Emmanuel Acho (35:58)

A woman. A black woman. Daily show sports. Do you all realize how hard it is to get into the position that she is in?

Julian (36:08)

Which position are you referring to, Emmanuel? Are you referring to the seat in which she sits between you on the set or the position where her knees are slamming against your earlobes? Hello. Let's continue.

Emmanuel Acho (36:23)

So often there's misogyny and sexism running.

Julian (36:25)

Rampant in sports and we not misogyny and sexism. Oh, shame.

Emmanuel Acho (36:32)

I don't even care what women have to say in sports. But Joy is not only in the position on television as a woman, as a black woman, but as an opinionist. So not just asking men what they think, but. But providing her own unique and distinct insight. It's hard to do. Enjoy. You have done it. So congratulations. Looking forward to working with you and hope y'all tune in. 4:30 to 6 Eastern.

Julian (36:59)

Well, looks like those nights of being barefoot enjoys crib with your feet on her couch. And the nights with Mr. Dixon and the attempts by Skip Bayless, Mr. Bales, which we'll get to in a second, have really paid off for Joy. And I know the easy, easy angle Here is of Julian classic misogynist here to shit on Joy Taylor. I'm not. I think Joy is doing what a lot of women would do. I think she's a career woman. She saw Lane this opportunity to be the attractive female on the show with all men that are. It's all testosterone. Testosterone build a lot of sports yelling. And she's the cute, pretty face that cuts through the tension and can placate both sides. Maybe sprinkle in an opinion or two. It can, you know, either be valued or invalidated. No one cares so much as to what she's saying necessarily. But her value, her added value does a lot to the show. But it seems like her added value was most being used off the show by the very people who she was colleagues with, by the very people she was working for. So, Joy, I don't have too much. I'm not trying to pile on to you. It seems like you have plenty of people piling into you. I only want to say you're a career woman. I hope this doesn't ruin it'll. It's going to hurt your reputation. I don't think that's a surprise. But I hope this doesn't ruin your career by. By any means. I also think this is another case of one of those, like, no shit, this is happening. We're talking. It's. It's Fox Sports that she was working with. Fox, the media conglomerate that pushes insane propaganda and falsities and is the. If you were to the poster child for misogyny of a news network. Fox News is the beacon of what you'd expect, a network you would expect. And I'm saying this is not exclusive to Fox. Obviously. We saw it happen with Matt Lauer everywhere. There's monsters everywhere. The network's reputation doesn't span to the people or the personalities that they hire. So obviously Fox is gonna hire a hot woman. And obviously the men in power are gonna try to fuck that hot woman. There's always a power dynamic. And, you know, I'm sure it didn't immediately start with, hey, if you want this job, you gotta blow the team. I think these things kind of take time. And as they kind of maybe goes from like a nice hug, hugs get a little longer. Hands start to lower down the, you know, the small of one's back. And then you get to the concept, the current situation where Joy was willingly having sex with these men, understanding what would come with that for her career, the advancement of her career. So it's interesting to see how these things play out the sad news, at least for me and other viewers, is they have her wearing sweaters now. They put the silencer on her. She's got a. She can't show the puppies anymore, which is tough her heavies. But you know, it's funny because you, yes, she's in this position and did she deserve it when she started? Probably not. But she's obviously shown her worth now. So now we're in that bind of well, she's here and she's doing fine. And even with all the stuff that's come out since, she's still doing the job and doing it at a high level. So it seems like the restructuring has to be done from within. And I do think there needs to be more of a priority to put women in these positions of personalities forming opinions and sharing. Not forming opinions, they're always, they're forming, everyone forms an opinion. But having the platform to share their opinion and not just be looked at as or not just be used as a concubine for a network, just have more value as a personality and respect it as a person rather than saying okay, yes, there is a job, there is a career, but with that comes your availability in the bedroom and my wants and needs as a man. So just, just some thoughts on that. Let's shift gears to Skip Bayless, the nasty white man involved with this case. So we can see here Faraji, that hairstylist, alleges that she started experience harassing harassment from Bayless while working as a full time hairstylist on undisputed beginning in 2017. Faraji says bales would give her, quote, lingering hugs and quote, kisses on the cheek before becoming more aggressive and direct with his advances which consist which she consistently declined. So now we look skip ahead. Four years later in 2021, she told Skibilis about a cancer scare involving her left ovary, hoping that he would back off. In response, she says he offered her one and a half million dollars to have sex with him. Let me repeat that. I have cancer. Maybe I'm terrified. Can you please leave me alone at twerk? How about a million and a half and I fuck you instead? Skip Bayless is just cut from a seasoned cloth that I don't think is made anymore. Those people are thankfully aging out. Skip Bayless. First of all, I'm not someone that pays for women. I've never bought women. That's. I never understood that. But I now fear for those that do. Skip Bales may have inflated the entire market. He created a value rate, a rate of his own that no one would play ball for. I mean, if he's playing one and a half million to have sex with a co worker to with a colleague, what does he pay? What's his going rate for a hand job? $250,000. What's the point? 54. A million is a pretty round number. A lot of things would get done for just a million flat. A lot of people would take a million dollars to do. Would you bet a minute? There's the classic idiom. What would you do for a million dollars? Would you do this for a million dollars? There's a reason why people say that. Adding an additional $500,000. What do you want to cuddle after? What do you expect to get with that extra $0.5 million? Unless you're, like, taking care of her cancer treatments, which I don't think you were implying by saying, can I have sex with you after she told you that? News, Skip. I mean, I just. It's so. It's so on brand, but it's so odd. And the one person I would have loved to have here, his reaction to if they were still on the show at the time, is our good friend Shannon Sharp. If this became a Club Shay Shay moment, that'd be great. Skip needs to do Club Shay Shay after this. I could see Skip sitting across from Shannon on Club Shay and Shannon just looking at like, skill. Ski, ski, ski. 1.5 ski. You gave her what? Ski, Skill, skill. It would be three hours of him repeating Skip's name, letting us know that there he's very much talking to Skip. It's not like when Skip left the show and he kept calling his new co host Skip. It would be a masterclass of comedy. It would pick up where Katt Williams left off. I would love to see Shannon Sharpe in awe, recounting that moment where Skip is obviously regretting everything that he did up to this point now that it's public. But let's see how that plays out. Hopefully there is an appearance on Club JJ coming soon. Hey, everyone, we're going to take a quick detour before we get into voicemails and I give you my intrusive thoughts. I have to give a special shout out to today's sponsor, Tequila 512. And I know what you're thinking, Julian. You only have one episode. How does this even make sense? You. You barely have a YouTube channel. None of this is real yet. Well, Tequila512 believes in my vision and believes in the creator. And they are supporting me today on my journey Guys, look at these beautiful bottles. I have a blanco over here, a reposado over here. All my friends know I'm a blanco guy, but I love the host. Got to keep a bottle of repo at the crib. Guys, this tequila is triple distilled and made with volcanic spring water. 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Caller 1 (47:58)

Julian, this is not what it was supposed to be. You supposed to tell people what was happening. I don't have many issues other than the fact that I just turned 30. Actually, I turned 30 a year ago, and I'm about to be 31, and I'm trying to figure out my life. I've had the Same job for 10 years now and make a lot of money, But I feel like there should be a pivot in my life at some point, and I'm trying to figure that out. But have a great life, and I have a great husband and a great, like, friend, family circle. But I still feel like at some point something's gotta give. Like, I'm about to jump out the window and become a rockstar or something. Like, something needs to happen. I don't really know where I'm going with this. I started talking, but, yeah, I'm trying to figure out what this means. And I don't know, but I just wanted to call to see what happened. Okay, bye.

Julian (49:05)

Well, thank you so much for calling. And shoot. Congratulations on being the first call I've ever taken on this show. I think you're in a really unique situation. Meaning, like, I mean, look, you said you have. And I have a transcription here. That's why I'm gonna keep looking at my computer. You turn 30, you're turning 31 soon. You have a great job, 10 years at a job. I mean, that alone is nothing to scoff at. I mean, that shows that you're good at what you do. You're obviously a career woman, you know, and you're succeeding in the field in which you, you know, your profession is. I think more often than not, I think when the older generation, like the boomers, like our parents, when they found that job. And, like, I mean, I can speak directly like my parents or People that I know that are older, they got that job, they rode that corporate ladder until the highest they could climb, and that was it. You lock in. You make that. That career, your life, that company, your life, not just the career, and you take that as far as you can go. I think we are our generation for about the same age. I'm. I look at. I get bored, and when I'm stagnant, I want a new challenge. And I don't think there's anything wrong with. Clearly, you could take, I think, your career and go anywhere in a field if you want to do a lateral move in terms of just being at a different company, getting a new. A fresh perspective, meeting new people, maybe, you know, doing something at a. At a larger company. I don't know what you do for work, then maybe that's the fix. But you did say you have a support system, you have a husband, you have great family, great friends, like great people to lean on, and they give you good advice. I think as you're going through whatever this is and what you're going through is very, very common. I mean, I'm living it right now as well. You. You also said in here. I don't really know where I'm going with this. I just started talking. I think starting talking is the first step into figuring out exactly what you want to do. Not like with the rest of your life, so to speak, but just in terms of what's going to break the mold from the monotony of what you're. You. You don't like about the current situation. And I think with a supportive system, with a husband, with family, with friends, be open with them, talk to them. And you talking to them isn't like a matter of. I don't think anyone can misconstrue this. Like, when I hear this, I don't hear it as depression. I hear it as, okay, I'm sure everything you have right now at one point was a goal and something you sought out in your life. I try to think 10 years back when you got this job offer, and then try to think over your 10 years every time you get a promotion, how excited you've come. Like, you've done all the things that you've wanted to accomplish in this version of yourself. And I think the beautiful thing is you're now at the point where while the ceiling was here at one point, 10 years later, now it's here, and you're realizing, I can go higher. I expect more from myself. And what's beautiful about your journey is you can. While you expect more for yourself, I'm sure everybody that loves you in your life will support you on whatever you want to do next. My advice with this is don't make any rash decisions. I think the fulfillment here would come from maybe finding a new. You said I'm playing the guitar. Do something. If it's not finding a new job, which it doesn't have to be. I'm not even trying to dump on your job. Pick up a new hobby. Let's lean into a creative outlet. You said. You jokingly said, you know, play the guitar. See what happens. Maybe pick up a guitar. Maybe there's a TikTok you have in a saved. A saved draft or a reel that you have that piqued your interest of. I've always wanted to try that something as, you know, something as small as an activity as knitting or whatever it sounds. You know, I mean, it sounds a little like. It sounds not exciting. But I think creating and doing something different and challenging yourself using your brain in another way than you're already doing it is the exciting part. Over 10 years and it seems like so much of your life is cocooned and like crystallized. It's formed into what you've made it. It's so comfortable that why not try something that brings some discomfort into your life? I think that's my. That's what I would go try something creative that brings discomfort. Go to take you have a husband, make him do some wacky shit with you. If it's as if it's as simple as take a pottery class or something as like crazy as let's. Let's go skydiving together. Just get. Jolt your system and then see what comes with it. I think this could also be a time not to push drugs on people, but this isn't a bad time to maybe expand your mind. I don't know if you. I'm not. I don't know if you smoke or if you are open to trying shrooms. But sometimes, like I'm not saying full send it. Go down a psychedelic trip where it just alters your chemistry forever. But maybe just like, you know, a baseline cap or two of mushrooms could expand your mind and just change your perspective on everything. And when I've done shrooms in the past, I think it. It hasn't necessarily changed. It changes my perspective on the world. But in terms of the perspective it does to me in my personal life, I think it helps me see how much the community and the people around me help me, give me the strength and the confidence to create and do, if that makes sense. I think the reason why I'm doing this right now is because of those people, like you said, your husband, your supportive system, your friends. To me, that's my friends, my brothers, my parents. Those are the people in my life that when I am at that level of discomfort and I think I've plateaued in a career or at a juncture in my life, I'll bring that idea to them. And they always say the same thing, like, look, we. We believe in anything you want to do. We know you're capable of doing anything you want to do. And we'll. However we can, we'll support you. And usually that support just comes from if I'm. If I'm calling, hey, I have an idea. I want to run this by you. And it. Just talking is so important into creating the version of yourself that you want to become and the next version of yourself. There's nothing wrong with who you currently are. You sound like you're making amazing money, you have a successful career. A lot of people would kill for a job right now. Shit, I'm unemployed. So, like the, The. You're. You're hitting all the. The great, the. All the. The peaks of life already. So with such a strong foundation, I think a jolt to your system would be fun. So, yeah, I don't know where you live. If you live near a beach, do like one of those polar plunges. Just do something to shake it up, break your routine and go from there. But good luck and thank you for calling. I would love to hear, after you try something out of your comfort zone, call back. And yeah, I would love to get an update, but good for you. I mean, that's amazing. Let's. Let's shake it up here. Let's get into something a little wacky. I had this call from Australia that I'd love to play out here. Let's see how this goes.

Caller 2 (56:50)

Okay. Weird. Voicemail. You know what? I'm Julian, man. I am all the way based out in Australia, and I just want to know if I should turn my girl. I got a case, man. I got a new girl. She's perfect. She's beautiful, she's white, and she don't know about. And my act. My ex girl is taking me to court right now, son. And she's taking me to court right now, babe, because I sent her and her brother some nudes of her sucking another dick. That's not.

Julian (57:26)

Whoa. How did you get these photos? Wait, hold on. Let's just continue. All Right.

Caller 2 (57:35)

Come on. Because she sent me because I was mad. So I ain't even supposed to be talking about this because my lawyer is still working on it, but let me know, man, am I gonna beat this case or what, man? Because, yeah, it's in court. I don't know, dog. But yeah, let me know what you think, man. Holler.

Julian (57:57)

All right. Well, I would have. Well, for starters, take your lawyer's advice and probably don't call about an ongoing case, especially when it sounds like you're the person that messed up here. I have so many questions. How did you get the photos? What were you trying to gain by sending her photos of giving head to another guy? Is this supposed to be a ooh, gotcha moment? Is this one of the cases where it's. You heard me now I'm going to hurt you or I'm going to expose you. I don't. You said. Okay, let's see here, let me read over this. You. You have currently a white girl. You said she's perfect, but she's very unaware of your current case. As perfect as your current situation is, it's. This isn't one of the cases where it's like, well, my past was my past, my ex is my ex, and I can move on. And now I'm. I'm a better version of myself. I'm looking forward to this current relationship that I'm in. You're in the middle of a. Of a case. You have a lawyer telling you literally not to speak about it. So your first thing that you do is grab the phone of a number that I bought like last week and call me about it. I mean, starter. Listen to your lawyer. Don't. And never said, never try to blackmail somebody I don't like. What is. That's an awful idea. Out off rip under any circumstances. Blackmailing. I didn't know you guys got down like that in Australia. You couldn't just, like, find a python or like a giant spider and put it in her bedroom or, you know, have a python eater, little mini shih tzu dog or something like that. You had to go the extremes of. Of this. I mean, you're in Australia, like, let a kangaroo loose in her new man's crib or something like that. He'll knock him out. I mean, this seems so unreasonable. I mean, I don't. I don't know what she did to you to hurt you. I really hope. However this case goes, and I don't know the laws in Australia, I really. I mean, why would I. I mean, it could be. What if it's like those prisons in, like, Norway where basically you get a Roku TV and it's like a five star spa experience. It's like going on a vacation. Who knows? I don't know if you do time for stuff like this. What is. What does that even look like? What's community service? In Australia, you hold baby koalas and feed them while they sleep in your arms. I don't know what a penalty in Australia is. You can't eat the blooming onion when you go to Applebee's. I don't know what that looks like. Don't. No matter how this goes, and it sounds like you made it very clear that you're in the wrong. I don't know how this can shake out, but say it goes bad and I don't know, this doesn't seem like it's a jailable offense, but at the very least, let's say community service or house arrest doesn't even make sense in this case. Say it's community service. I'm convincing myself that's what you'll have to do here. And you have a parole officer. I don't fucking know. I don't know. I wouldn't hide this from my new girlfriend. You said she doesn't. She doesn't know my past or any of the activity that I've been on. Toeing the line between, like, creating a new version of yourself and hiding, very hiding the things that you don't like about yourself from your current partner is a very slippery slope, especially in this case. And it usually comes back to bite you in the ass. I mean, from experience, I feel like when I was younger and I was hiding, like, I always dated mostly girls that I was attracted to were more like straight edge in terms of they drank a little bit, but they weren't really into the drugs. And when I was like in my big drug thing, I would. Drug thing. When I was doing all my, you know, coke, I would not communicate to them what I was. I just, you know, I just randomly come home or like bust in at like 4am with my heart, like fluttering. And then I'd get in bed and be like, did you run here? And I'm like, yeah, of course. I sprint everywhere I go. So even though that's not as extreme as this, there's still. You're still not being yourself. You're hiding the truth of the reality of who you are. I would just advise against that at all costs. I don't think this is going to go well. For you. I do think you're going to have to tell your. Your girl. I don't think you have to tell her, hey, I sent her a. I sent my ex a photo of her sucking another guy's dick. I don't think you need to say what you did, but I think she should be aware that you're. Hey, my ex and I. Something happened between us, and it's currently being handled by my lawyer, and hopefully that should be enough information. I don't know. She sounds. This girl, you, the way you've painted her. She sounds naive. It doesn't sound like she'd be the one to pry, but. I don't know, I just don't want her to, you know, say you're chilling at your crib one day and there's a bang on the door, and then all of a sudden, you know, Australians finest agents and crocodile hunters are at your crib, like, yo. Or taking you to the. To New Zealand. I don't even know. Where do you go? Because Australia was a prison, so technically you'd be going to prison on a prison, so I don't know, man. Good luck, dude. I would love an update if you have a. If they give you a phone wherever you get sent. Kudos to you, man. Next time I bust down a blooming onion, I'll keep you in mind, bro. I'm really rooting for you. And for the first caller, I mean, look, it could be worse. Could be in this guy's situation halfway across the world. All right, let's take another.

Jalen (64:06)

What's up, Julian? This is jalen. I am 27, living in SoCal, just dealing with a little relationship bump. Met this girl through mutual friends. Party connected pretty close that day. Spent the last six months just getting closer and closer. She told me she loves me. I reciprocated that feeling back. It feels right. It feels everything. But within about that month of talking, getting to know each other, she did lose her brother, her oldest brother, through suicide. Trigger warning, unfortunately. I know it's been taking a toll on her throughout. She's also one of the providers for her family, so I could just see that there's constant fight with her and everything felt completely fine up until about New Year. She said if something just slapped her in the face, and she says she just needs to properly grieve and needs face. We ended kind of on a good note. She expressed some concerns just about the relationship and why we wouldn't. Why she wants to step back as well as just focus on grieving. Yeah, I just not sure I've had it in the past where these things just kind of disappear after the fact, but I really do believe this girl is the one. And unsure. Do I fight it out. It's been about two weeks since I last three weeks since I last talked to her. Okay. Yeah, just real interested. I'm not sure where to go from here. Do I have faith? Do I hold up and. Yeah, just curious, but also hope you're doing well, Julian. Thank you.

Julian (66:01)

Well, thank you, Jalen. I mean, I'm. Well, let's. First let's condolences to your girlfriend or we'll figure out how to define it. But her brother, that's awful. There's never, I mean it's one of those. There's never a good time to lose anybody. Certainly a sibling in that way. But especially when you said it all came to a head around New Year's, which to me makes perfect sense. Holiday time is always the most difficult with losing a loved one. And it's tough like bringing in a new Year. Knowing your brother, this will be. You have like those things that go to this, the first official year that he won't, you know, we won't be together. But in your case, you said you're looking at a six month fling. You met her at a party, it happened fast. She, she led. I think that's a key detail. You said she said to you first, I love you. And you reciprocated, which is beautiful. That's all amazing. And then everything obviously subsequently happened. Unfortunately, you said you're looking at two or three weeks since you last talked to each other and she needed space and time. I'm curious, in this two, three week span, have you been reaching out? Have you been texting? My advice to that would be don't. I would respect the space that she asked for. I'm very curious to know how that last conversation went before she said she needed space. Death is always one of those things where people always want to. There's never a good thing to say. And there's obviously the problem. There's no solution to what happened. You can never be like, there's no, oh, well, thank you now I'm good. That's a lifelong thing, I think all you can do is. When she said I need space, that final conversation, I hope that it went for you. You were expressing how you'd always be there. You do love her and you mean it. And what love is, is being there for someone. One of the many things love is, is being there for someone throughout any phase of what they're going through. So much of the young love is the highs, and it just keeps. Everything feels like such, like a euphoric high. But then when a moment like this happens, there's still love to be had. Arguably more love to be needed in those situations. And this isn't a case where it's like love bomb, where you're checking in, like, hey, I. Let me send you this. I'm gonna send you dinner tonight, or, hey, I just had a dream about you, I'm thinking about you. None of that stuff that's overkill and that could change someone's perception of you and clutter their mind and kind of so, so to speak, give them the ick, I think. But the mature thing to do, I think love doesn't go away. I think love grows. I think she's suffering from losing a loved one that she, you know, you guys were loving romantically, but she's, you know, lost a love of a sibling. And obviously that takes priority to, I think, any other form of love in her life. And I don't blame her. I would as well lean into my family. Because you also have to think about this. If she does open up to you and confide in you, then she's also letting you in on a deeper level of love. You know what I mean? So say she keeps that separate. Say she doesn't feel express her pain and how much her brother's loss really hurts her. In a sense, she's kind of. She's protecting herself, but she doesn't want to let you in for the sake of potentially being hurt again in a different kind of love. So I guess, like, what I'm saying is, say she lets you into this level of pain and hurt expresses how she feels, is very open, which I'm sure you'd love. And I'm sure you'd be there for her. I'm not saying thing. This is a hypothetical. But then, you know, you two break up or God forbid, something happens to. To. To you. I guess in this case for her, then she'd have to go through that again. Like, I gave myself to this person in the. My darkest moment. I lost my brother. And so. And so later down the road, he dumped me. And now I'm stuck again with another loss of love. This is like her first. Not a test, but it's a real look at how much of Jalen do I want into my personal. Because you can love someone, but young love, we still protect our core. My parents, my brothers, I still keep them at a Distance if I'm in a relationship with someone to a certain extent. So I'm, I think she's probably going through that. I think you're, I think you're right to give her the space. I don't think you should apply pressure. Do you have friends of hers? Do you know her friends? You said you've been together for six months. You met at a party. Maybe tap the ear of one of her friends. Hey, how's, how's she doing? Hey, has she, you know, I just, I'm curious to just get an update on her. Don't go in there like, has she spoken about me? Just genuinely, because you sound like you care about her and you love her. Well, you do. Ask them how she's doing and then from there make an informed decision on if you feel comfortable enough or not. I don't think it's fair to create a timeline like, hey, it's been three weeks. Hey, it's been four weeks. I'm giving her till week five before I, you know, knock on her door. But I don't think you should lose faith. You said you love her, man. That's a beautiful thing. And to be that vulnerable with someone is a beautiful thing. And I don't, I don't discourage you to throw it all away because she's going through the, probably the most difficult time in her life. I don't think that's what love is, is to throw your arms up when someone's going through the most difficult time in their life. I think that's when you think about them the most. That's when you want to help them the most. And I'm sure, I'm certain that you do. But right now, she's just not ready for, for that. But you have to understand that that's okay and that sometimes love needs to operate at a distance, but it's still there. And although you may not be talking, I'm sure she's, she's thinking about you and I'm sure she cares deeply about you. You could do like the, the social media approach, you know, post a story, see if she's look like, you know, all the little tricks and tips that we know as, as the social media age kids. I really wish I had a better fix here, man. I've lost friends, close friends of mine have lost siblings to unaliving, as they say now. And my approach is pretty simple. It's always been the this again, this is a friend, not romantic relationship. But I love you and I'm here for you in whatever capacity that may be. And I know for me, most of the time for my friends, I'm like the comedic relief. So I'll just, it'd be weird of me to be the serious guy. So I know they lean on me to, for the escape factor, to laugh, to go do an activity or something, to go out, get a drink. You did say the conversation ended on a good note. So I would keep that, keep that faith. Keep that in mind. And I guess my advice would be, yeah, talk to, if you have mutual friends, talk to them. I'm sure one of them has been talking to her and could probably give you a clear answer where she's at mentally. Talk to, talk to your friends and your family and let them know I'm sure you've spoken to your parents or whoever about this girl in your life and there's someone in your life that's married or been in a relationship that can relate, that could also be there for you and, you know, give you more advice. In SoCal, you said you were in Southern California. I didn't speak about it earlier in the episodes, but my, my thoughts and prayers are with everybody that was affected by the, the fires in, in Southern California. That is. I hate how politicized everything's become and how we're in this era of, ooh, yeah, like the rich people in the Palisades, they deserve it. No one deserves to have their homes and their belongings and their memories ripped from underneath them. I don't care how well off or wealthy you are. It's, it's a, it's a tragedy. I hate that Elon and his right wing puppets are pushing the narrative that it's illegal immigrants and homeless people that are just lighting fires across the city and leveling neighborhoods to loot. Why would you. You're not going to loot anything that you charge to a crisp. That's not how that works. And then there's also the, the, the looting narrative, I would assume is also being pushed by insurance companies because, well, arson isn't covered in insurance. You want to talk about why do people hate the CEOs of insurance companies? Because you know that they are quietly sitting in their mansions that were untouched discussing how do we not owe anybody money on this tragedy that just took place? A natural tragedy that just took place. How can we make sure we do not pay a dime to anybody that lost their property? It was arson. They did it. They burned it up. They lit it up. So let's, that's our, that's our out. We don't Owe anybody a dime. It's awful. No one deserves this. Even if you are wealthy, a lot of people, I mean, most people live within the means that they're. That they make. So what I mean by that is even if you are, you know, even if you make $300,000, half a million dollars a year, you still live, you still meet at those means, which means you're most like, you need that money check over, check to live comfortably with your family, with whomever you're with. So to lose all that stuff, no one's prepared to just lose everything that hurts everybody that was affected. And I think it's really awful to see how divided and it's just the. The default seems to be celebrate pain and point the fingers in a way to make it politicized and make sure everybody that I think is evil continues to be perpetuated is evil, while the. While the very people that are always calling the shots are padding their pockets with every tragedy, everything that happens. So, anyway, thoughts and prayers are. There's a lot of good organizations and companies that are donating and providing supplies for the people, people of Southern California. And it is beautiful to see community step up among all the nonsense and fodder that has been smearing in all over the timeline. All right, I don't want to end on a dark note, so let's do one more that is light and we'll ride this episode out, guys. Thank you everybody that's been along for this first episode of Something Wrong with the Podcast. Let's get in this final voicemail.

Caller 3 (78:28)

What's up, brother Z? I only advice I really need is really, like, I've been dating my girl for almost four years now. We have a great relationship, Texas gray and everything, but ever since we've been having sex, she's told me that, you know, she wants me to start dirty talking, dirty texting. I feel uncomfortable. You know, I. I just didn't. Not uncomfortable. But I don't want to feel cringy. That's really my problem. I really want to know how you give it up. What makes you feel more comfortable in the bedroom, caught dirty. And like, do I not need to listen to myself? Because when I hear my own self talk dirty, it just sounds mad cringy and it makes me want to throw up. And I couldn't even understand how somebody would find that attractive. So maybe it's just all my head, but I do need some help with that. Thank you, Julian. Thank you, Juju. Thank you, Juju.

Julian (79:29)

All right. It's a fun One. Okay, well, clearly, lesbian couple, four years. Love it. Love is love. It's amazing. I. Your girl finds you attractive. I know what you're saying. The thought of your own voice and the thought of hearing yourself get like, orally being sexy, saying it out loud is cringy. And I look, I completely agree with you. I have never been the guy that's like, ooh, yeah, or it's just even like falsifying it. Saying it right now just sounds. I can't even like if just look at me and hear me beat, I'm beating that pussy out. Like, that sounds absurd. It doesn't even. That's. I hate myself for even saying that. But you do have to remember you're four years in, your girlfriend loves you. And I'm sure she finds a lot of things that you think about yourself that are cringy, I'm sure she finds sexy. Especially when you're. You're nose deep, you know, in the bedroom. So I. Look, maybe, maybe if it's not dirty talking, maybe there's a different form of talking that would work for her and also work for you. I know that there's. What do you call it? The people that just give the compliment, they like the praise kink. So maybe your niche is a praise kink where you, while she's doing her thing and you're saying you're giving her praise, you're picking her up, you're making her feel good about her performance or whatever she's doing to you, that could be like, ooh, boil those dildos. So like, maybe that's your thing. Maybe it's not a matter of trying to sound sexy, but you reassuring her that what she's doing is in turn satisfying you. And maybe that's also what you prefer. If you think it's weird that she's dirty talking you, then maybe you ask her to, you know, reciprocate the same energy for you when you do a move or you do something with her that's romantic, or you do something in the bedroom, she's giving you compliments or like, I'm about to come, or like, keep doing that. Like all those kind of like directives, praising language. I personally, I like that, but I, I can't even front. I'm with you on the I. Dirty talk is it. It is cringy. I'm not knocking anybody. That does it for me. It's just not my bag. Hearing my voice, it's like you, I feel like you have to change your tone. Like me just saying it in My tone just sounds. It just sounds weird. I am curious to know, like, how freaky does she get in that? You said she likes to also dirty text. Texting is a little easier because at least there's a barrier there in terms of it's not like a call and response where, like, you say something, she says something. It's not, you know, instant texting at least gives you the. The space to think about what you want to say and how you want to say it. And it's also not you speaking. It's her reading it. So it's kind of like writing a, you know, like a sexy little. A sexy little novel, like a erotica. But you did say, you know, I hate. I hate hearing my own voice. It sounds mad cringy. It makes me want to throw up. You're throwing up in the bedroom is not. Not a good idea. You can't throw up on a dildo. I feel like that's contaminating it. It's probably not a good idea. Yeah. You know, try the praise. That's my advice. Praise. Kink it up. Tell her she licking the shit out of you, and then you lick the shit out of her. She says the same thing back. Just keep licking, bro. You can't talk if you're licking. The real thing is, why are you talking? Something should be in your mouth. You're in the bed. If you're being romantic, you. Neither of you should be talking. Throw some plastic in your mouth or throw some lips on your mouth. Like something should be plugged. You shouldn't be exchanging much words, if any at all. Every hole needs to be. This is your fix. Fill every hole. Can't talk with your holes filled. I'll leave you with that. There you go. Work on that. All right, everybody. We did it. I want to give a special thank you to all the callers for today's episode, the first episode ever. You are cemented in history on something wrong with the podcast. I want to give a thank you to everybody listening and watching. Continue to share this. Let's continue to build this community. And you can expect a new episode every Tuesday. Audio at 4:00am, video on YouTube at 8:00am same day. And we will continue to keep this rolling. I have more planned in the coming weeks, but for now, just keep an eye out for me. We'll have an episode every week. Talk soon. Enjoy your week. Sa. Sa.