Bonus #184 - Peyton Ruddy [PATREON PREVIEW]

Summary

Stavvy's World — Bonus #184: Peyton Ruddy [PATREON PREVIEW]

Host: Stavros Halkias (“Stav”)
Guest: Morgan Stewart
Date: June 11, 2026

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Episode Overview

This bonus episode of Stavvy's World dives straight into one of the show’s classic, candid listener voicemails: a male caller seeking advice on a tricky case of workplace sexual harassment—nudes, drunken texts, and the complexities of gender expectations in HR complaints. Stavros, his co-hosts, and guest Morgan Stewart break down the situation through their signature blend of sharp honesty, humor, and surprisingly solid advice.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Listener Scenario: Unwanted Workplace Nudes (00:50-04:32)

• Caller’s Story:

  • After casual, friendly banter at a company event with a coworker (“not particularly my type or really attractive at all”), the caller began receiving unsolicited nude photos and drunken romantic texts from her.
  • He ignored the first nudes, thinking embarrassment would make it stop. Instead, she followed up expressing hurt feelings and continued the pattern over several nights.
  • The woman works in HR, compounding the awkwardness and complicating escalation.
  • The caller feels going to HR is “old school machismo,” citing strangeness for a man to file harassment by a woman, and wonders if ignoring or directly addressing it is best.

• Notable quote:

  • "I can't block her. I need her number for work." (Caller, 02:35)
  • "This might be my old school machismo attitude, but I think it's weird for a guy to go to complain about a girl doing this. HR." (Caller, 02:35)
  • "But imagine like a girl calls in, this guy, won't stop sending me his cock. We'd be like, go to the police." (Elders, 02:57)

2. The Double Standard and Comedy Analysis (02:57-04:39)

• The hosts acknowledge a gendered double standard in responses to sexual harassment: men are expected to “tough it out,” while the same in reverse would demand police or HR intervention.
• They joke about the “defense” of professionalism being a front for unattraction—meaning, if the sender was hot, would there even be a complaint?
• Notable quote:
  • "Clearly our legal strategy is you're going to hide behind the fact that it's unprofessional…But we all know what's pissing you off is that a busted bitch from the office wants to fuck you." (Elders, 04:40)

3. Practical Advice: Documentation and Boundaries (04:39-06:44)

• Stav and Morgan’s consensus:
  • Keep evidence: Save all messages and document your responses.
  • Do not ignore; clearly and politely state boundaries in writing so the record shows you did not invite or reciprocate.
  • If it ever escalates, you’ll have a documented trail for HR—or legal—for protection.
• Notable quote:
  • "You document every one of these. Like you have a file where you fucking screenshot all these texts…You need to be on the record of saying, hey…please stop sending me this type of message." (Elders, 05:01)
  • "Because right now it just looks like you're just playing it cool." (Morgan Stewart, 06:44)

4. Speculation and More Honesty (06:48-07:19)

• The crew jokes (with some truth) about the possibility the caller might have “cranked his hog” (masturbated) to the nudes, raising the humorous point that this compromises his position if true.
• Notable quote:
  • "Once you've cranked hog to a nude, you're a guilty party to the dance." (Elders, 07:02)
• Morgan: “He smushed it into the mattress…” (07:19)

5. Empathy, the “Femcel” Concept, and Broader Context (07:22-08:46)

• Morgan suggests consulting coworkers to see if this HR employee has a history—which could inform response.
• Stav unpacks how basic kindness to a lonely, low-self-esteem coworker can be misinterpreted as romantic interest—typically a male incel phenomenon, but here possibly a “femcel.”
• Notable quote:
  • "Femcels exist too, right? It's not just male incels…You were nice to her, maybe even gave her a generic compliment. And that's all it takes for her to fucking be—get ready to go." (Elders, 08:46)

6. Should You Snitch? The Show’s General Rule (08:46-10:02)

• Stavros presents his “no snitching unless necessary” philosophy: Try to handle things privately unless you truly feel threatened or unsafe.
• Only escalate if absolutely required, but always cover yourself by having a clear digital record.
• Notable quote:
  • "If you cannot be a snitch, if you can avoid being a snitch, avoid being a snitch. Right. Don't get the cops involved unless you have to." (Elders, 08:46)

7. The Power Dynamics and Ego at Play (10:07-10:37)

• Discussion shifts to the ways unwanted (but flattering) sexual attention—even if unreciprocated—can still feel affirming to the ego, and how its withdrawal can sting.
• Notable quote:
  • "Even if I don't want to fuck the person, if they stop wanting to fuck me, that would hurt my feelings." (Elders, 10:32)
  • "It would hurt my feelings." (Morgan Stewart, 10:36)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "This is your defense? Of course. Clearly our legal strategy is you're going to hide behind the fact that it's unprofessional. Duh." (Elders, 04:40)
• "[Women] can be incels too…femcels exist." (Elders, 08:46)
• "If you cannot be a snitch, if you can avoid being a snitch, avoid being a snitch." (Elders, 08:46)
• "Once you've cranked hog, you're more—you have no upper hand anymore." (Elders, 07:02)

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Important Timestamps

• 00:50: Caller describes the initial workplace incident and receipt of nudes
• 02:57: Podcast team discusses the gendered double standard in workplace harassment
• 04:32: Panel teases out the real issue: is this about professionalism or attraction?
• 05:01: Advice starts—document everything, set boundaries in writing
• 06:44: Morgan points out, currently, the caller just seems aloof/rude; needs paper trail
• 07:02: The "cranked hog" theory: if you enjoyed it, now it’s murky
• 08:46: Analysis of "femcel" dynamics and the rare inverted-gender workplace incident
• 10:07: “Sad when the nudes stop”: Admitting the pleasure in attention, even if awkward

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Tone & Style

Throughout, the tone remains irreverent, honest, and self-aware—with plenty of tangents, insults, and comic relief, balanced by surprisingly practical advice. The hosts own up to societal double standards and call out “bro logic” while sharing real-world strategies for sticky workplace problems. The episode blends humor, empathy, and hard truths—the hallmark of Stavvy’s World.

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Summary Takeaway

The crew advises: If you’re caught in unwanted workplace advances, especially with a power imbalance or HR complication, protect yourself first—document everything, be explicitly clear about boundaries in writing, and only escalate if it threatens your comfort or position. And, as always, check your own motivations and be honest—often what stings isn’t professionalism, but ego.

Transcript

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[Caller with Workplace Issue]

Hey, Stavi. Eldest and beautiful guests. I got a bit of a workplace predicament here. Went to a work shindig about a week ago. Girl sat next to me. That works in a different location. I don't ne necessarily interact with her. Every day we're shooting the. Just kind of as friends. I'm cracking jokes, making her laugh. And yeah, I. I don't think anything of it. She's not particularly my type or really attractive at all. So anyway, that ends. I go home and I wake up to nothing but a couple nudes from her and a very drunk text message. That was sort of romantic. I just don't reply. For better or for worse, I just thought, well, she's probably going to be embarrassed enough the next. I mean, this morning I'm just going to let sleeping dogs live. So about a day later, I get a message from her saying, hey, why didn't you reply? That really hurt my feelings. My self confidence is already at an all time low and you're kind of hurting it by not, you know, acknowledging me. And I. I said, look, you know, you're beautiful, nice, and all that. I just want to keep our relationship, you know, professional.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Look, I can't lose my job at the Container Store. You. This feeds my family. Keep going.

[Caller with Workplace Issue]

You mean all that about me? And I said yes.

[Podcast Host Elders]

So what, you quit her job?

[Caller with Workplace Issue]

To the next two mornings in a row. More nudes and other drunk messages that I can barely make out.

[Podcast Host Elders]

You got a marriage?

[Caller with Workplace Issue]

Romantic. She obviously has a barely unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

[Podcast Host Elders]

No shit.

[Caller with Workplace Issue]

And this is just kind of a

[Podcast Host Elders]

weird basement low cell like self esteem.

[Caller with Workplace Issue]

I want it to stop, but I. I can't block her. I need her number for work, for stuff. In the workplace, our phones are how we do everything. HR is kind of I mean, this might be my old school machismo attitude, but I think it's weird for a guy to go to. To complain about a girl doing this. HR it.

[Podcast Host Elders]

But you're a good point. That's a good point. You actually are just purely getting sexually harassed and we're like, you'd be a pussy if you reported that. Yeah, but imagine like a girl calls in, this guy, won't stop sending me his cock. We'd be like, go to the police.

[Morgan Stewart]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 100%.

[Podcast Host Elders]

That's a good point. Maybe we're being misogynists by not saying, report this. This, you know, frumpy woman with low self esteem.

[Morgan Stewart]

I guess I gotta see the nudes.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Yeah, we do. Gotta need to see the nudes to

[Morgan Stewart]

really know this guy might be a little, you know, vanilla. He might be. It might have been a cleavage shot and he might have been like. It could be, you know, spread eagle.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Right.

[Morgan Stewart]

Crazy nude.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Yeah, that is true. I mean, how. What kind of news are these? But also, he said, look, the answer here is that he just doesn't. She's not hot at all, he said. Attractive at all. Yeah, go ahead. Sorry, Elders.

[Caller with Workplace Issue]

A girl doing this. Hr. Not to mention she works in the HR department. Yeah, I mean, there's clearly, I think, some mental health stuff going on here. I. Like I said, I want it to stop. And maybe the call is just to ignore it and pretend it never happened. That might. Who knows? That might even get me in trouble later if she goes off the deep end. I don't know. What do you. What do you think, Stav and guests and everyone else think I should ignore it? H and R. Talk to her about it or just hope it runs its cycle on its own. She's not. I mean, I know it's weird for a guy to be complaining about this, but she's not particularly attractive. She doesn't really look good with her clothes off. And also, again, it's just unprofessional. So anyway, thanks.

[Podcast Host Elders]

It's not about it being. Shut the fuck up. This is what pisses me off. You don't care that it's unprofessional.

[Morgan Stewart]

No, he doesn't.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Stop again. Where are your attorneys? Of course we're going to. This is your defense? Of course. Clearly our legal strategy is you're going to hide behind the fact that it's unprofessional. Duh. But we all know what's pissing you off is that a busted bitch from the office wants to fuck you. It ain't that if the hot girl from the office shows you her tits, you're not. There's no problem here. So stop hiding behind fucking profe. You know, under the guise of professionalism. But I would. In terms of advice. Look, she's out of her mind, clearly. The fact that somebody would like, she works in hr, too. That's so fucking funny. Whatever bullshit company you're at right now, my advice would be probably. Well, look, to make sure you don't get in trouble, you document every one of these. Like you have a file where you fucking screenshot all these texts. And where you fucked up was, you can't ignore when she sends you this stuff because you need to. Because to not get in trouble, you need to be on the record of saying, hey, you know, Although personally, in a vacuum, I am flattered that you are showing, you know, that you. That you are showing, you know, these forms of affection. You know, while it's flattering to get this kind of attention, I really. I'm really. I'm trying to draw this boundary that you're not respecting. I want to keep our relationship professional. If you're on the record as saying that I think that's. Then you. Then if this comes out and she tries to flip it in any way, you can be like, I'll be honest. I didn't want to do. I didn't want to cause problems. And you could also throw in. Well, she was in hr. I was scared she'd use her position of power against me. You know, like, you have an out as long as you. On these text messages are documented as saying, please do not do this. I do not want to have to, you know, escalate this. I hope we can just kind of solve this amongst ourselves. I value you as a colleague, but please stop sending me this type of message. Yeah, you have to say some shit

[Morgan Stewart]

like that, because right now it just looks like you're just playing it cool.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Yeah, you might just not. You might just be being rude to the ugly chick you're fucking right now.

[Morgan Stewart]

It also sounds like I don't want to point any fingers. There's a chance he might have cranked his hog to one of these and is really regretting it.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Once you've cranked hog, you're more. You have no upper hand anymore. Once you've cranked hog to a nude, you're. You're a guilty party to the. To the dance.

[Morgan Stewart]

I have a feeling he might have done that.

[Podcast Host Elders]

That's possible. He at least held his cock in his hand and gave it A whirl.

[Morgan Stewart]

He smushed it into the mattress while getting the thing and he was.

[Podcast Host Elders]

No, probably not. It sounds like he's really not attracted to this woman.

[Morgan Stewart]

I got to see what she looks like.

[Podcast Host Elders]

I know, I know. Do you have. You were picking up the mic. You have anything here?

[Caller with Workplace Issue]

Fuck.

[Podcast Host Elders]

What was I going to say? God damn it doesn't matter. Who gives a fuck?

[Morgan Stewart]

I think this is. I maybe also consult with other people in your office. Has she done this to anybody else? Because she seems like she drinks a lot. She's just sending unsolicited nud. I guarantee you there's someone else in the office who's like, oh, the. Yeah, I totally.

[Podcast Host Elders]

I gotta. No, because. No, because no one's ever been nice to her. This guy said he was basically showed. This story is like he has shown basic humanity to a woman he does not find attractive. Yeah, usually this does not happen with the genders this way. It's usually the exact opposite where like. And I remember it too, when I was a loser that no girl would talk to. If one girl was just like, hey, how was your weekend? I'd be like, she loves me. That's my wife. And I would think about this woman, this girl, when I was in high school or whatever for eight weeks or so. You know what I mean? Like, I would just be. I would be like. And I would be like, okay, she's being weird. Like if she didn't. You know what I mean? It's like. And I would. I was such a coward.

[Morgan Stewart]

Yeah. Like something happens.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Like, I'm sorry, did I do something wrong?

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[Podcast Host Elders]

Yeah, yeah, she was just being polite or whatever. So usually this is what happens. A hot girl just asks somebody a follow up question and they decide that's their. That they are in love with them.

[Morgan Stewart]

Right.

[Podcast Host Elders]

It is rare, but at the same time, femcels exist too, right? It's not just male incels. There's female incels, there's femcels. This woman probably doesn't get any attention. You were nice to her, maybe even gave her a generic compliment. And that's all it takes for her to fucking be. Get ready to go. That's not your problem. You. I agree. If you cannot be a. I say in general, the rule is if you cannot be a snitch, if you can avoid being a snitch, avoid being a snitch. Right. Don't get the cops involved unless you have to. I don't know that you have to. Because a girl with low self esteem keeps Sending her nudes because you're not threatened by them, they're just a nuisance. If you did feel like actually threatened or violated, okay, fine. But you clearly don't. And we can interrogate why that is. Maybe it is like misogyny making you not scared, that's fine. But you're not. So as long as it's not personally, you know, you're not. You don't feel the need to escalate it. Don't escalate it. Try and handle it, hope it goes away. But also make it so that out of context, if these messages were ever leaked, you completely look like you're not asking for them and that she has, she has cross the boundary multiple times only to protect yourself is what I would say.

[Morgan Stewart]

Yeah, I agree with that. It's pretty, pretty basic answer there.

[Podcast Host Elders]

Yeah.

[Morgan Stewart]

Like it's. Yeah, it's right in front of you.

[Podcast Host Elders]

But sometimes, you know, these guys got to think he's also feeling himself. He, like on some level you like it. There's a power thing there that feels good. It's like, oh, oh, I bet I'm going to get some drunk nudes of some flapjack tits. And then they don't come. The first time they don't come. You will be a little sad. I'll be a little sad.

[Morgan Stewart]

This is a great point to make, be a little sad because I would be devastated.

[Podcast Host Elders]

I even if I don't want to fuck the person, if they stop wanting to fuck me, that would hurt my feelings.

[Morgan Stewart]

It would hurt my feelings.

[Podcast Host Elders]

That's just how it works. Even though it's completely irrational. That's how that works for sure.

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