Stavvy's World – Bonus #168: Tony Deyo [PATREON PREVIEW]

Date: February 19, 2026
Guest: Tony Deyo
Host: Stavros Halkias (with Eldis and Tony Deyo)

Episode Overview

In this lively bonus episode of "Stavvy’s World," Stavros Halkias, accompanied by co-host Eldis and guest Tony Deyo, answers a caller’s tricky and personal relationship question. The focus: how to talk to a long-term partner about wanting to use a larger sex toy without causing insecurity or offense. The hosts dig into male perspectives on sexual insecurity, gender roles, and honest, constructive communication in relationships—with characteristic humor, candor, and plenty of laughs.
Theme: Navigating sexual communication, insecurity, and the use of larger sex toys in long-term relationships.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Caller’s Question: How Do I Bring Up Wanting a Bigger Toy?

[01:17 – 03:53]

• The caller explains her libido has increased, and she wants to discuss using a bigger dildo with her boyfriend—who is "a few inches" smaller than the toy she has in mind.
• She expresses concern about damaging her boyfriend’s confidence and wants advice on how to bring it up in a "sexy," non-threatening way.

2. Stavros’s (Host) Initial Take: Men & Size Insecurity

[03:58 – 07:52]

• Stavros (often addressed as Kenny by co-hosts jokingly) immediately empathizes with the boyfriend, calling it "very tough stuff."
• He differentiates between being okay with vibrators for their unique function ("I can’t vibrate, that's science") and being asked to use or accept a larger, cock-shaped toy, which he finds threatening.
• Quote:

  “It’d be like being mad that my girlfriend wants to take... antibiotics instead of your chicken soup. The antibiotics do something my fucking remedies are never gonna do... Where the line is for me is when it is purely cock size.” – Stavros ([04:33])

3. Eldis’s Counterpoint: All Tools are Tools

[07:52 – 11:47]

• Eldis is surprised by Stavros’s strong reaction and suggests that all sex toys are just tools to help enjoyment.

• He argues that if a toy can help a partner orgasm, its size shouldn’t matter unless it’s used as a form of comparison.

• He maintains it’s not inherently threatening if your partner is seeking a different sensation.

• Quote:

  “Anything that helps your girl nut in bed is good, that's a positive. Men can get cagey about it... but that's stupid because it's just a tool.” – Eldis ([08:05])

4. Philosophical Divide: “Is a Bigger Toy a Threat?”

• Stavros: Equates requesting a bigger, lifelike toy to implicitly saying, “I wish your cock was bigger.” He sees this as crossing a line—turning insecurity into existential threat.
  • Quote:

    “A bigger dildo that is just my cock, but bigger, no. I don’t think... I would do okay with that, personally. There’s no way to phrase that sexy, in my opinion.” – Stavros ([07:05])

• Eldis: Insists it’s still just about the partner’s pleasure, not comparison, and notes that women’s needs often differ more than men’s.
  • Quote:

    “I think all dicks just basically work the same... I think pussies are much touchier.” – Eldis ([14:30])

5. Analogy & Banter: Highlighting the Difference

[08:47 – 16:05]

• The hosts use analogies—“antibiotics vs. chicken soup,” “nail gun vs. hammer”—to argue whether introducing larger toys is like replacing, rather than supplementing, a partner.
• Stavros takes it further:

  “You use my hammer. You don't just use a bigger, thicker hammer.” ([11:45])

• The discussion heats up; laughs and exasperation ensue, but both recognize they are expressing personal boundaries and insecurities.

6. A Call for Pragmatism: Advice for the Caller

[16:53 – 19:03]

• Both hosts agree the key is to frame it around specific needs (e.g., G-spot stimulation) rather than size comparison.
• Concrete advice:
  • Focus on the functional goal (finding a toy with a shape good for G-spot stimulation).
  • Avoid language that compares the toy directly to the boyfriend’s anatomy.
  • Start with a toy of similar size and shift gradually if needed.
• Quote:

  “If you frame it as G-spot finding... get a dildo that’s very specific. Even if it ends up longer—great, but don’t frame it as, ‘I want a bigger dick.’” – Stavros ([13:31])

7. Notable Reflections on Relationships

• Eldis notes that over time, sexual needs in relationships change, ebb, and flow.

• Both hosts acknowledge that a partner's request for a different experience should not be automatically taken as rejection.

• Both underscore the need for honest communication—and a little tactical finesse.

• Quote:

  “Sexual seasons change, wax and wane so much... Maybe she wants to try this now. Maybe it'll be different in a year.” – Eldis ([16:40])

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On relationship security and tolerance:

  “Maybe this is the difference of a man who's actually has a real relationship and me, just a man thinking.” – Stavros ([14:22])

• On compromise:

  “We can meet in the middle to give this girl advice after a heated partisan debate... We've debated on the Congress floor. It's time to work together.” – Stavros ([17:11])

• Joking about classic toys:

  “What happened to old-fashioned dildos? What happened to Spencer's Gifts dildos?” – Stavros ([12:04])

• Light-hearted conclusion:

  “In a perfect world, this guy’s got a shoulder-mounted dildo that he's fucking you with in a couple months.” – Stavros ([19:26])

Important Timestamps

• 01:17: Caller asks how to discuss bigger sex toys with boyfriend
• 04:33: Stavros discusses male insecurity and "antibiotics vs. chicken soup" analogy
• 08:05: Eldis advocates for using any tool that brings pleasure
• 11:45: Analogy about nail gun vs. hammer (toys vs. body)
• 14:22: Comparison of relationship perspectives
• 16:40: Eldis on changing sexual needs over time
• 17:11: Joint advice: frame the conversation around specific needs, not comparison

SUMMARY

In this episode:
Stavros, Eldis, and guest Tony Deyo debate the sensitive issue of introducing a larger sex toy into a long-standing relationship, focusing on how to phrase the conversation to avoid hurting a partner’s ego. The debate gets humorously heated as Stavros articulates classic male insecurities, while Eldis brings a pragmatic, tool-centric view. Ultimately, the group agrees that the conversation should focus on specific sexual needs (like G-spot stimulation) and be steered away from direct comparison. Communication, honesty, and tact are essential.

Best Advice for the Caller:

• Focus on the function (e.g., G-spot) rather than size
• Avoid direct size comparison language
• Gauge your partner's feelings gently, and introduce new toys gradually

The hosts show, through their own banter, how even tough conversations can be navigated with empathy, honesty, and humor.

For listeners seeking advice or insights on handling sensitive sexual conversations with their partners, this episode delivers both practical tips and a hearty dose of relatable laughter.