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Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Yeah, my girlfriend does pole dance. Like pole fitness, workout, stuff like that. I love it. Have a great time going. Go to all like, the shows, the recitals, all that fun stuff.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Dude, it's so funny. They have recitals. It's grown women stripping without their tits out and their families fucking clapping. Yeah, very interesting. Okay, keep going.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Yeah. So the thing is, she does want to invite her mom and sisters to this to kind of show them what she's been working on, the strength and the beauty of her art. And I have a hard time sitting next to them while they're performing. Especially her mom. Her mom comes from like a real small village in Southeast Asia. Never really had pole dance classes and recitals out there.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Okay? Why did your fucking pole dance? Hold on. It ain't because she's from fucking, you know, Laos that the problem. I mean, your fucking mom didn't have pole dancing classes either. So let's not, let's, let's not be xenophobic here.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
I'm just saying this was a whole new culture and she had no, no, hold on. Idea.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Answer the question.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
She was coming into.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Did your mom have pole dancing classes?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
My mom was wild.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Oh. It was 70s. So the answer is yes. All right. I stand correct.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
She was very. She. She lived in Portland for a while, so.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
All right, hold on. Sorry, man. We don't want you digging too deep, so I rescind my case. I, you know. Withdrawn. Before you object, counselor, I withdraw my question. Ok. Nice. Your mom sounds fucking cool, dude.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Farrah Foster look alike. But anyways,
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
talk about your mom a little more you said she was wild. What kind of shit did mom get into?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
But yeah, I just don't know how to sit with her mom who's wide eyed watching Jake's hairy ass up on stage at these recitals. And like she won't even look me in the eyes. I tried telling her, like, your mom's not about this scene. She goes because you tell her to go. But she is not comfortable out there. And I guess. Is there a way for me to let her understand that? She just doesn't seem to understand that her mom doesn't want to be there. She wants us both there to support.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Why does. Okay, this is interesting. Why does this bother you so much? This isn't. Is it just how uncomfortable are you just someone who's not comfortable sitting in awkwardness.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Oh, I feel horrible. I mean, her mom is wide eyed, awkward, laughing, and I just don't know what to tell her. Like in between dances, be like, yo, that was pretty sweet hearing that girl's ass clap, wasn't it?
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Yeah, but you said they don't show kids. What are they. Aren't they. They don't show. They don't get naked, do they?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
No, but I mean they're twerking up there. They're spinning around in scantily clad clothes. And yeah, you can definitely tell she was. She was not ready to see that kind of stuff. She was ready for like a Zumba class.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Okay, but why do you being so prudish about this woman? Your girlfriend's mother. Your girlfriend's mother's experience. Like, why do you feel the need to sort of protect her? You know what I mean? Like it's an interesting like. Ok, because I get what you're saying. It's an awkward situation, right? But it's A F. What, 90 minutes tops. You know what I mean? Like you're in and out. It's not really your business. Your. Your girl, clearly. What's your girlfriend's relationship with her mom in general? Is it good?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Family dinners. So I mean, we gotta talk about like our family dinners after the sexy dances to WAP and whatnot.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
So you. Okay, what I'm hearing is there's something really important to your girlfriend, right? Something that she wants you and her mother to witness. But because you have to do a little awkward small talk, you like, it's a problem. I just like, look, who gives a fuck? I guess my question is who gives a fuck? Do you and her mom have long beautiful conversations about anything else? Like what? Like what is? I just don't understand What Truly, what the problem is, other than it's a little annoying. Her mom is a little, you know, it's just something you chuckle off and you talk about something else. Who fucking cares?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Been like, the past two times have been real bad where
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
you're throwing dollars at our classmates.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Oh, you know it. You know it. I'm up. They got me up on stage one time too. So, yeah, I just have a hard time letting loose at one of these things. I got to do my polite little golf clap after all of these performances.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Yeah, okay, so let her mom get
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
too excited at all.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Oh, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. Do you not like this either? Is that what's going on here? Are you using the. You love it.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Just don't like going with her mom, who's clearly uncomfortable, and we both want to support her, but she really doesn't want us to support her on, like, you go this time, I go this time. She wants us there together.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Okay, so there's a couple things here. The number one thing is your girlfriend being maybe a little inflexible. So, okay, so they clearly have a good relationship. Like you said, you go to family dinners. Is your girlfriend kind of like the spoiled kid of the family who gets whatever she wants? Because I was thinking originally, oh, oh, this is a domineering, you know, immigrant parent, but it sounds like her mom is doing whatever she wants. Are you. Is your girlfriend the bossy one in this equation? And you feel bad for her mom because this is just one of a couple type of. This type of behavior from your girlfriend's. From your girlfriend. Does she kind of steamroll her mom in general
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
just with this one thing? She really wants her mom to go, and she will get quite upset if she doesn't. Or if I don't go to one, say, oh, your mom's going to this one. My tummy's a little upset tonight. I think I'm just going to sit this one out so I'll definitely hear about that.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
So it's just this one thing. So other than this is your girlfriend doesn't really ask for much is what you're saying, but she said this is really important to her that you're both
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
there, that we're both there watching her and her friend Sexy dance. Yes.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Well, listen, bro, I don't know what if that's the case and your girlfriend is otherwise very reasonable and her and her mom have a good relationship, but she has this hobby that she really likes and is proud of and you haven't even said it makes. I mean, you're saying the. It makes the mom uncomfortable, but really the problem is you have to deal with the mom's perceived uncomfortable uncomfortability or whatever. It's really the real problem you have is it's a little annoying to deal with her mom, who's flustered at this thing. But if it's very important to your girl and you presumably get the sexual benefits of a pole dance, a girlfriend who is addicted to pole dancing, I think you just need to shut the fuck up and take some awkward small talk and learn how to move on and ask your, you know, your girlfriend's mom about something else. Be like, huh, yeah, that was a pretty crazy. But, oh, it's. It's good exercise. You need to learn how to be a fucking PR guy here and pivot to other things. But you're just complaining, complaining about an annoying conversation. And I don't really see what the big deal is, if I'm being completely honest. Am I. Am I off here? Elders, how are you?
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
How are you? That's how I'm feeling. I mean, what's coming to my mind is if you think her mom is uncomfortable with this, even though it is just, like a harmless thing, it's not really sexual. It's like going to see a belly dancer or something. You know, your dick's not getting hard there or whatever. And I think, you know, you should think if her mom's uncomfortable with it, maybe you can sort of be a team player like Stav says. Be a cheerleader. Be like, oh, isn't that fun? Ooh, look at. Look at your daughter. That was so good. Just do shit like that. And maybe, you know, for this one session when you'll be there with a mom, restrain yourself from getting super, super, super into this pole dancing class performance.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
You don't get horny.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
You're not. You're not at the strip club here. You're just in the audience.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Yeah. They pulled you up.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
Yeah.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Is the real problem. You want to be up, but you're.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
Why were you on stage last time? That's a big question.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
What do they have you doing on stage?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
They gave me a whole little instruction on how to twerk and.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Oh, okay.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Yeah. You know, I had to ham it up and.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Yeah, okay, okay. Hold the. Hold the phone. Pull out the. Shut the ups.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
With all the other.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Can you not hear us or what is this going. What is going on?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
You can hear us.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Okay, shut up. You're hamming it up. This woman has Taken a fun, gently horny activity and turned it into an annoying two hours with your. With your mother, potential future mother in law. That's your real problem. This was fun for you. You were even up there fucking spreading your ass cheeks in your khakis and now you can't do that because it's too important to your girl to have both you and her mom there. I think you just need to fucking take one for the team here, bro. And just realize this seems to be a serious relationship. You're clearly close to her mother. You're going to have a lot of weird shit with in laws, bro. There's a lot of just negotiating annoying afternoons with in laws or evenings or activities. Given that it's very important to your girlfriend for this, you just got to shut the fuck up. I don't really see this as that big a deal if I'm being honest. Does that. How is. Are we being too harsh? How are you responding to this?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Oh man. Yeah, it's. It's a little. She. It's just her mom won't even talk to me afterwards or during. She. We usually go to dinner after the performance and her and her sisters are laughing it up and. But yeah, her mom is almost in like, geez, like she's seen a ghost.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Okay.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Just quietly eating dinner.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Why is this your problem? Why isn't this? You said her sisters, so for until now I thought it was just you, the mom and the girlfriend. Which I will admit puts you in an awkward position. But if this is a larger group, we're talking two sisters too.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Yeah.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
So you're. You're there. I guess my question is why? Look, if her mom doesn't like it, her mom doesn't fucking like it. Her mom likes it enough to be there. She's not. Not coming. So I don't understand why you feel the need to. I don't know, it's just very. Of the two people involved, girlfriend and mother. I think it's way more important that your girlfriend is having a good time and her mother is, you know, it's. I don't know. Is there something I'm missing with you? Like why do you give this much of a fuck? Why is it like, I get it while you're there. Oh, that was awkward. But why now, presumably weeks afterwards? Is this on your mind long enough to ask advice for it? I think it's just something you gotta. You know what I mean? You gotta.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
We got more coming up.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
You got more of these?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Just wondering. We got more recitals and we have Like a dinner, fundraiser type deal that she invited us all. She already bought us tickets.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
She loves this shit, huh? Well, listen, if her mom has a fucking problem with it, if her mom has a fucking problem with it, her mom can talk to her about it. This is not your place. That's my ultimate ruling here, is that this is not really your place. You know what I mean? Like if, if the woman clams up completely, yeah, you can talk to your girl or her sisters about it, but it's ultimately not really. There's something going on in their relationship. And to me, you matter the least of everyone in this equation, and you're kind of, you know, if you're a little uncomfortable, I say move forward. Your girlfriend's doing tricks on your dick because of these classes. Think about that when you're. Fuck. When you see, you know, a nice older East Asian woman, you know, being fucking, being like mortified. Be like, you know what the. She's paying a price and I'm cashing the check. You know what I'm saying? Her daughter can now twitch individual ass cheeks, and I get to look at those bare ass cheeks while they, While they hop up and down. That's what you need to be thinking. Not, ah, geez, her mom's a little uncomfortable.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Just don't want her mom to be thinking the same thing, thinking, oh, my daughter can do all those tricks on that. Next to the guy I'm sitting right next to.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
She's a fucking grown woman. She's had three fucking daughters.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
Her daughter's fucking her boyfriend.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Yeah, what are you, a fucking baby? Shut the fuck up, dude.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
You're way too horny.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Yeah, I don't know what's going. I don't understand the fucking problem here. Yeah, I do think this is ultimately deep horniness because you're seeing this as like a too scandalous an activity to share with your mother in law when really it's kind of corny. It's way cornier than it is sexual. And if she can't handle that, then, you know, that's her problem. But let her daughters figure it out. You just shut the fuck up. Suffer through a fucking, you know, an hour and a half recital, and then try and have a good time at dinner and not if she's a wet blanket. You don't have to catch. You don't have to also be like glum during that dinner.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Okay, I get that. I feel that. Should I. Should I keep my hooting and hollering down to minimal then? Or should I really just let it all out. Be throwing them dollar bills like no other.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
See, again, this is the real problem. Like I, like I diagnosed earlier, you have a great time at this thing and your mother in law is, is sort of dimming your light. That's probably. That's true. Right? If she wasn't there, you'd be going buck wild. Correct.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Oh, yeah, I have a great time. Okay. This is love all the performances.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
This is the actual issue. You're gonna have to tone it down maybe a little bit. You know what I would say? Take your cues from her sisters. That's what I would say. Be kind of, you know, supportive. If you want to be a little less horny, that's fine, but still be supportive. Ultimately, her mom's a grown woman. It's important to your, your girlfriend. If they have a real issue, they can handle it. Not your place as the boyfriend. I banged the gavel. That's the final ruling.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
I will sit there in silence and look forward to a good dinner afterwards.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
There you go. There you go, brother. That simple. Good luck, man.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
Good luck. Shake and bake it.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
We'll see you in Seattle.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
And hey, how about this? Go to a strip club, Go to a shrinkwell. Your mother in law won't be there. You know what I'm saying?
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Oh, God. Yeah, yeah, we got that planned. We're going.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Well, there you go. You're living a fucking charm boy.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Way good down there.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
All right, dude, you're. You're doing good. You're up there in the Pacific Northwest. You got a, an Asian girlfriend that's I'm going to guess, hotter than you. You got no fucking complaints in this world, man.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
That's what Seattle's full of. Just mid white guys with hot Asian girlfriends.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Exactly, exactly. You're not a sympathetic figure because you 90 minutes of annoying conversation with your girlfriend's mom. Good luck, pal. Keep enjoying.
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Thank you. Will do. Take care, boys.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
Good luck, dude. Wow. Interesting. That is interesting.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
I really, really, to be honest with you, do not even fully understand his problem.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
I know, it's so weird. He's like, I can't contain myself when I'm at this. It's like, but she's fun recital for a pole dance.
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Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
She, she's awkward. It's like, okay, the.
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
Just don't be weird.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Is she fun the rest of the time? That's the other thing. How much different is it than normal?
Host 2 (Advisor, more empathetic)
I know.
Host 1 (Advisor, blunt and humorous)
Yeah, I think he probably is just too horny,
Caller with Pole Dancing Girlfriend
Folks.
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Host: Stavros Halkias
Date: March 5, 2026
In this bonus Patreon preview of Stavvy's World, Stavros Halkias and his co-host take live calls to dish out their signature blend of advice and hilarity. The main call featured in this segment involves a listener struggling with attending his girlfriend’s pole dancing recitals—especially when her traditional mother is present. The hosts dissect the awkwardness, challenge the caller's reasoning, and deliver tough love, punctuated by their signature banter and humor.
This episode is a classic dose of Stavvy’s World: an awkward real-world dilemma, roasted and dissected with ruthless empathy and wit. The consensus? Sometimes, supporting your partner means gritting your teeth through weird family moments—and not making someone else’s awkwardness your problem. If you’re looking for laughs and real talk about managing in-law discomfort (especially when pole dancing is involved), this one is not to be missed.