If you've ever had to protect your peace by walking away from a toxic family dynamic, you are not alone. In this episode of Sober Psychology, I am joined by my good friend Barbie Hahn to unpack the reality of the mother wound and surviving a childhood warzone.

We explore how different Enneagram types process trauma (7w8 vs. 8w7) , the unique pain of grieving a parent who is still alive , and how to reconcile faith with the necessity of hard boundaries. Barbie shares her incredible journey from escaping chaos to finding a steady anchor, and leaves us with one of the most powerful pieces of advice: how to be your own mom.

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Chapters:

0:00 - Introduction and Enneagram Survival Tactics (7w8 vs 8w7)

2:33 - Growing Up in an Unsafe Home

5:04 - The Impact of Losing a Parent Young

7:38 - Realizing Your Family Dynamic Isn't Normal

10:23 - Using Imagination and Avoidance to Escape Pain

12:58 - The Journey to College and Self-Discovery

25:49 - The Quest for Authenticity and Peace

30:41 - Coping Mechanisms and The Enneagram Influence

35:41 - The Impact of Relationships and Personal Growth

39:17 - Facing the Shadows of the Past

46:26 - Navigating Family Dynamics and Self-Perception

49:21 - The Struggle of Vulnerability

51:26 - Understanding Love as an Action

54:18 - Navigating Different Personalities in Relationships

56:13 - Facing Family Dynamics and Emotional Triggers

01:02:22 - Breaking Generational Patterns of Parenting

01:11:34 - Navigating Parental Absence and Anger

01:12:50 - The Challenge of Motherhood and Inner Child Healing

01:14:32 - Faith, Toxic Relationships, and Self-Parenting

01:21:26 - Grieving the Mother You Deserve

01:30:09 - Be Your Own Mom: A Call to Self-Love

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Barbie makes incredible content on her Instagram account. You can find that here.

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Grieving a Toxic Parent Who is Still Alive (The Mother Wound) w/ Barbie