What can you do when your old coping mechanisms, like people-pleasing, no longer serve you?

This week, I’m tackling a listener question from a mom of two young kids who’s juggling work, caregiving, and household responsibilities. As a recovering people-pleaser, she finds herself falling into a pattern: doing too much, silently resenting her husband for not doing more, blowing up, and then feeling guilty about it. Sound familiar?

Here’s the thing: this isn’t about who’s good or bad at “helping.” It’s about navigating an inherently imbalanced season of life and learning to partner better - together.

In this episode, I talk to this listener about:

Why the old coping strategies of independence and people-pleasing aren’t working anymore (and why that’s totally normal).
How to start the hard conversations about sharing the load, even if it feels awkward or scary.
Practical steps for turning resentment into teamwork, including breaking the habit of “doing it all.”
Why this kind of honest, ongoing communication is the key to long-term balance and connection.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the mental and physical load of your household while your partner coasts, this episode is for you.

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