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Caller
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Stav
Are you playing me off?
Mo Money
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Stav
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Caller
Then full taxes and fees extra. See mint mobile.com oh man, dude, I'm in a pickle, dude. Okay, so I'll try and add some context for like where the story begins. So my girlfriend and I, we recently, I mean not recently, but we graduated college, moved to a city together. Things are going well, you know, like I really care about this girl. I want to make it work, but for the life of her, she just can't like keep place of things. No object permanence. Okay.
Stav
Getting a baby. She closes her. You play peekaboo. And she's like, ah, Eric, more money. Where did you go? You're like, it's here. I was just putting on a hat. Anyway, go ahead.
Caller
You know, so in the moving process, ended up losing some important documents, like Social Security card, right? So I was like, ah, man, that shit sucks. Like, you know, probably talk to your mom, get a new one. You know, that shit can be replaced. So.
Stav
Right.
Caller
That happens. And then like a month later her mom comes to visit us, right? And then I come, you know, I pick her up from work, meet her downstairs. And then she's like, you know, making small talk. She's like, oh, by the way, how did you hear back from the police yet? I'm like, what? What do you mean?
Stav
That's awesome.
Caller
She's like, you know, the, the report. And it was like, no, what the. And then my girlfriend comes in, like, ushers her away, like kills the conversation.
Stav
I talked to her.
Caller
Apparently she told her mom that she lost her stuff because her purse was Stolen.
Stav
Hilarious. Like, she was too embarrassed to admit she just. Oh, man, that's hilarious.
Caller
So now her mom, she keeps, like. I don't know, she just keeps sly digging me about it.
Stav
Your mom does? Her mom does.
Caller
No, her. Her mom.
Stav
Right. Her mom does. Yeah.
Caller
The way she told the story is that I was there, her purse was stolen.
Stav
Oh, my God. That's really funny. She was like, yeah, we were at a. We were at a bar, and a guy stole my purse right in front of. And he just. He pissed his pants. Actually, can you actually get a new Social Security card and a pair of 36, 32 khakis? Because he pissed all over them. That's insane, dude. That she made you look like a pussy in her story, dude.
Caller
And I just got, like, in her defense, right? She has good reason to not be forthright with her mom. Like, her mom's, like, just a little unhinged. Like. So, like, I. I totally get why. But ever since then. But wait, and that's a month after it allegedly happened, right? The entire time her mom was over to visit, she's just like, saying about, like, oh, how you need to be able to protect my daughter.
Stav
Holy.
Caller
And then flash forward six. Like, I'm the type of person to, like, you know, I'll just take the L. Like, that is what it is. You know, keep it moving.
Stav
Yeah.
Caller
But then the next time she visits, like, six months later, she keeps digging at it, and it's like, she won't let it go.
Stav
Here's the solution. Ready? Get a gun. Get a gun and then point it out and be like, is this enough to protect her, you mouthy old cunt? I think that's what I would do, you know? And then it. And then fire around, right? But whiz her ear right by her ear and fire it into the wall.
Caller
Just get a fucking saber. Yeah. Open. Carry a sword.
Stav
Yeah. The next time she comes to visit, be on the front lawn doing samurai sword drills.
Caller
Yeah. So, like, my question is, like, I don't. Like, what the fuck do I do here? Right.
Stav
Yeah.
Caller
Like, because I. I really care about her. I really want to make this work. I understand her mom is difficult at times. I don't want to throw her under the bus. But also, like, if something long term is going to work here.
Stav
Yeah.
Caller
Feel like I can't have her thinking she. I'm a massive pussy, so.
Stav
Okay, so just to recount the facts of the case, you. What are you, in your mid to early 20s? You just graduated and you moved to another city?
Caller
Yep.
Stav
And you guys.
Caller
Latter half of 20s.
Stav
Okay. Okay. So, you know, mid to late 20s. And. And you guys were dating in college or you dated at. What's going on there?
Caller
How long have you been together dating for? Coming up on three years now.
Stav
Okay. So, yeah, you're getting to a point where you're at an age and a point where it's like, yeah, this could really be very, you know, this could be it. This could be very serious. I think there's a couple. Look, if this is what you want. Right. There's. So there's two parts to your question, is like, how do I determine if this is, you know, someone I want to be with? And then how do I handle this if this is someone I want to be with? I think you have to have a conversation about this in terms of like, hey, like, I guess my question is, has your. What. How's your girl? What has her attitude about this been? Every time it comes up, is she like, God, I'm so sorry I said that. Like, I said, I didn't mean to throw you under the bus. My mom's being annoying towards you, or is it more just like, oh, yeah, I mean, you know, I had to do what I had to do, I guess. Let me. How is it. What's her attitude about the collateral damage to your reputation on her lie? How does she look? View it? Yeah.
Caller
So I will say I have talked to her about this a few times now because, again, I keep. Her mom just keeps bringing it up.
Stav
Yeah.
Caller
And it's. And she's. She is like. Mortified is probably the word. Like, she's really embarrassed. She's probably very embarrassed that I'm even having this conversation. This is a Patreon episode, right?
Stav
Yeah. Yeah. Don't you worry. And we won't clip it.
Caller
We're good guys, you know, the most honorable Mediterraneans I know.
Stav
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. So mortified is good. Mortified is good.
Caller
Yeah. She's embarrassed and she's like, I'm sorry to put you in that position, but it kind of is what it is.
Stav
And is there any world where she just admits to her mom that didn't happen? No.
Mo Money
How unhinged. This from.
Caller
I feel like a lot of historical context there.
Stav
Yeah. I mean, what are we talking about? How fucking insane is this bitch? You know, like, is she violent? Let me ask you that.
Caller
No.
Stav
No. Okay. Okay.
Caller
No. But she's a lawyer, so, you know, she doesn't need violence.
Stav
Right, right. Psychological violence. She's a domineering presence, basically. I mean, just the fact that she's bullying you about. Well, I got to admit, if I was. If in a hypothetical world where my daughter was dating a guy and he let a guy snatch her purse, like, here's the other problem here is that the original sin here is your girlfriends. It's like, just admit she's so scared of her domineering mother that who probably her mom's probably type A and your girlfriend sounds like a spaced out person. Which, listen, you want to talk about lost important documents you're talking to. I mean, I lose everything constantly. I completely identify with your girlfriend here, but she kind of immaturely was so scared of her mom that she came up with a lie that threw you under the bus. Even though this woman is, you know, kind of annoying. Whatever. I kind of. I see where she's coming from. My girl, my daughter's boyfriend let a guy snatch her purse. He didn't do shit about it. Now you could argue. So you have to basically, if there's no world where your girlfriend just says, look mom, shut the fuck up, I lost it. Ok, Stop telling him about it because of, you know, this could, this could be a moment where your, your girlfriend has some agency and is like, you know what? I was. I will. I didn't want to. I didn't want to just tell you I lost it. It got lost in the move. I knew you'd be annoying about it. I made up this fucking lie and now you won't fucking stop hounding, you know, you about it, right? If your girlfriend won't do that and you're okay with her not doing it, then this is like you have to pretend it happened and you have to say to her, like, basically, unless you think your girlfriend can have this moment of growth, which by the way, I think would be good for her and I think it's not fair to put you in this position. But if you, ironically, what you're doing here is protecting her by being accused of being a pussy in a twist of irony here. And if you're okay with that, if you don't want to get your girlfriend to confront her mother, then your only option is to pretend like you did it and act the way you'd act. If, if you actually allowed someone to snatch a person from your girlfriend and if that actually did happen, I would be. You would be mortified. And then you would just be like, look, I will never let that happen again. It's one of my greatest shames in the world. I will promise you I'll never happen again. But you have to stop bringing this up. It was a mistake. Whatever. Whatever. Those are your two options though. If you're going to cover for your girl, then you have to go full and cover for your girl and pretend you let someone steal her purse in front of you and now act the way you would have acted if that happened. How would you be, how would you make up for this? And then you have to actually do that.
Caller
See, that's the crux of the issue because ultimately I do get where she's coming from. If I was in her position with her mother, like I would make that, I, I would admittedly maybe make a better lie.
Stav
Of course.
Caller
No, she the one that doesn't implicate me. Of course, of course.
Stav
Why did you have to be there? It's a lie. Why did you have to be like, why couldn't somebody just take.
Mo Money
Anyone could have stolen her purse anywhere.
Stav
Any play at the gym. Someone could have taken her purse from a Planet Fitness locker room. Why was it with you? It's just, it's crazy.
Caller
You know? And the other side of it is like again, I. If I thought if I was in her mom's shoes, 100 get it? I'm calling that guy a pussy.
Stav
Yes, yes.
Caller
You know, that makes sense. But the, the issue is, is that when I lied, when I like try and play along again, she's a lawyer. She's like starts like deposing me and like cross referencing. She's like, oh, so what the guy look like? And I have to like speculate who this suspect is. She's like, oh, well why, why didn't you guys police report, right?
Mo Money
Here's, here's what I. Here's what I would do if I was you. Mo Money. I think you should play along with it and think of go go like.
Stav
You know, it was a immigrant. I'm glad ICE is doing what they're doing. And now you start another. Now you start a different argument. That's what you do.
Caller
So listen, you joke just describing Elvis.
Stav
That's exactly what he wants. So you know what I've done? You know what I've done, Sandra? I've done. I've enlisted in ice. No. And now I will protect her and the whole country from this immigrant menace.
Mo Money
No, I'm with both of you. I think you should think you should play along with it and think of this as high level trolling. Because lying to her about this does give you some kind of power over her because she thinks you're a fucking pussy who didn't do shit. But you're like, this dumb bitch thinks she's so fucking smart, right? She thinks she's little. Little does she know this should never fucking happen. My girlfriend just lied for some weird random reason, but now I'm, you know, now she thinks she's got the drop on me. But this bitch doesn't know jack shit, right? She's a shitty lawyer. And just play along with it, man. Go. Go over the top and, you know, just confuse her shock and awe her with. With a bunch of crazy lies.
Stav
She's clearly a good lawyer. He can't do that. You would fold it a second if you tried to do that.
Mo Money
No, I wouldn't.
Stav
I feel like I prom would start.
Mo Money
With just straight apolog. Like over the top, apologetic.
Stav
How long ago is this.
Caller
Now? It's been about over a year.
Stav
That's what I'm saying.
Caller
She visited like three weeks ago and it came up again.
Stav
So basically. Yeah, that's. That's why, that's why. My point is, your options are your girl has to just face it. And by the way, I think that's good for her. I like, we. We talk about this all the time on this show where it's like hard conversations are hard for a reason and you always feel better after having them. I. But whatever. You don't want to do that. You want to. You want to protect or you want to take the. If you're going to take the L, take the L and just. You're a pussy who fucked up and you're like, you know what? You're right. I am a pussy. I did fuck up. I will never let it happen again. Please, you have to stop bringing this up. It's been a year and a half.
Mo Money
This is why I don't think that's. This is why. I think that's not an option for you anymore. It's been a year. If I was that mom and if she was as slick as you're saying, I'd be like, what? That's ridiculous. They're just telling me this new lie to try to cover up that he was a pussy. Like, that's so weird.
Stav
Why would you be like episode of Curb youb.
Mo Money
Why would you be like, mom, I've been letting you scold my boyfriend for a year because I was too embarrassed to say that I lost my passport.
Stav
You know why? Because she's the type of person that scares people like, like this. I don't think that's that crazy. I think her and her daughter, she also knows her daughter. My mom knows when I lose, dude. My mom's not. Like, I've lied about losing stuff because I'm embarrassed because I remember being yelled at when I was 7, which is probably the reason this girl lied to her mom anyway.
Mo Money
You tell me, Mo Money, do you think she would even. Like. I was about to say, would she buy that? But it's not even a lie.
Caller
I have a distinct feeling that she knows something's up, and that's why she keeps pushing the issue. Yeah. Now I just feel like I'm. I'm going down with the ship.
Stav
I gotta be. Yeah. It's like, if.
Mo Money
If that's the case, if you think, like, she's hip to it anyway, then, yeah, maybe Stav is right. Maybe you should just, like, just tell. Force your girlfriend to come clean and be like, look, your mom's being a cunt every time she's over here. This shit is pretty fucking annoying. You just got to fucking talk to her because you're an adult. And, you know, don't drag me into this because I look like a bitch in front of your mom.
Caller
Yeah.
Mo Money
And that's just a bad look.
Stav
Yeah. Alternatively. And you know what's funny is in your question, my money, it's like the implicit. The implied real question is, should I just break up with this bitch? That's really what's at the heart of this, is like, she's fucking made me look like a pussy, or mom's fucking annoying, like, is this even worth it? And I do think it is if she's willing to just fucking make up, you know, like, make up for this. Because otherwise, you also don't want someone who's like. Like the. The. The. The husband who is subservient to his mother is like, a classic archetype in, like, culture and society, whatever. Like, the mommy's boy who can never tell his mom no. But the same is true of a woman. You know, like, anyone who just cowers in front of their. Their parents as someone who's almost 30 is pathetic.
Mo Money
Yeah.
Stav
And your. Your girl has to be cured of this, and this is a perfect opportunity because ultimately she fucked you in this. You know, like, if. Look, if it didn't involve you, maybe she can get away with it. But this is a real. It is kind of a. Like, what if we get into the future and there's a real fundamental argument about how we live our life, whether that's having kids, moving to a different city, whatever that me and her mom are on different sides of. Is she gonna just side with her mom? Because she's scared of her and expect me to be a fucking bitch in the like towards her mom because you know what would happen if this was me? The third time this bitch got in my face, I'm like, she fucking lied. I didn't fucking do it. You think I'd let some fucking asshole take it? She fudgeing, lost her thing and she scared you because you're a fucking bitch and you keep bringing shit. That's what would happen to me. There is no way I would be able to take this. Right? But I'm also an emotional fucking guy who's willing to blow things up for very small, sad, very, very, you know, satisfaction that doesn't last long. You know what I mean? But anyway, that's, we've kind of gone around this a bunch of times. We basically have dissected what your options are. How do you feel about your situation.
Caller
Man, I just, I would love to work past this. I would just hate if like, we get married five years from now. This is like still a recurring joke.
Mo Money
The mom, the mom's bringing it up in the speech like, no, no, here's the thing. Delivers some.
Stav
Let me tell you something.
Caller
It will be, it's bad, man.
Stav
It will be. No, that's what I'm saying. It's like, look, is it fair for your girlfriend to have to like, confront truly her most fundamental demons here because she panicked and told a weird lie? No. I feel bad her too. But if it's, this is anyone's fault, it is unequivocally hers. She, by the way, we haven't even gotten to the fact that she's the fucking idiot who lost her Social Security card. I haven't even lost my Social Security card. I've lost everything else. I've always kept that. So she covered her mistake with a lie that throws you under the bus and you're risking being pussy purse boy for your whole life to your in laws. It is symbolic. You know what I mean? Like, I, I, I, I just think the truth must come out if you are going to feel. And I think, by the way, I don't think you're admitting how much this bothers you. I think you're just like, you're, you're hiding in the general, like, oh, you know, is this relationship really gonna last? I'm pretty. You know, you're kind of like, oh, how do you know someone's the right one for you? That's not what you fucking wondering. You're wondering, like, how do I get off of this? Am I Like, that's not what's bothering you. You don't have. If it isn't for this. You don't really have doubts about this girl, do you? This is the first thing that actually fucking has actually caused a real rift, I'm. I'm guessing.
Caller
Yeah, sorta. I mean, there's definitely been other things going on. And I mean, this does bother me on like, some sort of meta level, but in reality, it's like, what? What? Like her mom is already, like, somewhat distant. Like, so it doesn't bother me that much. Like, as. Like, what does it cost me? You know, this is already.
Stav
You're already seating. You know how cucked that was. Well, it's only going to be annoying every holiday. And, you know, I don't see her day to day. It's not a problem. But like, you are. That's you just being like, all right, I'm. You're resigned to taking this loss you don't deserve. And look, let me tell you something. If you see it as an act of sacrifice for the woman you love, there's almost something noble about that. But it has to really not bother you. I'll tell. Like I said, we're different guys. I get that. And again, I'm projecting. And I can only tell you my perspective. And honestly, like, elders, how would you feel about this? I know I couldn't handle it. I know it would eat me alive. And I would make it a simple. Because even look, I might be overdoing it. I admit that Mo money, me raising it to the symbolic. Like, it's a symbolic issue. That will mean whether she sides with you or her mom in the future. It might not be in the future. She might side with you and I might be getting ahead of myself. I know I couldn't handle something like this.
Mo Money
I don't. I don't think. I don't think I would, like, think of that heavy symbolism that much. It's like, ok, just a weird moment of weakness where she made a horrible judgment call. Sure, I could live with this for. Honestly, up to six months. I can live with it for.
Caller
The time element is brutal.
Mo Money
I could live with it for up to six months. And I'm like, all right, I'll just take my lumps. Her mom's being weird about it, but whatever. When you're talking about a year when this is a defining characteristic of your personality for their eyes, in her, in the mother's eyes, like, that's like, okay, we need to like, you know that that would be too much to Bear. And I'd be like, you gotta tell your mom because this is crazy.
Stav
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Mo Money
She just thinks.
Caller
Yeah.
Mo Money
She just was making this assumption about me based on, you know, also, what.
Stav
Even is the lie that some guy violently yanked it out of her hands and you as you cried? Or is it that you were even at a bar and you just didn't see someone take.
Mo Money
Yeah.
Stav
You know what I mean? Like, how is she still this mad?
Caller
Well, it's tied into politics a little bit. Like, again, we move to the city.
Stav
So she's like, yes, spooky. See what happens when you go to a lib? So maybe the ice thing would work with this woman. It sounds like, you know.
Caller
Yeah. The problem. It's. It's weird.
Stav
I don't know.
Caller
It's. It's.
Mo Money
Okay. That's a. That's an important detail.
Stav
Look, dude.
Caller
Yeah. And it's like, the reason I said it doesn't bother me is because, like, I know who I am. Right? Like, I know that, brother.
Stav
Whereas I know who I am is.
Caller
Something I genuinely believed that happened to my daughter. I get where she's coming from.
Stav
Right.
Caller
You know, dude, it's like.
Stav
I'm just saying I know who I am. Is not something. Is not something somebody says when they're not mad. I'll tell you that much. I know who I am. It does. That doesn't bother me. Fair?
Caller
Fair.
Stav
So look, we've covered it. You know what you need to do and you need to decide. Either resign yourself to a cucked life in your mother. In your potential mother in law's eyes, or your.
Caller
Your girl has to confront Albanian and get a gun.
Stav
Get. Yeah. Or get a gun. Get a gun and pretend you're more conservative than you are. Either way, you're gonna have to. Either your girlfriend is either gonna have to fix her mistake or you're gonna have to live some kind of lie for the rest of your life. Those are your options.
Mo Money
Yeah.
Caller
You know. All right, well, you guys have given me a lot to think about. Perfect.
Stav
All right, brother. Good luck out there.
Mo Money
Good luck, Momo. Yeah.
Stav
Stop letting people rob your girlfriend, you piece of massive. See you, dude.
Caller
The streets are saying peace.
Mo Money
Bye. Damn, that's so funny.
Stav
So basically, his girlfriend panicked and said Republican talking points.
Mo Money
I know. That's what I said. She told a Republican lie to appease her mother.
Stav
Right.
Mo Money
Because she knew not thinking about the.
Stav
Fallout, the natural fallout that would occur.
Mo Money
You made my fucking daughter move to this big metropolis.
Stav
Black guy took her purse and you let him.
Caller
Yeah.
Stav
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In this Patreon bonus episode of Stavvy's World, Stavros Halkias hosts a live call show, helping listeners untangle personal dilemmas with his signature mix of empathy and cutting wit. The central segment showcases a caller grappling with an ongoing issue: his girlfriend’s white lie to her domineering mother inadvertently makes him look weak—and now he’s stuck with the consequences. Stav and his cohost (“Mo Money”) dissect the situation, debating strategies for truth, confrontation, sacrifice, and the dynamics of setting boundaries with parents.
Stav (01:31): "Getting a baby. She closes her... you play peekaboo. And she's like, ah, Eric, more money. Where did you go?"
Caller (02:58): "The way she told the story is that I was there, her purse was stolen."
Stav (03:03): "That's insane, dude. That she made you look like a pussy in her story, dude."
Caller (03:32): "She just keeps sly digging me about it."
Stav (04:18): "Here's the solution. Ready? Get a gun... and then point it out and be like, is this enough to protect her, you mouthy old cunt?"
(Stav immediately laughs and acknowledges the absurdity, setting a playful but pointed tone.)
Caller (06:44): "She is like... Mortified is probably the word. Like, she's really embarrassed..."
Stav (07:03): "Mortified is good. Mortified is good."
Stav (07:17): "Is there any world where she just admits to her mom that didn’t happen? No."
Stav and Mo Money outline two options:
Stav (09:08): “If there’s no world where your girlfriend just says, look mom, shut the fuck up, I lost it... then your only option is to pretend like you did it and act the way you’d act if you actually allowed someone to snatch a purse from your girlfriend... But you have to stop bringing this up. It was a mistake.”
Stav (16:41): “Your girl has to be cured of this, and this is a perfect opportunity because ultimately she fucked you in this... what if we get into the future and there’s a real fundamental argument... is she gonna just side with her mom because she’s scared of her and expect me to be a fucking bitch towards her mom?”
Mo Money (21:21): “I could live with it for up to six months... When you’re talking about a year when this is a defining characteristic of your personality for their eyes... that would be too much to bear. And I’d be like, you gotta tell your mom because this is crazy.”
Stav (22:48): “I’m just saying ‘I know who I am’ is not something somebody says when they’re not mad. I’ll tell you that much.”
The hosts pepper the advice with tongue-in-cheek suggestions for how to “prove” his manliness or troll the mother, including:
The hosts reach a consensus: Either the caller accepts the fate (embraces the ridicule, for love, as a form of sacrifice), or—far healthier—his girlfriend must find the courage to confess the truth to her mother. Stav highlights the symbolic danger of never establishing adult boundaries with parents, especially as the relationship becomes more serious. The episode closes with wry commentary on how a “Republican parent’s” anxieties about city living can ignite chaos far beyond a missing Social Security card.
In true Stavvy’s World fashion, the session mixes serious observation with relentless, affectionate roasting and biting sarcasm. The advice is real, but it’s never delivered without levity or an eye on the underlying absurdities of family life and relationships.
For those who didn’t listen: This is a thoughtful, funny dissection of what happens when small lies meet big personalities in adult life. Listeners get practical wisdom, cathartic humor, and a reminder that “hard conversations are hard for a reason—and they always feel better after.”