[Shane]

You do.

[Unknown]

Telling the restaurant that she didn't share information. The girlfriend's not gonna get in trouble. They're not gonna call the girlfriend and be like, you lied about that and blah, blah, blah.

[Shane]

She's not worried about the restaurant. She's worried about a girlfriend. She is worried about making her girlfriend mad.

[Tommy]

Absolutely.

[Unknown]

But how did her girlfriend even find out?

[Tommy]

Well, we don't know that. She's just scared. She's so lost.

[Shane]

I hope a bunch of these comments were just like pointing out everything that is so clear to anyone who's reading this. We have one comment. You're the asshole. She completely screwed with your mom's livelihood and treated her horribly. But you're Siding with your girlfriend sounds like you are choosing money over family. Your girlfriend needs to call your mom's work and explain she lied. And then you need to seriously reconsider your relationship. If she treats your mom like that when she's mad, what will she do to you? This made me angry just reading it. I can't imagine how your mom feels. Most of the comments echoed this same statement.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

Yeah, she's deep in calm.

[Shane]

She's deep.

[Tommy]

Oh, man, that sucks.

[Shane]

That really sucks.

[Tommy]

I hope she chose to help.

[Shane]

This was many years ago, so I don't know.

[Unknown]

That is so fucked up that she's so trapped. She's like, I'm living with her. She gives me jobs.

[Shane]

It makes me so sad that so many people are in that, you know? And from the outside, it's so obvious.

[Unknown]

Just leave. So obvious.

[Shane]

It's hard not to just be like, what are you doing? But I'm like, they're not. They have been manipulated out of reality.

[Tommy]

Exactly. They're in a different, not real reality.

[Shane]

Well, poor person. Here's hoping that that turned out better. Cause we have no more updates. If anyone finds any sort of updates anywhere, let us know.

[Tommy]

Yeah, let us know about that.

[Shane]

Because I. I'm gonna be thinking about this one. All right, our final story. Okay, this comes from tales from your server. I still remember his Hawaiian shirt.

[Tommy]

Hey, could be cute.

[Shane]

It's been a couple years on this one, but it was still one of the most memorable days serving I had. It was maybe 2 in the afternoon, so the lunch rush had died. I was one of two servers on maybe three tables. Come in two top comes in a bigger guy in an orange Hawaiian shirt and a skinny girl in a casual dress. Guy is a bit loud, but obviously in a good mood. Orders his drinks super enthusiastically. He's a little annoying, but friendly. The girl looks a little embarrassed, but they seem to know each other. Two older women are eating near them and are finishing up. As I bring the guy and his companion their food. The guy points to the table with the women and asks me to please bring me their check. This is sweet, but not unheard of. I thank him for his generosity. He says, no problem. He pays their bill. I tell the women they're super happy. But then as I bring him the bill to sign, he sees a table of five sitting down. He orders a beer, says they are gonna be there for a while and to go ahead and bring him that family's bill too when they are done to speed this up, he ends up paying for 5 tables total. Besides his own while he was there. And he told me after the first table to not point him out. Just leave it anonymous. Four were two tops, and all were happy. But the five top was absolutely stunned. It was two parents and their kids, and I got the impression they didn't eat out a lot. But the mother seemed on the verge of happy tears. I still remember the dad asking for the bill and telling him, yeah, funny thing, there isn't one. I don't remember the exact numbers, but I made out really well that day. The other server too, he tipped me well over 20% on all other tickets and 100% on his own, which his own bill wasn't even that crazy and all, but one of the other tables tipped me as well. He finally left when the restaurant was empty about 3:30 and he was the last table. I wonder if he would have kept going. We all have our share of customers we hope to never see again. But I'm sad I never saw Mr. Flaming Orange Hawaiian Shirt guy again. He was a cool dude.

[Tommy]

Aw, that's awesome.

[Shane]

Wow.

[Unknown]

I'm like, who's paying for my bill?

[Shane]

You know what? I thought they were gonna explain something. It's giving, like, guy who just won, like, that's what I was thinking, like the laundry or something. He just won a scratcher of like 100k. So he's just like, let's go out to eat. He's like, buy theirs, I'll buy theirs. Yeah.

[Unknown]

That's sick.

[Shane]

Incredible guy.

[Tommy]

That's awesome.

[Shane]

Love that.

[Tommy]

That's so great.

[Unknown]

I've never had someone pay for my bill, but I've had a lot of drinks bought from me.

[Shane]

I've never had either of those. That's pretty cool, man.

[Unknown]

I've had the bill comped because I had lobster tempura and I took a bite of the lobster and then I was chewing and then I was like, what the fuck? And out of my mouth I pulled a rubber band.

[Tommy]

Oh.

[Unknown]

It was like in the tempura batter.

[Tommy]

Yikes.

[Shane]

Whoa.

[Unknown]

It wasn't that gross, but it was still like.

[Tommy]

It was still like, whoa. I could have eaten a rubber band.

[Unknown]

I was like, oh, God. I was just chewing on a. Yeah, yeah.

[Shane]

Damn.

[Tommy]

Yikes.

[Shane]

Have either of you ever been tipped 100% or, like, just a really, really awesome tip?

[Tommy]

Oh, sure. Molly Shannon.

[Shane]

Molly Shannon tipped you Hardcore.

[Tommy]

I don't know if it was like 100%, but like, she would come in all the time and she was a literal angel.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

A joy.

[Shane]

Let's go.

[Tommy]

On this earth the kindest woman. And she was always just like, hey, that's so awesome. She's amazing. She's amazing.

[Shane]

That's incredible. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Love that.

[Unknown]

A lot of big parties would just tip. It was already a 20% included and they knew it and they would just do another 20%.

[Shane]

That's cool. That's so great. That's really cool. Well, there are good people out there.

[Unknown]

There are. That's true.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

I'm glad we ended with this nice, positive one.

[Shane]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

We had the choice.

[Shane]

We were given the choice of do we want to end on positive or bad. And I'm very glad we ended. I'm very glad we ended on this and not the other story.

[Tommy]

This was great.

[Unknown]

Also, I want to know the woman that he's with. Story.

[Tommy]

I know.

[Unknown]

Who is she?

[Shane]

I know.

[Unknown]

That's a skinny legend.

[Shane]

I know.

[Tommy]

But he won the lottery.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Shane]

Well, thank you both for joining me. This was incredible.

[Tommy]

This was a blast.

[Shane]

And thank you for watching. I'm sure we have tons of servers who watch this show. Let us know your horror stories down in the comments below.

[Tommy]

Yeah, please.

[Shane]

I'm so curious. Are your horror stories but also your best customers ever?

[Tommy]

That would be great as well.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Tommy]

Let's balance it out.

[Shane]

Get some positive in the comments as well.

[Tommy]

Yeah.

[Shane]

As always, thank you for watching. Let us know what other themes and subreddits you'd like us to cover, and we'll see you next Saturday.

[Unknown]

Goodbye.

[Shane]

Goodbye.

[Tommy]

Gotta get my daughter a drink. She's gotta get lubed up. Otherwise, I fucking ain't a gun anyways.

[Shane]

God. Yes.

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